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class="AqC AjL"data-adroot><p>At one time or another, you've probably been on the receiving end of passive-aggressive behavior, and you know it's never a pleasant experience. Living at home, living with roommates, living in a crowded city; all these situations are breeding grounds for passive-aggressive behavior to grow.<p>If you're dad pretends to be fine with you missing a family event, but months later guilts you for not being there, that's passive-aggressive behavior.<p>When your roommate leaves you a note to clean up the dishes instead of asking you in-person, that's passive-aggressive behavior as well.<p>On the subway, someone nudges you aggressively instead of simply asking you to make room. In each situation, you wish the passive-aggressors would've been honest and direct with you from the start.<p>While it may be hard to admit it, you've also been the passive-aggressor. When you're angry or frustrated with someone but don't tell them, those feelings get bottled up and usually come out later in confusing, and often hurtful, ways.<p>You think you're avoiding a moment of conflict by suppressing your feelings, but instead, your anger is felt by those involved, with no explanation given.<p>Just because we're not vocalizing our frustrations doesn't mean we're not reacting.<p>Passive-aggression is a nasty reaction to conflict that comes in several forms: Procrastinating, ignoring, playing the victim, withholding or pretending to be in agreement with someone when you're not are all signs of passive-aggressive behavior.<p>Being passive-aggressive in difficult situations rarely works. Everyone fears conflict to some degree, but that fear shouldn't get in the way of being genuine with others.<p>There are several strategies you can use to replace your passive-aggressive behavior in irritating situations.<p>Asking a question, with real curiosity behind your question, is very effective. If people aren't aware what they're doing is rude, they'll usually change their behavior immediately. Sharing your feelings in a logical, non-emotional manner also works well.<p>While it's more uncomfortable to be direct, it's better to face an uncomfortable moment than to suppress your feelings.<p>For more advice on how to stop being passive-aggressive, watch the video above.<p><em> For more Elite Daily original videos, subscribe to the official </em> <em> <a href=https://www.youtube.com/user/EliteDaily rel=noreferrer target=_blank> Elite Daily YouTube Channel </a> </em> Â  <em> and </em> <em> like the </em> <em> <a href=https://www.facebook.com/EliteDailyVideo rel=noreferrer target=_blank> Elite Daily Video Page </a> </em> <em> . </em></div></div></article><div class="PwM hrl"></div></div><div class="JqV FhV"><input class="eJ_ nic wps"id=navCheckbox type=checkbox><input class="nic wYg"id=searchCheckbox type=checkbox><nav class=zwX><div class=KFC><div><div class=KFs><label class="VuB wf_ nUO"for=searchCheckbox><span> Search </span> <button aria-label="open search"class=Cgk 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