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u2suvg

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Pet insurance. Is it worth it? Do people use it? Do vets accept it? I have an English bulldog puppy. I was told this breed have lots of health issues. Which is when I thought, “Is dog insurance a thing?” The answer being, duh. Is it worth it? Do all vets accept it?

i4muwff

i4oydzy

I have Embrace I payed heavy attention to Breed specific and emergencies when doing research.

I'm a vet tech. 110% recommend. Healthy Paws is a good insurance

fzzcrs

askvet_test

All vets in my area are open even through strict shelter in place. Call them before assuming they are closed. It seems like 9/10 of posts say they can’t see vet because of pandemic. Do give them a call because most likely they are providing services but are doing curbside check in. Some people are using this as an excuse and in some cases they are really risking their pet’s wellbeing.

fn89fju

fn81wbg

I ended up having to take one of my girls in just a few days ago. I called when I showed up, they asked intake questions and said they'd be out to get her soon. They came and got her from my vehicle, used their own leash, and the doctor called my cellphone after examining her and to give me the total estimate prior to anything else. When I approved it, I hung up, played on my phone for a bit, they called back said she was ready and took my card information. Then they brought her and her meds back to the car, unhooked and off we went.

I’ll add that in my area, some will do a video consultation first, but where they need to get hands on they’ll ask people to come in.

fzzcrs

askvet_test

All vets in my area are open even through strict shelter in place. Call them before assuming they are closed. It seems like 9/10 of posts say they can’t see vet because of pandemic. Do give them a call because most likely they are providing services but are doing curbside check in. Some people are using this as an excuse and in some cases they are really risking their pet’s wellbeing.

fn8jl4u

fn95zs0

My vet is also a 24/7 day emergency service. After 7:00pm they become after hours emergency. They will also take emergencies during regular hours. Now, they do assessment at your car and if it’s in the office only one family member is allowed in the back.

It’s just an excuse. Vets have been legally classified as essential in the USA. Non-essential stuff isn’t usually being seen right now.

ktg3qz

askvet_test

Why isn't home euthanasia a thing? To those in the know, a curiosity question: I have a cat with a large tumor that will soon need to be put down. It is my first time through this and it is heartbreaking. Even more, so because I have to make a long journey to, a clinic, and then back. It made me wonder why, in this modern age, there was no option to do it myself. All the more curious because, I raise chickens (for meat and eggs), and in the past have raised pigs and cattle. It is confusing that I am allowed to humanely process my own meat, but there isn't an option for me to humanely say goodbye to a loving pet. In my state, we can even humanely provide suicide to a loved human who is near death. I AM NOT asking how to do it. Nor do I suggest everyone should do it. I am simply wondering why we haven't evolved to offering this choice? Thank you.

gilxq3w

gilzsuh

In my area we have two professional services, and some clinics I've worked at in the past, the veterinarian will make a house call for the occasional client. I would reach out to you vet to see if they are able to do this, or if they have any knowledge of ones that do it in your area. I'm so sorry to hear about your kitty. I hope you can find peace and comfort for you and for her.

As others have said, there are veterinarians who perform house calls for euthanasia. This may be difficult to arrange at the moment due to COVID. To answer your question about why euthanasias are only done by veterinarians in this case, it has to do with our current standards of practice for companion animal medicine (pets rather than farm animals or wildlife). The AVMA, which is the national regulatory veterinary body, puts forth specific guidelines for euthanasia to be performed ethically and humanely. The focus for us as vets is to minimize any pain or suffering felt by the animal during the procedure. Most vets in the states use an overdose of an anesthetic drug to achieve this. These drugs are strictly controlled by the DEA and thus cannot be dispensed out for use by a client as such. I’m sorry that you’re going through the loss of a fur baby. Cancer sucks 😢. Wishing you the best. Edit: spelling

fzzcrs

askvet_test

All vets in my area are open even through strict shelter in place. Call them before assuming they are closed. It seems like 9/10 of posts say they can’t see vet because of pandemic. Do give them a call because most likely they are providing services but are doing curbside check in. Some people are using this as an excuse and in some cases they are really risking their pet’s wellbeing.

fn8pq9m

fn7zdwf

Just to add - my vet is allowing people in for euthanasia procedures. Had to learn the hard way, but I’m so grateful for the good people out there caring for animals and their people. They literally put their own health at risk to make sure my friend wasn’t without me in the end, and I’ll never forget their kindness.

I think a lot of people may not be in a position where they can risk going to a vet clinic because of their health conditions or that of those they live with.

96vf8d

askvet_test

Cat having a deep cut (dog bite?) and seems sick. We have no access to vet. I'm looking for any tips on what to do, searching the web does not help much because taking the cat to a vet is not an option. We live in tropical conditions in the middle of the Pacific ocean. Species: Domestic cat Age: 10 months Sex/Neuter status: male, not neutered Body weight: Normal History: The cat lives mainly indoors, now returned from runaway and has got a deep wound. We noticed the injury 3 days ago. He seems now tired, and has no appetite and drinks very little. We have tropical climate here and he seems even to be too lazy to find to the coolest room with a/c. Now, three days after, he keeps licking the wound, which is now bright red and is bleeding a little, leaving a red stain on the floor where he has been sleeping. (Links to pics attached) We live on Tarawa atoll in Kiribati, and there is no vet available. There is only the most essential medicine available in hospitals and only one pharmacy to look for medicine, but the selection is narrow. At home we have a reserve of medicines and supplies, like antiseptics, bacitracin/neomycin gel and Cephalexin 500 mg tablets. Please, any help is welcome. We would appreciate to hear what are the realistic options... to look for some medication, trying to cover the cut to prevent licking, or something else. I understand this is maybe a serious case now... Thank you in advance so much. First pic showing the cut 3 days ago: https://www.dropbox.com/s/mi38th9h969ub0i/lepakko-bite-3206.jpg Second one showing the cut right now: https://www.dropbox.com/s/zi0wa73nl4nk168/lepakko-bite-3224.jpg

e43k2ug

e43jwik

I know you say you can’t get to a vet but that seems painfully infected and really requires a doctors care, knowledge and medications most likely. (Antibiotics)

Seems like need antibiotics

d5vwo3

askvet_test

2 week postnatal cat is sick, kittens aren't gaining typical weight, vet wants me to wait to come in Breed: short hair tortie Species: cat Age: unknown Sex: female, intact Weight: unknown History: unknown Clinical signs: cough, rumbling purr Duration: 1 week Location: Naples, Italy I have a foster kitty that I found on the streets, already pregnant, mid July. She gave birth two weeks ago and has developed a rumbling purr and a mucus filled cough that happens only when she is held on her back. I have already called my vet, but he doesn't want me to bring her and the kittens in for another two weeks for fear of excess stress for mom (since she is a street cat and I'm assuming has never been in a car) and because of weak the immune system of neonatals. He has me picking up a supplement called Herp on the assumption that it's herpes and wants me to come in when the kittens are 4 weeks old if it doesn't work. But here's my concern: Mama did not eat any of her food last night and I'm concerned it is affecting her milk supply. When weighed today the kittens had only gained 10g, 7g, and 2g in the past 24hrs. Prior to today they have gained 15-25g in a 24hr period. Mama did eat some of her breakfast and we will start the supplement with her dinner. How many days should I let the low weight gain happen before I go to a different vet or start supplementing with kitten formula?

f0oc8ng

f0ofpkh

Personally, I think you do need to bring them back to the vet. Cats not eating/gaining weight etc is never a good thing. If you aren’t totally trusting of your current vet then take them for a second opinion instead. It would be best if they had paperwork from your current vet to know the history but if you want to keep it low key for now just go in and meet and decide how you feel about them before transferring everything over. If they agree or you feel even less comfortable with them you can go back in to your previous vet to continue and you’re only out the money for your second opinion.

They need to be seen so momma can start in URI meds before babies catch it if that's what it is. I would find a different vet that will treat neonates and prevent anything worse.

fzzcrs

askvet_test

All vets in my area are open even through strict shelter in place. Call them before assuming they are closed. It seems like 9/10 of posts say they can’t see vet because of pandemic. Do give them a call because most likely they are providing services but are doing curbside check in. Some people are using this as an excuse and in some cases they are really risking their pet’s wellbeing.

fn8pq9m

fn8b5g7

Just to add - my vet is allowing people in for euthanasia procedures. Had to learn the hard way, but I’m so grateful for the good people out there caring for animals and their people. They literally put their own health at risk to make sure my friend wasn’t without me in the end, and I’ll never forget their kindness.

I have called my vet because my 15 year old dog started constantly panting heavily. They said that they are open for emergencies but could see my dog. You have to drop the dog off and they will take it in and do the assessment and treatment without you. Then they will call and talk with you on the phone about what they have found. You then pay by credit card without going in. Afterward, they will bring your dog back out to the car with any prescriptions. My dog hates the vet and I'm worried about the extra strain on him by sending him in without us but he has to be seen. Something is terribly wrong. We have tranquilizers that we will give him before he goes in so I hope it helps. I am so happy that they are there for you when you need them in spite of the pandemic.

u2suvg

askvet_test

Pet insurance. Is it worth it? Do people use it? Do vets accept it? I have an English bulldog puppy. I was told this breed have lots of health issues. Which is when I thought, “Is dog insurance a thing?” The answer being, duh. Is it worth it? Do all vets accept it?

i4nuesi

i4oydzy

I have insurance for all my pets. I’ve had it for years. I haven’t needed to use it yet, but I’d rather have it and never use it then not have it and end up needing it someday.

I'm a vet tech. 110% recommend. Healthy Paws is a good insurance

fzzcrs

askvet_test

All vets in my area are open even through strict shelter in place. Call them before assuming they are closed. It seems like 9/10 of posts say they can’t see vet because of pandemic. Do give them a call because most likely they are providing services but are doing curbside check in. Some people are using this as an excuse and in some cases they are really risking their pet’s wellbeing.

fn80olf

fn89fju

The clinic I work at is only doing essential, critical care appts and surgeries. Nobody allowed inside, everything done in parking lot or over phone, but you're right, we are still seeing pets.

I ended up having to take one of my girls in just a few days ago. I called when I showed up, they asked intake questions and said they'd be out to get her soon. They came and got her from my vehicle, used their own leash, and the doctor called my cellphone after examining her and to give me the total estimate prior to anything else. When I approved it, I hung up, played on my phone for a bit, they called back said she was ready and took my card information. Then they brought her and her meds back to the car, unhooked and off we went.

iq2or7

changemyview_test

CMV: America is not land of the free unless you’re either already financially well off, or the small % of people who get rich. Growing up I always thought America was the coolest and wanted to live there (based on American music, TV, movies, etc.) however now I’m older my view has changed a lot and this is no longer the case. My stance is purely comparing America to my home country (Scotland). I now believe America is capitalism gone wild, which is great if you’re rich and successful already, but if you’re not it’s a rigged system you’re unlikely to beat. In Scotland I have free education and free healthcare - 2 things I believe are essential to a true land of the free. Regardless where you’re born (I was born somewhere between lower and middle class), you have the ability to succeed as medical bills or saving for a child’s education won’t bankrupt you, whereas in America that isn’t the case. Furthermore, in America not only is healthcare not free, but it’s so privatised doctors have ulterior motives in recommending treatment as they have deals to use certain medications, which means their recommendations cannot be viewed as unbiased. I believe this is, in part, what lead to the opioid crisis America is currently in. Similarly, your prisons are privatised which means they don’t have a vested interest in reforming you, but rather in keeping you behind bars to make as much profit as possible. Regardless of my stance on guns I believe that the presumption that people could have guns makes your police more jittery leading to unnecessary shootings, which obviously are non existent here, and our police are generally viewed as civil servants, not soldiers. Obviously America is a world super power and leads the way in a lot of things, but I believe as a random person of average health, average intelligence, and average income, if you were plucked out the air and dropped in either America or Scotland you’d have a much better chance of “freedom” (in terms of actual freedoms such as freedom from debt, freedom from incarceration, freedom to get educated, freedom to be healthy, etc.) in Scotland (or other similar western first world nations) than America.

g4pe0nk

g4o9tfg

You are using “free” and “good quality of life” interchangeably when they are not the same. It is not freedom to be forced into a specific healthcare plan mandated by the government. That is the opposite of freedom. You can argue it is more effective, but you can’t argue it is a staple of “freedom”. Our prisons are not privatized. 8% of our prisoners are in private prisons. Again, the right to bear arms is a freedom. You can argue if it’s effective or necessary.

Well, this isn’t exactly true. We are free to be poor and improverished just as we are free to be wealthy. We have millions of people, large swaths of entire states where people lost most of their teeth from the meth and live in a junk ass trailer, and have to cut back smoking for a few days every month to afford to buy a tank of gas for their 20 year old shit box, but if you ask them, they would probably tell you they are free as birds.

n9xgwv

changemyview_test

CMV: Atheism has absolutely nothing to do with "faith" or appeals to authority how religion does and the proof is in the way science manifests in reality. I recently posted a comment regarding the difference between faith in religion and the "faith" in atheism. A lot of my reasoning against this lies in the fact that science manifests in reality. I dont think I have heard any arguments that give concrete examples of manifestations of religion in reality, apart from maybe stating that is where our morals come from (and even that is quite contentious I believe). I mainly would like to see where the holes in my argument are and what things I am not taking into account on the religious side. I would consider most good faith arguments about the role religion plays in reality as a CMV as I said I cannot think of anything that can compare. Please see my comment below regarding my belief of why Atheism is not based in faith: >The biggest difference between religion and atheism is most atheists would say they believe in science and following the evidence. So let's look at the evidence in the real world: Science has given us planes, cars, computers, rocketry, global positioning satellites, nuclear power. A bunch of things that actually ***work*** in reality. You can see science producing actual benefits (or detriments if you're so inclined, because all that really matters in this case is the evidence). You yourself can actually look into why something works and test it right now because of science. I struggle to think of anything religion has made reality, except maybe science itself. >To quote Ricky Gervais: >>Science is constantly proved all the time. You see, if we take something like any fiction, any holy book, and destroyed it, in a thousand years’ time, that wouldn’t come back just as it was. >>Whereas if we took every science book, and every fact, and destroyed them all, in a thousand years they’d all be back, because all the same tests would [produce] the same result.

gxqnbb4

gxqcxzc

You seem to be equating the belief/disbelief in God vs belief/disbelief in science. These two, while not entirely independent, need not be correlated. Someone can be a hardline atheist but believe that Pluto is an alien artifact that is spying on earth or that gamma ray bursts are evidence of interstellar wars between advanced civilizations or that we live in a simulation. Or you can have someone believing in God and being a world-renown astrophysicist.

> CMV: Atheism has absolutely nothing to do with "faith" or appeals to authority how religion does and the proof is in the way science manifests in reality. A little bit of a messy sentence. But, everything that cannot be definitively proven has some degree of faith. And certainly the concept of God falls into that realm. Just because your beliefs are logically derived doesn’t mean you’re not ultimately trusting in something that you’re not 100% certain of. >I recently posted a comment regarding the difference between faith in religion and the "faith" in atheism. A lot of my reasoning against this lies in the fact that science manifests in reality. I dont think I have heard any arguments that give concrete examples of manifestations of religion in reality, apart from maybe stating that is where our morals come from (and even that is quite contentious I believe). What are you referencing in terms of “manifesting in reality”? Using science to prove things? What kind of manifestations are you looking for? >I mainly would like to see where the holes in my argument are and what things I am not taking into account on the religious side. I would consider most good faith arguments about the role religion plays in reality as a CMV as I said I cannot think of anything that can compare. Again your phrasing is difficult to understand here. Religion obviously has an impact on reality- wars, the Vatican existing, etc. What sort of “role” are you wanting? >Please see my comment below regarding my belief of why Atheism is not based in faith: Ok. >The biggest difference between religion and atheism is most atheists would say they believe in science and following the evidence. I’m a Christian and I believe in this too. Science and religion should not be considered enemies. >So let's look at the evidence in the real world: Science has given us planes, cars, computers, rocketry, global positioning satellites, nuclear power. A bunch of things that actually ***work*** in reality. Yes. Your point? Why do you expect religion to give you planes etc.? Totally irrelevant to the point of whether atheism has any basis in faith. >You can see science producing actual benefits (or detriments if you're so inclined, because all that really matters in this case is the evidence). You yourself can actually look into why something works and test it right now because of science. I struggle to think of anything religion has made reality, except maybe science itself. See above. What would you even expect religion to make? And why is that relevant to whether or not atheism requires any faith? Your whole view rests on religion being opposed to science, and atheism being aligned with it. In reality, neither atheism nor religion inherently require alignment or opposition to science.

kqup7p

changemyview_test

CMV: They say a relationship won’t solve any of your problems but literally every single person I know had a ‘glow up’ after finding a girlfriend and their lives all seem to be much better now. My view is that finding a significant other DOES, in fact, solve many of life’s problems. I think I’ve said it all in the title, but yeah. If people shouldn’t “focus on getting a significant other, it won’t fix your life” then how come there are so many so-called ‘losers’ whose lives miraculously seem to get so much better once they have a significant other? I’ve seen people go from practically looking like bums all the time to suddenly dressing well, moving into new apartments, getting better jobs, and just overall becoming happier, more well-rounded, more interesting and positive people AFTER getting into a relationship. I think a lot of people would, in fact, benefit immensely from someone falling in love with them, caring for them and sharing some of life’s burdens with them. When you feel seen and someone is cheering you on and supporting you, your life DOES get better and I don’t know why there are so many people pretending like it won’t.

gi5ypsj

gi5ymlf

Both sides of the spectrum have a bit of truth in them. Having people around you that you care for and that care for you is quite a healthy thing to have in life. On the other hand, many people fall into the trap of making their happiness dependant on others, when we all know that people are flaky, unreliable and difficult to read without an appropriate cue. If perhaps you were to consider the internal state of someone who is focussing on getting a significant other, you couldn't possibly say that it is healthy.

>When you feel seen and someone is cheering you on and supporting you, your life DOES get better Well this seems to be the crux of the problem. If you need validation and attention to the point that you can't live fine without it, then why wouldn't you be happier when you get it. But, to make a crude methaphor, so does an addict when he satisfies his addiction. If you can only be happy in a relationship, when one ends you will be looking franticly for next one and that may lead, in a worst case, very abusive relationships. I would never deny that romantic relationships are beneficial, but there is a point at which you must ask yourself, "if I only strive for success and take care of myself when it's for someone else, why can't I do it for myself?".

oifg1i

changemyview_test

CMV: I don’t think it makes you a racist if you don’t find a certain race attractive and wouldn’t wanna date someone from that race I’m originally from a pretty racist country and have lived there most of my life recently moving to America for uni , so the whole concept of racism is pretty new to me due to my country having no black people living in it,in my 18 years living there I maybe saw 1/2 black people I personally don’t think there’s a biological difference between black and white people and that either is superior over the other ,it doesn’t bother me if someone’s black or white and I don’t think I act any different around either or towards them But I know that I wouldn’t ever date a black girl not because there is something inherently wrong with them it’s just i don’t find them attractive and I know they aren’t for me. I think it’s same concept as for example if a gay person says they would not want to date a women ,is it because they believe there is something wrong with women ,no it’s cause they don’t find them attractive and I dont think that makes gays

h4v42bq

h4v480t

So, I find your soulmate. The woman you are most happy with, in all the world. I got her! She's yours. She knows you so well. You find her captivating. She cares about you, and she presents herself in such a way that you care about her, too. When she hugs you, she smells like a warm sunny evening, or a lazy sunday afternoon. You can relax and be yourself with her like you can no one else. Fuck! I hit her with the "black ray". She's a black girl now. Do you break up with her?

I think that your certainty that you will never find a black woman attractive is almost certainly rooted in something other than preference. You simply can’t be certain unless you know that some overriding thing other than appearance is driving. I usually prefer white girls but I have seen MANY attractive black women. Many.

qqt4i3

changemyview_test

CMV: Everyone should be required to be an organ donor upon death. **1- WHY**- The reason why everyone should automatically be required to be an organ donor upon death is simple, after you die you don't need your organs, if you happen to die an unfortunate and untimely death with your organs still in good health save a life. It's selfish not to. **2- WHAT ABOUT RELIGIOUS BELEIFS**- Does your religious beliefs also require you to not accept a donated organ and instead go to the afterlife? Or is this a case of My body is too sacred to save someone else, but someone else body can be used to save me! If it's the former then fine you have a fair point and a consistent view that the body after death caries significance and thus should not be messed with. Thus you will follow that to your grave. If its the later you have no standing, and your argument is full of crap, you can't have it both ways, either the body is important to the soul and thus must be left alone and so taking part of someone's body to heal yourself if sacrilegious or its not. **3- PEOPLE HAVE THE RIGHT TO THEIR OWN BODY**- Correct in life, not in death to value the dead over the living is immoral. To say that because you have died someone else should die is antithetical to the very notion of morality. **4- SO YOU THINK EVERYONE SHOULD BE REQUIRED TO GIVE BLOOD TOO?**- All able bodied healthy adults who can give blood should when called upon. If they have a shortage and need blood I see no reason not to go give a safe amount of blood. However since there is a LOT of red tape I kept this out of my over arching view. When it becomes no more then a 15 minute event in someone's day maybe but with all the red tape I can see why people wouldn't.

hk31af4

hk25fxw

I wouldn't want someone fucking my corpse. Why, because I still have some say over my body even when dead.

Nope. My body. My choice.

yobwkf

changemyview_test

CMV: People need to stop freaking out about twitter The reason I’m making this post is cause I see people freaking out over Elon buying twitter and I can’t figure out why. He had enough money to buy the company and he did, if he runs it into the ground someone else will start a replacement. While it seems that twitter as a business isn’t doing so well that’s just how life goes. People on the right side of the political spectrum are celebrating because they can make posts on anything they want now. People on the left are freaking out because people on the right can post what ever they want. People in the middle realize that Twitter is a service they can just not use. Just stop using the app the app if you don’t what’s being done to it, stop posting about it so I can get back to my regular Reddit experience. Also if you really don’t like it make an alternative, people on the right have been using rumble because they didn’t like the main stream services.

ivdk9rt

ivdpzhh

People are legitimacy concerned about providing a platform for open racism, antisemitism, political propaganda and misinformation, and various other types of hate speech. Spreading hate speech and propaganda is bad, and people who are focused on creating a better, more informed populace should absolutely share their ideas.

So hate speech doesn’t ruin your Twitter experience, but talk of Twitter ruins your Reddit experience?

dz0ok6

changemyview_test

CMV - In the USA (and spreading) 'Blackness' has become extremely prescriptive and performative leading to exclusionary and divisive attitudes and sentiments This is based around a lot of what I see coming from the US during social or political discussions. I first noticed it when the whole 'Kanye West is what happens when Negroes don't read' and him being 'dis-invited from the cookout' thingy was going on. There often seems to be a dialogues based around whether people are 'black enough'. Basically meaning do they confirm to the right stereotypes with regards to who to vote for, what to eat or listen to and other arbitrary things like that. As a black man with less 'conventional' interests (although I'm UK based), especially as a younger man I've often found myself being called a 'Bounty' or an 'Oreo' etc exclusively by other black people for things as innocuous as listening to Pink Floyd and 'talking white'. This experience is echoed by people fro Tyler, The Creator to Childish Gambino - black guys that grew up with less conventional or stereotypical interests, and they often reflect this in their lyrics. I feel like this is leading to internal segregation within the black community (characterised even - albeit differently here - with the 'Team lightskin v Team darkskin phase a little while back) as well as silly situations where the likes of Rachel Dolezal can eat the right food, drink the proverbial kool-aid and vote the right way and that guves her confidence to claim she's 'culturally black'. Far too much of black 'Identity' it seems just boils down to embracing stereotypes about our music, food, dialect or politica affiliation. In my experience the people calling me an Oreo or a Bounty for liking Metal music (white people music) or 'Talking White' (not utilising much slang, speaking in a more refined way) are overwhelmingly if not exclusively other black people. Calling me out for being 'not black enough' or the 'wrong kind of black guy'. This expands to dating - in my experience black girls tend to stay away from 'Oreos' and I've had comments in the past that their brothers/friends/families wouldn't approve because of how I speak or dress (although I get the dirtiest looks from black girls if I'm ever with a white girl so I don't get that) and this experience is definitely not a rarity for people whose interests or experiences fall out of 'traditional' blackness which at this point has basically become synonymous with 'African American culture'.

f84jwq5

f84uw8x

In so far as Black Americans are a cultural group, it makes sense that they would have some shared cultural touchstones, though, no? I think how they enforce those, is a different question, and agree that it’s dumb to overenforce group attributes, since basically many boil down to stereotypes, and no one completely fits with them all. So it doesn’t seem odd or wrong that there would be level of prescripted preferences, attitudes, traits, etc... And Rachel Dolezal I think disproves your point, because she was universally lambasted for not being actually black, despite all the cultural stuff.

I agree with you that criticizing people for not being "black enough" is a significant issue, however, it is not new. This issue goes all the way back to slavery when slave masters fathered half black children. These children sometimes have lighter skin and would often work inside the plantation mansion, dubbed "the big house," when they became adults. They were disparaged by the field slaves as the "house niggers." Slaves working inside were often taught more curtesy, to a certain extent anyway, so that they could be presentable to guests. This only exacerbated the problem. This contempt went both ways, as house slaves would often look down upon the field slaves and feel that they were better. This wasn't by accident. It was driven in by the slave masters to divide their slaves to keep them from working together and possibly revolting. After slavery, former slaves continued their self segregation by skin darkness. Again, lighter colored black people would look down upon darker skinned ones, and the darker skinned black people would have contempt for the lighter ones. I kid you not when I say black people as a culture keep secrets from white people. This one got out, and social media and pop news is putting a spotlight on it. Don't be fooled, it was there the whole time.

oifg1i

changemyview_test

CMV: I don’t think it makes you a racist if you don’t find a certain race attractive and wouldn’t wanna date someone from that race I’m originally from a pretty racist country and have lived there most of my life recently moving to America for uni , so the whole concept of racism is pretty new to me due to my country having no black people living in it,in my 18 years living there I maybe saw 1/2 black people I personally don’t think there’s a biological difference between black and white people and that either is superior over the other ,it doesn’t bother me if someone’s black or white and I don’t think I act any different around either or towards them But I know that I wouldn’t ever date a black girl not because there is something inherently wrong with them it’s just i don’t find them attractive and I know they aren’t for me. I think it’s same concept as for example if a gay person says they would not want to date a women ,is it because they believe there is something wrong with women ,no it’s cause they don’t find them attractive and I dont think that makes gays

h4v599e

h4v6cgk

So what do you not like about black women? Their features or skin color? Cuz you might find a black woman with “whiteish” facial features. And vice versa

>I personally don’t think there’s a biological difference between black and white people and that either is superior over the other ,it doesn’t bother me if someone’s black or white and I don’t think I act any different around either or towards them But I know that I wouldn’t ever date a black girl not because there is something inherently wrong with them it’s just i don’t find them attractive and I know they aren’t for me. These two statements contradict each other.

7vu8j1

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CMV: People with zero tolerance for drug use should feel hypocritical when enjoying art or music created by people who used drugs. I get really annoyed when people are against any talk of drug reform and treat addiction like a criminal offence and then go home and put on a Beatles, Stones or Coltrane record, pick up a book by Stephen King or Dickens and look at a painting by Van Gogh. Not to mention work by actors and intellectuals.Those names don’t even scratch the surface of artists who dabbled in drugs to help with their creativity or just get through life. I know many struggled with addiction and there are many negative effects from drugs on society but we seem to always forget the amazingly positive aspects of drug use throughout history please enlighten me if I am being unfair.

dtv815i

dtv7m32

That's like saying pacifists aren't allowed to enjoy peace and *not* living under fascism because of the armies who fought to preserve democracy.

Do you have a zero tolerance for murder? What about theft, rape, or abuse(child, domestic,animal)? How many forms of media have you enjoyed with the above listed themes? Are you a hypocrite?

uw1kka

changemyview_test

CMV: Translating country/city names should only be done when there are different alphabets Something I've always found annoying when communicating is how names are translated, sometimes without a reason While I can see why it could be done, to make it easier to understand or pronounce, I don't think it should be done if there is no alphabet difference Obviously, you can't expect someone who only speaks English to be able to read "台灣", so changing it to "Taiwan" is necessary to be able to read it But, I don't see how translating "Den Haag" to "The Hague" is necessary, for example, even if it makes it somewhat easier to read, as the original already shared the same alphabet and did not really require a translation And then, there is also the issue of people misunderstanding names because the translations are historical names, bad translations, or such, which all could be avoided by using the original name instead of translating it

i9ow10w

i9pk2rl

Apart from the pronunciation argument, cities like Strasbourg in France and Gdansk in Poland used to be historically Prussian/German which is why their German names are Strassburg and Danzig resp. German speakers are used to saying it like that so expecting them to use their current names is not realistic.

> But, I don't see how translating "Den Haag" to "The Hague" is necessary, for example, even if it makes it somewhat easier to read, as the original already shared the same alphabet and did not really require a translation > And then, there is also the issue of people misunderstanding names because the translations are historical names, bad translations, or such, which all could be avoided by using the original name instead of translating it Many countries and places have multiple correct names in their original language(s). E.g. Brussel, Bruxelles, Brüssel. Should English speakers be prepared for all variations?

xvhw56

explainlikeimfive_test

Eli5 How did travelers/crusaders in medieval times get a clean and consistent source of water

ir2tdv9

ir23xln

Short answer they didn‘t… that‘s why WW1 was the first war in human history where more soldiers died by the hand of the enemy than illnesses starvation and thirst Edit: since there is a lot of disagreement: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/World_War_I_casualties Here it says 7-8 million combat related deaths 2-3 million deaths by accidents and disease

Beer and tea!!! Most historic beers were less than 3% alcohol. So you didn't really get to drunk on it. But it was enough to keep the nasties at bay! Making beer also had the added benefit of making food more calories dense. 1 gram of carbohydrate is 3 calories, but 1 gram of alcohol is 7 calories! There are also a lot of micro nutrients created during fermentation that don't otherwise exist in a bowl of barley or oatmeal. I believe tea came about because boiled water, although safe for consumption, tastes funny, and if you added some fancy herbs to it. It tastes way better! So now you have a safe and delicious beverage that also provides a few calories and some bonus micro nutrients.

27s1p4

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Explain like I'm five years old - Why was Edward Snowden made out to be a traitor/enemy? Didn't he do us a favor?

ci3t2b0

ci3tdyw

A simple way to put it is that Mr Snowden did wrong by the law, but right by the people. Depending on who you ask, some say that the law triumphs over the people **(the law is always right because it is written by the best and brightest, just shut up and obey)**, others say the people triumphs over the law **(the people decide whether a law is fair/just or not regardless of who wrote it).**

Because he leaked 1.4-1.7 million secret documents to the world. He gave them to reporters and said "use your own discretion". There's no way he knew what was in all those documents. As much as people love to think all this was about freedom of information and the abstract, it has real life (deadly) implications for some people in our intelligence services, and long term military planning. Be a whistleblower all you want, by leaking a couple damning documents to reputable American media that could change the way things our done. Don't download sensitive data in the millions for everyone to see. A former KGB official stated the Russian FSB had targeted Snowden as a candidate for defection by 2007, in Geneva. Who knows if that's true, but the conventional spy game is alive and well these days - as much as we'd like to pretend the world has evolved past it.

u7qpsa

explainlikeimfive_test

Explain like I'm five years old: What does it mean for a bomber plane to be nuclear weapons capable? Is dropping nukes that different from dropping conventional bombs?

i5gjt4b

i5ggi2l

To be “nuclear capable” an aircraft has to have a specific arming system installed that the operators can control in flight. It’s typically just an extra switch in the cockpit. Plus a whole bunch of other bits elsewhere that deactivate the nuclear failsafes. Mostly electronic.

We have had air crashes with nuclear bombs and they didn't go off because they are not armed in till just before release. If you could do it on pylons under wings and belly would you even want to and risk a accidentally release.

qmsts5

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Explain like I'm five years old: Why do planets like Pluto (and non-planets like the moon) have a seemingly large number of craters in them compared to Earth? Wouldn't a small planet like Pluto be missed by the vast majority of asteroids?

hjci52h

hjcen8f

The moon and Pluto do not have active tectonics that shapes the surface. It also has no atmosphere with wind and water that can erode craters. The brighter part of the lunar surface is called the highlands, the was formed 4.1-4.4 billion years ago. The darker areas, Lunar mare (mare is latin for sea) is formed for a volcanic eruption. They are younger with an avrage of 3-3-5 billion year old, the youngest are around 1.2 billion years old. There are fewer crates in the mares and it is by counting crates that ages of the youngest part are counted. So the surface of the moon has been unchanged for billion of years with the exception of impacts. Nothing will destroy them except other impaces. So we can see lots of impact on the moon because we can see all that have been formed for billions of years. Earths surface is continuously changing. The https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chicxulub_crater that a result of the impact that is a major part of the extension of non-avian dinosaurs is practically invisible today. If was formed 66 million years ago and had a diameter of 150km. Evidence that there was a impace ther was discovered in the 1970 but only confirmed in the 1990s by looking at impact damage on rocks. If you compare to craters on the moon there are 70 larger than this. So a what would be a large crater on the moon can't be visually detected on earth after 66 million years. The youngest part of the moon surface is 18x as old and the oldest pars 63x as old. The number of impacts has decreased over time in the solar system. Something like https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meteor_Crater that is clearly a crate is only 50 000 years old and is in a desert. If you look at Lake Bosumtwi https://goo.gl/maps/35Ykq11Zx1sumKeT8 you see a lake with some mountains around it. That is a 1 million years 10km diameter impact crater in an area with lots of rains and plants. If you look carefully at it is not hard to understand that is an old impact crater or a volcanic caldera, but do not look like a typical crater on the moon. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lake_Bosumtwi So crates remain for billions of years on the moon but disappear quickly on earth.

Aside from the lack of atmosphere, those planets lack tectonic activity. If Earth lacked a significant atmosphere and wasn’t constantly submersing or otherwise deforming it’s crust, it would look much the same. As for how it was hit despite being so small, Pluto has been there for a very, very long time, and no matter how small the odds it’s bound to happen eventually. The solar system in its earlier years was also a much more violent and cluttered place.

w3tkeg

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Explain like I'm five years old what is the actual real-world application of prime numbers? Or is it just a math concept that’s neat to see and figure out but doesn’t have any actual use case? I read that they have some uses within online encryption, but to be honest I never really thought about why we learned them in school until this morning.

igy7ks9

igy7u8k

One core aspect of encryption is based on the idea that if you take a very large number (think 100 digits) it is very hard to figure out what numbers multiplied together get to that number (factoring). But it is super easy to take a bunch of numbers and multiply them to get a huge number. With prime numbers that process is unique. That is used a lot in encryption because you can share the giant number with anyone as an encryption key, but only the person that knows the original factors can prove it is the right key.

Primes factorization is a really simple way of explaining the "one-way" processes that underpin encryption. The property of primes you have to know is that every single number has only one so called "prime factorization" which just means that if you only multiply prime numbers, there is only one combination of those prime numbers that gives you your original number. Example 1: 17*47=499. The only way you can get 499 from prime numbers is by multiplying 17 and 47. Example 2: 2\*2\*2\*19=152 is the only way to multiply prime numbers and get 152. Etc. You can do that for every number. The trick is that while it's "easy" to multiply numbers together, it's incredibly hard to reverse it. Like, try to find the prime factorization of 2455. (Actually don't try, it's not going to work, it's 5*491) You basically have to go through every prime number one by one, and multiply them to find out what it might be. So you have an operation that's easy in one direction and hard to reverse. You have, a basic encryption algorithm. There are thousands of applications of prime numbers otherwise, but this one is incredibly simple to explain despite being quite a powerful observation.

yghunk

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Explain like I'm five years old: Why people test cocaine on their gum line?

iu8ms2f

iu9a8dd

To test to see if it numbs the gums, as cocaine should. It’s not that good of a test for the user to be honest, as it could just be cut with something like lidocaine to create a similar result. But for law enforcement it at least suggests it’s some sort of illegal substance. A better test for users in my experience, as they already know it’s cocaine and instead want to see how pure it is, is to rub it between your fingers and see how easily it dissolves. Purer stuff should be silky smooth and disappear without you even feeling it, which is hard to replicate (but I’m not exactly Pablo Escobar so it’s not an exact thing)

Ok so there are actually a couple ways to test coke without test equipment. 1. Good coke will fluff up with heat. Using either a piece of tin foil and a lighter or a microwave heat an amount of coke. It will dry out and fluff up and there should be no burnt specs just fluffy powder. The burnt specs are the cut and not the coke 2. Rubbing it between your fingers. If you take a small amount and rub it between your fingers it should dissolve completely and feel a little greasy. If there are any clumps that is the the cut and not the coke. 3. Smell. This isn't always applicable but if your coke has a smell to it. It should smell like gasoline or just a little like chemicals. But the better the coke the less smell it has. This has to do with how it's made, if it was a rushed job or it had the proper amount of time to cook. You should follow the previous steps before you get to this point. The previous steps will help determine if your coke was cut with cheaper shit and if it has the essence of good coke. 4. Lastly you can rub it on your gums. If all of the previous steps check out you can rub it on your gums. It should take 3 - 5 min before your mouth will start to go numb. If your mouth goes numb to quick it could be cut with lidocaine or benzocaine. There are other ways but these are just a basic run down and what I know

55ox5h

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Explain like I'm five years old: Why are we so concerned with automation and/or robots taking our jobs when our society has already survived exponential shifts in machinery, such as the Industrial Revolution?

d8cezsh

d8dcc9m

> (S)ociety has already survived exponential shifts in machinery, such as the Industrial Revolution(.) While overall we have benefited from the Industrial Revolution, and we have, with the numbing distance of history, turned the Luddites into a joke; the issues faced by thousands during the industrial revolution were kind of horrific. Instead of skilled workers in a few industries being impacted, the modern Intelligence Revolution is more likely to replace larger segments of the workforce.

This Thread is called Explain Like I'm Five, and yet people are giving such complex explanations. Well let's look at it this way: Back before the Industrial revolution, horses had a massive global population; one that rivaled the human population. But now, there are a scant few horses left in the world. Why? Because Machines took over the work that horses used to do. Its tractors instead of plows, cars instead of carriages, etc. During the last few hundred years, machines couldn't take over jobs, a worker still had to operate the machine, and the jobs that were taken over by machines were almost always very dangerous, or very physical jobs, so the guy who poured cane juice into the sugar synthesizing vat is now the guy who presses the button to activate the sugar synthesizing machine. Even in this case, there were many people that didn't want this, saying that the machine were taking over people's jobs. Now it's different. With the invention of the computer, nobody has to activate the sugar making machine, it can do that itself, so that's a job that's lost. And this process to happen with literally all jobs that aren't top level (CEO) jobs. Computers can now be accountants, managers, security staff, vendors, farmers, factory workers, drivers, etc. That's a whole lot of jobs being taken up. And thus we become the horses that I mentioned above.

voyl2w

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Explain like I'm five years old: How do produce stands in NYC, Montreal, and other major cities sell their items for less than most big box chains? In NYC, there are plenty of produce vendors on the street that sell aesthetic, fresh fruit for less than cost conscious mega-chains, like Wal Mart, Trader Joes, and Wegmans. The big chains have negotiating power, wholesale discounts, and economies of scale to help them profit on tiny margins. So, how is it that my small, local, fruit stand can outcompete pricewise with national chains and still stay afloat?

ieg0x14

ieg70yt

Tagging on to the other comments here: Additional overhead not found in market stands: exorbitant executive salaries, accountants, human resources, other administrative positions, building ownership and maintenance.

The fruit stands also buy the ripest fruit, which they can get for lower prices. It tastes good, but ripe also means it's going bad in a few days. Grocery stores need a certain amount of shelf life, but a small cart can pick up a box of strawberries and sell most of it that same day. If they don't buy it it's going to spoil, so they get a good deal.

2pgsrp

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Explain like I'm five years old: Why are there so many Islamic extremist groups in the world even though the Qur'an explicitly promotes peace regardless of beliefs, race, or nationality? In the same breath, is the amount of Islamic extremists in the world a misconception propagated by Hollywood and the news media?

cmwid4h

cmwjf7t

Interpretation, and multiple revisions, of original texts. People read new meanings into stuff, and if you think my revision suits your beliefs better, my job is done, and the revision becomes The Truth

It promotes peace for followers of Islam. That is the little detail that those who call it a religion of peace leave out.

umwlf7

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Explain like I'm five years old Why do birds such as parakeets/parrots imitate things owners say and learn phrases to 'communicate'. It appears that they enjoy it and even are affectionate.

i85uqd1

i86klsm

They're too intelligent to be a bird. They constantly need to learn things or they get bored easily. I read about a parrot where who knows basic words of things, then the owner showed him a cherry, a fruit he's never seen/tasted before, he called it applemato. To him its a combination of apple and tomato in taste and look. So at least for this one parrot, he's not just imitating, but have the intelligence to do some manipulation with our language. In Australia, where there are wild parrots, the pet parrots that got lost goes back to teaching their wild parrots friends English words they picked up during time as a pet. So they can teach it as well!

I’ve owned 4 different kinds of parrots. I’d have to tell you the African Grey had the strongest ability to have a conversation with real meaning not just mimicking. I would tell him go home and he’d fly to his cage close his door and lock himself in. In the morning he’d say “good morning! How are you? Can I come out?” If we said yes he’d unlock his cage and come right out. He always had a plate at the dinner table and he’d fly over when we had dinner eat on his plate and then fly back to his cage. You’ll truly be missed ❤️

ffcff9

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Manager told coworkers I was suicidal and a “pill popper”, I brought it up and now I have no job. (FL, USA) Yup, you read this crazy title correctly. Awhile back I had some major health issues and required a few surgeries to resolve things, and because of that I had to take some time off work. Management knew the situation, why I would be out and when I would return to work. One manager sent an email to my coworkers, without realizing I was also on the email chain, saying that I was in the hospital because I had popped some pills and tried to overdose and end it all; he said I may not ever come back to work, since I may not wake up. I only know this because 1) I was on the email chain and 2) MANY coworkers starting reaching out, very very concerned for me and saying they hoped I would be alright and recover. This all seemed so odd to me until I saw the email chain. I have NO clue what compelled this manager to do this, other than I know he was very mad with me taking short term medical leave, because he told me that. But being suicidal and overdosing was NOT at all true, I was just having another surgery. When I came back to work things were just awkward with coworkers, trying to explain that somehow what this manager said was not true, many people welcomed me back and said they couldn’t believe I was alive - it was just so weird. I tried ignoring it but it really made the relationship with some coworkers a bit more awkward, as they really didn’t know what to believe, because why would a manager make something like that up? When I finally had the confidence to ask some general questions about all this to the manager he was clearly annoyed, he did not want to talk about it, and oddly enough the next morning I came in I was told I no longer had a job. Even though my contract was good for another year, it was abruptly ended, after I brought up my concerns about this entire situation to this manager. I could not help but think these are somehow related. Even if they are not, and they had a legitimate reason to get rid of me and my job, what was said about my health issues, the lies that were told, I think should have never happened. And now I worry that once I leave work, what this manager could try putting in my file that may prevent me from working elsewhere in the company in the future. If they were willing to spread something so atrocious and untrue, what else would they do? I’m struggling to figure out what I should do, if anything. Do I just forget it and move on? Tell HR so that my side of the story is documented? I have the emails and numerous coworkers who would vouch for what they were told, both via email and what he said to them in person. Is there anything I can do? As I said, I just can’t shake the feeling that me asking about what transpired, and seeing how annoyed that made him, that the very next day I’m unexpectedly told my position is over and ending early.... Any advice, even if it’s not entirely legal-advice is welcome. Thanks for reading this in advance.

fjxke54

fjxnuqx

Get to HR ASAP on Monday! This is full of problems that could negatively impact the company. Bring all of your proof. Tell them you want your job back and no more problems with this manager. If your HR department is any good at all, this shit will get fixed ASAP.

make sure you get a copy of all evidence backed up not on a corp own device or email account.

98otdl

legaladvice_test

(Ontario Canada) A neighbour has started building his septic tank on our property It's actually my Grandma's property this is happening on, she has a large waterfront property and her neighbour has a small waterfront for his property. He's been dumping his trailer and other stuff over her property line for years, despite her asking him to keep off her property. She had the land surveyed a few years ago so she knows he is on her property. Last year she put up wooden stakes with rope along the property line and jerk neighbour pulls them out of the ground and throws them onto her property. She's in her 80's and lives alone. Bylaw has been called after that incident and they spoke with the neighbour but things have only gotten worse. The neighbour has been digging during the night, a septic tank hole which is deep and about 20 feet into her property. My husband went out with a professional surveyor today to find out where exactly the property lines are and now it is clearly marked, with this big hole in Grandma's yard. We already have someone lined up to fill in the hole but we are concerned about the liability issue since it's on her property. We are building a fence in the coming weeks along the property line. When he first started digging, Grandma decided it was time to build a fence to hopefully end this. What we didn't know before the surveyor came out was why he was digging this hole - there's pipes in it and it is for a septic bed. We assume he had no permits since he did it during the nights and not during the day so my Grandma is going to Town Hall to speak with someone there about this. Is there anything else she should be doing though? I think they are giving the neighbour notice to get his pipes out ASAP as we are filling in the hole this week - do we even need to tell him? Sorry if this is rambly, I just worry about my Grandma and her jerk neighbour and what else he might try to do. He won't be happy once the fence is built as he loses his waterfront, but at this point he's clearly aware what he is doing is wrong and he continues to do things on her property.

e4hpgom

e4hphzl

Calling the town hall is the right step - they'll issue a stop work order if there are no permits or if he's not putting it where he's supposed to. If he trespasses again, she can call the police. you can sue him in small claims court for the cost of remediation.

Time to talk to code enforcement, who is very likely to shut this down. Septic near waterways requires a whole mess of considerations, so this likely un-permitted as you suspect.

oc97wq

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Husband's dad was married but estranged. He gave us his house before passing away. His wife is saying that she is entitled to half FL My husband's father owned a house outright prior to meeting and marrying his wife. They met in 2013 and married in 2014, but their relationship was on again off again. Most recently they were "together" from November 2018 to December 2019 before deciding to call it quits for good. She moved out of his place and into an apartment of her own, and they lived separately from that point on. He filed for divorce in early 2020, but early in the process she had a series of tough life events. Her mother and sister both died and she herself was diagnosed with breast cancer. My husband's father stopped pursuing the divorce to give her time. He offhandedly mentioned at one point that he was waiting a while because it looks bad to divorce her when she's going through a difficult time, but once things got better for her he planned to pursue it because he said he wanted to date again. In summer 2020 he went through some tough times himself, decided life was too stressful and retired to a condo on Florida. He gave my husband his house (and updated the deed etc. accordingly). If it matters, she was never on the deed. Fast forward, he passed away in January of this year. Then in May we got a surprise at the door - divorce papers. She apparently did not know he had died. After she was informed that he had passed, we thought things were settled - but now we've received a letter from a law firm stating that she is suing his for the house. The letter named his dad (deceased), his "estate" and us as the defendants according to the papers. The gist of it seems to be that she is arguing that the house was half hers (because she wasn't on a deed but apparently by Florida law that's how it works, it claims) so he couldn't give it away without her permission, and therefore him giving it to my husband wasn't valid. Then further that since he died, Florida law says she gets the house. As far as we can tell this is a "we plan to sue you" type letter rather than a "we are actively suing you right now and have filed in court" type letter. Is this serious/valid? Should we get a lawyer or is it unlikely to play out? Thanks for any and all advice.

h3t0gtp

h3swy2p

Since the house was premarital property, how does that figure in to Fla law?

There is at least a decent chance that she is right. You and your husband need to consult with a lawyer ASAP.

ccymbl

legaladvice_test

[TX] My wife has taken her stepdaughter, my biological daughter, and the police won’t do anything about it. Looking for some help here; my wife and I got into an argument and I left for a few minutes, as requested, to give her some space. When I returned, she was not here and was gone with our 2 kids, one is our child together and one is from a previous relationship of mine. I tried calling her and all of our friends/relatives and no one has heard from her. It has been 4 hours. I tried calling the police and they told me she hasn’t been gone very long and it was more of a civil matter. This seems like kidnapping since this isn’t biologically or legally her daughter right? I’m very concerned for my daughter. Any advice would be great.

ets1yb3

etroy59

4 hours and you called the police on your wife? Doesn’t seem a bit extreme to you at all? I mean maybe after a day or 2 or not hearing from her but damn

You need to give us the information you're leaving out. Tell us what you two were fighting about it at least in general terms. Are you worried she's going to try to run off and disappear with the kids and try to start a new life etcetera Etc. If so tell us why. She obviously can't leave a two year old alone at home by themselves so if she went to cool off like you did she would have took the kids with her. Now is there anything that you have not told us about that would help us provide you with better legal advice, if so provide said information now. If you two just had a normal married couple argument then you should not be worried about you or your kids but the fact that you are says that you are either worrying about nothing or worrying about something that you still need to tell us about.

zm07rp

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Stalker installed a spy cam in my room Hi, I'm residing in Boston, MA. I'm currently being stalked by someone and the stalker installed a spy cam in my room. The spy cam in question is about to be seized by law enforcement. Is it necessary for them to view the footage in order to press charges (this is most likely an IP cam and can be traced to the owner)? If they do view the footage, there is a chance they might see me consume a substance that is decriminalized and legally acquired in Cambridge but illegal in Boston. The substance is not in my house and cannot be detected on a test- the only evidence of it is on video. The amount was very little and I doubt any video footage would be clear enough to indicate what it is (and it kinda looks like cannabis so I could just say its cannabis).

j09o3ci

j09po9j

Most likely, they won’t do anything with it. If it’s decriminalized in adjacent areas, it’s a lot more trouble than it’s worth. But, just in case: Don’t answer any questions about it. They would have to prove it had something in it that was illegal. Make sure whatever you consumed it with is no longer on the premises. They can’t prove it wasn’t tobacco or something of the sort.

They’ll view the whole video but won’t care about your substance use. Answer questions about the camera installation or your stalker won’t get prosecuted.

4fqp7j

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[NJ/PA] Just found out 5yr old son is not mine, have been paying child support Hello Reddit, I am posting this question for a friend who received the results of a "peace of mind" paternity test today. Five years ago my friend received a phone call from a (newly) ex-girlfriend alerting to him that she was pregnant. Being a stand up guy the two got back together and tried to make the relationship work. They stayed together until the baby was born and later split up (within the first year). New Jersey handled the custody and child support hearings. About two years ago the mother moved to Pennsylvania without alerting the court. Neither mother, nor my friend, live in New Jersey now and the case was never moved. My friend now lives in CA with his new wife and new born son. Upon seeing his new born he had a gut feeling his 5 year old may not actually be his. On the advice of a lawyer he conducted the paternity test (called a "peace of mind" test) and learned he is not the father. He is devastated but will be pursuing the removal of his name from the birth certificate and the termination of his child support payments. He is wondering what he can expect through the courts. We've heard terrible stories of men who have been lied to about paternity being held responsible for continued child support payments because the courts like to keep a support system for the child. The mother is a bit rough. Fresh neck tattoo, knuckle tatts, a single mother, but does have the support of a well-off family. My friend and his wife are living with her (his new wife's) family just trying to make ends meet with their own new child. They will be hiring a lawyer but want to know what the first steps should be. Does he keep this a secret from the mother(is there a reason) or must he immediately state his findings? Are they in for a big fight (how expensive/experienced of a lawyer should he be looking to hire). Will the judge for sure order a court appointed paternity test based on his independent finding or could even that be denied? Any chance for repayment of the five years or child support payments? Any reason they should push for the case to be moved from NJ to PA? Thanks for your help. If there are specific questions that I cannot answer I will get the answers directly from my friend. This is all very emotional for him but I fear time is of the essence.

d2b5pz7

d2b5nsb

This is going to be very area/fact specific. He needs a lawyer **Immediately**. There have been numerous cases of courts deciding that the guy in your friend's position who have decided he needs to keep on paying child support, because the child would suffer in the absence of it. He's not getting any money back, forget that. Let me repeat: It is possible that your friend will be ordered to continue paying child support in this case. Lawyer. Now.

>Any chance for repayment of the five years or child support payments? I am not a lawyer, but I sincerely doubt this will happen. Support is for the child and generally the courts will not give a fcuk that "your friend" has been paying for a child that was not his 5 years after the fact. Support is for the well being of the child. If he was really concerned, the friend should have conducted the DNA test day 1.

zz2i8u

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Aggressive and stalker nurse waits outside of our workplace to yell insults at my coworker and has been telling her she “is going to take care of her” and text an image of her handgun. TX Harris County Yesterday she blocked her into her parking space and hit her car window repeatedly with her phone. She told her that her kids are going to start off the year with no mother. Police says this is all not a threat The text of the handgun and message was made to the crazy nurses daughter saying that she “won’t let the home wrecker win and she will take care of her” [insert picture of gun] her daughter was freaked out enough to forward it to her step father (who’s divorcing crazy nurse to be with my coworker) everybody involved is an adult.

j29ug56

j29disw

Is the OP's and victim's workplace located on private property such that the employer can issue a warning and then tag her for trespassing? The after-hours nonsense could potentially be addressed by calling 311 and getting her cited with a noise complaint if there are applicable ordinances on the books. There's a difference between escalation and treating her as a civil nuisance such that becomes expensive for her to keep up the harassment.

If going to the police isn’t working, try contacting your state senator or city councillor—it’s amazing the connections they have

zj8h20

legaladvice_test

My former employer is requesting my severance back a year later My former employer paid me quite a lofty sum as part of a severance agreement. On their end, they missed payment dates and I had to hound them to make sure I got it. Recently, I received a letter with no documentation claiming the amount I was paid was over payment and that I needed to repay the amount back. The amount in it is the same amount of what was agreed upon in the severance. I have several documents showing the amount, them missing payments and bank statements showing when I received the payments. What is my best course of action?

izut35y

izu0ax8

Everyone here suggesting you wait to be sued is ignoring the possibility that they decide to send this debt to collections as part of their recovery efforts. That will be a mighty mess to clean up. If I’m reading this correctly they said they would pay you $X in severance. They did not immediately make good on those payments, but did eventually pay you $X. They did not OVERPAY you, they only paid you the agreed upon amount. Now they are requesting you pay back $X. Not some subset of $X, not a partial “overpayment”, they want to claw back the entire thing. Right? Is it possible that they think they paid you twice? Or that this is another part of their disorganized missed payments? It makes me wonder if your original payments that they missed went *somewhere* and now an audit has caught that missing money. You didn’t say that the letter threatened legal action. This may be something you can clear up with their HR department without harming yourself down-the-line if they do end up filing suit. At minimum you can call and verify the details of the letter, that it’s legit, and probably suss out why they think you owe them money without really giving up any info. That might help you figure out how to proceed. If they think they paid you twice, they’ll have to prove it but you can gather your info to show that didn’t happen. If they think they shouldn’t have paid you at all, just giving them a copy of their agreement to pay you might clear this up. You can always do a quick consult with a lawyer in your area to make sure they largely feel the same way about gathering more information vs just sitting tight and waiting. The amount they paid you likely matters here, a “lofty” sum as you put it is probably more likely to be taken seriously if they think you owe it to them, and won’t just go away.

Was your severance contingent on anything, like it would stop once you were employed or have any nondisclosures you may have violated?

p5479x

legaladvice_test

Property law: my mom is being sued by the guy who bought her house from the guy who bought her house South Dakota. My dad owned the same house for over 40 years. He owned it before he married my mom and she inherited it when he died. A few years after he died, she decided to move to where my sister lives and put the house up for sale. Guy suing (calling him A-hole1) is a complete psychopath who has lived in the neighborhood 20+ years and everyone hates him. There are a thousand things we could talk about with him but the important bits are he’s a lawyer (not actually practicing) and a doctor (who lost privileges at the local hospital for being a psychotic asshole but not his license somehow and is still in private practice). So, he’s got a shitload of money and knows the law and also has bought up pretty much every other lawyer in town. He’s also been methodically buying up every property he can in my mom’s neighborhood and turning them into rentals, subdividing lots and building more rentals, and basically doing his best to take over and ruin what was some very premium real estate right next to a national park. When my mom’s house went up for sale, he immediately showed up on her doorstep (literally a couple of hours after it posted), and offered her her asking price in cash. She told him she’d think about it, because it freaked her out and she didn’t know quite what to do, and she said he was visibly pissed when he left. My mom isn’t stupid, but she has never bought or sold a property in her entire life, so she relied heavily on her realtor. The realtor told her she could definitely wait on A-hole1’s offer and see if anyone else wanted to go higher. She then got a higher offer and took it—but, rather mysteriously, that offer fell through under some weird circumstances and my mom didn’t have a buyer anymore. She had closed on her new house already, so she was even more freaked out and wanted to hurry up and sell even though my sister and I told her to calm down and wait. She then got an offer from a guy who’s a lawyer and on the city council (A-hole2). It was for more than her asking price, and *he waived an inspection and a survey* and just bought the place. So my mom took it and moved. Now, the trouble comes from a detached garage my dad had built. He owned several acres so there were lots of spots to build this thing, but he decided to put it off the end of the driveway. He had a professional contractor come build it, and while my mom had almost no input, she says a survey was done it make sure it was far enough from the neighbors’ property to be okay. The properties have no distinct borders; it’s just a big meadow, no fence line or obvious markers. Also the neighbors are life-long friends of my parents so if there had been an issue it would have probably been easy to solve. Apparently the garage is a tiny bit too close to the property line, like less than a foot (and this is a thing I do not fully get, because it’s a building next to an open meadow sooooo it’s not encroaching on anything, and we don’t have to cross the property line to access it). But my mom had no idea about that, and presumably neither did my dad. My dad’s terminal illness did affect his brain and he did definitely make some bad choices before he was declared incompetent legally, so it’s possible this was one of them. But given the timing, I don’t think so. Anyway, this no-inspection, no-survey sale goes through, and a little while after that my mom got an email from A-hole1. Turns out, A-hole2 bought the place from my mom, but had been in cahoots with A-hole1 all along. *He’d purchased the house just to turn around and deed it to his buddy A-hole1.* A-hole1 then did the survey, and then found out about the garage problem. He told my elderly, widowed mom that she’d lied intentionally about it, and unless she paid him $50k to tear down the garage and move it(which cost $12k to build four years prior), he’d sue her. He also claimed her realtor had sworn on a stack of bibles there was nothing to worry about and that’s why A-hole2 hadn’t done the survey. She got a lawyer, and got a confession from A-hole1’s lawyer that they knew she hadn’t been dishonest and they just hoped she’d “pitch in” to move the garage like she’d just be a good sport after the bullshit he had put her through (and his track record of being a psycho neighbor from hell). So, original thing got dropped. But now, months later, A-hole1 is trying the same thing again. My mom got a summons served to her new house; again she’s elderly and by herself most of the time (other than her giant-ass Rottweiler she can’t control and that’s another topic) so she doesn’t ever just open the door. She saw a strange person on her doorstep using her doorbell camera, and talked to the person through the mic. Person said they were serving her and she needed to open the door. Of course that freaked her out and she didn’t; she told the person she didn’t know who they were and she wanted to talk to her lawyer first. That person cussed her out and just left. All this was captured on the camera. My mom’s original lawyer bowed out because his partner had just (*coincidentally*\s) been bought out by A-hole1. She had to try super hard to find a lawyer after that and ended up with someone literally across the state because he’s bought every firm on this side. So… my mom is being targeted by a fucking psychopath who did not actually buy her house, but got it through a straw purchase. He would totally would ruin her financially just because she spited him by not taking his first offer. How worried should she be? How can I help her?

h93gh2e

h93anyb

Not a lawyer but I would not pay him anything. He did not have an inspection nor survey. It will be hard and she'll have to stand firm, but let him take her to court and let the judge hear the case. Hopefully the judge is not "bought out." It may not even go that far if she stands her ground as A-hole is hoping for a quick steamroll over her. So sorry about this situation when your mom should be coasting through the rest of her life. I wish her good luck and success with this case.

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There are a thousand things we could talk about with him but the important bits are he’s a lawyer (not actually practicing) and a doctor (who lost privileges at the local hospital for being a psychotic asshole but not his license somehow and is still in private practice). So, he’s got a shitload of money and knows the law and also has bought up pretty much every other lawyer in town. > > He’s also been methodically buying up every property he can in my mom’s neighborhood and turning them into rentals, subdividing lots and building more rentals, and basically doing his best to take over and ruin what was some very premium real estate right next to a national park. > > When my mom’s house went up for sale, he immediately showed up on her doorstep (literally a couple of hours after it posted), and offered her her asking price in cash. She told him she’d think about it, because it freaked her out and she didn’t know quite what to do, and she said he was visibly pissed when he left. > > My mom isn’t stupid, but she has never bought or sold a property in her entire life, so she relied heavily on her realtor. The realtor told her she could definitely wait on A-hole1’s offer and see if anyone else wanted to go higher. She then got a higher offer and took it—but, rather mysteriously, that offer fell through under some weird circumstances and my mom didn’t have a buyer anymore. She had closed on her new house already, so she was even more freaked out and wanted to hurry up and sell even though my sister and I told her to calm down and wait. > > She then got an offer from a guy who’s a lawyer and on the city council (A-hole2). It was for more than her asking price, and *he waived an inspection and a survey* and just bought the place. So my mom took it and moved. > > Now, the trouble comes from a detached garage my dad had built. He owned several acres so there were lots of spots to build this thing, but he decided to put it off the end of the driveway. He had a professional contractor come build it, and while my mom had almost no input, she says a survey was done it make sure it was far enough from the neighbors’ property to be okay. > > The properties have no distinct borders; it’s just a big meadow, no fence line or obvious markers. Also the neighbors are life-long friends of my parents so if there had been an issue it would have probably been easy to solve. Apparently the garage is a tiny bit too close to the property line, like less than a foot (and this is a thing I do not fully get, because it’s a building next to an open meadow sooooo it’s not encroaching on anything, and we don’t have to cross the property line to access it). > > But my mom had no idea about that, and presumably neither did my dad. My dad’s terminal illness did affect his brain and he did definitely make some bad choices before he was declared incompetent legally, so it’s possible this was one of them. But given the timing, I don’t think so. > > Anyway, this no-inspection, no-survey sale goes through, and a little while after that my mom got an email from A-hole1. Turns out, A-hole2 bought the place from my mom, but had been in cahoots with A-hole1 all along. *He’d purchased the house just to turn around and deed it to his buddy A-hole1.* > > A-hole1 then did the survey, and then found out about the garage problem. He told my elderly, widowed mom that she’d lied intentionally about it, and unless she paid him $50k to tear down the garage and move it(which cost $12k to build four years prior), he’d sue her. He also claimed her realtor had sworn on a stack of bibles there was nothing to worry about and that’s why A-hole2 hadn’t done the survey. > > She got a lawyer, and got a confession from A-hole1’s lawyer that they knew she hadn’t been dishonest and they just hoped she’d “pitch in” to move the garage like she’d just be a good sport after the bullshit he had put her through (and his track record of being a psycho neighbor from hell). > > So, original thing got dropped. But now, months later, A-hole1 is trying the same thing again. > > My mom got a summons served to her new house; again she’s elderly and by herself most of the time (other than her giant-ass Rottweiler she can’t control and that’s another topic) so she doesn’t ever just open the door. > > She saw a strange person on her doorstep using her doorbell camera, and talked to the person through the mic. Person said they were serving her and she needed to open the door. Of course that freaked her out and she didn’t; she told the person she didn’t know who they were and she wanted to talk to her lawyer first. That person cussed her out and just left. All this was captured on the camera. > > My mom’s original lawyer bowed out because his partner had just (*coincidentally*\s) been bought out by A-hole1. She had to try super hard to find a lawyer after that and ended up with someone literally across the state because he’s bought every firm on this side. > > So… my mom is being targeted by a fucking psychopath who did not actually buy her house, but got it through a straw purchase. He would totally would ruin her financially just because she spited him by not taking his first offer. > > How worried should she be? How can I help her? --- LocationBot 4.999988713 83/601rds | Report Issues | >!TdUO5NmMWlXWXJFcjJzZ!<

wiqs9h

legaladvice_test

Quit my summer job I’ve been working at for 3 years without notice. Boss cut my last TWO checks. Is this legal? (TX) I’ve been working as a seasonal employee for the last three years, and I recently decided to quit without notice. An event came up three days before my shift and we’re supposed to provide written notice seven days in advance for a shift that needs to be covered. If this isn’t done, it’s a no-show, and a no-show is an automatic fire. An automatic fire is considered leaving without notice, so I jumped the gun and quit preemptively. When I told my employer about my resignation, I was redirected to our hire packet, which has a clause that states that any quit/fire without notice is an automatic pay cut to minimum wage for all hours that have been unpaid. I was supposed to be paid for three weeks in two separate checks/pay periods as of the day I resigned, one for two weeks I had already worked and another for the two days before I quit. My employer cut my pay for both of them to minimum wage. I’m not sure if cutting pay is legal at all in the first place, and if it is i’m not sure if cutting pay for two separate pay periods, including one that had already been completed, is legal. TL;DR, My employer cut my pay for the last TWO checks for quitting without notice. Is this legal?

ijfzqcl

ijfaw0x

GO TO YOUR LOCAL LABOR BOARD. FILE A COMPLAINT. IT'S called theft of wages. If he has done this, often, it's a crime

How the hell do you give proper notice when your fired. Boss sounds like a scumbag