IRT "Share holiday time with kupuna"
Too many of us have bottomless holes in our lives because we had not spent enough quality time with our elderly parents, relatives, and friends that have since died.  We angst because we care more for them in death than we had in life.  We over and under compensate at their funerals, and later, gravesites.   And mostly, we divorce our thoughts to absolve untoward guilty feelings.  Our solitudes at Thanksgiving and Christmas time become perpetually doomed never to be the same.  Ue a me Aue.