LW1 Are you relatively young? I wish you luck in learning more about abusive parents and how that affects you as a person, your relationships in life, and how you handle things. I highly recommend reading books and therapy. Yes, you should not spend time with your toxic father. It is important for you to have a plan to be independent and self sufficient. Invite your mother to meet you and do things with you. Do not let your father walk all over you like this.