Mary55, what you and so many others on this board fail to realize is that this is not just about the words spoken by the man. What he said reflects an imbalance of power by which (some) males feel entitled to treat women like pretty playthings. This was an assertion of control over her appearance. It's the same reason that Trump's use of the word "pussy" is outrageous not because of the profanity but because he diminished and demeaned all women when he said it. With all due respect, you are flat out wrong: it does NOT go both ways.