Hi, Cromwell1658.  Don't think you've quite got it. There is no "child abuse" if the child is dead.  This one was.  So, "what it feels like being unable to move..." is meaningless, because the dead don't feel anything. 

Not sure the doctors are going through "anguish"--although it's frustrating.  You may be correct in labelling the emotional needs of the parents (which I won't deny) "selfish," though.  Because some little child who is still alive but in danger of dying could use the expensive equipment. Some other child could use the space in the ward.  Medical resources are being wasted.