Kevin, your conclusion is correct but you have the wrong premise.  Your correctly conclude that humility indeed plays a huge role in terms of healing the spiritual rift, but before that you mistakenly defend fallacious church doctrine crafted by the very force you propose to condemn--i.e., clericalism. This doesn't make sense. Rome doesn't have a lock on God's truth and the career clerics need to humble themselves and admit they made a mistake. Responsible family parenting is not a sin, it's simply the responsible thing to do for discerning, married couples. Many/most (??) priests and bishops agree with that assessment but the boys in Rome can't seem to humble themselves enough to align church teaching with pastoral practice.

This is a significant problem and the entire civilized world knows it.