There are deadbeat dads, and there are great dads., just as there are deadbeat moms and great moms.   I suspect if a formal survey was done, the results would show dads and moms alike spend an inordinate amount of time on their kids.   Isn't that all that matters, that kids are getting the attention and direction they need?  I am less concerned about the usual stereotypical split of labour (yardwork, home repair, car maintenance versus laundry, cooking, cleaning) than I am that things get done, the home is a place of sanctuary and nurturing, and most of all, truth.   Sure, I backstop the kids in math and will help with thesis statements for their essays, but my wife will be doing something else for the family at that time.  If you (mom or dad) haven't added it to your never-ending list of things to do, consider also providing them with articles and supplement with critical analysis so that when they leave home they can apply the same to what they read.