DennisM,
Thank you.  And yes, you caught the main point I was trying to make: the concept that a consensus can (usually) be developed, even if not everybody is in full agreement.  The important part is exactly as you described: church being a relationship, a space where we can hear, listen, and contribute.  We won't always agree, but the goal will be to understand.  

The key is the process by which that happens.  That process may well be what "being church" is really all about.  It's the ongoing struggle, the consistent desire to find the best solution we can, learning from our mistakes, and in the process, building a trust in each other.  To get that "best solution" will require that voices not be excluded, simply because of a person's gender, wealth or poverty, or status in the church.

The institution faces serious problems as the effects of the drop in vocations rolls through the system.  The problem can best be addressed by listening to all of those voices.  But will the bishops?