Peter are you serious in saying the survivor needs to offer forgiveness??? The church still refuses to admit wrong especially in old cases that are past Statutes of Limitations.  So why should survivors offer forgiveness for what happened to them as children when the institution that caused the violation refuses to own up to it?  The church loves people like you so continue to drink their Kool-Aid.  Nothing has changed in the church whatsoever!  Their mantra has been and continues and, will always be "Do as I say, Not as I do"   Survivors have the right to a lot of things Peter. #1 being angry for their church violating them as children and then being violated again as adults when the church says it never happened.  Bottom line Peter Forgiveness is between them and God, the survivor has nothing to do with it and has every right to be pissed and NEVER FORGIVE.  You telling survivors they need to forgive sir is ignorant when you have not walked in their shoes!