You blather on and on about "splitting the gift". This may be meaningful to your silly notion about sex must be open to procreation, it is meaningless to the overwhelming number of people. The actual "gift" is in my sharing my love with my wife. My wife and I have procreated. We needed to stop procreating for reasons you know full well, but have NEVER addressed. How about addressing the fact that we did not want her to die, nor did we want to give up our sexual relationship? Come on, RD, climb out of your ivory tower and address a real life problem of two real people. Or are you unable to, because it will show that your OD-inspired blather is simply that -- blather.