So the writer is saying that if I leave my wallet full of cash on the dash of my unlocked car parked downtown all day and I become a victim of a theft crime there is no onus on me for leaving myself in a vulnerable situation? Does the writer lock the door of her house at night? Probably, and she does it to take a reasonable measure to avoid becoming a victim of a crime. She can teach her daughter whatever she likes, but I teach my daughters that there are and will always be thieves and scumbags and reasonable measures should be taken to avoid becoming a victim of a crime. I tell my eldest daughter in university that if she is going out and will be drinking, make sure a sober friend has her back. There will  be rapists when the writer's daughter is 19 and 29 and 59; she should be made aware.