Humility is seeing ourselves as God sees us!  Self-knowledge that is true!

When you use the word "judge" we need to temper the meaning of that.

God gave us our intellect because it allows us to make judgments!

Judgments help us to live charity to the greatest degree.

A husband may use his observations of his wife's behavior, forming hypotheses and eventually arriving at a conclusion (a judgment) that his wife needs to be confronted about her drinking habits.

That is a charitable act, it's a judgment and it's not BAD.

Too many here run away from the "judgment" word, and it really does handicap them in many ways.

Or a brother may see his brother engage in immoral behavior....he loves his brother and wants the greatest good for him (that's the definition of charity) and so in the right way at the right time he may confront his brother and raise the matter to him.

That's not 'judging" in the sense that too many people yell about here.

It's love, deep and costly and difficult love.