Yes, the problem is that we often confuse the image with the real thing.  Even Pope Francis, in Evangelii Gaudium (#104) acknowledges that this is a problem, and this is why he says that the Church cannot get rid of the old patriarchal marriage image St Paul used in Ephesians 5:21-33.  So we keep reducing the Christ-Church *mystery* (5:32) to a patriarchal marriage covenant.  This is where we are, but the Church will overcome this inordinate attachment to patriarchal images in due time.