But we are called to forgive our enemies, regardless of whether or not they ask for it. We are to forgive as we expect God to forgive us. By remaining unforgiving toward this bully from many years ago, you are only hurting yourself and this person has no clue about your unforgiveness and hate that you still hold toward him. I was bullied in grade school and high school. Not constantly, but there were moments when I just wanted to crawl into a corner and die, and other times when I feared for my own safety and life (had a knife pulled on me a block away from school from one fellow student's boyfriend). The hardest thing was for me to find forgiveness for my (ex)husband who decided to walk out on our 23 year marriage.  With the help of God's grace, I was able to when I realized that in God's eyes, I was not completely innocent of sin and to get off my own high horse and be humble before my God. I was a victim, but so what? I will not drown myself in victimhood. Love is stronger than that