Capital -S- Society is a curious though historically rather predictable beast: we haven't as individuals grown into and gone out into it telling everyone else what we want to them to think about us: if you are "the stinky guy" to Everyone else, will you rail against Everyone to get them to say you smell wonderful? If you are "the stupid gal," will you rail against Everyone to get them to say you are brilliant? If you are "the sexy grandma," will you rail against Everyone to get them to say you are an ugly pre-teen? No, no, and no. Society determines the identity of the individual, not the other way around. Last time I checked, the passport/driver's license was issued by society to tell ME who I am. What difference does it make when I board an airplane, who I really WANT to be?