So in other words--you are a liberal Protestant. Got it.  Why? Protestants have one thing in common--whatever else they believe--and that is a rejection of authority in the Church. They believe they have the authority to sit in judgement of Church teaching and believe as they wish when they disagree.

Of course abortion is not black and white to you liberals.  Of course it just has to be "complicated." You see, liberals like it when things are complicated and "nuanced" because then they can justify sin.  When things are clear, sin is much harder to justify. It is, then, an essential tactic and arsenal of the left: muddying the waters and adding "nuance" in order to get people to buy what they are selling.  OF course a liberal (no pun intended) use of euphemisms is another essential tactic and weapon of liberals.  

As for your question: how is a dead child and dead mother better than a live mother but dead child?  Simple: The ends do not justify the means.