My grandfather was a dead end dead beat loser who leached off this 12 kids. To escape abject poverty in Oklahoma my grandma and her kids thumbed a ride to Oregon coming here homeless and destitute to look for work in agriculture. Grandpa was tossed from the family. The only program he needed was prison where he couldn't inflict his dysfunction on society.
 I have 0 empathy for folks today who have far more opportunity and endless programs my family never knew, who, like my grandfather, make nothing but endless excuses for their dysfunctional behavior. 
 There are answers, most just don't like them.