Best comment yet.  My neighbour expected her daughter to move from the U.S. back to Canada, leave her family, quit her job and look after her 24/7.   They call it "age in place" for some strange reason, not "selfishness and denial", which is what it really is.  I'm not sure why they encourage this behaviour, turn seniors into two year children who always get their own way.  Everyone I know who was in the same situation as you, became super planners so they would never do the same thing to their own family.   

Unless you're a Kennedy and live in a family compound, you can't live on your own forever.