I wish Amy would have emphasized more LW's statement that she *had a meltdown* and felt hurt by the gift. That's ridiculous, and her highly inappropriate reaction is why her friends are reacting the way they are. Telling them she wasn't comfortable with it is one thing. Feeling hurt for some reason and having a literal meltdown (which I'd guess involved screaming and crying, and possibly some personal attacks) over their attempt to do something nice is completely over the top.