Thank you, Frances, for your perspective.  The four criteria I follow for my spiritual life have come over a long period of time, lots of prayer, reflection, discussion with wise souls, and personal experience.  That's why, at this point, they are tried and true for me.  They are pillars for my soul and, without being stubborn, they are not likely to change much any more.  I could certainly add to them but I doubt if I will delete any of them.