Chip: Legitimate and fair questions. At the heart of the issue in many ways.    

A) A human being choosing not to have sex, for whatever reason(s),  can be very, very happy. Even ecstatic in his/her choice. That cannot be argued. 

B) A human being forced not to have sex , for whatever reason(s),  can be very, very unhappy. Even morose in his/her repression. That cannot be argued. 

Any question or answer (especially about sex) that implies "happiness"  knowledge or counsel applicable to all humans of all ages in all situations at all times will always be wrong as folks in category A and Category B will tell you.