Children come to a point where they make their own choices. It's not always the parents.  I know I rebelled against my parents really bad at her age and it was personal choices to do so.  I have known this girl since she was very young and up until the last year she pretty much has had her head on straight. She made her own personal choices this last year that have obviously led her to some bad places. This is not the fault of her parents, any of them... they are hers. So yes, it's harsh to blame them.