I'd like to look at the "church doesn't mean anything to them anymore" comment...as it resounds with me.

We "ancients" were raised in a highly reinforced Church scenario where the impetus to attend mass was a given....and Church did provide in a  far narrower "World" the answers to many human needs, including community, sociability et al. And there was guilt and shame as motivators.

Today folks have a far vaster "world" to choose from in terms of options for the use of their time and ways of meeting a range of human needs...and a hour on Sunday in a less than wonderful setting is not exactly at the top of ones  list...often.

Coffee at Starbucks, a run, meeting with friends for any number of reasons, book groups, play groups ...you name it ...factor in.

And these folks often lead very responsible and caring lives, are involved deeply in work that is highly principled, are a credit to their friends and family, ....engage in loving relationships are good parents and spouses.