Anyone who is a green baret knows what they are signing up for.  The are all highly intelligent and a cut way above the standard recruit. The President means well and is compassionate, he just is a bit blunt in his way of communicating.  He probably stated he knew what he was getting into as away of respect that he chose this honorable path as a self sacrifice.  Of course the family members are on a different paradigm.  They are grieving, going through anger (part of the grieving stages), women (often more emotional when grieving),and black (so may already predisposed to be anti trump, especially since he insulted Obama yesterday).  President Trump is learning the hard way that consoling loved ones is a difficult task.  Hope he can continue to stick with this role.  It will certainly defer him from commiting our forces to war needlessly.