I am one of the sons in this family. Honestly you couldn't possibly understand or comprehend our family unless you witnessed it. I know it may seem terrible to you, but we work together and live together better than most other families I know. I can tell you first hand that I am not emotionally scarred at all. As for other families with the same structure we have, I would be surprised if they were any worse for the wear. The fact that they managed to stay together through something as trying as a transition says something about how emotionally strong they are, not emotionally damaged. 

What you are saying about getting harsh criticism for commenting is totally unfounded here. In other places I actually agree with you. Both sides tend to just want to cuss each other out and then say that the other people shouldn't react so harshly. The amount of hypocrisy is practically comical on both sides. But here I have seen only people responding and backing up their opinions with arguments.