So they were in fact a victim. What used to be an aberration has now become the norm.  Yes, I agree with your statement regarding children 30 years ago.  Today with the non stop sex on TV, film, magazines and the internet, some young girls consider performing oral sex on a boy as no different than kissing. Would you put your 12 yo daughter on the pill?  Would you let your 12 yo daughter go to school wearing  thong underwear that is visible to her classmates?  Would you teach your 12 yo daughter that sex is fun and natural, and that she should experience it with as many people as possible and as often as possible before she gets tied down and married?  A friend of mine actually gave this advice to his then 13 yo son.  My times have changed.