I think if we look at this question with an open mind, not closed in ourselves as Francis reminds us about, we can examine it very rationally, and even with a supernatural tone as well using our faith, which allows us to unite ourselves to God, once we've exhausted the power of our reason.

We can say:

Could I have been just a bit more generous with my brother, a little less sarcastic?
Could my help have been a bit more quick, less calculating?
Couldn't I have woken up a few minutes earlier so that I had time to collect my thoughts in prayer with God, and then perhaps used that more recollected state to help the family wake up in less a chaotic matter.

A little bit more, a lttle bit sooner, a little bit better, with a bit more intention to love God THROUGH my ordinary chores and daily tasks.

Using the "tasks" to grow in a bit closer resemblance of Jesus...and in this way grow in union with Him.

We can move up an inclined plane toward Him every day, growing in union, ever-perfecting