I was expected to be mature at 11.   I was told of issues with my parents that ruined my sense of childhood innocence.    At 13 I had to help with a parents break down and mental health issues.    This parent with mental health was also a narcissist taunted me and was jealous of me.    I took over  housework duties and went to high school.  I wanted go to university but to get away I went the UK at 19 with a friend.   I came home, after a trip to get into a university on the west coast,  saw a therapist and dealt with my parent's mental health issues.   I at the age of  26 started on going therapy.    I made sure my own family, knew they where loved and I supported them through higher education.   It is not just the abuse it is also neglect and expecting a child to be an adult.   The worst of it there was knowone to turn to for help in those years.   No help lines.   I have read other stories similar of young children who had to help in a family crisis.  It is not way to grow up