Yes. I feel her frustration. The church still believes itself to be the expert here. Some of us come with great love and desire to help build better church and leave (or are sent away) in frustration, shame, fear, or before we loose any dignity we have left. It is no different locally than it is globally. The programs and people set in place favor those who seek and find healing by the standard teachings of the church and by church ministers themselves. We have been harmed by ministers and by the teaching that links God & the sacred with the the abuse and abusive priest. Many have been further traumatized by going to the church. Spiritual trauma is not understood nor is understanding of it sought out. There are good hearted people in the church who want to be of help. Without understanding and collaboration from those who have experienced the abuse, compassion and good intentions will often fail or worse, do more harm than good.