.. And this civil legal action just may be a consequence for these parents not performing that duty - and for school districts being  tarred and feathered for seeking to fill in the socialization and responsibility gaps created by those "other" parents - ones not like yours! If parents or schools had done the job, just maybe two families would not now be torn apart.. No guarantees of course, but just maybe.. It IS an important part of growing toward responsible adulthood, is it not?