Thank you for your article. (I am Mike McGrath not  Frances Sommerville - but the Globe recognizes me as her.) I am currently writing a picture book for my grandson with the core message being Live Spectacularly Outside the Lines -- by colouring yourself exactly as you want. I come from a family of ten and each of us have struggled and continue to struggle with anger management stemming from our father's struggle with this affliction and we are now all well over 50. Try hard to really let your anger and fear go... Yoga is one good way. Or it, not her, will haunt you forever. Events give us feelings, what we do with them truly is our choice. Choose to be a Yogini, not a victim. She needs your love not your blows for she is a victim far more hurt and trampled than you, run over by the oxens of life.