I have read the book, but it's been a long time ago.  I'll have to reread it.  I interpret what you are saying is she is a control freak and perhaps anal retentive to a degree.  Please read my comment in amongst all the comments to see if any of the words I used to describe her fit with what you are saying.  

I made one comment about her that I should not have and it's that she made me think of white trash, but that was very uncalled for.  I may delete my post, correct it, and then resubmit a more appropriate version.  

Thanks for clearing up your statement for me.  I will put a star under your statement now.