Sounds like she is doing all the heavy lifting.  Her RSP, her TFS, her income double his and he takes a few years away from the work market.  His only real asset is a locked in retirement account which came with his previous job.

Most well paying jobs come with stress.

Want to own a home?  You need financial discipline and that starts with chopping expenses.  Get frugal. Cut things like travel,  dining out and drinks and reduce clothes budget

I see problems in the future....