The Church has it mixed up. Chastity is not defined by what one does or does not do with emotions, affections, and physical expressions. Rather, chastity as a virtue is activated by why someone does those things. Is it for caring and love or is it for control, power, manipulation, and exploitation? This is where the blade edge of morality resides: on how and why we treat each other: with beautiful care and love or with neglect, disdain, and objectification.