Family dynamics are ingrained since birth and it is rare for members to question what is right and wrong.  At an ex-girlfriend’s family dinner a little 3 year old girl was running around without a shirt. Grampie pipes up and says salaciously: "Look at at little Lucy! What a little slut!".   I expected all hell to break loose but nothing.  Not Grammie, the girl's parents, my ex batted an eye lid.  Talking to my ex on the way home she got angry that I even brought it up.  Her dad walked on water.   It was over 20 years ago and it is still like a brick smashing a window.

In my own family growing up - 2 boys and a girl - my mother picked on my sister mercilessly, emotionally and physically.  I knew it was wrong but I didn't see it for the whole torture that it as until I had moved out and in my twenties.  Growing up it was just the way things were.  Confronting my parents got me a "we were young and didn't know any better - we're good now".  Sorry but you won't be alone with my kids.