sounds like she's in a tornado of self medicating and being overwhelmed.  her mom dying may really have thrown her if mom took care of a lot for her.  our mental health system stinks.  i know it's not as easy to spot a mentally ill disabled person as it is someone who uses a wheel chair.  the "system" is sorely lacking in resources that actually help.  from what i'e heard,  the little groups that are to help the disabled barely touch upon mental illness.  it's not easy - for either side,  judging by this...