LW1 sounds a bit of a train wreck.  Having dated for the past 10 years since leaving my divorce, I noticed that the ladies (I don't doubt guys are guilty of this too) who said they were in abusive relationships or didn't want drama in their life tended to be very aggressive and full of drama themselves.  Not sure if LW1 is of the same cloth, but from the little written, it sounds like there may be a tad of at least not being capable of making good decisions for herself.