Wavemaker, I realize there are laws but they are not protecting people as they should.  I believe education is a much better solution.  Eventually I would love to see attitudes on alcohol change.  Instead of kids thinking that they need to get hammered to be cool, let's teach people that they can have a better time by just having 1-2 drinks.  I don't know what the answer is, I wish I did.  I just know things need to change.  And I know I don't want this to happen to another family because this sucks.