I do believe the questions you ask are very good for an examination of conscience---particularly if they were framed in the first, rather than the third, person.   But truly and importantly, the interior life is significant  because of the fruit that it bears; holiness is not simply or only an issue of "interior lives"  nor is holiness "separateness".  I  note that you speak of connecting self-sacrifice and fasting with the millions around the world  and family/friends  (that is to say, not just social justice and charity but also care for friends and family--especially in difficulties)  and this is great.... Since I am a retired pastor I particularly liked your point about cheerfully putting up  with a bad homily.  I am sorry to see the the corporal and spiritual works of mercy were barely hinted at in you questions.   I think Reese's points about reforming the curia would help give a lot better answers to your questions in the long run and also expand the questions.