It seems to me you are trying to force people into polarized extremes, i.e. "you are either for us or against us".

Wente is in fact a moderate who can see the fault in both extremes and refuses to "take sides" in a partisan manner. That means keeping a careful balance, and appreciating nuance. One can agree with some elements of fourth-wave feminism, and disagree with others. That's what critical thinking means, and Wente is a good example of it.