Feel free to ask my foster son. He was born with FAS, and other problems. He can't talk, move, eat, ect....but is aware of his surroundings and can smile and cry. We give him the love and comfort he needs. His parents live in a village and do not want to move closer to an area with the medical care he needs.  Even with the State offering to pay for visits, we have never met them. It is extremely rare that a healthy child is put up for foster care or adoption.