Kevin, (continued)
One last comment for today as I am meeting someone this afternoon. Do you believe that people like your example of Joe can be motivated to change by being asked the question what is more important to them: their relationship with God or the sexual relationship they are involved in that is not align with God's Will? (Similar to my question to Evelyn: What is more important to you, receiving Jesus in the Holy Eucharist or having sex with your boyfriend? (Which is the same.) Also, do you think good friends can talk honestly (especially when they too have been involved in the same sin of impurity) with people like Joe, ask him to pray the Rosary with them, invite him to daily Mass and to Adoration of the Most Blessed Sacrament (perhaps on the First Friday of the Month or when it is offered in his Parish)? I believe assisting Joe in this way, praying for him daily, will help encourage him to talk to his wife (to end the vicious cycle of sin) and make a genuine Confession!