if you need a safe space as an adult you are a child...if you are a child, I'll protect you, but I won't give your opinions any significance...that's the way the world actually works ...either you accept the role of an adult and sit at the adult table which is set out with real knives and forks or you sit with the kids with the plastic spoons and let the adults tell you when to go to bed....make a choice, I can live with either one.