I certainly can relate to your article.  My teaching career started out this way; but moved in the direction you are going.  What I looked for that helped reach my goal; was finding 1 or 2 things each seemed to show as a talent and virtue.  Working on pointing when they used them.  This provided for some self esteem that was missing in many students.  And gives them reason to put more trust in you than they would have previously.  Best of luck, on reaching your desired goal.