Since Jesus is portrayed as teaching that in the next life, we're all "like the angels in heaven" (Mt. 22:30), I think debates about sexuality should probably take place while we're still alive. Once someone is dead, the issue is rather moot. If you're scandalized by the crowd at a funeral, you don't get around much.
I think there's a need for an honest discussion of human sexuality that is neither defensive nor demeaning, but asks all the right questions about what it means to live as children of God and brothers/sisters to one another. Until we're willing to have that conversation, there will always be citrulli who try to substitute decrees and petitions for intellectual honesty. ("Citrulli" = "fools.")