On divorce, people know then getting divorced is just another way of being promiscuous. It is far different than divorcing someone who is hurting you and then hoping to love again. Concience hear pricks the person abandoned and the spouse who hurt the other, not the one who has no fault, whose requriement of conscience is to forgive (for their own sake). As for the Church, it can suggest. It cannot demand. And as we have seen, sometimes it suggests wrong.