D.D.,

You are touching on a serious issue in the church that, fortunately, seems to be fading as more who have the old "My views are correct so you have to agree with me" attitude to their graves. As that transition happens we increasingly need to embrace the challenges of being civil and recognizing that people have real issues where they are struggling to apply spiritual principles in their lives so they perhaps don't see things the same way that we do. Just as salvation is the product of our relationship with God, our relationships with each other in the community of the church should be continually drawing both us and others closer to God. Condemnation and argument drive people away from God where sympathy and nurture draw them closer.