Monica, your point gets to one of the key reasons I believe that "the scandal" needs to be seen in the greater context of ALL of these sexual scandals in the church.   There is something fundamentally flawed going on here.  I'll be the FIRST to state that in our society,  real human sexuality and dignity is heavily distorted through the movies, the general media, and especially the ad companies.  That said, probably the best way to counter that would seem to be a well trusted religion, that is filled with time tested wisdom: a wisdom that sees the whole picture, that is informed by those who live real life.   That position could have once been filled by the church. 

I too don't see a married priesthood as a panacea, though I DO think it would help.  My preference would be that the church find good married couples, and draw priests from that pool, rather than train them as priests and THEN let them marry.  As you seem to be saying, those in charge have a LOT to learn...