After 22 Comments -- Let us refocus on "despair"
Consider it as a spiritual affliction, and needs be treated as one would respond to a spiritual affliction.
To have the Cross of Jesus Christ you must have both the horizontal and the vertical... despair, then is when we disavow either/or  in the Cross of Resurrection. Despair is getting stuck in Friday... of isolating Friday from the Triduum!  It is a voluntary choice...  choose again my friends... Greater - than-ness. Not just the "whole is greater than the sum of the parts" stuff. That would be supersizing the horizontal. Greater-than-ness  that profound mystery of Wholely Human and Wholely Divine inseparable and beyond all dualism... The Incarnation of Jesus Christ, a Trinitarian Celebration.  No, there is no room for despair. Nor should we confuse denial with hope... Easter without Friday... Do not deny the profound love expressed in the Good of Good Friday. Pain hurts. Suffering is suffering. Love unconditional.