Wrong, I am saying it's a lifelong struggle to steer our will to the will of God.

A good struggle...the very struggle that God has called EACH of us to do, perfectly. 

That's not merit making...it's divine unity (and shhh..'intimacy') with God!!

And that this is what God calls each of us to do.  

And what is the will of God?

1 Thess 4:3 "This is the will of God, your holiness: that you refrain from immorality, that each of you know how to acquire a wife for himself in holiness and honor, not in lustful passion as do the Gentiles who do not know God; not to take advantage of or exploit a brother in this matter, for the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you before and solemnly affirmed. For God did not call us to impurity but to holiness."

Holiness.  

"be perfect as Your heavenly Father is perfect"

That's what I am saying. 

My point needs no further distortion from you.