Help me out here! It sounds like you are saying we shouldn't worry about even trying since in other countries their abuse is worse? Any kind of abuse is real abuse. We don't have to wait until a child is horsewhipped and kept in a cage while being raped before trying to do something. Abuse can be what the child is learning at home...for example, when parents argue and get violent, what is the child learning? That it is okay to get violent when arguing. Is this the kind of lessons you want a child to learn?