Your argument's contradictory, to say nothing of expressing utter ignorance of European colonial policies in the middle east/north Africa, past and present.  Contradictory because if it results from your imagined inherent 'flaw' in Arab peoples, they can hardly be held 'responsible' for something beyond their control.  In fact peoples struggling to survive understand responsibility in ways pampered "westerners" can't imagine.  And your willful ignorance of colonial history ignores that the Da'esh and their ilk were NOT our creations--they were imposed on us from without.  Just like Saddam, Shah Pah'lavi and their ilk.  And you overlook that the US stopped being a colony by violently overthrowing its occupiers; when we attempt this it's somehow  'irresponsible'--because you've transformed from being 'revolutionaries' to 'occupiers' yourselves.  The hideous state of things isn't everyone's fault except those running the puppet-show.  The 'blame the victims' fallacy fools only yourselves.