Outsider:  I suggest you really have no understanding of the impact of sexual abuse.  IMO, and from years working with victims/survivors, I feel it's one of the most damaging crimes imaginable.  Violence can be emotional as well as physical; "maiming" can be emotional as well as physical.  I'm very concerned by what appears to be your total lack of empathy for the victims of such crimes.  I simply can't understand it.  Additionally, IMO, your "Oh, poor you" statement is despicable and an insult to decency.  Gary Crum