May I add one more thing , I'm not trying to "air dirty laundry" especially out of respect for my children as she is their mother and always will be, I will not be a part of mud slinging , common knowledge is what it is with regards to all involved , and again kids impacted, I'm not trying to weasel out , if I did it I'll be the first to tell ya and will, if it comes to it I'm willing to express my side of events in a private forum, she may do as she pleases by all means,trying to solve issues not facilitate future ones..