Does she call you Mr. Crum? Does this respect go both ways? I generally don't call people Mr., Mrs., Miss, Ms, or Dr. And people don't call me Mr. I'm not dissing anybody and I certainly don't feel dissed.

Now Patty is not just bright and intellectually engaged, she's lovely and dignified! She has considerable intelligence and intellectual vigor! At least that's what you say. Her letters indicate dramatically otherwise. Maybe they were edited unfairly.