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 2. Intelligence. More specifically, she must be able to understand the difference between an attack on a person and an attack on an argument.

 3. Passion. I LOVE girls who are passionate about something real. As social as women can be, it’s very refreshing to see one who can lose herself in something she thinks is important, whatever the social consequences.

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 Speaking for myself:

 1. Looks. Sorry not sorry.

 2. Intelligence. More specifically, she must be able to understand the difference between an attack on a person and an attack on an argument.

 3. Passion. I LOVE girls who are passionate about something real. As social as women can be, it’s very refreshing to see one who can lose herself in something she thinks is important, whatever the social consequences.

 4. Playful intimacy. The most important reason why I would invest in a romantic relationship is the intimacy, both physical and mental. And the worst thing you could do to ruin intimacy is being awkward or judgmental about it. It’s a game. Play it smoothly, or don’t play it.

 5. Some ambition at least. A woman whose self-worth is completely dependent upon her social relationships (instead of intrinsic self-worth and achievement) bores me. It’s clingy. It’s ugly. Love yourself, and only then you can really love others without being dependent upon them.

 So you see why I’m the most single man in history. I’m right though, as miserable as I am.
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 Well. I am gay so I would rather date a guy but my response is still valid.

 I like a confident guy/girl. Even an average looking person can be very attractive when they are confident. I shows in how they dress, act and interact with others.

 Realize everyone has different tastes. Smart, confident, interesting, adventurous as in likes to do things outdoors and try new thing/activities and slightly edgy/confident (not arrogant) is very SEXY.

 Hot/Cute, boring and dumb personally is a turn off - outside of maybe a one nighter.
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 Either one but I choose smartness bc there much likely to be kind, and I’m not hating on pretty girls cause my gf is pretty but I’m saying most girls who are pretty aren’t so nice based on what I seen.
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 I'd get my head out of my ass, it's a largely interpersonal affair that should not be a matter of reputation, self-flattery or “sophistication”.

 Cleverness is not depreciated in friendship but beauty is oft just for looking. Preferably both though.
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 Honestly i would Prefer a girl with a good heart. That’s because the most beautiful people have a kind and generous spirit that radiates to those around them. We can’t resist someone who is consistently gentle, compassionate, and accepting.
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 Definitely.

 * They have standards. A smart woman will not put up with just any behaviour that often comes with dating. She knows what she wants.

 * They can be intimidating. Related to what is mentioned above, a smart woman who knows what she wants can be a scary creature. They can easily come off as hard to approach.

 * Sometimes, they need more than what most guys can give them. A smart woman needs and wants to be challenged, which she won't be with anyone.

 * They may be more ready for commitment. A smart woman is not interested in wasting her time, and may want a more solid and commited relationship than

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 Definitely.

 * They have standards. A smart woman will not put up with just any behaviour that often comes with dating. She knows what she wants.

 * They can be intimidating. Related to what is mentioned above, a smart woman who knows what she wants can be a scary creature. They can easily come off as hard to approach.

 * Sometimes, they need more than what most guys can give them. A smart woman needs and wants to be challenged, which she won't be with anyone.

 * They may be more ready for commitment. A smart woman is not interested in wasting her time, and may want a more solid and commited relationship than most of the guys she’ll meet.

 * They can be busy. A smart woman knows not to put all her eggs in one basket, meaning a guy won't always be prioritized as number one. There is carrer, family, friends, hobbies, etc.

 * They are careful. A smart woman won't give everything away too soon. She's careful of who she lets in, and sometimes, even a little too protective of her heart.

 Note: This goes both ways, of course. It doesn't just apply to females, but males as well.
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 Smart girls over pretty girls, anytime.

 Smart girls are way better than the pretty ones, they know how to participate and hold on to the conversation.

 If the girl is smart, then you’d be involved in conversing and knowing about each other.

 Whereas, if she’s a pretty one like Victoria Justice

 then your whole time would be lost in her beauty, and someone else might take her away.

 Be careful.

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 Smart girls over pretty girls, anytime.

 Smart girls are way better than the pretty ones, they know how to participate and hold on to the conversation.

 If the girl is smart, then you’d be involved in conversing and knowing about each other.

 Whereas, if she’s a pretty one like Victoria Justice

 then your whole time would be lost in her beauty, and someone else might take her away.

 Be careful.

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 A smart girl by far. In my book smart is sexy. You’ll never be bored with intelligent conversation. And finally smart girls are great between the sheets. (;
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 Dating highly intelligent women is mostly all advantage.

 But there are a few things that may be considered “downsides.”

 I’ve dated nothing but ladies with serious smarts. One became a tech millionaire, another was a space physicist, and so on.

 I’m not bragging. I just grew up in an environment filled with some of the smartest human beings on earth. So the girls and women around me were smart. Context is everything.

 I’ll talk about two. The techie and the physicist.

 First, the techie.

 When a truly brilliant woman is young, she may or may not be ambitious. My first major adult love was ambitious. Way
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 Dating highly intelligent women is mostly all advantage.

 But there are a few things that may be considered “downsides.”

 I’ve dated nothing but ladies with serious smarts. One became a tech millionaire, another was a space physicist, and so on.

 I’m not bragging. I just grew up in an environment filled with some of the smartest human beings on earth. So the girls and women around me were smart. Context is everything.

 I’ll talk about two. The techie and the physicist.

 First, the techie.

 When a truly brilliant woman is young, she may or may not be ambitious. My first major adult love was ambitious. Way more so than me.

 She was a bulldog.

 And when she was locked on, she was locked on.

 She was intense, and would crowd the entire world out to do her thing.

 She’d sit on the floor for hours with a piece of graph paper, cranking out calculous and engineering calculations.

 I knew she was in a state when she was performing a gesture very particular to her. I’ve never seen anyone else do it.

 She’d rapidly tap the tip of her thumb back and forth across the tips of her four other fingers. Back and forth, back and forth.

 I wonder if she still does it when she’s trying to focus?

 When I walked into the apartment and saw her doing that, I knew it was best not to even talk to her. She was in the zone.

 After a while, I was like, “What the fuck is this?”

 I was getting an English degree, and had no clue how the rest of my life would turn out.

 She was motivated, and it was clear she was going to be a hot property for the world of commerce and industry. I was ambivalent about that entire world. I was ambivalent about its goals.

 I am still ambivalent, frankly.

 When she pivoted to science and engineering, she was dismissive of any learning in the humanities.

 She couldn’t give a shit about art, literature, history, or philosophy. The things I was most interested in at the time.

 She was actually contemptuous of such interests, which I thought was super strange.

 Whatever didn’t fit into her mental worldview of what was necessary to the end goal was discarded as so much bullshit and time-wasting.

 You’d bring up an idea, or a book you read, or a movie you thought was interesting, and she’d look at you like you were a fucking bug.

 We were not matched well, in that sense.

 But she’s a game-changer and an “influencer,” so what can I say about it? She is one of those people who have a genuine, measurable, tangible impact. I’ve read Bertrand Russell’s History of Western Philosophy three times, and what the fuck has that ever done for anybody?

 I respected her drive, and was happy to let her keep doing her thing. But the intensity of her approach to studies I respected, yet had no genuine interest in, naturally drove a wedge between us.

 And to top it all off, she was still very much a “girly-girl.” She was into fashion, fine dining, self-care (manicures and facials).

 I didn’t really have the tools to deal with a woman as multifaceted as her.

 Especially a woman who was super intense about all her many facets. She was all woman when she wanted to be a woman. All engineer when she wanted to be an engineer. All striver when she wanted to live her ambition.

 A complex person is wonderful. You’ll never be bored. But having to match and cater to all those varieties of complexity can be challenging.

 A woman with serious drive will enjoy your laid-back attitude, and will find it refreshing. When you could literally care less about the high-stakes world she’s in (with tens of millions involved), she will consider you a refuge from the strategizing and the drama.

 But she will also be demanding.

 Her demands will be, “Look, dude. I’m owning this shit. So I’m going to tell you how the cow eats the cabbage. You need to be a good cook, a great lover, a good this, and a good that. You need to be the man who addresses my needs. Massages on a weekly basis.”

 She’s also in the wheelhouse with older men who have already become extremely wealthy and successful. They’re out in the world doing things (starting companies and 10x-ing their efficiency factor—hahaha! Oh, the tech world).

 And you’re a struggling college student getting a degree in the humanities. Even if that doesn’t make you personally insecure, it’s going to introduce insecurity into your relationship. And once that slips in the door, it easily spirals out of control.

 So all of a sudden, she’s leveraging you.

 She’s telling you, This is what I need, and if you can’t provide it, I will find someone who can.

 And it just doesn’t play out like that. She fell in love with you because you were half-assed and philosophical. And now you have to be Gordon Ramsey , M artha Stewart , and This Old House , all wrapped into one?

 So sorry. One person cannot be all these things.

 And the space physicist?

 Much more low-key, much more chill. She was intellectually-oriented, and was calm. She’d been a “nerd” her whole life. Her interests outside of space physics were in meditation retreats, skiing (at a very deliberate, in-control pace—no hot-dogging, believe me), and literature.

 She wasn’t out to “be somebody.” She wanted to be a scientist, solving problems and contributing to the wealth of human knowledge.

 It was great. I love being with someone who is about pushing the boundaries of knowledge and always learning something new.

 Development, evolution, and experience—I have to have them all in my life.

 But I’m a bit of a maniac. I like intensity, a little bit of chaos, a little bit of drama.

 When I talk and joke with someone, I like a little pushback. I fuck around with you, you fuck around with me. We all laugh, it’s all good.

 But scientists aren’t always like that. Sometimes they’re serious people.

 They’re even serious in their joviality.

 They don’t get any of the pop culture references you make (they weren’t allowed to watch TV growing up). They don’t always have the best sense of irony.

 So you make an off-color joke, and you can see their wheels spinning, trying to process the information and calculate their response. As if their retort to an off-hand comment, tossed off for a cheap laugh, needs to be well-balanced and discriminately measured.

 And you have to watch a whole lot of boring-ass documentaries and foreign films.

 Don’t get me wrong. I love a good documentary on climate change or milling your own rice. It’s no problem. And a foreign film with 10-minute long shots of moss collecting on a castle wall? Give it to me. I’ll play ball.

 But I have to cleanse my palate with a film like John Wick , which is fucking brilliant, but is really just the story of a man who is very good at shooting other men in the head.

 This is the type of woman who shakes her head at Mad Max: Fury Road .

 Scientific women mostly just don’t get it. They think they have to spend their time and cultural capital learning something “important.”

 Even a really well-done Pixar film, or binge-watching Game of Thrones , is “slumming it.”

 Come on, right?

 There’s a point where it becomes affectation more than genuine interest.

 And so I leave you, dear friends, with some disadvantages to dating exceptionally intelligent women.

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 Why choose between those options? I found one that was very smart, very cute, and also very hot and ended up marrying her. I’m still married to her 41 years later. It was single smartest thing I ever did.
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 Ok, I kept ditching her at parties until she went home with someone else and "cheated" on me. Then we broke up with no drama and I never had to tell her she was an idiot.
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 I might be a little biased, but as an Asana employee, I believe Asana is the best project management tool. With Asana, my entire team has a central source of truth so they know exactly who’s doing what by when. We can track all of our tasks and stay aligned on our team goals. This has been especially important recently, since it’s enabled our team to manage shifting priorities and take any new challenges in stride.
 Every team is different, so your team might not use Asana exactly like my team does. But every team can benefit from more clarity, coordination, and collaboration at work. Here are f
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 I might be a little biased, but as an Asana employee, I believe Asana is the best project management tool. With Asana, my entire team has a central source of truth so they know exactly who’s doing what by when. We can track all of our tasks and stay aligned on our team goals. This has been especially important recently, since it’s enabled our team to manage shifting priorities and take any new challenges in stride.
 Every team is different, so your team might not use Asana exactly like my team does. But every team can benefit from more clarity, coordination, and collaboration at work. Here are five reasons why Asana is the best project management tool for your team:
 1. Quickly get started and get organized
 Spend your time doing skilled work—not getting set up. With Asana’s CSV importer , you can import your current project data from whatever spreadsheet or system you have into Asana in minutes. Here’s a 1-minute video on how.
 Or, if you don’t have a process you currently use, you can also use one of Asana’s 50+ pre-built templates to jumpstart your work.
 2. Manage all of your work with flexible views
 In order for your project management tool to be your team’s central source of truth, it has to work for everyone. Individual contributors need to be able to dive into details, managers need to easily gauge team bandwidth and spot bottlenecks, and senior leaders need a high-level view of how projects are progressing.
 Every project in Asana has four views, so every member of your team can find what they need:
 * List View: A linear grid view that provides at-a-glance insight into who’s doing what by when.
 * Board View: A kanban board view so you can visualize each stage of work and manage agile teams.
 * Calendar View: A customizable calendar where you can see all tasks in a project and set and adjust due dates.
 * Timeline View: A Gantt-chart style view so you can see how work maps out over time, avoid overlap, and easily identify dependencies .
 3. Track and report on progress
 The average employee uses 10 different tools per day . The app switching is not only exhausting, but it also means information is scattered and difficult to find. Your team shouldn’t have to dig through 10 tools in order to find the information or context they need in order to be successful.
 With Asana, you have easy access to all the tracking and reporting features you need:
 * Status updates : Keep everyone informed on the progress of your work—without scheduling recurring follow-up meetings or digging through multiple tools for updates and information.
 * Advanced Search : Asana Advanced Search takes the parameters you remember and narrows the scope of your search results, so you can easily find exactly what you’re looking for.
 * Reporting : Save an Advanced Search as a report. The report will automatically refresh to provide the most up-to-date information every time you click into it.
 4. Communicate where you work
 Most teams have two totally different types of tools: content tools—like documents, spreadsheets, and team-specific software—and collaboration tools—like email, Slack, Microsoft Teams, and Zoom. But there’s a third must-have type of tool: coordination tools. Coordination tools like project management software connect all of your work. With a coordination tool like Asana, you have all of the context, feedback, and information you need—right where you’re working.
 When everyone is using Asana, all of your work is centralized in one place. That means you can get easy access to all tasks and projects for a full understanding of what’s going on. Instead of digging through an email chain, you can easily search, sort, and find the task you need. Share files, leave a comment, or send an update, all where work is being done.
 5. Automate the work you hate
 Today, 82% of workers report feeling burned out , largely because of the busywork associated with checking in on progress, adjusting due dates, and assigning tasks. There’s no reason those tasks should be done manually.
 Asana Rules help you automate the manual processes that get between you and your daily, high-impact work. Instead of worrying about the details, Rules can automatically assign work to the correct teammate, send stakeholders important notifications, shift due dates, and hand off work at the right time. That way, you have more time for strategic work.
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 There’s a sixth must-have feature to look for in a project management tool: your team should be able to try it for yourselves. Start your free 30-day trial to see how Asana helps teams organize and manage their projects, improve collaboration, work more efficiently, and hit their goals.
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 2. Intelligence. More specifically, she must be able to understand the difference between an attack on a person and an attack on an argument.
 3. Passion. I LOVE girls who are passionate about something real. As social as women can be, it’s very refreshing to see one who can lose herself in something she thinks is important, whatever the social consequences.
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 Speaking for myself:
 1. Looks. Sorry not sorry.
 2. Intelligence. More specifically, she must be able to understand the difference between an attack on a person and an attack on an argument.
 3. Passion. I LOVE girls who are passionate about something real. As social as women can be, it’s very refreshing to see one who can lose herself in something she thinks is important, whatever the social consequences.
 4. Playful intimacy. The most important reason why I would invest in a romantic relationship is the intimacy, both physical and mental. And the worst thing you could do to ruin intimacy is being awkward or judgmental about it. It’s a game. Play it smoothly, or don’t play it.
 5. Some ambition at least. A woman whose self-worth is completely dependent upon her social relationships (instead of intrinsic self-worth and achievement) bores me. It’s clingy. It’s ugly. Love yourself, and only then you can really love others without being dependent upon them.
 So you see why I’m the most single man in history. I’m right though, as miserable as I am.
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 Well. I am gay so I would rather date a guy but my response is still valid.
 I like a confident guy/girl. Even an average looking person can be very attractive when they are confident. I shows in how they dress, act and interact with others.
 Realize everyone has different tastes. Smart, confident, interesting, adventurous as in likes to do things outdoors and try new thing/activities and slightly edgy/confident (not arrogant) is very SEXY.
 Hot/Cute, boring and dumb personally is a turn off - outside of maybe a one nighter.
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 Did Harry inherit more than William?
 Yes and no. When the Queen mother died back in 2002 she left more money to Harry, knowing that William would eventually become Prince and inherit the Duchy of Cornwall, a private estate valued at over $1 billion.
 Which is exactly what happened when Queen Elizabeth passed away in 2022. So overall, Willian inherited quite a bit more than Harry.
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 Yes and no. When the Queen mother died back in 2002 she left more money to Harry, knowing that William would eventually become Prince and inherit the Duchy of Cornwall, a private estate valued at over $1 billion.
 Which is exactly what happened when Queen Elizabeth passed away in 2022. So overall, Willian inherited quite a bit more than Harry.
 But this $1 billion estate is nothing compared to the $10 billion that King Charles received tax free, thanks to a clever investment by the Queen into one of the world’s most exclusive asset classes … fine art.
 The Royal family has been investing a portion of their fortune into art for centuries …
 But the Royals are far from the only billionaires who have invested a significant chunk of their fortunes in this emerging asset class.
 Billionaires like David Geffen, Jeff Bezos, and Bill Gates are all avid art collectors.
 The recently-named “richest man in the world,” Berard Arnault, who is the CEO of luxury-goods conglomerate LVMH, has an extensive collection of art.
 Plus, there’s a long list of celebrities like Jay-Z, Oprah Winfrey, Steven Spielberg, Jack Nicholson, Madonna, and Ellen Degeneres who have invested millions into art.
 The only problem is, regular investors have always been locked out of this asset class because it usually takes millions of dollars to purchase just one iconic piece.
 Until now. Investing in art just got easier, thanks to a revolutionary new investment platform called Masterworks.
 Masterworks provides a simple, secure way for anyone to invest in shares of paintings from famous artists like Picasso, Banksy and Basquiat.
 Which is great, because contemporary art prices have outpaced the S&P 500 by 131% since 1995 … and real estate and gold by more than three to one over the same period.
 Even better, art acts as a great hedge during periods of high inflation and market volatility.
 Which is why Blackrock CEO, Larry Fink, who manages nearly $10 trillion in assets, recently called art “the new gold” because of its remarkable ability to “preserve wealth”
 These are just a few reasons why billionaires like Larry Fink, Jeff Bezos, and Oprah Winfrey are pouring hundreds of millions into this asset class.
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 Originally Answered: Would you rather date a smart girl or a pretty girl?
 Either one but I choose smartness bc there much likely to be kind, and I’m not hating on pretty girls cause my gf is pretty but I’m saying most girls who are pretty aren’t so nice based on what I seen.
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 I'd get my head out of my ass, it's a largely interpersonal affair that should not be a matter of reputation, self-flattery or “sophistication”.
 Cleverness is not depreciated in friendship but beauty is oft just for looking. Preferably both though.
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 What is the best way to keep energy levels high throughout the day?
 Just look at the legendary Chuck Norris’s advice since he is now a whopping 81 years old and yet has MORE energy than me. He found a key to healthy aging… and it was by doing the opposite of what most of people are told. Norris says he started learning about this revolutionary new method when he noticed most of the supplements he was taking did little or nothing to support his health. After extensive research, he discovered he could create dramatic changes to his health simply focusing on 3 things that sabotage our body as we age.
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 Just look at the legendary Chuck Norris’s advice since he is now a whopping 81 years old and yet has MORE energy than me. He found a key to healthy aging… and it was by doing the opposite of what most of people are told. Norris says he started learning about this revolutionary new method when he noticed most of the supplements he was taking did little or nothing to support his health. After extensive research, he discovered he could create dramatic changes to his health simply focusing on 3 things that sabotage our body as we age.
 “This is the key to healthy aging,” says Norris. “I’m living proof.”
 Now, Chuck Norris has put the entire method into a 15-minute video that explains the 3 “Internal Enemies” that can wreck our health as we age, and the simple ways to help combat them, using foods and herbs you may even have at home .
 I’ve included the Chuck Norris video here so you can give it a shot.
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 Honestly i would Prefer a girl with a good heart. That’s because the most beautiful people have a kind and generous spirit that radiates to those around them. We can’t resist someone who is consistently gentle, compassionate, and accepting.
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 Definitely.
 * They have standards. A smart woman will not put up with just any behaviour that often comes with dating. She knows what she wants.
 * They can be intimidating. Related to what is mentioned above, a smart woman who knows what she wants can be a scary creature. They can easily come off as hard to approach.
 * Sometimes, they need more than what most guys can give them. A smart woman needs and wants to be challenged, which she won't be with anyone.
 * They may be more ready for commitment. A smart woman is not interested in wasting her time, and may want a more solid and commited relationship than
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 Definitely.
 * They have standards. A smart woman will not put up with just any behaviour that often comes with dating. She knows what she wants.
 * They can be intimidating. Related to what is mentioned above, a smart woman who knows what she wants can be a scary creature. They can easily come off as hard to approach.
 * Sometimes, they need more than what most guys can give them. A smart woman needs and wants to be challenged, which she won't be with anyone.
 * They may be more ready for commitment. A smart woman is not interested in wasting her time, and may want a more solid and commited relationship than most of the guys she’ll meet.
 * They can be busy. A smart woman knows not to put all her eggs in one basket, meaning a guy won't always be prioritized as number one. There is carrer, family, friends, hobbies, etc.
 * They are careful. A smart woman won't give everything away too soon. She's careful of who she lets in, and sometimes, even a little too protective of her heart.
 Note: This goes both ways, of course. It doesn't just apply to females, but males as well.
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 A therapist can help you understand the roots of your anxiety and develop coping strategies so you’ll feel less anxious and be able to manage anxiety episodes more effectively. This might include helping you identify the underlying beliefs that lead to anxiety, or episodes from your past that result in anxiety today. Once you understand the sources of your anxiety and what triggers anxious episodes, your therapist will partner with you on strategies to reduce it. These might include journaling, breathing exercises, and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques such as thought stopping or reframing.
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 Smart girls over pretty girls, anytime.
 Smart girls are way better than the pretty ones, they know how to participate and hold on to the conversation.
 If the girl is smart, then you’d be involved in conversing and knowing about each other.
 Whereas, if she’s a pretty one like Victoria Justice
 then your whole time would be lost in her beauty, and someone else might take her away.
 Be careful.
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 Smart girls over pretty girls, anytime.
 Smart girls are way better than the pretty ones, they know how to participate and hold on to the conversation.
 If the girl is smart, then you’d be involved in conversing and knowing about each other.
 Whereas, if she’s a pretty one like Victoria Justice
 then your whole time would be lost in her beauty, and someone else might take her away.
 Be careful.
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 Chuck Costanza
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 A smart girl by far. In my book smart is sexy. You’ll never be bored with intelligent conversation. And finally smart girls are great between the sheets. (;
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 Dating highly intelligent women is mostly all advantage.
 But there are a few things that may be considered “downsides.”
 I’ve dated nothing but ladies with serious smarts. One became a tech millionaire, another was a space physicist, and so on.
 I’m not bragging. I just grew up in an environment filled with some of the smartest human beings on earth. So the girls and women around me were smart. Context is everything.
 I’ll talk about two. The techie and the physicist.
 First, the techie.
 When a truly brilliant woman is young, she may or may not be ambitious. My first major adult love was ambitious. Way
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 Dating highly intelligent women is mostly all advantage.
 But there are a few things that may be considered “downsides.”
 I’ve dated nothing but ladies with serious smarts. One became a tech millionaire, another was a space physicist, and so on.
 I’m not bragging. I just grew up in an environment filled with some of the smartest human beings on earth. So the girls and women around me were smart. Context is everything.
 I’ll talk about two. The techie and the physicist.
 First, the techie.
 When a truly brilliant woman is young, she may or may not be ambitious. My first major adult love was ambitious. Way more so than me.
 She was a bulldog.
 And when she was locked on, she was locked on.
 She was intense, and would crowd the entire world out to do her thing.
 She’d sit on the floor for hours with a piece of graph paper, cranking out calculous and engineering calculations.
 I knew she was in a state when she was performing a gesture very particular to her. I’ve never seen anyone else do it.
 She’d rapidly tap the tip of her thumb back and forth across the tips of her four other fingers. Back and forth, back and forth.
 I wonder if she still does it when she’s trying to focus?
 When I walked into the apartment and saw her doing that, I knew it was best not to even talk to her. She was in the zone.
 After a while, I was like, “What the fuck is this?”
 I was getting an English degree, and had no clue how the rest of my life would turn out.
 She was motivated, and it was clear she was going to be a hot property for the world of commerce and industry. I was ambivalent about that entire world. I was ambivalent about its goals.
 I am still ambivalent, frankly.
 When she pivoted to science and engineering, she was dismissive of any learning in the humanities.
 She couldn’t give a shit about art, literature, history, or philosophy. The things I was most interested in at the time.
 She was actually contemptuous of such interests, which I thought was super strange.
 Whatever didn’t fit into her mental worldview of what was necessary to the end goal was discarded as so much bullshit and time-wasting.
 You’d bring up an idea, or a book you read, or a movie you thought was interesting, and she’d look at you like you were a fucking bug.
 We were not matched well, in that sense.
 But she’s a game-changer and an “influencer,” so what can I say about it? She is one of those people who have a genuine, measurable, tangible impact. I’ve read Bertrand Russell’s History of Western Philosophy three times, and what the fuck has that ever done for anybody?
 I respected her drive, and was happy to let her keep doing her thing. But the intensity of her approach to studies I respected, yet had no genuine interest in, naturally drove a wedge between us.
 And to top it all off, she was still very much a “girly-girl.” She was into fashion, fine dining, self-care (manicures and facials).
 I didn’t really have the tools to deal with a woman as multifaceted as her.
 Especially a woman who was super intense about all her many facets. She was all woman when she wanted to be a woman. All engineer when she wanted to be an engineer. All striver when she wanted to live her ambition.
 A complex person is wonderful. You’ll never be bored. But having to match and cater to all those varieties of complexity can be challenging.
 A woman with serious drive will enjoy your laid-back attitude, and will find it refreshing. When you could literally care less about the high-stakes world she’s in (with tens of millions involved), she will consider you a refuge from the strategizing and the drama.
 But she will also be demanding.
 Her demands will be, “Look, dude. I’m owning this shit. So I’m going to tell you how the cow eats the cabbage. You need to be a good cook, a great lover, a good this, and a good that. You need to be the man who addresses my needs. Massages on a weekly basis.”
 She’s also in the wheelhouse with older men who have already become extremely wealthy and successful. They’re out in the world doing things (starting companies and 10x-ing their efficiency factor—hahaha! Oh, the tech world).
 And you’re a struggling college student getting a degree in the humanities. Even if that doesn’t make you personally insecure, it’s going to introduce insecurity into your relationship. And once that slips in the door, it easily spirals out of control.
 So all of a sudden, she’s leveraging you.
 She’s telling you, This is what I need, and if you can’t provide it, I will find someone who can.
 And it just doesn’t play out like that. She fell in love with you because you were half-assed and philosophical. And now you have to be Gordon Ramsey , M artha Stewart , and This Old House , all wrapped into one?
 So sorry. One person cannot be all these things.
 And the space physicist?
 Much more low-key, much more chill. She was intellectually-oriented, and was calm. She’d been a “nerd” her whole life. Her interests outside of space physics were in meditation retreats, skiing (at a very deliberate, in-control pace—no hot-dogging, believe me), and literature.
 She wasn’t out to “be somebody.” She wanted to be a scientist, solving problems and contributing to the wealth of human knowledge.
 It was great. I love being with someone who is about pushing the boundaries of knowledge and always learning something new.
 Development, evolution, and experience—I have to have them all in my life.
 But I’m a bit of a maniac. I like intensity, a little bit of chaos, a little bit of drama.
 When I talk and joke with someone, I like a little pushback. I fuck around with you, you fuck around with me. We all laugh, it’s all good.
 But scientists aren’t always like that. Sometimes they’re serious people.
 They’re even serious in their joviality.
 They don’t get any of the pop culture references you make (they weren’t allowed to watch TV growing up). They don’t always have the best sense of irony.
 So you make an off-color joke, and you can see their wheels spinning, trying to process the information and calculate their response. As if their retort to an off-hand comment, tossed off for a cheap laugh, needs to be well-balanced and discriminately measured.
 And you have to watch a whole lot of boring-ass documentaries and foreign films.
 Don’t get me wrong. I love a good documentary on climate change or milling your own rice. It’s no problem. And a foreign film with 10-minute long shots of moss collecting on a castle wall? Give it to me. I’ll play ball.
 But I have to cleanse my palate with a film like John Wick , which is fucking brilliant, but is really just the story of a man who is very good at shooting other men in the head.
 This is the type of woman who shakes her head at Mad Max: Fury Road .
 Scientific women mostly just don’t get it. They think they have to spend their time and cultural capital learning something “important.”
 Even a really well-done Pixar film, or binge-watching Game of Thrones , is “slumming it.”
 Come on, right?
 There’s a point where it becomes affectation more than genuine interest.
 And so I leave you, dear friends, with some disadvantages to dating exceptionally intelligent women.
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 Why choose between those options? I found one that was very smart, very cute, and also very hot and ended up marrying her. I’m still married to her 41 years later. It was single smartest thing I ever did.
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 Yes. I once dated a dumb but cute girl. After I realized how dumb she was, I tried to overlook it by concentrating on how cute she was. But eventually I was too embarrassed to be seen in public with her (because she'd inevitably start talking), and ditched her at a party. Or a few parties.
 Ok, I kept ditching her at parties until she went home with someone else and "cheated" on me. Then we broke up with no drama and I never had to tell her she was an idiot.
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Sarah
<div><div>
<h2><strong>Have you ever wondered how to date intelligent women?</strong></h2>
<p>I got an email from an Introverted Alpha reader the other day asking me exactly that. If you’re like him, you’re not intimidated by independent, successful women. You love them, and you’d love to know how to date intelligent women with ease.</p>
<p>Doing that successfully is simply a matter of <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/approach-a-woman/">approaching</a> them with a bit of inside knowledge and savviness I’m going to share with you today.</p>
<p>To preface, let’s check out what my reader wrote to me and see if you can relate:</p>
<h3><strong>Reader Subject Line: How to date intelligent women</strong></h3>
<blockquote><p><em>Hello Sarah,</em></p>
<p><em>I am a big fan of your blog and </em><a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/ebook"><em>ebook</em></a><em>. It is refreshing to have advice written more specific to my personality. It is also refreshing to see advice that isn’t loaded with cliches. I started trying to actively date this past year and your advice does help… </em></p>
<p><em>One question that I have is if you could write a blog post about dating intelligent women?</em></p>
<p><em>Every time I look up ‘dating intelligent women’ on google, I get tons of results that talk about how smart women will never marry and scare men away. None of the pages I find give me any real clues to dating intelligent girls. I don’t find them intimidating; I find them incredibly attractive.</em></p>
<p><em>Do you have any advice for finding and dating these rare jewels?</em></p></blockquote>
<p>Great question and well-written.</p>
<p><strong>If you find female intelligence as alluring as he does, the following four steps are for you. </strong></p>
<h2><strong>Step 1: Find Intelligent Women</strong></h2>
<p><strong>Great news:</strong> A lot of men are intimidated when trying to date smart women, but you already have an edge when it comes to attracting and dating women who are intelligent. Your edge is that <em>you</em> are intelligent. Excellent!</p>
<p>This makes it much easier to know where to find highly intelligent women as well. Just ask yourself where you are already intellectually stimulated.</p>
<p>I had to report for jury duty last week, and I sat beside a charming man reading a book on quantum biology (<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Life-Edge-Coming-Quantum-Biology/dp/0307986829/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&amp;keywords=life+on+the+edge&amp;qid=1615998348&amp;sr=8-1">“Life on the Edge” by Johnjoe McFadden</a>, which I later found on Amazon). I pointed it out and said it looked interesting. We had an exciting conversation about recent leaps in science, cosmology, and more.</p>
<p>Turns out he’s reading that book because he’s taking a class at a community college. During his undergrad, he was so focused on his love of history that he didn’t pay science much attention. Now he’s delving into the subject with passion, just for fun!</p>
<p>I found this zeal for learning an attractive quality. It also made for intriguing conversation.</p>
<h3>If you enjoy learning new things, you can meet more women through that.</h3>
<p>When you immerse yourself in a class as he did, you are not only likely to meet attractive and intelligent women in the class itself…</p>
<p>You will also attract women out-and-about, just by reading your books or commenting on books she’s reading.</p>
<h3>Another way to find intelligent women is through friends.</h3>
<p>The great thing about meeting women through friends is they are likely to be harmonious with your particular style and angle on intelligence.</p>
<p>At Introverted Alpha, when we are first getting to know a new client and listening to what he is looking for in a woman, we find that every man has his own definition of intelligence.</p>
<p>Each man has a variation on what about intelligence is important to him, for example,</p>
<ul>
<li>street smarts</li>
<li>quirky intelligence</li>
<li>gracious and empathetic wisdom</li>
<li>cultural openness and curiosity</li>
</ul>
<p>… and more. So much variety!</p>
<h3>There are many exciting variations on intelligence.</h3>
<p><strong>It’s a pleasure to discover and develop your own. </strong></p>
<p>Immersing yourself in classes, events, and friendships that naturally pique your intellectual interest is a great way to meet more intelligent women that suit you nicely, while becoming a better man yourself.</p>
<p>For more of our favorite venues for introverted men to meet quality women, <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/meet-women-introverted-man/">check out this post</a>.</p>
<p>Once you’re doing that, there are three more important steps that go into developing a genuine emotional connection with intelligent women. You can use these hand-in-hand with each other for maximum success and fun.</p>
<p>One of the following few steps without the others won’t be nearly as strong. Especially #2 without any #3 or #4 will not allow you to attract women naturally, so let’s be sure to use all of them. Onto Step 2.</p>
<h2><strong>Step 2: Appeal to Her Intellect</strong></h2>
<p>Smart women are refreshing. They don’t fall for the mindless tricks that are often taught in pickup. This is a win-win because using tricks goes against your very nature!</p>
<p>So, perfect.</p>
<p>You don’t have to, and you’re certainly not the only person who doesn’t want to pretend like someone he’s not just to succeed in the dating scene. <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/ebook">(More on that here.)</a></p>
<p><strong>Rather, you can bond with a woman through intellect.</strong></p>
<p>As you carry on an interesting and thoughtful conversation together, focus on appreciating her style of intelligence as it reflects her way of seeing the world. It’s stimulating to build synergy in conversation with someone, whether man or woman, platonic or romantic.</p>
<p>In learning how to date intelligent women, understand that this kind of stimulation is especially important. When you’re really hitting it off, that’s a great sign!</p>
<p><strong>Intellectual stimulation alone isn’t enough to develop sexual attraction, of course, but it does help set the stage for and enhance it.</strong></p>
<h3>As you’re in the flow of a deep conversation, stay with that.</h3>
<p>Enjoy how it feels to connect as human beings, and allow the conversation to open up new avenues to explore.</p>
<p><strong>Let it where it wants to go.</strong></p>
<p>If you really get into a topic like the latest in string theory, supernovas, or the exotic spices of India, that’s great! No need to be shy if you’re geeking out on something together.</p>
<p>At the same time, if you naturally feel like moving to a lighter topic, feel free.</p>
<p>No need to be rigid one way or the other, and certainly no need to push yourself to be witty or clever. By being intelligent and in tune with her, that’s more than enough to keep things flowing.</p>
<p>Stay tuned into the feel of the conversation and the environment around you (is it getting cold outside, has her drink run dry, are you both comfortable). Keep things flowing by staying engaged and flexible.</p>
<p>We break down the skill of engaging conversation in our in-depth guide <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/conversation-topics-introverted-men/">here</a>. These principles apply whether you’re first meeting a woman, on a first date with her, or keeping your long-term relationship engaging and intimate.</p>
<h2><strong>Step 3: Have a Strong and Open Stance.</strong></h2>
<p>The other day, one of our lovely IA Coaches was helping a client with his <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/online-dating-introverted-men/">online dating profile pictures</a>. <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/virtual-virtuoso/">You can discover much more about this here.</a></p>
<p>There was one photo in particular that could have been okay, but he was holding his hands limply and awkwardly in front of him. He didn’t know what to do with his hands, and it showed, which and decreased the attractiveness of the photo.</p>
<p>He sent it back to her after having cropped it to where his hands were no longer visible. We felt like we were looking at a whole new photo. It was quite attractive!</p>
<h3>Pay attention to how you’re holding your body.</h3>
<p>Keep your hands either strongly folded, open and relaxed, holding something (like a drink), or in your pockets (so much better than fidgeting).</p>
<p><strong>Another way you can maintain an open and strong body stance is by moving slowly and deliberately, as if through water. </strong></p>
<p>A past mentor of mine taught me this back when I was first getting started coaching different types of men, helping them find their own version of success in the dating scene.</p>
<p>It has been helpful for many men to visualize being in water. You can read more about my take on it <a href="https://gobeyonddating.com/11460/the-only-way-to-inspire-her-surrender/">here</a>.</p>
<p>It’s key in knowing how to date intelligent women. Reason being, a lot of women have a strong sense of self, so of course they’re looking for that in smart guys as well.</p>
<h2><strong>Step 4: Don’t Forget Proximity and Touch.</strong></h2>
<p>Intelligent women love to get a sense of your mind <em>and</em> how her body feels around yours, so as you develop a connection with someone, don’t forget to be close enough to touch!</p>
<p><strong>Women respond to proximity and touch as intensely as men respond to visual looks.</strong></p>
<p>It’s a physiological fact of attraction, so when you are keeping your distance from her, it’s the equivalent of her wearing a sackcloth and showing up un-showered. Not good.</p>
<p><a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/how-to-know-if-she-wants-you-to-make-a-move">When you do incorporate closeness while reading her,</a> it’s the equivalent of her looking beautiful and radiant. <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/ftfk-join/">You can discover much more about this here.</a></p>
<p>Here’s how to touch her in a friendly way to gauge her interest before moving into flirtatious touch:</p>
<h3>Step 1: Proximity</h3>
<p>First, be in close proximity to her and see how she responds. If she’s drawing back from you, by all means quickly reciprocate by giving her space. But if she’s warming to you, then move to the next step…</p>
<h3>Step 2: Touch</h3>
<p>When either you or she is making a point in a conversation, when you’re bonding over something or sharing a laugh, lean in and touch her on the hand, arm, or knee.</p>
<p>At these moments, the rapport between you is high, and touch takes it to a new level. You can easily move to flirtatious touch by lingering for a moment.</p>
<h2><strong>The Takeaway for Dating Intelligent Women:</strong></h2>
<p>Follow these four steps on how to date intelligent women with ease:</p>
<ol>
<li>Find a smart woman.</li>
<li>Appeal to her intellect.</li>
<li>Have a strong and open stance.</li>
<li>Don’t forget proximity and touch.</li>
</ol>
<p>Now that you know these tips, you’re well on your way knowing how to date intelligent women so easily that you can even give a tip or two to your buddies.</p>
<h3>Here are more resources on how to date smart women:</h3>
<ul>
<li>Find your best spots for meeting women <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/meet-women-introverted-man/">here</a>.</li>
<li>Build your conversation skills <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/conversation-topics-introverted-men/">here</a>.</li>
<li>Learn how to approach women in a way that feel natural <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/approach-a-woman/">here</a>.</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Also, if you want more support on how to date an intelligent woman, learn how we can guide you <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/dating-coach-introverted-men-program/">here</a>. </strong></p>
<p>And finally, if you want the ebook that has helped thousands of smart men turn the common idea of dating on its head by finding their own unique charm instead of feeling pressure to mimic someone else’s,<strong> <a href="https://introvertedalpha.com/ebook">get my ebook here, for free.</a></strong></p>
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 How To Date Intelligent Women

 * By Sarah from IA
 * Last Updated December 15, 2021

 Have you ever wondered how to date intelligent women?

 I got an email from an Introverted Alpha reader the other day asking me exactly that. If you’re like him, you’re not intimidated by independent, successful women. You love them, and you’d love to know how to date intelligent women with ease.

 Doing that successfully is simply a matter of approaching them with a bit of inside knowledge and savviness I’m going to share with you today.

 To preface, let’s check out what my reader wrote to me and see if you can relate:

 Reader Subject Line: How to date intelligent women

 Hello Sarah,

 I am a big fan of your blog and ebook. It is refreshing to have advice written more specific to my personality. It is also refreshing to see advice that isn’t loaded with cliches. I started trying to actively date this past year and your advice does help…

 One question that I have is if you could write a blog post about dating intelligent women?

 Every time I look up ‘dating intelligent women’ on google, I get tons of results that talk about how smart women will never marry and scare men away. None of the pages I find give me any real clues to dating intelligent girls. I don’t find them intimidating; I find them incredibly attractive.

 Do you have any advice for finding and dating these rare jewels?

 Great question and well-written.

 If you find female intelligence as alluring as he does, the following four steps are for you.

 Step 1: Find Intelligent Women

 Great news: A lot of men are intimidated when trying to date smart women, but you already have an edge when it comes to attracting and dating women who are intelligent. Your edge is that you are intelligent. Excellent!

 This makes it much easier to know where to find highly intelligent women as well. Just ask yourself where you are already intellectually stimulated.

 I had to report for jury duty last week, and I sat beside a charming man reading a book on quantum biology (“Life on the Edge” by Johnjoe McFadden, which I later found on Amazon). I pointed it out and said it looked interesting. We had an exciting conversation about recent leaps in science, cosmology, and more.

 Turns out he’s reading that book because he’s taking a class at a community college. During his undergrad, he was so focused on his love of history that he didn’t pay science much attention. Now he’s delving into the subject with passion, just for fun!

 I found this zeal for learning an attractive quality. It also made for intriguing conversation.

 If you enjoy learning new things, you can meet more women through that.

 When you immerse yourself in a class as he did, you are not only likely to meet attractive and intelligent women in the class itself…

 You will also attract women out-and-about, just by reading your books or commenting on books she’s reading.

 Another way to find intelligent women is through friends.

 The great thing about meeting women through friends is they are likely to be harmonious with your particular style and angle on intelligence.

 At Introverted Alpha, when we are first getting to know a new client and listening to what he is looking for in a woman, we find that every man has his own definition of intelligence.

 Each man has a variation on what about intelligence is important to him, for example,

 * street smarts
 * quirky intelligence
 * gracious and empathetic wisdom
 * cultural openness and curiosity

 … and more. So much variety!

 There are many exciting variations on intelligence.

 It’s a pleasure to discover and develop your own.

 Immersing yourself in classes, events, and friendships that naturally pique your intellectual interest is a great way to meet more intelligent women that suit you nicely, while becoming a better man yourself.

 For more of our favorite venues for introverted men to meet quality women, check out this post.

 Once you’re doing that, there are three more important steps that go into developing a genuine emotional connection with intelligent women. You can use these hand-in-hand with each other for maximum success and fun.

 One of the following few steps without the others won’t be nearly as strong. Especially #2 without any #3 or #4 will not allow you to attract women naturally, so let’s be sure to use all of them. Onto Step 2.

 Step 2: Appeal to Her Intellect

 Smart women are refreshing. They don’t fall for the mindless tricks that are often taught in pickup. This is a win-win because using tricks goes against your very nature!

 So, perfect.

 You don’t have to, and you’re certainly not the only person who doesn’t want to pretend like someone he’s not just to succeed in the dating scene. (More on that here.)

 Rather, you can bond with a woman through intellect.

 As you carry on an interesting and thoughtful conversation together, focus on appreciating her style of intelligence as it reflects her way of seeing the world. It’s stimulating to build synergy in conversation with someone, whether man or woman, platonic or romantic.

 In learning how to date intelligent women, understand that this kind of stimulation is especially important. When you’re really hitting it off, that’s a great sign!

 Intellectual stimulation alone isn’t enough to develop sexual attraction, of course, but it does help set the stage for and enhance it.

 As you’re in the flow of a deep conversation, stay with that.

 Enjoy how it feels to connect as human beings, and allow the conversation to open up new avenues to explore.

 Let it where it wants to go.

 If you really get into a topic like the latest in string theory, supernovas, or the exotic spices of India, that’s great! No need to be shy if you’re geeking out on something together.

 At the same time, if you naturally feel like moving to a lighter topic, feel free.

 No need to be rigid one way or the other, and certainly no need to push yourself to be witty or clever. By being intelligent and in tune with her, that’s more than enough to keep things flowing.

 Stay tuned into the feel of the conversation and the environment around you (is it getting cold outside, has her drink run dry, are you both comfortable). Keep things flowing by staying engaged and flexible.

 We break down the skill of engaging conversation in our in-depth guide here. These principles apply whether you’re first meeting a woman, on a first date with her, or keeping your long-term relationship engaging and intimate.

 Step 3: Have a Strong and Open Stance.

 The other day, one of our lovely IA Coaches was helping a client with his online dating profile pictures. You can discover much more about this here.

 There was one photo in particular that could have been okay, but he was holding his hands limply and awkwardly in front of him. He didn’t know what to do with his hands, and it showed, which and decreased the attractiveness of the photo.

 He sent it back to her after having cropped it to where his hands were no longer visible. We felt like we were looking at a whole new photo. It was quite attractive!

 Pay attention to how you’re holding your body.

 Keep your hands either strongly folded, open and relaxed, holding something (like a drink), or in your pockets (so much better than fidgeting).

 Another way you can maintain an open and strong body stance is by moving slowly and deliberately, as if through water.

 A past mentor of mine taught me this back when I was first getting started coaching different types of men, helping them find their own version of success in the dating scene.

 It has been helpful for many men to visualize being in water. You can read more about my take on it here.

 It’s key in knowing how to date intelligent women. Reason being, a lot of women have a strong sense of self, so of course they’re looking for that in smart guys as well.

 Step 4: Don’t Forget Proximity and Touch.

 Intelligent women love to get a sense of your mind and how her body feels around yours, so as you develop a connection with someone, don’t forget to be close enough to touch!

 Women respond to proximity and touch as intensely as men respond to visual looks.

 It’s a physiological fact of attraction, so when you are keeping your distance from her, it’s the equivalent of her wearing a sackcloth and showing up un-showered. Not good.

 When you do incorporate closeness while reading her, it’s the equivalent of her looking beautiful and radiant. You can discover much more about this here.

 Here’s how to touch her in a friendly way to gauge her interest before moving into flirtatious touch:

 Step 1: Proximity

 First, be in close proximity to her and see how she responds. If she’s drawing back from you, by all means quickly reciprocate by giving her space. But if she’s warming to you, then move to the next step…

 Step 2: Touch

 When either you or she is making a point in a conversation, when you’re bonding over something or sharing a laugh, lean in and touch her on the hand, arm, or knee.

 At these moments, the rapport between you is high, and touch takes it to a new level. You can easily move to flirtatious touch by lingering for a moment.

 The Takeaway for Dating Intelligent Women:

 Follow these four steps on how to date intelligent women with ease:

 1. Find a smart woman.
 2. Appeal to her intellect.
 3. Have a strong and open stance.
 4. Don’t forget proximity and touch.

 Now that you know these tips, you’re well on your way knowing how to date intelligent women so easily that you can even give a tip or two to your buddies.

 Here are more resources on how to date smart women:

 * Find your best spots for meeting women here.
 * Build your conversation skills here.
 * Learn how to approach women in a way that feel natural here.

 Also, if you want more support on how to date an intelligent woman, learn how we can guide you here.

 And finally, if you want the ebook that has helped thousands of smart men turn the common idea of dating on its head by finding their own unique charm instead of feeling pressure to mimic someone else’s, get my ebook here, for free.

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Have you ever wondered how to date intelligent women? 
I got an email from an Introverted Alpha reader the other day asking me exactly that. If you’re like him, you’re not intimidated by independent, successful women. You love them, and you’d love to know how to date intelligent women with ease.
Doing that successfully is simply a matter of approaching them with a bit of inside knowledge and savviness I’m going to share with you today.
To preface, let’s check out what my reader wrote to me and see if you can relate:
 Reader Subject Line: How to date intelligent women 
  Hello Sarah, 
 I am a big fan of your blog and   ebook  . It is refreshing to have advice written more specific to my personality. It is also refreshing to see advice that isn’t loaded with cliches. I started trying to actively date this past year and your advice does help…  
 One question that I have is if you could write a blog post about dating intelligent women? 
 Every time I look up ‘dating intelligent women’ on google, I get tons of results that talk about how smart women will never marry and scare men away. None of the pages I find give me any real clues to dating intelligent girls. I don’t find them intimidating; I find them incredibly attractive. 
 Do you have any advice for finding and dating these rare jewels?  
Great question and well-written.
 If you find female intelligence as alluring as he does, the following four steps are for you.  
 Step 1: Find Intelligent Women 
 Great news: A lot of men are intimidated when trying to date smart women, but you already have an edge when it comes to attracting and dating women who are intelligent. Your edge is that you are intelligent. Excellent!
This makes it much easier to know where to find highly intelligent women as well. Just ask yourself where you are already intellectually stimulated.
I had to report for jury duty last week, and I sat beside a charming man reading a book on quantum biology (“Life on the Edge” by Johnjoe McFadden, which I later found on Amazon). I pointed it out and said it looked interesting. We had an exciting conversation about recent leaps in science, cosmology, and more.
Turns out he’s reading that book because he’s taking a class at a community college. During his undergrad, he was so focused on his love of history that he didn’t pay science much attention. Now he’s delving into the subject with passion, just for fun!
I found this zeal for learning an attractive quality. It also made for intriguing conversation.
If you enjoy learning new things, you can meet more women through that.
When you immerse yourself in a class as he did, you are not only likely to meet attractive and intelligent women in the class itself…
You will also attract women out-and-about, just by reading your books or commenting on books she’s reading.
Another way to find intelligent women is through friends.
The great thing about meeting women through friends is they are likely to be harmonious with your particular style and angle on intelligence.
At Introverted Alpha, when we are first getting to know a new client and listening to what he is looking for in a woman, we find that every man has his own definition of intelligence.
Each man has a variation on what about intelligence is important to him, for example,
street smarts
quirky intelligence
gracious and empathetic wisdom
cultural openness and curiosity
… and more. So much variety!
There are many exciting variations on intelligence.
 It’s a pleasure to discover and develop your own.  
Immersing yourself in classes, events, and friendships that naturally pique your intellectual interest is a great way to meet more intelligent women that suit you nicely, while becoming a better man yourself.
For more of our favorite venues for introverted men to meet quality women, check out this post.
Once you’re doing that, there are three more important steps that go into developing a genuine emotional connection with intelligent women. You can use these hand-in-hand with each other for maximum success and fun.
One of the following few steps without the others won’t be nearly as strong. Especially #2 without any #3 or #4 will not allow you to attract women naturally, so let’s be sure to use all of them. Onto Step 2.
 Step 2: Appeal to Her Intellect 
Smart women are refreshing. They don’t fall for the mindless tricks that are often taught in pickup. This is a win-win because using tricks goes against your very nature!
So, perfect.
You don’t have to, and you’re certainly not the only person who doesn’t want to pretend like someone he’s not just to succeed in the dating scene. (More on that here.) 
 Rather, you can bond with a woman through intellect. 
As you carry on an interesting and thoughtful conversation together, focus on appreciating her style of intelligence as it reflects her way of seeing the world. It’s stimulating to build synergy in conversation with someone, whether man or woman, platonic or romantic.
In learning how to date intelligent women, understand that this kind of stimulation is especially important. When you’re really hitting it off, that’s a great sign!
 Intellectual stimulation alone isn’t enough to develop sexual attraction, of course, but it does help set the stage for and enhance it. 
As you’re in the flow of a deep conversation, stay with that.
Enjoy how it feels to connect as human beings, and allow the conversation to open up new avenues to explore.
 Let it where it wants to go. 
If you really get into a topic like the latest in string theory, supernovas, or the exotic spices of India, that’s great! No need to be shy if you’re geeking out on something together.
At the same time, if you naturally feel like moving to a lighter topic, feel free.
No need to be rigid one way or the other, and certainly no need to push yourself to be witty or clever. By being intelligent and in tune with her, that’s more than enough to keep things flowing.
Stay tuned into the feel of the conversation and the environment around you (is it getting cold outside, has her drink run dry, are you both comfortable). Keep things flowing by staying engaged and flexible.
We break down the skill of engaging conversation in our in-depth guide here. These principles apply whether you’re first meeting a woman, on a first date with her, or keeping your long-term relationship engaging and intimate.
 Step 3: Have a Strong and Open Stance. 
The other day, one of our lovely IA Coaches was helping a client with his online dating profile pictures. You can discover much more about this here. 
There was one photo in particular that could have been okay, but he was holding his hands limply and awkwardly in front of him. He didn’t know what to do with his hands, and it showed, which and decreased the attractiveness of the photo.
He sent it back to her after having cropped it to where his hands were no longer visible. We felt like we were looking at a whole new photo. It was quite attractive!
Pay attention to how you’re holding your body.
Keep your hands either strongly folded, open and relaxed, holding something (like a drink), or in your pockets (so much better than fidgeting).
 Another way you can maintain an open and strong body stance is by moving slowly and deliberately, as if through water.  
A past mentor of mine taught me this back when I was first getting started coaching different types of men, helping them find their own version of success in the dating scene.
It has been helpful for many men to visualize being in water. You can read more about my take on it here.
It’s key in knowing how to date intelligent women. Reason being, a lot of women have a strong sense of self, so of course they’re looking for that in smart guys as well.
 Step 4: Don’t Forget Proximity and Touch. 
Intelligent women love to get a sense of your mind and how her body feels around yours, so as you develop a connection with someone, don’t forget to be close enough to touch!
 Women respond to proximity and touch as intensely as men respond to visual looks. 
It’s a physiological fact of attraction, so when you are keeping your distance from her, it’s the equivalent of her wearing a sackcloth and showing up un-showered. Not good.
 When you do incorporate closeness while reading her, it’s the equivalent of her looking beautiful and radiant. You can discover much more about this here. 
Here’s how to touch her in a friendly way to gauge her interest before moving into flirtatious touch:
Step 1: Proximity
First, be in close proximity to her and see how she responds. If she’s drawing back from you, by all means quickly reciprocate by giving her space. But if she’s warming to you, then move to the next step…
Step 2: Touch
When either you or she is making a point in a conversation, when you’re bonding over something or sharing a laugh, lean in and touch her on the hand, arm, or knee.
At these moments, the rapport between you is high, and touch takes it to a new level. You can easily move to flirtatious touch by lingering for a moment.
 The Takeaway for Dating Intelligent Women: 
Follow these four steps on how to date intelligent women with ease:
Find a smart woman.
Appeal to her intellect.
Have a strong and open stance.
Don’t forget proximity and touch.
Now that you know these tips, you’re well on your way knowing how to date intelligent women so easily that you can even give a tip or two to your buddies.
Here are more resources on how to date smart women:
Find your best spots for meeting women here.
Build your conversation skills here.
Learn how to approach women in a way that feel natural here.
 Also, if you want more support on how to date an intelligent woman, learn how we can guide you here.  
And finally, if you want the ebook that has helped thousands of smart men turn the common idea of dating on its head by finding their own unique charm instead of feeling pressure to mimic someone else’s, get my ebook here, for free.
How To Date Intelligent Women
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<p>Flirting with a smart girl offers some unique and exciting challenges. As an intelligent woman, she'll likely be up for witty banter, thought-provoking conversations, and even some playful debates. It can be a little difficult to know how to approach someone who's super smart, though. Try to remember that she's just a person, too, with her own insecurities and doubts in the dating sphere. Read on for some more tips on how to flirt with a smart girl while remaining confident in yourself.
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<p> If she's the all-star scholar-athlete at your school, ask her about her favorite subjects to study. Bring up things related to her passions in conversation and really take an interest in her unique perspective on them.<sup><a href="#_note-1">[1]</a>
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<li>Maybe the girl you have your eye on is super into chess. Ask her how she got started playing or if she's ever gotten into movies or TV shows about the game. You can even be playful and ask her to teach you!</li>
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<p> If you're in a conversation and can't help but marvel at how her mind works, tell her. Be specific about what you like, such as the open-minded ideas she has about the world or her impeccable choice of words when she speaks her mind.<sup><a href="#_note-3">[3]</a>
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<li>Maybe you're on a date at the local art museum. If you walk by a particularly abstract painting, say something like, "I'm not sure how I feel about this one. What do you think it symbolizes?"</li>
<li>Be flirty throughout the conversation by smiling, making eye contact, and even teasing her a little to establish a rapport. If she's clearly winning the debate, try, "Okay, you've got me. I can't keep up with you!"</li>
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<li>Avoid making any offensive jokes, as this can really turn her off and make her uncomfortable. Be respectful and lead with kindness when it comes to being funny.</li>
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 Flirting with a smart girl offers some unique and exciting challenges. As an intelligent woman, she'll likely be up for witty banter, thought-provoking conversations, and even some playful debates. It can be a little difficult to know how to approach someone who's super smart, though. Try to remember that she's just a person, too, with her own insecurities and doubts in the dating sphere. Read on for some more tips on how to flirt with a smart girl while remaining confident in yourself.

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 Talk to her about her interests.

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 1. A smart girl likely has a lot of things she's passionate about. If she's the all-star scholar-athlete at your school, ask her about her favorite subjects to study. Bring up things related to her passions in conversation and really take an interest in her unique perspective on them.[1]
 Your attention will help you stand out among others who might not be as attentive.[2]
 + Maybe the girl you have your eye on is super into chess. Ask her how she got started playing or if she's ever gotten into movies or TV shows about the game. You can even be playful and ask her to teach you!
 + Text her if you notice something that reminds you of her. Maybe she's a total expert when it comes to film. Text something like, "I just saw an ad for the latest Sofia Coppola movie! You think you'll watch it?"
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 Compliment her intelligence.

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 1. Smart women like to know that you're attracted to their brains. If you're in a conversation and can't help but marvel at how her mind works, tell her. Be specific about what you like, such as the open-minded ideas she has about the world or her impeccable choice of words when she speaks her mind.[3]
 + Say something like, "Wow, I never thought about it that way. You've got such an amazing perspective on things."
 + Avoid framing your compliment like you're surprised by her intelligence. This might turn her off or offend her.
 3

 Indulge in intellectual discussions.

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 1. A benefit to liking a smart girl is all the stimulating conversations. She'll likely be more comfortable and even excited by the opportunity to talk about things like literature, art, philosophy, and politics. Be playful in the conversation by making it a friendly debate.[4]
 A smart girl won't be intimidated by another point of view and may even welcome the opportunity to learn about a different perspective.[5]
 + Maybe you're on a date at the local art museum. If you walk by a particularly abstract painting, say something like, "I'm not sure how I feel about this one. What do you think it symbolizes?"
 + Be flirty throughout the conversation by smiling, making eye contact, and even teasing her a little to establish a rapport. If she's clearly winning the debate, try, "Okay, you've got me. I can't keep up with you!"
 + If you're debating over text, send a bull's eye emoji if she hits a really good point.[6]
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 Play up your sense of humor.

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 1. A smart girl will have the quick wit to play along. Use observational humor, like funny things you notice going on wherever you're hanging out. Make witty remarks about the classes you have together or a book you both had to read for school.[7]
 You can also let GIFS, memes, and YouTube clips do the work for you. Text her a hilarious YouTube clip that you think she would find funny or send her a silly GIF from a TV show you both like.[8]
 + Avoid making any offensive jokes, as this can really turn her off and make her uncomfortable. Be respectful and lead with kindness when it comes to being funny.
 + Be wary of sarcasm when you're first getting to know her. Even the smartest of people can have a difficult time determining if you're being serious or not, especially over text.
 5

 Send her flirty texts.

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 1. Not all of your attention has to be related to her intelligence! A smart girl, like any person who's crushing on someone, will appreciate some flirtatious texts. Text her a funny meme that reminded you of her. Send her a friendly "Good morning" text to let her know that she's on your mind. Throw in an emoji every now and then to make things more playful, like a smiley face or a heart if you're feeling bold.[9]
 + If you hung out the night before, text her something like, "Hey you! I had such a good time last night. Thanks again :)"
 + Maybe she was out for the day and you didn't see her at school. Text her, "Missed you in class today! School is so boring without you."
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 Focus on your similarities.

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 1. Establish common ground to build a connection. If she's really knowledgeable about something you don't know about, it can be tempting to think that you don't have much in common. Pay attention to your common interests instead so that you don't count yourself out before you even try.[10]
 + Maybe she's more knowledgeable about 19th-century literature, but you both love reading. Discuss what you both love about books, and why you're drawn to the genres that you both respectively enjoy.
 7

 Be confident in your own intelligence.

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 1. Avoid trying to show off to impress her. A smart girl is just a person after all, and she's likely got things she's nervous about, too. Try your best to be comfortable with who you are. Remind yourself of your own unique intelligence and strengths. Try to remember these qualities anytime you get worried that you can't compete with her smarts.[11]
 + Maybe you're incredibly knowledgeable when it comes to music history or action movies. Perhaps you're a talented artist or a super-skilled athlete. Own these qualities instead of pretending to be someone else.
 + Everyone's got their own unique strengths. Maybe she likes the fact that you're a little more laid back or could benefit from your easygoing nature when it comes to things like school and academic competition.
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 Avoid being too obvious.

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 1. A smart girl will really appreciate some mystery instead. That way, it won't be so easy to figure you out. Be a little more subtle, like flirting through a quick smile and some eye contact, or 1 genuine compliment as opposed to 5. You want to leave her wanting more with each interaction, and an intelligent woman will likely be up for the challenge to get to know you better.[12]
 + Be genuine and tailor your compliments and flirty jokes to her specifically. A smart woman will probably be able to tell if you're using a pick-up line.
 + Nonverbal signals like making eye contact and smiling will let her know that you like her while still maintaining an air of mystery.
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 2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/flirting
 3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/flirting
 4. ↑ Cher Gopman. Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.
 5. ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/date-intellectual-equal-boyfriend-smarter
 6. ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/19/magazine/how-to-use-emojis.html
 7. ↑ Cher Gopman. Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.
 8. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/slightly-blighty/201509/the-psychology-why-being-funny-when-flirting-is-vital
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 If she's the all-star scholar-athlete at your school, ask her about her favorite subjects to study. Bring up things related to her passions in conversation and really take an interest in her unique perspective on them. [1]
 Your attention will help you stand out among others who might not be as attentive. [2]
  
Maybe the girl you have your eye on is super into chess. Ask her how she got started playing or if she's ever gotten into movies or TV shows about the game. You can even be playful and ask her to teach you!
Text her if you notice something that reminds you of her. Maybe she's a total expert when it comes to film. Text something like, "I just saw an ad for the latest Sofia Coppola movie! You think you'll watch it?"
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Say something like, "Wow, I never thought about it that way. You've got such an amazing perspective on things."
Avoid framing your compliment like you're surprised by her intelligence. This might turn her off or offend her.
 
    
  
 She'll likely be more comfortable and even excited by the opportunity to talk about things like literature, art, philosophy, and politics. Be playful in the conversation by making it a friendly debate. [4]
 A smart girl won't be intimidated by another point of view and may even welcome the opportunity to learn about a different perspective. [5]
  
Maybe you're on a date at the local art museum. If you walk by a particularly abstract painting, say something like, "I'm not sure how I feel about this one. What do you think it symbolizes?"
Be flirty throughout the conversation by smiling, making eye contact, and even teasing her a little to establish a rapport. If she's clearly winning the debate, try, "Okay, you've got me. I can't keep up with you!"
If you're debating over text, send a bull's eye emoji if she hits a really good point. [6]
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Avoid making any offensive jokes, as this can really turn her off and make her uncomfortable. Be respectful and lead with kindness when it comes to being funny.
Be wary of sarcasm when you're first getting to know her. Even the smartest of people can have a difficult time determining if you're being serious or not, especially over text.
 
    
  
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If you hung out the night before, text her something like, "Hey you! I had such a good time last night. Thanks again :)"
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Maybe you're incredibly knowledgeable when it comes to music history or action movies. Perhaps you're a talented artist or a super-skilled athlete. Own these qualities instead of pretending to be someone else.
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Be genuine and tailor your compliments and flirty jokes to her specifically. A smart woman will probably be able to tell if you're using a pick-up line.
Nonverbal signals like making eye contact and smiling will let her know that you like her while still maintaining an air of mystery.
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 <p>​​In the real world, love can be hard to find, so daters are increasingly turning to the digital world instead.</p>
 
 
 <p>Whether singles over 50 are looking for a long-term relationship, someone to travel with or just good conversation, connecting using apps and websites can expand the dating pool and make meeting people easier. But the way daters represent themselves online makes a big difference in who responds and how.​</p>
 
 
 
<p>For many older adults, the pandemic and social distancing boosted the use of digital dating. Data tracker Apptopia reported that there were 1.2 million more people using <a href="/home-family/personal-technology/info-2021/online-dating-apps.html">the top 50 dating apps</a> in 2021 than a year earlier, before the pandemic. That group includes many older adults. Roughly a third of U.S. adults age 55-plus have used an online dating site or app, according to a recent survey by the Pew Research Center. Furthermore, two-thirds of them had a relationship with someone they met through the platform, according to a 2021 survey by Choice Mutual, an insurance company.​</p>
 
 
 <p>But dating when you’re over 50 is far different from dating when you’re 20. Taking the time to create an engaging online dating profile that contains a well-crafted bio with appealing photographs and maybe a video or audio message may encourage people to swipe right.​</p>
 
 
 <p>Your profile is vital, says San Francisco Bay Area dating and relationship coach Maya Diamond, because it says who you are and what kind of relationship you want. “When you’re creating that in a thoughtful and intentional way, it can really help you find the right partner,” she adds.​</p>
 
 
 
<p>As always, use caution when interacting with others online. Don’t share personal data or financial information with others online and keep an eye out for red flags that could indicate the person’s profile is fake (see video below). Educate yourself about <a href="/money/scams-fraud/info-2019/romance.html">romance scams</a> and how to avoid them.</p>
 
 
 <h3><b>Tips for writing an online dating profile</b>​</h3>
 
 
 <p>Most online dating profiles require you to use your real name and where you live, but nearly all other information is up to you.​</p>
 
 
 
<p>One basic rule is to be yourself, online dating experts say. “Don’t write what you think people want to hear; write about what matters to you,” says Sophie Watson, spokeswoman for SilverSingles, a dating site exclusively for people age 50-plus. “If you have a quirky <a href="/work/small-business/hobby-business/">hobby</a> or get delighted by something silly, make a reference to it. Chances are there’s someone out there who will share your passion.”​</p>
 
 
 <p>Avoid negativity in your profile, recommend experts. Focus on what you want in a partner and a relationship, not what you don’t want. Instead of saying you’re not interested in smokers, for instance, say you’re seeking an active, nature-loving person.​</p>
 
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<li>Add personality by weaving your interests and sense of humor through your profile.​</li>
<li>Keep it short.</li>
<li>Adopt a friendly, conversational tone.​</li>
<li>If a dating site or app lets you create a username or headline, make sure it reflects an interest or passion, such as “Global Trekker.”​</li>
<li>Photos of people being active and with pets do well.​</li>
<li>Avoid selfies, but if you must include one, use a selfie stick for better quality.​</li>
<li>Scour your profile for any grammatical or spelling mistakes. Have a couple of family members or trustworthy friends read it before you post it.​</li>
<li>Look at other people’s profiles for inspiration.​</li>
<li>Add a video message or audio greeting for extra depth and zing.​<br />
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 <p>Nelson was generally pleased with the results, getting “more in-depth responses and messages than I might have expected,” she says. “I think it’s because I took such care with the profile.”​</p>
 
 
 <h3><b>Dating profiles should reflect your personality</b>​</h3>
 
 
 <p>The bio section should include enough information to reveal who you are, but keep it on the shorter side, so it’s not overwhelming. Think quality over quantity. “You want to create some level of intrigue and curiosity,” Diamond says.​</p>
 
 
 <p>Nelson adapted OkCupid’s profile template for several other dating sites and apps, such as Bumble, Match and Zoosk, and regularly altered the profiles to shorten them or make them easier to read.</p>
 
 
 <p>In answer to the prompt “On a Friday night, you’ll find me doing ...,” for example, she reduced her answers from six to three.​</p>
 
 
 <p>Your profile isn’t a <a href="/work/job-search/resume-design-update/">résumé</a>, so you don’t need to list all of your degrees and jobs. Instead, include your preferences, like you’d rather walk on the beach than hike in the mountains. Keep the tone conversational and friendly.​</p>
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 <p>Not only can writing about your hobbies help you connect with others who enjoy similar activities, SilverSingles’ studies show that profiles mentioning hobbies like cooking, dancing and gardening get more messages.​</p>
 
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 <p>You don’t need professional photographs, but images should be attractive and poses should be natural and relaxed, online dating experts say. Don’t forget to smile.​</p>
 
 
 <p>Make your lead profile image a solo shot. Other photos can include a mix of headshots, full-body images, and group and activity shots. If you say you like to cycle, include a photo of you biking. Avoid old photos that no longer resemble you and images of you wearing sunglasses or anything that obscures your face.</p>
 
 
 <p>Do not use selfies — especially if they’re taken in a car, in a bathroom mirror or in bed. Selfies are typically poor quality unless they’re done with a selfie stick.</p>
 
 
 
<p>And if you have a pet you love, include it in a photo. SilverSingles’ studies show that including a <a href="/home-family/your-home/info-2022/pet-ownership-and-cognition.html">cat or dog</a> in profile photos catches the attention of other members.​</p>
 
 
 <h3><b>Embrace new dating profile features</b>​</h3>
 
 
 <p>Virtual dating, video messages and audio greetings emerged during the pandemic, when people weren’t meeting in person, but they’re sticking around as options for easing into dating. For example, eHarmony offers video dating, Grindr provides video chat and OurTime has audio greetings. ​</p>
 
 
 
<p>These are opportunities to talk about yourself in ways not available in other parts of your profile, such as what your interests are and what you seek in a partner. Suggest what you’d like to do on a first date. Be creative. Active dates and experiences, such as picnics, bowling or <a href="/travel/vacation-ideas/outdoors/info-2020/national-park-hiking-trails.html">hiking</a>, are hot.​</p>
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 ​​In the real world, love can be hard to find, so daters are increasingly turning to the digital world instead.

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 For many older adults, the pandemic and social distancing boosted the use of digital dating. Data tracker Apptopia reported that there were 1.2 million more people using the top 50 dating apps in 2021 than a year earlier, before the pandemic. That group includes many older adults. Roughly a third of U.S. adults age 55-plus have used an online dating site or app, according to a recent survey by the Pew Research Center. Furthermore, two-thirds of them had a relationship with someone they met through the platform, according to a 2021 survey by Choice Mutual, an insurance company.​

 But dating when you’re over 50 is far different from dating when you’re 20. Taking the time to create an engaging online dating profile that contains a well-crafted bio with appealing photographs and maybe a video or audio message may encourage people to swipe right.​

 Your profile is vital, says San Francisco Bay Area dating and relationship coach Maya Diamond, because it says who you are and what kind of relationship you want. “When you’re creating that in a thoughtful and intentional way, it can really help you find the right partner,” she adds.​

 As always, use caution when interacting with others online. Don’t share personal data or financial information with others online and keep an eye out for red flags that could indicate the person’s profile is fake (see video below). Educate yourself about romance scams and how to avoid them.

 Tips for writing an online dating profile​

 Most online dating profiles require you to use your real name and where you live, but nearly all other information is up to you.​

 One basic rule is to be yourself, online dating experts say. “Don’t write what you think people want to hear; write about what matters to you,” says Sophie Watson, spokeswoman for SilverSingles, a dating site exclusively for people age 50-plus. “If you have a quirky hobby or get delighted by something silly, make a reference to it. Chances are there’s someone out there who will share your passion.”​

 Avoid negativity in your profile, recommend experts. Focus on what you want in a partner and a relationship, not what you don’t want. Instead of saying you’re not interested in smokers, for instance, say you’re seeking an active, nature-loving person.​

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 1. Think first. Make lists to clarify what you want to say before you start writing.
 2. Add personality by weaving your interests and sense of humor through your profile.​
 3. Keep it short.
 4. Adopt a friendly, conversational tone.​
 5. If a dating site or app lets you create a username or headline, make sure it reflects an interest or passion, such as “Global Trekker.”​
 6. Photos of people being active and with pets do well.​
 7. Avoid selfies, but if you must include one, use a selfie stick for better quality.​
 8. Scour your profile for any grammatical or spelling mistakes. Have a couple of family members or trustworthy friends read it before you post it.​
 9. Look at other people’s profiles for inspiration.​
 10. Add a video message or audio greeting for extra depth and zing.​
 11. Write your profile when you feel happy, which may be reflected in the content.​

 Rebecca Nelson, 67, began online dating several years ago after moving to Nashville, Tennessee. The retiree spent upwards of a week creating the perfect profile for several dating sites and apps, repeating key words and phrases like “active” and “adventuresome” and “seeks an emotionally intelligent and well-grounded partner” to increase her match chances.​

 Nelson was generally pleased with the results, getting “more in-depth responses and messages than I might have expected,” she says. “I think it’s because I took such care with the profile.”​

 Dating profiles should reflect your personality​

 The bio section should include enough information to reveal who you are, but keep it on the shorter side, so it’s not overwhelming. Think quality over quantity. “You want to create some level of intrigue and curiosity,” Diamond says.​

 Nelson adapted OkCupid’s profile template for several other dating sites and apps, such as Bumble, Match and Zoosk, and regularly altered the profiles to shorten them or make them easier to read.

 In answer to the prompt “On a Friday night, you’ll find me doing ...,” for example, she reduced her answers from six to three.​

 Your profile isn’t a résumé, so you don’t need to list all of your degrees and jobs. Instead, include your preferences, like you’d rather walk on the beach than hike in the mountains. Keep the tone conversational and friendly.​

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 Limit the selfies and include current images​

 Include photos in your profile, because they’re what people see first. Photos also are more likely to draw responses and start conversations by prompting someone to ask where an image was shot. In fact, eHarmony says people with four or more photos receive the most inquiries from matches.​

 You don’t need professional photographs, but images should be attractive and poses should be natural and relaxed, online dating experts say. Don’t forget to smile.​

 Make your lead profile image a solo shot. Other photos can include a mix of headshots, full-body images, and group and activity shots. If you say you like to cycle, include a photo of you biking. Avoid old photos that no longer resemble you and images of you wearing sunglasses or anything that obscures your face.

 Do not use selfies — especially if they’re taken in a car, in a bathroom mirror or in bed. Selfies are typically poor quality unless they’re done with a selfie stick.

 And if you have a pet you love, include it in a photo. SilverSingles’ studies show that including a cat or dog in profile photos catches the attention of other members.​

 Embrace new dating profile features​

 Virtual dating, video messages and audio greetings emerged during the pandemic, when people weren’t meeting in person, but they’re sticking around as options for easing into dating. For example, eHarmony offers video dating, Grindr provides video chat and OurTime has audio greetings. ​

 These are opportunities to talk about yourself in ways not available in other parts of your profile, such as what your interests are and what you seek in a partner. Suggest what you’d like to do on a first date. Be creative. Active dates and experiences, such as picnics, bowling or hiking, are hot.​

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 February 10, 2023
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 ​​In the real world, love can be hard to find, so daters are increasingly turning to the digital world instead.
 
 
 Whether singles over 50 are looking for a long-term relationship, someone to travel with or just good conversation, connecting using apps and websites can expand the dating pool and make meeting people easier. But the way daters represent themselves online makes a big difference in who responds and how.​
 
 
 
For many older adults, the pandemic and social distancing boosted the use of digital dating. Data tracker Apptopia reported that there were 1.2 million more people using the top 50 dating apps in 2021 than a year earlier, before the pandemic. That group includes many older adults. Roughly a third of U.S. adults age 55-plus have used an online dating site or app, according to a recent survey by the Pew Research Center. Furthermore, two-thirds of them had a relationship with someone they met through the platform, according to a 2021 survey by Choice Mutual, an insurance company.​
 
 
 But dating when you’re over 50 is far different from dating when you’re 20. Taking the time to create an engaging online dating profile that contains a well-crafted bio with appealing photographs and maybe a video or audio message may encourage people to swipe right.​
 
 
 Your profile is vital, says San Francisco Bay Area dating and relationship coach Maya Diamond, because it says who you are and what kind of relationship you want. “When you’re creating that in a thoughtful and intentional way, it can really help you find the right partner,” she adds.​
 
 
 
As always, use caution when interacting with others online. Don’t share personal data or financial information with others online and keep an eye out for red flags that could indicate the person’s profile is fake (see video below). Educate yourself about romance scams and how to avoid them.
 
 
  Tips for writing an online dating profile​
 
 
 Most online dating profiles require you to use your real name and where you live, but nearly all other information is up to you.​
 
 
 
One basic rule is to be yourself, online dating experts say. “Don’t write what you think people want to hear; write about what matters to you,” says Sophie Watson, spokeswoman for SilverSingles, a dating site exclusively for people age 50-plus. “If you have a quirky hobby or get delighted by something silly, make a reference to it. Chances are there’s someone out there who will share your passion.”​
 
 
 Avoid negativity in your profile, recommend experts. Focus on what you want in a partner and a relationship, not what you don’t want. Instead of saying you’re not interested in smokers, for instance, say you’re seeking an active, nature-loving person.​
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
	
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
  Create a Winning Dating Profile 
Think first. Make lists to clarify what you want to say before you start writing.
Add personality by weaving your interests and sense of humor through your profile.​
Keep it short.
Adopt a friendly, conversational tone.​
If a dating site or app lets you create a username or headline, make sure it reflects an interest or passion, such as “Global Trekker.”​
Photos of people being active and with pets do well.​
Avoid selfies, but if you must include one, use a selfie stick for better quality.​
Scour your profile for any grammatical or spelling mistakes. Have a couple of family members or trustworthy friends read it before you post it.​
Look at other people’s profiles for inspiration.​
Add a video message or audio greeting for extra depth and zing.​
Write your profile when you feel happy, which may be reflected in the content.​
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 Rebecca Nelson, 67, began online dating several years ago after moving to Nashville, Tennessee. The retiree spent upwards of a week creating the perfect profile for several dating sites and apps, repeating key words and phrases like “active” and “adventuresome” and “seeks an emotionally intelligent and well-grounded partner” to increase her match chances.​
 
 
 Nelson was generally pleased with the results, getting “more in-depth responses and messages than I might have expected,” she says. “I think it’s because I took such care with the profile.”​
 
 
  Dating profiles should reflect your personality​
 
 
 The bio section should include enough information to reveal who you are, but keep it on the shorter side, so it’s not overwhelming. Think quality over quantity. “You want to create some level of intrigue and curiosity,” Diamond says.​
 
 
 Nelson adapted OkCupid’s profile template for several other dating sites and apps, such as Bumble, Match and Zoosk, and regularly altered the profiles to shorten them or make them easier to read.
 
 
 In answer to the prompt “On a Friday night, you’ll find me doing ...,” for example, she reduced her answers from six to three.​
 
 
 Your profile isn’t a résumé, so you don’t need to list all of your degrees and jobs. Instead, include your preferences, like you’d rather walk on the beach than hike in the mountains. Keep the tone conversational and friendly.​
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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 “You’re not going into business with your date — you’re looking for someone to enjoy life with,” Watson says.
 
 
 Not only can writing about your hobbies help you connect with others who enjoy similar activities, SilverSingles’ studies show that profiles mentioning hobbies like cooking, dancing and gardening get more messages.​
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
  Limit the selfies and include current images​
 
 
 Include photos in your profile, because they’re what people see first. Photos also are more likely to draw responses and start conversations by prompting someone to ask where an image was shot. In fact, eHarmony says people with four or more photos receive the most inquiries from matches.​
 
 
 You don’t need professional photographs, but images should be attractive and poses should be natural and relaxed, online dating experts say. Don’t forget to smile.​
 
 
 Make your lead profile image a solo shot. Other photos can include a mix of headshots, full-body images, and group and activity shots. If you say you like to cycle, include a photo of you biking. Avoid old photos that no longer resemble you and images of you wearing sunglasses or anything that obscures your face.
 
 
 Do not use selfies — especially if they’re taken in a car, in a bathroom mirror or in bed. Selfies are typically poor quality unless they’re done with a selfie stick.
 
 
 
And if you have a pet you love, include it in a photo. SilverSingles’ studies show that including a cat or dog in profile photos catches the attention of other members.​
 
 
  Embrace new dating profile features​
 
 
 Virtual dating, video messages and audio greetings emerged during the pandemic, when people weren’t meeting in person, but they’re sticking around as options for easing into dating. For example, eHarmony offers video dating, Grindr provides video chat and OurTime has audio greetings. ​
 
 
 
These are opportunities to talk about yourself in ways not available in other parts of your profile, such as what your interests are and what you seek in a partner. Suggest what you’d like to do on a first date. Be creative. Active dates and experiences, such as picnics, bowling or hiking, are hot.​
 
 
	
 
 
	
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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  Editor's note: This article was originally published on January 26, 2022. It has been updated to reflect new information. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
	
  Sheryl Jean is a contributing writer who covers aging, business, technology, travel, health and human-interest stories. A former reporter for several daily metropolitan newspapers, her work also has appeared in the Chicago Tribune and The Dallas Morning News and on the American Heart Association’s website. 
 
 
 
 
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13 Short Dating Profile Examples (That Work On Any App!)
2018-02-18
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<p>Since you're looking for short dating profile examples, you've probably realized short definitely doesn’t = easier.</p>
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<p>Highlight a few attractive traits, build up some intrigue and attraction, make her want to swipe right or return your message… that’s a tall order for a small character count.</p>
<p>But if you want to meet the best matches in your area, that’s exactly what your profile needs to accomplish.</p>
<p><strong>These 13 short online dating profile examples will make you irresistible, and you can find one to use on any app or site!</strong></p>
<p>But before you get started... </p>
<h3>Steal This Dating Profile Tip From Pro Profile Writers!</h3>
<p>Jot down a list of hobbies you have, especially those you'd like to share with your ideal partner. </p>
<p>Also write down the traits you possess that your perfect match is probably looking for in a man, and a few thoughts about what you love about your job.</p>
<p>For example, your profile writing cheat sheet may look like this:</p>
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<p>If you're not sure how to make a dating profile, having that information visible in front of you makes the profile writing process a bit easier. You can use it to customize one of these good profile examples!</p>
<p>Specific details make your profile seem more genuine, and that's important. A recent study revealed <a href="https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/under-pressure-new-study-finds-84-of-singles-want-more-authenticity-in-dating-think-photo-filters-should-be-banned-300919228.html">84% of online daters</a> want to see more authenticity.</p>
<p>Dr. Cortney Warren, a clinical psychologist <a href="https://www.marketwatch.com/press-release/under-pressure-new-study-finds-84-of-singles-want-more-authenticity-in-dating-think-photo-filters-should-be-banned-2019-09-17?mod=mw_quote_news">who offered commentary on the results</a>, said the majority of singles want honest, straight-forward information in profiles.</p>
<blockquote><p>One of the most important findings in the study is that singles are not interested in seeing an idealized depiction of potential partners through edited photos and unrealistic positive self-descriptors. The truth is, singles want more honest, authentic depictions of others and themselves on dating apps. <a></a>A more realistic portrayal of each individual will not only be refreshing, but also lead to more meaningful connections.</p></blockquote>
<h2>Super Short Dating Profile Examples</h2>
<p>On some apps like <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/the-league-dating-app-review">The League</a>, your dating profile bio has a 190-character limit. That means you’ve got a couple sentences <i>max</i> to make a good impression, which is crucial if you want a shot at meeting a potential match in person.</p>
<h3>Super Short Profile Example #1:</h3>
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<p>You don’t have enough space to tell, so you need to <i>show</i> why you’re a good catch. (Professional generally take this approach with an online dating profile of any length, by the way, since it makes your profile <a href="http://ebm.bmj.com/content/early/2015/02/09/ebmed-2014-110101.full">more attractive</a> to daters.)</p>
<h3>Super Short Profile Example #2:</h3>
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<p>Pick a few traits that illustrate to a potential partner why you’re a good catch, and roll with those. </p>
<h3>Super Short Profile Example #3:</h3>
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<p>Occupation = financial stability</p>
<p>Active hobby = physically fit and adventurous</p>
<p>Travel = good times together… get the picture?</p>
<h3>Super Short Profile Example #4:</h3>
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<p>Emoji are a great space-saving option when you're trying to express a lot of ideas in a short amount of space. </p>
<p>Just don't use so many that it gets conceptually hard to follow. A few emoji go a long way.</p>
<h3>Choose Words Women Connect With </h3>
<p>Women resonate with some words more than others in a dating profile. </p>
<p>For instance, <a href="https://www.wired.com/2014/02/how-to-create-good-online-dating-profile/">Wired magazine</a> found these were the <strong>7 most attractive active hobbies for guys</strong>:</p>
<ol><li>Surfing</li><li>Yoga</li><li>Skiing</li><li>Golf</li><li>Biking</li><li>Hiking</li><li>Running</li></ol>
<p>If you’re a vegetarian or a vegan, mention it - on Elite Singles, you'll get up to <a href="https://www.vegworldmag.com/news/study-shows-being-vegan-boosts-popularity-when-online-dating">73% more messages than the average user</a>. No reason to think it wouldn't work the same way on any other dating app...</p>
<p>And, as it turns out, <a href="http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice/online-dating-site-zoosk-reveals-how-women-really-feel-about-nice-guys.html">nice guys</a> are back in fashion. Using these “power” words in your online dating profile get you more messages:</p>
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<p>Remember, the shorter your dating profile is, the more impact each word has. You need to make yourself sound like an intriguing person, not like every other guy out there:</p>
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<p><a></a>Most dating app profiles display your first name. Don’t waste valuable real estate repeating it in your bio.</p>
<h2>300 Character Or Less Online Dating Profile Examples</h2>
<p>On <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/coffee-meets-bagel-review-what-you-need-to-know">CoffeeMeetsBagel</a>, your profile is a little longer - but 276 characters max still isn’t much real estate. </p>
<p>Make every word count with a profile like...</p>
<h3>Short Dating Profile Example #5:</h3>
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<p>This bio hits a lot of high notes in a small amount of space, which makes it perfect for an app like <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/bumble-guide">Bumble</a>.</p>
<h3>Short Dating Profile Example #6:</h3>
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<p>And you could use a profile like this for the “Self Summary” section of sites like <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/okcupid-profile-tips">OkCupid</a> or <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/elite-singles-reviews/">Elite Singles</a>...</p>
<h3>Short Dating Profile Example #7:</h3>
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<p>You can also get creative in your dating app profile, as long as you make sure the humor lands. </p>
<h3> Short Dating Profile Example #8:</h3>
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<p>Here's another funny short bio you can use for inspiration.</p>
<h3>Short Dating Profile Example #9:</h3>
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<p><strong>When you’re choosing a profile style, keep these 3 factors in mind:</strong></p>
<ol><li>Your age</li><li>The age of your “ideal partner”</li><li>What type of relationship you’re seeking</li></ol>
<p>A woman in her 20s who’s looking for a more casual relationship will likely respond better to the type of humor in the last online dating profile example than a woman in her late 30s looking for something serious would.</p>
<p>On the other hand, if you’re a 35+ guy looking for a serious relationship, choose a profile like the second example. </p>
<p>The more down-to-earth approach will attract women who are looking for an established, successful man. You want your profile to attract the right person, so it's worth being strategic about what tone you choose.</p>
<p>If you want to use one of these examples for a section of a longer online dating profile on a dating site like <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/okcupid-guide/">OkCupid</a>, simply move the call-to-action to the end of your profile. </p>
<p>That’s the line at the very end that tells her what to do next, i.e. message you or swipe right. </p>
<h3>Short Dating Profile Example #10:</h3>
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<p>Asking a question, like in the examples above, is also a good CTA. </p>
<p>It takes all the pressure off her to decide what to say in her first message to you  - all she needs to do is simply answer the question, and you can take it from there. </p>
<p>Try it on an app like Bumble, where a man can't initiate the conversation with a woman.</p>
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<h3><b><a></a>Bonus Expert Dating Profile Tips:</b></h3>
<p>A good online dating profile should make you look and sound like a great catch, but bragging about yourself isn’t hot. Instead, let another source do it for you. This technique is called “<a href="http://tandfonline.com/doi/pdf/10.1080/03637751.2016.1198041">high warranting/low self-representation</a>”, and it’s the most attractive way to approach dating profile writing.</p>
<p>For instance, rather than writing that you’re an awesome photographer,<a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/how-to-link-and-disconnect-tinder-from-instagram"> link your Instagram to Tinder</a> or Bumble so she can draw that conclusion on her own.</p>
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<h2>500 Character Or Less Dating Profile Examples</h2>
<p>This character limit is perfect for apps like <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/tinder-profile-tips-for-men">Tinder</a>, or on a dating site like <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/match-25">Match.com</a> or <a href="https://www.pof.com/">PlentyOfFish</a> if you want to keep your profile short and sweet. </p>
<p>The same rules apply as in the other good dating profile examples for guys you've seen. </p>
<p>Highlight a couple of your most compelling traits...</p>
<h3>Short Dating Profile Example #11:</h3>
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<p>Keep the tone casual, engaging and positive…</p>
<h3>Short Dating Profile Example #12:</h3>
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<p>And use humor in an attractive way.</p>
<h3>Short Dating Profile Example #13:</h3>
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<h2><a></a>Why Short Dating Profiles Are Successful (When Done Right)</h2>
<p>The longer your dating profile is, the more chances you have to inadvertently turn her off. </p>
<p><strong>Here are 5 common profile mistakes guys make that *really* stand out in short dating profiles:</strong></p>
<h3>#1: Writing A Boring List</h3>
<p>Whether it’s a list of adjectives to describe yourself or your top 5 hobbies, reading a bunch of words separated by commas just isn’t very compelling.</p>
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<h3>#2: Using Bad Grammar/Spelling/Etc </h3>
<p>Misspelled words and poor (or no) punctuation stand out like a sore thumb in short dating profiles. </p>
<p>You may think ignoring your phone’s spell check is no big deal, but it’s a turn off for her. A whopping <a href="https://mashable.com/2015/02/04/date-of-the-union/#xftFkGwsE8q3">88% of women</a> judge a potential date by their grammar, and putting effort into your dating profile shows you’re serious about meeting someone. That's dating advice you can't afford to ignore.</p>
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<h3>#3: Being Too Honest </h3>
<p>While there are a few select spots where it’s okay to <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/should-i-lie-in-my-online-dating-profile">fudge a bit</a> in your dating profile, honesty is generally the best policy. </p>
<p>But *too much* of it is a bad thing. </p>
<p>Anything that hints at past drama or throws up an immediate red flag should not be included in your profile. “Heavy” topics are best addressed in person, when you’ve already gotten to know each other a bit. </p>
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<p>Letting your matches know you prioritize mental health is fine. In fact, 91% of Hinge users surveyed by the dating app said they would prefer to date someone who goes to therapy. Just make clear in your profile that you're in a good headspace for dating.</p>
<p>Knowing what you should - and shouldn't - include can be tricky, which is why many guys <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/our-process/">hire a profile writing service</a>.</p>
<h3>#4: Focusing On The Negative</h3>
<p>Whether you're expounding on what you don't like, don't want, don't appreciate in a date, or hate about the dating app, what you probably <em>are</em> doing is turning her off. </p>
<p>Negativity, particularly coming from someone you don't know anything about yet, is not very attractive and has no place in your profile.</p>
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<h3>#5: Making Her Think You're A "Project" </h3>
<p>Competition is already fierce on almost every online dating site, and most girls aren't consciously looking for a guy who needs a little fixing up or encouragement. </p>
<p>Even if you do need someone to draw you out of your shell or help you find love again, stick with mentioning positive attributes in your profile.</p>
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<h2>Get Ready For More Matches &amp; Messages</h2>
<p>These 13 short dating profile examples really work - you’ll be getting more matches and messages in no time.</p>
<p>But what if you could get even <i>better</i> results, without spending endless amounts of time swiping or struggling to write the perfect message?</p>
<p>After all, having an irresistible profile is just the beginning. </p>
<p>There’s a lot of competition for the highest quality matches, no matter what dating site or app you’re on. That means it's not just about your bio - you need to bring your A game to <em>every</em> aspect of online dating, from your <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/profile-pic/">profile photos</a> to your <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/online-dating-first-message/">messages</a>. </p>
<h3>Sound like work? </h3>
<p>Yup. Online dating is time consuming, there’s no way around it. For the average man, it’s practically the equivalent of a <a href="http://people.duke.edu/~dandan/webfiles/PapersUpside/People%20are%20experience%20Goods.pdf">part-time job</a>.</p>
<p>But it doesn’t have to be like that. </p>
<p>With <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/">VIDA</a>, you’ll meet the intelligent, attractive women you’ve been looking for, without all the stress, frustration, and time.</p>
<p>How is that possible? Simple - our team of dating experts does it all for you, from our <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/profile-writing-help-service/">dating profile writing service</a> to modern matchmaking! </p>
<p>We’ll identify the most highly qualified matches in your area, break the ice with proven conversation starters, handle all your back-and-forth message writing, and even set up your dates<i> for you</i> with the matches you like best!</p>
<p>If you’re ready to stop wasting time and finally meet your ideal partner, <a href="https://www.vidaselect.com/">click here</a> to make it happen.</p>
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 13 Short Dating Profile Examples (You Can Use On Any App)

 Since you're looking for short dating profile examples, you've probably realized short definitely doesn’t = easier.

 Highlight a few attractive traits, build up some intrigue and attraction, make her want to swipe right or return your message… that’s a tall order for a small character count.

 But if you want to meet the best matches in your area, that’s exactly what your profile needs to accomplish.

 These 13 short online dating profile examples will make you irresistible, and you can find one to use on any app or site!

 Short Dating Profile Examples Table of Contents:

 1. Super Short Examples
 2. 300 Characters Or Less Examples
 3. 500 Characters Or Less Examples
 4. 5 Common Short Profile Mistakes

 But before you get started...

 Steal This Dating Profile Tip From Pro Profile Writers!

 Jot down a list of hobbies you have, especially those you'd like to share with your ideal partner.

 Also write down the traits you possess that your perfect match is probably looking for in a man, and a few thoughts about what you love about your job.

 For example, your profile writing cheat sheet may look like this:

 If you're not sure how to make a dating profile, having that information visible in front of you makes the profile writing process a bit easier. You can use it to customize one of these good profile examples!

 Specific details make your profile seem more genuine, and that's important. A recent study revealed 84% of online daters want to see more authenticity.

 Dr. Cortney Warren, a clinical psychologist who offered commentary on the results, said the majority of singles want honest, straight-forward information in profiles.

 One of the most important findings in the study is that singles are not interested in seeing an idealized depiction of potential partners through edited photos and unrealistic positive self-descriptors. The truth is, singles want more honest, authentic depictions of others and themselves on dating apps. A more realistic portrayal of each individual will not only be refreshing, but also lead to more meaningful connections.

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 Super Short Dating Profile Examples

 On some apps like The League , your dating profile bio has a 190-character limit. That means you’ve got a couple sentences max to make a good impression, which is crucial if you want a shot at meeting a potential match in person.

 Super Short Profile Example #1:

 You don’t have enough space to tell, so you need to show why you’re a good catch. ( Professional profile writers generally take this approach with an online dating profile of any length, by the way, since it makes your profile more attractive to daters.)

 Super Short Profile Example #2:

 Pick a few traits that illustrate to a potential partner why you’re a good catch, and roll with those.

 Super Short Profile Example #3:

 Occupation = financial stability

 Active hobby = physically fit and adventurous

 Travel = good times together… get the picture?

 Super Short Profile Example #4:

 Emoji are a great space-saving option when you're trying to express a lot of ideas in a short amount of space.

 Just don't use so many that it gets conceptually hard to follow. A few emoji go a long way.

 Choose Words Women Connect With

 Women resonate with some words more than others in a dating profile.

 For instance, Wired magazine found these were the 7 most attractive active hobbies for guys :

 1. Surfing
 2. Yoga
 3. Skiing
 4. Golf
 5. Biking
 6. Hiking
 7. Running

 If you’re a vegetarian or a vegan, mention it - on Elite Singles, you'll get up to 73% more messages than the average user. No reason to think it wouldn't work the same way on any other dating app...

 And, as it turns out, nice guys are back in fashion. Using these “power” words in your online dating profile get you more messages:

 Remember, the shorter your dating profile is, the more impact each word has. You need to make yourself sound like an intriguing person, not like every other guy out there:

 Most dating app profiles display your first name. Don’t waste valuable real estate repeating it in your bio.

 300 Character Or Less Online Dating Profile Examples

 On CoffeeMeetsBagel , your profile is a little longer - but 276 characters max still isn’t much real estate.

 Make every word count with a profile like...

 Short Dating Profile Example #5:

 This bio hits a lot of high notes in a small amount of space, which makes it perfect for an app like Bumble.

 Short Dating Profile Example #6:

 And you could use a profile like this for the “Self Summary” section of sites like OkCupid or Elite Singles...

 Short Dating Profile Example #7:

 You can also get creative in your dating app profile, as long as you make sure the humor lands.

 Short Dating Profile Example #8:

 Here's another funny short bio you can use for inspiration.

 Short Dating Profile Example #9:

 When you’re choosing a profile style, keep these 3 factors in mind:

 1. Your age
 2. The age of your “ideal partner”
 3. What type of relationship you’re seeking

 A woman in her 20s who’s looking for a more casual relationship will likely respond better to the type of humor in the last online dating profile example than a woman in her late 30s looking for something serious would.

 On the other hand, if you’re a 35+ guy looking for a serious relationship, choose a profile like the second example.

 The more down-to-earth approach will attract women who are looking for an established, successful man. You want your profile to attract the right person, so it's worth being strategic about what tone you choose.

 If you want to use one of these examples for a section of a longer online dating profile on a dating site like OkCupid , simply move the call-to-action to the end of your profile.

 That’s the line at the very end that tells her what to do next, i.e. message you or swipe right.

 Short Dating Profile Example #10:

 Asking a question, like in the examples above, is also a good CTA.

 It takes all the pressure off her to decide what to say in her first message to you - all she needs to do is simply answer the question, and you can take it from there.

 Try it on an app like Bumble, where a man can't initiate the conversation with a woman.

 Bonus Expert Dating Profile Tips:     
     
 A good online dating profile should make you look and sound like a great catch, but bragging about yourself isn’t hot. Instead, let another source do it for you. This technique is called “ high warranting/low self-representation ”, and it’s the most attractive way to approach dating profile writing.
     
 For instance, rather than writing that you’re an awesome photographer, link your Instagram to Tinder or Bumble so she can draw that conclusion on her own.   
     
 

 500 Character Or Less Dating Profile Examples

 This character limit is perfect for apps like Tinder , or on a dating site like Match.com or PlentyOfFish if you want to keep your profile short and sweet.

 The same rules apply as in the other good dating profile examples for guys you've seen.

 Highlight a couple of your most compelling trait s...

 Short Dating Profile Example #11:

 Keep the tone casual, engaging and positive…

 Short Dating Profile Example #12:

 And use humor in an attractive way.

 Short Dating Profile Example #13:

 Why Short Dating Profiles Are Successful (When Done Right)

 The longer your dating profile is, the more chances you have to inadvertently turn her off.

 Here are 5 common profile mistakes guys make that *really* stand out in short dating profiles:

 #1: Writing A Boring List

 Whether it’s a list of adjectives to describe yourself or your top 5 hobbies, reading a bunch of words separated by commas just isn’t very compelling.

 #2: Using Bad Grammar/Spelling/Etc

 Misspelled words and poor (or no) punctuation stand out like a sore thumb in short dating profiles.

 You may think ignoring your phone’s spell check is no big deal, but it’s a turn off for her. A whopping 88% of women judge a potential date by their grammar, and putting effort into your dating profile shows you’re serious about meeting someone. That's dating advice you can't afford to ignore.

 #3: Being Too Honest

 While there are a few select spots where it’s okay to fudge a bit in your dating profile, honesty is generally the best policy.

 But *too much* of it is a bad thing.

 Anything that hints at past drama or throws up an immediate red flag should not be included in your profile. “Heavy” topics are best addressed in person, when you’ve already gotten to know each other a bit.

 Letting your matches know you prioritize mental health is fine. In fact, 91% of Hinge users surveyed by the dating app said they would prefer to date someone who goes to therapy. Just make clear in your profile that you're in a good headspace for dating.

 Knowing what you should - and shouldn't - include can be tricky, which is why many guys hire a profile writing service.

 #4: Focusing On The Negative

 Whether you're expounding on what you don't like, don't want, don't appreciate in a date, or hate about the dating app, what you probably are doing is turning her off.

 Negativity, particularly coming from someone you don't know anything about yet, is not very attractive and has no place in your profile.

 #5: Making Her Think You're A "Project"

 Competition is already fierce on almost every online dating site, and most girls aren't consciously looking for a guy who needs a little fixing up or encouragement.

 Even if you do need someone to draw you out of your shell or help you find love again, stick with mentioning positive attributes in your profile.

 Get Ready For More Matches & Messages

 These 13 short dating profile examples really work - you’ll be getting more matches and messages in no time.

 But what if you could get even better results, without spending endless amounts of time swiping or struggling to write the perfect message?

 After all, having an irresistible profile is just the beginning.

 There’s a lot of competition for the highest quality matches, no matter what dating site or app you’re on. That means it's not just about your bio - you need to bring your A game to every aspect of online dating, from your profile photos to your messages .

 Sound like work?

 Yup. Online dating is time consuming, there’s no way around it. For the average man, it’s practically the equivalent of a part-time job.

 But it doesn’t have to be like that.

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Since you're looking for short dating profile examples, you've probably realized short definitely doesn’t = easier.
  
Highlight a few attractive traits, build up some intrigue and attraction, make her want to swipe right or return your message… that’s a tall order for a small character count.
But if you want to meet the best matches in your area, that’s exactly what your profile needs to accomplish.
 These 13 short online dating profile examples will make you irresistible, and you can find one to use on any app or site! 
But before you get started... 
Steal This Dating Profile Tip From Pro Profile Writers!
Jot down a list of hobbies you have, especially those you'd like to share with your ideal partner. 
Also write down the traits you possess that your perfect match is probably looking for in a man, and a few thoughts about what you love about your job.
For example, your profile writing cheat sheet may look like this:
  
If you're not sure how to make a dating profile, having that information visible in front of you makes the profile writing process a bit easier. You can use it to customize one of these good profile examples!
Specific details make your profile seem more genuine, and that's important. A recent study revealed 84% of online daters want to see more authenticity.
Dr. Cortney Warren, a clinical psychologist who offered commentary on the results, said the majority of singles want honest, straight-forward information in profiles.
 One of the most important findings in the study is that singles are not interested in seeing an idealized depiction of potential partners through edited photos and unrealistic positive self-descriptors. The truth is, singles want more honest, authentic depictions of others and themselves on dating apps.  A more realistic portrayal of each individual will not only be refreshing, but also lead to more meaningful connections. 
Super Short Dating Profile Examples
On some apps like The League, your dating profile bio has a 190-character limit. That means you’ve got a couple sentences max to make a good impression, which is crucial if you want a shot at meeting a potential match in person.
Super Short Profile Example #1:
  
You don’t have enough space to tell, so you need to show why you’re a good catch. (Professional generally take this approach with an online dating profile of any length, by the way, since it makes your profile more attractive to daters.)
Super Short Profile Example #2:
  
Pick a few traits that illustrate to a potential partner why you’re a good catch, and roll with those. 
Super Short Profile Example #3:
  
Occupation = financial stability
Active hobby = physically fit and adventurous
Travel = good times together… get the picture?
Super Short Profile Example #4:
  
Emoji are a great space-saving option when you're trying to express a lot of ideas in a short amount of space. 
Just don't use so many that it gets conceptually hard to follow. A few emoji go a long way.
Choose Words Women Connect With 
Women resonate with some words more than others in a dating profile. 
For instance, Wired magazine found these were the 7 most attractive active hobbies for guys:
 Surfing Yoga Skiing Golf Biking Hiking Running 
If you’re a vegetarian or a vegan, mention it - on Elite Singles, you'll get up to 73% more messages than the average user. No reason to think it wouldn't work the same way on any other dating app...
And, as it turns out, nice guys are back in fashion. Using these “power” words in your online dating profile get you more messages:
  
Remember, the shorter your dating profile is, the more impact each word has. You need to make yourself sound like an intriguing person, not like every other guy out there:
  
  Most dating app profiles display your first name. Don’t waste valuable real estate repeating it in your bio.
300 Character Or Less Online Dating Profile Examples
On CoffeeMeetsBagel, your profile is a little longer - but 276 characters max still isn’t much real estate. 
Make every word count with a profile like...
Short Dating Profile Example #5:
  
This bio hits a lot of high notes in a small amount of space, which makes it perfect for an app like Bumble.
Short Dating Profile Example #6:
  
And you could use a profile like this for the “Self Summary” section of sites like OkCupid or Elite Singles...
Short Dating Profile Example #7:
  
You can also get creative in your dating app profile, as long as you make sure the humor lands. 
 Short Dating Profile Example #8:
  
Here's another funny short bio you can use for inspiration.
Short Dating Profile Example #9:
  
 When you’re choosing a profile style, keep these 3 factors in mind: 
 Your age The age of your “ideal partner” What type of relationship you’re seeking 
A woman in her 20s who’s looking for a more casual relationship will likely respond better to the type of humor in the last online dating profile example than a woman in her late 30s looking for something serious would.
On the other hand, if you’re a 35+ guy looking for a serious relationship, choose a profile like the second example. 
The more down-to-earth approach will attract women who are looking for an established, successful man. You want your profile to attract the right person, so it's worth being strategic about what tone you choose.
If you want to use one of these examples for a section of a longer online dating profile on a dating site like OkCupid, simply move the call-to-action to the end of your profile. 
That’s the line at the very end that tells her what to do next, i.e. message you or swipe right. 
Short Dating Profile Example #10:
  
Asking a question, like in the examples above, is also a good CTA. 
It takes all the pressure off her to decide what to say in her first message to you  - all she needs to do is simply answer the question, and you can take it from there. 
Try it on an app like Bumble, where a man can't initiate the conversation with a woman.
   Bonus Expert Dating Profile Tips: 
A good online dating profile should make you look and sound like a great catch, but bragging about yourself isn’t hot. Instead, let another source do it for you. This technique is called “high warranting/low self-representation”, and it’s the most attractive way to approach dating profile writing.
For instance, rather than writing that you’re an awesome photographer, link your Instagram to Tinder or Bumble so she can draw that conclusion on her own.
500 Character Or Less Dating Profile Examples
This character limit is perfect for apps like Tinder, or on a dating site like Match.com or PlentyOfFish if you want to keep your profile short and sweet. 
The same rules apply as in the other good dating profile examples for guys you've seen. 
Highlight a couple of your most compelling traits...
Short Dating Profile Example #11:
  
Keep the tone casual, engaging and positive…
Short Dating Profile Example #12:
  
And use humor in an attractive way.
Short Dating Profile Example #13:
  
  Why Short Dating Profiles Are Successful (When Done Right)
The longer your dating profile is, the more chances you have to inadvertently turn her off. 
 Here are 5 common profile mistakes guys make that *really* stand out in short dating profiles: 
#1: Writing A Boring List
Whether it’s a list of adjectives to describe yourself or your top 5 hobbies, reading a bunch of words separated by commas just isn’t very compelling.
  
#2: Using Bad Grammar/Spelling/Etc 
Misspelled words and poor (or no) punctuation stand out like a sore thumb in short dating profiles. 
You may think ignoring your phone’s spell check is no big deal, but it’s a turn off for her. A whopping 88% of women judge a potential date by their grammar, and putting effort into your dating profile shows you’re serious about meeting someone. That's dating advice you can't afford to ignore.
  
#3: Being Too Honest 
While there are a few select spots where it’s okay to fudge a bit in your dating profile, honesty is generally the best policy. 
But *too much* of it is a bad thing. 
Anything that hints at past drama or throws up an immediate red flag should not be included in your profile. “Heavy” topics are best addressed in person, when you’ve already gotten to know each other a bit. 
  
Letting your matches know you prioritize mental health is fine. In fact, 91% of Hinge users surveyed by the dating app said they would prefer to date someone who goes to therapy. Just make clear in your profile that you're in a good headspace for dating.
Knowing what you should - and shouldn't - include can be tricky, which is why many guys hire a profile writing service.
#4: Focusing On The Negative
Whether you're expounding on what you don't like, don't want, don't appreciate in a date, or hate about the dating app, what you probably are doing is turning her off. 
Negativity, particularly coming from someone you don't know anything about yet, is not very attractive and has no place in your profile.
  
#5: Making Her Think You're A "Project" 
Competition is already fierce on almost every online dating site, and most girls aren't consciously looking for a guy who needs a little fixing up or encouragement. 
Even if you do need someone to draw you out of your shell or help you find love again, stick with mentioning positive attributes in your profile.
  
Get Ready For More Matches &amp; Messages
These 13 short dating profile examples really work - you’ll be getting more matches and messages in no time.
But what if you could get even better results, without spending endless amounts of time swiping or struggling to write the perfect message?
After all, having an irresistible profile is just the beginning. 
There’s a lot of competition for the highest quality matches, no matter what dating site or app you’re on. That means it's not just about your bio - you need to bring your A game to every aspect of online dating, from your profile photos to your messages. 
Sound like work? 
Yup. Online dating is time consuming, there’s no way around it. For the average man, it’s practically the equivalent of a part-time job.
But it doesn’t have to be like that. 
With VIDA, you’ll meet the intelligent, attractive women you’ve been looking for, without all the stress, frustration, and time.
How is that possible? Simple - our team of dating experts does it all for you, from our dating profile writing service to modern matchmaking! 
We’ll identify the most highly qualified matches in your area, break the ice with proven conversation starters, handle all your back-and-forth message writing, and even set up your dates for you with the matches you like best!
If you’re ready to stop wasting time and finally meet your ideal partner, click here to make it happen.
13 Short Dating Profile Examples (That Work On Any App!)
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