

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

A Hax Letter: Facebook & Competitive Feelings

Howdy everyone! How was your memorial day? Mine was splendid. Attended my cousin's baby's christening on Sunday and spent the day carrying, feeding, and playing with the celebrant. She's such a peaceful baby.

She kept falling asleep in the middle of sucking on her feeding bottle. When I'll try to pull out the bottle, she'd wake up and keep sucking. then fall asleep again. We did this over and over again, till I gave up, and let her sleep for a bit, before quietly, and I mean "jejely" stealing the bottle from her grip. Mission accomplished. Sooo cuyute!

Anyhoo, yesterday, my cousin (another one- I have quite a lot :-)) threw a BBQ so it was family, friends, good food and good conversations. Can't ask for better.

So, enough about me and my weekend.

I was reading Carolyn Hax's column on The Washington Post this morning and it was another post worth sharing.

Its about Facebook.

I know one too many people who have deactivated their Facebook account because they can't stand the constant showcase of people's lives and the accompanying feeling of competitiveness. A person posts constant pictures of their wedding, their "loving" boyfriends, their too cute babies, their constant "outings" and in essence, their "perfect" lives.

Here's the truth- NO ONE (and I repeat) NO ONE! HAS A PERFECT LIFE. Do not be fooled!

Over the years, I have learned that Facebook really is just a fraction of each person's reality.  It is undeniable that many people use it to paint false lives. If you start to feel pressured by other people's lives, then you need to drill a hole in your head and put this in it - NO ONE'S LIFE IS PERFECT. People, often, only put on Facebook what they want you to see.

There's a funny article about types of Facebook bragging here. Too funny!

You'd be surprised by the amount of chaos there is in the world. Everyone has problems, decisions to make, pressure to meet and life to deal with. So, never mistake a person's album and statuses as the COMPLETE story of their lives.

Master the art of being content with your life, concentrating on your own path, self-empowerment and being happy, and no amount of social bragging will affect you.

Having said that, here's the Carolyn Hax article on the issue.

Dear Carolyn:

Facebook Facade
Carolyn's Answer
From Another Reader
Re: Bragging:
Carolyn's Answer
I'm curious to hear your thoughts on this matter... letters, Carolyn's answer and all. and don't pretend you don't have any. Everyone has an opinion about Facebook :-)
Stay Inspired...

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