All the Single Ladies: 'How do I meet a decent guy online?'

By Sarah Swain|

All the Single Ladies
All the Single Ladies
The ultimate 21st century question


I'm an independent mum with two boys and have been divorced for eight years.

I would really love to find someone to share my life with but I'm reluctant to go back on dating apps and I don't know how else to meet people in this day and age.

The way I've been approached on them in the past turns me off.

Let's just say I found it so different to when I was in my 20s where everything was a little more…innocent!

I've put some of the men in their place in a nice way, but then they seem uninterested and put off because I have too much respect for myself.

Is it possible to find a decent guy online, and how do I handle the crudeness?


You don't have to go on dating apps if you don't want to.

But I'm sure you've got your hands full as a single mum, so they could actually be a great way for you to meet people and have some fun.

You're right - there are a fair number of blokes on dating apps who think crudeness gets the girl.

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But, I can assure you, while some ladies might entertain Mr Crude, a lot of women are with you.

They use this simple method: ignore and block.

Don't even reply.


You're certainly not missing out on a "great guy" by letting someone who comes on too strong for your tastes walk away.

It happens to everyone. After a while off Bumble, I went back on recently, and was feeling good about it.

Bumble is great if you don't want to receive unwanted messages because the woman has to be the one to make contact first after a match.

So everything was going fine for me back on Bumble, until one of the blokes I was chatted with started attacking me about being a journalist.

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I was angry - but I reported him and moved on.

Because while dating might have changed, standards haven't.


Think of these guys as dead air, and don't let them distract you from looking for the quality men.

Because they are out there - you just need to hunt for them.

Granted, it can be a massive mission, and I know it's easy to get disheartened and start thinking all blokes are the same.

So, stay positive, keep your standards high and your head higher.

And you may even have some fun along the way!

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