The Venus in Aries Man

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The Venus Aries man loves hard and plays hard. He's a burning flame that goes out as suddenly as it flares up.

He rushes in and leaves a trail of broken hearts. He's an ex that never looks back — he grieves hard and then moves on... later that day.

Choice Words: playful, confident, virile, protective, urgent and brave in love, creative, courageous, romantic, energizing to be around, truthful, self-directed.

Shadow Side: a player, possessive, impulsive, selfish, misses subtlety in emotional exchanges.

A Player

I hate stereotypes in astrology as much as anyone. But where does astrological typecasting come from? Experience and observation, swapping stories.

So what's the scoop on the Venus Aries love style? 

He's flat out inspiring. He's the knight in shining armor, and surprisingly romantic. He never lets his loved ones rest on their laurels. He encourages the timider among us to go for it! Whatever and whomever he loves, he brings a single-minded focus to bear. He's a whole lot of fun, long after others have gone home.

First Out of the Gate

A Venus in Aries man is impulsive, but sensitive hearts should take note — he's not always able or willing to finish what he's started! The thrill of the beginning gives him a rush. If you see long term potential here, it's up to you to set a pace. Don't let him gobble you up in one sitting! Keep him wanting more, as you build up a solid bond.

For fire signs like him, active dates are best. He expresses his joy in a very physical way. He's attracted to strong-willed partners who are as direct as he is. He's revved by clashes — they make him feel alive and even close to the other person. The tension in a relationship is what keeps him interested.

Venus as Hunter

Traditional (Greek) astrology sees Venus in its detriment in Aries, since its opposite Venus' ruler Libra. Venus in this forceful, yang sign (Aries), relates by being forceful with the self, in a relationship. Nothing wrong with that!

Venus is harmony and well-being in love and loving life (through creative expression, style, friendships). There's a built-in relationship riddle, that for Aries Venus guys, harmony is found through creating sparks! For him, tension is delicious, whether it's a raucous debate or competing for his prize at the local pub. His nature is to thrive on sexual tension, especially at the beginning of a relationship. He could star in any of the rom coms out there since so many start out with lots of friction, even a love-hate dynamic. He's intrigued by the one that resists or is a challenge since that puts him into quest mode.

Venus as Fighter

He's a big tease and loves to get a rise out of his friends or lovers. One Venus Aries man I know is driven to be locked in contentious conversation, which drives his ex-crazy when they meet. "He's always provoking me," she says.

On the sunny side, this instinct for the fight keeps love from stagnating. He's attracted to the woman who stands up to him, and meets him head-on! His feminine ideal is the now version of the Amazon — physically strong, street smart and self-assured. He admires a self-starter with a passion for what she does in life. A lusty libido is a must.

A great match for Venus Aries is Venus Leo if the egos don't go supernova. 

On the Move

A Venus in Aries man attracts by being a presence of raw vitality, ready to go after what he wants. Venus Aries tilts forward head first, when walking, as the cardinal fire sign of initiation. That means that the desired state is on edge — not everyone's cup of tea, but very arousing to the right lover.

Fire signs seek inspiration, the heat of experience, creative risk — these attract the man with Venus in cardinal Aries.

A similarly fired-up partner keeps his attention by being in love with life and seeking new experiences and challenges. It's a draw to have a wild streak, even if your life together is fairly settled. Aries is the upsurge of creative fire. He finds it a thing of beauty, to behold a sudden outburst that rises from that creative source. Share with him your true passions, in art and music, and what makes you feel most alive.

Fool for Love

The love planet in the first surge of the Zodiac means Venus Aries rushes into romance for the thrill of new experience. He lives for the rush of new love. His turn on is newness, being Spring's own sign when the quest for love puts young males on the move. He loses interest in settled grooves and fixed ways of relating.

His honesty is not for the feint of heart, though he bolts when things get too bogged down in emotion. His love style is express it, and move on. In many ways, he's a 'what you see, is what you get' kind of guy. A wise girlfriend once told me, 'men tell you and show you what they're about.' The Venus Aries guy is likely to be super upfront about where he is in life, and what he's looking for. There are an innocence and in-the-moment quality that makes him a memorable beau, even if it doesn't last. an innocence and in-the-moment quality that makes him a memorable beau, even if it doesn't last.