SOLO - Sense of Life Objectivists - SOLO Homo Hey Homos! Rock on in to SOLO Homo for spicy chatter about sex, politics, culture, and whatever else our queer little heads dream up. I am Ashley Frazier, your hostess in this forum, and I welcome you. While our straight brothers and sisters are certainly invited to peek in, I want to make it clear that this is a Gay group in an Objectivist forum. I am thrilled with my same-sex partnership and with living as an Objectivist. While questions are acceptable as far as the patience of our members will stretch, condemnation of our sexual orientation is unwelcome (and frankly, boring, which is also quite frowned upon here). So get in here and post something, darlings. en Good Luck To Him <p> The Americans have decided they want a Negro to lead them. </p> <p> Barack Obama has been elected US President by a fairly comfortable margin, and I say &quot;good luck to him&quot; <img src="" title="Smiling" alt="Smiling" class="smiley-content"/> </p> <p> I have never quite seen nor understood his appeal to 'normal' people, as there are fairly obvious marks against him, but as he has won the election I think everyone should accept the verdict of the populace and let him get on with things. </p> <p> I, for one, promise to allow him six months or so to do what he has been elected to do, despite my personal feelings, without criticism and let events take their course. </p> <p> Had it been up to me there would have been a slightly different (*ahem*) result, but one must accept what has happened. </p> <p> I am sure no one is quite turning in their graves just yet...well....ummmmmm...not <em>too</em> many chaps, anyway; afterall there have been plenty of Negroes at the Whitehouse up until now (although in slightly different roles) and perhaps this is the way forward (despite the lessons of history and common sense) and I, at least, feel this negro should be given the opportunity to succeed. </p> <p> So yes, do not expect criticism from me of Obama until July 20th. </p> <p> Good luck to you, Mr Obama, from over here in New Zealand I wish you all the best...  <img src="" title="Smiling" alt="Smiling" class="smiley-content"/> </p> SOLO Homo SOLO Wed, 05 Nov 2008 07:09:27 +0000 5548 at Quotation of the Day: Richard Nixon <p> <strong>&quot;...the unhappiest people in the World are those in the watering places, the international watering places like..uhhh..the south coast of France and Newport and Palm Springs and Palm Beach; going to parties every night, playing golf every afternoon, then bridge. Drinking too much, talking too much, thinking too little. Retired. No purpose.</strong> </p> <p> <strong>And so, well I know those who will totally disagree with this and say 'gee, boy if I could just be a millionaire that would be the most wonderful thing; if I could just not have to work everyday, if I could just be out fishing or hunting, or playing golf or travelling, that would be the most wonderful life in the world&quot; ....they don't know life; because what makes life mean something is purpose. A goal. The battle. The Struggle, even if you don't win it...&quot;</strong> </p> SOLO Homo SOLO Sun, 21 Sep 2008 06:16:52 +0000 5351 at Are there many Solo homos? <p>I was wondering if there were many gay chaps on this site?</p> <p>A couple of regular posters who act often like babyish "girly-men" <img src="" title="Eye" alt="Eye" class="smiley-content"/> appear to be raving heterosexuals! <img src="" title="Sticking out tongue" alt="Sticking out tongue" class="smiley-content"/> (rather to my surprise), and in order to not jump to conclusions again I thought this would be a way to ascertain who is who.</p> <p>So, to kick things off...I am gay <img src="" title="Laughing out loud" alt="Laughing out loud" class="smiley-content"/></p> SOLO Homo SOLO Sat, 18 Aug 2007 09:10:31 +0000 Elijah Lineberry 2961 at Gay Stereotypes in Primetime <p>I am not usually subjected to TV advertisements but I do sometimes catch them while watching HD (still waiting for that Tivo Series 3) or listening to the radio (only out of desperation when my <a href="">CPN</a> podcasts are done). When I first heard the commercial for <a href="">Wedding Wars</a> I thought it was a spoof. I had to look it up today after hearing it again on the radio during lunch:</p> <p><i>This 2006 made-for-cable film lightens up the gay-marriage debate with a silly story that still manages to be charming at times. Plus it stars hot TV docs Eric Dane (aka McSteamy of Grey's Anatomy) and ER's John Stamos. Dane's character is marrying the daughter of Maine's governor and hires his gay brother (Stamos) as his wedding planner. But the governor's opposition to gay marriage sends the brother on a strike. The media runs with the story, and gay workers everywhere strike. Hairdressers and florists walk, leaving the world less fabulous but, unfortunately, leaving viewers with more reinforcement for their stereotypes. — Bill Ecklund, TVGuide<br /> </i></p> <p>I know I should not be surprised but several things about this disturb me. First there is the irony of apearing to be supportive of Homosexuals while reinforcing the sterotypes and biases that hurt individuals like myself much more then some sort of government issued marrige licence. Second is the eagerness of so many gays to conform to many of these sterotypes.</p> SOLO Homo SOLO Mon, 11 Dec 2006 18:42:03 +0000 wngreen 2030 at A bit of a dilemma <p>Well, this is my first post to this particular branch of the Solo forums, but some of you have probably seen me around the site. The basic gist is that I'm bisexual and have been honest with myself about it since January. My mother knows and is fine with it, but I'm struggling with breaking the news to my father. See, he actively denies that bisexuality exists. He's perfectly open to people being homosexual, but he thinks that people who say they're bi are just "confused" or some other bullshit euphemism for "stark-raving mad." Intolerance I could stand up to; at least it acknowledges my existence. But what can I do here? Should I chuck the Kinsey studies at his face or something? I'm open to any suggestions (serious or not, though a few serious ones would be appreciated <img src="" title="Smiling" alt="Smiling" class="smiley-content"/> ).</p> <p>Thanks a lot!</p> SOLO Homo SOLO Thu, 27 Jul 2006 04:34:14 +0000 Daniel Walden 1323 at Irony <p>I don't know if any of you here have read this but there's been an interesting development in DC comics recently.</p> <p>In all their publications they just finished a big mega crossover and immediately after finishing it pushed all the company's books one year forward. The premise is that for one whole year Batman, Superman and Wonder Woman were totally MIA and the aftermath.</p> <p>One series entitled 52 (as in weeks in one year) is being published in Real time and filling in the gaps. A good reason for Objectivists to check this out is Steve Ditko's Question is getting a lot of face(less) time, he's hevily involved in a storyline with lesbian police officer Rene Montoya.</p> <p>This is a good segue into why I posted this in Solo homo. The Question is working to fill the gap left by the missing Batman, But a former lover of Montoya is taking the more direct route. A woman named Betty Kane has taken over as the new Batwoman. And you heard it correctly folks, she's a lesbian.</p> <p>Why I gave this post the title "Irony" is this. Most people are probably at least slightly familiar with the main Bat family characters (Batman, Robin, Comisioner Gordon and his daughter Barbara Gordon, Batgirl). The truth is Barbara is the second Batgirl. After the publication by child psychologist Fredrich Werthem, the book "Seduction of the Innocent" took the comics industry by storm. There were congressional hearings on all the elements in comics which needed censored to protect children.</p> <p>Back on point, one of the major references in the book was on the "obvious homo-erotic undertones in the relationship between Batman and Robin." The hearings and new "comics code authority" which gave comics a "g" rating setting them as worthy of being displayed on public newsstands drove many publishers out of business (Most notably horror and crime publisher EC comics), but left DC comics mostly unscathed. However to counteract the statments in the book they rushed into creation two new characters in the bat family who would work alongside Batman and Robin. These characters were Betty Kane and her older aunt Kathy, the original Batgirl and Batwoman. These characters were primarily created for one reason alone. Betty served as a love interest for the young Robin, meanwhile Batwoman served as Batman's love interest... <STRONG>THUS PROVING THE HETEROSEXUALITY OF BATMAN AND ROBIN!!!</STRONG></p> <p>In 5 decades the transition from Batman's beard to a full on out of the closet lesbian is complete.</p> <p>---Landon</p> SOLO Homo SOLO Mon, 12 Jun 2006 22:27:57 +0000 Landon Erp 1138 at I need advice. <p>I don't know how many lesbians or bi women there are here, but I need some advice from the one's who are. I am recently separated after 6 years of marriage to a man. I haven't been with a woman in a long freakin time, and I want to BAD! I have been to the only true lesbian bar here in Atlanta, and what I found was kind of discouraging. The women who hit on me were all way too butch for my taste. The women I was attracted to (the curvy, feminine ones) all seemed to be into very butch women. Now, I'm no delicate flower, but I have boobs and hips and long hair. I love to wear makeup and go shopping, and the like. Is the lesbian community everywhere so divided down gender role lines? What do I do to find lipstick lesbians who want lipstick lesbians? Are bi-curious girls my only choice (I do meet them in bars sometimes)? I really would like someone who was into women, not just into trying it out once or twice. What is your advice?</p> <p>Kelly</p> SOLO Homo SOLO Sun, 28 May 2006 19:10:27 +0000 User hidden 1037 at Gay Rally in Moscow <p>Two completely different news reports. </p> <p>My initial thoughts were of frustration for the Russian gay community and their on going struggle with acceptance in society and a Putin/Stalin government. (Having visited Russia twice, I see nothing healthy about the place - period)</p> <p>After reading the BBC's report, my frustration turned around and slapped me in the face, with a highly selective, politically correct, totally gutless piece of reporting.</p> <p>Not that I do not realise the left-wing style that the Beeb maintains, its just that today, it pissed me off more than usual.</p> <p><a href="" title="">http://news.monstersandcritics...</a></p> <p><a href="" title=""></a></p> SOLO Homo SOLO Sat, 27 May 2006 23:46:20 +0000 Sandi 1031 at Beyond The Glory <p>I was watching FoxSports' "Beyond The Glory" tonight and saw one of their 5 part series on sex in sports. They were talking about homosexuality in sports, and then specifically the NFL. I didn't really watch it all, and I can't get the video to work on my computer, but here's a link:</p> <p><a href="" title=""></a></p> <p>It was interesting because they mentioned an NFL player who came out as gay in a magazine article in the mid-70's, and I think he came out after he retired although I am not positive. He said he thought he was opening a door for others, but apparently not because I don't think it has happened since. In the next segment NFL players were interviewed and gave many reasons that there won't be any openly gay active players in the NFL, including various sorts of peer discomfort and discord which would affect the "teamness" of the team. </p> <p>I wish I could be more descriptive about the show, but Meghan flips around so much that I can never see more than 3 minutes at a time of any program, and this was on at the same time as the Villanova and Sixers games. But my thought was related to the Brokeback Mountain thread and "rising above your surroundings". </p> <p>How does "rise above your surroundings" work in this context? And I am being serious. How do you make decisions about which parts of your life are more important? I suppose it is up to every gay football player to weigh his priorities--football or gay? gay or football?--but I see that I make these choices on a less-than-grand level all the time.</p> SOLO Homo Wed, 08 Feb 2006 03:41:20 +0000 Ashley 448 at Brokeback Mountain <p>I know some of you have been looking forward to seeing this film, so I wanted to report that I saw it last week and thought it was excellent. It was tender and lovely. The relationship was treated honestly but not sensationally. The theater was filled with older couples mostly, which surprised and pleased me. </p> <p>Has anyone else seen this yet?</p> SOLO Homo Mon, 09 Jan 2006 17:24:48 +0000 Ashley 304 at Peikoff's Memory Hole <p>Have people here seen <i>Ayn Rand Answers</i>? I note with interest that, while it includes Rand's boilerplate-libertarian statement on laws against homosexuality, her infamous moral denunciation is nowhere to be seen. The good news is that Objectivist officaldom no longer shares her position; the bad news, if bad it be, is that the estate has once more damaged its credibility.</p> SOLO Homo Thu, 05 Jan 2006 17:12:39 +0000 Reidy 286 at Gay Films <p>I started a thread on this at the old SOLO. Got a lot of informative info thought it was worth reposting.</p> <p>I may as well be honest about my reasoning for this... in my comic the first and highest profile romantic couple in my comic is a lesbian couple... not being a lesbian myself, I'm positive that without proper research I'm going to be getting things wrong right and left.</p> <p>I've been kind of thinking about movies with gay themes lately. Since a lot of the culture making them is liberal/pomo they tend to be pretty bleak. Rapes and violence hapening every few minutes, people seeming dreadfully depressed through the whole thing EVEN WHEN THEY FALL IN LOVE, and long discussions of the minor points of being homosexual (while educational to a hetero like me, aren't always entertaining).</p> <p>That being said I've also seen some excellent ones with individualistic themes and uplifiting stories, and I thought a thread where people could list some of their favorites here might be nice.</p> <p>The strange but incredibly true story of two girls in love</p> <p>This is one of the first, and best films I've seen along these lines. It covers two high school students, a young white lesbian (virgin, but certain in her orientation) who was taken in by lesbian friends and relatives who fit the normal stereotype and discourage her from interacting with outsiders. She's often teased because though she doesn't admit to her homosexuality in public, but doesn't do much to hide it either.</p> <p>The other is a black girl who has a boyfriend and is about as popular and typical as you can get. She meets the other young girl, and becomes friendly and a bit curious about her (she's never met a lesbian before). Over the course of the film they become friends, and later more. They take on their families, their friends, their school, all for the purpose of being left alone to be themselves and love each other.</p> <p>But I'm a cheerleader</p> <p>The story of an "intervention" on a closeted cheerleader. She has a typical life, a typical boyfriend, but for some reason she posts pictures of scantily clad women in her locker, and thinks of memories from cheerleading practice when she kisses her boyfriend. She comes home one day to an intervention of her family and friends which leads to her being taken to a camp for gender re-education.</p> <p>All the girls at this camp are dressed in overtly feminine pink outfits, the boys in blue. The purpose of this camp is treating homosexuality in the same manner as a 12 step program. With the ultimate goal of graduating into heterosexuality.</p> <p>The joke is that the program obviously doesn't work, flirting is rampant, and the proud "graduates" who work as counselors are obviously still lusting after their own sex but severely repressing it. Some girl's going as far as shocking themselves when they have sexual thoughts of other girls.</p> <p>During the course of this the lead character comes to terms with it and starts trying to "get better." But during the course of the movie the lead falls in love with a wealthy heiress who will be disinherited if she doesn't "straighten up."</p> <p>Towards the end of the movie the lead character and a male counterpart (a greco-roman wrestler) both get caught with their respective lovers... the two make the big sacrifice for love and are taken in by refugees from the program (two ex-staff members that are now lovers). Here they finally come to terms with themselves and plan the climax.</p> <p>At the graduation ceremony where their lovers are about to be considered "straight," the girl starts the invasion. Her girlfriend always wanted to see her cheer, so she wears her cheering outfit and proclaims her love before the whole crowd with a cheer.</p> <p>They escape with their lovers, feeling safe and proud in their own skins.</p> <p>(as a side note I watched this movie again and I later had some new observations on things I had forgot as follows)</p> <p> I just watched but "I'm a cheerleader" again last night and I'm happy to say it's even better than I remember. The music is great, it's light and goofy during all the re-education scenes, and tender and sweet during the love scenes (which are tastefully shot, well acted and beautiful).</p> <p>There are also interesting sub-plots I'd forgotten involving a rather butch looking female softball player who was molested. She was forced into the program but has a revelation halfway through, she gets shocked when one of the other girls starts flirting with her, at one point to answer a simple question she blurts out "I like balls" and it culminates with her realizing she was never gay in the first place, she just liked sports and wasn't as pretty as some girls.</p> <p>As well as some of the amazingly misinformed ideas on what homosexuality means "You now will get to experience one of the greatest things about being heterosexual. Friendship."</p> <p>Priest</p> <p>The story of a closeted priest and a parish with many other secrets. The lead moves in with an established priest, who is secretly keeping a woman he is in love with. The lead is disgusted with this but he says nothing, though his disgust is evident. But the reason becomes clear why he says nothing, when he picks up a young man at a gay bar.</p> <p>He tries keeping this secret through most of the film. He also faces a dilemma, a young girl confesses to being molested, the father brags about it... he tries in vain for most of the film to get the mother to stop it, but he has to keep confessions confidential.</p> <p>In the final act his life falls apart, the mother finds out about the abuse (walking in on it), and blames him for not telling her. His affair gets discovered, and he gets treated like trash by his own church. By this point he finally understands is former roommate, and they learn from each other.</p> <p>The roommate risks everything by allowing the main character back to the parish to give communion. Both are subsequently denounced by most of the parish, but the film ends with the lead and the young girl holding each other... wishing they could've helped each other better.</p> <p>The film also contains great lines such as "I pray constantly for an end to my sinfulness, I go to the cross where I see a nude man utterly beautiful, utterly desireable," "With all the horrible things going on in this world, I think god has higher priorities than what men do with their dicks!"</p> <p>Those are three of my favorites anyway. </p> <p>---Landon</p> SOLO Homo SOLO Wed, 14 Dec 2005 19:53:09 +0000 Landon Erp 187 at Ahem! <p>So why are so many men turned on when they see two women together?</p> SOLO Homo Fri, 09 Dec 2005 01:26:35 +0000 Titan 132 at New York man could be forced to testify against his partner <p><i>"Prosecutors are opposing efforts to apply New York's marital privilege law to same-sex partners, arguing that a man charged in a school embezzlement scandal can testify against his companion. Stephen Signorelli, charged in the theft of $11.2 million from the wealthy Roslyn school district on Long Island, has asked a judge to prevent Frank Tassone, his longtime companion and the district's former superintendent, from testifying against him. Signorelli is among a half-dozen people accused of participating in the theft over several years."</i></p> <p><a href="">article on</a></p> <p>In the past when "gay marriage" threads have popped up, there are always those who hold that marriage is unecessary because all the rights of marriage can be drawn up in a simple contract - no government interference needed. I will admit that this problem has occurred to me before. This is not exclusive to married couples, right? Aren't some professionals (doctors, lawyers) allowed to keep communications with someone accused of a crime confidential?</p> <p>What if your partner was charged with a crime that you had knowledge of, but possibly didn't disapprove of? Or that you believed they were innocent but knew of facts that could "look bad" in court. What would you do if you were compelled to testify?</p> SOLO Homo Thu, 08 Dec 2005 00:14:12 +0000 Ashley 119 at Latest phrom Phunny Pharm Homofobes <p>Hard on the heels of Phirehammer's repherence to phags, his selph-outing as the bigot I already knew he was, comes this from Monart Pon. This sort of stuff used to be standard from ARI types, including notorious closet cases. Largely, they've gotten over it. Monart &amp; the Phirehammer Phlakes are now carrying the torch for mediaeval ignorance. Read &amp; weep:</p> <p>'The truth is this: Perigo, contrary to his boast of being "rationally passionate" and "passionately rational", is neither rational nor passionate -- not consistently so, not when it really counts. Claiming to be a "sense of life objectivist", he's trying to act out a self-contradiction. Objectivism is a philosophy, a wisdom of mind, a system of thought. A sense of life is a (fundamental) feeling in regards to one's life; it's not a philosophy. To feel one's way to wisdom, to philosophy, is to pervert one's mind and, consequently, also pervert one's sense of life. Thus, Perigo hides from the truth when it clashes with his feelings, unless admitting a truth serves to hide another more frightening truth.</p> <p>'Perigo is neither rational nor romantic. I've encountered his phoniness some years ago in the first years of "SOLO" (after I was fooled into giving founding support to it and even to contribute money to his Free Radical group). I've encountered his phoniness again more recently when I introduced the album Concerto of Deliverance I produced, and then when I read about how Perigo and his cohorts unjustly treated Regi about his stance on homosexuality.</p> <p>'Perigo's "homosexuality" is where his phoniness is most blatant. He's not a real sexual man, but pretends and feel he is. He's afraid of true sex -- true sex with a woman. The ultimate expression and actualization of the masculine potential is the sexual union with the feminine: a woman (just as ultimate femininity is in union with the masculine.) How can such a basic fact -- sex *means* a union of the feminine and the masculine -- how can such a basic fact be ignored, except by choice (however much incremental choices)? Whatever Perigo practices, it's not sexuality, nor is it romantic, nor rational.</p> <p>'What's more despicable than Perigo's phoniness, is the phoniness of those who pretend with him. I continue to be surprised and disappointed at (and be wary of) who I discover those persons are. Perigo can be a litmus test of someone's honesty, of the regard for the highest value of truth.'</p> <p>'Perigo doesn't mean "danger", Perigo is a false alarm.'</p> SOLO Homo Wed, 07 Dec 2005 09:25:03 +0000 Lindsay Perigo 109 at What!? No Homos? <p>I have some queer things to talk about. Where is everyone?</p> SOLO Homo Fri, 02 Dec 2005 22:14:36 +0000 Ashley 53 at