Desire: v. to mentally sense a need to achieve a goal(s) and frequently making that future achievement more probable and it originates in the survival instinct and search for pleasure

Most of us lead a life filled with desires to eat, drink, talk, have sex, share experiences, possess things, do things, believe things, have a family, get high, hope for some fame and fortune, avoid pain and sorrow, and generally want to be happy.

Desires motivate us to act in certain ways which frequently become good and/or bad habits in adulthood which we frequently have to live with for a lifetime. Without desires our lives would come to a screeching halt, we would sink into devastating depression, or we would not want to do anything.

When your desires stop you also probably stop living or if you have few desires left in life then you probably live a very boring life just eating and drinking and watching TV.

To avoid a boring life you must come up with new desires which motivate you to do something different from your daily boring routine but few are able to make their lives more interesting because their boring lifestyle has become a bad habit which is hard to break or hard to replace with good habits.

Most of us live with impulsive desires in adulthood which create some predictability in our lives but impulse can also be a trap from which it is hard to escape if we would like some better results in our lives.

If your old desires are generally good desires then you will not be in a constant battle with the bad effects of your bad desires and your life should generally be better led. If you are stuck with bad desires then your life may be filled with failure, disappointment, and bad consequences.

Know yourself or be aware of your conscious and unconscious good and bad desires. What you do do may be a good or bad habit which you are getting some satisfaction from.

What you don’t do is harder to figure out because you may be avoiding something to avoid pain, embarrassment, failure, or a blow to your ego which are all unconscious reasons for not doing something or not behaving a certain way.

What generally motivates our desires is to get pleasure and avoid pain. Frequently our pleasurable senses associated with a bad habit may lead to pain or failure which we chose to ignore because seeking immediate pleasure overrides the pain which we will suffer in the future as a result of the short duration pleasure which we get.

Addictions to bad habits like gambling, pornography, impulsive shopping, and drugs gives us immediate pleasure and we just don’t make the logical connection with the bad consequences which result from the addiction and don’t make the smart necessary avoidance adjustments in our behavior.

Bad pleasurable desires are frequently a trap from which few of us escape unless the bad consequences become too much to bear or we crash and burn and barely escape with our lives.

Creating good desires in childhood leads to good habits in adulthood and if you grow up with too many bad desires then your adulthood will be filled with many bad habits causing you much enduring pain and sorrow.




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