Accept Yourself, Ignore Others

I spent a lot of yesterday watching the Tyler Clementi/Dharun Ravi case. My heart goes out to Tyler’s family and friends who had to suffer his loss and think about the pain and torment Tyler felt before he committed suicide. Tyler must have felt extremely ridiculed and distressed in order to commit suicide after his roommate invaded his privacy.  What really makes me sad, though, is that he let such a small group of people affect his fate. While he felt embarrassed and mocked by his peers, he must not have thought about the fact that his peers are such a miniscule percentage of this world’s population. If only he thought about the thousands of people outside of his small world that would have accepted him for who he was and known that the majority of people condemn Ravi, instead, for being a cruel, ignorant and closed-minded bully. I am sure Tyler was too ashamed to seek help from his parents or request to be moved to a new university, but he could have. He could have gone to a new place that accepts him and knows about the video and looks down on Ravi instead of him.

It’s a good reminder to all of us that the tiny group of people we know is only a small group of the billions of other people in this world. Why do we let ourselves get influenced by these people? Don’t compare yourself with the ones around you and don’t let them shape the image you have of yourself. Accept yourself for who you are, be proud of the person you are and strive to be your best, everyone else should accept you as you are. There is so much more out there, and there is so much diversity in this world, so much culture, so much understanding. If you have found yourself in an unaccepting environment, move on, move forward and be proud of the person you are. 


Happy Mother’s Day!

Happy Mother’s Day to all you mothers out there! I have no idea what it is like to be a mother, and I know I will not know the true feelings until I become a mother myself. However, last night at our mother’s day dinner, someone asked my mom if she felt that mother’s day was any different than a birthday.  She said mother’s day is much different because she enjoys celebrating being a mother more, as it is truly rewarding. Regardless of your relationship with your mother, there is no doubt she went through a lot to raise you the best she could, so I hope you had the chance to tell her thank you, yesterday. I know relationships with mothers can be sensitive ones, but they are also very special. To all of you mothers out there, I hope you had a wonderful one, and I hope each year just gets better! If you are not a mother, like me, I hope you were able to remember your mother or celebrate with her. Mom, if you’re reading this, I love you and thank you! 🙂