Letter to Judges Reviewing Child Support Guidelines



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Dear Judge DiGangi and Carey,
    b) Disregard of $20,000 creates incentive NOT to work

Restoring Our Government’s Soul


The Restoration Of Our Nation’s Soul,
Our Judicial System


“For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world, and forfeit his soul? “For what will a man give in exchange for his soul?” (Mark 8:36-37).

Just like a person’s most valuable part is his soul, a nation’s most valuable part is its judicial system.  If a nation loses its judicial system, it will not matter if it gains the whole world for it will lose its very own life in the process.



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It is largely fatherhood which makes childhood possible


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It is largely fatherhood which makes childhood possible.

Case for Father Custody – 2016





children4justice Who Alienated - 2016

Think Twice about that Custody/Access Assessment. I did.


Did nothing wrong - 2015
The real problem in family court lies in a societal lack of family values of marriage, commitment, and respect for moral values. Society Do Nothing - 2016This percolates upward through the legislatures in all 50 states to create laws which devalue what a father and a mother in combination can do to create and mold a new generation of children and Americans.


Why are you denied contact - 2015

Dear _____,

Thank you for your interest in my service.

In January 2015, I decided I was no longer going to provide court involved service. This includes custody/access assessments.

I have long since learned that court involvement to resolve these matters typically results in an escalation of parental conflict, which in turn is toxic to the well being of children. Further and whereas in the past, this service did prompt some parents to resolve their issues, in more recent years, it seems that as one parent is dissatisfied, it only serves as the stepping stone to the next round of conflict. In other words, court involvement and those services directed for court use are contributory to the very parental conflict from which parents seek relief.

Since January 2015, I have retooled my services towards only peacekeeping.

I do provide a suite of services that are directed to helping separated parents resolve their issues outside of the court arena.

If I may be helpful with any of those services, it would be my pleasure to do so.

Here you will find a listing of my settlement services with complete explanations of each;

Parents are so convinced that custody/access assessments and court are going to save the day and provide a good outcome.

It only seems that that approach contributes the the agony experienced by all.

Parents, please reconsider. Please also know that at any time during the litigation process, you can always withdraw and redirect to peacekeeping services such as mediation, collaborative law or any of my other creative services.

In the end, parents want and need parenting agreements that are most likely to be followed and are durable. Agreements determined between the parents themselves are most likely to provide for that and that is what I strive to provide.

Think twice about that custody/access assessment. I did.

I am Gary Direnfeld and I am a social worker.


Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW


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