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  1. Once again you’ve described my childhood to a tee.

    I think being deprived of touch as a child, has made me very affectinent as an adult.

    A big problem I face is not touching others when I want to comfort them. Our culture doesn’t find that behavior acceptable. Your even labeled perverted or unstable because of it. It’s no wonder we feel so disconnected from each other.

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    1. There is a big difference between cultures about physical touch. It is a shame that people are afraid to show normal healthy affection in certain cultures for fear of how it will be perceived. Many people are just touch-deprived because the culture does not approve of normal friendly touch gestures, hugs, hand holding , etc.

      Thank you for taking the time to read. and share.
      Annie ❤

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      1. I defiantly understand touch depervasion. Mother never wanted to touch me, or be touched from me. As an adult that has made me very affectionate, which most people find needy & offensive. I guess that’s why I preferr animals, instead of people.

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    2. 🐇❤💙🌷💜I understand how you feel. I was also brought up with very little affection and hugging.

      I am very physically affectionate with others but I have also noticed what you describe about people possibly misunderstanding.

      You do have to be careful. I was affectionate with the old ladies I used to care for in the nursing home. I used to always give them one kiss on the forehead at bed time.

      I was allowed to hold their hand if they were sad or just to walk with them. Sadly there was rarely enough to just be with them. There is an extreme lack of priority by the people that run the nursing homes about comforting and spending time with the residents.

      Society does not see comfort as part of health care. Even in the schools you have to very careful touching students.

      When I was a teacher I used to have methods of comforting students without holding them when they were sad. I kept a big , soft, light blue stuffed lion in my classroom.

      I told the students it was there in case anyone had a bad day or needed a hug. Many times a student would come to me at the beginning of class and ask if they could hold the lion during class today.

      No one ever made fun of students holding the lion. They were all touch deprived and knew one day they might ask for the lion.

      This was high school.

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  2. I find compassionate touch to be very helpful. My mother was someone who always had a hug ready or would just hold my hand. Since her passing several years ago I find no one else does this unless I ask. I hate asking, I find it embarrassing. I’ve cried when a stranger has touched me in a comforting way. Usually at the doctor’s or health related. It shouldn’t be this way. Luckily my nephews are open with their affection for me. I had to show up without telling anyone today to get my fix of hugs and genuine smiles from 2 little guys too young to be tainted by the world yet.

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    1. Thank you for sharing that. I understand what you mean about crying when a stranger touches you in a comforting way. I have felt that way before.

      I also have tried to do the same for others. When I worked in nursing homes and assisted living I often held the hands of residents or kissed them on the forehead when I tucked them into bed.

      I always made sure they had their blankets the way they liked them and their stuffed animal, if they liked it. I could see in their eyes that it mattered and made a difference, even if they could not put their words together due to dementia.

      Some of them liked me to sing them a song at bedtime which was also comforting to them. They were magical moments to me. ❤💙💕🌷

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