Professor Mom




mouse's picture mouse

Now imagine a household where all three kids and one parent have strong traits of Asperger's (and the other parent has his moments too)...

We ended up with rules about how these things were decided. That, and it usually was pizza, at a specific Pizza Hut (because the other one had too much grease). And I do remember that the three of us policed the decisions to make sure they stayed even.

I hadn't thought about any of that for the longest time. Scooter hasn't picked up "that's not fair" yet, and it's easier to balance "fair" with just the one kid, so that'll be a new challenge for us!

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

A part of me was inclined to let T.'s choice win out because she *never* gets to pick restaurants--even on her birthday L.'s choice ended up winning over! Usually we are careful with how we implement such decisions, but it was a spur of the moment decision, and I really thought L. would pick pizza!

Omaha Mama's picture Omaha Mama

Wow - it's like I wrote this post! Except that you put it so much better than I would. I've been really annoyed with B lately, the way she's always comparing my interactions with her and her little brother. Which makes him compare things he may not have even noticed. Sigh.
She's always thinking that if I laugh, smile, tickle, do anything with her brother that I don't do equally with her, that I love him more. She gets so UPSET about it.

I yell at the kids when I'm angry or frustrated sometimes. I don't feel great about it, but hey - I'm human and it happens. The great part is how unconditional our love is for each other, which means quick forgiveness. I'm so grateful for that!

Aliki McElreath's picture Aliki McElreath

I often feel the way you do, Omaha--especially lately. It's tough too because T is so interactive all the time, seeking out books to read together, and games to play, and L. just doesn't interact in those ways. In order to spend good quality time with him, I need to be away from T., which is hard to work out--for everyone.

This too shall pass...I hope!