Just the other day, I saw a rant from a friend on my Facebook news feed. In seven sentences, she provided complete and painful intimate details about her marriage that ended three weeks ago because of her husband's betrayal and lies.


Since our offline and online lives are so intertwined, here are five things you need to do fast when a divorce is on the horizon.


For many couples, a real sign of trust in their relationship is sharing their passwords with their partner. I think it's a terrible idea that actually shows a lack of trust, but it turns out I'm in the minority.




Here's how to create a strong, unique password. Many people know to change a password but they forget that their partner probably knows the answers to account security questions like where were you born, your first car and the street you grew up on. So, don't forget to change your security questions as well.















I already talked about changing online passwords and splitting up a joint social media account, but even if you've always kept a separate private profile, there are things you need to do.

First, decide whether or not to stay friends with your ex. Remember that as a friend they can see everything you post, so it might be good to block them for a time.

Double check your privacy settings to make sure you aren't sharing anything with the world you don't want to share. Also, go back through your posting history to take down anything iffy.

Remember that divorce lawyers are checking social media to find advantages in court cases - especially child custody hearings. There have been plenty of divorce settlements or custody decisions made based on one party's stupid Facebook posts.

Speaking of kids, they'll probably spend time with both parents. That gives your ex the opportunity to pick up your kid's phone or hop on to their Facebook account. In other words, anything your kid can see, your ex can see. So, be careful what you share with your kid as well.


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