Hope for Hurting Marriages: Aimee's Story

Anyone who knows Aimee can laugh at the title. The truth is, Aimee is always real. In fact, she is one of those people that have shaped my quest for transparency.  However, her entrance into my life happened about 12 years ago now.  ...more

Releasing Your Expectations

When you live your life expecting too much of others, you are setting yourself for failure. Life doesn't always go the way you'd expect it to. People will disappoint you because they aren't behaving the way you think they should.  There are so many things that they do that may not live up to the potential you think they have. Putting so much emotions into something that you have no control over, may be undermining your own journey....more

Marriage: It Matters

If pop culture or the latest abysmal sociological data were any indication, you'd think marriage was a modern day malady, especially among black folks. You know, something to avoid like the plague or a hypodermic needle laced with Ebola. But, thankfully, there are some outliers out here who still believe in the commitment, maturity, selflessness, sacrifice and all-out awesomeness of this institution and way of life....more

Seeing Through The Untruths

It's not that you are easily swayed, but when you hear something that seems to resonate within you, you begin to believe that what you're hearing is true. Sometimes the untruth is presented in such beautiful packaging that most of us wouldn't see beyond what they want us to see. But eventually there is something that doesn't feel right. You're not sure because you may be the only one who is able to see beyond the facade. It's not easy to say what you believe to be true, when you yourself are not sure. But there is something within you that has you turning away from the untruth....more

Dream Interpretation

  “Dreams are often most profound when they seem the most crazy.” -Sigmund FreudHenri Matisse...more

A Debt-Free Love Story: How One Couple’s Promise to Stop Using Credit Cards Rekindled Everything

There was this fight over money between us.  It wasn’t an overt fight—we weren’t screamers and we didn’t like to argue—but it was there, permeating the room all the time like a poisonous gas, sightless and scentless but lethal just the same.  It infected everything.  It was a silent-treatment standoff of a fight over who wasn’t earning enough, which of our money choices was making the relationship unstable, and which of us was to blame for our debt and the reverberating mess....more

Dump the Divorce Drama Forever

Do you find yourself holding on to who you used to be? Are you wondering how you can finally move on from your divorce?  Do you want to become a Single Mom Super Star?  Plus win a free family getaway!! Then now is the time to make a life changing decision. Join me in the “From Stuck to Success: How to Divorce The Drama & Become A Single Mom Super Star Project. ” There is a FREE Call Wednesday, September 11 at 5pm Pacific/8pm Eastern to discuss the details....more

Moving At Your Own Speed

The world is moving so quickly that sometimes it's difficult to catch up to where you think you ought to be. Knowing that everyone is different and understanding that you are all unique are two different things. You find yourself surrounded by those you think are your peers but somehow you are still running at a different pace.  Even with all the people that surround you, you still feel alone. How can anyone understand who you are, if you yourself are at a loss. One day you know exactly where you should be, then the next day there is no where that you go that gives you comfort....more

It's Time To Let Go

Sometimes you hold on to things for far too long, even though they no longer hold any meaning. The feelings you say you have are from the past. You remember what is no longer, but you have difficulty letting go. It's harder for you to think that you can live without, than it is to walk away. It's painful letting things go on as they are because no one ever wins.  Memories of what was, are slowly fading away. What was once so beautiful, is not so clear anymore. Pretending or creating something that doesn't exist takes you away from the path that the universe has created for you....more

Separation Anxiety: When Everyone Else Is Divorcing

The girls have been struggling with a kind of separation anxiety lately. There have been more than five announcements of separations/divorce from couples they know over the last year. When it first began, it was easy enough to gently explain that sometimes, like with being sisters, you need to get a little space or take a break. They would nod softly, ask if Sean and I were okay, and then move on to the next thing. I was hanging out with Finley one day and she said, “Mom, do I have a stepmom?” ...more
My husband and I had a really bad fight a few weeks ago, and then we were driving somewhere and ...more