American U.S. Society, Cultural and Moral Decline.

It terms of present day United States of America our society and culture,I believe as a nation, society, culture, and many more of our organizations, many more people residing in our nation and many of those holding positions of power and authority over the organizations they manage and the people they suppose to lead have become morally and spiritually bankrupt and corrupt. We have become a immoral society and a nation filled with many more selfish, immoral, toxic, immature, irresponsible, evil and untrustworthy people and in which the majority of the people have rebelled against God and out right reject Him. We have become a nation in which we have become a society and culture that is falling apart because we have fallen away from having a relationship with God and from living a moral life.  Our society and many more of our communities, neighborhoods and organizations have become dysfunctional and broken and  many more communities and organizations lacking good, moral, credible and trustworthy servant leadership.  We have what they term in sociology as a nation social decay and social disorder occurring in the United States today and along with moral decay of its society and among its people. We have a tremendous amount of major social problems with abuse, violence, drugs and crime that frequently occurs across the U.S. culture. Many urban cities have high rates of violent crime occurring in their neighbors and some of our cities have turned into a war zones. These type of social problems with abuse and violence including bullying among students in many of our schools have been occurring and have been great social problems for many decades that seem to go unresolved.  The new problem that has recently become a focus on our news programs is the increase of the incidents of massive public shootings and school shootings.  This I believe is a sign of a society and a nation heading down a path to its own self destruction caused by the people themselves who have become wicked, evil, self centered and immoral and prefer to live in the darkness rather than in the light.  Many people in our nation have become the problem rather than become part of the solution to the many social issues of our day.  The silent majority is as guilty as those who commit such immoral acts and misbehavior.  From what many professionals in the ministry fields and in the psychology and social work professions have seen in the past two decades a large increase in adults having major and serious character issues and antisocial personality disorders. What they are seeing is a trend and increase of many more people in the population who are narcissistic or sociopathic.  They notice more aggressive, controlling, manipulative, antisocial behavioral issues coming from a larger population of the adults in the united states culture of today. The common theme or characteristics these people share are lack of empathy for others, being self centered, and not caring about other people but only of themselves and do not feel any remorse or guilt for hurting others and lack of taking responsibility for their actions even when they are clearly in the wrong or hurt someone. They tend to often blame others rather than blaming themselves. They have a lack of integrity and lack of commitment to moral standards.  They are the typical aggressive bully, manipulator, domineering, controlling type, liar, hypocritical, fake, dishonest, phony, insincere, abusive, disrespectful, uncaring, unkind, insensitive, two faced, inconsiderate and irresponsible, untrustworthy type of person.  The type of person who uses people for their own personal gain and pleasure.  They are sadistic and don’t care if they hurt you. They feel justified in hurting you and feel justified behaving in a evil and irresponsible manner.  There many more people like this that reside in our communities today that are of bad character, they are evil, immoral, irresponsible, very selfish, untrustworthy, troublemaking, and prone to causing abuse and violence.  This is one good reason why the U.S.  American society is falling apart because many more bad people  who reside in the United States who are the cause of our broken society and culture.  Many more anti-social, immoral and destructive behaviors and bad attitudes among a large  portion of the population equals social disorder, social decay and social chaos. Remember the roman empire did not last because many of its citizens and  leaders become morally corrupt. When everything is tolerated and accepted as the norm is a society heading towards disaster.

The challenges and problems youth face today in the United States.

Most of the problems facing today’s youth are not restricted to any one enthnic or social economic group, but affect all young people. Most discussions on young people have focused on issues such as drug abuse, crime, violence, bullying,sexuality and poverty. In addition to these, today’s youth are afflicted by new challenges. These include:  an identity crisis, lack of self confidence and low esteem that includes a feeling of worthliness, a sense of hopelessness and depression, confusion and ambiguity concerning moral issues, the negative impact of the mass and electronic media and of the entertainment industry, and the uneven playing field and competiveness in education, and the discrimination and mistreatment many young people encounter and experience at the hands of most adults and the new issue related to adultism, which is the mistreatment and disrespect of young people because of their age and the often unfair labels and negative, sterotypical attitudes many adults have towards young people. It is the pervailing attitude most adults have towards young people, as though adult’s are more important and more superior. 

 Many adults in the United States believe that most young people are the ones committing most of the violent crime and abusing illegal drugs, and causing most of the problems, when in reality the  truth is that many of the problems in the United States are caused by the adults. The belief that young people are causing most of the violent crime and drug offenses is a myth.  Those who are truly committing most of the violent crime and major drug offenses in the United States are adult ‘s and most of them are in their 40’s and 50’s.  This has been the case for most of the past 40 years and longer.  This is the reason why so many adult prisons are being built in the United States, so as to house the large and ever growing population of adult offenders and criminals. Professionals in the mental health field will tell you that they have seen an increase in more adults being diagnosed with anti-social persoanlity disorder. They maybe either  assessed as narcissistic or sociopathic. They have some similar traits between the two, such as a lack of empathy for others and self centerdness.  The reality is that the United States has become a society,culture and nation with many more self centered and selfish people. Often agggressive and other forms of anti-social behavior, including the willingness to walk all over other people to get one wants, is frequently rewarded in American society.  The moral decay and moral curruption as well as the level of immaturity and irresponsiblity among a large group of adults in the United States, this includes how frequently many more adults misbehave and set the wrong example for our young people is allready having  a negative impact on them today and their own future potential.  This is one reason why you see more younger children behaving aggressively and why so many young people have an attitude of self entitlement since many adults have the same attitude and ways of behaving.  Young people learn and copy from  what they see the adults do and the type of models set for them. Unfortantely, too many young people have fewer positive adult role models they can admire, respec, trust and learn anything positive from.   

Being a Person of Influence

Being a person of influence and being someone who can positively impact people’s lives and to help make a difference, there are certain qualities people must have.  These qualities consist of the following:  Integrity. A person must be one who possesses personal integrity, honesty, sincerity, authenticity, and a strong devotion and commitment to moral and ethical principles.  A person to be influential and to have a positive impact on others must possess goodness and strength of character.  They must be one who can establish and maintain trust with others.  They must be someone who is trustworthy and respectful of other people. They must be loving, kind, respectful and caring towards other people.  Secondly, they must be nurtures. They must have the ability to nurture people. To be a nurturer of others means to highly value others and to be other minded.  To nurture others, one must love, respect and value other people as well as encourage and support others and provide often sincere appreciation and recognition.  One must provide appreciation and recognition towards the positive qualities, strengths and god give abilities and gifts each person possesses within themselves and their own unique personalities. To have a positive impact on other people and to be a person of influence, one must be willing to enlarge others and to help others grow, develop, reach their God given potential and to succeed.  One must being willing to take the time and energy of giving of oneself to invest in the growth and success of others.  To be a person of influence and to have a truly significant and positive impact on others, one must have a positive attitude towards others, to have faith and a high belief in others, and the desire to value others and to make a difference in the lives of other people. In other words, to add value and significance in their lives.  To have a positive impact on others one must show they care about others and have a deep concern for other people.  For example, my experiences working with children and youth I focus my attention on them and in ways in which I add value to them and their lives and their future.  One way that I do this is by showing them that I  care about them.  It is in not only in our words but in our actions that we show people that we care about them and that we love, appreciate and respect them and wish to add value to them and their lives.  Our own actions and everyday behavior and conduct determines the amount and type of influence and impact we have on others. Our actions and behavior is a reflection of who we are as well and who we are, our character often will determine our success and effectiveness in life and our success in making a positive difference in the lives of others.


1 Corinthians 13:4-8








Lack of Integrity in America

There is a lack of integrity in America today.  I believe there is a moral and spiritual crisis, decay and corruption that plagues American Culture and Society today caused by integrity, moral, spiritual and character issues among a vast majority of people who reside in America today. Often many more people behave in disrespectful, abusive,immoral, uncivilized and irresponsible ways.  Many of the issues causing such immoral, irresponsible, abusive and difficult behaviors is selfishness. 



How You Engage and Respond to Children and Youth Matters

Your style of Engagement which I learned from my course work in college in particular social work course work matters to establishing a relationship or alliance and trust with the people you work and interact with.  This is also true when building a positive relationship and alliance and trust with children and youth.  How a person engages, interacts, behaves, responds,and communicates towards and with children and youth will determine the level and degree of influence and trust that will be forged and the type of connection and relationship that is developed.  Often our own world view, beliefs, values, ideals, attitudes, thoughts and expectations influence our own behavior and decisions. They determine how we will behave in any given situation and how we respond, including how we treat others. When we for example have a positive world view, beliefs, attitudes, thoughts and expectations towards children and youth it will show through our own conduct and behavior.  The opposite is true as well.  When our world view, beliefs, attitudes and expectations are negative, wrong  and poor that too will be reflected in our own conduct, behaviors and responses.  What we truly believe and think does affect our own behavior and does have a positive or negative impact on ourselves and on others we come into contact  and interact with.  What we believe we become.  That is how powerful our beliefs are.   For example, my beliefs, attitudes, and expectations towards children and youth is positive which is often reflected in my positive attitude, behaviors and responses towards them and in how I interact with them and treat them.  My style of engagement is often positive  because of my own positive attitude, views and beliefs about them.  Because of my own positive beliefs, thoughts, attitudes and expectations towards young people is reflected in my own style of how I interact with them, treat them and communicate with them I am able to forge and maintain a higher degree and level of influence, respect and trust.  I also have a positive impact on them because of my positive style of interacting and communicating with them and forging and maintaining a positive trusting relationship with them.  In my approach of interacting with them and how I treat them they feel safe and secure in my presence and feel they can be themselves.

Listening and Giving Positive Attention Towards Children.

As a youth worker, I am so amazed how so many parents including adults who work in my profession and in education who spend less amount of time listening to children and spend more time talking to or at children and frequently telling them what to do. Children often have to spend more to listening to adults rather than adults spending more time asking questions and listening to children.  Often battles, power struggles, arguments and some conflicts can be avoided if adults spent more time listening to children and asking them questions.  By actively listening to children along with the intent to learn and to understand and to listen more and talk less you end up having more influence with them.  They will begin to listen to you and your point of view, ideas, advice and opinions when you begin to listen to them first and often.

The more time spent giving children positive attention by attentively and actively listening to them, showing interest in them, giving them frequent encouragement, sincere praise and appreciation, recognizing and acknowledging their strengths, abilities, talents, accomplishments, success, efforts and progress and when they do the right thing and engaging them in their fun activities the more influence you will have with them and you will have more of a positive impact on them.  The more positive attention shown to children more of the same you will receive in return from children including their own positive behavior.   Children seek and crave attention why not give them positive attention.

Character Crisis

There seems to be a character or moral crisis in the United States today.  The lack of moral character, integrity, principles and standards among many of the people in the United States is a big problem.   The moral decay of a society in which greed, selfishness, self centered and self entitled attitudes and anti-social behavior seems to be a rapid problem among a large mass of the adult population and among adult leaders.  Such character, attitude and behavior issues as laziness, irresponsibility, unreliability, undependability, dishonesty, insincerity, non genuineness, aggressiveness, pushiness, overbearing, dictatorial,controlling,caustic, backstabbing, critical, know it all, jealous, ego driven, manipulative, abusive, extreme behavioral and anti-social tendencies and problems and major character flaws make people very difficult, challenging, frustrating, toxic, stressful and disappointing to deal with and people who are anti-social, toxic, unsafe, dangerous, incompetent, unreliable and untrustworthy.

To Lead successfully. To be a successful leader.

What does it take to be a successful or effective leader?  being competent is one quality one must have to be an effective leader.  You must know what you are doing. You must have some knowledge and understanding of the profession or field you are in and the type of work you do and the position you hold. You must have some solid skills and knowledge of the type of work you do. You must also have the desire and willingness to want to continue to learn, improve  and grow both personally and professionally.  You must be willing to try your best and strive for a standard of excellence.

However,  being competent in your work and professional career does not make you an effective and successful leader.  It may help you be competent in your specific position, work and profession and will help you be a competent leader at some level and degree.  Having knowledge of leadership and leadership principles, practices or skills does not make you an effective leader.  Applying and using those principles, practices, skills and your understanding and knowledge of leadership will make you a more successful and effective leader.

To be an effective and successful leader one must be credible, authentic, and trustworthy.  To be an effective leader one must have both competency and character.   An effective leader is someone who is trusted by others and is seen as someone who is trustworthy and credible.   To be trusted by others and to lead successfully and effectively one must be competent  but they must also be honest and trustworthy.  An effective leader is honest, sincere, trustworthy and acts upon their principles, convictions and beliefs.  They make decisions based on matters of principles and what is right.  They make decisions and act upon shared values and principles of a group of people they lead.  They are honest, principled, ethical and moral.  They have strong moral values and beliefs.  They act upon those moral principles all the time.  They have strong beliefs they stand up for. They do what is right for the common good.  They have goodness and strength of character.  They have a high degree of personal integrity.  To be a successful and effective leader you must lead with integrity.  You must also deal with people and treat others with integrity and respect.  To lead successfully one must have high standards for which they act upon with consistency.  Your words and deeds must be in concert with each other.   You must walk the talk.  You must act upon the beliefs you say you have.  You must do what you say to be seen as credible and someone who can be trusted and to be successfully at leading others.  You must be a person of character.

To be a successful and effective leader you must also have a positive attitude.  You have to have hope.  You must be open to change and willing to adapt and adjust to change.  You must be open to new ideas and be able to recognize and value great ideas this includes great ideas coming from other people.   You must have a positive attitude towards other people, their contributions, achievements and successes as well as towards their mistakes and failures.  You must maintain a positive attitude and a attitude of hope and optimism in spite of facing and dealing with struggles, setbacks and problems.   You must have a positive, hopeful and optimistic attitude towards the present and towards the future.

To be an effective and successful leader one must be a good communicator.  They must have the ability to communicate with others individually and among a group of people.  They must also be an effective listener.  An effective leader listens to people.  They are active listeners.  They listen well.   They listen with the intent to learn and to understand.  They also listen with empathy.  Successful leaders are great persuaders.

Effective and successful leaders have the ability to motivate and inspire others.  They encourage others.  They have a high belief towards others.  They help instill self confidence in others.  They believe in others.  They trust others.  They believe in others even when others fail or make mistakes or even before they have proven themselves.   Successful leaders place a high value on others.  They show that they value others by their words and actions.  They respect others.  They are supportive of others and of their contributions, abilities and talents.   Effective leaders inspire others and lift others up.   They do what they can to help others succeed and grow.   They mentor, teach and coach others.  They contribute towards other people’s personal and professional growth and development this includes the people they lead.

Effective and successful leaders have a servant heart and attitude.  They have a strong belief towards serving and helping other people.  They do what they can to be of help and service to others even towards the people they lead.  They also get involved and do whatever they can to serve a cause, and a shared vision and purpose and goal.   A successful leader has humility.  They do not allow their own, selfishness, jealousy, ego or self pride to get in their way towards serving, helping and leading others in a positive and significant ways and having a positive impact and influence on others.

Successful leaders are people of great influence.  They have a strong ability at having a positive influence and impact on other people and their lives.  They place a high value and worth on other people.  They build people up rather than tear them down.

Successful leaders have the ability to develop a shared vision and able to communicate that vision in such a way in which they are able to get everyone on board in helping to commit towards supporting and achieving such a shared vision.

Successful leaders  help create, foster, maintain, sustain and manage a healthy, positive, respectful, affirming, ethical and supportive environment, climate and culture in which everyone feels respected, supported and valued and in which people can contribute, learn, grow, succeed and thrive.

Successful and effective leaders care about other people including the people they work with and the people they lead.  They show others they care about them by their words as well as by their actions.   Effectively leaders love others.  They show love to others by their deeds and actions.

Effective leaders know that to lead others successful and to bring out the best in others you must care about them.  You must believe in them.  You must encourage them.  You must respect them.  You must love them.






Reasons for working with young people

The reasons why I rather work with young people are the following:

1.  My Unique Calling and Purpose.

2.  Young People’s Idealism

3.   Young People desire and seek authentic communities and groups.

4.   Young People trust those who are real and genuine.

5.   Young People’s imagination, creativity, playful and fun loving spirits, attitudes,and energy.

6.   Young People’s  kindness, trusting and spiritual nature.

7.   Young People’s potential.  It is much more easier to teach young people than adults and young people tend to reach their potential, learn and develop a lot easier and quicker and much more difficult to retrain adults.

8.   My desire and purpose to help transform and enrich the lives of  young people and to help equip and prepare them to live healthy, productive,successful, significant and purpose filled lives and to become people of integrity and moral excellence and to be leaders of today and of tomorrow.

9.  To help young people overcome the hardships and problems in their lives.

10.  To use my past hardships and negative experiences to help young people as well as my God Given strengths to help them.  To show them how to overcome the hardships, pains and sufferings and how one can grow and make changes through their hardships.

11.  Opportunities to Inspire them to greatness and to live great lives and lives of purpose.

12.   To be a positive role model that enrich and inspire them and cares about them and loves them.