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Posted 05/15/2012

Not sure why any mother would purposley put their child through unneccesary pain. So sad. Poor boys.

Posted 05/15/2012

JTSmith, I totally can't decipher your first paragraph. 


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Posted 05/15/2012

Stop the mommy wars. Shoving information down the throats of people that hadn't already circed iss pointless and making degrading comments is just bitchy           

I am assuming you meant "Shoving information down the throats of people that have already circed iss pointless" and according to some of the pp it obviously is not. There are a lot of people who circ one boy and then later change their mind after seeing new information.

I always say if you feel good about what you did as a parent it really should not bother you what other people think of your choice. Who cares if people are bitchy, just like every other topic you can always choose to ignore them.


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My only son is not circumsized.  I initially was very much on the fence about it.  It's just "normal" where I'm from, you know?  I live in the South now and have for most of my life and the vast majority of men are circ'd here, but DS was born in California where it's not really normal at all.  So, I was a little conflicted at first, but not definitively for or against it.  I did the research and frankly, I just couldn't find a good reason TO circumsize.

*  not circumsizing is EASY to care  for - no blood, no muss, and NO RETRACTION until it does it on its own.  Wipe it like a finger.  We've never had a single issue.

*  There's no clear cut medical reason (in most cases) to circ.  The risks of illness for circ vs un-circ are minute.

*  The AAP does not advocate for RIC and says that it's not necessary.  it says that the evidence suggests "potential for medical benefits", but the data is not sufficient to say that it actually provides any benefit.  That's like taking motrin just in case you might get a headache.  Doesn't make much sense to me.

*  There are sexual benefits of having a foreskin.  It's naturally lubricating for both and it has tons of nerve endings that generally make sex more pleasurable.

*  My number 1 reason for not circumcising is......I wouldn't alter my girls, why would I alter DS?  He was born that way, why change it?  My girls have all the parts they were born with.




Posted 05/15/2012

I've read all of the comments and no one here has or will say anything that would even come close to getting me to feel bad about my decision, or leave me with any second guesses or regrets.

I will also not say anything to make any of you feel bad, or any regret about your decision.

MY son, MY decision. YOUR son, YOUR decision.

I'd be crazy to come on here and think I am actually going to change anyone's mind about this...

p.s. Just to make it a little fun...I am not going to say whether my son is circ'd or not :)

Posted 05/16/2012

aj, your son is circed. for shizzle- but truthfully my mind has been influenced by the opinions and insights of others.. that is called being human (we are social animals).

and the spelling in some of the posts lends some evidence toward's lululu's hypothesis.

I am also saddened by the moms who do not instinctively want to be with their children when they are going through something scary or painful. Plenty of evidence showing that during vaccinations, babies who are held in mommy's lap put out less cortisol (a stress hormone that is evidence of trauma). so I wrote about that at some point on another forum and the moms were like "oh wow, I didn't know that! I am going to definitely hold LO next time". they were grateful that I gave them some new information and that it influenced them. so yes, some mommas who didn't research it for their first child have changed their minds for the second... it happens! and time goes on and as less and less insurances pay for it (I think very few do now) there will be more and more intact baby boys. that is a truthful statement that is not really a debate.


James "Finn"

born 8/5/10 11:08 pm

Posted 05/16/2012

I'm an American man that was circumcised during the mass infant circumcision program of the 1960's.  I resent the removal of healthy erogenous tissue for no justification, just as a woman would resent the shortening or removal of her clitoral hood.  This is a painful, cruel cosmetic procedure that no pediatric association recommends.  So why do parents order a neonatal surgery that no one recommends?  Perhaps they do not understand the absence of benefits and adhere to Victorian-era values that penises and men are dirty and disgusting.

My son and daughter were both spared circumcision.

Posted 05/16/2012

Mommy2davey Â·wrote "My son is circ'd. Didn't think twice about it."

American parents that don't bother to research optional infant surgery often express the sentiment above.

Posted 05/16/2012

He's intact, any future sons will be as well.

My son, my choice? No, in regards to cosmetic surgery, my son, HIS choice.

Posted 05/16/2012
^^ Dude you're back! Woohoo ;)

I don't know if I will circ if I have a boy, but I would not appreciate being called a child abuser if I did. I know that's basically what some of you are saying. Please be more careful with your words.


Autumn Leigh (8.10.10), Ariel Raine (2.7.13)

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