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Help with preschool teacher :/ *Might be a little long, sorry!*

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Posted 12/20/2012

Agree you are not over-reacting at all.  The response to a child not asking nicely for help with the coat was inappropraite.  Getting no reply at all to an email that asked questions is also not okay.  It is one thing if she misunderstood and then gave you unhelpful info or if she meant to reply, got distracted by something, then forgot until it was too late and her reply was just to apologize for not getting back sooner but no replay at all is just not okay.  I appreciate when teachers tell me about the negative things so I can address it but there should sometimes be something positive to add to....if nothing else at some point a teacher should search for something positive to say so the conversation isn't always negative.  I know that my ds's teacher always tries to include positive thoughts, feelings, progress, something when delivering bad news and I know that as a teacher (of much older students) I do the same when talking with parents. 

It seems like any one of the things you talked about is in itself a little thing but the fact that you have so many examples of unprofessionalism does not speak well for this teacher so going to the principal is probably the best choice since you otherwise like the school.  Is there any other option for another teacher at all?


Mommy to boy/girl twins born Jan 08!!

Posted 12/20/2012

The whole jacket issue needs to be addressed, immediately.  Email with a CC to the principal, or an actual visit to the principal.  Then all the other issues can be brought up as well.

And don't feel too bad about the gifts.  I doubt your son really noticed or cared.  But do bring up the issue that you are not being relayed information about YOUR son.  

Posted 12/21/2012

If I were you, I would have pulled him from the preschool program a long time ago.  And explained to the principal/director that you'll be back for kindergarten, and explain why.  She sounds like a horrible teacher.  She shouldn't be so vocal in front of other kids/parents about your child - or any child for that matter.  

The only thing that you could do differently is one of the first comments you made.  If my kids can't do zippers or buttons, they don't go to school in clothes that have those things.  It's easier for kids to just pull up pants.  Until he can handle snaps, buttons, and zippers on pants on his own - he shouldn't wear them at school.  I know that some schools really frown on having to help the kids at all with clothes, and prefer parents send kids in kid-friendly outfits.  I know it's just a little extra time, but if all 6 kids needed help at the bathroom pulling up clothes, it would add up.

The coat thing because he wasn't polite - out of line.  Talk to the principal.  And the lack of communication.  Talk to the principal and get to the bottom of this.  Good luck.



Posted 12/21/2012
This teacher is terrible. Talk to the principal.
Posted 12/21/2012
I'll tell you what I told the Superintendent of Schools when I complained about the problems Liam was having. My son is 3 years old. School is going to get a LOT harder. I don't want him learning to hate school at such a young age. For the record, things changed the day after the Super had a little meeting with the previously inflexible principal.




Posted 12/21/2012
I feel very sorry for this. For my child she is 3 1/2 her class teacher changed before 20 days she is refusing to go to school. Because principal is taking class . I do know what to do for this ?
lovekc · Original Poster
Last edited 12/21/2012

BJH117 - I did think about that after I wrote it. I try to send him in sweatpants mostly, but sometimes I don't think about it and send him in jeans. He always needs help with the button..so that is sort of my fault.

The teacher still hasn't replied to my email. The principal hasn't either, but I know from experience I need to actually go see her to get a response. I really do like the school. It's small and I know the other parents well. But maybe the preschool program just is not right for my son.

But thankfully everything went well yesterday and he didn't notice anything about not having a gift. Since I had to be at work my dad recorded the Christmas carols they sang so I could see it. There is another boy in the class who seems to need 90% of the teacher's attention. During the whole time the other kids were singing he was throwing himself on the floor and yelling something. The teacher and the boys mom did not seem surprised so I'm thinking this is normal for him. Even so, if the teacher can't handle him while treating the other kids nicely, that isn't my son's fault.



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Posted 12/21/2012

That would make me angry. How did the other kids know about the party and the gifts? Obviously something went out to someone. Are you not on an email list or are you not getting notices that everyone else is getting? Seems strange to me.

The buttoning pants thing is kind of typical. My daughter's preschool did the same thing (but handled it better). Basically at a certain age they had to be resonsible for themselves to the extent that they had to be able to get their pants up and down and buttoned and zipped. Asa  result, until my daughter was more proficient at it I basically sent her in elastic waisted pants.

the jacket is unacceptable. My preschool has a rule-- if your mom sends you with a jacket you need to wear it outside. To make a chid go out in the cold is cruel and not acceptable.

Posted 12/27/2012

At this point I would not be emailing rather than calling or actually showing up. I would request to have a conference with both the Teacher and the Principle together to discuss all these issues. You are being much more patience that I would be in this situation!

The helping with the pants issue wouldn't have concerned me much, I would have said, yes I know we are working on it and would appreciate you helping out until he gets better on his own. The jacket issue, I would have been in the office that day!



DS - My Sunshine born 03/15/2010


Posted 12/27/2012
Not cool!! I teach kindergarten and still button pants and zip coats... it is part of what we do. Oh and treat little kids with respect!! Rude teacher!! 6 kids and 2 adults?? Come ON lady!!

Emilia May 2007Charlie April 2009 Milo August 2013

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