4 weeks, find out pregnant than half hour later docs say you miscarried

Posted 01/02/2013
I found out last night I was 4 weeks pregnant. the doctors said my hormonal level was high and they congratulated my fiance and I. but the wanted to do a pelvic exam to see why I was bleeding so much and why the torturous cramping. They do the exam and a half hour after I'm being congratulated on becoming a mommy, I'm told I miscarried. I am still today feeling the cramping and the guilt of miscarrying out baby. when does the pain stop? Will the guilt ever go away? What did I do to cause the miscarriage. I don't drink or smoke. I eat healthy so please someone tell me what did I do wrong??!

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Posted 01/02/2013

Brandi, I am so sorry for your loss. You did nothing to cause the miscarriage. Please don't feel guilty!

There is very little that we can do physically to our bodies to cause a miscarrige. The reality is that most miscarriages are a result of a chromosomal problem with the embryo. In this case, your body is doing what it should be doing by recognizing this problem early and getting ready for the next baby. 

I know that may be of little comfort right now, but just know that there is nothing that you could have done differently to prevent it from happening.



4 Angel Babies 2010 - 2014

2 Failed IVFs 2014 and Surprise BFP!! EDD 08/03/15.

Posted 04/17/2013
Aw talk about a heck of a roller coaster! :(

Miscarriages are usually spontaneous and there isn't anything we can do. Know that it wasn't your fault.

It's tough to let that guilt go. It's been nearly six years since my first miscarriage and I still feel guilty sometimes. But it gets better. Really, it does. Hang in there

M+L 2011
Rainbow 2012 
Rainbow 2015 

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