Resenting elderly parents will only get you this far: miserable

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Resenting elderly parents will only get you this far: miserable



Sister Envy





You can take it personally, or you can be disappointed in your bad fatherly luck but confident in a strong supply of people who think you're great.

Let's say instead that disliking him is your defense mechanism, a years-in-the-making: "Yeah? Well, I don't like you, either." And let's say for the sake of argument that you're right, he's chatty with your sister only because he favors her and/or approves of her choices.

Then you have one question: What are you able and willing to do about it? Are you ready to say, for example, "I wish we talked more. Does our not being close have anything to do with my not taking a traditional path?"

You can progress only to the extent he wants to, of course, but making yourself vulnerable is the threshold you have to cross to find out how far he's willing to go.

Resenting elderly parents will only get you this far: miserable 06/02/13 [Last modified: Friday, May 31, 2013 11:32am]


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