Thank you guys SO much. The "issue" isn't here right now, but we've got to have what I'm sure will be a stressful discussion when she gets back and I don't even know how to handle this. What should have been a great few days has turned into the most awkward situation. I've never had to deal with something like this and DH is stuck right smack in the middle and that alone pisses me off more than anything. I can't get over just how angry I am, this is a horrible feeling not to be able to shake.

I'm not violent but I feel that way right now..... and I'm not religious, but I feel like I should be praying for sanity and calm.
