


(87 Posts)
VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 07:42:07





justaboutchilledout Mon 04-Mar-13 07:47:11

She's been sick every day for months, and you're only taking her to the doctor now?

Svrider Mon 04-Mar-13 07:49:32

Yeh there's a middle ground between "fussing" and neglect!
Hope your dd finally gets some help today
I also hope GP tells her she doesn't have to wait months for you to take her
She can go alone

ScottyDoc Mon 04-Mar-13 07:50:01

Perhaps it's appendicitis? Have they ruled that out? Or an allergy to something in her food. Stress can also have an effect in eating and digestion. I would recommend seeing a naturopath/nutritional therapist if the GP doesn't take it seriously.

orangepudding Mon 04-Mar-13 07:50:02

Why haven't you taken her sooner?

VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 07:53:06

Dr ruled out appendicitis last time we were there and seemed to think I was making a fuss.

If she'd been vomiting loads I'd have taken her sooner but like I say its just a mouthful, slightly more than a mouthful. She burps loads as well and it seems that she eats, burps and brings a mouthful up. So I've spent weeks telling her to stop burping. If I did a massive belch like she does after eating I'd bring food up.

lljkk Netherlands Mon 04-Mar-13 07:54:02

Is it all in her stomach or does she have trouble swallowing?

VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 07:55:56

Its all in her stomach. I'm veering between thinking she has reflux to thinking she just has terrible table manners. Then on Friday she told me she can't stop herself burping. Which I'm a bit hmm about, I don't know if its a habit she's got into or whether after spending so long burping she really can't stop it.

lljkk Netherlands Mon 04-Mar-13 07:57:42

Burping would be consistent with reflux or similar weak valve at top of stomach, doesn't sound made up to me. How many 12yo Girls really enjoy burping?

Wow, I am concerned at your lack of concern.
I would not be "boasting" about not have taken her to the dr - when you then go on and say she has been unwell for 10 months!!! That's neglect.

I would be horrified if I was your GP. I am horrified

VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 08:00:08

DD thinks its really funny, the burping anyway. Always has done, and farting. She was trying to burp the alphabet at the weekend.

VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 08:02:08

She's not been unwell for 10 months, she was unwell 10 months ago and we took her. She started with been sick a bit less than 2 months ago, 2 months max. It wasn't every day to start off with but has been over the last 2 weeks. We tried to get an appt last week and today was the first available.

VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 08:03:48

And I wasn't boasting about not having taken her to the Dr. Just trying to say that I'm not the sort to go to the Dr every time they have a bad cold, etc so I hope the Dr doesn't think I'm fussing when I'm there today and realises if I am taking her then I'm worried about her.

butterfingerz Mon 04-Mar-13 08:07:42

It's your job to fuss, you're her mother. It's not healthy to burp and be sick after every meal. It must be quite embarrassing especially if it happens at school. Just because she finds it funny, doesnt mean its normal. She may need stronger meds or a referrel to a consultant for further investigations.

There is a balance between taking them to the dr at the slightest thing, and not taking them. You have got the balance wrong on this occasion, in my opinion, you cannot change that, but I would however ask you to seriously reconsider that thought process in the future.
I hope that she is fine, and that there is a simple solution to the problem, however - you will have to be able to live with the fact that your daughter has been suffering on and off for months, and a simple trip to the dr could have sorted it out.

lougle Mon 04-Mar-13 08:08:27

You sound like you're worried that he'll think you're neurotic, but I don't think you are being.

Does she describe any burning sensation or discomfort? Does she seem to be full quicker than you think she should be?

How are her bowel movements? Normal, painful? Diarrhoea or constipation?

Lay off the op! Viva you know there is something up with your daughter, so go to the docs confident that you are not wasting their time. Make sure you push for answers & don't get fobbed off. Good luck! Hope your daughter feels better soon.

lougle Mon 04-Mar-13 08:10:18

I think we need to consider the pressure Viva may have been under by the GP last time.

I've been there. I'm still there. I've been told that DD2's stomach pains are psychosomatic, stress, or a bit of constipation.

I've changed her school, she's much happier, but tummy pains still wake her at night sometimes.

I'm not taking her back to the GP yet, because last time I took her I was told that it was important not to make a fuss of it.

VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 08:16:32

Bafana - I can assure you she hasn't been suffering. She's had the symptoms I've described but that's different to suffering.

Mumsnet at its best again I see, nice and supportive. I posted on here last week asking for advice and didn't get a single reply. But people pitch in when they smell a bun fight. Didn't see anyone been helpful and supportive last week.

Lougle - I do wonder if some of it is pyschosomatic. She's been having problems at school and not been happy since she's gone to secondary. There's been tears about lack of friends, etc. However she is a bit of a drama llama and when questioned will say that she's hung out with x and y. People are always ringing her, etc so I don't think the friendship thing is as bad as she makes out. She did get bullied on the bus by a Year 9 girl but that's been sorted and the other girl is no longer on the bus.

Oddly enough at weekends she's OK. Then it all fires up Sunday evening again. She hasn't been sick at all Sat/Sun this weekend.

VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 08:18:00

And I think thats probably one of the reasons she hasn't been to the Dr before. Think I must ring up and make an appt and then she has a couple of days without been sick so I think its sorted.

justaboutchilledout Mon 04-Mar-13 08:22:41

OK, I am sorry if my reply felt like you were being attacked. I was trying to make the point that you weren't being neurotic, it obviously came across badly.
If you find your GP unsympathetic I think you need to think about changing doctors.

lougle Mon 04-Mar-13 08:25:16

FWIW children who are feeling unhappy and then get medical symptoms usually have non-descript and unverifiable symptoms such as 'tummy ache' 'ear ache' etc.

Children can make themselves sick on demand, but it's unlikely to be that if she isn't making too much fuss and it seems quite spontaneous after eating.

Out of interest, I wonder if she'd be sick if she had, say, toast or a breakfast bar?

VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 08:28:44

She's not sick after a snack, just a meal. Though she had a McDonalds yesterday and wasn't sick.

Also yesterday for lunch she had spagetthi and she told me that she was sick after and I know she wasn't. She said that she'd run out to the chicken run and was sick in there and the chickens ate it. Well all the time inbetween her having lunch and us going out I was in the kitchen and she never went out the back door so I know thats not true.

She's also never sick at school after having lunch which makes me think that perhaps she can control it. She wouldn't want to be sick infront of her mates.

VivaLeBeaver Mon 04-Mar-13 08:29:59

JustAbout - thanks. It was more the people outrightly saying I've been neglectful.

megandraper Mon 04-Mar-13 08:30:07

Has your doctor done a test for coeliac disease?

Join the discussion

Join the discussion


Register now