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Comment: Re:I read slashdot (Score 1) 474

by haruharaharu (#34193274) Attached to: Facebook Knows When You'll Get Dumped

Who's 'they? Assuming girls, you can like it or not, but good luck changing things. The sexual interest is most certainly not moment to moment - they decide you're interesting in a sexual dimension or not. Once you're in the 'not' bucket (aka friend zone), good luck getting out of it. She may not decide to pursue anything, but you have to be a potential first if you want a decent chance at sex. Whether you decide to pursue longer term stuff is a separate matter.

And yeah, girls go for confident people in general, which means assholes have an advantage, at least short term. Me, I'm finding that having fun and not worrying about specific girls attracts more girls than focusing on someone specific.

Now, some specific advice: find what makes you drool (aside from girls), be it, own it, make it work. Go to the gym, get in shape, wear clothes that look good on you and make you feel comfortable. When you see someone that interests you, approach them, talk to them, and find out what they have to offer. If that makes you nervous, talk to more girls with no particular goal in mind and get used to doing that. If she isn't interested, move on.

A good footnote to this: get good at gauging interest and nonverbal cues so you don't waste time on someone that just doesn't care. There are lots of girls out there, so don't worry so much.

Comment: Re:I read slashdot (Score 1) 474

by haruharaharu (#34159234) Attached to: Facebook Knows When You'll Get Dumped

When they say that they think of you as a friend, that's just code for "I don't like you that way". Of course they want to be friends with their lover, but the sexual interest has to be there first. I see people who started as friends, but they were never 'friends', so to speak. I suppose if you start out as just friends and the guy doesn't go for it immediately, then the girl might start to develop feelings and go after the guy. Who knows? It's all speculation, and I just run experiments all day. I'm not inclined to get too rigorous, though - when I find the right mate, I'm inclined to stop experimenting.

What amuses me is the progression from AFC to smooth operator - basically, girls demand a certain pattern of behavior, guys learn the pattern, start getting lots of attention, and then the girls (who would've ignored said operator if he wasn't so smooth) chase the guy, while the guy notices all the attention and take full advantage. Then girls wonder why it's hard to find a good man.

Comment: Re:MS is doing that (Score 1) 345

by haruharaharu (#34069712) Attached to: Ray Ozzie's Departing Memo a Warning To Microsoft

Hit on different women, get used to talking to women without expectations and just be funny/engaging. If you're actually into the women you go for, when she says too old/too smart/etc. that just means try a bit more (just don't go too far, and by doing, you learn where that is). Some mutual interest is fine, and don't be afraid to be a total geek - lots of girls out here like that.

One thing that really helps: learn to dance, get some rhythm, and get in better shape. Most women like a nice ass just as much as we do.

Comment: Re:MS is doing that (Score 2, Insightful) 345

by haruharaharu (#34019182) Attached to: Ray Ozzie's Departing Memo a Warning To Microsoft

The Jocks get the pussy, so yes they are the fittest, and so long as they continue getting laid, why change? The nerds and geeks around here (seattle) do pretty well for them selves, but the secret is this: own yourself and don't take any shit and be attractive - you will get some too. You don't have to be a jock or a meathead, but it helps to be in decent shape and have some physical skill (unless you like disappointing your sackmates).

All that pretend crap you're talking about is just getting in the way - bail on it, find what makes you happy and just TALK TO THEM LIKE THEY'RE NORMAL.
