Recents posts in Speech and language concerns on BabyCenter Do you think your baby's falling behind? Compare notes with other parents, and share advice and support. BabyCenter Logo 212 78 6 years old daughter kyla my daughter is residing in Philippines sturdying english, mandarin, tagalog..i notice her tagalog lessons is affecting her english pronounciation. should i be worry?


Wed, 17 Dec 2014 01:05:47 EST
10 month old not babbling, mimicking, autism? please help!
Oh, he also does not respond to his name at all, I know he can hear me as he reacts to other things I say at times and he responds to his toys.]]>
Tue, 25 Mar 2014 11:01:48 EST
Repetitive speech

Has anyone else ever experiences anything like this or have any experience with this? I'm not sure if he's trying to get his sentence out too fast and gets stuck, so he just repeats or what.]]>
Sat, 22 Nov 2014 15:46:52 EST
Advice needed please: Developmental/Speech delays? :(

**I posted this originally on my birth board but's pretty much dead. Sorry if what I have in here has been posted 1000x's on this board but unfortunately I have a very busy work day today and can't read through everyone else's prevoius posts :( (I wish I could - I am planning to over the weekend). Thanks! Sorry again if this is annoying.

Okay, I'm seriously about to either breakdown in tears or start pulling my hair out.. And this is going to be long - sorry.

It seems everyday over the past two weeks I've received some sort of feedback/qustion/comment from day care, family, husband, etc. about my child and the potential that he is developmentally delayed, speech delayed, autistic, showing early signs of ADD/ADHD (is that even possible!?), on and on and on. Of course that is followed up by looking me right in the eye and basically saying "so what are you going to do".

The truth is, I'm a FTM of a very active, intellegent (at least I think so) little boy and I don't really know what to do.

Here's some background... My son has had terrible ear infections since he was 6 months old. Basically 6-13 months he had an ear infection every week and he was on ALOT of meds. In Feb this year we had ear tubes put in which seemed to solve the problem. At the time his speech really stepped up - between Feb-July-ish he was probably saying 20+ or so words and on a somewhat regular basis, he learned how to climb stairs, kick/throw balls, everything that was developmentally appropriate at the time and some even more advance (per his evaluation at 18 month check up). Then July came and he got sick - ear infections that seemed to drain okay and then stopped (which I assumed was because it was over due to meds/ear drops). After that he sort of stalled in his development... between July-late Sept he really didn't learn very many new words - maybe 1 or 2 - and kind of stopped talking as much. All other physical developments seemed to be on track. Finally in Sept I knew he had a full blown ear infection that wasn't draining appropriately and of course, Dr's confirmed ear tubes had fallen out. He had three ear infections in less than 4 weeks and in Oct we had a second set of tubes put in and his adenoids taken out. While at the ENT visit I requested a hearing evaluation because I was concerned with the stall in speech development and failed in his right ear but they said it was most likely due to all the fluid that wasn't draining. After surgery, ENT said he wasn't concerned about his hearing and that he should start catching up just fine.

But he's not. He hasn't learned a single new word in over a month. He is no where near the 50+ words and 2-word sentences that is "normal" for a almost 2 year old.

So, the daycare partners with a local speech pathologist in our area and asked her to come in and evaluate all of the children ages 18mos-4years with parental consent. Well, of course we said yes and just got her "evaluation" back late last week. But the problem is everything she wrote down that he "doesn't do" he actually does? She said he didn't make gestures to show what he wants - but he points at stuff all the time and will grab your hand and bring to you what he wants. She said he didn't respond to his name - but he does for almost everyone unless he's very focused on something like coloring or a book. She said he wouldn't point to items she named - but almost every night we play a game where in his word book we call out the word and he points and pretty much every time gets it right.

She never mentioned anything about actually saying words/sentences.

Add on top of all of this is the fact that my FIL is 100% convinced that my son is autistic (because apparently he's a doctor or something?) and keeps hounding my husband about it. His "diagnosis" is based on the fact that my son won't keep eye contact with him for extended periods of time. HE IS 2. A plus, dear FIL, we live 2 hours away and he sees you all maybe once a month so he is often pretty distracted when we stay in your house with all your "new" toys and books and your dog, etc.

Daycare now is hounding me because DS won't drink out of a regular cup. Apparently the next classroom does not use sippys and he has to switch and they are worried about him not drinking in the next class. I'm really not sure what to do about this but the comments of "all the other kids pick it up so easily" and "aren't you trying with him at home?" aren't helping ease any of my concerns :(

So all of this - and here is my question - if you were in (or are/was in) a similar situation, what would you do?


Fri, 14 Nov 2014 09:18:12 EST
Tell me about ear tubes and speech delays

Im just so sad we didint catch on to this sooner, my poor kid cant hear.

Wed, 13 Apr 2011 04:28:40 EST
Where do you think she's at? Sun, 02 Nov 2014 08:25:39 EST 3 year old reversing pronouns I have some concerns about my 3 year old's speech development.  Let me start with her strengths.  She spoke early and had over 300 words by 18 months.  She also started speaking in phrases and sentences early on.  Her vocabulary is huge and she understands everything.  She knew all her colors and shapes by 18 months, all her letters and numbers to 20 by 2, could count to 10 with 1 to 1 correspondence 2.5, knew all the letter sounds by 2.5, and is starting to read CVC words at 3.

  However, she usually uses "you" when she is referring to herself and "I" when she is referring to me (mommy).  So she might say "you want me to hide" when she means that she wants mommy to hide.  She uses he/ she appropriately when referencing someone else.  She spends the majority of time at home with me and her 18 month old sister so most of the conversation is between myself and the children.   Her daddy usually gets home after she is in bed and therefore she really only has an adult modeled conversation on weekends.  I just figured that since I call her "you" she internalized it.    She also has some echolia, but it is always in context and she also has a lot of spontaneous independent speech (e.g. she might say "Do you want a cookie?"  "Instead of I want a cookie." -- although she can and does make say I want a cookie at times)She is also a very shy and nervous child. I recently found out that these are red flags for autism so I became concerned.  I took her for a speech evaluation and she was extremely shy and resistant.  Even being resistant her receptive language score was extremely high.  She "failed" the expressive language part (2 points below average), but this was mainly because she refused to answer most of the questions and the examiner decided to discontinue the test without telling us.  I left the evaluation feeling like it was pointless.  The things she refused to answer she has know for years (e.g. What color is the banana?  What is the name of this animal?) The SLP offered to see her once a week on a trial basis, but admitted that she was unsure if she could help her since my daughter was resistent. I asked her about autism and she said she didn't think so because her eye contact was good, she read the SLP and my tones well and she made requests perfectly clearly during the exam ("I want the potty."  "I want to go home.")  I am waiting for a call back from the pediatrician to discuss it further, but am really unsure of how to proceed or how to best help her.  It just seems so odd that she wouldn't have picked up on these pronouns naturally.  My husband pointed it out to her and she can now correct herself and use I and me if she is being cooperative.  So if we say "How do you say that or We don't understand you" she can change the you to I or me.  She is also starting to do it more and more spontaneously.  She also will be stubborn at times and say "You don't like to say I" or "If you don't say I ..."  As a side note, my 18 month old recently began to refer to herself as "you" also.  She also has over 300 hundred words and can use some 2 word phrases, but is starting to say things like "hold you" and "help you" instead of "hold me" or "help me."   I am not sure if the fact that they both are doing this points toward them just having a lack of exposure to adult conversation or if I should now worry about my 18 month old as well.  I am sorry this post got so long and thank you for reading this far.  Any help/advice/stories would be much appreciated.


Wed, 25 Feb 2009 15:40:41 EST
Signs of Apraxia Sun, 21 Sep 2014 22:13:31 EST speech regression and self harm I'm starting to get really worried and don't know if I sould call my son's doctor. He started speaking at about 9-10 months and by 11 months had a 10 word vocabulary and signed "milk" and "please". However now he isn't speeking as much and is back to grunting and pointing and thowing a fit. If that isn't concerning enough he has also started smacking himself, maily on his stomach, when he is mad. WHAT DO I DO??? any suggestions?

Sun, 14 Sep 2014 00:17:11 EST
Some comfort for you Hi all, I have been posting on these boards for months now because I was worried about my almost 3 year old son, Brady. He qualified for Early Intervention a few months ago because they told us he had a receptive language delay, and I was very worried about autism.

Since he was a baby hes done some weird things, like hand flapping when he ran, extreme echolalia (repeating all of our questions, repeating tv shows, commercials, etc). He has a few major sensory issues like hair cuts and nail clipping (Its like we are murdering him). Chewed his entire crib, ate books, chewed wood, and still bites his nails 24 hours a day.....Was very delayed in speech and had some anxiety issues with odd things (certain adults, shadows, ants)....

I just completed his eval to see if he qualified for developmental preschool and they laughed about it. They said he was one of the brightest kids they had ever seen, including the "typical" kids, and there is absolutely no receptive language delay at all. He just didnt know HOW to answer questions a few months ago. He has come such a long way this summer that you would never think anything would be odd about him at all. No more eating books, chewing wood, no flapping or repeating our questions. He talks like a 3 year old just in a few months progression..... It seems like he completely grew up this summer. He fit into the preschool better than a lot of the older kids and is doing great.

For all of you that are worried about your kids and wondering when their issues will end, please try to relax and know that many things CAN just be a phase. While this isnt always true obviously, I would suggest to continue with testing or whatever youre doing for your babies, but please dont worry so much until they are a little older. The people that gave Brady his eval said until 3, there can be a lot of weird traits and habits that will completely start to go away around age 3......

Just to give you some comfort?

Fri, 29 Aug 2014 07:29:13 EST