TTC and a teacher?! Join me!

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HopefulFairy Wed 16-Jan-13 20:58:35

Good morning (evening) Miss/Mrs MummyToBe!

I don't know about you, but I'm finding it hard to balance teaching+TTC. Too tired to DTD as often as I think I probably should be+so overwhelmed with the job that I'm filled with lots of negative thoughts+feelings all the time sad

Everyone keeps telling me that I need to be less stressed if I want to conceive but find that an impossibility.....unless I resign!!

Any other teachers out there feel like this?

Thatssofunny Sun 17-Feb-13 16:02:21

BeQuicksie Sorry to hear that AF is on its way. It's always so annoying when that happens and it seems to make the next weeks go so slowly. Well, chance for a wine. I get weird symptoms all the time and then af appears...I think my body is just trying to pee me off big time, or it invents symptoms because I'd like for it to happen so much. (God, makes me sound like a crazy person.)

It breaks my heart when I hear that my old class are such trouble this year. Went back to visit them a while back and they complained that their new teacher was too strict. The had told me last year that I was too strict, but apparently I was: "at least funny, Miss. Lessons now are so boring." Aehm, yeah, but I'm quite a bit younger than their current teacher and have a completely different teaching style. (Their current teacher is amazing! I hope they come to appreciate her and she doesn't give up on them.) I'd have gladly kept them for another year, and would quite happily swap them for my current ones, though. Since I'm not at the school anymore, I don't have to listen to all the stuff they apparently can't do despite having been taught it last year. grin

With my class this year, their previous teacher and I agree that they are annoying. I also know that she's taught them stuff that they refuse to know now. My usual comment is "I know you have done this last year. I've spoken to Miss...about this. She has taught you this, so stop pretending that you've never heard of it before!" angry grin

BeQuicksieorBeDead Sun 17-Feb-13 17:38:38

Thats I was round at a teacher friend's house last night and we were talking about the amount of time we have spent teaching, making resources, planning...only for the kids to swear they have never seen it before. Our particular fave is FRACTIONS. Every year group claim to never have done it! What, you mean you don't remember cutting up all that pizza/cake/fruit that I spent a fortune on? Oh, that, was that fractions? Grrrrrr!

I think I might just threaten to chop them in to fractions next time!

Spotting seems to have gone away about your body being out to get you sectioned!

Thatssofunny Sun 17-Feb-13 17:51:32

BeQuicksie Haha, my class can do fractions. We've done flippin' fractions for weeks. Even my SEN kid can now change them to decimals and percentages, esp. when I allow him to colour them in. If they claim next year that they can't, the TA will slap them round their heads (she's with us and year group above). Mine usually go "Oohhh...yeah...I remember that...How did that work?" when we revise things we've done earlier in the year. It's my top group keeping me sane...we enjoy doing Level 6 stuff and I feel like a kid in a candy store each time. grin I AM a crazy person. confused We'll see how they fare when we revise calculation methods next week.

My body is driving me nuts. I'm soooo hungry all the time at the moment and there's no reason for it. Feel like I'm getting a cold, but have dodged them all year so far. (If I lose my appetite, it's a sign that I'm really, really ill. Never constantly felt hungry, though. It's not as if I haven't eaten.) HAHA...DP has the dinner ready! grin I'm quite sure I'm not really a lunatic. At least I hope I'm not. They allow me to teach little kids. confused

BeQuicksieorBeDead Sun 17-Feb-13 23:19:43

Thats you don't have to be crazy to work here, but if you aren't, you will be soon!
I taught year 6 for years and loved it... Especially maths. I found maths tricky at school and I love unlocking problems with them. I teach early years now and I love that too but it is so different, it is a completely new job! If anyone told me they were fed up of teaching, I would definitely recommend they do a drastic change of key stage as it feels like a new career!
I have had gnawing hunger pains this week too, and felt quite sick if I didn't have my breakfast on time...I was so sure something had changed, especially with the sore bbs! Maybe the acupuncture had made a difference... Crikey, how will I symptom spot if every month is like this one?!

ILoveMyCats Mon 18-Feb-13 05:59:17

Hello all! Can't sleep, so am up earlier than on a work day on the first day of half term!
Was interested to read that you've also had dizziness on pregnacare, thatssofunny. I started a thread about it and found others with similar side effects. Have been off them for over a week now and feeling much less weird.
Going to start acupuncture this week & applying for new job! Still no af on cd 63, but the acupuncture should help shorten my cycles. I hope!
Have a good week, ladies. Love to hear your news.

Thatssofunny Mon 18-Feb-13 20:15:05

BeQuicksie I think changing to EY would be my absolute nightmare. I cannot cope with teaching little ones. Had YR/1 during training and absolutely hated it, because I'd rather just see them play...I switched to KS2/3/4 during training and then taught at a middle school for years to avoid just that. Only just ventured into a primary school...and so far haven't stepped on any of the little people. grin

ILove I've changed to Centrum, hoping they will agree better with me. Had taken Pregnacare only once every few days, but still felt dizzy. Wow, 63 days. That's a really long time. Are yours always that long? I start to stress when I've got a long cycle...mine are 26-33 days. By the time I get to day 33, I've started to get really annoyed, but usually that's because I was stressed during normal ovulation time, I'm generally already annoyed anyway. grin

h313n Wed 20-Feb-13 08:32:47

I'm a teacher! I've been ttc #1 for over a year and just been having the blood tests etc. which were impossible to arrange outside school time so I told school I needed blood tests but not what they were for. Having just had another teacher announce her pregnancy the deputy jokingly said she hoped I wasn't pregnant as well....As I have a short luteal phase I had to go back for a day 28 as well. I just told school they hadn't found what they were looking for so had to test again - perfectly honest really!!

Thatssofunny Wed 20-Feb-13 20:45:25

Welcome h313n. Hope the tests work out well. We've got two ladies pregnant at my school. Well, let's hope it's contagious. grin

Haven't got any "symptoms" (unless getting a cold is one...which I doubt), and too busy at school to worry too much about it for most of the day.

Went to look at the school I might apply at, but not too sure. Didn't feel amazing, but I'm terrible on such school visits. I don't wanna ask a million questions and the head seemed to really rush us through the place. Don't think she fell in love with me, either. grin Unfortunately, the label "outstanding" doesn't impress me (I've worked at an outstanding school for years and know how much hard work it is...and how much show) and I'm not desperate or inexperienced enough to pretend to be all bouncy and excited. I know that it's a nice enough school, because I live in the area...confused

Bearface Thu 21-Feb-13 10:32:45

h313 - it really irritates me maybe irrationally so when senior members of staff make jokes about people being/not being pregnant. It's absolutely none of their business and they shouldn't make comments about it. I known people in SLT who've made comments like that before to people who've had miscarriages and they've been so upset but not felt they could say anything. Grrrrr. Grumble grumble. I did the same as you though with blood tests. Again, to my mind my medical details are none of their business (unless it prevents me from doing my job). I wouldn't worry in the slightest about not telling them. Hope it all works out for you h313 and they come back with positive results.

I'm in the process of applying too 'Thatsso'. I've got an app going in for a place I'd really like to work but is a half hour commute, but have just heard on the grapevine that another more local job I'd like might be coming up, so not sure what to do. I'm not sure closing dates will overlap either. confused But I'm still going to go for the original one as a)I might not get it and b)I might not like it, so we'll see. I know what you mean about not being excited about 'outstanding' schools Thatso- they're bloody hard work, but in a different way to other schools. However, I'd still take an 'Outstanding' over a 'satisfactory' personally, although I know it's not everyone's cup of tea. I wouldn't worry about the head though - from my experience they are often more nervous about creating a good impression than the candidates. grin

ILoveMyCats Thu 21-Feb-13 18:28:56

Hello hello!
Taking a break from job application. Trying to put a positive spin on being a TA wanting to return to teaching. School I'm applying for is in SM, so no pressure! They were brutally honest when i visited that the staff (most of whom have left) were not up to the job! So they are looking for several strong teachers from April & September. My neighbour is a parent governor, so I have a bit more info, otherwise I wouldn't have touched it with a barge pole.
Good luck to others applying for jobs. It's an odd process at the best of times.
Went for acupuncture session yesterday. No pain, but have sore spots where the needles were. Will mention that when I go back next week. Still no af, but didn't think it would come that quickly after! thatsso - my cycles have always been long - about 35 days before taking the pill - but now they're mad! I've had 2 cycles of 43 days and this 65+ one. So in 6 months of trying, I've only have 3 cycles. Hence the acupuncture. She did say that the first session could cause me to ov, if that's what's delaying my cycle, so could get pg now. But, if I've already ov and am stuck in luteal phase, then it should regulate the progesterone and start af. I did have a smiley OPK this cycle, on day 21, but who knows how accurate they are?! That would mean a 44 day luteal phase!!

h313n Thu 21-Feb-13 19:14:52

Good luck with the job application. My DP wants to move house (somewhere warm abroad) and both of us get new jobs but I keep saying I don't want to go anywhere as I would lose my maternity entitlement should I ever manage to get pregnant!!

sparkle9 Fri 22-Feb-13 10:23:00

Does anyone else always get ill during half term? I have a stinking cold which is making it hard to DTD!

Bearface Fri 22-Feb-13 10:43:12

Yep, Sparkle - I'm snotty and horrid. Ironically I think I caught it from being around a friend's kids a few days ago. Always ill in hols. Gah! We're supposed to start DTD tonight but I feel knackered already and I've only just got up. Feel like crawling back into my bed.

Thatssofunny Sat 23-Feb-13 15:22:13

I usually get ill during the holidays, which is terribly annoying. It hasn't happened so far this year, though, hoping it will clear up by itself very quickly. I usually take NightNurse and that tends to help pretty quickly (apparently not advised when pregnant,...or having even the slightest chance...the lady at the pharmacy refused to hand it over...not telling her next time, pah...).

I've just written my job application and now in the process of designing wedding invites. We'll see what happens. Everything always seems to happen at the same time, but since I'm currently feeling like af is just around the corner, I might as well apply.

h313n I'd love to move somewhere warm. I can't believe I moved to this cold little island in the first place. I really miss the warmth. Always seems to be miserable here,...and I can't wait for summer (would love a proper one, though...20 degrees is a spring temperature, not a summer one).

(It's H313n, I had a name change...)
So, everyone happy to be going back to school tomorrow?! I know half term week has varied greatly across the country so it might just be me who's back at school tomorrow but hasn't planned more than two lessons yet and really can't be arsed doing any more. When I'm not in the mood I just can't get my planning done. I can spend 4 hours failing to complete what should take an hour. Picking up my test results from the GP tomorrow after work so my mind really isn't much on school.

ILoveMyCats Sun 24-Feb-13 17:35:02

Hope you're all recovering from bugs etc won't mention that colds are supposed to be symptom of early pg. I've always caught most bugs going round school, usually towards the end of terms when I'm tired.

Had to let you know what my acupuncturist said on Wednesday. Amongst the unsolicited advice on dtd (making dice of likes to maintain spontaneity), she said that working with children helps when ttc. Her actual words were 'playing with children puts you in the right place'. What a load of cack! She also told me to be more feminine!! I chose her as she's a GP as well, but think she's got a bit caught up in the happy clappy! As long as she does the acupunture right, I'll ignore the rest.

Cd69. Aaaaaargh! If I did get pg this cycle, how the hell would due date be calculated?? DEcided to try dtd on Sundays, Tuesdays and thursdays to cover the 2-3 day theory, but so we don't have to count!! Dunno if this will work, as it may put more pressure on, but worth a go, no?

ILoveMyCats Sun 24-Feb-13 17:36:32

Hello barking! Crossed posts with you. Not happy about going back tomorrow, but not long til Easter!!!

sparkle9 Sun 24-Feb-13 22:48:20

I'm feeling a bit better tonight. Of course I am! It's back to school tomorrow. Always ill in the holidays but haven't had a day off sick since my NQT year.

My cold is lingering and I've had a huge allergic reaction to some medication for an infection. I'm swollen and covered in a rash. Not conducive to DTD! I'm still waiting for AF after coming off the pill. Then it's fingers crossed for the next cycle of TTC.

Gooseysgirl Mon 25-Feb-13 06:38:37

Hello all, just a quick update from me! Was too wrecked and stressed from work this month to DTD so now awaiting AF so we can restart TTC. Feedback from my obs was fine in the end. Soooo unmotivated to go back to work today! Don't let TTC put any of you off looking for new jobs. I'm hanging on where I am as I love the people I work with and the mat leave deal is fab but will be reconsidering next year if no success with TTC...

Bearface Mon 25-Feb-13 09:38:03

I'm back at work tomorrow rather than today (Mon), but spending as little time as possible today marking and prepping. Going to try and do it as quickly as I can. It's a bit of a joke as I don't get paid to do it either, so it will be a very quick session I hope.

I've sent off my application and now just waiting to hear. I should find out this week

AF has just finished today (after 11 days) so I am relieved. It seems my AF is always that long now, which in a 27-10 day cycle means I'm spending a third of it on AF. I've had tests though and no one seems to think anything is wrong with my hormones, so I'm just bemoaning the crapness of it really. Hmph. Preferred being on the pill when I knew it would be 7 days and that was it. Oh well. Hoping it will all be worth it in the end.

Hope everyone has a good first day back.

ILoveMyCats Mon 25-Feb-13 20:37:51

So, this isnt ttc related, but need a rant and know you'll understand.
The school gossip knows that I went on a school visit. She cornered me in the staff room & said she'd heard I'd been for an interview. I set her straight that it was a visit & she wouldn't say who'd told her. I only told the head & my class teacher & head of phase. Why would any of them have said any thing? Is it worth saying something to those people tomorrow? My fear is repercussions from whoever she has told & ending up with a bad reference if head thinks I've been blabbing. What do you think?

Thatssofunny Mon 25-Feb-13 20:55:34

Hi ILove Why do you think you'd get a bad reference? My head knows that I have applied somewhere else, most other people know that I have been for a look (I'm at a very small school). They also know my reasons for it...and that I wouldn't be too unhappy, if I didn't get the job. But then, I'm absolutely terrible at keeping secrets...I have always been rubbish at it, even as a kid. grin I wouldn't like it when people found out, who I don't want to know or aren't happy telling, though. Perhaps you could have told the nice gossip "Yes, it was an AMAZING school. They do APP for EVERYTHING, from dance to woodwork. Always good for professional development to have a look at what others are doing, don't you think? I'm thinking of implementing a few of the ideas I picked up from there....Oh, I've volunteered you as one of our trial candidates. I thought you'd like to be included in this great opportunity. Just think...more APP! What could be better?" (walk away excitedly muttering about differently-coloured highlighters and evidence files for each child)

barking I can spend ages not planning stuff. I'm really good at it. Somehow, however, planning ends up done (or copied...aehm,...yeah...). Hope the first day back wasn't too bad. We seem to have been back for ages. Four more weeks to the holidays! grin

No AF, yet. No symptoms, either. Test was negative (yes, yes, couldn't resist...but then, my cycles are 26-33 days long,...who knows when the witch comes round). I'm on CD27. hmm I hate waiting! (I'm pretty sure af will turn up in the next few hours, though.)

ILoveMyCats Mon 25-Feb-13 21:00:48

Yeah, thanks, thatssofunny. I know it's not the end of the world, but I've been so anxious about the whole process, having to have the conversation with head etc. Ive been so discreet, not even telling my friends there & to have this woman approach me with it was quite a shock. Could I get a neg reference for not being discreet?

Thatssofunny Mon 25-Feb-13 21:06:37

ILove I wouldn't think so. What did your head say about it? Mine said they'd be sad to see me go, since I'm brilliant...but I live really far from school. Wasn't happy, but didn't discourage me, either. (My old head didn't, either. She was annoyed when I got a new job, because I am actually pretty good at what I'm doing...two years earlier, she would have happily escorted me out of the door personally. wink I'd rather leave while I'm still ahead.)

ILoveMyCats Mon 25-Feb-13 21:14:19

Well, I'm working as a TA, but am a pn experienced teacher. Current head was pleased that I'm applying for class teacher roles. It's a change of path really and they understand. Just annoyed that I've been so careful & gossip chops comes out with it!!

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