

To feel so upset about galumping, has anyone found nicer afterwards?

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Lambzig Tue 14-May-13 09:51:09

Just got gazumped this morning on our dream home and cannot stop crying. I worked so hard on negotiations, sorting finances, plans for renovation on the house, not to mention the cost of the survey and architect time and all for nothing.

Is it worth selling your home and renting to make yourself a cash buyer (buyer only offered 2k more which we could have met, but seller not interested as wants cash buyer despite us having mortgage approved)?

Has anyone got gazumped and then found somewhere better?

Feel so upset, nothing else on the market at the moment.

Lambzig Wed 15-May-13 12:04:57

Well I would like to, but who to and what good would it do? Am imagining the conversation:

Me: I am not happy that you showed a house that was off the market and got me gazumped, costing me a lot of money.
Him: We didn't, they had seen it before.
Me: Your colleague told me they saw it on Monday
Him: they didn't, she got that wrong
Me: I am sorry I don't believe that to be true
Him: I think that concludes our business, please don't contact this office again (goes off to spread word that I am nightmare buyer not worth dealing with to his estate agent colleagues).

It's not going to get me anywhere is it?

BlackMaryJanes Wed 15-May-13 13:24:07

WTH is galumping? I googled it and I'm still none the wiser

Januarymadness Wed 15-May-13 13:27:20

I think there is a volunatary obudsmun scheme. See if they are signed up.

IrritatingInfinity Wed 15-May-13 14:55:55

oP You mentioned a huge bungalow earlier. hmm Are you absolutely sure that you can't make it into a lovely contempory home . (if thats your style smile ) Huge is very desirable and a lot of bungalows are light and airy.
New modern windows, new rendering and a modern oak door etc etc can work wonders. ..... Even if you were not able to afford it straight away the fact that you coud do something with it in a few years could make it liveable in for te time being.

I don't know if you would link to it ??

Lambzig Wed 15-May-13 15:06:03

60s box, low ceilings cramped rooms. Not light and airy at all! I think it massively massively overpriced too.

We don't have to move quickly. The whole point of this move was to get a lovely house.

Really really couldn't go from nearly having the lovely house to a horrid 60s bungalow. We were only doing this move if it was our forever house.

DH has said that he does not want to move to that town any more anyway - he is really going with the idea that we have been treated like this. I think we are going to stay in our house, hope DD gets into a school, and just accept we have no money/space for a few years.

IrritatingInfinity Wed 15-May-13 15:33:45


sad. Sounds like you sensibly ruled it out.

Good luck else where smile

poopnscoop Wed 15-May-13 15:35:44

We were gazumped... 5 days before moving in! NIGHTMARE. Not only did we have to move house but (childminding) business too ... Ofsted were brilliant and understood... we managed to find a rental property I could childmind from (that is a nightmare in itself)... and then suddenly became more desirable as a buyer as one can move out of a rental so easily.

The agent did then practically harass us afterwards, wanting to ensure they got the commission for the rental but we told her we wouldn't work with her again, for renting or buying.. as she had shown people the property AFTER she had assured us no-one else would see it, it was off the market. I would NEVER deal with her again - no integrity.

I know estate agents have a bad name.. but there is no smoke without fire. I don't trust them.

The rental was gorgeous and we have moved onto better things... honestly OP... you might not see it now, but things do happen for a reason.. and in retrospect, one day, you will know WHY you never got that house. I do hope you find a house you fall in love with again, soon.

SusanneLinder Wed 15-May-13 15:47:46

We don't have gazumping up her, but DD was just about to offer on a house, and then it sold.This was last week. She saw a house last night, and submitted an offer today.
Don't lose heart!

MrsKoala England Wed 15-May-13 18:26:10

Not been gazumped but gazundered, which feels shit too. We were all set to sell our home (which had been on the market for 3 years) for 15k less than we paid for it. We were selling it at the bare minimum to just cover the mortgage and costs leaving us with nothing. Then on the day of the transfer they reduced the price by 10k. We were told we had to take it or lose the sale. We had to lose the sale and 6 months of having it off the market, all the costs and fees involved etc. I wanted to physically harm the people i was so upset.

Madeleine10 Wed 15-May-13 19:09:08

Sorry to hear this, OP, it sucks doesn't it. Same happened to us a couple of years ago, and we were gutted, furiousand out of pocket, so I know exactly how you feel. We had been looking for the perfect house in the perfect place for two or three years and thought we'd finally, FINALLY found it, so it was like saying goodbye to our dreams. We were so upset that like your husband, we wouldn't drive past it, but go the long way round to wherever we were going grin


I'm not a believer in Fate, normally, but last year, totally out of the blue and just when we were completely down in the dumps about house buying, an even better house came on the market in a lovely little village near us, and even cheaper - with a river in the garden- which we never thought would actually happen or we could afford, but was on our fantasy dream house list.. It's now ours, and so much better than the one we wept over.

If we hadn't lost the first one we would never have found this one, so maybe the old "What's for you won't go by you" saying has some merit after all. Keep your eyes peeled and Good Luck!

Oh and PS, make it an absolute prerequisite of any offer in future that if it's accepted the EA's MUST take the property off the market.

Lambzig Wed 15-May-13 19:24:31

I did make it a prerequisite and have estate agents email saying it was now off the market and all viewings were cancelled.

New buyer is trying to haggle with me on the price of me selling him the survey I had done saying he shouldn't pay the cost as "I have already had the use of it". Am not going to respond further.

Hissy Brazil Wed 15-May-13 19:26:46

WHAT? How on earth did the new buyer get YOUR contact details? angry

Lambzig Wed 15-May-13 19:40:03

Stupid estate agent forwarded the email from buyer to me.

Hissy Brazil Wed 15-May-13 19:44:12

Oh so they don't have your details?

Tell the agent that IF you want to sell it, you'd ask them for ALL your legal fees to be covered too.


Everything will work out for the better for you, have faith! smile

QueenStromba Wed 15-May-13 20:03:42

But you've not had the use of the survey because they came along and stole the house from under you. Fucking cheek.

Lambzig Wed 15-May-13 20:10:00

My thoughts exactly Stromba. I have stated my price if they want it. If not they can do their own. Particularly as they promised the vendor they wouldn't bother doing a survey.

QueenStromba Wed 15-May-13 20:27:06

They really do sound like piss takers and I'll be very surprised if they don't pull out/dick the vendor around for way longer than it would have taken for you to complete and then drop their offer.

SarahAndFuck England Wed 15-May-13 23:55:14

OP - put the price you will sell the survey for up by two grand.

That's how they got the house, tell them that's how they can get the survey as well grin

WhoDat Thu 16-May-13 00:17:00

^ what Sarah says. Greedy, thieving, lazy assholes the lot of em. I have to say I wouldn't part with the survey for a penny less than 2k.

CSIJanner Thu 16-May-13 21:42:21

Sorry - havent read the whole thread but am grrr on your behalf.

Did you have an exclusivity agreement in writing (ie email) from the estate agents and seller? Basically don't show anyone else around - we've agreed to buy. If so, then speak to your solicitor and report the estate agents for breach of contract.

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