Leadership Mistakes You Thought You’re Not Doing (But You Are)

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You are not perfect, and that is okay. Sometimes, even if you believe you can deal with things correctly, there is that stuff that you do that you are not supposed to. In most unfortunate events, you make mistakes often. You may believe that your ability is enough to support the ideal goals you have, but it sometimes doesn’t go that way. There are moments that even if you think you are great at being a leader, you miss out on understanding essential things.

Tolerating People

One of the apparent things you unnoticingly do is tolerating people. It is where you let things go because you believe it is not something that can affect your capability of being a leader. Sometimes it is more on always considering things that benefit one particular person only and not giving everyone the same treatment. It is like you being unfair to the needs of others because of the focus you have solely on the one who somehow does negative things repeatedly.

Not Setting Up Boundaries

Being a leader it allows you to be in a position where you can make better decisions for everyone else. It is not about power, but more on the burden of responsibilities. However, sometimes, due to your desire to not wanting to hurt others from your decisions, you excuse yourself from setting up boundaries. You tend to lose control over your position to lead. As a result, you become someone who is not worthy of following and admiring.

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Losing Dependable Grip

A leader listens to his subordinates all the time. However, it does not mean you need to follow all of the people’s suggestions and comment on their opinions. If it gets to that point, it only means you are not capable of creating meaningful decisions and that you exclusively rely on what others tell you. You tend to lose a dependable grip because you think you don’t have better ideas to contribute. It becomes a problem because, as a leader, you must be the one that guides and not the one that takes credit for the effort of others.

Relying On Someone Unreliable

The problem with being too soaked in a leadership position is that you tend to rely on people. Regardless of their ability, attitude, and personality, you sometimes do not focus on the negative sides. That is okay, honestly. It means you value people’s good traits better than hating their negative ones. But trusting an unreliable individual too much is something you must stop doing. It only adds to stress and frustrations, and that is not a leader should do.

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Being a leader takes guts. You have to be the one on top so you can guide others. But you also need to be the lowest one so you can listen. Every responsibility is different from one another, and that goes to situations as well. If you find yourself making some of these mistakes, please allow changes in your leadership once and for all.

How To Become A Confident Leader

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Leadership is about who you are, that affects what you do. It is where you have the potential to handle people regardless of their status, capability, educational background, and skills. However, sometimes, some tasks are too exhausting and stressful. That is especially when the people surrounding you do not intend to listen and follow guidelines. At some point, this particular scenario often makes you lose your confidence. You become unsure of your ability to manage things when they are in defensive situations. But do not worry. There are better ways to counter that.

Have The Best Self-Esteem

The most excellent definition of self-esteem is the ability to like yourself, no matter what. It is where you value the things you do and trust in your potential. When you admire and respect yourself, you are more likely to behave and perform better. That is mainly in handling yourself in very unpleasant situations. When you live your life along with your most profound principles, you are more likely to become great at handling not only yourself but others as well.

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Build A Balance Of Everything

Balancing everything is a tough task. It is not always that you can handle things according to your ways. However, taking the right risk for the right reason in the pursuit of obtaining specific objectives and goals helps a lot. It allows you to become better at analyzing, assessing, and avoiding stressful decisions. With that, you become more confident and capable of maintaining your role as a leader. The balance you get from handling yourself and others will help you in deliberately creating meaningful resolutions in uncertain situations.

Practice Courageous Leadership

Continually practicing courageous leadership, boosts your confidence. That is where you learn the importance of risk-taking. That even if you engage in a situation that promises no uncertain outcome, you stay calm and determine to try different things all over again. Practicing courageous leadership allows you to understand your limits and tests your capabilities to an allowable extent. That is, regardless of not knowing the possibilities of determining the result of your actions to an exact degree.

Understand You’re Not Always Right

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As a leader, you indeed need to be courageous. However, it does not mean that you should close the door and not listen to the idea of others. It is essential to understand that not because you are “the leader,” you are always right. Never be afraid to question your assumptions, and ever make conclusions based on one particular angle only. Avoid getting caught up in your ego and be open-minded as much as possible. It helps to add leadership confidence when you admit to your shortcomings.

Being a leader, you should be honest with yourself and with others. Always remember that there is a vast difference between confidence and incompetence. Note that your ability to see things differently is vital in sustaining a confident leadership. Therefore, you need to stick with your principles, respect yourself, be more than willing to listen, and take a step at a time.

The Problems Of Motivation

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People always hear the word “motivation” every time they aim for something good in their lives. But the thing is, it’s not that possible to secure. When you are not motivated to do things that are not inspiring enough, there’s nothing there to look forward to doing. Meaning, even if you “think” you are getting motivated because you have these goals you perceive in your head; still it’s nothing. Every effort, time spent, and energy becomes meaningless. It doesn’t sound healthy.

Every motivation varies from time to time. It’s not like achieving fixed future goals. Let’s say you have a motive to go to school, work on the daily household chores, do great in your job, and even pay bills on time. Perhaps all of these can become a motivational task. But, how is that different from any other goals you have in life?

The problem with motivation is that it doesn’t sustain a level of standard. When there is an “unimportant” goal to achieve, it gets often ignored and becomes not-so-big of a deal. When things get rough and complicated to handle, the possibility that the remaining motivation left can turn into less valuable stuff that a person only uses whenever he needs to do something. In some unfortunate instances, it affects the things that people are passionate about doing.

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A Waste Of Everything

Things become a lot concerning when you seek motivation to do the things that take a lot of time with little satisfaction. Let’s say for example you picture out yourself doing things that you love and eventually lose the interest of continuing. The act of starting a particular activity but didn’t care to finish it is one way to describe it as a loss of motivation. It quickly went out of hand because you somehow find no reason to proceed anymore. Therefore, the spent time, energy, and effort just all went down to waste. That is because the motivation to do all the work is never present in the beginning.

The search for motivation is comparable to a long journey. It is not instantly there. It requires something to light it up. It is not like you put it into account just because you know you have to use it for immediate purposes. It is never easy to get motivated. So when you don’t find that particular thing that makes “motivation” burn like fire, you can expect losing hope.

Unsolicited Advice

You can find a lot of motivational videos and articles on the internet. Somehow, some of them will matter. However, the large percentage of those encouragements won’t surprisingly mean a thing for all we know. That’s because there’s no such thing as “here is what you should do.” The only thing that will make a more significant sense is your willingness to push yourself in doing something that presents you happiness and satisfaction. That is how you sustain the motivation that you are looking for.

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The visualization of the goals you want to achieve is helpful but not entirely convenient. There is still a part of it that moves you away from maintaining a healthy and well-developed mental balance, per se. And when you start thinking that there’s nothing good about working on things the hard way, you lose all the chance of getting the best results.

When it comes to the art of maintaining motivation, there is utterly no answer to that. However, the mental wellness you have can help determine the structure of your aim goal. Meaning, the opportunity to focus and concentrate on the things you do and want to achieve can have a layout. From there, the possibility of strategically working on success is at a high rate.



Motivation 101: The Bad Morning Habits

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There are tons of morning routines that you can look for on the internet. It could be an article, a video, or even a podcast episode. If you have noticed, the majority of morning routines are focused on what you should add to it or the things that you should do. In this article, I will try to break down the opposite and focus on what you should stop doing instead.

Checking Your Phone – It somehow becomes a norm always to check out social media early in the morning. However, you need to stop checking out your phone when you wake up. There are precisely three reasons that explain why. First, when it becomes your morning act to check on your phone, it affects all the possible energy to build a focused muscle. From there, you won’t have enough motivation to do anything for quite a few hours. Second, you won’t be able to control the habit. Even if you wanted to only check on it for five minutes, you’d end up wasting 20 or possibly go for hours. Third, you’ll end up hurting yourself. No healthy position allows you to stay comfortable while checking out your phone for an extended period. Using it for a long time gives you a bad postural position. And if you continue the habit, you can end up causing nerve damage.

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Eating An Unhealthy Breakfast – It’s understandable that most individuals easily fall into a pattern they used to do every morning. And when it is already a habit, it somehow means impossible to change it in an instant. In most books, you’ll usually find things about how important it is to eat protein and fat-heavy breakfast. That’s because it decreases the feeling of anxiety. However, most people like to eat a lot of carbohydrates and sugar when they wake up. But neither of those things will sustain healthy energy that helps throughout the day. So instead of eating unhealthy, try propping up your meal in bulk. Make sure to add lots of fruits and vegetables in it. It will surely save you a lot of time, money, and effort.

Hitting The Snooze Button On The Alarm – You probably already know that this is part of the list. Whether you deny it, you somehow made this a habit. Hitting a snooze button means you typically deny yourself a good quality of sleep. When you are interrupting your sleep cycle and attempting to get to a new one after, you’re already making the morning routine worst. Hitting a snooze button is a horrible idea because it means you already failed to do the first thing you set up in the evening. Therefore, the motivation on the set intention gets ignored. So, make yourself a favor and get out of bed once the alarm goes off.

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Complaining – Admittedly, a lot of people wake up in the morning and complain. It is an issue for some to get up early. Some of them complain that it’s too early, others think they haven’t slept enough, they feel exhausted and everything, etc. The problem with the attitude of continually complaining early in the morning has a tangible effect on your subconscious and level of motivation. It deprives you of having a positive mental state that is beneficial throughout the day. So instead of focusing on the things that you hate, think about some stuff that you can be grateful for the day.

You can always find the best morning routine that suits you. Information is widely available. But for those things you need to stop doing, make sure you know how to set it right.




I Am Living A Dream, And They Hate It

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There are things about people that I entirely do not understand. One of those is these individuals’ ability to hate me for doing the things I want to do. These people feel entitled to say whatever they want because they believe that I am not doing things correctly. It is as if I am not worthy of having the life I want because it does not fit their standards of happiness and success. By that, the option of letting go of me becomes their priority. But why is that?

I No Longer Serve Their Purpose

Yes, I know a lot would agree with me that there are people who love using others for their advantage. These are the ones who often believe they deserve everything without instilling too much effort. These are people who only see me as a tool for their convenience. That when I can no longer sustain the kind of effort I usually give, they immediately leave out of my life. They are often demanding, aggressive, impatient, and full of shit. These individuals are great to have when I can provide for them. But when I no longer serve their purpose, I become an instant outcast.

I Can Do Things They Can’t

People hate me because of the guts I have. The ability to control my life is something they wished to have. I become a target for insult every time I think about better ideas. I am not worthy of their time when I speak of the ways of how to make things convenient for everybody. I can achieve things without someone’s help. I can manage my life even if I am all alone. Those strong qualities I have are the reasons why they do not want to be around me. These people feel threatened by my capability of doing things all by myself. Those people are afraid I might accomplish things without having them around and not including them for the credits as well.

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I Don’t Spend My Money With Them Anymore

It is sad to know that people are born users. That no matter how much I try my best to become successful, I am still not worthy if I don’t share the blessings with others. Well, not that I should complain about giving, though. It is always nice to help and share your blessings, of course. But what makes these people different is when they only care for me because I spend more for them. It is as if I do not fully feel them, not unless I mark a price on the things they should do for me. It becomes weird because it feels like I am paying for stuff that I want to feel and experience from the people around me.

I somehow understand a bit of the psychology of social relationships. But this particular thing is something beyond what I thought I know. People can have all the insecurities, desperation, and inconsistencies in the world. Unfortunately, not all of these individuals are aware of that damaging perception.