I found the poly community in New York.






So there's all that.





Janvier Morris said...

Hey I saw your blog on Blog Catalog and thought I'd stop in.

I have a question about your sex life.

Why do you see it necessary to have so many [different] sex partners? If satisfaction is what you want and if you admit that it only comes after some sort of relationship, then why continue to become unsatisfied?

I like the blog, keep expressing yourself. I'll be close by.

Paradox said...

Hi, thanks for reading!

That's a good question, especially given the way that I wrote this post.

I've written before about how once I'm in a committed relationship and more satisfied on an emotional level, I actually feel MORE like I want to go out and have exciting sex with new people, rather than less. Being safe and happy and knowing I'm loved and can love back allows me to feel comfortable exploring and taking risks. It also gives me someone to share the rewards and the drawbacks from those risks with. It's nice.

Right now, I don't have that kind of intimacy and so I'm feeling the general dissatisfaction. I am still enjoying having sex with the partners I've got (which isn't actually that many), but I'm definitely missing the emotional closeness. There is at least one of them with whom I'm hoping that develops, though, so it's not like I'm wasting my time. I just have to be patient.

Hope that answers your question.

Janvier Morris said...

I understand. Just doing something in the mean-time till a later time. Gotcha!

Hey I'm writing about an article titled: "How we lose our virginity can affect adult relationships"

I know this is a bit random, but do you have any insight on this topic?

Thanks for responding so quickly. I look forward to the next.

Paradox said...

I suppose it might, but I'd think more in the sense that every relationship we have affects who we are and what we learn about interacting with other people. I don't think the moment of First Penis In Vagina Intercourse (!!) is actually that important, but I do think that our first sexual relationships help set the tone for the rest and that learning about sex and the ways we find to do that are really important.


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