Wednesday, May 15, 2019

5 ways to deal with working mom guilt:

Hi! I know I've been missing but it's for a good reason --
I've written a book! All you need to know about parenting, and I've been a big caught up with the editing and release! It's now in stores and online so do order, if you enjoy my blog you will love it! It's packed with fun stories and even more tips and tricks on parenting--
Click below for :
Amazon India- 

Kindle- -

Hope you enjoy the read!!!

Now for mom guilt, which seems most apt, while I myself have been trying to juggle it all --
One of the most common questions I get is how do you do it all, and how do you do it guilt free. The reality is though, that regardless of how balanced everything may look on social media, or sound otherwise, there's no way to do it all without feeling like you're sacrificing something. It's definitely never guilt free. However, there are ways to make sure that the time you do get with your children is maximized so that you can be more effective as parents, and your children also know how truly adored they are.

5 ways to deal with working mom guilt and be effective parents: 

1. Quality over quantity: when you do get time with your babies, put away your cell phone, turn off the television and give them all the energy you have left - which sometimes isn't much, but make sure they know they have your undivided attention. Ask them about their day and probe with interesting questions so that you get answers beyond "nice". Instead of how was school, ask them if they read a book, what their best friend was wearing or who had the yummiest break box at snack time. If you're lucky, you may even get a short story out of them, as a response.

2. Weekend time: The weekends are really your time to maximize everything. Even if you're social and get out a lot, try and ensure that you include the kids in your routine, or then get out without them once they are asleep. You will be surprised at how much they grow and pick up from being out and about with you. Meals out and managing them outside gets easier as they grow.  So take them for a swim, to the beach, a play area or some place fun and give them attention while you can. It makes it easier to get busy with household things when home.

3. Set time everyday for your children: This could be something small like making sure you sit with them and read them books through their dinner, have a family meal or that you bathe them yourself everyday. Kids thrive on routine, and them knowing that you will be there at a set time everyday no matter what - even if it's just bedtime, is more important to them than we realize. It also gives them something to consistently look forward to when they are missing you during the day.

4. Talk to them and explain the importance of your work: No matter how significant or insignificant you think your day has been, explain it to your child. Tell them why you go to work, why it's important for you to earn for your family and what you did in your day that was meaningful. This will not only involve them in the process, it will help create an understanding and build their appreciation and values too.

5. Remember that you are setting an example: It's not easy to close the door on them and walk out to work. Specially when they are home from school, done with school or on holiday (my current situation since my babies are on summer break), but it's important to keep in mind and know that you are a role model for your children. As parents, they look up to us no matter what we do, and we pave  roads in their minds and carve their understanding of how the world works. This holds true for stay at home moms as well, you are their role model no matter what, so tell them your purpose, and be proud of who you are and what you are doing, and they will be proud of you too!

It's never easy, it's never guilt-free, but if they know you are doing all you can (and you know you are doing all you can), then that's truly the best you can do.

More to come!

