Defending God…and loving God

Last spring, my friend Luke from the group of awesome online writers I hang out with shared a quote on Facebook that has haunted me, floating in and out of my daily conversations.


I don’t usually have a problem with forgiving people who hurt me – but I can’t stand people hurting those whom I love.

Not long ago, I learned that a classmate had hurt two of my good friends. A vinegar-like disgust consumed me. The act was pre-meditated, calculated to deal as much pain as possible. My stomach sickened.

But the question remained. Could I take the fall for that hatred? Would I accept the consequences for it with silence and surrender?  Did I dare answer?

Another question, almost as difficult. Does the church today focus more on loving God and people…or on theological and political issues? What if the church was less concerned with how the world is offending God and more focused on loving the people they believe He died for? Now wait. I’m not advocating that ethics and morality be abandoned. But I do argue that priorities need to be shifted.

At the Palm Sunday service I attended, the pastor posed a similar question and then said that the world has already thrown its very worst at Jesus, but He won anyway. So, should we be “defending God” against offenses? Does He actually need our defending? Somehow, this approach rings hollow, lacking, and actually drives people away from the God we claim to defend.

Perhaps we tell ourselves it is because we love Him. It is only natural to defend what you love. The mockery of a beloved is a kick in the gut. My roommate Ducky and I both had a reflexive reaction at this year’s production of The Thorn. During the scene in which Jesus is being scourged, we shared an anger for the Roman soldiers, still aware that they were just actors. My little girl heart always wants to run to Jesus, wrap my arms around his bare back, protect him from the lash. To stop the bleeding.

But I can’t. As Ducky says, the worst pain is in “knowing that you couldn’t stop it.”  In the same way, I can’t actually defend God.

Another thought. I wonder if the church is more offended for Christ than He is, since He has forgiven the offense before it happens.

As John the Beloved, one of the disciples narrating the Thorn, says, “He doesn’t ask you to be perfect. He just asks you to be yourself and to love Him.” The essence of following Christ, because in loving Him, we will love like Him.

P.S. My friend MOTS also expressed this idea in a vlog of hers last year.

Image from The Thorn ©2009 Jonathan Betz Photography.

4 thoughts on “Defending God…and loving God

  1. “Spread your cloak over those who fall into sin, each and every one, and shield them.”

    This quote is really a problem. It's casting the speaker(and the reader by proxy) in the role of a paternalistic savior. Well, I don't want help, or defense, or a shield covering me. Not unless I specifically request it.

    That's the problem with this kind of idea – it's condescending. It turns everyone else into “subjects” that you have to defend. That's really dehumanizing. Especially if, for example, the person you're trying to “defend from sin” A) doesn't believe in sin, or B) doesn't have the same conception of sin as you do. Then you're trying to defend them against something that they may want to do, and they're not sinning.
    That's why you get things like, “Love the sinner, hate the sin.” People apply that to homosexual people. Well, that person doesn't agree with you that it's a sin. Therefore, you're actually hating the person by pretending that they're a sinner.


  2. You've missed the point of the quote, Aaron. If people read it entirely, we'd have a lot less of the problem you're complaining about here.
    It's not condescending, it makes it a personal reflection for a Christian: do not destroy the character of someone if you can't take the punishment for their sin. You end up with love either way: if you can't take the punishment, don't judge. And if you can, you've already put yourself in a place mentally where you can't hate them.
    It's a double-bind for the Christian mentality, which is where Christians should be if they want to love people.


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