Wife’s ultimate betrayal after her child’s death

By Ash Kent|

A heartbroken man has taken to Reddit for advice, after finding out his wife had cheated on him with her ex-husband, while the three of them were grieving the child they parented together.

The anonymous man, who goes by the screen name HorrorPreference explains that he and his wife were together for five years. She had a 12-year-old son from a previous marriage, for whom he took on a step-father figure role.

“My stepson's biological father didn't often see his son nor does he generally get along with my wife,” explained the man.

“Mostly just coming whenever he felt like it and taking him out for a few hours.”

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He also explained that the boy who had battled with illness for majority of his life, had just lost his battle.

“My wife spent a lot of the service with him [her ex-husband] and they consoled each other, which I do understand the shared connection as parents but it hurt as I'm also struggling greatly and felt like a parent to him as well,” explained the pained man.

“A few days after the service my wife had told me her ex wanted to meet up with her to discuss their son's belongings, photo albums, etc. Naturally I had no problem with that, as I had already kept the things that were sentimental to me.

“Long story short, my wife came back in tears and confessed that while at his place, they slept together and it wasn't planned and begged forgiveness.”

Husband sad after wifes betrayal.

He then goes on to say that he knows he must divorce her, and plans to end the romantic relationship immediately, however intends to cultivate a friendship with her, and let it known that he will be there in her time of need.

“My mental health is hanging on by a thread, and the loss of both a child I considered a son and a betrayal by the only person I had to lean on is too much,” he writes.

“She's extremely vulnerable and feels completely alone, how do I leave someone in that position and tell them I want a divorce while still making it clear I care for them and am willing to be a friend in their time of need?”

Cropped shot of an unrecognizable mature couple sitting on the sofa with their arms folded after an argument

The forum blew up with advice, many feeling for the poor man who obviously has a very large heart, suggesting therapy be the first port of call.

“Couple’s therapy might help, it is not only for trying to heal a relationship but also for those trying to navigate a breakup,” wrote one redditor, with another adding to the sentiment, “I would get a therapist now. To be honest, I would not be taking advice from people on a random internet forum with this emotional and complex of a situation.”

A third focussing on his immediate selfcare, “Don't even try to salvage a friendship right now. You're not responsible for saving her from her mistakes, and you shouldn't do it at the cost of your own wellbeing. She made her choices.”

However, perhaps the most powerful comment was also the most simple: “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.”

Amen to that.

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