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Matthew B. James

Dr. Matthew B. James, international trainer, lecturer, and educator, started meditating at age five and trained in contemporary therapeutic techniques in his teens. He is President of Kona University and the Empowerment Partnership and has been chosen to carry on a lineage of Huna, the ancient Hawai...

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Huna and Kona University


Michelle Tennant


11/16/2010 05:06pm
The Huna Way of Forgiveness

Have you ever felt like you were holding a grudge against someone, even after you had consciously tried to forgive?

All of us, at one time or another, need to forgive. It may be our spouse or a friend. It may be a co-worker or former employer. After the mortgage and financial crises, some people may harbor resentment against real estate or stock brokers they feel gave them bad advice.

In our hearts we know that holding onto negative feelings against others only harms us. So why is it so hard to forgive?

Huna, the ancient Hawaiian system of my lineage and life experience, emphasizes the need to forgive others and seek forgiveness and provides practical ways to do it.

In Huna the concept of making things right is called pono. Though pono does not have a specific English translation, the closest word is right — as in right with yourself and others. The process I use and teach comes from ho`oponopono, which literally means to make something doubly pono.

In doing research for my dissertation, I found that those who engaged in ho‘oponopono experienced a statistically significant reduction in unforgiveness compared to a control group which showed no such change.

So how do we balance our approach to forgiveness so that we (1) forgive, (2) release the negativity and (3) still learn from the event?

To take the first step in ho`oponopono, we need to rethink the process of forgiveness. In western thinking, our first approach upon wronging another person is often to say "I'm sorry." However, an apology is only one-sided, a statement that asks for no response from the one harmed.

To become truly pono with someone, you first ask for and offer forgiveness for anything you may have done. Saying, "I forgive you; please forgive me too" brings the other person into the picture and gets them actively involved.

Next, allow the space for you and the other person to say everything that needs to be said without hiding or holding back. When you have both shared your thoughts and feelings, you should experience a sense of "I have said it all, and I am done." Once again, give and ask for forgiveness from one another.

Finally, move forward. Huna says that we must learn from all of our experiences in life. Once you are pono, ask yourself: What do I need to learn from this event that will allow me to continue to be pono?

Learning is positive, about the self and future based. Take this learning with you to help you change your behavior and thinking, make better decisions, and create the relationships and situations you desire.

A major advantage of this approach to forgiveness is the ability to have a fresh start. Although you may experience future difficulties with the same person, once you are pono, you won't bring baggage from the past into new situations. You will begin new interactions from a place of being pono and with the insight from the learning you received.


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