Dear Coleen,

I've been living with constant guilt for three months after getting drunk at my wedding and kissing my wife's friend. The marriage was at the end of July - it was a fantastic day, alcohol was flowing and the party carried on till the small hours.

About 3am, I got talking to my wife's friend and we nipped outside to have a sneaky fag in the hotel grounds and that's when we kissed.

I'm not trying to make excuses because I know it's unforgivable but we were both totally plastered. She was there, looking sexy in her skimpy frock and I just lent over and started kissing her and she kissed me back.

I don't know what I was thinking. Perhaps I was just high from a great day with all our family and friends around us, and it almost felt as if I was on a great night out.

When I woke up next day - my wife and I were both too drunk to have sex on the wedding night - I was horrified when I remembered what I'd done.

Since we got back from honeymoon, I haven't seen this girl much and it's been really awkward when I have. I just want to pretend it never happened but the guilt's been eating away at me. What's more, I'm worried she might spill the beans.

Should I own up? If I do, I will probably ruin their friendship and I'll be out on my ear.

Coleen says..

First of all, you're a plonker. Don't blame it on the drink - I've been drunk many times but I've never kissed my husband Ray's best mate. There are lines you just don't cross - ever. It sounds to me like you're more frightened of ending up homeless than you are of losing the love of your life.

If your wife loses this girl as a friend, who cares? She could do with losing her - she's no friend.

However, if you can guarantee it will never happen again, I'd be inclined to keep my mouth shut and pray that the girl doesn't say anything. It was just a kiss after all.

However, if she's drunk enough to snog her friend's new husband on their wedding night, who knows what she's capable of? I'm afraid you're going to have to live with the guilt - and it'll taint the memories of your wedding day for ever. But don't ruin your wife's memories of her special day by telling her. I only hope you're not using drink to mask the fact that you found this girl attractive for a while. Put some distance between you and never be in a situation where you're alone together.

And never nip out and have a fag with her again. Look at it this way, it's a bloody good reason to give up smoking!