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Why Do People Lie In Their 341 Meetings

Why do people lie about their lives?

This can be answered in two different ways: The short or long answer.The short answer is that people want to seem better than they actually are to be accepted from others.The long answer is a little more complicated. People might lie about something horrible that they have done in the past and do not want to talk about because of fear and rejection. They fear the consequences and the strain on their relationships that might happen as a result.Also some people might realize that life is not always the rollercoaster ride that social media portrays it to be. They are snapshots into someone’s life and for that moment, they are having the best time of their lives. But the rest of that person’s life can be actually more boring. People get up out of bed tired and groggy, they eat breakfast, they get sick, and they go through their daily routine and go to bed, like the rest of us.Life is not always the glorious pictures or videos that we always see on the internet form celebrities and famous people.People want to make their life exciting to talk about and be accepted by their peers.

Why do some people put fake pics on dating sites?

They are either
- really ugly or overweight
- married/in a relationship and don't want their partner to find out
- just getting their jollies flirting online but they don't want a real relationship

I actually met a guy for a date who was not the man in the picture - needless to say I did not stick around for the date. He tried to claim it was an "old picture" but unless he had a full face transplant there is no way that was him. A friend of mine actually flew to LA from London to meet a woman he had been chatting to online and the real woman was 15 years older and 250lbs heavier than the woman in the picture, not to mention she had 2 kids when she said she didn't have any. He was supposed to spend 3 months visiting her and flew home after 3 days because he was so upset about it

Another friend found out her now ex-husband was setting up profiles on dating sites using pictures of a male model as his profile. She has no proof he actually met any other women because none of the messages requested meetings but were just flirtatious

What are the things we notice when we meet people for the first time?

I notice how he/she carries himself or herself.. i mean dressing sense!Second thing to be noted is Whether he/she makes initiative to shake hand or namsate! Her gesture and confidence is what makes the first Impression Last long! Firm handshake shows you are confident!Third whether he/she uses the words Aap or Tu in conversations when things go informal after basic know how!Fourth, how does she behave when you contradict her, , eyes Dont lie! anguish/rage/discontent/pleasant eyes tell all!

Why do some people prefer talking more to strangers than to people they know personally on social media sites?

I guess the main reasons are as follows(feels like I'm writing my geography paper again "reasons are as follows" :P):1. Strangers don't know enough to judge them based on their past. Hence, people have this sense of security while talking to strangers which is hardly the case with real people.2. We can simply ignore, block them unlike people who we know personally. 3. Many people find it easier to open up to strangers as the chances of meeting them are negligible and hence they don't have to be afraid to face them in person feeling exposed. 4. Lastly, strangers can be interesting than the real people you know. I read so many answers here by strangers and find them very intriguing. Most of them appear to be more interesting than 80% of my real friends.I'd like to post links to two of the videos I came across recently. Though they don't have a direct link to this question but both of them put up some real puzzling observations.The first video is and the answer to this viral video is I loved both of them and despite the first one being well choreographed, I prefer the second one as it is much more pragmatic. I guess I have strayed waaay off the question. So, I'm gonna end it here.Ironically, I was asked to answer this question by a complete stranger Sakshi Choudhary. Thank you as this is my first A2A.

How often do people blatanty lie on their resume? They say that attitude is everything but I've yet to show up to an interview in jeans and a stick up my ass.

People lie on resumes often. You typically have one of two extremes: a great candidate that is reluctant to tout their achievements (even though there are many), or a candidate that is mediocre, but describes him or herself as an “A” player on a resume.A good interviewer will be able to see through it in seconds by asking probing questions. During an in-person interview, it is easy to tell if a person is telling the truth by their body language when they give examples.A good attitude and social skills will get you far in the interview process, but don’t take your interviewers’ intelligence for granted. They can spot a fraud a mile away.

I am meeting my boyfriend face to face for the first time and am anxious. What do I do?

I am answering this question as someone who has a boyfriend who boarded a plane for our first meeting to come to see me.I take it maybe you are meeting him for the first time due to a complication like distance. I hope that if this is an arranged date that you are happy and not being forced into it.You might know basic information about him, such as likes and dislikes.The most important thing to remember is to be yourself. Don’t try to put on a show and pretend if you want an authentic and genuine relationship.You might be tempted to dress up elaborately and cake yourself in makeup but you don’t have to do that! (unless it makes you feel confident but don’t over do it).Meet somewhere public. People don’t always have pure intentions. You could wind up getting seriously injured and unable to call for help. That being said, carry a cell phone if you have one and tell someone who cares about you where you will be. It’s extremely easy for someone to lie about their age, sex or gender when you don’t know them in person. I speak from experience.Don’t feel obligated to kiss or be intimate with him! It’s a first date. Don’t let him pressure you or hold power over you.Make an effort to get to know him better. You know basics but first dates are great for asking questions and learning more! Steer clear of deep topics such as relationship longevity, politics and planning a future together. That will make him not want another date!Don’t let yourself be distracted. No cell phones on a date (have it on you on silent or off, unless needed to call someone for emergency- example: he is threatening you and you need to leave NOW)!Compliments are nice. If you like his outfit choice or even better, dig his music taste, for example, say so! It can be a conversation starter! You two can bond over your similar taste.End the date on a nice note. Feel free to end it early if needed. Ideally, have him initiate the next steps (depending on whose idea the date was). Don’t seem desperate. Mention you had fun if you had fun and something you learned about him that you found interesting will show you were paying attention! Men appreciate that as well, even if they don’t voice it.I hope this helps! Keep in mind that even if it doesn’t go well, you might not want to dismiss him outright. Know that he is probably anxious too.~Mack

How common is it for people to lie on their resume?

Yes, of course. They do it all the time. Lies range over the whole spectrum from the ethically defensible (stretching dates to cover gaps, inflating titles) to outright fraud deserving of prosecution (such as claiming a medical degree). Most never get caught. That doesn't mean it's a good idea. I wrote a two-part blog series on this topic: Part 1 is here and Part 2 is here.Employers lie about career opportunities and job duties constantly. Bait-and-switch hiring (bringing people on with the promise of a better job than what is actually asked of the person) is probably 75 percent (most of that's unintentional, with promises made in earnest, but revoked later because of corporate change). They also use many disingenuous tricks to hide rat corpses, such as claiming that employees get "15 days off" while neglecting to mention that it's that evil "PTO" bullshit where sick days are deducted from vacation. Eventually, most people realize that employers (for the most part) are so damn unethical that lying just feels natural. Business is 90% sales and while good salespeople with solid products will rarely lie, most people are bad at sales, and most often the product (in the employer-side case, a job) isn't solid. After 10 years in any industry, you've been lied to by employers several times, and you're used to it. You've realized that the business world is just full of liars. I'm not saying that one should do lie on a resume. In general, one shouldn't. The upside is minimal and the downside is severe. Employers have the power and bulk and can lie (bait and switch) with few consequences, but you're an exposed individual. It's not right that this asymmetry exists, but we don't get to make the rules. Don't lie on your resume, I would say. If you're going to deceive someone, then (a) don't put the lie in writing and (b) try to avoid contradicting discoverable and objective facts. Things that are worth lying about for a normal, ethical person (e.g. messy terminations, embarrassing mistakes) are not put on CVs to begin with.

Why isn't there a law against a government official lying to the public?

Well, let me see.First define lying in this context. A lie must be a willful statement that the speaker KNOWS to be untrue.”There will be a chicken in every pot and free ice cream on Sunday”. Is that a lie or merely excessive optimism?“The Dallas Cowboys will win the 2019 Super Bowl. “ Is that a Lie , excessive optimism or insanity?How about “ I know I was elected to Congress based in part , on my promise to my constituents to vote in favor of the ABC bill. But now that I’m here, I have changed my mind”. Was the original campaign support of the ABC bill merely a lie, a subterfuge to gain votes, or did the speaker have a genuine and honest change of heart?In Anglo American jurisprudence, the legal way to insure truth telling or punish lying is to make the speaker swear an oath. Until the speaker is oath sworn, “stretchers”, cutting corners, excessive hyperbole , white lies, are all immaterial.Just make sure Political figures always speak under oath. That will fix the problem. Oops, my bad, I am wrong. A well known political figure , President William Jefferson Clinton, lied under oath during testimony in a lawsuit. Being truthful would have exposed him to embarrassment and potentially large sums of money damages, so he lied. When it was found out that he did indeed lie under oath, and thus commit perjury, it wasn’t a big deal because it was just a crappy civil lawsuit. I mean, the general consensus among the denizens of DC was that everyone perjures in a civil lawsuit, where’s the harm in a little fib? He got impeached for perjury; the Senate decided that in this circumstance lying was OK, so he was acquitted. On the other hand, the State Bar Of Arkansas declared him morally unfit and revoked his law license. Morally unfit to be a lawyer- what a concept.So taking an oath won’t fix the problem.I guess the voters are the determinant here. They can fire a politician for lying. The Truth comes out eventually.

Do liars assume that other people are liars too? Does anyone else feel disgusted when someone tries to make you seem like you're lying when you definitely aren't?

Do liars assume that other people are liars? Of course, most of them actually. Humans have a tendency to assume that other people's brains work the same way as theirs. And the thing is, probably at least 80% of people lie every day for some reason, be it a “I didn't take the last cookie” -kinda lie, “I didn't cheat on you” -kinda lie or “I didn't murder the president and their family” -kinda lie. Hehe. So they're actually right most of the time.Of course, in case you only mean pathological liars who lie even when they don't have to, that's a different thing. I'm not one, so I don't want to assume how the majority of them thinks. But if I had to, I'd keep to the “humans like to assume that other's brains work like theirs” -sentence.Do I feel disgusted when people accuse me of lying when I tell the truth? Of course. It's annoying, it's wrong and it's stupid. All of those things on their own will piss anyone off. But when they're all smashed into one like that it's enough to make my head hurt. It's also extremely frustrating if the person who claims that you are lying gets people to side with themselves.It also tells a lot about someone if they go against the truth you are giving them. Either they are horrified by that truth and are unable to accept it, are sociopaths who enjoy messing with you or are simply very, very stupid. But at least, in case you land into that kind of a situation, you'll end up knowing a lot more about the people involved afterwards.Meow.