Questioning Velveteen




“Shit just got real” was popularized by Martin Lawrence in the 2003 movie “Bad Boys 2,” based on a screenplay by Ron Shelton and Jerry Stahl. The latter created “Alf,” an Alien Life Form, who was a wisecracking puppet who befriended an Earth family in an eponymous 1980s sitcom.

Alf never became a real boy because, unlike the puppet Pinocchio, he was not “brave, truthful, and unselfish” (Alf murdered cats and wasn’t good with electronics).

The fight between the two 3rd-grade girls never ended up happening. There was a distraction and one of the potential combatants’ mothers had some juice. I admit that I was disappointed. I wanted to see something real, as I’ve been feeling untethered lately.

By that example, is reality simply things that happen? If shit getting real meant a fight, then was the lack of a fight merely some gauzy synthetic thing hoping to become more substantive? Was it dreams?

In Margery Williams’ classic children’s book “The Velveteen Rabbit” (1922), stuffed animals discuss their existence. Instead of doing it over cigarettes at a cafe like Albert Camus’ Stranger would do, however, these toys discuss the heady topic whilst sprawled in a heap on the floor.

The Stranger

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.

So is being loved the measure of our reality? Or, as John Lennon says, are reality and love the same thing?

And if I’m not in love, am I real?

10cc, like the Lovin’ Spoonful, took its band name from the same reference and it’s disgusting.

In Plato’s Allegory of the Cave, the philosopher’s brother, Glaucon, has a conversation with Socrates, who points out that what we perceive as real might just be the shadow of something else, as if with a silhouette on the wall. “It’s the thing making the shadow that is real,” says Socrates to Glaucon, “and I don’t know why I’m talking to you, anyway. Your brother’s the talented one.”

So what makes shit real? Danger? Love? Existence? Truthfulness?

We have a big dog, so one of us steps in his reality at least once a week. I hope some day I’ll find out what it means.


  1. Reality continues to ruin my life.
    Bill Watterson

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  3. I had always hoped, naively, that 10cc and the Lovin’ Spoonful were just innocent drug references.

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