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Date Night

MarriageAndrea SmithComment

Having a weekly date night is extremely important to you and your spouses' relationship. When me and Jared were engaged we were told over and over by couples that if they didn't schedule out their date nights, that their marriage wouldn't be in great shape. In the first couple of months being married it was extremely hard. For one we didn't have an established date day. My husband has a one full time and one part time job which makes me seeing him basically when I go to sleep and wake up in the morning. This was causing us a lot of stress and tension especially in the beginning. I felt very alone and unworthy of my husbands time and affection.

As our relationship was crumbling, we started to take action on our situation. We agreed that Sundays we would designate that day for us to go out on a date. Whether that was spending the whole day together or spending a couple hours with one another, our relationship was starting to become whole. Some unspoken issues were addressed. We were able to have fun again. We were becoming friends again. I just want to emphasis again, really spending time with one another is so vital. It's just like any other relationship. If you have a best friend, you want to make an effort to spend time with them, whether that's hanging out or having a heart to heart. Every relationship takes time and effort on both parties. Are you willing to do what it takes to make your relationship last?

If the answer is yes I want to give you a list of 10 creative ways to make your day fun with your best friend.

1.) Plan a picnic to a place you and your spouse have never been before

2.) Take a road trip to a city or state for a weekend get-a-away

3.) Leave notes of love for your spouse all day, in all the places they would be throughout the day. At the end of the day, lead them to the place where you had your first kiss together.

4.) Go to a drive in theater

5.) Make your spouse a surprise dinner. Let the light be all from the surrounding candles, make a playlist before hand and have a great night.

6.) Plan a day where everything you do is new. Example; go see a baseball game, jazz club etc.

7.) Ask your spouse something they have always wanted to go do. Whether that's taking a painting class or going to see the ballet. Then go do it!

8.) (For bookworms) go to a bookstore, go to the travel section and plan your next trip out together

9.) Pretend to be strangers for the day and you just met and are having your first "hangout time together" this give you a chance to get to know one another all over again.

10.) Go stargazing