Moving Out of the State of “Longing” for Your Twin Flame



I am Channeling from a Unity Consciousness

When everything seems wrong, like there’s no way out… When the longing for love brings us to tears…How do we get so trapped inside our minds that we cannot escape them? How do we escape a pain that we don’t know how to escape? How do we seem to slip back into pain, even when we thought we were doing just fine? Why can’t we reach the state of happiness and just stay there? Why can’t we transcend the pain? Why can’t we divert from our sadness, forevermore? There must be something… There must be some sort of solution. Some sort of relief. Some sort of way out of this pitt of darkness. Who can live this way? Who can live with a heart so broken?

To not know pain is to not know love. When you know pain, you know love.

But it still leaves a problem.

A question that needs answering….

How does one forget the pain of a lost Twin Flame Love?

How does one forget what they knew? How does one erase those ever present, clear memories? I remember, so clearly, how it felt when you were standing in front of me. Your presence in the room. The music you played and how it felt like heaven to me. How you looked when you smiled. Where you gave me that gentle kiss and the passion we had. The relief in my heart when you told me how you felt. The resonance when we spoke and how it took my breath away. Leaving me completely speechless and the awe that I couldn’t describe. It took me weeks to unravel that feeling and put words to it. It was that new, that real, that divine, that mysterious, that good.

Awe…. That’s what it was.

You put me in awe.

I kept loving you, and I kept giving my love. My love grew…. Love that was so big, I just knew it couldn’t be human. It was love like none other. Love that knew no limits. Love that was visionary, delightful and real…

But soon, I missed you. My love for you turned into Love that never saw your face. Love that never felt you next to me. Love that didn’t know your presence. Love that was never comforted by your voice. Love that just was. It was stagnant love. Love that was sent out into the world, into oblivion, into some black hole of condemnation. Never to be seen or heard from again. Never to serve it’s purpose. Eternally missing the mark.

…And then, my love turned to pain… And the pain kept coming…

How does one live in a one sided Love affair? How does one ignore the silence? How does love bear the absence? Knowing love. Feeling love. Knowing…. but never reaching the manifested version. Never expressing love with a kiss. Never being received. Never even running its course. Just being there. Love, all by itself. Love, lonely love. Silent love. Love that never sees the light of day. Love that never gets its way. Love that wants what it wants. Love that cannot cease and refuses to quit.

My love is innocent. But my love is like a stepping stone. My precious stepping stone into pain. Into anguish. Into doubt. Into nothingness.

How does one overlook the empty spaces? How does one ignore the ever present, painful reminder of the absence of that which is loved?


Where are you? Are you in your past, your present or your future? We love, and that’s good. It’s perfect. But the future creeps in. it reminds us of what we think we don’t have. It makes us wonder if we will ever have it. If there will ever be an end to this suffering. An end to this pain. Will I ever see my love again? Will I ever be received? But that’s where we get tripped up. We begin thinking about the future. Big mistake. Because we aren’t meant to be able to perceive the future. Not in the way that we would like to. When you look at your future, compared with your now, there is no solution in mind. No way to see how things will work out. That’s how it’s supposed to be! We are supposed to trust! Trust the Universe, trust ourselves and trust creation. But, instead, we are muddying our present moment, with these thoughts of doubting the future. Doubting our lives. Doubting ourselves. Doubting the Universe. Completely missing the point. Which is now. Now is the place that takes you to your future. You cannot move into your future if you are missing your now. Messing up your now moment with your despair. Despair is ok. Pain is ok. It’s all ok. But we must realize how to move on from these moments of disparity so that they become simply moments and not our entire lives. I know what it is to be in utter despair. In pain. I have been there. I am not immune to this and I understand that you are not either. We can move on from these moments and cultivate something new. This trick works. Focusing in the now. It means, not worrying about the future. How it will pan out. Will he ever come back? Will I ever make something of myself? When these thoughts creep in, just focus on how to get through today. How will I get through today? What is important today? How can I live my best day today? That is really all that matters. Then, your future, which is dependent upon all of your Now moments, can unfold without interference. If every day matters, then your future will reflect that.

It’s when we get caught up in a picture that is too big, that we become afraid of our future. That we become afraid of where we are. That we see where we are as inferior to where we want to be. You can’t move into your future unless you are giving credence to your now. You can’t pay enough attention to your now, to accomplish all that needs to be accomplished in your now, if you are enveloped in disparity over your future. I could not write these articles to you if I was too caught up in my future. I could not muster up the belief that it takes to do it, if I was thinking about how this is going to shape my future. We are not designed to design our future by dwelling in it with thoughts of worry. We are designed to shape our future by following our joy. I write these articles because it is truly my joy. People love them. They ask me to keep writing them and because I am following my joy, I am actually helping others. I could not be doing this otherwise. What a concept. So simple and yet, that is exactly how it works. Don’t ask what the outcome will be of your action. That is a pointless way to approach your endeavors. Ask what makes you happy. Ask what makes your heart sing. Only be in your now. Now is all that matters. Apparently, we are all here for a reason. The universe knows no such thing as mistake and we ALL came here because we wanted to. Don’t belittle that fact by allowing yourself to get caught up in this longing for your twin Flame.

Notice the word “Longing”. Like frequencies attract more of their likeness. When you are in the vibration of longing you are creating more of that. The word “Long” represents something having considerable duration or length. “Longing” is a strong, persistent desire for something. When you are in that state of longing, you are not utilizing your now. You are not creating your future, you are waisting your time and creating more time, more space, more distance between you and that which you desire. Twin Flame, it is ok to miss, to want, to desire, but learn to shift your focus and come out of that state. You must simply “lighten up”. Live in your moment and live for today. Today only. Today is where you can find happiness. Today is where you can find joy. Today is where you have control over what happens. Today, you can channel your passion and do not even think of the end result! The end result will think of itself! It will take care of itself! You just focus on living in your moment. Do Not worry of your future and all of your moments will be worthwhile and your future will unfold on its own.


I do not mean be reckless. I do not mean forget your common sense. I simply mean, do not worry of your future. Do not fret. Do not spin your mind, turning on the subject because it will never work out for you that way. You will never find peace, love and Unity that way. Shift your focus. Shift your focus to only today. To making the best life that you can today. I love you so much and I am telling you, from Unity consciousness, that all that you want is within your reach. Once you reach the vibration of it, you will know it because you will feel it. The goal is to stay in that vibration for more of the time. To keep learning and growing and preparing ourselves to be the best that we can for our reunions. You can only make the necessary provisions when you are in a state of heightened awareness. So, be in that state. Reach those thoughts. They put you on the right path and you know when you are there. Don’t think about how it will happen. Just have fun along the way and let the Universe worry about itself. The Universe provides all. For you are the Universe. You are not only supported, you are at one with all that is. Believe.

So much Love to All of You. Each and Every One.

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4 thoughts on “Moving Out of the State of “Longing” for Your Twin Flame

  1. Thanks for sharing…some parts are really helpfull for me …even though i know what i had to do i couldn’t get true this fase and felt stuck in my transformation process and it made me sad. Now it feels like looking in a mirror and receiving a gift of GOD / UNIVERSE….So thank you so much for charing this!

  2. Wow! I was having an episode of longing for my Twin Flame and was crying my heart out! I was waitng for my Twin Flame to respond to a greeting and my fear while waiting made me have a panic attack. In desperation for comfort I typed ‘Twin Flame Longing’ on Google. Then I clicked the link to read something that can save me from the extreme heartache I was feeling. This article was exactly what I needed to read at that very moment! Then when I was reaching a state of calmness and understanding while reading, my Twin Flame responded to my message! Now, my belief that God truly cares for us has been reinforced! Thanks so much for this Beautiful Article! I’m sending my Love to you as well! God Bless!

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