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7 points · 2 days ago

I can’t believe red got eliminated 😩

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You know he looks good in everything when the second color to go was a good one.

edthehamstuh commented on

damn, this is my favorite so far as well. Well done! :D

Original Poster3 points · 2 days ago

I only have Tae's edit to finish...then the compilation poster. Soon~

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Tae is my bias; don’t let me down! :)

edthehamstuh commented on

Rather than going for one broad productivity site, niche down. There are too many sites and apps out there trying to do it all, and it makes them clunky and bloated. Find one thing, and do that one thing very well. I suspect it will be more helpful in practicing your skills as well.

The first thing that popped into my head was a website that would plan your day for you. You put in what needs to be done, how long it will take, and the level of effort, and the website pops out a schedule based on your preferences, like maybe hardest tasks first, or grouped by location or something.

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10 points · 3 days ago

Works for me!

I have been secretly hoping that Shadow is set up like Wings. I want solo tracks as well.

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Oooo, I didn't know until now that I wanted this. Solo tracks for all! And I'm already hoping for a more mature version of the BST look.

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I post self-improvement stuff related to my life—motivation, tons of food, a bit of fitness, books, and sometimes my cat.


My instagram is small. Like, small-small. Less than 300 followers. But I'm still used to seeing 20-30 likes on most posts, and >60 on the really good ones.

Suddenly, last night and today—nothing. It's slowed to barely a trickle. My post from last night only has 9 likes, and a bit ago I posted a picture of my cat (which always does well) and rather than the instant flood of 10-15 likes that immediately flow in, I got about 4.

Did the algorithm change? Is Instagram just down so much lately that no one is on it anymore? Has anyone else noticed this?

0 points · 4 days ago · edited 3 days ago

‘Algorithm’ is relatively unchanged for the last year or so, as it shares the facebook ads formula, if you’d call it that. Removing likes is just graphical, and affects nothing.

They went after bot services on fb last year, and consequently went after them again on insta between may and july, which crushed those services. Those services were those extra likes/views etc. So what you’ve lost is inauthentic/fake engagement from bot services that leveraged the multitude of tools that were available to them (eg auto engaging with hashtags etc). I did a post on it on here a few days ago explaining it all if anyone wants it.

Edit: Love being downvoted for helping people. This reddit is the worst lol.

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Original Poster1 point · 4 days ago

This definitely isn’t what happened for me. I just checked on a popular photo from a week ago and all of the likes are from real people, most of which follow me.

It’s generally harder to get likes in summer

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Original Poster1 point · 4 days ago

It changed overnight though. At the beginning of this week, everything was normal.

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So far, Habitica is the only habit app that I've ever liked all that much. I find the gamification aspect and the ability to earn gold pretty encouraging. It's also simple and easy to use, where many apps are bloated and trying to do too many things. I don't want to have to spend 10 minutes on your app just to log a habit.

Typically, I only build one new habit at a time. They're much more likely to stick if you start small. Rather than thinking about how many habits you could take on on a good day, consider how many you'll be able to stick with when you're feeling your worst. That's what matters most.

As for things that have helped me create habits, apps have been one of the least helpful things. Make your habits convenient, remove any obstacles between yourself and the completion of the habit, only take on one thing at a time and start small. If you're new to exercise, don't start with 2 hours a day, 6 days a week. Start with half an hour, three days a week.

I recommend reading Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin and The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. They're helpful in figuring out both how you operate and how habits operate so that you can be successful in building the habits you want.

2 points · 6 days ago · edited 6 days ago

Family tends to only watch them when the want to spend time with them and only for 30 min ...tends to be there limit. As for friends I'm a bit to awkward and needy to keep friends....that I have been working on for a bit of time . I get so excited when I make a friend that I scare them off still so haven't tried to make one in a while.

  • edit we do have family that will watch them longer but they neglect them and there not okay there so they don't go there.

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Original Poster4 points · 6 days ago

This might sound like an odd suggestion, but as someone who doesn't have a ton of friends, I find that listening to the "having a chat over coffee" type of podcast sort of fills that gap for me. I may not be physically present and participating, but it's comforting to hear other people just talking about life. I don't know that it will treat depression, but it makes me feel less alone and more motivated—it's like someone else gets where I'm coming from.

My favorites are Detail Therapy by Amy Landino and Kalyn's Coffee Talk by Kalyn Nicholson, both of which offer life advice and inspiration, but there are plenty of podcasts out there to explore.

3 points · 6 days ago

Yeah. Except for determinism.

Which isn't a philosophical axiom by any means. It's just a theory some use to... well, what is its use anyways? Does it have many, other than to shirk agency?

In fact, the more people concentrate on themselves and their own feelings the more they feel awful and anxious and the less they do.

I've found this to be true of emotion-based individuals. Like you said, if you focus on your own feelings and how you feel about something, it will often lead to unhelpful and even harmful results. Instead of focusing on how you feel, though, you can focus instead of what you (or a theoretical version of yourself) can do in action. Imagining action is a world apart from experiencing emotion. I've known and helped emotion-based persons before, and often they don't even realize that they think in terms of emotion. They just assume everybody does the same and that's just how people think/operate.


It sounds like you are what I'd call an emotion-based person. Your mind immediately goes toward wanting to feel (and that's okay, but like you said, it can lead to unwanted states of being).

Choosing to be around decent people is the best thing you can do for yourself.

That's a good thing to do, of course, but thinking that it's "the best thing you can do" seems like the thought of a person who isn't used to being very effective... There are lots of things you can do for yourself, and hanging around other people is a start, but isn't going to be very high up on the list of things that will get you anywhere you want to go. If you find yourself wishing for something, or having a goal, try writing down 2 things that are in close proximity or lead to that goal, regardless of if they're within reach for you or not. Then under each of those, write 2 things for each that will lead to those. Continuing this will give you what I call a "path to victory" and will allow you to start effecting changes that lead to your goals. You can do things and succeed. YOU. Not your friends or acquaintances; not other people without your ailments - YOU. But you have to start doing, instead of finding reasons not to do.

The more you help others the better you feel. So ignore the natural shy and anxious feeling in your gut and reach out to people every chance you get. It’ll change your life for the better. All success comes from the help from others.

I like this :) Thanks for the morning reminder.

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Original Poster4 points · 6 days ago

I like your "path to victory" idea! You did a great job of saying more or less what I was thinking as I read the comment you replied to, so thanks. :)

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