Monday, 16 July 2012

To judge or not to judge

This post just spells irony.

While I'm an advocate of not judging others,
I'm writing this post because I think some people aren't logical enough.
I'm judging them for not being able
to think from different perspectives.

So there have been a lot of articles about Madam Tan,
the old woman who fell, cracked her skull and later
passed because passers by didn't do anything to help her.

is the word used by a lot of people.

Unless you are a relative or friend who is overcame by emotions,
a sensible person should think before judging.

People don't seem to have analysed the situation enough
before calling the people who didn't help "selfish" or "inhumane".

"Selfish" is a big word.
Before you seriously label someone with that word,
I would suggest careful observations and analysing.

Take this case as an example:
I'll come up with a few excuses for the people
because everyone should get a change of defence.

Excuse 1:
Can you see that Madam Tan did not change her position?
It would be logical to think that she might be unconscious,
thus not giving out any signs of distress.

Is it logical then,
to deduce that Madam Tan was unconscious,
and the passers-by mistook her for a homeless old lady sleeping in the streets?

Although logically homeless people won't sleep in the middle of the road,
but one does not know if that homeless person sleeprolls.

Do you help a homeless get off the roads?
If not,
don't judge others and call them cruel.

If you argue that even if Madam Tan was unconscious,
there must be blood because she suffered from a cracked skull,
and passers-by who saw the blood but didn't help
should be labelled heartless,
It was dark.

Madam Tan died from internal bleeding in the brain.

Excuse no.2:
Passers-by are afraid for themselves.
We never know when will criminals start using old people as bait
and lure us into helping the elderly while they unfold their ambush?

This would still be heartless,
but human beings being selfish is not news.

Who should we blame for this paranoid mindset?
The increasing number of crime?
Or the inability to stop crime?

I see people calling these people who walked by heartless,
blaming them for Madam Tan's death,
but if you're logical enough,
take a step back and you'll realize
if weren't for that snatch thief,
Madam Tan wouldn't have fallen.

Why are people not blaming that person more?

(See what I did there? Turning the attention to someone else)

Excuse 3:
People are afraid that they will be interrogated by the police.
Which is actually one of the excuses given by someone.

You wouldn't know what the police might or might not do.
And if you've seen enough sharing on Facebook,
you might think twice too.

Well it's still heartless.

But like I said,
it's not unusual for human beings to be selfish.

After the 3 lame excuses,

I think there's the need to state that
Madam Tan was conscious.
She was vomiting when the good samaritans helped,
but we still don't know if she asked for help.

Excuse 1 still stands,
because not a lot of people would help
a homeless person even if they asked for help.


back to my whole point.

There could be a few perspectives to a situation,
so don't judge others from yours alone.

I hate it when people judge me,
so I try my hardest not to judge.
But some people just LOVE to point fingers.

The truth is,
you wouldn't know what you would do until you're there.

There are so many possibilities of how something could turn out,
and most of the time when a situation happens,
I do something stupid
and after that beat myself up and think "I should have done that and that"
but what is over is over,
and beating myself up is stupid.

The people who intentionally or unintentionally left Madam Tan to die
are condemned for their non-actions,
but what is the point of pushing the blame to them?

If they felt guilty enough will it bring her back?

What goes around comes around,
if you don't help someone,
one day,
something similar might happen to you.

Same thing.

If you judge others without thinking,
you will be judged too.

Like how I'm judging this girl I came across.

Hey girl who think the people who didn't help are heartless,
how much have you helped the homeless or the orphans?

How do you justify your own actions?
If you could have nice food and drive a car,
if you could dress up and travel,
why can't you donate more and help?

Why are the people who didn't help an old woman condemned,
but everyone else who know the existence of homeless and orphans,
or even kids from poor families are set free from your judgement?

Because you're one of them too?

I think I'll be slapped by some comments,
but someone has to say something other than
"those f*ckers should burn in hell".

Bring it on!

That's what J_Fish has to say~ Au Revoir~


  1. So an old lady lying face first on the ground in the middle of the road at 6:04am isn't a good enough reason for someone to stop and see if they're okay?

    I mean, even the homeless don't sleep in the middle of the street where cars or motorbikes can easily just run over them. Something might have happened to that homeless person. Fainted? Fell down? No rational human being would sleep in the middle of the street, even they didn't have a place to stay. Is it too much to just stop and see if he/she is okay?

    I judge these 7 people because of the 7 minutes in which not one single person who saw an old lady lying ON THE MIDDLE OF A ROAD stopped to at least drag her to the side.

  2. First of all, that is not a street, it was the pathway leading from the elevator to the streets.

    Second of all, we can't say someone are more of a scum because they didn't help. We didn't help everyone either.

  3. it is 6pm right? well there is more people out there such as the word you described as heartless . . . I will be one of them thou . . . :X

  4. It was 6am. I think at some point of life we would be heartless, just that we choose not to label ourselves most of the time.

  5. Hi hi, may i know what's the double eyelid sticker you'r using?

  6. Odd that you ask me this question in a post that doesn't have any pictures of mine.

  7. Haha， i've been reading your blog for some time, i never drop any comment. I always came to your blog to look for makeup tutorial =D but then each time i always forgot to ask you about the eyelid thingy. I don't want to judge anything about this post cause it's your opinion , i respect it cause it make sense, especially excuse number 2 haha

  8. I actually can't answer you because I keep changing. I just go into Sasa and take the cheapest one. =X Because the expensive ones dun work better anyway. =/

  9. It's okay! Btw, you looked better in short hair =D