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who am i?

Sometimes it can feel as if everyone else has already figured out who they are. It feels like they know what they want, what they like and are working towards their goals. The truth is most people are still figuring it all out as they go along. So, if you’re feeling unsure of yourself and your identity, you’re definitely not alone.

Trying to answer the question “Who am I?” is tough, but at the end of the day you’re the only person who can answer it, because you’re the one who gets to decide.

When you’re searching for your identity, it can help to remember that everything you need to become who you want to be is already there. You just have to uncover it. Practice paying attention to yourself, and the parts that you’ve been ignoring, and see if your connection to your identity changes. Take time to notice when you are the happiest and most comfortable. This can be from your hobbies, the way you dress, socialising or school subjects you enjoy, work etc... Once you pinpoint this, it will make it easier in discovering who you are.

Understanding who you are is a journey and there is no need to rush. Everyone has a different path, so comparing yourself to others and what you perceive is their journey will get you nowhere

If exploring who you are makes you feel stressed or anxious, talking to friends or other people your age can open your eyes to the simple fact that no one really knows what’s going on either. We’re all just assuming that everyone else has got it together.

We learn to compare ourselves with others, with their accomplishments, what they do and how they look – it’s normal to want to be like everyone else. People-pleasing is an extremely common way to try and fit in. Sadly, pleasing others can be the very thing that stops us from being true to who we are.

Being true to ourselves means being able to be honest about our opinions, feelings, and needs – we should never feel ashamed to voice our thoughts to those around us (as long as those opinions don’t unnecessarily hurt anyone else). Trust yourself and begin to embrace the things that make you an individual.

Change your perspective and uncover a way forward for you!

Here are some things that can help you with that.

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