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Neighbor smoking outside my bedroom windows.

Hey ladies I live in a duplex and our neighbors have a front and back porch but the wife always tend to smoke on the front porch that is right below our bedroom windows and right next to our livingroom windows... well when it's hot during the days we open our windows at night to cool it off and then we will be putting in our window AC unit this weekend bc it's supposed to be in the 90s all week... the smoke drafts into our bedroom and makes me cough and get headaches and obviously 2nd hand smoke isn't good for myself or the baby. How would you handle this situation? Would you mention it to them? The husband had told us before that he has told his wife not to smoke out there in the nice weather bc of our apt windows being so close but I guess she doesn't listen... when we first moved in she was pregnant and smoked throughout and ended up miscarrying so idk if she will care about that part of the problem but I'm thinking if I mentioned my asthsma maybe she would consider smoking on the back porch? Atleast just for the summer? Ant suggestions on how to handle this?

comments (17)

  • I'd just ask them to smoke on the back porch. Give them whatever reason you want; pregnancy, asthma, etc.

    Are you renting or did you buy this property?

  • Ardency said:

    I'd just ask them to smoke on the back porch. Give them whatever re…

    We all rent! They have been here since 09 we moved in 2014I never noticed it much the prior years I'm wondering if it has to do with pregnancy!
  • If she smoked threw her pregnancy she is definitely going to smoke threw yours. And asking her to stop is probably going to backfire and potentially want to make her do it more. I would just keep the windows closed. I know that it sucks. But it's what I'm doing.
  • Tell her she's selfish as shit and to take her disgusting habit elsewhere because everyone else shouldn't have to inhale those nasty carcinogens. I'm all about smoke shaming. It shouldn't be legal to do in public. Rude !
  • I'd ask her nicely, but directly, to smoke on the back porch. You could just say you have a condition which means you can't be around cigarette smoke. That covers both.
  • I'd ask her politely to smoke on the back porch. However she's under no obligation to do so, as she's on her own space that she pays for. I'd consider getting an air purifier and put it in front of your ac unit to try to minimize the smoke smell.
  • I actually have a similar situation... the people downstairs smoke out back which is directly below our bedroom window and where baby's crib would be. I will talk to them later in the pregnancy about it. The smoke literally goes right into our window.

  • You can ask, but she doesn't have to
  • I would mention it to her again, and let her know that you are pregnant and would prefer her not to smoke in that area. Is she not supposed to be smoking there anyway? Because if not and she continues to, I would bring it up to the landlord.

  • My cousin ended up breaking a lease and spending thousands to move because their neighbors smoked and it was right by their baby's crib. They could smell it even with the windows closed.

    I think it depends on your personality and hers, if you feel like talking to her would improve the situation, go for it. Sounds like she already knows and doesn't GAF, so I'd close the window. She may be weird about it bc she lost a baby, I had a MC and I would get upset around pregnant women for a little while (not to that extreme, but I didn't like seeing them at all).

    Provoking neighbors can cause bigger problems, just ask the lady with the neighbor whose dogs peed on her DH!