BUG: DataFrame.__setitem__ not raising ValueError when rhs is df and has wrong number of columns
- [x] closes #38604
- [x] tests added / passed
- [x] Ensure all linting tests pass, see [here](https://pandas.pydata.org/pandas-docs/dev/development/contributing.html#code-standards) for how to run them
- [x] whatsnew entry

Have to check how many columns key references before raising (duplicates or MultiIndex may reference more than one column)
thanks @phofl 