CI: Update some CI configurations
* Bumps mysql/postgres/moto container services
* Makes musl and 32 bit jobs run on Python 3.13
* Bumps musl container image (previous one was EOL last year)
* Consolidates some `pip install`s
@lithomas1 I reverted to enabling the python-dev build again with 3.13. Not all our optional dependencies have 3.13 wheels yet :( Going to merge this PR since the test are passing