[BUG] Add is_coerce argument to func array_to_datetime_object (GH26122)
- closes #26122 
- 1 test added
- passes `git diff upstream/master -u -- "*.py" | flake8 --diff`
- whatsnew entry added

# [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=h1) Report
> Merging [#26257](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=desc) into [master](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/commit/80be9b5defaff892e3362a31b44ca1479c2847b6?src=pr&el=desc) will **decrease** coverage by `<.01%`.
> The diff coverage is `n/a`.

[![Impacted file tree graph](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/graphs/tree.svg?width=650&token=eZ4WkYLtcO&height=150&src=pr)](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=tree)

```diff
@@            Coverage Diff             @@
##           master   #26257      +/-   ##
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- Coverage   91.97%   91.97%   -0.01%     
==========================================
  Files         175      175              
  Lines       52386    52386              
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- Hits        48184    48180       -4     
- Misses       4202     4206       +4
```

| Flag | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| #multiple | `90.52% <ø> (ø)` | :arrow_up: |
| #single | `40.72% <ø> (-0.15%)` | :arrow_down: |

| [Impacted Files](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=tree) | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| [pandas/io/gbq.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2lvL2dicS5weQ==) | `78.94% <0%> (-10.53%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/core/frame.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvZnJhbWUucHk=) | `96.9% <0%> (-0.12%)` | :arrow_down: |

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 # [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=h1) Report
> Merging [#26257](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=desc) into [master](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/commit/80be9b5defaff892e3362a31b44ca1479c2847b6?src=pr&el=desc) will **increase** coverage by `<.01%`.
> The diff coverage is `n/a`.

[![Impacted file tree graph](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/graphs/tree.svg?width=650&token=eZ4WkYLtcO&height=150&src=pr)](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=tree)

```diff
@@            Coverage Diff             @@
##           master   #26257      +/-   ##
==========================================
+ Coverage   91.97%   91.98%   +<.01%     
==========================================
  Files         175      175              
  Lines       52386    52374      -12     
==========================================
- Hits        48184    48175       -9     
+ Misses       4202     4199       -3
```

| Flag | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| #multiple | `90.53% <ø> (ø)` | :arrow_up: |
| #single | `40.71% <ø> (-0.16%)` | :arrow_down: |

| [Impacted Files](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=tree) | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| [pandas/io/gbq.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2lvL2dicS5weQ==) | `78.94% <0%> (-10.53%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/io/excel/\_util.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2lvL2V4Y2VsL191dGlsLnB5) | `87.32% <0%> (-0.18%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/core/frame.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvZnJhbWUucHk=) | `96.9% <0%> (-0.12%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/core/reshape/pivot.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvcmVzaGFwZS9waXZvdC5weQ==) | `96.52% <0%> (-0.02%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/core/indexes/range.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvaW5kZXhlcy9yYW5nZS5weQ==) | `97.96% <0%> (-0.01%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/io/pytables.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2lvL3B5dGFibGVzLnB5) | `90.22% <0%> (-0.01%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/core/strings.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvc3RyaW5ncy5weQ==) | `98.86% <0%> (ø)` | :arrow_up: |
| [pandas/tseries/holiday.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL3RzZXJpZXMvaG9saWRheS5weQ==) | `93.1% <0%> (ø)` | :arrow_up: |
| [pandas/core/dtypes/inference.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvZHR5cGVzL2luZmVyZW5jZS5weQ==) | `100% <0%> (ø)` | :arrow_up: |
| [pandas/core/reshape/melt.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvcmVzaGFwZS9tZWx0LnB5) | `97.47% <0%> (ø)` | :arrow_up: |
| ... and [6 more](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257/diff?src=pr&el=tree-more) | |

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> **Legend** - [Click here to learn more](https://docs.codecov.io/docs/codecov-delta)
> `Δ = absolute <relative> (impact)`, `ø = not affected`, `? = missing data`
> Powered by [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=footer). Last update [80be9b5...03be04d](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26257?src=pr&el=lastupdated). Read the [comment docs](https://docs.codecov.io/docs/pull-request-comments).
 thanks @makbigc very nice! keep em coming!