Replace khash + tempita with khashl
supersedes #56432

this is just a research project at the moment, but the main thing this solves is using templated functions to achieve better code organization and runtime performance, compared to what's in main.

Haven't spent a ton of time optimization but first benchmark run shows factorization of a high cardinality column can be over 2x as fast, though factorizationn of a low cardinality column is 2x as slow.

```sh
| Change   | Before [58e63ec1] <khashl-usage~7^2>   | After [23fc5842] <khashl-usage>   |   Ratio | Benchmark (Parameter)                                                                        |
|----------|----------------------------------------|-----------------------------------|---------|----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------|
| +        | 1.39±0.04ms                            | 3.05±0.3ms                        |    2.19 | hash_functions.Unique.time_unique_with_duplicates('Int64')                                   |
| +        | 21.4±0.8μs                             | 40.1±20μs                         |    1.88 | hash_functions.NumericSeriesIndexingShuffled.time_loc_slice(<class 'numpy.float64'>, 10000)  |
| +        | 2.55±0.09ms                            | 3.96±0.2ms                        |    1.55 | hash_functions.Unique.time_unique('Int64')                                                   |
| +        | 53.5±3μs                               | 81.6±20μs                         |    1.52 | hash_functions.NumericSeriesIndexingShuffled.time_loc_slice(<class 'numpy.float64'>, 100000) |
| +        | 3.88±0.3ms                             | 5.85±0.8ms                        |    1.51 | hash_functions.Unique.time_unique_with_duplicates('Float64')                                 |
| +        | 15.3±0.2μs                             | 17.2±0.6μs                        |    1.12 | hash_functions.NumericSeriesIndexing.time_loc_slice(<class 'numpy.float64'>, 10000)          |
| -        | 8.46±0.3ms                             | 7.28±0.4ms                        |    0.86 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_unique(5)                                       |
| -        | 9.01±0.2ms                             | 7.48±0.2ms                        |    0.83 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_unique(15)                                      |
| -        | 8.68±0.4ms                             | 7.14±0.3ms                        |    0.82 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_unique(4)                                       |
| -        | 8.84±0.4ms                             | 7.23±0.1ms                        |    0.82 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_unique(9)                                       |
| -        | 8.86±0.4ms                             | 7.14±0.4ms                        |    0.81 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_unique(11)                                      |
| -        | 8.76±0.3ms                             | 6.64±0.1ms                        |    0.76 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_unique(8)                                       |
| -        | 14.4±1ms                               | 7.10±0.8ms                        |    0.49 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(15)                                   |
| -        | 14.7±0.9ms                             | 6.66±0.3ms                        |    0.45 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(10)                                   |
| -        | 14.7±1ms                               | 6.58±0.1ms                        |    0.45 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(11)                                   |
| -        | 15.1±2ms                               | 6.76±0.2ms                        |    0.45 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(12)                                   |
| -        | 15.4±1ms                               | 6.95±0.3ms                        |    0.45 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(7)                                    |
| -        | 15.2±1ms                               | 6.92±0.4ms                        |    0.45 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(8)                                    |
| -        | 14.9±1ms                               | 6.60±0.2ms                        |    0.44 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(4)                                    |
| -        | 15.4±1ms                               | 6.69±0.1ms                        |    0.44 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(5)                                    |
| -        | 15.3±1ms                               | 6.77±0.2ms                        |    0.44 | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(6)                                    |
| -        | 15.7±0.8ms                             | 6.27±0.1ms                        |    0.4  | hash_functions.UniqueAndFactorizeArange.time_factorize(9)                                    |

SOME BENCHMARKS HAVE CHANGED SIGNIFICANTLY.
PERFORMANCE DECREASED.

```
This pull request is stale because it has been open for thirty days with no activity. Please [update](https://pandas.pydata.org/pandas-docs/stable/development/contributing.html#updating-your-pull-request) and respond to this comment if you're still interested in working on this. Will reopen if I get time to look at this again. Generally the idea is promising just takes some time to get the benchmarks right