TST: stricten xfails
- [ ] closes #xxxx
- [ ] tests added / passed
- [ ] passes `black pandas`
- [ ] passes `git diff upstream/master -u -- "*.py" | flake8 --diff`
- [ ] whatsnew entry

https://dev.azure.com/pandas-dev/pandas/_build/results?buildId=51664&view=logs&j=eab14f69-13b6-5db7-daeb-7b778629410b&t=ce687173-08c6-5301-838d-71b2dda24510 look legit