BUG-26214 fix colors parameter in DataFrame.boxplot
- [X] closes #26214
- [X] tests added / passed
- [X] passes `git diff upstream/master -u -- "*.py" | flake8 --diff`
- [X] whatsnew entry

This PR fixes issues in the handling of the `color` parameter in the implementation of `DataFrame.boxplot` that do not exist in `DataFrame.plot.box`

- the `color` parameter is now removed from `kwds` before the `matplotlib` call, preventing an error
- an alternative implementation of color extraction from `color`, as `_get_standard_colors` did not preserve the appropriate order (without looking at that function, one can see that the previous implementation would give the boxes and the medians the same color even when otherwise specified)
- checking that `color` is actually a `dict`

# [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26456?src=pr&el=h1) Report
> Merging [#26456](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26456?src=pr&el=desc) into [master](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/commit/80bddaf79693f9fc03760f9fd58f0d43b4018eeb?src=pr&el=desc) will **decrease** coverage by `<.01%`.
> The diff coverage is `100%`.

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| [Impacted Files](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/26456?src=pr&el=tree) | Coverage Δ | |
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 So does `plot.box` accept this and are they now fully aligned? cc @datapythonista Would be nice to wait until #26414 is in master to merge this. we merged the refactor of the mpl backend, can you merge master and update to the new locations. @jreback I've merged master and updated the PR @JustinZhengBC can you move whatsnew to 1.0.0 and merge master? @WillAyd done @JustinZhengBC can you merge master and fix merge conflict?

@TomAugspurger any thoughts on this? If not planning to merge in 2 days Fixed the merge conflict. Merge on green. Thanks @JustinZhengBC !