PERF: DataFrame transform
- [x] closes #12737, 
  closes #13191
- [ ] tests added / passed
- [x] passes `git diff upstream/master | flake8 --diff`
- [x] whatsnew entry

```
    before     after       ratio
  [2de2884 ] [4b352d9 ]
-  164.84ms     1.73ms      0.01  groupby.groupby_transform_dataframe.time_groupby_transform_dataframe
     4.44ms     3.77ms      0.85  groupby.groupby_transform_series.time_groupby_transform_series
     6.40ms     4.76ms      0.74  groupby.groupby_transform_series2.time_groupby_transform_series2
```

This also fixes (unless it was deliberate?) the issue of `SeriesGroupBy.transform` losing the Series's name, xref #9862
 ## [Current coverage](https://codecov.io/gh/pydata/pandas/pull/13192?src=pr) is **84.12%**

> Merging [#13192](https://codecov.io/gh/pydata/pandas/pull/13192?src=pr) into [master](https://codecov.io/gh/pydata/pandas/branch/master?src=pr) will increase coverage by **<.01%**

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 thanks @chris-b1 very nice PR as usual!
