BUG/REF: unstack with EA dtypes
1) `ser.unstack(args)` should behave like `ser.to_frame().unstack(args).droplevel(level=0, axis=1)`.  This fails on master, is fixed by this PR.
2) `reshape._unstack_extension_series` currently re-implements logic that is in `ExtensionBlock._unstack`.  This de-duplicates by dispatching.
3) We currently transpose in cases where we shouldn't.  This implements `DataFrame._can_fast_transpose` to avoid that.
4) `test_astype_object_series` has what looks like a typo that is making us test not-the-intended-thing; @TomAugspurger can you confirm im reading this right?
5) The dtype comparisons in `test_astype_object_frame` currently raise, are commented out for exposition, should be fixed in a separate PR.
> How do the unstack asvs look here?

with "-b reshape" no change thanks nice de-duplicating