ENH: consistent `Styler.highlight_X` arg signature with `props` 
This splits #39821 into separate PRs.

The `See Also` doc strings here reference methods created in those PRs - if we push this through now I will fix it later if those methods don't get approved before 1.3.0.

The tests that were edited contained redundant code and were not testing. 
lgtm. ping on greenish (or green if you had rebased recently) @jreback green now thanks @attack68 