BUG-24212 fix usage of Index.take in pd.merge
- [X] closes #24212
- [X] tests added / passed
- [X] passes `git diff upstream/master -u -- "*.py" | flake8 --diff`
- [X] whatsnew entry

The use of `Index.take` in `pd.merge` to create `join_index` causes an indexer with -1 values to take the last value in the index being taken from. This PR allows it to correctly handle absent values.
# [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733?src=pr&el=h1) Report
> Merging [#24733](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733?src=pr&el=desc) into [master](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/commit/fdc4db25a9988a7b595a3756760d05a6c177123d?src=pr&el=desc) will **decrease** coverage by `<.01%`.
> The diff coverage is `60%`.

[![Impacted file tree graph](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733/graphs/tree.svg?width=650&token=eZ4WkYLtcO&height=150&src=pr)](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733?src=pr&el=tree)

```diff
@@            Coverage Diff             @@
##           master   #24733      +/-   ##
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- Coverage   92.39%   92.38%   -0.01%     
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  Files         166      166              
  Lines       52358    52368      +10     
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+ Hits        48374    48380       +6     
- Misses       3984     3988       +4
```

| Flag | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| #multiple | `90.8% <60%> (-0.01%)` | :arrow_down: |
| #single | `43.06% <0%> (-0.04%)` | :arrow_down: |

| [Impacted Files](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733?src=pr&el=tree) | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| [pandas/core/reshape/merge.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvcmVzaGFwZS9tZXJnZS5weQ==) | `93.79% <60%> (-0.48%)` | :arrow_down: |

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 # [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733?src=pr&el=h1) Report
> Merging [#24733](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733?src=pr&el=desc) into [master](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/commit/f4458c18287288562b21adece524fc1b046e9724?src=pr&el=desc) will **increase** coverage by `<.01%`.
> The diff coverage is `100%`.

[![Impacted file tree graph](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733/graphs/tree.svg?width=650&token=eZ4WkYLtcO&height=150&src=pr)](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733?src=pr&el=tree)

```diff
@@            Coverage Diff             @@
##           master   #24733      +/-   ##
==========================================
+ Coverage   92.39%   92.39%   +<.01%     
==========================================
  Files         166      166              
  Lines       52378    52387       +9     
==========================================
+ Hits        48393    48402       +9     
  Misses       3985     3985
```

| Flag | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| #multiple | `90.81% <100%> (ø)` | :arrow_up: |
| #single | `42.9% <9.09%> (-0.01%)` | :arrow_down: |

| [Impacted Files](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733?src=pr&el=tree) | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| [pandas/core/reshape/merge.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvcmVzaGFwZS9tZXJnZS5weQ==) | `94.47% <100%> (+0.06%)` | :arrow_up: |

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 lgtm. can you merge master to fix the conflict, ping on green. @jreback green thanks @JustinZhengBC 