TST: Troubleshoot windows timeouts
- [ ] closes #xxxx
- [ ] tests added / passed
- [ ] Ensure all linting tests pass, see [here](https://pandas.pydata.org/pandas-docs/dev/development/contributing_codebase.html#pre-commit) for how to run them
- [ ] whatsnew entry

any things found here? nothing yet, plan is to keep re-pushing until a timeout happens in one of the windows builds and hope that this lets us identify which test its in closing in favor of #44429