Fix Inconsistent MultiIndex Sorting
closes #20994
closes #20945
closes #21052
- [X] tests added / passed
- [X] passes `git diff upstream/master -u -- "*.py" | flake8 --diff`
- [ ] whatsnew entry

This is a pretty dark corner and I'll admit that I don't fully understand all of the elements in play. That said, the first problem I noticed with the first referenced issue was an errant conditional that was causing `level=0` and `level='foo'` to go down two different branches, even if the name of the first level was in fact 'foo'.

After uncovering that, the subsequent ordering of the returned index then was incorrect regardless of the argument. I moved a monotonic sort around to fix this, though I feel like:

 - There may be a more general purpose solution to fix this AND
 - There may be more expressive tests to add here

Feedback appreciated
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 Just added a test and fix to cover Series as well, as we had another related issue pop up

cc @kdebrab  lgtm. @toobaz if you'd have a quick look. merge if ok. thanks @WillAyd very nice! Does this need a whatsnew? @jorisvandenbossche I can add one. Should I just open a separate PR for that? If you think it is needed (if there are user facing changes), then a new PR is perfect