 ENH: making mode stable/keeping original ordering
- [x] closes #39007
- [x] tests added / passed
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- [x] whatsnew entry

This is follow up of #39009 but for `mode`: now keys returned by `mode` are in the original order. This is also improvement of the code quality as `mode` now uses the same code path as `value_counts`.

Fixes a performance regression of #39009.

can you run the mode asvs (doubt we have too many), value_counts & some indexing ones just to make sure nothing is changing here I have added some asv-benchmarks, because otherwise mode seems to be not covered in asv_bench.

For running `asv continuous -f 1.10 upstream/master HEAD  -b series_methods.Mode -b ^indexing` I got:

```
       before           after         ratio
     [309cf3a6]       [e91e27a2]
+        18.6±1ms         51.3±4ms     2.76  series_methods.Mode.time_mode(100000, 'int')
+      18.9±0.5ms         38.4±5ms     2.03  series_methods.Mode.time_mode(100000, 'uint')
+      43.8±0.4ms         88.9±7ms     2.03  series_methods.Mode.time_mode(100000, 'float')
+     1.19±0.03ms      1.55±0.02ms     1.30  series_methods.Mode.time_mode(10000, 'int')
+     1.20±0.01ms      1.52±0.03ms     1.26  series_methods.Mode.time_mode(10000, 'uint')
+     1.89±0.08ms      2.39±0.04ms     1.26  series_methods.Mode.time_mode(10000, 'float')
+         134±2ms          153±2ms     1.15  series_methods.Mode.time_mode(100000, 'object')
```

There is a slow down, as soon as the table with keys no longer fits the cache (10^3 is OK, 10^5 isn't). More cache-misses should be expected, due to an additional indirection in `value_counts_xxx`, which is needed for keeping the original order.

Looking at the results it looks as if the array-sizes in asv-tests for `value_counts` are too small, otherwise this regression should be visible in asv-run in #39009 as well.
 When I change `series_methods.ValueCounts` similar to https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/39353/commits/ecf9ff6e0702f54e41537cdc58a4e4675b6b23d3, i.e. adding different array-sizes, and compare with asv PR #39009 I get the following:

```
       before           after         ratio
     [2f883215]       [ecf9ff6e]
+      25.6±0.8ms         74.5±1ms     2.91  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(100000, 'int')
+        26.4±1ms         73.1±5ms     2.76  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(100000, 'uint')
+      51.2±0.7ms         123±20ms     2.40  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(100000, 'float')
-         212±9ms          176±3ms     0.83  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(100000, 'object')
-     1.50±0.02ms      1.05±0.02ms     0.70  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(1000, 'object')
-      12.5±0.1ms       8.57±0.1ms     0.69  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(10000, 'object')
```

With smaller sizes (as it is currently the case), the issues with cache misses aren't visible and one sees only  speed-up in case of `object` (because some pre-/post-processing is no longer needed):

```
       before           after         ratio
     [2f883215]       [ecf9ff6e]
-     1.50±0.02ms      1.05±0.02ms     0.70  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(1000, 'object')
``` is the build_count_table just a special case version of value_counts that doesn't keep order (and that is why its faster)? @jreback 

> is the build_count_table just a special case version of value_counts that doesn't keep order (and that is why its faster)?

that is correct. However, my implementation is  a little bit naive: I have missed, that there are more cache misses now (misses for look-up in table + miss for lookup in the line `result_counts.data.data[unique_key_index] += 1` vs misses only for look-up table in the old version) and it really counts for bigger arrays.

I think there is a way to improve the performance (which would also improve `value_counts` as well) making it almost as fast as the old version. I will try it. Comparison to the state before #39009 was merged (`-b series_methods.ValueCounts  -b series_methods.Mode`):

```
       before           after         ratio
     [2f883215]       [31512ea5]
-         251±5ms          197±4ms     0.79  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(100000, 'object')
-      13.3±0.8ms       9.36±0.8ms     0.70  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(10000, 'object')
-      1.73±0.1ms      1.18±0.08ms     0.68  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(1000, 'object')
```

no additional cache misses and better times for object, because post processing was removed.

Compared to the current master:

```
       before           after         ratio
     [309cf3a6]       [31512ea5]
-         165±4ms         62.7±2ms     0.38  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(100000, 'float')
-         103±2ms         31.9±2ms     0.31  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(100000, 'int')
-         106±2ms         33.0±2ms     0.31  series_methods.ValueCounts.time_value_counts(100000, 'uint')
```
Performance regression of #39009 has been reverted.

 very nice thanks @realead keep em coming!