Revert BUG-24212 fix usage of Index.take in pd.merge
xref https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24733/
closes https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/issues/24897
reopens https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/issues/24212

Added the test from #24897 too. # [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=h1) Report
> Merging [#24904](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=desc) into [master](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/commit/94d989e4ae682bbd39f5599ef1d1f455bea0c3fd?src=pr&el=desc) will **decrease** coverage by `49.48%`.
> The diff coverage is `0%`.

[![Impacted file tree graph](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/graphs/tree.svg?width=650&token=eZ4WkYLtcO&height=150&src=pr)](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=tree)

```diff
@@             Coverage Diff             @@
##           master   #24904       +/-   ##
===========================================
- Coverage   92.39%    42.9%   -49.49%     
===========================================
  Files         166      166               
  Lines       52413    52404        -9     
===========================================
- Hits        48425    22482    -25943     
- Misses       3988    29922    +25934
```

| Flag | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| #multiple | `?` | |
| #single | `42.9% <0%> (+0.01%)` | :arrow_up: |

| [Impacted Files](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=tree) | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| [pandas/core/reshape/merge.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvcmVzaGFwZS9tZXJnZS5weQ==) | `9.51% <0%> (-84.97%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/io/formats/latex.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2lvL2Zvcm1hdHMvbGF0ZXgucHk=) | `0% <0%> (-100%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/core/categorical.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvY2F0ZWdvcmljYWwucHk=) | `0% <0%> (-100%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/io/sas/sas\_constants.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2lvL3Nhcy9zYXNfY29uc3RhbnRzLnB5) | `0% <0%> (-100%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/tseries/plotting.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL3RzZXJpZXMvcGxvdHRpbmcucHk=) | `0% <0%> (-100%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/tseries/converter.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL3RzZXJpZXMvY29udmVydGVyLnB5) | `0% <0%> (-100%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/io/formats/html.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2lvL2Zvcm1hdHMvaHRtbC5weQ==) | `0% <0%> (-99.35%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/core/groupby/categorical.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvZ3JvdXBieS9jYXRlZ29yaWNhbC5weQ==) | `0% <0%> (-95.46%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/io/sas/sas7bdat.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2lvL3Nhcy9zYXM3YmRhdC5weQ==) | `0% <0%> (-91.17%)` | :arrow_down: |
| [pandas/io/sas/sas\_xport.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2lvL3Nhcy9zYXNfeHBvcnQucHk=) | `0% <0%> (-90.15%)` | :arrow_down: |
| ... and [124 more](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree-more) | |

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 # [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=h1) Report
> Merging [#24904](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=desc) into [master](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/commit/94d989e4ae682bbd39f5599ef1d1f455bea0c3fd?src=pr&el=desc) will **decrease** coverage by `<.01%`.
> The diff coverage is `100%`.

[![Impacted file tree graph](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/graphs/tree.svg?width=650&token=eZ4WkYLtcO&height=150&src=pr)](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=tree)

```diff
@@            Coverage Diff             @@
##           master   #24904      +/-   ##
==========================================
- Coverage   92.39%   92.38%   -0.01%     
==========================================
  Files         166      166              
  Lines       52413    52404       -9     
==========================================
- Hits        48425    48416       -9     
  Misses       3988     3988
```

| Flag | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| #multiple | `90.81% <100%> (-0.01%)` | :arrow_down: |
| #single | `42.89% <0%> (ø)` | :arrow_up: |

| [Impacted Files](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=tree) | Coverage Δ | |
|---|---|---|
| [pandas/core/reshape/merge.py](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904/diff?src=pr&el=tree#diff-cGFuZGFzL2NvcmUvcmVzaGFwZS9tZXJnZS5weQ==) | `94.4% <100%> (-0.07%)` | :arrow_down: |

------

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> **Legend** - [Click here to learn more](https://docs.codecov.io/docs/codecov-delta)
> `Δ = absolute <relative> (impact)`, `ø = not affected`, `? = missing data`
> Powered by [Codecov](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=footer). Last update [94d989e...9c45869](https://codecov.io/gh/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/24904?src=pr&el=lastupdated). Read the [comment docs](https://docs.codecov.io/docs/pull-request-comments).
