BUG: unexpected merge_ordered results caused by wrongly groupby
- [x] closes #38166
- [x] closes #38167
- [x] tests added / passed
- [ ] passes `black pandas`
- [ ] passes `git diff upstream/master -u -- "*.py" | flake8 --diff`
- [x] whatsnew entry

Hello @GYHHAHA! Thanks for updating this PR. We checked the lines you've touched for [PEP 8](https://www.python.org/dev/peps/pep-0008) issues, and found:





There are currently no PEP 8 issues detected in this Pull Request. Cheers! :beers: 

##### Comment last updated at 2020-11-30 03:51:58 UTC thanks @GYHHAHA very nice