BUG: `query` on columns with characters like # in its name
- [x] closes #59285
- [x] closes #49633
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This PR first added parsing.py: https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/28215

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The issue is that none of the libraries `tokenize`, `ast`, or `numexpr` handle # the way we want it to.

`tokenize` is used here: https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/blob/18a3eec55523513c5e08fe014646c044cc825fa4/pandas/core/computation/expr.py#L169 https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/blob/18a3eec55523513c5e08fe014646c044cc825fa4/pandas/core/computation/parsing.py#L186
`ast` is used here: https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/blob/18a3eec55523513c5e08fe014646c044cc825fa4/pandas/core/computation/expr.py#L407
`numexpr` is used here: https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/blob/18a3eec55523513c5e08fe014646c044cc825fa4/pandas/core/computation/engines.py#L129

@aram-cinnamon for the pre-commit issue you can see if you find anything of note in https://github.com/pre-commit/pygrep-hooks/issues, but I am doubtful that there is any real solve. You may just need to add  `exclude: ^pandas/tests/frame/test_query_eval.py` to the `rst-inline-touching-normal` hook in the .pre-commit-config.yaml file Thanks so much Will!! Hm tests still failing. Will look into it soon Hmm the failure on the `Future Infer Strings` job is kind of tricky, and tangential to what you are doing. For now I would just add the `@pytest.mark.xfail(using_string_dtype(), reason="TODO(infer_string)")` decorator that you see on some other tests Thanks @aram-cinnamon - very impressive! Great work!  Had been hoping to see this in the next patch release which was `2.2.3` (released 20-sep-2024), but didn't make it.  Any thoughts when this might make its way into an official release? It will be part of the 3.0 release