BUG/ERR: raise correct error when sql driver is not installed
Closes #14513

When the driver was not installed, but sqlalchemy itself was, when passing a URI string, you got an error indicating that SQLAlchemy was not installed, instead of the driver not being installed. This was because the import error for the driver was captured as import error for sqlalchemy.

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