BUG: groupby().rolling(freq) with monotonic dates within groups
- [x] closes #46061
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There will be a slight performance impact during the validation (that can be a 1 time hit) that scales with the number of groups. Here's validating 3 vs 100 groups

```
In [1]:
   ...:         dates = date_range(start="2016-01-01 09:30:00", periods=20, freq="s")
   ...:         df = DataFrame(
   ...:             {
   ...:                 "A": [1] * 20 + [2] * 12 + [3] * 8,
   ...:                 "B": np.concatenate((dates, dates)),
   ...:                 "C": np.arange(40),
   ...:             }
   ...:         )

In [2]: %timeit df.groupby("A").rolling("4s", on="B")
764 µs ± 38.7 µs per loop (mean ± std. dev. of 7 runs, 1000 loops each)

In [6]:
   ...:         dates = date_range(start="2016-01-01 09:30:00", periods=50, freq="s")
   ...:         df = DataFrame(
   ...:             {
   ...:                 "A": np.arange(100),
   ...:                 "B": np.concatenate((dates, dates)),
   ...:                 "C": np.arange(100),
   ...:             }
   ...:         )

In [7]: %timeit df.groupby("A").rolling("4s", on="B")
2.26 ms ± 30.2 µs per loop (mean ± std. dev. of 7 runs, 100 loops each)
``` @mroeschke - It looks like the call to `groupby(...).rolling(...)` went from O(1) to O(n), is that right? I would describe that as being something significant. Perhaps it can't be avoided, but I'd like to have another look. In any case, I don't think we should be merging PRs (especially our own) when there are outstanding questions. @mroeschke there was no hurry on this one Sorry I was too eager on the LGTM. https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/46078 reverts this PR.

This validation is O(number of groups). Happy to have a suggestion regarding a more performant solution. This PR was reverted yet did fix a regression in 1.4.0.

In the absence of further PRs submitted to fix the reported regression, I propose undoing the revert of this PR to include this in 1.4.2 as performance is secondary to correctness?

this worked (for the sorted groups case) in 1.3.5 so maybe a fix that only resolves that scenario would be more performant?

If we merge this and are subsequently able to improve performance, we could maybe also consider backporting the performance improvement. We're hitting this issue in ibis in a few of our tests cases and it would be great if the revert of this could be undone. I took another look, I'm not in love with the amount of compute done in `.groupby.rolling` (I think this objects should be lightweight), but I don't see any immediate approaches that would be better to fix the regression. +1 on applying this patch. 

For better performance, can we leverage Index? Adapting the example from https://github.com/pandas-dev/pandas/pull/46065#issuecomment-1046100577

```
def make_df(size):
    dates = pd.date_range(start="2016-01-01 09:30:00", periods=size, freq="s")
    df = pd.DataFrame(
        {
            "A": range(2 * size),
            "B": np.concatenate((dates, dates)),
            "C": np.arange(2 * size),
        }
    )
    return df

df = make_df(5000)
%timeit df.groupby("A").rolling("4s", on="B")
df = make_df(50000)
%timeit df.groupby("A").rolling("4s", on="B")
```

I get

```
179 ms ± 1.73 ms per loop (mean ± std. dev. of 7 runs, 10 loops each)
1.82 s ± 48.2 ms per loop (mean ± std. dev. of 7 runs, 1 loop each)
```

Profiling this shows almost all the time spent checking the monotonicity. However
```
df = make_df(50000)
%timeit df.set_index(['A', 'B']).index.is_monotonic_increasing
```

Results in True and I get `11.4 ms ± 114 µs per loop (mean ± std. dev. of 7 runs, 100 loops each)` > %timeit df.set_index(['A', 'B']).index.is_monotonic_increasing

Interestingly, I guess for a `MultiIndex` only one of the levels needs to be monotonically increasing for it to return True

```
In [3]: df.set_index(['A', 'B']).index
Out[3]:
MultiIndex([(   0, '2016-01-01 09:30:00'),
            (   1, '2016-01-01 09:30:01'),
            (   2, '2016-01-01 09:30:02'),
            (   3, '2016-01-01 09:30:03'),
            (   4, '2016-01-01 09:30:04'),
            (   5, '2016-01-01 09:30:05'),
            (   6, '2016-01-01 09:30:06'),
            (   7, '2016-01-01 09:30:07'),
            (   8, '2016-01-01 09:30:08'),
            (   9, '2016-01-01 09:30:09'),
            ...
            (9990, '2016-01-01 10:53:10'),
            (9991, '2016-01-01 10:53:11'),
            (9992, '2016-01-01 10:53:12'),
            (9993, '2016-01-01 10:53:13'),
            (9994, '2016-01-01 10:53:14'),
            (9995, '2016-01-01 10:53:15'),
            (9996, '2016-01-01 10:53:16'),
            (9997, '2016-01-01 10:53:17'),
            (9998, '2016-01-01 10:53:18'),
            (9999, '2016-01-01 10:53:19')],
           names=['A', 'B'], length=10000)

In [4]: df.set_index(['A', 'B']).index.get_level_values("A").is_monotonic_increasing
Out[4]: True

# This is the rolling axis (on="B")
In [5]: df.set_index(['A', 'B']).index.get_level_values("B").is_monotonic_increasing
Out[5]: False
```

Unfortunately we can't use `.is_monotonic_*` outright because it's the monotonicity of the entire axis while we want to know if each group in the axis is monotonic. e.g.

```
In [6]: print(all(group.B.is_monotonic_increasing for key, group in df.groupby("A")))
True
```