raise ValueError if usecols has same size as but doesn't exist in headers (#14671)
fixes #14671 
- needs tests
- add whatsnew note in 0.19.2
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1) Rebase onto `master` - your patch will need to be changed for this be merge-able.

2) I agree with @jorisvandenbossche that you do not need `self._reader.header`.  You can use `self.names` AFAICT, so apply your current logic with `self.names`.  The reason is that `self.names` should IINM contain the column names of the final output.  Thus, you should be able to use that regardless of whether you read the `header` OR provide `names`.

3) Note that the Python parser does not raise if you provide out of bounds indices:
~~~python
>>> data = 'a,b\n1,2'
>>> read_csv(StringIO(data), usecols=[0, 2], engine='python')
  a
0 1
~~~
Given the scope of your patch (which applies to both out-of-bounds indices and non-existent names), you will have to also make sure the Python engine raises similarly in this situation for consistency. pls comment if youd like to update / rebase and continue