 last relationship, it ended up being the case.
Just be careful in how you proceed...be trusting, but not blind. Trust your instincts. Talk to him about how you're feeling and don't be the martyr...if you're uncomfortable with something, let him know. After all your time together he should understand and you should be his top priority.
Lot's of stuff here. Perhaps too much to cover on this thread. I understand your situation because guess what here I am on Realjock with my boyfriend sitting on the sofa next to me. Here's my take on it for what it is worth.
A couple of things to think about. You may be jealous but not so much of their relationship per se but of his time spent away from you. Perfectly normal if you too are very close, Talk to him about that.
You may also wish for more transparency. Having a private friend, which is perhaps new to you both, is difficult to integrate without lot's of transparency as what is going on between them. Having to look at his e-mail really shows a lack of it. When it comes to sites like these, my boyfriend has full access to them. I fully tell what I'm doing in there. That way, my boyfriend is always included in one fashion or another.
As for sexual innuendos, that's something you too will have to discuss. This is obviously (to me) an issue of defining the boundaries of monogamy within a couple. Talk to him.
Have faith in your relationship. You two have been together for a long time. Best for you both.
A friend is one thing 3- 400 texts a month plus e-mail and phone calls. Do they hang out together more than you and he?? Are they physical at all when they interact??
I'm pretty blunt as well and I would have a more serious talk with him. How would he react if you invested that much time in someone else??
Wow he has alot of free time???
Crazy. When I was 10. These playground things are weird.
Serious... what for... hope that OMG I LOVE YOU?
I burn in hell...
I think you already know the answer. I think you should man up and approach our partner as an adult and just air out whatever it is you have on your mind.
I think we all have really good friends but there become a point some things are just too much a 3-400 text messages seems a bit excessive especially when you combine the rather "questionable" emails your parnter has had with this friend.
It doesn't paint a good picture and een though curiosity/jealousy got the better of you it seems you had a good reason to be intrusive.
Like I said. Man up and confront the situation or be burned by your own wondering mind.
I think its time to have a heart-to-heart with your partner on the type of relationship you both want to have going forward. After 10 years, perhaps it is time to be willing to redefine it. Have you been ACTIVELY investing in the relationship so that you continue to grow together? After 10 years LT relationships develop a comfortable inertia, and begin to wither gradually like a slow leak in a tire.
Men need newness though, and that is probably what this other guy is offering. Your BF is having his cake and eating it too. He has the stability of knowing you are going to be around, and he has the excitement of someone new to explore with mentally or otherwise. All this could work out fine if you both are willing to accept this type of relationship and are willing to discuss its possibilities for both your mutual benefit. Its one way to stay together and also avoid stagnation at the same time.
Each relationship is different, and only you can answer this.
If you are truly uncomfortable with sharing your partner like this with someone else, and this is not the type of relationship you want to have, then you have to decide whether or not you want to continue with him. After a 10 year investment together, its not going to be easy to part ways, but in the long run it will save you a lot of emotional anguish to be willing to call it now vs. spend the rest of your life in a relationship that doesn't reflect your values.
Good luck...I know this one isn't easy.
HAHAHAHA WOW! This is my situation! Okay Seattlestocky, in my relationship I would be your partner. Let me first say that 400 text messages a month may not be that high - that would amount to about 7.8% of all my text messages last month. I sent out around 5200 last month and close to half of them probably went to one of my closest friends... it was a rough month LOL!
1. Do NOT go through his email, text messages, letters, or other personal items. It's not right, will piss him off to no end, and create new trust issues. you have to know that in whatever you read or discover, you WILL NOT HAVE the whole story and your imagination will fill in the blanks, thus making you AND your partner miserable.
2. You cannot be everything and everyone all the time to your partner or your relatioship will stagnate. He needs to have friends and he may well have some very close friends but this shouldn't threaten you. 
3. DO NOT begrudge his time with his friends. DO NOT fuss at him about texting or maintaining contact via some other means with his friends. If it seems to get excessive then you need to take a step back, relax, and find a positive way to let him know that you need attention.
4. DO be patient, love him, and give him space to get his life into a stable postion.
 BUT if he is not (and I suspect he's not, or else why would you be with him?) then he just needs some other human contact to make him feel secure/whole/complete or whatever you want to call it. If you love him, give him the space to do this and he will most probably respect the boundries set by your relationship.SERVICES
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Ella Bulley is a Material Designer based in London, creating work that frequently crosses the realms of textiles, product, art and set design. Interests in material exploration developed whilst enrolled at Central Saint Martin’s School of Art and Design, where she completed the MA Material Futures (formerly MA Textile Futures) in 2014.
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Ella is has recently completed a design residency at the Design Museum, London. Her work has gone on to be exhibited at London Design Festival, Milan Design Week, Tendence, Ambiente, Sommerset House and the Design Museum, London. Ella was also listed as Crafts Councils design graduates to watch 2014 and 'Project Saccharum’ was awarded the ‘Form 2015: Innovative Craft’ award for its use of sugar as a material.The Eastern Conference remains the Orlando Apollos’ conference to lose, though they only lead by one game after their first loss of the season (to the Arizona Hotshots) and the Birmingham Iron’s win against the San Diego Fleet. Nevertheless, a win for the Apollos (or a loss by the Memphis Express) this weekend would clinch a playoff berth for Steve Spurrier’s club.
The Western Conference still remains muddled, though the San Antonio Commanders return home for the first time in a month in sole possession of first place. They’ll play a Salt Lake Stallions team nursing long-shot playoff odds, while the other two conference teams will be fighting it out for second place.
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