, or never really listened. I have listed a few examples of a leader with poor judgement, unfortunately, there are many of these cases, and nonetheless I think you get the picture.
Most of the time, those bad bosses never let their pride or their ego down, to lead with their heart. In the moment, they care more about being “right” than being considerate, they’re more focused on work than the problems someone else might be facing or they are just not brave enough to be vulnerable with their own lives. If they were, they would show you that underneath it all, they really do care.
If you are ashamed to admit it, and you have been “that person” lately, it is never too late to start showing that you care about your team. We all have bad days; where we haven’t been able to see past our noses, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Your team is ready to feel connected and cared for. However, if you don’t start to treat them as HUMANS, they will go work somewhere else, maybe even sabotage your job or if nothing else, they will certainly bring down the rest of the team.
You might read all this and think, “well there’s work to be done and I don’t have time to chat or celebrate every project.” Showing that you care doesn’t mean chatting the day away or celebrating every little thing. But just a quick “How’s your mom doing today?” or ask them “How do you feel about doing that report you submitted last week?”. Just by inquiring (personal or work related), will show them that you care. Questions = Caring (in most cases and especially if you’re listening to UNDERSTAND, not just to respond). Remember that if you don’t ACKNOWLEDGE your team’s hard work, they may not put in as much effort next time.
You might think showing that you care, means letting things slide or allowing people to do less than what is expected of them. What I really mean is that you need to think before you speak so you are respectful, ask questions and work to understand the situation and your team. These tips on communicating are really the first steps to creating a MEANINGFUL connection and normally allow opportunity for you to be HELPFUL. Then you can build that connection through acknowledgement. But remember most importantly, NEVER stop caring about those you work with. You are capable of all of this and together, we can put the HUMAN back in leadership.
Brene Brown has a new book “Dare to Lead” where you can learn more about “Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts…Daring Greatly and Rising Strong at Work”.
"WHAT YOU, MR./MS. LEGISLATOR HAVE DONE IS UNCONSTITUTIONAL AND I HEREBY DIRECT YOU TO TURN YOURSELF IN TO THE SERGEANT-AT-ARMS FOR TREASON."
Actually, not a single issue that DDC has raised is even close to being unclear as to Constitutional legitimacy. Which means every one of my representatives is either stupid or evil for violating the sacred document on practically every issue—there have only been a handful of issues on which the rep voted correctly, though almost always for the wrong reason. It's bad, and the Deny Consent approach is good. I now shall participate in DDC with redoubled vigor! And I ask that you do as well.
Obamacare has been upheld by the Supreme Court.
This is a criminal ruling.
It's simply wrong for one group to impose its will on others using threats of violence dressed up as law.
It's time to admit that we're in the grip of gangsters who care nothing about what we want.
It's time for us to move into open rebellion.
This does NOT mean violence. It means no longer playing pretend.
It means no longer expecting elections to save us. Elections merely endorse the criminality.
It means no longer believing in politicians.
It means no longer being seduced by the Regime Media's diversions, of which the partisan electoral contest is the biggest and worst.
We must loudly deny our consent to this criminal "government," and we must do it every single day.
Downsize DC is going to change to this mode of ATTACK!
We've been planning to do this for a long time anyway, but the sheer criminality of the Obamacare ruling gives our plan new urgency.
No more begging Congress to do what we want. Instead...
We must tell them that they have no legitimacy. That their dictates and actions are criminal.
This means that every single Downsize DC campaign will be restructured to aim at one point... Tell the criminals that they do not have our consent.
Are you with us? Are you ready to fight? 
We're starting today to make the changes needed for Deny Consent to become our main aim.
We need your financial support to execute these changes. Please vote with your dollars, because it's the only vote you have left that can still count.
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Instead, I will say that at the library we have also been checking out James Marshall’s GEORGE AND MARTHA books. Have you read them? I love them. I know some people probably hate them. I love them. They are funny and weird and each book has five stories which makes the boys feel like we’re reading a big book with chapters.
Today I am going to relate one of the stories as motivation for the upcoming writing marathon. Please, take this to heart.
George has a sweet tooth.
Martha is worried about George and tells him to please stop eating so many sweets.
George says he’ll be fine. He’s under control.
Martha decides she needs to get serious so she starts smoking. Like cigars. 
George is shocked. Why are you doing this?
She says she’s fine. She’s under control.
George says please stop.
She says she’s fine, the smoke billowing all over the illustration.
Then he says, Please, please, why are you doing this?
Then she says, will you stop eating sweets?
He said, yes. and he did.
Isn’t that inspirational? Doesn’t that tell you a thing or two about how to motivate a loved one?
Now for the marathon, how can we motivate each other? I have a problem where I make promises/goals to myself (write a page a day, write 1000 words a day, write 19 minutes a day, think about writing sometime during the day, etc.) and then I don’t do it. I need someone I love to start smoking cigars or some other destructive behavior and then threaten not to stop unless I write 500 words a day.
Who volunteers? What can we do to push ourselves? Should we post our marathon hopes and then post the results? Have a post marathon party for everyone who reaches their goal? Partner up and email each other throughout the marathon? Send each other a prize if we make it to the finish line? What do you think?
I don’t have a sitter those days so my writing will have to happen at night. I’m trying to clear my schedule so that I can actually get a good chunk of a revision done. I hope.
*Or maybe not. We’ll see how I feel next week.
Yes, it’s finally here. This weekend we’ll be starting the three-day marathon that we’ve done in the past.
I’m kind of excited. My marathon will be more rewriting and adding a lot to an old piece rather than starting a new.
The thing is, how does one write for long periods of time when there is so much to do?
If you think I’m gonna hand out answers, you’re wrong! I haven’t figured that out yet!
Maybe what you do is work fast during the time you have before hand.
So, the DD has to be done. I think the first time we marathoned together I had to rewrite something then, too.
My goal, then, is that by the time Saturday rolls around, I plan to be into the third big revision of the book, ready to send to my amazing St. Martin’s Press editor.
It IS a good idea to prepare for the marathon. We