 placenta to stop, is it a matter of minutes or longer?
Thank you everyone for all your kind words, it's lovely to have you all to talk to while I'm stuck on my own in the week, you're all so nice. We are much better now and probably stronger for all we went through, just bad timing I suppose but hit me like a tonne of bricks when it all kicked off. Had a cry earlier and that helped a lot.
LadyMedea you must be a very strong person and a strong couple to get through all of that and come out the other side. It's really admirable that you stuck by your dh and that he managed to work through his issues. Depression can be such a horrid illness for everyone involved.
Claire that's hilarious, do you imagine me as a mean woman covered in worts!?! It does worry me that my name shortens to mean too, i didn't think about that when choosing it. Should have been a tad more inventive i think
Mum I saw that on under the dome and thought it was abit weird. Also if my mw is like the one on hollyoaks I'll go mad. She went to go for a pee while the lady was crowning! Lol
I can't find out who talked about that birth on Hollyoaks but it reminded me of a scene in Under The Dome (stephen king book made into a series on tv) anyway, this lady is giving birth and the doctor says the cord is around her neck but the doc is incapaciated (long story) so someone else has to step in and save the day- he cuts the cord whilst it's wrapped around the baby's neck when only the head has been delivered. I'd never heard of this and thought it was bullshit (also laughed at how the doc kept saying 'push' push'! all the time and not waiting for a contraction) anyway I googled it and apparently it does happen on rare occasions, then I came across an article all about how, like many interventions, it's known to cause more harm than good. So, for those of you who are interested here's a link to a birth story of someone who went through it. She campaigns for more awareness now and to educate people/midwives that the cord should not be tampered with.
If you're looking for a natural birth with as little intervention as possible then you'll want to read this. I have, with both previous births, asked for the cord to be left until it stops pulsating to make sure all the blood from the placenta goes into the baby (second time round it was perfect as I was waiting outside the hospital with baby in my arms, cord still attached, so there was plenty of time for that!) This lady also goes on to say how her son has now been diagnosed with Autism and although there are no studies/scientific evidence to link premature cord clamping (and thus lack of blood/oxygen to the brain) with Autism or other developmental disorders, it's an interesting one to think about.
giftedbirthsupport.com/2011/06/01/birth-story-nuchal-cord/?blogsub=confirming#subscribe-blog
I'm certainly going to talk to my midwife about it...
meandbumpy that reminds me of what was happening Xmas 2011 in our lives, every now and then it still pops up and makes me sad. DH had moved into the spare room and asked for a separation in early January. He had been behaving appallingly for nearly a year but I knew that he was depressed and wasn't himself... Unfortunately before he saw the light he managed to have a brief affair... No idea how I got through that but since he's had therapy and dealt with his issues he's a changed man. We are so happy as a couple now I'm glad I hung on for grim death.
Thanks for all the kind thoughts
DD had a nice long nap this afternoon and after she woke up I let her have a couple of crackers, she's now had about 6 in total and touch wood no more puking since, I think if she can get through the night she'll be on the mend. Got the midwife tomorrow so she'll have to come along too, that could be fun!
Sorry to hear about your troubles meandbumpy does sound like you have a lovely DP though
PS, first time I read your name I misread it as mean and bumpy and now that's always how I read it, sorry!
Aww meansbumby these things are meant to try us and it obviously means your relationship is strong! Hang in there.
Totally of subject but watching holly oaks and she's giving birth to twins. She said she didn't expect to be early (don't twins usually end up early) and she wanted a water birth (would they let you have one with twins?) I don't know it just made me laugh at how fake it was lol.
Hope al those that are poorly are feeling better. I'm making cottage pie for dinner
It's just hit me that me and dp could be parents in 8 weeks!!! OMG!!
do you knit two at a time on the same needle nom? I found it much quicker to do it that way. Just make another little ball from the yarn you are using and away you go.
oh mean that doesn't sound like fun. You are moving forward now though and the bad times are behind you. Just concentrate on your little family now. Hope you feel better soon.
Aww mean I recognise that feeling of going from everything being great to everything being in pieces around you. It's really tough, but it sounds like you're definitely back on track now.
whisper that would drive me absolutely crazy. You must be a saint to put up with it because I definitely would have thrown something at her by now.
clare hope DD is feeling better. I do think after a certain point if the vomiting hasn't stopped it's better to be throwing something up than just water. It's not like it's food poisoning - DS gets the nasty, phlegmy cough-to-vom too - and plain food may just be easier to keep down.
Glad it wasn't anything serious feather just keep counting off the days - every day counts! Although given your history did you consider asking for an internal? I'm really not a fan of them but second babies can engage a lot later, like when in active labour, and if your contractions weren't detectable last time her not feeling anything isn't necessarily reassuring.
3rd tri scan tomorrow. Hope baby behaves and consultant can confirm position!
I'm kicking myself at the moment for agreeing to knit 20 pairs of baby bootees for a charity thing. I have 3 pairs complete, and about 3 weeks to do 17 more.
meandbumpy It sounds like you and DP have been through a lot and come out the other side stronger and better for it which can only be a good thing for your little one.
Feeling sad this evening. I've been packing and sorting things for when we move and found the Christmas card I sent to dp for our first Christmas. It says how much fun I'd had with him that year and how much I was looking forward to 2012. It's really brought up a load of bad feelings as by April we'd both been made redundant, I'd lost my flat and my Great Uncle, who had been like a father to me, had died suddenly. It was early on in our relationship and should have been a happy time, but I couldn't help spiraling into depression and putting him through so much stress. I remember moving in with him the day after my uncle died, driving up in the van with him trying to make it a positive experience but me just crying all the way.
Things have changed a lot, I'm on the mend and we're starting to recover money/job wise but reading that card has made it all feel raw again. I was so happy one moment and then inconsolable the next. It's the reason why we rushed into trying for a baby tbh. I didn't want to hold back or put it off because of reasons to do with money or situation when it seemed like these things were so unreliable anyway. It was a bit reckless, especially as we're now rushing around madly trying to get ready for the arrival but becoming pregnant has totally changed everything and kicked us both into gear to get our lives back on track and be happy again.
Hopefully it won't be too long until we can relax a bit more and start enjoying life again.
Sorry for long post and rambling on, hope everyone is having/had a good day and feeling better
granny pants are the best mrsshrubs I have been wearing them since about 20 weeks and I love them so much. I'm not sure I will ever go back to uncomfy underwear ever again haha.
ooh glad nothing bad happened feather hope baby stays put in there for a while longer.
mrs mumble in the other bed has not shut up all day. She makes this weird noise a bit like a bee or a wasp or something constantly. I don't think she knows she makes it. I am fully pissed off about it now and have come to the sitting room for a break from her. The midwives are getting annoyed by it too, one of them kept asking if there was a wasp in the room haha! I'm not sure I can take another night of her opera singing either, but thanks to the bad reaction to the drugs last night I am being kept in again so I guess I'll just have to put up with it. How he husband hasn't murdered her I will never know.
good job you were already waiting for the MW feather and managed to be reassured and seen quickly! I wonder