 do homework, WOW, that's rough, but what we have to sit back and think is, are there other issues here.
Sorry for being " CRITICAL" here, but you know what, someone standing over my shoulder barking like a drill sargent, and nitpicking EVERYTHING I do, or calling me things like USELESS or LAZY, isn't really going to inspire me to do anything for you either, as an adult I'd tell you to "go to hell", but a kid especially your own likely won't.
Mom needs to relax, and investigate the matter further. I know personally many parents who are quick to label their child, and for some reason think its a failure on their part if there is a problem, Get over it, if there is a problem and you will not acknowledge it, or get your child the appropriate help with it, then YOU are setting him or her up for a lifetime of frustration and feeling stupid.
I have a son with Dyslexia and ADHD, I'm not ashamed of him or his problems, and by working with his teachers, and doctors, we have come up with a plan for his SUCCESS. He knows if he dosen't do the work, he will fail like everyone else, but if he makes an HONEST effort on his notes and reports ( Spellcheck and Grammer check are the BEST inventions EVER), spelling can be forgiven, and his teachers allow him time to practice BEFORE having to read orally.
Homework (sigh) is yes a nightmare sometimes, but we do not force it as soon as the kids get home. We give them at least an hour to unwind first, and after sitting in class all day, my son could no more sit any longer than I could go Bungee Jumping. Again, his teachers and I came up with extended time limits for him, and EVERYTHING being done on the computer, if you ever seen his handwriting you'd know why.
A Learning Difference does NOT make a child stupid or Lazy, and it is one of the BIGGEST reasons people shouldn't be quick to critisize people on Message Boards for their spelling and Grammer mistakes, you don't know what these people have to go through to write these messages.
If you find yourself among those who don't have the patience for homework, and not all of us do, then FIND someone else to help them. Peers, grandparents, your spouse if applicable, you will ruin your relationship with your child if you keep going this way. You ARE NOT admitting failure, you are admitting the truth you don't have the patience, GET HELP!!!!!
I do homework here because my husband is also dyslexic and so reports and things drive him NUTS as well, but if they have to build a model or experiment, he's there with bells on, but we admit we have DIFFERENCES.
I truly HATE IT when people yell and get onto their kids BEFORE finding out if there might be a problem, you might be holding back a brilliant mind, your C student might actually be an A student, if instead of acting like a drill sargent, you actually find out if something is wrong, and by the way, the nitpicking, well why should the child even TRY, if what could be his best isn't good enough?
Again comments can only be made on the small blurb about next week as the show actually hasn't even aired yet. So here goes! I believe no matter what HER issues are there has to be accountability for what she is doing to her son. Cruel and unusual punishment! She is mentally abusing her son and thats for criticizing him for doing his homework. Why is it always the children who suffer for adults insecurities and weaknesses? Where are the rest of the family members and why aren't they stopping this? Sometimes I don't get it! Again Dr. Phil makes people aware of what is going on in families lives and I really hope someone doing the same to their children watches and learns from it. Keep it up sir!
I think home work has gone too far. The schools are saying they are giving 1 to 1 1/2 hour of homework yet it is the same amount of homework I had as a full time college student and this is in the 6th, 7th, and 8th grades. My children, who do need someone to help them stay focused (no not a drill seargent) usually take up to 3+ hours. This leaves no time for studying and no time for family life. I have even adjusted my work hours so we are all home by 3:30 yet there still is no family time. Japan has recently started to abolish homework due to several studies that found that kids do no better with homework than they do without. I think since the US followed Japan when they started the homework concept, that we should follow them yet, again. After all they seem to have much less educational problems than the US does. School work should be done in school and the only homework should be what the children don't finish in school. Lets face it, its not reality at all!! Most of us are off of work when we leave at the end of the day. There are some times I do work from home but that is only the work I was unable to finish during the work day. I much prefer to help my children build their study and reading habits and have some fun each night than to have to be yet another teacher!
I am a grandmother of 9 beautiful grandbabies, they are all in school or perhaps I should say have been in school( two have graduated).
Our teacher are getting paid for their job and some I must say make very good money, just to shift the responsibility on the parent.
Ive seen it with my own eyes, a teacher comes into the class room and tells his student " read chapter 10, do an essay on it and turn it in tomorrow" end of discussion.
Many teacher I am sure will be pissed off when they read it, but if the shoe fits wear it. Im not saying all teachers do this but I know alot of them do.
Another subject on the teachers. When I was in school I was sure all of my teacher were atleast 100 years old, todays teacher ( alot of them) are not much older then the students, they are the students""friend""" the student doesnt need a friend they have lots of them they need a teacher. Ive seen junior and senior students talking about the party they went to friday night, and guess what, mr, or mrs, so in so was there, now at this part they are not mr or mrs they are jeff or angie, they drink and dance and possibly even do drugs, then on monday morning when the student returns to scholl, they are suppose to be mr. or mrs. so in so, wronggggggggggggggg.
What kind of mixed signals are we sending our students.
Well sorry didnt mean to get away from the homework subject, but any child that has enough homework to last six hours, is getting to much homework.Come on people these are children we are talking about.When school is out they should be able to go outside and play or visit with their friends, or whatever, but six hours of homework is redicules.
How much work is being done at school?
My son is in 4th grade and on average he brings home 3-4 assignments a night. Sometimes 2-3 just in Math!! He is also writing a book report once a month, and a weekly assignment in Social Studies. Then there are his assignments in Science, Spelling and Reading. But Math is the big one, he has a workbook, single sheets and computer sheets. We assess the situation when he gets home so that we know how much time he has to be a kid before he has to crack down on homework. We usually put aside an hour, at least, for him every night. But when he struggles, like with reading, then it can take up to 2- 2 1/2 hours. And I have three other kids, younger than him. Where are we supposed to find the time? And what are they doing in school, if they are bringing home so much?
There is hope and help for this child and parent. My son and daughter-in-law had a similar situation with their daughter. Constant frustration that ended in tears for all in the 3rd grade. It's a matter of the child learning how to study and do homework. Within most school systems there are excellent tudoring programs available. Yes, there may be some expense involved, and if that's a problem, then barter with the tudor. Or, do you know of a an older student who is on the honor roll and who is willing to help your child. It's just a matter of seeking out help. Also, it releaves the parent, who in most instances is not familar with the complexities of the academics of today.
My granddaughter is now a freshman in high school and has been on the A-B honor roll since the 4th grade. The key is learning to study and how to do the homework.
I have gotten a TSS worker to help with this situation for both home and school. (So, I am not the only one that is having the problem) The problem is, the TSS work is temporary, usually for a few months. I have been there, and still there, so I am not judging anyone. I have found myself saying the same things to my daughter after a few hours of temper tantrums.
What do you do in instances where the child refuses to complete his/.her homework? I make her sit at the table until it is done. Sometimes she