 you inadvertently suggest he is since he’s apparently now skipping happily through life singing “tra la la” perhaps then this would be a good time to, I dunno, STOP feeling so bad about hurting them? Just a thought….
I really don’t get your attitude. I keep trying to respond to what you say in a decidedly different tone than you respond to me, evaluating what you say and giving you a fair, thoughtful response, and you keep coming back just as mean and totally dismissive.
Um, of course that means that I should reconsider how bad I’m feeling. That’s exactly what I’m doing right now.
Step 1: I felt super bad for hurting him.
Step 3: I feel stung/stupid for feeling so bad when he's not that hurt. <– when I wrote it/the time it takes to process an email and write a post.
But your response is just so mean-spirited. And you just keep coming after me.
It really honestly wasn’t meant to be that way. I am just confused by your recent posts… You have been contradicting yourself a lot in them…and I am trying to make you see that you need to free yourself from your bad feelings. Lately you seem in a vicious cycle with them. All I was trying to say here is that if he is NOT that hurt by what you did, then there is absolutely no reason you should feel guilty or bad about what you did. That’s it.
You know what? That’s enough.
And you know what? It has nothing to do with your advice to LW’s. You want to make LW’s feel like crap for asking how to deal with trouble that they can’t see their way out of because they’re too mired in it, fine.
It has nothing to do with the fact that you take defiant stances against everything that other people say. That’s fine. Bring on the differing opinions.
But I would like everyone to look back at your posts the last couple of weeks. Most of them aren’t talking to the LW and they aren’t debating the issues that have come up from the questions posed; they are yelling at the commenters. As a group and individually. They are yelling that “all” the commenters support women and hate men.  They are taking things out of context to draw larger, meaner points about how much, as a group, we suck, are unfair, hate men, don’t understand logic and, again, suck.

I wasn’t talking to you. And its not just that “I didn’t ask your opinion.” That’s not the point. People are allowed to give their opinions regardless of whether they are asked for. But look at your responses. The second is so condescending and so sarcastic. Why? You knew it was mean. You asked me what I would have wanted him to do and I AGREED with you that he couldn’t have done anything different, and explained that it just stung for a second so I commented on it, in a place where people seem to support me and don’t mind the random off-hand feeling.
But you took offense to that? You decided that you needed to insult me for that?  You could see that I was reflecting on my response to a stimulus. You knew that it wasn’t permanent stance.
You seem to derive pleasure from telling us how to feel and what not to feel. You get mad and vindictive and mean when we share the dirty secrets that sometimes we don’t feel the way we SHOULD, we feel the way we DO.  All of this for NO GOOD REASON. Just to be mean.
I don’t know; I really like this site.  And not in the way that you so callously dismissed people getting sad about purple thumbs. No. You keep attacking ME.  My actual life. I put it out here for people to see and comment on, and I’m ok with disagreement and even criticism. But criticism that is fair. You know yours isn’t fair. 
And I don’t like it. So I’m going to ask you very nicely to please stop.
I posted my comment before I saw this and reading this just increases my anger/frustration with BGM’s callous remarks. I just want you to know that his viewpoint does NOT represent the majority of people who frequent DW. Please know that you DO have people who support you, appreciate your contributions, and identify with your struggles.
I applaud you for that. Hope you’re feeling better.
Thank you for saying that, 6. I’m sick to death of the caustic comments. At this point, I just gloss over them.
Um, I challenge you to find an example of where I called anybody on here a name. And I am not referring to the LW, but to fellow commenters. Oh, I may attack their decisions and question their decisions. But I’ve never criticized them as a person or labeled them as anything. Seriously, go and find a quote. I challenge you. Have at it.
Clearly you have a problem with me. And that’s fine. But do stop trying to lash out at me under the guise of helping or defending others, because lets be honest, that is not at all your reason for doing it.
A small sampling a just a few very recent ones.  
Oh, please. You sound like a f-ing psycho now.
No, no. But the fact that so many of you actually think that such a conversation will magically solve any and all problems is really hilarious. It’s just childishly naive.
Um, okay… If you think your family doesn’t pick up on your resentment…well, sorry, but you are sorely mistaken.
Oh, get off the cross. Nobody put a gun to ANY of your heads and forced you to get knocked up three freaking times!!! Seriously… I pity so many of your children for I have never, ever seen so many people describe motherhood in such foul and ungrateful terms… Seriously. 
Looks at all those thumbsdown.., Why do we even bother being the voice of reason around here? All anybody in these comment sections seemingly wants is to validate their own failings as a person. Nobody tries to excel, instead its endless laundry lists of excuses for bad behavior… And relentlessly patting one another on the back for doing the best they can — which frankly sounds pretty shitty.
Seriously. It’s comedic. In a tragic way though as it seems many people on here may NOT have been cut out to be mothers in that they seemingly resent it so… They almost resent it as much as they apparently resent their husbands… Yikes.
God, neither of you REALLY have anything better to do. Seriously, can’t we all just grow up a bit? Look, if you are so fragile that you can’t take my rather soft barbs here on the nameless faceless internet…well, trust me, you all have much better things to worry about than me.
Seriously. Some of these are hilarious… 
As for all the mommy stuff — it was all said to show you all how terrible that YOU made motherhood sound. You all made it sound like such a terrible burden that I really did think you needed to be called out on that.
 Often, around here, it’s very, very true.
She is a real person with real feelings who is going through a really difficult time. I’ve been there before and the only difference btw 6 and myself is that I would feel far too vulnerable to publicly share such an experience while actually living through it. I admire 6’s courage and it pains me to see you constantly tear into her and devalue her feelings. I understand why SHE is so emotionally invested in HER breakup but why are YOU? You’ve made your point, please just let it go.
Fine. You know what? When it comes to 6, I will have no further comment. Excuse me for trying to help. It was a huge, colossal misstep on my part in that clearly, she doesn’t need it as clearly she is coping with this break up just fantastically and I was beyond misguided in trying to help. It won’t happen again.
That said, if people are going to wantonly air all of their problems on here in some none stop pity party, they really shouldn’t be surprised when people feel free to comment on said problems or offer advice.
BGM- You totally have a right to comment. You said your piece. She for whatever reason did not find your advice helpful. You tried. Whether your initial advice was “right” or not, she found it hurtful and not helpful. If your intention is truly to help her, it would seem clear by this point that you offering further insight will not accomplish that. So why waste your time and energy?
In addition, even if your intention is not to help but to merely voice your annoyance w/6 for her public “pity party”, you still have a right to comment. I guess I just don’t understand why you would. If 6 wants to use DW as her own personal live journal, who cares? Don’t read her posts if you find them to be annoying. Furthermore why continue to comment on 6’s relationship if you are sick of hearing her talk about it? All that does is add fuel to the fire and encourage the conversation to continue.
Finally, if something she says bothers or annoys you, I’m sure 10 minutes later you’ve forgotten about it. Whereas, when you say something hurtful to her