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4.) He�s no longer young or no longer sees himself as attractive and believes that his claim to be Old Guard makes him attractive in some other way.
3.) He has heard one or more highly-respected leathermen accept reference to themselves as Old Guard and wants to appear to be like them.
2.) He figures he can get away with anything if you believe he�s Old Guard. You�ll blame any confusion, discomfort, apparently unsafe situation or even complete failure of the scene on your own lack of Old Guard training.
1.) He wants to seem to have been in the leathersex life as long as his bought used leather jacket might have been even if he just discovered S&M last weekend.
9.)  He has spent all of the time and effort necessary (money too, if any) to be fully trained, fully equipped and fully prepared for a scene before he undertakes to do it.
7.) He is more likely to speak of the men in his circle in terms of the debt he owes them for his position in leather society, for his skills and for his toys than to speak of his exalted (or not) position, his developed (or wished for) skills and his great (or small) toy collection.
6.) He assumes nothing until conditions are such that he knows no assumptions are required for him to step into his earned and maintained position among his peers, those who aspire to be his peers, and those he accepts as his superiors.
5.) He is a gentleman in the simplest and truest sense of the word so that courtesy is a habit, not a weakness; grace is a strength, not an effeminacy; power is a fact, not a claim; dominance and submission are acts of will, not role-plays; and, while self-assertion is a given, self-aggrandizement is never intended.
4.) He is careful to develop a functioning dynamic based on trust/ trustworthiness, submission/ dominance and the famous power exchange before threatening anyone with the storming of his limits or the opportunity to enter an ecstatic state.
3.) Top or bottom, he falls in love with every play partner, if only for an hour or two, and is unashamed to share that love openly even when speaking of it might undermine the nature of the interplay.
2.) His body, his knowledge, conversational skills and courtesy are nothing compared with what it is that actually compels your interest in him.
1.) He values his reputation above his orgasm and his integrity above his reputation.
If I seem to idealize Old Guard leathermen it is only because - if they are understood to be the military-style, semi-secret society of my novitiate in leather, circa 1964 - then that is truly my view of who they were and are, as well as what I learned to aspire to. Maybe no one ever achieved perfection in all of this, but we dreamed (and still do) that a brotherhood based on shared values and earned honor was worthwhile because it gave us a clear sense of ourselves and provided a social context that we found lacking elsewhere. We could just as well have been Elks or Oddfellows but for the fact that an important part of what we shared was sexual. We certainly could have been accused of separatism, but that was based as much on our being rejected as on our wish to close anyone out. In fact, the older and more respected leathermen in my coming-out circle seemed eager to have me succeed in every way. They wanted me to achieve full membership in their structured fraternity, and did everything reasonable to help me. The driving idea was that I should achieve it, not expect it to be given me.
Things are different today, but I am not sure I could say better, only different.
Sorry for the interruption. Let the war resume.
As others have said being poly is not an open relationship. 

To have success at poly or open relationships your relationship needs to be solid and both people confident in themselves.

So what I suggest

Find out what needs you don't meet and see if you can meet them. You may have to work at it.

Maybe sit down with a therapist together and see what you discover.

Also what needs are you currently meeting because she was so hooked on Victor when you tried to meet the emotional needs she was just waiting to sext him.

Also not a Dr here be PCOS and pills can cause issues with body image and libido but I'm not sure how Victor suddenly cured her issues. 

I'm not going to say dump her but you should know that poly and open rarely improve the foundation of a relationshipHang on, so should I put the washing up or not?
Syrian hacktivists took over the BBC Weather Twitter account on Thursday afternoon.
A crew called the the Syrian Electronic Army, a pro-Assad group, took credit for the hijack. The same group also claimed responsibility for the hijack Al-Jazeera's mobile news feed last year.
"Whether the legitimate owners of the @BBCWeather account were phished, had their password cracked, or made the mistake of using the same password in multiple places isn't currently clear - but what is obvious is that right now they have no control over their account," writes Graham Cluley of Sophos in a blog post.
The hack appears to have been motivated by a desire to push out propaganda to a wider audience rather than any intention to spread malicious links, or to promote diet scams, two popular reasons for Twitter account hijacks, which are becoming increasingly frequent.
Twitter's putative plans to introduce two-factor authentication - the best method for frustrating basic account hijack hacks - can't arrive too soon.
The aviation industry has under gone a sea change in recent years in India and so has the airport India. The face of aviation industry is the Indian airport and it is looking good. And so many flights not only from India, but also from foreign lands are coming into these airports in India. The history of Indian airports started in the country in association with the airport authority of India.
Gradually it was realized that with the private partnership, the conditions of the Indian airports would improve. Such developmental work led to the formation of some major airports in India which are recognized worldwide. Now there are some airports in India which have a huge traffic of airplanes as well as passengers.
Such an Indian airport has different terminals for domestic passengers and international passengers. In some of the Indian airports, the existing numbers of terminals is falling short to meet the high traffic due to which expansion works are still going on as in delhi, Hyderabad.
There are also examples where an airport India started as a domestic terminal only but gradually got expanded to convert into international Indian airport. This goes on to show the rapid rate at which the major airports in India have seen the changes. These airports in India serve as a junction for a huge number of travelers who come to visit various tourist places or go on for official visits.
To increase the connectivity of the airport India to different parts of the town and cities in the state, the road and rail system are strengthened in their own good way to enable people to move from the Indian airport to their destinations. Places which have a tourist importance have been deliberately well connected with the major airports in India to allow a smooth traveling experience to the tourists and travelers.
Smart musafir contributes in its own way by listing the various Indian airports with clear demarcation of international and domestic airports. In the portal, people can also find the major roadways and railways that connect the airport India to the various places of significance.
The flight schedule of various flights that lands at and takes off from the major airports in India is also given. This helps the travelers to plan their tour itinerary much in advance. Such modern and convenient manner of information not only helps the tourists and travelers but also puts a glorification mark on the airports in India.The Arctic Studies MA program was launched in September 2015. The main objective of the program is to train specialists in the cultural (social) anthropology of Siberia and the Arctic. Broadly defined, they include Siberia itself, the High North, the Barents region, the Far East, and other regions.
Focus on Comparison: in order to avoid unjustified generalizations of the situations described (when the state of affairs in one part of the region is taken as the state of affairs in the whole region), most topics are examined on the example of at least two territories which differ the most.
Introduction to the Study of Siberia and the Arctic is the core course of the program.
Several other courses are taught at the program. The language of instruction is Russian, but some courses are taught in English. E.g.by Stephan Dudeck.In last month's newsletter I wrote a review of the book "Sandbars and Sternwheelers", which covers the history of steamships on the Brazos River. There was one sentence in that book about a lock and dam built at Hidalgo Falls in 1910, to help steamships navigate over top of the rocky shoals at that location. A lot of HCC members have played in the rapids at Hidalgo Falls, yet I had never heard of anyone talk about any old ruins of a lock and dam. So I decided to set out for myself to explore this possibility, and see if there really was any remnants of this lock and dam still there.
I will segregate this trip report into two sections: the first section will be the general river report for canoeing, and the second part will detail the exploration for the lock and dam structure.
This trip was on the Brazos River, west of Navasota, with access under the Highway 105 bridge. To get there from Houston, you take Hwy