Critical ThinkFeelAware Decision Making & Creating Reality | nigelchua - Part 2
There is an insecurity and fear of “that you cannot let others say something bad or negative about you/me”
I’ve seen this repeatedly done and mentioned, like a mantra from children to adults to employees and even people in authority. It’s like a broken record, where so many people are afraid of judgement by others, especially negative ones.
So I’d like to talk about this.
Firstly you must know that many people are reactive, fearful and insecure rather than being loving, kind and generous. This itself will give you insight that not all data matters.
EVEN if they’re said by your parents or loved ones.
Secondly, it doesn’t really matter because in the end, you have to own your own life. You cant live your life based on what others tell you to do. That by itself is already a sure way to be unhappy, because you leave your happiness in the words, whims and fancies of others. Which many are idiots.
Thirdly, negative thoughts are much more sticky compared to good ones – a single negative thought can be 20X more sticky in your head and heart. An example is that if you have 10 people who love you but 1 who totally hates you – you may find that the one that hates you tends to be in your heart more often.
Lastly, we need to recognize and be aware that we’re good at somethings and not good at others. Focus on honing your strengths rather than patching or improving your weaknesses. If possible do both, but if you have to choose, focus on improving your strength. The real question is how do we deal with this?
I mainly take a functional operator point of view, which I use a filter, with these guiding questions:
Is this helpful or useful?
Is this my priority?
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Abundance And More Than Enough
There is abundance everywhere.
Abundance means to have more than enough money, time, love, generosity and more – of course there’s work involved, you cant have abundance without work…and once you truly get it, you’d realize the reason why abundance is everywhere is because it is about value creation that leads to wealth generation.
And it can happen wherever there is a need or demand – that’s it generally. Of course there’s more nuances, including doing the work, but that’s it from a very broad perspective.
Dont be fooled by people and companies who’s trying to instill fear in your so that you can work for them and do their bidding.
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2X Immigration Leads To Practicality And Success
Immigration isn’t a new concept to me, and you know what, I am immensely grateful for the multiple immigration moves that we did in our lives.
Location wise, I had two large immigration movement from Seremban (Negeri Sembilan) to Johor (Uncle place for a few weeks) and then once more to Taman Tasik where we rented our own space and then to Permas Jaya when my dad could afford his own space. This itself is four movements.
Later I migrated to Singapore when I was 20, and from there, make large but calculated moves from employee to agency to single clinic to multi-clinic chan, and in the process get played out by unscrupulous landlords and business owners who just played the short game (that’s why many of them fail to grow big or fail to go public/IPO or others – it’s because they cut corners).
These immigration and other big moves are quite helpful to form my ability to survive and thrive amidst change, to look forward and anticipate good and important changes, and also, to move away from projects and people that are time-wasters and just out to cheat/play in the short term.
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Be Damn Good or Be Mediocre
There two (2) ways to live life generally:
Be damn good at what you do
Be mediocre and tear everyone/everything else down so you look good
Of course, the best approach is to be damn good at what you do, but it’s hard work – you have to keep leveling up, keep pressing on forward and doing the right and good things and you may be victim to sociopaths who will happily play you and throw you under the bus for their profit or merriment.
Yet, still choose love and choose good success.
At the end of our lives, we will have to account – would you want to account for a good life or a bad life?
To me, it’s quite straightforward – do the right and good things, and everything will fall into place, despite challenges, pains and setbacks.
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Sorrowful Versus Joyful Money
Yeah there IS such thing about sorrowful money versus joyful money.
Sorrowful money is typically achieved with bad sorrows, and comes with a lot of bad sorrows too as the price to pay.
Conversely, joyful money comes with lots of joy, happiness and satisfaction.
Whenever possible, make decisions to choose work, career or life that creates joyful money – nothing in this world can be better than that (other than God, of course). Little to no stress, healthy, happy – what more can we ask for?
As opposed to scheming manipulations, lies, politicking and bad stuff like that.
Disgusting Quote #23 – Do You Smell The Money Here
I heard this quote from someone I used to know personally, who would tell me that they’re not there for money, they serve their God, but would repeated tell me these kind of quotes on money.
This very same person unfortunately will also throw people under the bus, antagonize others, lie…all to protect themselves and to hurt others so that they can either go up higher in promotions and to look better.
Instead, I want to recommend that you build a damn good life, career, business, relationships that is sustainable, scalable and infinite growth on whatever you care about, instead of being mediocre and tearing others down to look good.
Some Day One Day Lie
The some-day-one-day-lie isn’t the same as truly being patient and working on our goals, one day a time.
It refers to a lie that we keep telling ourselves as we defer our hopes and dreams.
And the problem is…we all know someone like that, who says: – some day I’ll do that – one day I’ll do that But we know that they’re not moving a single inch in that direction at all, despite speaking about it for a long period of time – not even researching on it, producing content on it, nothing, yada.
Most of the time, in the end, nothing happens.
Don’t be like that – if you have a long term goal that you care about, start it today.
Maybe you have a full time job, its okay – start a blog and write about about it. Or a YouTube channel. Do it today, and add to it daily or weekly.
It will gain traction and momentum, and will accelerate your dream, sooner than you think
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