Dating and Relationship Advice – 7 Things All Women Need In A Relationship – Phicklephilly
Dating and Relationship Advice – 7 Things All Women Need In A Relationship
Listen up, guys. Men and women are at an emotional stalemate.
We feel something’s lacking in our relationships. The majority of men aren’t able to connect with their women fully, nor are women fully opening to their men.
Women aren’t opening because men aren’t giving them what they need. Women feel disappointed and resentful; they’re suffering. When women suffer, and they feel like they aren’t being seen, they close off to their men.
Fortunately, you can learn the right tools to be able to more fully connect with your woman. You can give your partner what she needs, allowing her to feel seen so that she will open again.
Take the time to read through these needs. Let them sink in. Understanding what you can do to help your partner fully open will not only improve your relationship, but it’ll improve your entire life.
If she’s unhappy that you’re going out with your friends, or she’s upset about her day at work, or she is only responding to you with brief snippets of sentences, then the cause is most likely her not feeling loved enough.
There’s a war being waged on women’s self-esteem, sexuality, and safety from a very young age.
Because of the barrage of negative messages being sent to women regarding their sexuality, women need to have a safe space where they feel that they can trust their partners.
She wants to feel like you won’t judge her if she asks for something risqué. She wants to know you won’t collapse in defeat if she tells you to do it “This way” instead.
By creating a safe space for your woman to open up to you emotionally and sexually, you will be giving her a very powerful gift. You allow her to grow within your relationship and undo old emotional damage.
If she is sitting across the room from you and you aren’t picking up on the fact that she’s suffering emotionally and on the verge of tears, she’ll begin to trust you less. She’ll think, “If he can’t see that I am hurting now, how long will it take him to figure it out? Will I be suffering for days or weeks before he’s aware of it or cares enough to help me through this? I guess I have to rely on myself for my own emotional support.”
If you’re a guy reading this, have you ever held open a door for a woman because it’s the polite thing to do (but more just because she’s a person and it wasn’t even a gender-based act) and she chews your ear off for it? “Oh what? I can’t open the door for myself because I’m a woman?! You sexist pig!”
That is an example of a wounded, unbalanced woman who doesn’t want to accept help from a masculine source. This is exactly how it feels to your partner when you push her away when you feel the most vulnerable. “I don’t need to lay my head down on your chest and tell you about my feelings because I don’t have any!” That’s a lie. It’s a lie that serves your purpose of not letting your partner in. This lack of vulnerability and authenticity is what’s making you and your partner suffer.
Praise her body. Feel her and touch her appreciatively. Remind her that you see her as a sexual being and you will both benefit.
The fastest way to run your relationship into the ground is by ignoring your partner and taking her for granted. Appreciation is the opposite of those things. Appreciation is the embodying this mindset: “I’m aware of what you bring to my life, and I want you to be sure that I’m aware of it as well.”
When enough small transgressions like this are sprinkled throughout your relationship, she’ll distrust you.
Do what you say you’ll do, be who you say you are, and be consistent in your actions.
Author phicklephillyPosted on April 23, 2018 September 1, 2018 Categories dating, life, love, men, philadelphia, philly, relationships, sex, Uncategorized, WomenTags advice, dating, philadelphia, philly, relationship	
5 thoughts on “Dating and Relationship Advice – 7 Things All Women Need In A Relationship”	
These are things I learned, very early on in my marriage. Every one of them is essential.
The saying goes: “women don’t know what they want, if they do it rarely serves their purpose..”
Oh man I have no idea where to start with this list. All the female responses to these points reads like the old me, the me who hadn’t learned their own self-respect, that I needed a man to validate my existence when in actual fact, by being a stronger woman I could spot the holes in a man’s personality that meant I didn’t get into situations where I would feel like the above any longer.
I spotted a few things that made me think about a post I wrote not so long ago about how men are not psychic. Women don’t always say what they are feeling. They reserve the right to feel shitty about something, not tell you what it is, but they do expect you to interpret their responses and get it right. Which of course doesn’t always happen. It’s a bit of a mental game because it’s not always his fault he didn’t pick up on it.
For women, being self assured, self reliant and loving themselves is the first step to a good relationship. If you’re constantly relying on the man in your life to boost your emotions and your feeling of being wanted, then you need to look inside first. I could see some guys looking at this list and thinking it sounds like a lot of hard work, it almost feels like emotional babysitting. I’m sure that’s not what you are trying to say at all. But I wonder how many guys are reading this and thinking the same things about the women in their lives. An interesting list. It certainly had me thinking a lot and I think my knee-jerk response that I’ve added here will need some revising in the cold light of day!
modify it yourself? Either way keep up the nice high quality writing, it is rare to look a great weblog like this one these days..
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