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The relationship developed between us is key, creating trust and this is essential for effective counselling. I believe that you are your own expert, you have autonomy and my role is to walk beside you as you explore and grow. As an integrative counsellor I value your uniqueness and knowing that no two clients are the same, I work with each person individually, depending on what suits you. Below you'll find some information about each of my modalities and the techniques I am trained in.
This is the core of who I am. Valuing each person, offering acceptance in a non-judgemental and genuine way, and listening to you empathetically, understanding what it’s like to walk in your shoes. This is a non-directive theory and I follow you where you lead. I am not the expert in your life and believe that you know and understand yourself and my role is to guide you in this, ask questions and help you better understand yourself.
TA is a relatable, logical and rational theory and helps us understand our patterns, how we behave with those around us, things we have learned growing up and how our past is resonating in the present. It explores our history and helps to understand what has shaped us, allowing us to choose what we keep and what we let go. It gives us the ability to choose who and how we want to be and allows for growth and if we choose change. TA is empowering, and you will gain the knowledge and tools to apply it in your daily life.
Through Gestalt I appreciate that the body and mind are connected, that our pain and experiences often show themselves physically and I encourage you to recognise physical responses to your feelings. For example, when you feel anxious your heart may beat faster. In recognising your bodies reactions it acknowledges your feelings and helps you learn how to ground yourself earlier.
Gestalt focuses on now, the present and how we experience our lives in the here and now. Gestalt is experimental and has techniques designed to provide closure for past events. This can include writing letters and diaries to use in sessions or drawing and creative work. At all times you have a choice about what we try and we will never do anything that you don’t want to.
Rewind Technique:
If you struggle with intrusive thoughts or flash backs, rewind can help. Rewind provides closure for past events without the need to disclose the details and gives you control over your memories, changing the way they are stored in your brain. I use this as part of our therapy and using my other theories we will explore residual feelings about this life event and help you understand those while Rewind helps you get rid of the flash back itself. Rewind can be used with PTSD, trauma, car accidents, medical trauma, bullying, rape, abuse, violence, burglaries and natural disasters, among others.
There are times in all of our lives when we can feel out of control or burdened by our thoughts and feelings, and at these times counselling can help, providing a safe space to talk through and explore with confidentiality and without judgement.
As an integrative counsellor I use various therapeutic models depending what suits the situation. I believe that creating the best possible relationship between us is essential to a good working environment and to build mutual trust and respect between us.
My job is to listen to you and to be alongside you as you explore and get to know yourself better. There is no pressure and we will go at your pace.
My job isn't to tell you what to do, but to help you explore your thoughts and feelings and help you decide what step to take next .
Counselling is a courageous, sometimes challenging process, but as we do this together, I believe growth, and if you choose it change, is possible.
What do clients say are the benefits of counselling?
Counselling can help you understand your thoughts and feelings,
It can provide closure for past events.
Counselling can lead to improved self esteem.
You can make positive changes and improve your work/life balance.
You may feel calmer, less stressed and sleep better.
Communication and relationships with those around you can improve
You may laugh more, relax more and increase your self care.
You may become more assertive, value yourself more and learn to be kinder to yourself.
You may learn to say no.
You are in control and we will work at your pace.
Abuse - mental, physical & sexual
This list includes some (but not all) of the most common reasons people come to counselling.