Intimidated by others… trust this isn’t helping you to be happy
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If we are intimidated for any reason, it certainly makes it unnecessarily difficult to be happy. Realistically, intimidation is allowing our fears to influence us in a negative manner. When we are intimidated, we are also on some level deciding that the other person is more powerful. If this is what we are holding in mind, we can be certain that is what we are creating for ourselves. Intimidation is always an uncomfortable experience. If we see or perceive that someone is acting inappropriately, we may not be aware that we are overlooking our own behaviors and contributions to the situation. Whenever we are responding through our emotions, it makes it even more confusing for us to really understand what we are experiencing. If we are identifying with fear or other emotions, we may be overlooking that we are actually creating the exact situations that we wish to avoid experiencing. Simply put — our thoughts create our realities and not the other way around.
Thoughts are purely energy. Thoughts are also connected to past decisions that are still attached to various emotions such as apathy, grief, fear, lust, anger or pride. And sometimes, it seems as if our thoughts are connected to several emotions that are running at the same time. We need to begin to observe our own behaviors and limited beliefs and really begin to look at the issue of intimidation.
By holding onto beliefs of intimidation, we are creating situations of our being out of control. Perhaps we may feel as if we are running on automatic. We may also be blaming others for what we perceive they have done wrong. A better way to look at intimidation is to stop believing that we are in a tailspin. We need to accept that we aren’t getting anywhere or achieving anything that is positive. So in order to get a different result, we need to begin making better decisions. Choosing to make better decisions is looking at our current situations and circumstances in a more positive manner. Although this sounds relatively easy; it requires a willingness to let go of holding onto the past and also our wanting to be right. It also requires a willingness to let go of holding onto limiting beliefs that keep us stuck. Being stuck is an indication we don’t know what to do.
Intimidation can only continue because we are resisting taking responsibility for what we are holding in mind. Everything related to intimidation is clouded by fear. If we are intimidated by another, we are giving up our power to fear. On the other hand, if we are acting in the role of intimidator, we need to see that we too are acting in a fearful manner. Responding in anger or with a sarcastic tone is an indication that we feel we need to assert power because we also feel threatened. If we are cowering, we are without a doubt headed in the wrong direction.
The entire process of feeling better or feeling happy requires our letting go of fear and judgment. The more fear we release–the happier we become. Every positive step we take is magnified in our perception. Each positive step forward also creates more positive occurrences. By choosing to respond in a confident manner is taking responsibility and also acting more positively. Confidence is always without judgment or competiveness. Being confident is allowing others to be as they are. It is also eliminating our sense that we have to be better than others. Confidence includes being open-minded and flexible. Choosing to be optimistic is also a great way to begin seeing things in a constructive manner.
Happiness is a natural gift that exists within each person. Actually happiness is simply an emotion. By letting go of our negative thought patterns allows us to easily and quickly make better decisions. We also immediately begin to feel happier. Releasing our attachments or aversions regarding negative stories or situations is a tremendous way to move forward. If you give yourself permission to experience feeling happy in this moment, you might just notice you feel lighter and somewhat happier. You may also notice that no one or nothing external to you created the feeling or sensation of your feeling happy or light. Our feeling or sensation of being lighter was achieved because we turned our focus onto ourselves, and held in mind a thought related to happiness.
Choose to let go of holding on to situations that are intimidating. Allow yourself to have positive and peaceful resolutions. There are no impossibilities, if we aren’t holding onto them!