Do you think it would help if they were more aware of making a mess, or do you think they’re doing it on purpose?
assistant
Do you have any ideas about how to stop this mess?  Do you want to set them up to be successful and to solve the problem, or is it something else that you want?
assistant
How do I get my kids not to make a mess when they eat?
user
They do seem to make a mess, and that does look annoying.  It might help to be specific about what’s making you annoyed, and what would make it stop.
assistant
How can I get them not to make a mess?
user
What sort of mess?  Would you say that they leave trash or liquids or other things on the table, or do they just make a real mess with their food?  There are lots of different ways to cause a mess, and maybe you can start with what type of mess you’re referring to, and then we can discuss how to stop it.
assistant
They make a mess everywhere.
user
You mean like they’re not just making a mess on the table, but it’s also affecting the floor or the couch, or maybe the walls?
assistant
Yeah so what can I do?
user