may believe that these behaviors serve as a form of protection in anxiety-provoking 
 situations, they tend to have the opposite effect.
Instead of protecting you from potential threat or from being judged by others, 
these behaviors probably increase the likelihood that others will react negatively. For 
example, at a party, people are most likely to approach someone who is smiling, making 
eye contact, and talking at a reasonable volume. When someone stands far away, speaks 
quietly, and avoids eye contact, it is natural to assume that the individual is either 
 uninterested in speaking or difﬁcult to get to know.
Of course, moderation is the key here. Too much eye contact can make others 
uncomfortable. In addition, someone who stands too close or smiles at inappropriate