The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook
170Can you think of other possible practices that involve informal socializing, casual 
conversation, or making small talk? If so, record them in the space below:
Other Practices
Practices Involving Meeting New Friends and Dating
Many of the situations listed in the previous section on practices involving small 
talk and casual conversation also provide opportunities to meet new people. Similarly, 
several of the situations listed in this section also provide opportunities for casual con -
versation. Most new friendships and relationships start with a casual conversation, so it’s 
no surprise that these sections might overlap. Also, developing new relationships often 
requires repeated encounters with new people you meet. In other words, two people 
will typically become acquaintances before they become friends. The list below provides 
examples of practices that involve a possibility of meeting new people, developing new 
friendships, developing new business relationships, or fostering opportunities for dating. 
Remember that the main goal of an exposure practice should be to become more com -
fortable in these situations. For now, developing new relationships should be a secondary 
goal. Focus on the process of reducing your fear rather than whether you develop new 
friends or relationships through these practices.
UÊGo to a social event . For example, attend your annual ofﬁce holiday party, 
a class reunion, a community dance, a local art gallery opening, or a book 
signing. Situations such as these will provide you with opportunities to meet 
people, as well as to mingle and make small talk. Be sure to take social risks 
in these situations (for example, talking to other people).
UÊTalk to your neighbors . Go for walks in the neighborhood and say hello 
to your neighbors—particularly those you have not had a chance to meet.