mode
threat,	flee,
or	be	busy
GUILT
Stomachache,	aching
muscles,	feeling	that	you
can’t	be	physically	at
ease
Feeling	like	a	“bad”
person,	feeling
destructive,	feeling
you	should	be
punished
Urge	to
make
amends,	to
be	a
“better”
person,	to
berate
oneself
Guilt	keeps	people
in	line	with	societal
laws	and	norms
designed	for
protecting	people.
SHAME
Burning	sensation	on
face,	cheeks	flushing,
stomach	sinking
Embarrassment,
humiliation,
exposure	as	a	fraud,
fearing	a	flaw	will	be
revealed	to	another
or	the	public
Urge	to	flee
the
situation,	to
become
invisible
and	hide
oneself
Shame	signifies
social	status	in	a
group	and	keeps
people	in
accordance	with
group	expectations.
STRATEGY:
	
EXPRESSING	YOURSELF
When	you’re	feeling	strong	emotions,	finding	a	way	to	express	those	feelings
can	go	a	long	way	toward	helping	you	move	through	them.	There	are
countless	benefits	in	talking	about	our	feelings	with	another	person.	For
example,	I	see	it	over	and	over	again	in	my	practice	that	a	person	comes	into	a
therapy	session	feeling	upset	or	anxious.	They	allow	themselves	to	talk	about