What	will	help	you	feel	better	is	focusing	on	what	is	within	your	control.
Letting	go	of	feeling	at	the	mercy	of	life	or	circumstance	creates	a	feeling	of
safety	and	calmness.	Here	is	a	way	to	no	longer	face	hardship	with
helplessness:
1.
	
Pick	an	anxious	thought	or	worry	trigger.
2.
	
Recognize	the	thoughts	that	keep	you	in	a	helpless	state	over	this
particular	worry:	“I’ll	never	find	a	way,”	“It	will	always	be	like	this.”
3.
	
Come	up	with	three	actionable	steps	you	can	take	and	that	are	within
your	control.
4.
	
Take	action.
For	example,	Layla	was	anxious	about	an	upcoming	wedding	she	had	to
attend.	She	had	lost	touch	with	many	of	the	folks	invited	to	the	wedding	and
felt	overwhelmed	by	worries	over	what	they	would	think	of	her	and	how	she
would	be	socially	on	the	outside.	In	order	to	move	away	from	wallow	and
worry	toward	healthy	control,	
she
	
asked	herself	what	she	could	do	to	improve
the	situation.