or	do	you	feel	completely	out	of	control	and	so	try	to	clamp	down	as
much	as	possible?
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Can	you	recall	any	expressions	from	caregivers,	coaches,	or	teachers
telling	you	that	you	are	“too	sensitive,”	“overly	needy,”	or	“too
emotional”?
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Did	your	family	or	caregivers	describe	you	as	being	very
independent/mature	as	a	child?	Did	you	hear	a	constant	“good	girl”	or
“good	boy”?	Did	you	feel	as	if	you	couldn’t	be	a	kid	with	them?	Did
you	feel	there	was	limited	space	for	you	to	be	you	emotionally?
•
	
Consider	your	memories	of	joy	and	happiness	in	your	household	as
you	grew	up.	Do	you	recall	your	caregivers	laughing	among
themselves?	Did	they	notice	and	label	your	happiness?	Or	was	joy
squelched?
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When	upsetting	things	happened	to	you	as	a	child,	did	you	feel	as	if
you	could	talk	to	your	parents	openly?	Or	did	you	feel	your	caregivers
would	judge	your	upset	or	overly	pressure	you	to	“fix	it”	in	some
way?	Did	you	not	confide	in	them	at	all?
Identify	the	link	between	the	type	of	emotional	support	you	were	given
in	childhood	and	how	accepting	you	are	now	of	your	emotional