themselves.
Imagine	a	friend	who,	every	time	you	hit	a	setback,	tells	you	what	you	did
to	cause	the	problem	and	reminds	you	of	all	the	times	in	the	past	you	did	the
same	“bad”	thing.	That	is	likely	how	you’re	treating	yourself.	People	who
make	us	feel	good	about	ourselves	and	comfortable	being	ourselves	are	the
ones	we	are	most	at	ease	with.	Start	relating	to	yourself	in	the	way	a	warm,
kind	friend	or	family	member	would.	Changing	the	voice	in	your	head	to	be
more	self-supportive	and	nurturing	will	give	you	a	bit	of	comfort—or
padding,	if	you	will—when	negative,	anxious	thoughts	kick	in.
STRATEGY:	BECOME	AWARE	OF	YOUR	SELF-
TALK
How	we	speak	to	ourselves	has	a	significant	impact	on	anxiety.	Yet	we	let	our
anxious	self-talk	play	out	again	and	again	on	autopilot.	Think	about	the
following	
questions
	
regarding	your	self-talk	so	you	can	make	the	voice	in