Every	work	meeting,	talk	for	at	least	three	minutes:	ask	a
question,	make	a	comment,	or	clarify	something
Decrease	need	for	reassurance	from
partner
Learn	to	tolerate	fears	of	abandonment:	positive	self-talk,
breathing	exercises;	seek	reassurance	but	decrease	it	by
25	percent	(three	times	a	day	instead	of	four,	decrease
from	there)
Decrease	overthinking
spiral/rumination
Build	awareness	for	rumination	by	breathing	and	being
mindful;	talk	to	people	when	upset	instead	of	dealing
with	the	difficulty	only	in	your	head,	on	your	own
Be	present	and	participate	in	life
No	drug	or	alcohol	use;	build	awareness	of	when	you’re
spacing	out	or	daydreaming;	ask	questions;	be	an	active
listener
STRATEGY:
	
IDENTIFY	TARGETS
Based	on	your	goals,	identify	three	or	four	target	behaviors	you	would	like	to
change	because	they	get	in	the	way	of	your	larger	goals.
Rate	how	hard	it	will	be	to	work	on	each	of	these	behaviors.	Use	a	1	to	10
scale,	1	being	not	hard	at	all,	and	10	being	nearly	impossible.