yes,	anxiety,	are	also	part	of	the	deal.
Instead	of	trying	to	rid	yourself	of	things	that	can’t	be	changed,	like
distress	and	discomfort,	change	your	
relationship
	
with	anxiety	by	accepting	it.
Give	up	the	futile	struggle	against	your	feelings	and	allow	your	anxiety	to
come	and	go—as	feelings	always	do.
Imagine	yourself	as	a	surfer,	moving	with,	not	against,	your	waves	of
emotion,	and	accepting	those	waves	as	they	come.	You	can’t	control	the
waves,	but	you	can	take	them	as	they	are,	which	will	help	you	move	through
life	more	smoothly.
Accepting	anxiety	doesn’t	mean	you’re	a	victim	of	it	or	that	you’re	giving
up	and	allowing	it	to	control	you.	Acceptance	doesn’t	even	mean	you	like
what	you’re	experiencing.	Acceptance	is	the	idea	that	it	is	what	it	is.	When
you	look	out	the	window	and	see	rain	you	don’t	say	to	yourself,	“It’s	raining,
I	have	to	fix	this!”	You	also	don’t	say,	“I’m	a	victim	of	the	rain,”	or	“I’m
being	abused	by	the	rain,”	or	“It’s	raining,	I	give	up.”	Perhaps	you	don’t	love
the	rain,	but	you	pull	out	an	umbrella,	you	keep	moving	forward,	and	you
know	that	eventually	the	rain	will	stop.