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From DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition  by Marsha M. Linehan. Copyright 2015 by Marsha M. Linehan. Permission 
to photocopy this handout is granted to purchasers of this book for personal use only (see copyright page for details).interpersonal effectiveness Handout 12   (I. E. Worksheet 9)
mindfulness of o thers
frien DShipS la ST lon Ger W hen W e are min Dful.
oBS erve
Pay attention with interest and curiosity to others around you.
Stop multitasking; focus on the people you are with.
Stay in the present rather than planning what to say next.
Let go of a focus on self, and focus on others around you.
Be open to new information about others.
Notice judgmental thoughts about others, and let them go.
Give up clinging to always being right.
DeScri Be
Replace judgmental words with descriptive words.
Avoid assuming or interpreting what other people think about you 
without checking the facts. (Remember, no one has ever observed 
another person’s thoughts, motives, intentions, feelings, emotions, desires, or experiences.)
Avoid questioning other people’s motives (unless you have very good reasons to do so).
Give others the benefit of the doubt.
parTicipa Te
Throw yourself into interactions with others.
Go with the flow, rather than trying to control the flow.
Become one with group activities and conversations.