418 •  index
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 8: Finding and 
Getting People to Like You, 183
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 9: Mindfulness of Others, 184
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 10: Ending Relationships, 185–186
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 11: Practicing Dialectics, 189
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 11a: Dialectics Checklist, 190
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 11b: Noticing When You’re Not Dialectical, 191
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 12: Validating Others, 192
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 13: Self-Validation and Self-Respect, 193
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 14: Changing Behavior with Reinforcement, 194
Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Worksheet 15: Changing Behavior by Extinguishing or Punishing It, 195
Interpretations of events, 214– 
222
Intuitive action, 53Invalidation. See also  Validation
biosocial theory and, 15overview, 192overview of handouts and 
worksheets for, 113
recovering from, 158–159Walking the Middle Path and, 
149
Isolation, 231
jealousy
changing emotional responses 
and, 229
opposite action and, 236, 243problem solving and, 243ways to describe emotions, 218
Joining conversations, 140–141Judgments, 13, 61
listening, 58
Loneliness, 9Love
changing emotional responses 
and, 229
mindfulness practice and, 70opposite action and, 237, 243overview of handouts and 
worksheets for, 41