Expressed feelings/opinions?            Broken record?                 
   Asserted?                     Ignored attacks?                
   Reinforced?                    Appeared confident?              
Give (Keeping the relationship):   Negotiated?                 
   Gentle?                      Interested?                   
   No threats?                    Validated?                   
   No attacks?                     Easy manner?                  
   No judgments?              
faST (Keeping my respect for myself):
   Fair?                      Stuck to values?                 
   (No) Apologies?                  Truthful?                    
how effective was the interaction?