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worksheets .interpersonal effectiveness WorksHeet 11b   (I. E. Handouts 15, 16)
noticing When y ou’re n ot Dialectical
Due Date:       Name:                   Week Starting:  
Identify a time this week when you did not use your dialectical skills. Briefly describe the situation 
(who, what, when).
SiTuaTion 1
Situation (who, what, when, where):
Looked at both sides
Stayed aware of my connection
Embraced change
Remembered that I affect others 
and others affect meAt left, check the skills you needed but did not use, and describe here the experience of not using the skill.
What would you do differently next time?
Check if not  practicing dialectical skills has influenced any of the following, even a little bit:
  Increased suffering   Decreased happiness   Increased friction with others
  Increased reactivity   Decreased wisdom   Harmed relationship
  Decreased connection   Other outcome:                        
SiTuaTion 2
Situation (who, what, when, where):
Looked at both sides
Stayed aware of my connection
Embraced change