  
9B. “
I worry that you have given up.”
   10A. “ I don’t think that is correct.”
 10B. “
How could you possibly think that?”
 
       4A. I n social situations, throw yourself 
into interactions.
  
4B. St
ay reserved and watch social 
interactions so you don’t make 
mistakes. 
      11A. St ay in control so that relationships 
turn out the way you want.
 11B. G
o with the flow much of the time 
when in social interactions with 
groups of friends.
 
     5A. F ind people with your values.
  
5B. D
o little immoral things so as not 
to be a drag on friendships.       12A. H old back in a conversation until you 
are sure you like the person.
 12B. T
hrow yourself into a conversation 
until you are sure you don’t like it.