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From DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition  by Marsha M. Linehan. Copyright 2015 by Marsha M. Linehan. Permission 
to photocopy this handout is granted to purchasers of this book for personal use only (see copyright page for details).interpersonal effectiveness Handout 11a  
identifying Skills to f ind p eople  
and Get Them to l ike y ou
For each A and B pair, check the more effective responses.
•••••• 1a. Realize that good relationships 
depend on what you do.
 1B. Think of relationships in 
vague, abstract terms.•••••• 7a. Stay out of conversations other people 
are having, so people know you’re respectful.
 7B. Politely ask to join in conversations, so you can meet more people.
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• 2a. Expect people to beat a path 
to your door.
 2B. Create and make full use of 
opportunities to come into 
regular contact with others.•
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• 8a. Say nothing or everything about yourself, 
regardless of what others reveal.