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interpersonal effectiveness WorksHeet 6   (I. E. Handout 8) (p. 1 of 2)
The Dime Game: f iguring o ut how Strongly to a sk or Say n o
Due Date:       Name:                   Week Starting:  
To figure out how strongly to ask for something or how strongly to say no, read the instructions below. Circle the dimes you put in the bank, and 
then add them up. Then go back over the list and see if some items are much more important than others. Check Wise Mind before acting, if some items are much more important than others.
Decide how strongly to ask for something.
Put a dime in the bank for each of the questions that get a yes answer. The 
more money you have, the stronger you ask. If you have a dollar, then ask 
very strongly. If you don’t have any money in the bank, then don’t ask; don’t 
even hint.Decide how strongly to say no.
Put a dime in the bank for each of the questions that get a no answer. The 
more money you have, the stronger you say no. If you have a dollar, then say 
no very strongly. If you don’t have any money in the bank, then do it without 
even being asked.
10¢ Is this person able to give or do what I want? capability Can I give the person what is wanted? 10¢
10¢ Is getting my objective more important than my relationship 
with this person?priorities Is my relationship more important than saying no? 10¢
10¢ Will asking help me feel competent and self-  respecting? Self-  respect Will saying no make me feel bad about myself? 10¢
10¢ Is the person required by law or moral code to do or give