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From DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition  by Marsha M. Linehan. Copyright 2015 by Marsha M. Linehan. Permission 
to photocopy this handout is granted to purchasers of this book for personal use only (see copyright page for details). interpersonal effectiveness Handout 3  
overview:  
obtaining o bjectives Skillfully
clarifyin G priori TieS
How important is:
Getting what you want/obtaining your goal?
Keeping the relationship?
Maintaining your self-  respect?
oBjecTiveS effec Tivene SS: Dear man
Be effective in asserting your rights and wishes.
relaTionS hip e ffecTivene SS: Give
Act in such a way that you maintain positive relationships and that 
others feel good about themselves and about you.
Self-  reSpecT effec Tivene SS: faST
Act in such a way that you keep your self-  respect.
facTorS  To con SiDer
Decide how firm or intense you want to be in asking 
for something or saying no.