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It can then be used with Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet 7: Troubleshoot -
ing Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills , and  Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet 9: 
Troubleshooting: When What You Are Doing Isn’t Working . These two worksheets 
cover the same topics, organized in the same sequence as Interpersonal Effectiveness 
Handout 2.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 2a: Myths in the Way of Interpersonal 
Effectiveness.  This handout can be useful if thoughts and beliefs get in the way of 
using interpersonal skills effectively. Use it with Interpersonal Effectiveness Work -
sheet 2: Challenging Myths in the Way of Interpersonal Effectiveness.
Obtaining Objectives Skillfully
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 3: Overview: Obtaining Objectives 
Skillfully.  This handout overviews the skills covered in this section.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 4: Clarifying Goals in Interpersonal Sit -
uations.  Clarifying your goals is the first and most important interpersonal skill. It 
is the essential task of figuring out (1) what you actually want in any given situation 
and how important that is, compared to (2) keeping a positive relationship and (3) 
keeping your own self- respect. The skills you use depend on the relative importance 
of these three goals. Use this handout with Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet 
3: Figuring Out Goals in Interpersonal Situations . In describing the “Prompting 
Event” on this worksheet, remember to use the mindfulness “what” skill of describ -
ing.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 5: Guidelines for Objectives Effective -