12. Skillfulness is a sign of weakness.
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13. I shouldn’t have to ask (say no); they should know what I want (and do it).
14. They should have known that their behavior would hurt my feelings; I shouldn’t have to tell 
them.
15. I shouldn’t have to negotiate or work at getting what I want.
16. Other people should be willing to do more for my needs.
17. Other people should like, approve of, and support me.
18. They don’t deserve my being skillful or treating them well.
19. Getting what I want when I want it is most important.
20. I shouldn’t be fair, kind, courteous, or respectful if others are not so toward me.
21. Revenge will feel so good; it will be worth any negative consequences.
22. Only wimps have values.
23. Everybody lies.
24. Getting what I want is more important than how I get it; the ends really do justify the means.
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