169interpersonal effectiveness WorksHeet 2   (p. 2 of 2)
challenging m yths in the Way of r elationship and Self-  respect e ffectiveness
For each myth, write down a challenge that makes sense to you.
13. I shouldn’t have to ask (say no); they should know what I want (and do it).
Challenge:   
14. They should have known that their behavior would hurt my feelings; I shouldn’t have to tell 
them.
Challenge:   
15. I shouldn’t have to negotiate or work at getting what I want.
Challenge:   
16. Other people should be willing to do more for my needs.Challenge:   
17. Other people should like, approve of, and support me.
Challenge:   
18. They don’t deserve my being skillful or treating them well.Challenge:   
19. Getting what I want when I want it is most important.
Challenge:   
20. I shouldn’t be fair, kind, courteous, or respectful if others are not so toward me.
Challenge:   
21. Revenge will feel so good; it will be worth any negative consequences.Challenge:   
22. Only wimps have values.Challenge:   
23. Everybody lies.
Challenge:   
24. Getting what I want or need is more important than how I get it; the ends really do justify the 
means.
Challenge:   
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