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Difficult Current Interaction.  This handout gives examples of how to handle situ -
ations where the other person also has very good interpersonal skills and refuses 
legitimate requests or keeps asking despite being told no. Use Interpersonal Effec -
tiveness Worksheet 4, 5, or both with this handout (see above).
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 6: Guidelines for Relationship Effective -
ness: Keeping the Relationship (GIVE). Relationship effectiveness skills are aimed 
at maintaining or improving your relationship with the other person while you try to get what you want in the interaction. The term GIVE is a way to remember these 
skills. It stands for (be) G entle, (act) I nterested, Validate, and (use an) E asy manner. 
Use Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet 4, 5, or both with this handout.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 6a: Expanding the V in GIVE: Levels of 
Validation.  This handout lists six different ways to validate. (See also Interpersonal 
Effectiveness Handouts 17 and 18, described later, for more on validation.) Interper -
sonal Effectiveness Worksheets 4 and 5 can be used with this handout.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 7: Guidelines for Self-  Respect Effective -
ness: Keeping Respect for Yourself (FAST). Self- respect effectiveness skills help you 
to keep or improve your self- respect while you try to get what you want in an inter -
action. The term FAST is a way to remember these skills: (be) F air, (no) A pologies,