Do i know what i really want in this interaction?
2 Ask:
••Am I undecided about what I really want in this interaction?
••Am I ambivalent about my priorities?
••Am I having trouble balancing:
••Asking for too much versus not asking for anything?
••Saying no to everything versus giving in to everything?
••Is fear or shame getting in the way of knowing what I really want?
not sure:
Did pros and cons to compare different objectives.
Used emotion regulation skills to reduce fear and shame.
Did this help? Yes (Fabulous)  No (Continue) Didn’t try again
yes:
are my short-term goals getting in the way of my long-term goals?
3 Ask:
••Is “now, now, now” winning out over getting what I really want?
••Is emotion mind controlling what I say and do instead of Wise Mind?
yes:
Did a pros and cons comparing short-term to long-term goals.
Waited until another time when I’m not in emotion mind.
Did this help? Yes (Fabulous)  No (Continue) Didn’t try again
no:
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