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From DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition  by Marsha M. Linehan. Copyright 2015 by Marsha M. Linehan. Permission 
to photocopy this handout is granted to purchasers of this book for personal use only (see copyright page for details).interpersonal effectiveness Handout 13a  
identifying h ow to e nd r elationships
For each A and B pair, check the more effective response.
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your integrity or physical well-
being, it is probably your fault, 
and you should see a therapist.
1B. A relationship threatening your 
integrity or physical well-being 
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In the middle of an argument, you are so mad at 
the other person you don’t want to have anything to do with this person any more.
5a. You should end the relationship right then! 
You may forget all about how enraging the person is if you wait.
5B. You should get out of emotion mind and into 
Wise Mind, and evaluate whether to stay or leave the relationship.