177interpersonal effectiveness WorksHeet 6   (p. 2 of 2)
aSkinG SayinG no
Don’t ask; don’t hint. 0–10¢ Do it without being asked.
Hint indirectly; take no. 20¢ Don’t complain; do it cheerfully.
Hint openly; take no. 30¢ Do it, even if you’re not cheerful about it.
Ask tentatively; take no. 40¢ Do it, but show that you’d rather not.
Ask gracefully, but take no. 50¢ Say you’d rather not, but do it gracefully.
Ask confidently; take no. 60¢ Say no firmly, but reconsider.
Ask confidently; resist no. 70¢ Say no confidently; resist saying yes.
Ask firmly; resist no. 80¢ Say no firmly; resist saying yes.
Ask firmly; insist; negotiate; keep trying. 90¢ Say no firmly; resist; negotiate.
Don’t take no for an answer. $1.00 Don’t do it.
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