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active effort. The handout summarizes where to look and how to look. Record your 
practice efforts for this on Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet 8: Finding and 
Getting People to Like You.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 11a: Identifying Skills to Find People 
and Get Them to Like You. This is a quick multiple-  choice quiz on the information 
in Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 11.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 12: Mindfulness of Others. Friendships 
are easier to form and last longer when we remember to be mindful of the other per -
son. Notice that the three mindfulness skills described on this handout are the three 
core mindfulness “what” skills (observing, describing, and participating) taught in 
the Mindfulness module. Use Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet 9: Mindfulness 
of Others  to record practice of this skill.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 12a: Identifying Mindfulness of Others. 
This is a brief multiple-  choice quiz on the skill of mindfulness of others.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 13: Ending Relationships. The skills for 
ending relationships described on this handout are drawn from the Mindfulness 
(Wise Mind), Emotion Regulation (problem solving, coping ahead, opposite action), 
and Interpersonal Effectiveness (DEAR MAN, GIVE FAST) skills modules. The one 
new skill is practicing safety first when ending abusive or life-  threatening relation -
ships. If you are thinking about ending a relationship, use Interpersonal Effective -
ness Worksheet 10: Ending Relationships to weigh the factors and plan for use of