••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 5: Guidelines for Objectives Effective -
ness: Getting What You Want (DEAR MAN). This handout describes the skills 
for asking for something, saying no to another’s request, and resisting pressure and 
maintaining your point of view. The skills are D escribe, Express, Assert, Reinforce; 
and (stay) M indful, Appear confident, and N egotiate. You can use the term DEAR 
MAN to remember these. Two different worksheets can be used with this handout, 
as described next.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet 4: Writing Out Interpersonal Effec -
tiveness Scripts. This worksheet is useful for figuring out what to say and do before 
practicing DEAR MAN skills. Notice also that the worksheet requires you to first 
write down your objectives, relationship, and self- respect goals. This worksheet can 
also be used for GIVE and FAST skills (see below).
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet 5: Tracking Interpersonal Effective -
ness Skills Use. This worksheet can be used to track your use of interpersonal skills. It asks you to figure out and write down your priorities and asks about conflicts in 
priorities. Finally, it asks you to record whether or not your objective was met, and 
what effect the interaction had on the relationship and your self- respect. This work -
sheet can be used with DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST skills.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 5a: Applying DEAR MAN Skills to a