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worksheets .interpersonal effectiveness WorksHeet 13   (I. E. Handout 19)
Self- validation and Self-  respect
Due Date:       Name:                   Week Starting:  
Fill out this sheet whenever you practice your self-  validation skills and whenever you have an oppor -
tunity to practice even if you don’t (or almost don’t) do anything to practice. Write on the back of this 
sheet if you need more room.
list one self-  invalidating and two self-  validating statements you made.
1.  
2.  
3.  
Describe a situation where you felt invalidated in the past week:  
 
 
check each strategy you used during the week:
Checked all the facts to see if my responses are valid or invalid. 
Checked it out with someone I could trust to validate the valid.
Acknowledged when my responses didn’t make sense and were not valid.
Worked to change invalid thinking, comments, or actions. (Stopped blaming.)
Dropped judgmental self-  statements. (Practiced opposite action.)
Reminded myself that all behavior is caused and that I am doing my best.
Was compassionate toward myself. Practiced self-  soothing.