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••Interpersonal Effectiveness Worksheet 11: Practicing Dialectics, Interper -
sonal Effectiveness Worksheet 11a: Dialectics Checklist , and Interpersonal Effec -
tiveness Worksheet 11b: Noticing When You’re Not Dialectical , can be used with 
Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 16. Worksheet 11 provides space for recording 
two practices over the week. Worksheet 11a provides for multiple practices of mul -
tiple skills. Worksheet 11b is intended to help raise awareness of opportunities to be 
dialectical and of the consequences when not being dialectical.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 16a: Examples of Opposite Sides That 
Can Both Be True. Dialectics tells us that the universe is filled with opposing sides, 
and that two things that seem like opposites can both be true. This handout lists 
examples of opposites that can both be true.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 16b: Important Opposites to Balance. 
This handout lists opposite aspects of life and living that are important to keep in 
balance.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 16c: Identifying Dialectics. This hand -
out is a brief multiple-  choice quiz. It asks you to check the most dialectical responses.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 17: Validation. Validation of others’ 
feelings, beliefs, experiences, and actions is essential in building any relationship of 
trust and intimacy. This handout reviews what validation is, what is most important 
to validate, and key points to remember about validation.
••Interpersonal Effectiveness Handout 18: A “How To” Guide to Validation.