••Thinking that you are bad, immoral, or wrong.
••Thinking that you are defective.••Thinking that you are a bad person or a failure.
••Believing your body (or a body part) is too big, too small, or ugly.
••Thinking that you have not lived up to others’ expectations of you.
••Thinking that your behavior, thoughts, or feelings are silly or stupid.
••Other:  
Biological c hanges and e xperiences of Shame
••Pain in the pit of the stomach.
••Sense of dread.
••Wanting to shrink down and/or disappear.
••Wanting to hide or cover your face and body.
••Other:  
expressions and a ctions of Shame
••Hiding behavior or a characteristic from other people.
••Avoiding the person you have harmed.
••Avoiding persons who have criticized you.
••Avoiding yourself—  distracting, ignoring.
••Withdrawing; covering the face.
••Bowing your head, groveling.••Appeasing; saying you are sorry over and 
over and over.
••Looking down and away from others.
••Sinking back; slumped and rigid posture.
••Halting speech; lowered volume while talking.
••Other:  
aftereffects of Shame
••Avoiding thinking about your transgression; shutting down; blocking all emotions.
••Engaging in distracting, impulsive behaviors to divert your mind or attention.
••High amount of “self-focus”; preoccupation with yourself.
••Depersonalization, dissociative experiences, numbness, or shock.
••Attacking or blaming others.
••Conflicts with other people.
••Isolation, feeling alienated.