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ourselves and others. To record practice of loving kindness, use Mindfulness Work -
sheet 6: Loving Kindness , which provides space for describing two occasions of 
practicing loving kindness.
skIllful M Eans: Balanc InG Do InG MInD an D BEInG MInD
••Mindfulness Handout 9: Skillful Means: Balancing Doing Mind and Being 
Mind . “Skillful means” is a term in Zen that refers to any effective method that aids 
you to experience reality as it is—or, in DBT terms, to enter fully into Wise Mind. 
Doing mind and being mind are states of mind that, in their extreme forms, can get in the way of skillful means and of Wise Mind. Doing mind focuses on achieving goals; being mind focuses on experiencing. The polarity between them is similar 
to that between reasonable mind and emotion mind. In everyday life, wise living 
requires us to balance working to achieve goals (on the one hand), and at the very same time to let go of attachment to achieving goals (on the other hand).
••Mindfulness Handout 9a: Ideas for Practicing Balancing Doing Mind and 
Being Mind. This handout lists practice exercises. It is useful when you have already gone through mindfulness training several times.
••Mindfulness Worksheet 7a: Mindfulness of Being and Doing Calendar, 
Mindfulness Worksheet 8: Mindfulness of Pleasant Events Calendar , and Mindful -
ness Worksheet 9: Mindfulness of Unpleasant Events Calendar are all worksheets in calendar format that ask participants to record their mindfulness practice each day. The calendars focus on mindfulness during frazzled moments (Worksheet 7a), pleasant events (Worksheet 8), and unpleasant events (Worksheet 9).