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From DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition  by Marsha M. Linehan. Copyright 2015 by Marsha M. Linehan. Permission 
to photocopy this handout is granted to purchasers of this book for personal use only (see copyright page for details).Mindfulness Handout 5c   (Mindfulness Worksheets 2–2c, 5–5c)
ideas for p racticing e ffectiveness
1. Observe when you begin to get angry or hostile with someone. Ask yourself, “Is this 
effective?”
2. Observe yourself when you start wanting to be “right” instead of effective. Give up being “right” and switch to trying to be effective.
3. Notice willfulness in yourself. Ask yourself, “Is this effective?”
4. Drop willfulness, and practice acting effectively instead. Notice the difference.
5. When feeling angry or hostile or like you're about to do something ineffective, practice willing hands.
6. Other: