235eMotion r eGulation Handout 11  (p. 4 of 9)
envy
Envy FITS  THE  FACTS  of a situation whenever:
a. Another person or group has what you want or need but don’t have.
B. Other example:                                    
Follow these suggestions when your envy is NOT  JUSTIFIED  by the facts or is NOT  EFFECTIVE :
oppoSiTe acTionS  for envy
Do the OPPOSITE  of your envious action urges. For example:
1. INHIBIT  DESTROYING  what the other person has.
2. COUNT  YOUR  BLESSINGS . Make a list of the things you are thankful for.
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3. COUNT  ALL your blessings. 
 Avoid discounting some blessings. 
 Avoid exaggerating your deprivations.
4. Stop EXAGGERATING  others’ net worth or value; check the facts.
5. CHANGE  YOUR  POSTURE. 
 Unclench hands with palms up and fingers relaxed ( WILLING  HANDS ). 
 Relax chest and stomach muscles. 
 Unclench teeth. 
 Relax facial muscles. 
 Half-smile.
6. CHANGE  YOUR  BODY  CHEMISTRY . 
 For example, do paced breathing by breathing in deeply and breathing out slowly.
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