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From DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition  by Marsha M. Linehan. Copyright 2015 by Marsha M. Linehan. Permission 
to photocopy this handout is granted to purchasers of this book for personal use only (see copyright page for details). interpersonal effectiveness Handout 7   (I. E. Worksheets 4, 5)
Guidelines for Self-  respect e ffectiveness: 
keeping r espect for y ourself ( faST)
A way to remember these skills is to remember the word fa ST (D ear man , Give fa ST).
(Be) fair
(No) apologies
Stick to Values
(Be) Truthful
(Be)  FairBe fair to YOURSELF  and to the OTHER  person.  
Remember to VALIDATE  YOUR  OWN  feelings and wishes,  
as well as the other person’s.
(No)  ApologiesDon’t overapologize.   
No apologizing for being alive or for making a request at all.  
No apologies for having an opinion, for disagreeing.  
No LOOKING ASHAMED , with eyes and head down or body slumped.  
No invalidating the valid.
Stick to valuesStick to YOUR  OWN  values .  
Don’t sell out your values or integrity for reasons that aren’t VERY  important. 
Be clear on what you believe is the moral or valued way of thinking and 
acting, and “stick to your guns.”
(Be)  TruthfulDon’t lie.  Don’t act helpless when you are not.  
Don’t exaggerate or make up excuses.
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