10¢ Is the person required by law or moral code to do or give 
me what I want?rights Am I required by law or moral code to give or do what is wanted, or does saying no violate this person’s rights?10¢
10¢ Am I responsible for telling the person what to do? authority Is the other person responsible for telling me what to do? 10¢
10¢ Is what I want appropriate for this relationship? (Is it right to 
ask for what I want?)relationship Is what the person is requesting of me appropriate to my relationship with this person?10¢
10¢ Is asking important to a long-term goal? Goals In the long term, will I regret saying no? 10¢
10¢ Do I give as much as I get with this person? Give and take Do I owe this person a favor? (Does the person do a lot for 
me?)10¢
10¢ Do I know what I want and have the facts I need to support 
my request?homework Do I know what I am saying no to? (Is the other person clear about what is being asked for?)10¢
10¢ Is this a good time to ask? (Is the person in the right mood?)Timing Should I wait a while before saying no? 10¢
$
Total value of asking   
(Adjusted ±    for Wise Mind)Total value of saying no   
(Adjusted ±   for Wise Mind)$
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