interpersonal effectiveness 
scripts and, 178
interpersonal effectiveness skills 
and, 118–119, 135
objectives effectiveness and, 
168–169
understanding and naming 
emotions and, 279–280
negotiation, 126, 174, 186
Nightmare protocol, 258, 
304–306
“No.” See  Saying “no”
Nondefensiveness, 158–159Nonjudgmentalness. See also  
“How” skills
core skills practice, 79, 80, 
81–82
ideas for practicing, 61mindfulness skills and, 40–41overview, 49, 60practicing, 88–93validation and, 192
Nothing-to-do mind, 58, 74, 106
objectives effectiveness, 124, 
168–169
Observing skills. See also  “How” 
skills; Mindfulness practice; “What” skills
core skills practice, 79, 80, 
81–82
emotion regulation skills and, 
198
mindfulness of current thoughts 
and, 350, 351
mindfulness of others and, 143overview, 40, 49, 53, 54–57overview of handouts and 
worksheets for, 40–41
practicing, 84–88problem solving and, 241turning the mind and, 345understanding and naming 
emotions and, 281–282Obtaining Objectives Skillfully. 
See also  Interpersonal 
effectiveness skills
overview, 2, 123overview of handouts and 
worksheets for, 110–111
priorities in interpersonal 
situations and, 173
One thing in the moment, 335,