Think about a few things that scare you or make you nervous. Write them down on a list, and put a star next to the one you want to start with. You can tackle the others later. Your list may include things like: “Go skydiving, read Moby Dick, write a short story, go on a blind date.” Come up with a reason (or a few) that you want to tackle this obstacle. Ask yourself what you're going to get out this new experience. Once you have your answer, write it down on a piece of paper and keep it with you. This can be a little phrase you repeat to yourself every time you're thinking about backing down. If you're going on a blind date, for example, you might tell yourself: “I've gone on lots of dates I set up myself, and I haven't met someone I can picture myself with long term. This could be my chance!” Doing something new on your own can make it even more challenging. There's no reason you can't rely on friends or family to help you get out of your comfort zone! Pick someone who's naturally adventurous to be your partner in trying new experiences. Your partner-in-crime should be aware of what you are doing and want to go along with it, too. You might be shying away from trying this new activity because you feel like you're facing a big question mark. To answer all your lingering questions, go online and read about it. Look for reputable information that can help you feel more knowledgeable and prepared.  Try for .gov, .org, or .edu websites when you can. Otherwise, be sure to avoid sites with misspellings or formatting problems. The internet can sometimes be overwhelming. While it's a great idea to be more informed, don't dig so deep that you start scaring yourself with scenarios that are unlikely to happen to you. For example, perhaps you're thinking about moving to a New York City for a promotion, but you've never lived in a city before. Read everything you can about New York to learn how to live there safely and happily. You can find the best neighborhoods for your personality and needs, and get excited about all the fun things in your future! If you're feeling intimidated or overwhelmed by the challenge you've picked for yourself, don't do it all at once. You can make it a multi-step process that will let you slowly climb that mountain. Maybe you want to go skydiving, but you're feeling terrified about jumping out of that plane. Go to the top of a really tall building and take a peek over. Then, try a smaller-scale activity that involves heights, like parasailing or bungee jumping at a theme park. Don't give yourself an out. Tell yourself that you're trying this new thing, or you'll “take away” some other daily activity you enjoy. If you don't like the new thing, you never have to try it again. The punishment for your ultimatum should be primarily mental, but if you're really struggling, make it concrete. Say to yourself: “No coffee for a month if I don't try this.”
اختر الأنشطة التي تتحداك. اكتب رأيك في التحدي الذي تواجهه. اصطحب صديقًا معك للحصول على بعض الدعم. أجرِ بعض البحث للحصول على مزيد من المعلومات. قسّم النشاط إلى خطوات صغيرة. أعطِ نفسك إنذارًا.