If you're the type of person who always waits around for your friends to call without reciprocating, then you are not doing your part. Remember that your friends don't always know when you are expecting them to call, and they may take your shyness as disinterest in the friendship. If you'd like to see somebody, then reach out to them.  Call old friends that you haven't seen in awhile and set up a time to get together. Throw a dinner party or other gathering and invite all of your friends, coworkers, and acquaintances. Invite a friend to the movies, a baseball game, a concert, or other activity. If people are always asking you to hang out, or even if the occasional unlikely person asks you to hang out, you should start taking their invitations seriously instead of turning them down. Don't say that you can't hang out just because you're feeling too shy or don't think you'll click with the other person; instead, think of all the other cool people you can meet at the event you've been invited to, whether it's a party, a sleepover, or a book club. Make a habit of saying yes three times for every one time you say no. This doesn't mean you have to say yes to something that sounds absolutely horrible, but accepting more invitations to spend time with your friend shows a genuine interest in the friendship and makes you a friendlier and more outgoing person. If you reject every invitation, your friend will likely think you are ditching him or her and not interested in spending time together. If you want to make new friends, you will have to look beyond the people you see on a daily basis at work or school. If you have a hobby or special interest, then join a local club or group in your area devoted to that activity.  Consider joining a local sports league, book club, hiking group, or cycling team. If you don't have a hobby, then pick up a new one. Be sure to choose something that you can do with groups of people. Look at sites like Meetup.com to help you connect with groups of people who share your interests. Meeting friends of friends is one of the easiest ways to meet new people. Try to view each and every person you meet in your life as a "doorway" or "portal" into a new social circle.  Consider throwing a party and telling all of your friends to bring guests. As a plus, you already know that you have some things in common with these people since you share a mutual friend. If a friend of yours invites you to a party or a big gathering where you don't know anybody, accept the invitation. Though it might seem intimidating, it is a wonderful opportunity to meet new people. Try not to view your "work life" as being separate from your "social life" as being separate from your "family life," and so on. While each of these different areas of your life certainly calls for different behavior and codes of conduct, the best way to be more social by nature is to live your life as a social creature, regardless of the environment. In other words, don't save all your socializing for parties on the weekends.  Look for unique opportunities to be social. It can be as simple as asking the bank teller how he or she is doing rather than just staring at your phone and avoiding contact. Remeber, socializing is a skill and every opportunity is a chance to practice.  Get to know your coworkers or peers if you haven't already. Attend social events with family members. Though this might not sound like fun, you'd be surprised to learn that you can make new friends wherever you go, as long as you have the right attitude. No matter how much you have going on, if you want to be more social, you have to set a goal of hanging out with others at least a few times a week. Though everyone needs some alone time or goes through a very stressful week, or even a stressful month, now and again, nobody should go two weeks without socializing except in extreme circumstances. Tell yourself that no matter how tired or anti-social you may feel, that you should put yourself out there no matter what.
قم بدعوة الناس. اقبل الدعوات أيضـًا. انضم إلى نادي أو مجموعة مع أشخاص يشابهونك في التفكير. قابل الأصدقاء المشتركين. لا تقسـِّم حياتك إلى أجزاء. اجعل من حياتك الاجتماعية أولوية.