This is the first step to building self-confidence. Since embarrassment is linked to feeling inadequate, reminding yourself of your positive qualities can help you feel less embarrassed in social situations.  What are you good at? What are your best attributes? Make a list. Solicit input from your closest friends and family members. Remember to list personality traits, skills and talents, physical features, social or interpersonal skills, and anything else you can think of. Read the list every morning, and add to it! Be kind to yourself, and practice positive self-talk. When you look in the mirror in the morning, smile at yourself and say, "You deserve to be happy today!" You can also pick a physical feature that you love about yourself, and give yourself compliments. Try, "Good morning gorgeous! You have the best smile!" Identify the challenges that might cause you to feel insecure or inadequate. Try to work on these challenges and set measurable, attainable goals to improve in these areas as much as possible.  For example, if you are easily embarrassed by small talk because you don't consider yourself to have strong interpersonal skills, you can first work on your interpersonal skills, then set a goal to challenge yourself in that area. Developing interpersonal skills starts by becoming aware of the messages you are sending and then practicing sending different ones. You can team up with a friend (preferably someone with great social skills) and do some role-playing to improve your skills. Be sure to check out Develop Interpersonal Skills to learn more about developing interpersonal skills. Set a small goal to initiate conversation with one peer every week. Gradually you can increase the number of conversations until you are up to one every day.  Check out Gain Confidence for more tips on how to develop your self-confidence. Sometimes a lack of self-confidence can be traced to friends or family members who berate you or put too much focus on superficial things like having the best clothes or the most stylish make-up. Recognize if your close friends and family build you up or tear you down, and don't be afraid to find new friends if yours are causing you pain.  Good friends celebrate with you when you succeed and challenge you to try new things.  After you spend time with a friend, ask yourself how you feel: Do you feel renewed and refreshed, ready to take on another day? Or do you feel drained and exhausted, as if you've had to put up a front? Your emotional state after spending time with someone can tell you a lot about that person's effect on your self-confidence and general emotional well-being. Embarrassment occurs most often when we feel that people are looking at us and judging us as inadequate. It can happen suddenly (for instance, if you trip in public) or it can build up (as you prepare a public speech), but it always has its roots in our fear of inadequacy and feelings of insecurity. Simply recognizing that everyone experiences embarrassment is one of the most important steps in helping you to overcome it yourself.  Most people struggle with feelings of inadequacy throughout their lives, and embarrassment in social situations is a very common way it manifests. Try looking at celebrities with new eyes: Jim Carey, Kim Cattrall, and William Shatner have all struggled with crippling stage fright that almost derailed their careers. But all of them have gone on to hugely successful careers. Feelings of inadequacy are often traced all the way back to childhood. For example, if you felt you had to fight for your parent's approval or attention, if what you did was never good enough to get their attention, or if you were bullied by your peers, you might struggle with feelings of inadequacy even as an adult. In some cases, you might benefit from therapy to deal with childhood issues that contribute to your feelings of embarrassment today.
ركّز على نقاط قوتك. تعرّف على الصعوبات، ثم اصنع هدف. حافظ العلاقات التي تبنيك. افهم أن الجميع يشعر بالحرج.