If you live in the same city, go to the same school, or have the same social circles, it is much more likely that you may run into your ex unexpectedly from time to time.  Be prepared for the possibility of an encounter.  Think about what you might say.  Remember to keep it brief and respectful. Consider how you might respond to certain questions, such as, "Are you seeing anyone new?" or "What have you been doing since we last saw each other?" Think about what you need to do to remain calm. If you know this encounter may be anxiety-provoking, have a friend or person to talk with after you meet you ex unexpectedly. If you were dating your ex for a while, you may have some mutual friends.  Avoid talking badly about your ex with friends of your ex.  Don't force them to choose sides.  If you need to vent about your ex, do so with people who don't know your ex.   Consider talking with people who already were good friends with you well before your ex was in the picture. If you're at a friend's party, and there are many friends of your ex there, keep the conversation light. Avoid trying to start drama, or making people feel uncomfortable.  Most people don't want to feel "caught in the middle" of a break-up. Unexpected encounters with your ex will feel less stressful when you have moved on and found closure in your relationship.  Jumping into a new relationship may indicate that you've moved on, but finding closure is a separate and important thing.  Process what happened in your relationship.  Avoid self-blame or blaming your ex.  Understand that sometimes good people aren't right for each other.  And sometimes, the people you trust will hurt you. Take care of yourself, and focus on self-love.  Do things that make you feel better about life after your ex, and help you to focus on the future. Consider talking with a counselor for an outsider's perspective.   If you become very anxious and overwhelmed in these unexpected moments, a counselor can help to teach you about healthy coping skills. Talk with your friends and family.  Strengthen your support system when you're feeling vulnerable, such as these unexpected moments with your ex.  Keep the people who care about you close.
كن مستعدًا للصدف المستقبلية. تجنّب الحديث بسوء عن حبيبتك السابقة أمام أصدقائكما المشتركين. اعثري على خاتمة لهذه العلاقة.