Always be aware of how you can help people. Wait an extra few seconds to hold the door for the person behind you. Offer to help people get their grocery bags to the car. You don't have to go overboard and risk hurting yourself (e.g. if you've got a precarious grip on something heavy, don't open the door for someone) but respect is paramount. True gentlemen don’t only focus on the women they like and ignore everyone else; being a gentleman is a way of approaching the world and all of the people in it, not just the ones you’d like to date. Be on the lookout for people who could use some help but who may not want to ask for it. The man carrying a tray of coffee would love it if you opened the door for him, but he may not ask. Be prepared to ask questions or make statements of courtesy, like "How was your day", "May I help you?", "Let me get that for you", or "I'll take care of that". Learn to speak slowly and carefully and to take the time to really talk to people in a polite fashion, no matter how rushed you may be. Whether you’re talking to your neighbor or the cute girl in your physics class, make an effort to smile, to be friendly, and to make interesting small talk about how your day is going. A gentleman doesn’t cut right to the chase, but takes his time getting to know people. Being able to make conversation is a sign of class and maturity, which are two important aspects of being a gentleman. Don't swear. Don't be vulgar. If it's too difficult to stop cursing all together, tone it down a lot. It’s just not gentlemanly to curse. If you do curse, you should apologize and try to keep the behavior from happening in the future. If you’re in a situation where you tend to curse more often, such as watching sports or driving in traffic, take extra care to watch yourself so you still come off as a perfect gentleman. Along with cursing, you should avoid any lewd or vulgar comments in general. And remember that what’s funny to you and your buddies behind closed doors may not always be appropriate for a girl you’re courting. You can tell people enough to let them know a little bit about you, at first, but you should wait to really reveal every last thing about yourself. In addition to making you a much more desirable conversationalist, it will make you seem more mysterious to not share too much, which many women find attractive. Get a basic idea of what's going on in music, sports, and politics so you can sound intelligent when you make conversation. Be sure about subjects you state are important to you by making the effort to stay up-to-date on them. Instead, focus on asking people questions about their interests, hobbies, and plans. Let them know that you’re more interested in them than yourself. Learn to avoid politics until you know someone better, and learn how to be neutral if someone else brings it up. A simple shrug will do wonders. A gentleman doesn't make other people uncomfortable. Be focused more on being agreeable and making people feel comfortable than in proving that you’re right and that the other person’s opinions are worthless. You don’t need to show someone up to impress women; what’s far more impressive, in fact, will be your ability to get along with people. Always remember to know your audience. What may be funny to a working class guy from the Bronx may not fly with an upper crust Manhattan socialite. Be sensitive to the needs and interests of others. Being a gentleman doesn’t just mean being polite and courteous to women; it means being respectful to other men, to the elderly, and even to children. A true gentleman shouldn’t be able to turn his charm on and off, and he should be kind and respectful to absolutely everyone who deserves it. Respect a person’s space by not standing too close when you talk to him or her. Respect a person’s privacy by not peering over his or her shoulder or asking too many personal questions. The key is to make people feel comfortable and good about themselves, not like they’re being mistreated.  Say hello to people when you walk by them, ask how they’re doing, and know when they want to be left alone. Avoid speaking too loudly or making too much of a racket in public or even in your home, out of respect for your neighbors. It’s not respectful to act like you’re the only person on the planet. Make sure to chew your food with your mouth closed, with respect to your dinner partners. There may be some situations that justifies physical confrontation, but it should be in self-defense or the defense of others. However, those situations should be rare indeed.  Remember: a "gentle-man" literally means not being a person who resorts to physical violence as a solution. It is wiser to walk away from a situation, or call the police when appropriate. Self-defense techniques (such as martial arts) always stress using physicality as an absolute last resort.
قدم المساعدة للأفراد من حولك. المحادثات المهذبة. تجنب الشتم والسباب في كل الأوقات. لا تتحدث عن نفسك أكثر من اللازم. تجنب التحدث حول المواضيع الخلافية والغير مريحة. عامل الجميع باحترام. تجنب المشادات البدنية.