There are a handful of ways one can be emotionally dependent. The most common way is in a romantic relationship. We learn to depend on our significant other for affection, sex, approval, you name it. When it doesn't come, we feel we've done something wrong or we're somehow less valuable. How are you emotionally dependent? Romantically? With friends? Coworkers or your boss? With every person you meet? Think about a few of the following things to pinpoint what areas you need to work on:  Do you get jealous easily? Do you compare yourself to others so much that it can ruin your day? Do people often fail to meet your expectations? Who does this most often? When you're alone, do you seek out others just to feel okay? Does a void spring up when you're not with others? Does your partner or the idea of a partner mean happiness to you? When we blame others, they're at fault. Therefore, they become the only ones who can fix the problem. Terrible. In order to take control of your thinking and emotions, you've got to take responsibility. This forces you to become reliant on yourself for a solution. Instead of wallowing in misery, you think about what options you have at your disposal to improve the situation. This gets rid of those negative emotions that well up, too, forcing you to be more logical and feel more in control. Just for a moment. Why get all worked up? This is just a person who is passing judgment and criticism. It is not the end of the world, nor is it even particularly remarkable, likely. Everyone does it. Why give them the satisfaction of caring? It's just not worth it. Remind yourself that you don't have to react the way you feel inclined to. It may seem as if the natural, human way to respond is by being upset, but that's hardly your only option. You could be angry, you could be sad – or you could note it and move on. After all, there's no benefit to being angry or sad, is there? What'll it get you? Quite literally. Serotonin and dopamine are what you really enjoy. If you wanted to condition yourself to feel ecstatic at the sight of brown carpet, you could. Brains are funny little creatures like that. In other words, you decide what makes you happy and it has nothing to do with the outside world. It comes from within – you can't find it out there. In case it wasn't clear, this is very, very, very good news. You have control over all your feelings! You are at the whim of no one! Every emotion you want to feel, you can. Every emotion you don't want to feel, you don't have to. Happiness is just a decision away. There is a fine line between being emotionally independent, and well, a jerk. Some people get so caught up in "being true to them" that they step all over others in an effort to assert themselves. Keep in mind that this is not an excuse to be a bully and to always get your way. You can be kind and considerate while still being true to you. Most people who stomp all over others are trying to thwart their inner feelings inadequacy or unimportance. They don't feel of any value on the inside, so they force their "value" on others in an effort to convince themselves. This isn't being emotionally independent – it's straight up being rude.
اختبر نفسك. تحمّل المسؤولية. عندما تشعر بالإهانة في المرة القادمة، توقف وتمهل قليلًا. افهم أن السعادة لا توجد إلا بداخلك. ابذل أقصى ما بوسعك لتتجنب المبالغة في 'الإنصاف'.