Your body language can sometimes say more than your words.  Most of the time body language is determined by how you feel, rather than what you want to portray.  But you can change that by simply paying attention to the position of your body while you’re having a conversation.  There are specific ways you can adjust your body to convey confidence, they are:  Don’t fidget.  Stand in one spot, with your feet planted on the ground hip-width apart.  Stand evenly on both feet, don’t shift from one foot to another. Lean back in your chair when you’re sitting.  Don’t fidget your lower body.  If you need to cross your legs, do so comfortably and loosely.  Keep you hands in a relaxed position. Look in one spot, or one general area.  Keep your head still.  Hold you head upwards, with your chin level to the ground. Hold your hands together in front or behind you when not using them.  If you grip your hands together, do so lightly.  But don’t hide your hands in your pockets and don’t put grip your hand in a fist. Don’t rush.  Walk steadily.  Talk steadily as well, don’t rush to get your words out.  Confident people are not in a hurry. Pause every now and again - whether walking or talking. Be comfortable and don’t fidget when there’s a break in the conversation or everyone goes silent. Be assertive.  Smile.  Look people in the eyes.  If you’re shaking someone’s hand, do so firmly. To truly see that beauty is on the inside, you have to see it in yourself AND in everyone else.  Every individual has one or more awesome qualities that make them special.  When you’re with other people, look at them with new eyes and see the person they really are - on the inside.  By seeing these qualities in others, you’ll start to notice them in yourself.  Use this opportunity to explore the specific qualities you admire in others, and how you can work to achieve them yourself.  Select role models for yourself based on these qualities. Don’t be afraid to tell other people what you admire about them.  Nothing boosts confidence and self-esteem better than compliments from people who admire you. Being assertive helps ensure you get what you need out of life.  It’s not about controlling other people.  Being assertive includes: saying no; stating an opinion; asking for a favour; complimenting someone; and not bowing down to pressure.  Being an assertive communicator means you’re able to express yourself openly and honestly, while still respecting the people you’re communicating with.  Expressing assertiveness is a great way to boost self-confidence, you’ll feel good after being able to get what you need without anyone being upset or mad.  When speaking assertively to someone else, remember to: look at them without staring them down; keep the volume of your voice normal, and your tone respectful; don’t use distracting hand gestures; and respect the other person’s personal space. Translate your feelings into “I” statements.  “I” statements consist of four parts: the feeling, the behaviour, the effect, and the preference - "I feel xxx when xxx because xxx.  I’d prefer xxx.”  For example, "I feel annoyed when you tell me what to do in emails because it makes me feel disrespected.  I’d prefer you ask me to do something rather than tell me to do something.” Remember that you can’t change the past, and you can’t control the future.  But you can prepare for future events by looking at what items are under your control and creating an action plan.  When creating your plan, avoid the extreme approach where you attempt to take into account every possible outcome.  There’s no way you can prepare yourself for all that, so stick to a couple realistic outcomes.  Once you’ve come up with your small list of potential outcomes, prioritize them.  Work on the items with the highest priority first.  And don't think you have to prepare alone.  Use your friends and family to help you.  Talk through your thoughts with someone, or practice what you’re going to say.  Preparing yourself in advance can also include saying no.  Don’t feel obligated to do something simply because someone asked.  If you cannot realistically accomplish what they’re asking, say no. After the event or situation has happened, reward yourself for a job well done.
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