Your friend needs to deal with their emotions in order to get through this tough time, so encourage them to tackle them head-on. Remind them that they will never feel better if they are in denial about what has happened or ignore how they are feeling about it.  Let them know it's okay to cry. Tears can help them heal! If you feel like your friend is bottling their emotions up inside, explain to them that doing so can make it harder to get past the hurt. The stages of grief typically include sadness, shock, remorse, withdrawal, and acceptance. Don't be too alarmed if your friend experiences all of these, or if they go away and then come back.  Everyone grieves differently, so try not to be judgmental of your friend's process. If, however, they seem to be paralyzed by their grief and do not seem to be getting any better, consider suggesting that they see a grief counselor.  If your friend has lost someone close to them, it may help them grieve if you help them plan a memorial of some kind. . Sharing their feelings will help your friend heal their broken heart, so make sure they know you are there to listen to them whenever they need you. Be a good listener and let your friend talk for as long as they want.  Be sure to tell your friend that you are willing to listen. They may really want to talk, but be worried about burdening you. Reach out to your friend as soon as you hear about what happened and let them know you're thinking about them. You can let them know then that you are willing to listen, but don't take offense if they don't feel like talking yet. Avoid giving advice unless your friend asks for it. Your friend may just feel like venting.  If your friend doesn't want to talk, encourage them to write their thoughts down in a journal. It's okay to ask questions about what happened, especially if you are close friends. Doing so will help you understand what they are going through and how you can help. Let your friend know that you care about their feelings and want to help them through this tough time. Instead of passing judgment, simply acknowledge their pain and tell them you are sorry that they have to experience it.  Always express simple condolences by saying something like, "I'm sorry for your loss."  If your friend is going through a breakup, don't feel like you need to say anything negative about their ex to make them feel better. Instead of saying something like, "They were a jerk and you're better off without them," just acknowledge the sense of loss your friend is feeling by saying, "It must be really hard to lose someone you cared about so much." It also typically does not help to try to show your friend the silver lining of their situation. Instead of saying, "Everything happens for a reason," just say, "I'm sorry about what you're going through. How can I help?"  Don't tell your friend that whatever happened, happened for a reason. You run the risk of trivializing their pain if you say something like this. Heartbreak can stick around for a long time, so don't expect your friend to be fine after a day or 2. Check in on them regularly and ask them how they are feeling. Always remind them that you are there to help and support them however they need.  Don't wait for them to reach out to you. They may really need you, but they may not be feeling up to making contact.  Call your friend, text them, or leave them a note to let them know you're thinking about them. Depending on how close the 2 of you are, you may want to do this every day or every few days until they seem to be feeling a little better. Call at strategic times to show your friend that you are thinking about them. For example, if a loved one has just passed away, you shouldn't call during the funeral, but it would be nice to call that evening or the next day to see how your friend is doing. When you check in on your friend, be sure to remind them that you're there for them if they feel like talking. If your friend is so down in the dumps that they have been neglecting everyday tasks, offer to help them out. For example, bring them some groceries or visit them to help out with math homework.  If your friend declines your help, let them know it's an open invitation. If you are close friends, consider surprising them with something unexpected, like having a pizza delivered to their house. Consider inviting them over for a meal. This will help them get the nourishment they need and it will get them out of the house, which will probably be good for them. to replenish your emotional energy. You cannot pour from an empty cup, so it’s important to take good care of yourself as you attempt to help your friend heal. Do things that you enjoy and that are nurturing to you to replenish your emotional stores. Set aside at least 30 minutes daily to do something you enjoy and find relaxing, such as:  Going for a walk Taking a long bath Engaging in a favorite hobby, such as knitting, painting, or playing video games
قم بتشجيع صديقك على الشعور بالحزن. استمع لصديقك. كن عطوفًا وطيبًا. واصل متابعة حالة صديقك. اعرض تقديم المساعدة من خلال أبسط الأشياء. لا تضغط أكثر من اللازم.