You can show him what your expectations are for making time for each other, but you would also do well to tell him exactly how you feel and what you expect.  Don’t attack him or point fingers.  Cultivate an open dialogue and tell him how you’re feeling. You might begin with, “I need us to discuss our expectations of one another.  I’m feeling like we have different ideas of how much time to put into a relationship and this has me feeling down and a bit insecure.” What do you want and expect out of a relationship? Ask yourself what sort of expectations you have about making time for one another.  Also think about how you see that time being spent – actively doing things together or each doing your own thing but in the same house.  If your vision of how much time partners should make for one another differs substantially from his, consider what sort of compromise is workable for you.  Try saying something like, “My expectations for this relationship are that we will see each other at least a few days every week and that we will communicate in some way every day, but it seems like you might not want that much communication. I think we should talk about this and try to reach a compromise.” He may be a great guy, but if he can’t make the time for you that you want or need, it may be time to face that reality – this might mean breaking up, it might mean counselling. The saying that actions speak louder than words is never truer than in a relationship.  Your boyfriend may say that he misses you or wants to spend time with you – he might even make plans – but then something tends to come up and you’re left feeling a bit neglected.  These actions show that he’s not prioritizing you appropriately.  This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you or want to be with you.  It simply means his actions are defying his words.  Talk to him about this and point to specific actions. For example, you might say, “You tell me that you miss me, and you know that I miss you, but then when you do have free time, you spend it playing video games rather than spending quality time with me.  Your actions make me feel as though I’m not a priority.”
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