While it might have been hard to pull away from each other early in the relationship when you could talk all night long, intimate, engaging conversations may tend to dwindle over time, turning to finances, kids, and to-do lists. Make time to connect and discuss topics that you both are passionate about. Find things that you genuinely connect on, and discuss them.  Start a book club for just the two of you. Learn something new about each other by asking “how” and “what” questions. For instance, “What was middle school like for you?” or “How was it for you when you moved?” Use open-ended questions that allow easy, natural conversation. Then, truly listen and connect to your mate's feelings once again. Don’t criticize your partner for not talking to you. Instead, do something positive like inviting your partner to tell you about his or her day over dinner, a cup of coffee, or a glass of wine. Try saying something like, “I’d really like to know about your day. Let’s sit down and you can tell me all about it.” Being in a long-term relationship may cause you and your partner to take each other for granted and forget to do or say the sweet things that you used to in the beginning of the relationship. Complimenting your partner will show that you care.  Be specific. Instead of saying “You look nice,” say something like, “I love the way that dress shows off your curves” or “I love the way you look in that shirt.” Rather than saying, “You are so smart”, say, “I admire how intellectual you are and the way you discuss issues so genuinely.” While it may be easier to focus on the negatives in your relationship, highlighting the positives will help your relationship thrive. It is especially important to focus on why you and your partner fell in love.  For example, you and your partner might have bonded over a shared interest in running, a common faith, or a shared desire to help others. Make a list of all of the things that made you fall in love with your partner and ask your partner to do the same. Then, you can sit down and share lists and reconnect by reliving the beginning of your relationship. Skin-on-skin contact releases a hormone called oxytocin, which increases feelings of intimacy. Don’t just physically touch as a prelude to sex. Instead, kiss each other goodbye in the morning, embrace when you meet again, and give each other massages as you unwind from a long or trying day. Engage in hand holding and feel free to embrace for long periods of time, especially if either needs to destress. If you live together, remove some of the clutter from your bedroom: this includes kids' toys, paperwork, and clothes strewn on the floor. Get some candles, buy new sheets, and do anything else it takes to transform your bedroom into an intimate environment. If you fall asleep to TV, consider taking the TV, laptop, and other electronics out of the bedroom. Create a sense of intimacy by agreeing to disengage with technology while together in the bedroom. Tell your partner how excited you are to see him or her and reminisce on the last time you spent a night together. Or send a racy picture of yourself. Messages like these can really get your partner revved up! Remember to only send texts that you are comfortable with; never feel pressured to send anything, even to your partner.
قوما بإجراء محادثات حقيقية. قم بالإطراء على شريكك. ركز على ما تملكه أنت وشريكك. قوما بالتواصل الجسدي كل يوم. قوما بتغييرات صغيرة لإثارة حياتكما الجنسية واستعادة غرفة النوم. أرسلا رسائل مثيرة.