Consider that you will likely read your eulogy out loud at the visitation or wake for your mother. Use diction and vocabulary appropriate for this, such as thanking others for coming. Also makes notes indicating where pauses should occur. This means avoiding a formal tone.  Focus on writing the way you speak. Simply reading a script to an audience can feel dry and ultra-formal, an effect you may want to avoid. Try writing your eulogy in a list format, leaving room for improvisation so that you are not constantly looking down at the paper. Most pieces of writing have a beginning, middle, and end. For a eulogy, you need an intro, body, and conclusion. In order to produce an engaging introduction, start writing the body, then move to the conclusion before returning to write the intro. Writing in this order helps you figure out what you are going to say so that the introduction is more clear.  Keep in mind that you will likely write several revisions before coming up with a copy that you are happy with.  Ask relatives and friends to read over or listen to you read your rough drafts to help make the eulogy stronger. The tone for a eulogy does not have to be sad, although it certainly can be. Ask yourself some questions to determine what the mood and tone of your eulogy should be. For instance, how would your mother want you to feel? How do you want others to feel after hearing or reading your eulogy? Consider the personality of your mother. Was she vibrant and energetic? Warm and loving? Think about making the tone of your eulogy match your mother’s personality. Knowing what a eulogy is can help you decide what things to leave out. For starters, think of a eulogy as a gift to your mother. Your gift will assist everyone close to her in processing the grief they feel. That being said, you can choose to filter out things that don’t fit this mold.  You will probably want to exclude negative things. If you were angry with her when she passed, forgiving her before penning the eulogy can help you focus on positive aspects. Stay away from trivial facts that do not contribute to the main theme of your eulogy, such as her daily habits. Keep in mind that this eulogy does not need to be perfect in any way. View it as a way to honor your mother, and the funeral guests will appreciate it for this gesture. Take pressure off yourself to perform perfectly with this eulogy, which will help you speak from the heart. If you tend to be a perfectionist, try to lower your expectations by imagining how you would expect a sibling to do this, or another relative. Treat yourself as you would them (i.e., have compassion for mistakes).
اكتب الخطاب واضعًا في الاعتبار أنك ستقرأه على الحضور. ابدأ بكتابة جسم (الجزء الأساسي) من خطاب التأبين. حدد نبرة مناسبة لخطاب التأبين. تعرف على الأفكار الواجب تجنبها أثناء كتابة خطاب التأبين. لا تحاول الوصول إلى المثالية.