Sometimes, people demonstrate their worst traits around us because we unwittingly provoke them. Are you always turning in assignments late or asking for additional time? Your own “I’ve got all the time in the world”, laid-back attitude could be contributing to this person’s edginess. Do you need to change?  While your laid-back approach to life may be a part of your charm, it can be frustrating for co-workers or friends who are depending on you. It might be time to think about how you can work on being more mindful of their needs as well. This can be as simple as opening up better lines of communication so they know you are open to change. We all have tendencies that may seem annoying to others. Just as you hope those around you accept you for you, the same is true for accepting the best and worst of those around you.  You may have to get used to people getting impatient if communication isn’t your strong point. A big part of becoming impatient is often the unknown, so if you find those around you becoming a little short it might be useful to figure out why this is happening to you specifically.  If you find in the work place or at home there are certain people who are almost always impatient with you, try asking them for feedback about what makes this happen. If they see you as being disorganized for example, ask them for feedback to take small steps to change that. This can go a long way to not only change your behavior but also tells them you are open to doing better. Empathy really means stepping into the other person’s shoes to see how they might view the situation. Instead of having an emotional response about their impatience, stop to think about where it could be coming from and consider the other person’s role in the task or situation. A big part of empathy can be tied to clearly understanding how your part of the assignment or task at hand affects others. For example, if your coworkers have to wait for your part of a report to start theirs, it might make sense that they are impatient if they do not know where the report stands. This works best for people that fall into two groups, either you only see them on a rare occasion or you know them well enough to know their impatience is temporary and not tied to your actions. If you have a family member who is going through outside stress, he or she may just be a bit more impatient overall and that can probably be ignored. Picking your battles will allow you to focus on the task that needs to be finished and overall will end the conflict. You can’t focus on the task if you are always fighting a losing battle.  Count to 100 silently. This forces you to focus on nothing beyond counting and slowing your heart rate to a more relaxed rate. Practice regular self-care. Your self-care will depend on what makes you relaxed and centered. Some people enjoy a good, hard workout to rejuvenate while others like the quiet time with a good book or meditation.
فكر في الطريقة التي تعاملت بها وأسهمت فى قلة الصبر تلك. ضع في الاعتبار صفاتك غير المحببة. حاول أن تتعاطف. امتنع عن جعل التعجل يؤثر عليك.