Take a few minutes to just lie there with your partner and bask in the post-coital glow. The act of intercourse may be over, but the blissful feeling of warmth and connectedness doesn’t have to be. All too often, people will get up and leave or find something else to focus their attention on as soon as sex has ended, depriving themselves of the small moments of pleasure that come once the immediate thrill has ended.  Just like you use foreplay to ramp up the excitement and anticipation before sex, you should build in some time to slowly and gently come back to earth afterwards. It’s important to take a few minutes to rest and recharge if you plan on going for a second round. Rather than rolling over to claim your half of the bed, hold your partner close. Cradle them in your arms and gently nuzzle their neck or stroke their hair. Chances are you’ll drift off into a peaceful slumber together after a while, providing the perfect end to your night.  If you’re both still feeling energetic, you can watch a little TV, listen to music, or talk and joke with one another while you’re snuggled up. Physical affection is extremely important after sex. Without it, your partner may get the wrong idea and think that you were just in it for your own pleasure. There’s no rule that says you have to talk after sex. Forget about coming up with the perfect one-liner and instead just listen to the sound of your partner’s breath, feel their heartbeat, and try to take in as much of the experience as you can. If you feel like you have to say something, you’ll just get caught up trying to say the right thing, which can come off sounding forced and insincere. When you do resume talking, do it in an organic fashion. Relax, be yourself, and speak only when you have something worth saying. Complimenting your partner on their performance or asking something as simple as how they’re feeling can be a good place to start.  Try not to let your line of questioning come off like an interrogation. You’ll be putting them on the spot by asking things like “Did you like when I did this?” Never critique, rate, or offer unsolicited advice post-sex. It’s a time for feeling good, not getting a lecture. When the time comes to get up and wash off, do it as a unit rather than in shifts. A steamy shower may be just the thing you need to leave you feeling refreshed. You could also climb into a bath and take a long, relaxing soak, if space allows. Not only will this save water, it’s also an opportunity to be playful and get more comfortable around each other. Bathing with someone for the first time can be a little awkward. Keep the mood fun by teasing them with some lighthearted splashing or offering to scrub their back for them. Sometimes people discover that they feel distant once the act of intimacy has ended, especially if their partner is someone they don't know well. This is perfectly normal. If you're experiencing mixed emotions or the idea of sticking around to spoon a stranger makes you uneasy, excuse yourself to do something else, like call a trusted friend or take a long walk. You can always go or ask your partner to leave if you're not feeling any better after a few minutes.  You're not obligated to cuddle, flirt, or carry on conversation after sex. Instead, you should always do what makes you most comfortable. While it's important for your partner to be able to relax and enjoying themselves once, it's just as important to make sure that you're feeling alright about what's just happened.
اتركا الفرصة لنشوة العلاقة الجنسية أن تتلاشى تدريجيًا. احتضن زوجتك. استمتعا بالصمت والهدوء. اتركا المحادثة تبدأ من جديد بشكل طبيعي. فكرا في الاستحمام سويًا. امنح نفسك مساحتك الشخصية إذا شعرت بحاجة ماسة لذلك.