Living together can come with the added benefit of sharing financial responsibilities.  When a break up occurs, these responsibilities may shift or change and you will need to discuss them openly.   Decide who is going to be paying for what and stick to that plan.  The aim is to divide finances in a way that roommates would. Keep things fair, try to split shared bills in half to avoid one party feeling taken advantage of. Don't expect any personal financial responsibilities to be shared. Consider writing up some kind of agreement or list that explicitly states who has which responsibilities. After the decision to separate as a couple has been made, both parties will have to start taking care of their own chores in the house or apartment.  Take care of your own personal chores, such as doing your own laundry, and share other chores such as cleaning common spaces like the living room.  Be open and clear to avoid anyone feeling angry or hurt. Share chores like you would with any other roommate. Take responsibility for your share of the chores, cleaning up after yourself. Although the space you are living in is shared, you will both want to set boundaries now as the relationship changes.  These boundaries will help keep a sense of personal space.  Discuss who will use which space and when, respecting any new boundaries that you both decide upon.  Sleep in different rooms if possible. Try to give one another space, spending time in a bedroom or spare room. Make separate space in the kitchen and become responsible for your own groceries. Discuss if both of you are comfortable with bringing guests over and at what times that is acceptable. The most important step in living together after a break up is agreeing that the relationship is at an end.  It can be easy to slip into old behaviors, falling back into elements of the relationship, which can cause further pain and stress.  End the old relationship and don't give into any temptation to return to old habits.  Don't fall back into any romantic aspects of the relationship. Make the break up clear to avoid making it more difficult and complicated. Even though you are still living together, the relationship is over and the possibility for new relationships is open.  Honestly discuss how both parties feel about the idea of seeing other people while still living together.  Respect what is said and speak honestly about your own needs.  If one of you is uncomfortable with the idea, honor that and do not see or bring other romantic interests home.  This can cause even more stress and pain, making the break up worse. If both parties are open to this idea, discuss any further rules or boundaries that should be put in place.
ناقشا الأمور المالية. قسما الأعمال المنزلية. ضعا قواعد وحدود منزلية. اتفقا على انتهاء العلاقة. ناقشا قواعد العلاقة الجديدة.