While it’s healthy to spend time away from your partner, it might be a cause for concern if your wife seems to prefer going out without you. This is especially true if she picks activities with others over date night with you. Take note if she starts to go out alone or with friends several times a week. It’s possible she’s seeing someone else.  It’s normal and healthy for both partners to enjoy time away from each other. Don’t assume that your wife’s desire to have a “girls night” or go to happy hour after work is a sign she’s having an affair. If your wife uses social media often, check her profile on nights she goes out. If she’s posting pictures of girls night or happy hour, she’s likely telling the truth. If your wife suddenly stops answering your calls and returning your texts, this might be a cause for concern. Notice if you’re having trouble getting a reply several times a week, as well as the time of day when this happens. When she gives you excuses, ask questions to see if her story changes and consider if the reason makes sense. For example, let’s say your wife usually answers your texts while she’s in the office, but lately she hasn’t been responding. Talk to her about what’s going on. It’s possible she’s working on a big project and has been busy, but it’s also possible she’s spending time with someone else or is prioritizing their messages. Make a habit of talking to your wife about her day. Listen to what she says and watch for inconsistencies or details that don’t make sense. If you have any concerns, ask her about them to see if her story changes.  For instance, let’s say your wife says she had lunch with a female coworker but then complains that the same coworker has been out all week. This would be a red flag. Similarly, if she says she was late getting home because she had to go to the dry cleaners but she didn’t bring home any clothes, she could be fibbing. As a bonus, talking to your wife about her day will be good for your relationship. It’s normal to want to tell a lot of stories about a new relationship. If your wife is cheating, she may talk about the person she’s cheating with often, even though she’s trying to keep it a secret. Notice if she’s telling you a lot of stories about a new person, whether it’s a male or a female. This could be a sign that their relationship is more than friendship.  For instance, let’s say your wife suddenly starts telling a lot of stories about her new coworker Marco. She may have a special relationship or interest in Marco. Before you jump to conclusions, consider how your wife normally talks about her friends. It’s possible that she’s just excited about having a new friend. While long hours and frequent business trips may be normal, your wife may use work as a cover for cheating. Watch for changes in your wife’s work schedule that don’t make sense, and talk to her about what she’s working on. Additionally, notice if she’s working long hours without an increase in pay or if she has new responsibilities that don’t match up with her job title.  For instance, let’s say your wife typically works 40-hour Monday- Friday work weeks but suddenly starts needing to work overtime or weekends. Ask her about her current projects to see if the new work hours make sense, and watch your bank account to see if she’s getting paid for the time she’s working. Keep in mind that your wife could just be excelling in her career. If your wife has recently received a promotion or is hoping to get one, then she may honestly be working the extra hours. Don’t assume that she’s lying. If she’s having an affair, her spending habits may be higher than normal or lower than normal. She may spend extra on special clothes or lingerie, hotel rooms, or meals and drinks. However, she may spend less than usual if her lover is paying for their dates. Check your bank statements and credit card bills to see if her spending seems off.  For example, you might notice shopping sprees, hotel rooms, or large cash withdrawals. Similarly, if she goes to girls night every Friday but isn’t spending any money, she might be going on dates.
ध्यान दें, अगर उसने अब आपके बिना अक्सर बाहर जाना शुरू कर दिया है: अगर आपकी वाइफ़ काफी लंबे समय से पहुँच के बाहर (unreachable) है, तो इस पर ध्यान दें: उसकी स्टोरी या डिटेल्स की तरफ ध्यान दें, जो कहीं से भी ठीक या सुसंगत न लगती हों: अगर वो उसके किसी नए फ्रेंड के बारे में बात करना शुरू कर दे, तो उसे ध्यान से सुनें: ध्यान दें कि वो अक्सर कितना काम करती है या फिर बिजनेस ट्रिप्स पर जाती है: नजर रखें कि जब वो बाहर होती है, तब वो कितना खर्च करती है: