. For many people, being confident is easier said than done. Being confident means feeling secure in who you are and what your abilities are. If you're not already confident, there are ways to  build your self esteem.  As an example, if you struggle with negative self talk (those voices in your head that tell you you’re a loser, worthless, stupid etc.), work on countering that with positive affirmations such as “I am thoughtful” or “I am a good friend”. When you're confident, you don’t beat yourself up for making mistakes, and you don’t talk down to yourself. Confident people are able to celebrate the success of others without feeling jealous or bad about themselves. and  live in the moment. It can be difficult to  enjoy life when your mind is on the past or future. Instead of worrying about what you just said or what might happen next, enjoy the moment you're in.  If you’re nervous and unsure of what to say, a great way to connect with someone is to ask them questions. In particular, asking someone for advice about something, or encouraging them to talk about themselves, is a great way to get them to like you.  If you are relaxed and focused during your time with others, they will be more likely to enjoy your company and seek it out again. If you’re talking to a guy you like (or anybody, for that matter), a surefire way to get them to like you (at the very least, as a friend) is to actively listen to them. Active listening involves the following steps:  Don’t interrupt or judge the person who is talking. Nod your head or give short verbal signs (“yes”, “mm hmm”) that show you acknowledge what the person is saying. Paraphrase what they’ve said so that they know you’ve understood. Ask questions to signal you’ve paid attention and are interested. Resist the urge to tell a guy what he wants to hear instead of what you really think. Just be sure to be respectful while you’re voicing your opinion. There’s no need to insult him or his ideas.  You want him to like you for who you are, not for who you think he wants you to be. He might even appreciate that you have your own ideas and the courage to voice them. For example, if a guy asks what you think of a movie you didn't like, say what you really think instead of pretending you liked it just because you think he liked it. If nothing else, it'll lead to an interesting conversation. When people talk about their passions, it's like they come more fully alive. Their excitement can be infectious, making them exciting and fun to be around.  When you're talking to a guy you're interested in, don't be afraid to reveal a little about what's important to you. Don’t forget to ask questions about his interests, too. This will show him that you’re interested in getting to know him better, and could help him feel closer to you. Volunteer for a cause you believe in; learn a musical instrument; take dance classes; train for a marathon; or join a recreational sports team. Being happy and fulfilled will make you more attractive to men. In addition, having hobbies will give you more to talk about and more opportunities to bond with your crush, if he shares any of your interests. You might even meet someone through your hobbies. Do little things to show him that you’re interested and that you care about him. If you’re at a party, ask him if he needs a drink or some snacks; if you’ve recently talked about a concern of his, check in to see how he’s doing with that concern. Studies have shown that if you’re loving, supportive and stable, people are more likely to consider you as a potential mate, so take opportunities to show that you are all of those things. Countless romantic comedies are built around someone saying they’re someone they aren’t, and their lie blowing up in their face. Don’t be that someone.  If your ideal night is at home with pizza and Netflix, don’t tell your crush you’re a party animal. It will only be exhausting for you, and sad when you inevitably break up because all he wants to do is party and all you want to do is relax. If you love math and want to teach, don’t tell your adventure-seeking crush that your dream job is being a snowboarding teacher at a resort. It can be fun and even healthy to step outside of your comfort zone — for example, by trying new hobbies or being more social — but always make sure that you’re doing it with a firm sense of who you are and what you want in life. Stay true to your beliefs and goals.  The only good reason for changing who you are is if you are unhappy with who you are, and you want to change so that you’re happier with yourself. If being with a certain guy requires you to be someone completely different, you probably shouldn’t be with him.
الثقة في النفس الاسترخاء والاستغراق في اللحظة الحالية. كوني مستمعة جيدة. كوني صادقة ومحترمة للطرف الآخر. مشاركة اهتماماتك وشغفك. افعلي الأشياء التي تثري حياتك. إظهار الاهتمام والرعاية. كوني صادقة حيال ما تهتمين به. لا تغيري من حقيقة شخصيتك من أجل أي شخص.