Try to make others feel comfortable, valued, and heard. The ability to do this is known as social competency, which can also make you appear more confident. Start to become aware of the verbal and nonverbal signals that you send to others. This will help you realize how you can improve your social skills. For example, maybe you've become aware that avoiding eye contact and crossing your arms at social functions makes others uncomfortable. Adopt body language that communicates confidence, or power poses. Studies have shown that power poses can increase your confidence and make you appear comfortable. A standing power pose might include a wide stance and hands on the hips or clasped behind the head. This is open and expansive. More examples of confident body language include:  Sitting up tall and expanding your chest to widen your shoulders. Place your hands on a table or spread one across the back of a chair. Strong body postures with wide stances and open shoulders and arms. A strong hand shake to connect with others and help people remember who you are.  Smiling to show that you are interested and enjoying yourself.  Making eye contact to let others know that you are listening to them. Most people feel comfortable with making eye contact 60% of the time, leaving the rest of the time for breaks in eye contact to avoid staring.  Still posture, avoiding fidgeting or swaying so you don't look nervous. To appear confident, speak clearly and at a level in which others can hear you. Adjust the pitch of your voice by speaking in a low tone. Studies show that raising your tone in the middle before returning it to a low tone can portray confidence, assertiveness, and that you aren't asking for approval. Learning to adjust your verbal communication in this way can make you appear more comfortable and confident in social settings. People are also more likely to understand your meaning. Mumbling is hard to hear causing others to think that you don't want to take part in the conversation or that you're not interested. Make sure the pace with which you speak is slow enough that others can understand you. Sometimes if you are nervous, you may begin speeding up what you are saying. This makes it difficult for others to hear and understand your message. To ensure that your pace of speaking is normal, try to breathe steadily at regular intervals throughout your story. If you notice yourself speeding up or speaking too fast to begin with, take a pause and a breath before continuing. Focus on what the other person is saying and try to imagine yourself in what the person is describing. This can make you more empathetic which will help you come up with an appropriate and thoughtful response to keep the conversation going. Letting the other person speak can remind you that you don't have to carry the burden of conversation all by yourself. It also signals to other people that you respect and care about their opinions, which will give you better social feedback, helping your self-confidence.  If you are nervous, it is tempting to pay attention more to yourself, how nervous you are, and how you will respond. But, this can make other people feel as if you don’t really care to hear what they have to say. Avoid the urge to interrupt, which you may feel like doing if you're nervous. Instead, pause and save it for when the other person has finished speaking.
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