Many people feel more comfortable transitioning into dating gradually. Try asking him what he's doing this weekend and, when he responds, suggest something the two of you could do together instead. For example, "Bowling sounds fun this weekend, but I have tickets to this concert if you want to go with me."  Try asking him for advice on somewhere to go, and then ask him to go with you. For example, say: "Where do you get good pizza in this town?" When he answers, say something like, "Oh, cool. Hey, since you like that place, maybe we could go together." If he's not getting the hint, don't be afraid to make the first move! Many guys actually appreciate when a potential romantic partner makes the move for them. Guys are shy too, so don't be afraid to make the first move.  Remember, this guy is your friend. This can help take some pressure off. A friend is more likely to be polite and let you down easy, as well. When asking him out, go at your own pace. Rushing through things can make you look nervous, making you both feel anxious in the situation. You want to start things off in a good place, so slowly work your way up to asking him out when the time comes.  Do not rush through your words. When the two of you do interact one-on-one, allow conversation to happen naturally for a bit before making your move. If you're feeling nervous, take a few deep breaths to calm yourself. If indirect invitations aren't working, it's time to be bold about your feelings. Simply say something like, "So, I feel a strong romantic connection with you. Would you like to go out on a date some time?" You want to proceed with your relationship, friendship or otherwise, with no confusion.  While this may feel very bold, many people appreciate it when you're straightforward. You can also emphasize how important his friendship is to you. You could say something like, “I really do love being your friend and if you aren’t into me in a romantic way, I just want you to know that I am happy with just being friends. Nothing about our friendship will change. I want to continue having fun with you and being your friend.” You cannot control someone else's feelings. Even if you've done everything "right," there's still a chance your guy friend just won't see you in that way. Remember this hurt will fade with time. While it seems like the end of the world now, you will eventually get over these feelings. Everyone gets rejected at some point, so don’t let it affect your confidence. Besides, even if he doesn’t feel romantically about you now, that doesn’t mean he’ll always feel that way. Stay positive! No matter what happens, it doesn't reflect negatively on you as a person. You are awesome, with or without him!
جرّبي أن تطلبي الذهاب معه في موعد بشكل غير مباشر في البداية. اتّخذي الخطوة الأولى. خذي وقتك. كوني صريحة. استعدي للتعرض للرفض. حافظي على قوتك.