Think back over the course of your relationship to assess whether it is still fulfilling and happy for you both. Usually, if you take the time to look closely and think critically about your relationship, you can notice some red flags that something is wrong.  The most common warning is simply when your partner tells you that something is wrong, but you dismiss their complaint. Some common phrases are, "This marriage isn’t working," "I'm not happy," "I need more than this."  More frequent arguments in a relationship can signal that a partnership is in trouble. Whether those conflicts are the result of an infidelity or the infidelity is a response to being in an unhappy relationship, fighting with your partner more often can be a sign that your relationship needs work. Unconstructive criticism by your partner could be a sign that something is wrong. If your partner becomes overtly critical, telling you to "Go to the gym," "lose weight," "talk to a therapist," they could be dragging you down to subconsciously justify their infidelity. If your partner is practicing infidelity, they may touch you less often or exhibit different sexual behavior. They may appear distant or distracted.  Pay attention to whether your partner seems less interested in being intimate with you. If they are receiving affection from another person, they may be less likely to need it from you. Take note of the way your partner touches you throughout the day. Has he or she stopped holding your hand or showing casual signs of affection? Greater physical distance between yourself and your partner could signal emotional distance as well. Notice during your intimate moments together if it feels different from usual. Your partner may demonstrate new sexual techniques that they have recently learned or practiced with someone else. Think about whether you have been neglecting or ignoring your partner and your relationship, or if you have been treating him or her unkindly. Try to assess your behavior honestly, and from the other person’s perspective.  If you have been neglecting your partner, they may be more likely to seek emotional and sexual fulfillment with someone else. A partner may embark on an affair simply to try and get their partner’s attention and prove to themselves they are still desirable. If you have been spending a lot of time away from your partner, or focusing too much on work or children, your partner may be lonely and looking for companionship with someone more available. If you have mistreated your partner, an affair could be one way in which they seek to get back at you while boosting their own confidence, or a means of exiting the relationship altogether. If your intuition is telling you that your partner is cheating, don’t dismiss it. According to a recent story in New Scientist, "our emotions emerge from our unconscious mind," so they tend to "reflect more information than our rational mind." Essentially, our gut instinct can save us from a lot of grief. You might be picking up on subtle signals from your partner without being aware of it. If you are concerned that your partner is having an affair try to discuss the status of your relationship. Having a conversation can be an easy way to either confirm your suspicions or ease your fears. You might not get the answer you want, but at least you approached your partner honestly and openly.  Pick a time when you are both relaxed and calm, not angry. If you begin the discussion on a negative note, it will be more difficult to have a productive conversation. Think "conversation" not "confrontation."  Chose the right place for your conversation. If privacy is paramount, chose an area where you two can be alone. If a public place puts you more at ease, offer to take a walk with your partner or visit a nearby park. A place that is around people, but easy to leave if your discussion becomes too heated, is ideal. Try to start the conversation by talking about yourself. Use nonjudgmental phrases, such as, "There is something weighing on my mind." or "I’m concerned about our relationship." Start your sentences with "I" instead of "you." This will help your partner be less reactive.  See if your partner is willing to discuss your concerns. It is a good sign if your partner is willing to work on improving your relationship through dialogue or couples counseling. If your conversation does not go well, or if you sense that your partner is lying to you, take a hard look at your relationship and think about what you need. Is it really worth staying in a relationship with someone you feel you cannot trust? If you are suspicious of your partner, or think they are capable of deceiving you and breaking your trust, perhaps this is not the healthiest relationship for you.
قم بإجراء تقييم كامل للعلاقة الزوجية. اهتمي بتقييم سلوكيات زوجك الجسدية. احكمي بشكل نقدي على سلوكياتك الخاصة. اشعري بالثقة في إحساسك الداخلي. تحدثي مع زوجك. قرر ما إذا كانت هذه العلاقة جديرة بالعمل على إصلاحها أم لا.