Try to encourage your loved one to be as active as possible. When they feel disturbed or has the urge to cut themself, they need to find a more positive, active outlet to let it out. Suggest doing rigorous exercise, such as running, dancing, aerobics, swimming, tennis, or kickboxing. These can provide an outlet for all of their sadness, aggression, or unhealthy emotion that leads to cutting. Offer to join your friend and exercise together.  To help calm the mind, they can also try yoga, meditation, or tai chi. These exercises can help her get a new lease on life, with a fresh, energetic, confident approach that will help them not want to cut themself. Exercise also releases endorphins into their body, which are the chemicals in the body that makes them feel good. When a person cuts themself, endorphins rush to the area of the cut and are released into the blood stream, which cause feelings of relaxation, happiness, and relief. Exercise provides them with a positive way to release endorphins instead. Low self-esteem is one reason that drives a person to cut. You need to help them understand that cutting will not and cannot improve their self-image but accomplishments and achievements will. Help them prove to themself that they are amazing and full of accomplishments. This can be through their studies, work, friends, or volunteering. When they become aware of their accomplishments, their self-esteem will go up and they will feel better about themself. This should lead them to not want to cut themself. You can help your friend realize they are full of accomplishments by sharing with them a list of their positive attributes and accomplishments. Pandering to them will not make her want to change their self-harming behavior. Do not try to drill the person with lectures and sermons that go on for a long time. Keep your talks small and simple. Let the person take in and digest whatever it is you told them. Give them the time to contemplate.  Have your small pep talks at a location that is pleasant, peaceful, in the midst of nature, away from hustle and bustle, and private, where the chances of being bothered are minimal. If you can't go somewhere in nature, try a quiet place in your apartment or house or a secluded study room at your local library. The exact location doesn't matter as long as it's a place where you can an honest, uninterrupted conversation. Give them ample time to talk to you. Give them the time they need and wants. Do not push them into speeding things up and always choose a place and time that they are comfortable with. Your loved one will not stop cutting overnight or because you tell them to. For them, this is the way they know how to deal with their feelings. Telling them to stop the behavior immediately may terrify them because they might have got so used to this coping mechanism and feel lost in the absence of an alternative coping skill. This can also make it worse for them, since you are trying to take away their coping mechanism for their pain and trauma. Be patient and accept that it will take time. Don't get discouraged and take your time helping them. Issuing ultimatums without assisting or supporting them in ways to find safe alternative is not a wise option and can cause more harm than good. People who cut themselves are apprehensive of socializing because they may face suspicious looks and unanswerable probing from others. In order to take their mind off cutting and avoid uncomfortable social situations, suggest they read more. Books open up new horizons. They can travel beyond the four walls of their room without really going out. They can also learn that there are innumerable ways various people have dealt with tough times and experiences. Books also provide an opportunity to understand that there can be plenty of positive and acceptable coping strategies. Present them with books that are thought provoking, such as those that will help them look within themself and assess their personal predicament. A great way to help your loved one come to terms with their cutting is through journaling. Tell tgem to maintain a daily journal that they put all of their thoughts, anguish, pain, and joy into. Writing can take away the pain and leave them light and relieved. Tell them to write about anything that comes to mind.  Don't advise them to write specifically about cutting unless they go to a therapist or counselor. You never know what can of worms could open up, so suggesting your friend focus on a problematic behavior that could be compensating for that trauma is not a good idea unless they go to a professional for help. A journal can also help a psychologist, psychiatrist, or counselor learn about their condition before diagnosis and treatment.
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