Fear of rejection may reflect low self-confidence. When your worth is based on the thoughts and perceptions of others, your self-confidence and self-worth are at the mercy of what others think of you. In this scenario, your self-confidence is not stable as it could be and may be easily altered by either a pleasant compliment or by unpleasant rejection. Developing and maintaining self-confidence based on your own personal evaluations will enable you to be more stable and less affected by external events. When you are confident in your abilities and your strengths, rejection will be less likely to affect you. Do not seek re-affirmation of your virtues in others, for that is the root of your fear of rejection. You are only responsible for yourself. We become more susceptible to fear of rejection if we are feeling doubtful and if our feelings of self-worth rely on others. It's important that you feel a sense of pride and confidence in yourself and that you value your skills. Remembering and documenting your strengths is the first step to find the confidence that comes from within yourself, not external to it.  Write a list of your strengths and abilities in your journal to highlight your self-value and challenge any feelings of self-doubt that emerge when we fear rejection.  Make a list of things or moments that you’re proud of. Did you once run a race or get a huge scholarship? Did you help a lost child find her parents? Did you return money to someone who lost it on the subway? Reward yourself for these good things. Think about the sorts of skills that you demonstrate during these moments. How can you do more of those things? This will help build your self-confidence. Building on the strengths you have just identified, create a list of goals, of things you want to work towards. This can heighten your feelings of self-worth and purpose. Ask yourself: How will I go about attaining these goes? What needs to be done? What actions can I take now? Planning, working towards, and meeting goals will help you feel more confident about your prospects in the future and less fearful of rejection.  For example, maybe you were rejected in the past from a job because you didn't have the right degree. But once you've gone back to school and now have the requisite diploma for your field, you will feel not only proud of yourself for this accomplishment but also that you now have a stronger application for future employment. Breaking down goals into smaller steps will help you build confidence. Moreover, success in these small steps can help insulate the effects of rejection. Maybe your dream is to be a pilot and initially you don't get into flying school because you don't have the right credits. Instead of dwelling, make a list of what you need to do to improve your odds of entry in the next round, such as going back and getting a few more science credits, getting a tutor, and getting in touch with a pilot you know so you can get advice and network. As you successfully accomplish all of these smaller goals in pursuit of your big goal, you'll feel more confident that you can have the success you envision and the rejections of the past will be mitigated. Contributing to and helping others is very rewarding and gives you a sense of purpose. This sense of purpose contributes greatly to feelings of self-confidence and self-esteem. Research has confirmed that volunteer work, for example, enhances key aspects of personal well-being: happiness, life satisfaction, self-esteem, sense of control over life, and physical health.  Consider volunteering your time at a hospital or school event. Or if you prefer animals, there is always volunteering at a humane society to help animals. Be kind and generous to and with others. Being kind to other people and even strangers makes others feel good, which in turn makes you feel good, thus perpetuating the cycle! Set aside time to do something that makes you happy every day, whether that means reading, cooking, gardening, or playing computer games. Embrace and enjoy this time you've set aside; you deserve it. Repeat that statement as needed. Enriching your life with things you like to do helps you feel more positive about your life and, in turn, more able to face life's challenges and your personal fears, including rejection. Try something new. Learn a new language, take a Thai cooking class, or try improv. In experimenting with new activities, you might learn about talents or skills you didn't know you possessed. This can help build your self-esteem and self-worth and perhaps also show you new paths in life that you hadn't considered before. If you can try something new and face those fears, you'll also help build your resilience to rejection. Putting time and effort into ensuring your own mental and physical well-being can help build your feelings of self-worth. The healthier you are in mind and body, the better the possibility that you will be satisfied with your self and more able to successfully face the possibility of rejection.Taking care of yourself means doing your best to be healthy, whatever that means for you. Here are some helpful tips:  Take care of your physical self. Make sure you eat healthy, unprocessed food, relaxation and get enough sleep (at least 7-8 hours). Exercise is also important. Research has shown that exercise can give a real boost to self-esteem. This is because exercise causes the body to release the "happy chemicals" called endorphins. This feeling of euphoria can be accompanied by increased positivity and energy. Incorporate 10-15 minutes of moderate exercise (like brisk walking) into your daily routine and do about 20 minutes of vigorous exercise three times a week (such as cycling, running or swimming). Give yourself time to relax. Stress is a major problem that many of us suffer from and can help foster and heighten negative feelings and fears. Designate time for relaxation that can help you reduce your stress in your everyday life. Go for a walk, try meditation, garden, or do whatever other activity gives you some piece of mind and makes you feel mentally strong.
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