If you want to stop being selfish, then you've got to learn to compromise. This means seeing that it's better to be happy than to get what you want, that other people have needs too, and that you can't always get what you want. You don't want to have a reputation for being so stubborn that people wouldn't even think about approaching you with a difficult situation. Learn to listen to people, to weigh the pros and cons of any situation, and to be able to see the situation from another person's perspective.  Don't focus blindly on getting your way. Focus on understanding the situation from both sides. Ask yourself, "Who wants it more?" Do you really want this particular thing so badly, or are you just being stubborn for the sake of it? Not everything can be a priority for you. Make sure to hear the other person out and consider their perspective before you respond. Selfish people think that they deserve the best treatment and that they deserve to be spoiled, and that's just not the case. If someone does something nice for you, whether they are complimenting you or giving you a ride to class, you should be grateful and thank them for their actions instead of just acting like it's perfectly normal that they want to do favors for you. Don't expect kindness or understanding and be grateful when it comes your way.  Selfish people think they "deserve" the best treatment at all times. It's time to stop and think about all of the people who have really made your life better. Selfish people think that they have to choose every movie, plan every vacation, and get their way in every school or work-related project. Well, it's time to take a step back and to let some other people do some of the deciding. Sure, it may be scary to go to that new Thai place instead of your favorite usual Italian restaurant, and sure, you may not like letting Mary have so much control over your latest report; but you've got to trust that other people know what they're doing and to let them get their way, too.   Giving up control can help you relieve stress and be happier, too. Think about how much easier your life will be if you're not obsessing over planning every little thing so that it goes your way. Giving in to the other person's schedule sometimes may also help to make things easier and relieve some stress. Join others who are kind and reciprocate kindness. Being with other selfish people, will not help you become a better person. We are very much defined by the company we keep. If you spend all of your time with other people who only care about themselves, then yeah, you won't be a very considerate person. But if you spend time around an inspiring, giving person, you will be inspired to act in a less selfish way. Let them finish their sentence. Remember that your points can always wait. If it's urgent (like if you have to leave) say "excuse me". Selfish people often think that what they have to say is so important, and that what others have to say is so unimportant, that they can just jump in with their opinions at any time. Well, this is not the case. In fact, your opinion will be much better received if you wait your turn. Furthermore, you may change your opinion if you actually take the time to hear people out. Someone's feelings are bound to be hurt if you happen to forget their special day. Fortunately, you can always make it up to them if you forget. Still, though, remembering a birthday is about more than just remembering the special day. It's about recognizing people for being special and letting them know how much they mean to you. On the other side of the coin, don't be that person who gets incredibly upset if someone forgets their birthday. These things happen and there's no point in acting like everyone should remember your every move. Selfish people find it easy to lose touch with people because they know that they will always come back to them. Don't think that your time is so important that you can't call your own grandmother or spend your lunch hour with a friend and then expect other people to be at your beck and call when you do need them. Give people the basic consideration of wanting to know how they're doing just because. . Don't just go on about how great you are. Take the time to let people know how great they are, whether you're talking about their fashion sense, their personalities, or great decisions they've recently made. Or just compliment a perfect stranger if you're waiting in line and like the stranger's coat. Don't give phony compliments just to suck up to people; give compliments because they really deserve them. Also, if you see someone in a walker or a wheelchair, slow down or help them instead of just cutting in front of them. Nothing can be so important that you want to do it absolutely first. Wait your turn and let other people get their pick without acting like what you have to do that day is so important that you can't possibly wait five minutes just standing in line. If at all possible, call if you know you are going to be late. Selfish people are known to keep other people waiting and to not care if they are wasting the time of anyone else; paradoxically, they think that their time is so important that nobody could ever keep them waiting. So, be courteous and give other people the respect that they deserve by showing up when you say you'll show up.
समझौता करना सीखें: लोगों को थैंक्स कहें: हर चीज के ऊपर अपने कंट्रोल को छोड़ें: ऐसे लोगों के साथ में समय बिताएँ, जो सेल्फ़िश नहीं हैं: लोगों को रोके नहीं: लोगों के बर्थडे याद रखें: अपने फ्रेंड्स, फैमिली और रिलेटिव्स के साथ टच में रहें: दूसरे लोगों को कॉम्प्लिमेंट दें: किसी लाइन में लोगों से जल्दी पहुँचने की कोशिश न करें: हमेशा समय पर काम करें: