Sincerely apologize for your wrongdoings. Feelings of guilt aside, seeing how painful this process is for your partner should be motivation enough to admit your errors. Science has show that those who are willing to offer up a mea culpa are also generally happier people. A heartfelt apology usually includes a statement that not only acknowledges your error, but also shows remorse for injuring the other person. Confessing aloud that you've wounded your spouse shows them their feelings matter too. If you're still at a loss for words in saying you're sorry, here are a few suggestions:  "I'm so sorry I lied to you. You did not deserve to be treated that way." "This was all my fault. I apologize for hurting you." "Lying was wrong and I'm sorry I violated your trust." If you’re committed to making the relationship right again, suggest a joint therapist visit. Dealing with the fallout of infidelity can be a long and messy process. A trained counselor might be able to help you and your partner put the pieces back together. It will take a long time to rebuild trust. Being completely truthful with your partner from this point forward, however, shows that you're willing to work hard to make your relationship work. You may need to agree to some terms that will help your partner to trust you again. For example, you might agree to check in more often when you are out or to allow your partner to have access to your phone, email, and social media accounts. Therapists emphasize that in order for a relationship to truly heal after an affair, it requires sharing insights and feelings with your partner. Take time to understand your motivations for seeking extramarital companionship and then share what you've learned with your spouse. Some useful questions to ask of yourself include:  "Was I feeling lonely?" "If so, why?" "Why did I choose that person over my spouse?" "What feelings did I have for my former lover?" While 70% of couples will go on to work on the relationship and try to stay together, some couples will not stay together after a spouse cheats. Make sure that you are prepared for the possibility that your relationship may end.  You should also be prepared for anger from your spouse. Remember that your spouse has a right to be angry. Be willing to listen to your spouse as he or she expresses feelings of anger. Keep in mind that you have had lots of time to prepare yourself for this discussion, but it may be a total surprise to your spouse.
اعترف بأخطائك. اشرح سبب أسفك. اقترح الاستشارة الزوجية. التزم بالصراحة الكاملة. شارك زوجك مشاعرك. توقع الرفض.