Isolation is normal and okay for a short time. But it is vital that you don’t isolate yourself from your closest supports for more than a short time. They love you and need to know you are alright. They know you better than you do yourself at times. They can help you get back to who you are at your best.  These are the people who know how to be silent with you and know when to push you to step out and have fun. They know how to make you laugh, and they are supportive when you need to cry. You don’t have to let everyone in, but trust those closest to you. These people can also help you recognize if your grief goes into depression and if you need professional supports. Your friends and family might tread over the topic of the other person without realizing how much you are struggling. It is okay to let friends know when you need a change of subject. Just be honest and let them know that you need time. Be specific about what hurts you and what you would like to avoid for the time being. It’s important to know your pain threshold and protect yourself. Perhaps you agreed to be friends with your former loved one, but the “friendly” phone calls are painful. Be honest about how you’re feeling. You may need to totally separate while you give yourself time to heal. Most likely you have coworkers, classmates, or even friends and family who are just outside of the “close supports” category. They may not be the ones you spill your guts to, but they still play a part in your life. It is perfectly fine to turn down your coworker’s invitation to lunch for a spell, but then it will be time to let these people be the lighthearted, friendly, distraction-from-life they were before. These supports generally come with natural boundaries you have already established. You tend to avoid deeply personal conversation, and keep things fun and on the surface. They won’t expect you to trudge into emotional trenches over your 30-minute lunch break. This isn’t about replacing what was lost. Rather, it’s about moving on. Once you find yourself dealing less and less with your grief, you find your mind less preoccupied with the person you’re letting go of.  Now it is time to be open to new people. New people are exciting. You do not, under any circumstances, have to get out there and date in order to move on. In fact, even thinking that way may terrify you at the moment. So let’s dial back the intensity and reframe this in a comfortable way. Instead of diving into the dating scene, dive into the possibility of new friendships. Friendships can take on so many wonderful forms. Some friends are more like family. Sometimes friends move past friendship and become romantic partners. Sometimes friends simply remain friends. Regardless of where a new friend fits, you can’t go wrong by being open to having more of them.
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