Having a positive outlook helps your motivation. You see desires and goals as attainable when you have an optimistic, can-do attitude. Lack of optimism may lead to procrastination, or putting off things you want to or need to do. You avoid doing something that is good for you because it seems too hard. Build your optimism by journaling. You can train yourself to take action in the morning and all day.  Think about something you've been putting off doing, like going back to school. Make two columns in a journal.  In the first column, write down the challenges you feel are keeping you from achieving your dream (in this case, going back to school). For example, “I don't have money to go back to school.  I don't have the time.” In the second column, write down how the goal benefits you. What would your life be like immediately after, a year after and five years after you achieve it? For example, “I have the qualifications for my dream job. I can earn more money. I can buy a house.” Recognize the feelings of joy and pride that come with these accomplishments. Build on your feelings of joy and pride. Take one small step toward your goal. For example, you might research college programs, or contact schools to find out about financial aid. Write in your journal each week, noting your accomplishments as well as your challenges. Make notes on how you can overcome the difficulties you faced from the week before. You can keep your motivation high by acknowledging your progress and using problem-solving for the difficulties. Incentives help with motivation. Just like when you reward a pet with a treat for doing something good, you need to reward yourself. Set rewards for each small goal you reach. For example, play a 10-minute game on your tablet if you get your chores done. Monetary rewards are often the most motivating. For example, if your goal is to walk for 20 minutes each day with your friend, give your friend $20.  When you show up and complete your walk, your friend gives you your money back. If you don't show up, they keep your money. You'll find that you're highly motivated to walk every day. When you're stretched in many directions, you'll have little time to reach your own goals. Having too many obligations saps your motivation. Say “no” to unnecessary commitments. If you don't take care of yourself, no one else will. Only take on obligations that are essential and say “no” to the rest.  Avoid agreeing to commitments because you feel guilty. If you agree to do something simply to spare another person's feelings, you'll end up feeling resentful and bitter. Make a list of your priorities. Focus on what's important to you and how you want to spend your time. If something falls outside of your priorities, politely decline. Be brief yet firm. You don't need to give someone a lengthy explanation. Be succinct, honest and polite. Simply say, “No, I can't organize the fundraiser this year. Thanks for thinking of me. Good luck with your event.” When you surround yourself with positive and driven people, you're more likely to be motivated and stick to your goals. You'll hold each other accountable. Positivity is infectious. When those around you are optimistic and motivated, your own positivity will grow. Connect with a mentor. For example, maybe you want to go back to school, but no one around you seems to support you. Contact a school and ask to get connected with a student who successfully completed the program. Talk to them about their tips for success.
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