Your goal is to become friends, so you’ll want to find things to laugh about together and discover things that you have in common. Read up on some funny jokes or make up your own and tell her. Laughing is a good way to break the anxiety and awkwardness of first dates.  Start with small talk about the weather or a teacher you have in common. Compliment her on her hair, clothes or smile. Get to know her personal preferences by discussing movie scenes or songs to get an idea of what kind of things she likes and how she feels about romantic encounters.   Keep your face tilted up when you talk to her as this makes you seem more masculine and attractive. You want her to feel comfortable and connected to you—more so than her other guy friends. Sharing emotional and personal information can really create a very strong and lasting connection. Women often use kissing to bond and reinforce that bond.  Some questions or prompts to ask in order to enhance bonding are: Describe a perfect day. What do you feel most grateful for in your life? What is the greatest thing that you have accomplishment in your life? What memory do you treasure the most? What is your worst memory? If your house caught on fire and you only had time to save one item (family and pets are already safe), what would it be?   Show her that you like her by smiling and looking into her eyes.  Let her know how you feel. She may not know that you want to be more than friends, so the best thing you can do to avoid being stuck in the “friend zone” is to tell her you want more. You’ll want to pay special attention to how she reacts to you to decide if/when you should go for the kiss. Positive body language tells you that she likes what you are doing, while negative body language tells you that she dislikes it. Look for combinations of either positive or negative behaviors that let you know how she feels.  Positive body language can be shown when she moves towards you, points her feet toward you, uncrosses her legs, keeps her arms open and palms up, playfully fondles her jewelry or hair, smiles or maintains eye contact.  Negative body language may mean she moves away from you, points her feet away from you, keeps her legs and arms crossed, palms down, hands closed, fidgets, frowns or turns her eyes to the side.  If you are getting a lot of negative body language, then you should probably change your approach or try again at a better time or when she is in a better mood. If she makes a lot of body contact with you, such as touching your hand, rubbing against your knee, gently bumping up against you, tapping you on the shoulder or holding your hand, then she’s probably into you. To get close enough for a kiss, you have to enter her personal space and see how she feels about it. It takes trust or expectation to allow you to get closer, and if she’s ok with it, you know you have a good chance of getting that kiss. Additionally, touch reinforces that you are interested in her and that you enjoy making contact with her.  Be a gentleman. Pull out her chair at a restaurant and push it back in after she sits down. This gives you the opportunity to gently touch her on the shoulder, arm or upper back. Hold her hand. If she doesn’t pull away from you, then you know she likes what you are doing. Adjust her hair. Touching her hair is intimate without being as personal as a kiss and will allow you to see how she feels about you. If she flinches or moves away, then she’s probably not ready or interested in a kiss. If she seems to like it, then you can take the next step toward that first kiss.  Try a kiss on the cheek first. Lean in and give her a peck on the cheek to see whether she offers positive or negative feedback. Then you can decide when it’s time to try a real mouth-to-mouth kiss.
تحدث إليها. تواصل معها على مستوى أعمق. تعلم قراءة لغة الجسد. تواصل معها جسديًا.