Every party in a relationship needs confidence in order to communicate more effectively without resorting to passive-aggressive behavior.   Confidence in the relationship itself: In order to feel secure to communicate your true feelings when you are hurt, offended, or angered, you have to feel  confidence that whatever you do or say, you will be accepted and loved. Building confidence in your relationship is  a process that takes time, and is accomplished by being consistently reliable and there for each other no matter what.  Confidence in his or herself: In order for a person to speak his mind, he has to feel that he has worth and that his ideas and feelings are worth listening to.  The passive-aggressive partner, in particular, needs to work on building his confidence level to make this or any other relationship successful. Check out this helpful wikiHow article for tips on how to build self confidence. This step is crucial for both people in a relationship marked by passive aggression. Many times people who are passive-aggressive do not recognize and rightly identify their own feelings as they feel them, then later reflect on scenarios and realize they were uncomfortable, hurt, etc. Learn how anger, sadness, discomfort, or other feelings register in your own physical body. When you experience an emotional response, take an inventory of your body: does your heart race, do your palms sweat, does your chest feel tight? Do you experience difficulty thinking clearly? Do you have trouble forming words? Later, think back on the situation and try to identify  how you were feeling. Understanding how you felt physically in the moment and attaching those feelings to emotional responses will help you name your feelings in the moment next time. If a relationship has already suffered damage because of past behaviors like passive aggression, the old spoken or unspoken rules for your relationship clearly were not working. It is important to openly communicate new guidelines for behavior so that everyone knows what the expectations are.  Be respectful. Keep mature, sensible ground rules for disagreements, including no slamming doors, no name-calling, no sarcasm, no insults or threats, or whatever else signifies respect to you.  Give each other space. Recognize that some people need a cooling off period after a disagreement before they can discuss the disagreement rationally and come to mutually satisfying solutions. Speak your mind. It is important to not be "passive" and avoid discussing how you feel. At the same time, it can be hard for someone with passive-aggressive tendencies to say what he is feeling.  Instead, come up with strategies to ensure that each party can say what they feel and what they need without worrying about negative consequences. One strategy is to let each person write down how they feel. This can take off some of the pressure of the heat of the moment. It is common for people to gravitate toward passive-aggressive friends or romantic partners because of some psychological desire to help "fix" the person or because the person's pathological behavior feels familiar and safe (for example, if you had passive-aggressive parents growing up, you might seek passive-aggressive partners or friends).  You might be contributing to passive-aggressive treatment from a partner or friend if you cover for him or her, making excuses for bad behavior or broken commitments, and "rescuing" him or her from poor choices.  You might also be enabling the behavior by being a silent victim, not pointing out the behavior and letting him or her get away with mistreating you. This teaches your partner that you will not challenge bad behavior.  You might also be encouraging passive aggression if you punish your partner or friend for speaking their mind. Do you get sulky or angry if your friend says they don't want to hang out? That type of behavior might lead to someone making excuses or breaking commitments for fear of angering you. Similarly, if you refuse to engage in discussions about feelings, your partner is less likely to open up to you and more likely to harbor resentment.
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