You may feel alienated or strange to realize that you enjoy wearing diapers. It’s important to recognize that many other people share your affection for wearing diapers. You are not the only person with these feelings and behaviors. There is nothing "strange" or "abnormal" about you. You may be surprised to learn that communities exist to bring diaper wearers together. It is possible to meet other people that have the same feelings and behaviors as you. You may feel strange or ashamed about wearing a diaper and feel unclear where this feeling originates. Accept the positive feelings you have about wearing diapers and being a diaper lover, such as pleasure, excitement, and satisfaction. If you are overcome with guilt, shame, and fear about wearing a diaper, look at these feelings, too. It may be easier to disregard or ignore these emotions, but move closer to them. Instead of worrying what people may think if they find out, learn to be comfortable with yourself and your feelings first.  Explore the feelings you have about wearing a diaper and acknowledge all of them, both positive and negative. Ask yourself how wearing a diaper contributes to your self-perception and identity. Some negative feelings that may come up are fear of others finding out, or feelings of guilt or shame. You may be experiencing a lot of self-criticism. Especially if you want people to be understanding of you, it’s important that you understand your own motivations and feelings first. One way you can confront and work through these feelings is through journaling. The process of journaling allows you to define and get some distance from your emotions. Taking even just a few minutes each day to write down how you are feeling can bring clarity to your thoughts and feelings. for who you are.  Part of full self-acceptance is choosing to accept the parts of yourself that are difficult to accept. Examine any negative feelings you have regarding wearing diapers and refuse any judgments you have toward yourself for wearing diapers. If you have a difficult time coping with your love of diapers, allow yourself to experience self-compassion.  When dealing with shame, you can say, "I feel ashamed because society looks down on adult diaper wearing, but I don't have to conform to societal expectations" and “I accept myself as I am.” Remind yourself that it’s okay to find pleasure and satisfaction in wearing a diaper. Try treating yourself as you would a dearly loved friend. Show yourself the same care and affection you would show your friend. You may be feeling a lot of guilt and shame about your lifestyle. Guilt is the feeling that something you've done violates a moral code, that something is "wrong." Shame is the feeling of embarrassment, powerlessness and may come from self-disapproval or the disapproval of others. There is no need to feel guilt or shame about being a diaper lover. If you can successfully work through these feelings, you will be better able to accept yourself.  Guilt is supposed to signal a person that he is doing something wrong or harmful — if you feel guilt after eating an entire cake, that's your brain telling you that this behavior is unhealthy and harmful. Or, to put it another way, guilt is the feeling you have done something bad, shame is the feeling you are bad. But experiencing guilt over your identity as a diaper lover is "unhealthy" guilt, because what you are doing is not hurting you or anyone else. If guilt exists to help us learn from our mistakes, what you must learn is how to change your mindset and accept this part of you. One way to heal shame is to accept that you have no control over the feelings and behaviors of others. People have the choice to be open and understanding, judgmental and closed off — and these choices have nothing to do with you. Once you stop taking other's behavior personally, you may begin to feel your shame lessen. You may associate wearing a diaper or deviating from the "norm" as shameful. It may be hard to suppress the urge to wear a diaper, so stop suppressing. Suppressing your emotions and needs can be very damaging. Allow yourself to experience the pleasure of satisfaction you feel from wearing a diaper. If you are concerned about other people discovering your diaper wearing, you can choose to wear diapers in private or while you are alone. who share your interests and feelings.  There are communities of diaper lovers and adult babies, and many exist on the internet.  If you seek understanding and companionship with other diaper lovers, join a community that shares the same values.  If you’ve previously felt misunderstood or if you feel the weight of carrying the secret of being a diaper lover, being a part of a community of diaper lovers can be a huge relief to help you realize that you are not alone. Not all people who wear diapers want to belong to a community.  It’s up to you to decide if you want to engage with other people who also wear diapers.
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