Identify when your boyfriend’s behavior started to upset you. Consider how your actions may have impacted the situation.  Does the shift in his mood coincide with a stressful week at school or work or has he been acting strange for months? His inattention may not be a reflection of his feelings for you, but his emotional response to a stressful or upsetting situation. Are you placing unreasonable expectations on your boyfriend? Do you flood his inbox with texts? Are you constantly checking up on him? Or, have you remained patient, calm, and trusting? Are you the only one putting any effort into the relationship? Ask yourself why you desire to ignore your boyfriend. Are you fighting? Is he failing to communicate with you? Consider why his actions, or lack of actions, are upsetting you. Are you the only one putting any effort into the relationship? Remember, you are allowed to feel upset, hurt, angry, or neglected.  Keep track of your thoughts in a journal. Talk through your feelings with someone you trust. Talk about your feelings over coffee with your best friend. Have a conversation with your boyfriend about your feelings and concerns. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. Allow him to respond. Don’t cut him off or interrupt him. If he remains emotionally evasive or brushes of your concerns, end the conversation and take action.  Take responsibility for your feelings. Use "I" statements, such as "I feel ignored," "I am concerned about our relationship," "I feel hurt when you choose to hang out with your friends instead of spending time with me." Avoid "you" statements, which place the blame completely on the other person. Examples of "you" statements include "you are ignoring me," "You don't seem to care about our relationship," and "you never want to see me."
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