Before you can avoid making the same mistakes or repeating the same behaviors, you will have to identify the behaviors you want to change.  Examine your life for any behaviors that you want to work on.  Try finding the habits and old behaviors that you think are the most important to work on first. Don't take on too much at once.  Focus on a select few issues that you feel deserve the most attention. Examine what situations or events might be causing you to make the same mistakes or engage in the same unwanted behaviors.  There are reasons behind the behavior you want to change.  Once you find those reasons, you will be able to both change your response to that situation as well as avoid it in the future.  You might find that stress causes you crave a cigarette or an unhealthy snack. If you are nervous in social settings, you might find that it causes you to drink when you otherwise would not. When your goal is to stop repeating a certain behavior, you will need to replace that old behavior with a new one.  Without implementing a new behavior, you are more likely to return to your original unwanted one.  For example, you might replace eating potato chips with a celery snack or doing ten push ups. If you find that you get angry easily, try making it your new habit to take deep breaths before you let anger get the best of you. After you have thought about which behaviors you want to end and what you will replace them with, it can be useful to write them down.  This will serve as a reminder of what you want to accomplish that you can check anytime. Try putting your written goals in a place you can see them often and with ease.  For example, keep them posted at your work place or set a reminder on your phone. Changing old habits can be difficult and take time.  Being successful will take dedication as you work to replace your old habits with new ones that you have selected.  Stick with your plan, stay positive, and meet your goals.  Changing a habit can take anywhere from 15 to 254 days depending on motivation, replacement behavior, and amount of repetition.  Remind yourself of your goals and the benefits that these changes will bring to stay motivated. As you work towards you goals, replacing old behaviors with new ones, don't let any setbacks discourage you.  Setbacks can happen; however, they don't mean that you have failed or that it's time to quit.  Learn from these setbacks and keep working towards your goal. Setbacks can be positive, informing you of any conditions or events that push you back into your old habits.
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