While you may want to run and hide when you see your ex unexpectedly,  it's important to be cool and calm.  Avoid thinking about all the negative and emotionally-difficult times that you had together.  Focus on being positive.  Avoid trying to hide or pretend that your ex doesn't see you.  If you both made eye contact, then your ex has seen you. If  your ex hasn't spotted you yet, it's okay to duck into a fitting room or turn around to avoid them. Consider taking a minute if you can to calm yourself.  Take a deep breath, and picture in your mind a place that is relaxing, soothing, and calm. Consider acknowledging the possible awkwardness of the situation when meeting your ex.  It may help to lighten the mood.  It's okay to say, "Well, this is awkward," or "Fancy meeting you here." If you see your ex from across the room or a few aisles over at a store, you may just want to avoid conversation.  Many people feel the same way.  Decide if just a smile and nod might be best.  If you're feeling very anxious and flustered, and your ex hasn't made their way over to you, you may feel more comfortable with staying at a distance. Consider a smile and a nod, or a brief wave to say hello.  This may be all you want to do.  Then you can just simply move on with your day. If conversation seems unavoidable, then consider the next steps to stay calm and confident. Don't force physical affection, such as hugging or kissing on the cheek.  Also a formal handshake may be too business-like.  If your ex wants to hug briefly, then do so if you feel comfortable.  If they don't, then give a polite nod or wave to say hello instead.  Keep your body language relaxed.  Don't send mixed signals by being overly friendly.  This is not a time to flirt with your ex if the meeting is out of nowhere and unexpected. Smile and be polite.  Act like you are open to conversation. But if the conversation drags on and becomes too awkward, then consider ways to end the conversation. Consider saying, "It was good to run into you.  Nice to chat with you.  I'm sorry but I need to get going.  I hope you have a good rest of the day." Whether things are going well in your life or not, running into your ex unexpectedly isn't the time to talk about how wonderful or how bad things are.  Be mindful that, if you haven't seen your ex in a while, they may have moved on and changed things about their life.  Show your confident and polite self in this moment.  If you've started a new relationship, avoid talking about it with your ex, except for saying, "I'm seeing someone now."   Avoid trying to tell all the details of your relationship. Remember that if you're running into your ex unexpectedly, then you likely had limited contact with them recently.  After a break-up, try to view your ex as a friend from your past that you've grown apart from.  Avoid focusing only on the negative at the moment you see your ex. If you still have feelings for your ex, try imagining that they are someone else.  Turn your thoughts to someone neutral. Whether you're doing well or not, a run-in with your ex shouldn't be about who's better than who.  It is simply an encounter with someone you know.  Avoid getting flustered and talking about yourself too much.  If you've succeeded in something at work or school, avoid being full of yourself.  It's okay to talk about what you're up to, but avoid trying to see this as an opportunity to make your ex feel guilty or worthless. Don't make the conversation about stirring up resentment, jealousy, or drama. If you run into your ex and their new partner, it can be particularly awkward.  Avoid being overly fake in your conversation.  Remain calm and natural.  Take the high road and be polite.  This moment will likely be briefer and less painful if you stay strong. Be willing to say hello and shake the hand of your ex's new partner.  Consider saying, "It's nice to meet you." But you don't need to say much more. If you act over-the-top and too sweet, or take the other extreme and avoid eye contact and act like the person isn't there, this may come off as disingenuous and rude.  Act like you would when meeting anyone new. There is a chance your ex's new partner might say something unexpected or rude. This is unlikely, but just make sure you're prepared to remain composed and have a quick reply to end the conversation quickly. Even just "I'm running really late to meet someone, so I have to go. Nice meeting you!"
حافظي على هدوئك وثباتك عند رؤية حبيبك السابق. حدد إذا كنت ستقول شيئًا أو تكتفي بالابتسام والمُضي في طريقك. تصرف بمودة ولكن بدرجة لائقة دون مبالغة. تحلّي بالثقة في النفس. تجنبي التباهي بنفسك للظهور أكثر سعادة. تصرّف بصورة طبيعية إذا كانت حبيبتك السابقة مع شخصٍ آخر.