Whether you're the older sibling or the younger one, you may find it frustrating to spend a lot of time with your brother when he's exhibiting annoying behavior. If your parents have you watch your brother a lot or make you bring him with you when you go out, talk to them about spending more time alone or with your friends independent of your brother.  A growing sense of independence and individuality is one of the biggest reasons siblings end up fighting when they spend time together. Let your parents know that you value the time you and your family spend together, but that you need more time by yourself or with your friends. Remind your parents that you and your brother can still be close while spending more time apart. If anything, it will make the time you do spend together be of greater quality. Depending on your age and your family's living situation, your parents may frequently ask you to watch your brother. If this is the case, you may find it difficult to have your own space and time alone. Talk to your parents about finding alternatives or working out a compromise.  Suggest hiring a babysitter. If your parents are resistant to the idea, you could at least ask for some type of extra allowance or compensation for babysitting. You might try suggesting that you could continue to babysit your brother once or twice each week if you get to have the weekends to yourself without your brother. It's best to have this conversation without your brother present, as he may have hurt feelings or voice objection. Younger children often have a hard time understanding why someone older might have more responsibility or freedom. If you have friends or a significant other over, it's important to set boundaries with your brother. Your visitors shouldn't be subjected to your brother's annoying behavior, especially if he tries to direct that behavior at your friends.  Tell your brother to stop. If he won't listen, try getting your parents involved. Try inviting friends over when you know your brother won't be home or will be busy with his friends. If your brother won't stop and your parents won't intervene, putting a lock on your door might be the only way to enforce your right to privacy when friends are visiting. Ask your parents before you install any locks, or they may get upset or suspicious. Sharing a room can be a great bonding experience if you and your brother get along reasonably well. If you don't get along or if you simply need your own space, ask your parents about rearranging your home to accommodate your needs. There may be an extra room being used as a craft room or home office, for example, that could be an extra bedroom.You could also use it as a playroom.   Depending on your living situation, having your room may simply not be an option. You may have limitations on space that would make it impossible for you and your brother to have your rooms. If your family is limited by space, you may be able to rearrange a room to allow for you to have your own space. Talk to your parents about converting a home office into a bedroom, or perhaps part of the basement or attic. When you talk to your parents and make your request, frame the petition as an issue of privacy. It's much easier for a parent to make arrangements if it ensures privacy, rather than simply to solve a short-term dispute. You might say something like, "Mom and Dad, I know we don't have a ton of extra space. But I'm getting older, and I'd like it if we could try to find a way for me to have my room so I can have more privacy." If your parents are planning on moving, let them know that you would appreciate it if having separate rooms were a factor in choosing your new home.
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