Some people think that self-love is selfish, and that feeling good about yourself is arrogant. If the person you’re helping is guilty about self-love, emphasize that there's nothing wrong with having a positive self-image.  Explain that healthy self-love involves recognizing their strengths, accepting their weaknesses, being proud of their achievements. Distinguish healthy self-love from boasting about accomplishments to make others feel bad, which is probably a sign of low self-esteem. Mention that taking care of themselves is part of self-love. For example, taking time off from work to avoid burnout isn’t selfish. It’s a necessary part of maintaining physical and mental health. Remind them that self-love is not the same as selfishness. Instead, describe it as being “self-full.” This means loving and caring for themselves, which ultimately will make it easier for them be there for others. Have them write down their talents, their positive personality traits, and the hobbies they enjoy. Examples might include gardening, having a great sense of humor, or being good at a sport.  If they have trouble coming up with positive traits, let them know what you admire about them. Say, “You have so many great qualities! You’re a hard worker, you’re great at tennis, and you’re always eager to help your family and friends.” Encourage them to focus on their positive qualities, but try not to be bossy or give your loved one unsolicited advice. Tell the person you’re helping that there are external and internal sources of self-esteem. External sources are based on the opinions of other people, and they’re more superficial than internal sources.  Tell them, “Your self-worth should come from within, not from other people. Instead of wanting to get good grades so other people think you’re smart, study hard to reach your personal goals or because you value knowledge.” Say, “It’s fine to feel good when someone compliments you, but don’t let other people’s opinions define you. Suppose someone makes fun of you for taking piano lessons. You enjoy playing piano and you value music, so their approval shouldn’t make a difference.” Everyone has different abilities, qualities, and passions, so tell your loved one to accept their strengths and weaknesses. Tell them that they shouldn’t feel bad about themselves because of someone else’s talents or traits.  Say, “Being jealous of someone or getting mad at yourself won’t do you any good. Be happy for someone who possesses a talent you admire. Don’t get down on yourself if you don’t share that ability. Instead, remind yourself of your own strengths.” Encourage them to work on things within their control, like getting into better shape or improving their time management skills. However, if they want to be a top gymnast but can’t do a cartwheel, tell them they must accept that they can’t be good at everything. Spending too much time on social media can lead to unhealthy comparisons. If necessary, advise them to limit their screen time. In addition to teaching your loved one to develop a positive mindset, suggest that they help others whenever possible. Helping loved ones and doing charitable work are concrete ways of chipping away at low self-esteem.  For instance, they could help their friend or relative study or lend a hand with household projects. They could also volunteer for their favorite cause, such as for animal shelter, soup kitchen, or youth mentorship program. Tell them, “It’s harder to hold onto negative thoughts about yourself when you’re helping someone. It’s tough to convince yourself that you’re no good when you made someone’s day better.”
इस बात पर ज़ोर दें, कि उन्हें खुद से प्यार करने के लिए गिल्टी फील करने की जरूरत नहीं है: उनसे बोलें, कि वो अपनी पॉज़िटिव क्वालिटीज़ की एक लिस्ट बना लें: उसे समझाएँ, कि सेल्फ-एस्टीम किसी और के ओपिनियन पर डिपेंड नहीं होनी चाहिए: उन्हें याद दिलाएँ, कि उन्हें खुद को कभी किसी से कंपेयर नहीं करना चाहिए: उन्हें दूसरों की मदद करने और उनके द्वारा सराहे जाने वाले किसी मकसद को वॉलंटियर करने के लिए प्रेरित करें: