Every person has his own ideas about how the world should work, and many times, those ideas are in conflict. Whether or not you’re acting from an educated knowledge base, your values will still shape your viewpoint. Others are in a similar position, so accept that they may not agree with you.  The next time you engage in a debate, remember that the other person may also have a valid opinion. Focus on sharing your perspective without trying to change people’s mind. Remember that most situations are complicated and can't be judged on what is "right" and "wrong" -- there are many shades of gray. Set aside gossip and negative information that you hear about a person, culture, etc. Challenge assumptions before making a decision about a particular person or group. Don’t let yourself be swayed by falsehoods.  Keep in mind that people have their own motives for sharing gossip or negative opinions. For example, a person may talk bad about someone because of jealousy, or they may share concerns about a foreign concept out of fear. Think about times that you’ve had gossip spread about you. Would you want people judging you based on this? While it’s true that people often dress in a way that expresses who they are, that doesn’t mean that their appearance can tell you all you need to know about a person. Similarly, there are people of all different types within different lifestyles.  For example, don’t assume that someone who has a lot of tattoos and piercings can’t also hold a professional job. The next time you go out, study yourself in the mirror. What would people think of you based on your appearance on this one day? How would they be right or wrong? Labels don’t tell the whole story about a person. In fact, they limit your perspective on them. Try to see each person as an individual. Learn to see past a person's appearance or the people they hang out with, and focus on getting that person's individual story before you jump to conclusions. For example, don’t refer to people as Goths, Nerds, Jocks, etc. Let people tell you who they are, rather than assuming that you already know. You are only seeing a small side of each person you meet, and if they perceive you as being judgemental, that will be a very small slice. Let your perceptions about a person change as you get to know them better.  Accept people on their own terms. Would it be fair for the person to judge you based on talking to you for five minutes? How much could the person really learn about you in such a short amount of time? Sometimes people are going to rub you the wrong way, but don’t assume the worst about them. Chances are, you’ve also had days when you didn’t put your best foot forward. Give other people the benefit of the doubt and keep negative thoughts at bay. For example, the person may have been having a bad day when you met. Similarly, shy people may at first seem distant or stuck-up. Gossiping spreads ill will and makes people form judgments about one another without knowing the real story. Plus, if you develop a reputation as a gossip, people will like coming to you for juicy tidbits about other people, but they won't really be able to trust you. The next time you open your mouth to say something negative about someone, flip it around and say something positive. Instead of saying, "Did you hear that Annie hooked up with Jason last night?" say, "Did you know that Annie is an amazing artist? You should see one of her paintings sometime!" Think about how much better you'll feel about spreading goodwill.
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