You will go through the process much more easily if you do not try to fight or hold in what you're feeling. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. There is no time-frame in which grief ends. Try to open yourself up to the anger, sadness, confusion, or abandonment feelings that come over you. As time passes, you should begin to heal and feel better. Some grandchildren may take a grandmother's death harder due to the duration and closeness of the relationship, the cause of death, or how other family members are reacting. Adults should be sure to demonstrate authentic grief and let any children or adolescents know that it's okay to cry or be sad. Take some time for yourself to understand your thoughts about your grandmother's death. Write them down in a journal if you feel like that helps. Remember the good memories you had and the impact she had on your life. Ask others to share stories about the long, full life she had. This should bring you comfort knowing that her time on earth was filled with family, love, and interesting experiences. Attending the memorial service is a terrific way to get closure from your grandmother's death, and offer support to other family members.  If you are a minor, it will be up to your parents and your age as to whether you are allowed to attend the funeral or memorial service. If you have a desire to attend, express your opinion to your parents. Then, they can explain to you what will happen at the service and determine if you will feel comfortable attending. They should know that attending the memorial can help you get closure and celebrate your grandma's life. It can be helpful to process your feelings about your grandmother's death while making a memory box or book. Choose some of your favorite memories in the form of photos and mementos that you shared with your grandmother. Ideas for what to include in your box are endless--try using recipes, favorite song lyrics, or collecting short stories about her life to put inside. Decorate your box/book to your liking. If you are younger person who was not allowed to attend the memorial service, this can be a creative activity that brings you closure. However, even if you did attend the memorial service, it could still be helpful to connect with your memories and talk it over with someone while doing this creative activity. Ask questions to come to an understanding of your grandmother's death. You might get closure by learning that, after a long illness, your grandmother is no longer in pain. Depending on your age, your ability to understand death will vary.  Really young kids, around age 5 or 6, often think in literal terms, so saying "Grandma went to sleep" might make them worry that the same will happen to them when they sleep. Parents should reassure kids that they were not responsible for the death because some kids fear a death happened because of something they did. For example, the child might think Grandma died because he didn't visit her often enough. Older children and adolescents above the age of 9 can often understand the finality of death and that everyone eventually dies.
اشعر بعواطفك. فكّر فيما تعلمته من معرفتك بها. احضر حفل التأبين. اصنع صندوق أو كتاب ذكريات. افهم الموت.