Though you may not think there's anything objectionable about breaking up the person you like and their significant other so both of you will be happier, the world may not see it that way. Also, mature and intelligent couples can see your motives clearly and easily, especially if you have exhibited any jealousy towards one of the partners, claim to be a close friend, or are an ex.  If this is your goal, make sure you're completely certain it's the right thing. Are you willing to sacrifice your dignity? If the breakup is caused by an outside force (you), and not a natural problem in the relationship, the couple may still harbor feelings for each other which might grow stronger over time. If you want to break up the person of your dreams and their significant other, then, like Othello's Iago (but far less devious), you have to get in the middle of the couple, slowly but surely. To do this, you have to get the person you like to trust you and to begin to open up to you. Be understanding, agreeable, and sympathetic, and show that you're a good listener. At first, the person may not open up to you about their relationship, but that time will come. Just one warning: there's a difference between being the confidant of your love interest, and in falling into the Friend Zone with that person. Make sure you don't act too buddy-buddy or friend-like with the person or they won't ever be able to see you as a love interest. If one of the partners finds out, you are sure to fail. This does not work 99 percent of the time. Every relationship has flaws, and the chances of a couple past honeymoon stage and dating for a few years breaking up is low. The worst thing you can do is openly criticize the person's relationship, criticize the person's partner, or generally make the person feel like they are in a doomed relationship. This will make the person feel angry, defensive, and more determined than ever to make things work. No one wants to admit to a failure, especially not in a relationship, so you have to wait for the person to naturally admit a problem on their own.  You can start by just letting the person talk about the relationship. Ask innocent questions. For example, if you know that her band was playing at a local venue the night before but that her boyfriend didn't show up, innocently ask if he liked her show. Ask questions about how the person's night went. If they seem kind of upset, just say, "How was your weekend?" and wait for them to reveal the rest. Ask, "How did that make you feel?" Keep it broad with general questions that encourage the person to keep talking -- and to start seeing the cracks in their relationship. Unfortunately, you may be trying to break up a couple that is in a great relationship, which would make it difficult for the person to reveal anything negative. But if you've made yourself the person's confidant, it's less likely that the relationship is in great shape. Once the person does start revealing the flaws with their relationships and all of the problems with their partner, the worst thing you can do is to completely agree or to say, "You deserve so much better than that." This will make the person see that you have ulterior motives. Instead, act a bit withdrawn or confused, forcing the person to talk for longer and explain why they are really unhappy -- and why their partner isn't perfect.  If the person has to explain their frustration further and you keep them talking, then they will notice the problems even more. Just keep the person talking any time something negative comes up. Questioning their thoughts will make the person explore them even further. Not criticizing their relationship will also make things better down the line. If you do end up together, no one can tell them that you sabotaged the previous relationship. When you ever openly criticize one of the partners,  especially if your plan has failed, it proves you were trying to screw up the relationship.
على الرغم من أنك قد لا ترى في فكرة إبعاد من تحبها / من تحبينه عن حبيبته/ها والتسبب في إنهاء علاقتهما العاطفية بحيث تجد لنفسك مساحة للإقتراب منها أي أمر كريه أو مرفوض، ومن ثم يصبح الجميع سعداء، إلا أن العالم لا يرى ذلك بنفس الطريقة. تقرب ممن تحب. اترك لها مساحة للحديث عن عيوب علاقتها العاطفية. محامي الشيطان.