Making the guy feel heard and understood will make him feel more connected to you. This can make him see you as a better fit for him than his girlfriend. When he's talking to you, nod along and say encouraging things like “wow” or “uh huh” to let him know you're listening. Additionally, paraphrase what he says so he knows you understood. Ask him open ended questions to get him talking. You might ask, “What did you do this weekend?” or “What shows are you watching right now?” Everyone has flaws, but you typically don't notice them when you're into someone. Help him recognize everything that's wrong with his current girlfriend by mentioning her flaws whenever he talks about her. Make casual comments about what you don't like about her, then brush it off like you don't care about her.  Say, “She always seems to be upset about something, but maybe that's just how she talks,” or “Her hair would look so cute if she took care of it, but I guess it's not important to her.” Only talk about his girlfriend when he brings her up. While you want him to recognize her flaws, being too negative about her may backfire. Additionally, you want him to be thinking about you, not her. Most couples have disagreements, and both partners are typically to blame. However, making him think that she's solely to blame might make him want to break up with her. Whenever he talks about disagreements or issues they're having, find a reason why his girlfriend could be to blame. Then, casually mention that you're sorry she's causing these problems for him.  As an example, let's say he tells you they had a fight because he was late to their last date. You might say, “Wow, it's a shame that she's always trying to make you feel bad about something.” Similarly, let's say she's upset that he's seeing his friends more than her. You might say, “I can't believe she's trying to control you like that.” Their relationship will drift apart if they're not spending time together. Additionally, it may force her to break things off with him, which solves your problem. Invite him to friendly outings with yourself or a group of your friends. Additionally, ask him for help so he'll spend even more time with you.  For example, host a game night with the guy and your friends, invite a group of friends to go bowling or play mini golf, or organize a trip to see the latest blockbuster. If you're still in school, try to partner with him on assignments whenever you can.
كوني مستمعة يقظة حتى يستمتع بالتحدث إليك. أشيري إلى عيوب صديقته لإتلاف رأيه بها. حاولي تحميل صديقته مسؤولية المشاكل التي يواجهونها. احتلي وقته حتى يقضي وقتًا أقل معها.