It’s common for victims of domestic abuse to feel as though they have brought the abuse upon themselves. This is due to the manipulation of their abusers; no one is responsible for bring abuse on themselves. After the abuse has ended, work on building yourself back up from the place that you were in the abusive relationship.  Seek therapy to work on your self-confidence. Rely on friends and family to rebuild your social connections. Seek healthy new relationships that are entirely without abuse. It's critically important that you talk to someone that understands the psychological trauma of abuse and the spells that can be cast by some abusers. Seek out a local domestic violence support group and attend as soon as possible to begin the process of healing. It might take a while for it to come on, but there's likely a hidden well of anger hiding somewhere beneath the other emotions.  Anger isn’t bad; it can be a catalyst for change. If anger overtakes you, let it happen, and channel your rage into productive energy-spending activities. Go running. Hit a heavy bag. Take yoga. Sweat your rage out. Be careful not to translate your anger into risky or self-destructive behaviors, and try to process it safely. Abuse chips away at your defenses until you're left exposed and raw. It can be a long process of building yourself back up into the unique, lovable, interesting person that you are and that you deserve to be.   Let yourself mourn for a time, and then get busy. With any break up, you may want to spend a week in bed, unable to do much but be depressed. That's ok, but it's also important to recognize when it's time to get out of bed and start moving on. Try to avoid focusing too much on ideas about lost time and regret. You took an important step in ending your relationship and moving forward. Just be glad you didn't spend more time with the person, or get locked into a never-ending cycle of abuse. Look forward to the future. Make a list of the people in your life who really care about you. Think about the people who've supported you time in and time out, the people who've loved you, deeply, and lifted you up through your toughest times. Family, life-long friends, trusted neighbors, these are the people who you need to spend time with now. Let yourself lean on them. It may be a while since you've been able to relax, to spend time with your close family members, or been able to do little things without the fear that they'll set off your angry boyfriend into spirals of abuse. It might take some time, but gradually start letting go of that fear and guilt associated with your abuse relationship, and find life fun again.
عاودي عيش حياتك الخاصة. حددي موعدًا مع استشاري العنف المنزلي. اسمحي لنفسك للشعور بالغضب. ركزي انتباهك على بناء نفسك ثانيًة. امضي الوقت مع أحبائك. كوني لطيفة مع نفسك.