There are many psychologists, counselors, and social workers who specialize in gender variance. These experts can help you ask and answer your big questions.  Look for counselors who specialize in gender identity, gender dysphoria, or LGBT concerns. If there is a transgender health clinic in your area, contact them to see if they have any available therapists. If you live in the USA, you can use the American Psychologist Association locator to find a psychologist who specializes in questions of gender identity: http://locator.apa.org/  In the UK, consider contacting the Beaumont Society for a reference: http://www.beaumontsociety.org.uk/  You can also ask your doctor for a recommendation, or visit a counselor at your school if you are in high school or college. Get in touch with people who have transitioned, or people who are questioning their gender. Some places you might look include LGBTQ meet up groups, community centers, and events. If you are in school, consider visiting any student groups such as an LGBTQ group or a Gay Straight Alliance. You don't have to come out right away; just say you are an ally, or explain that you are questioning but you aren't comfortable talking about it just yet.  Not everyone you meet will want to talk about their gender! Some people may feel exposed if you ask them personal questions. You can mention your own questions, and if they ask you questions you can ask in return. If you're not sure, write them or find a private moment to ask. You might say, "I've been thinking a lot about my own gender identity, and you are someone who might know about some of the questions I am having. If you ever have the time and energy, I would love to talk to you about this. Please feel free to say no." A great way to connect with other gender variant and questioning people is to look online. Consider joining a group on social media, or an anonymous forum. When you interact with people online, make sure to conceal your personal information.  Check out a general LGBTQ forum like: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/  If you are 13-24 years old, you can join TrevorSpace for a safe, monitored forum: https://www.trevorspace.org/login  You can also look into organizations like PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) and GLAAD to find resources and support for yourself and your family.
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