Look for Allah's love in your spouse's words, deeds, and appearance. Appreciate the work your spouse does to remain close to Allah, and everything they do to bring you closer to Allah as well.  Remind your husband to stick to practices that brings him closer to Allah. Ask your husband to remind you about the natural world, hygiene, exercise and other practices that help you feel in step with your faith. Study Islam together with your husband and try to implement what you learn in your marriage. Avoid unnecessary gender interaction and never chit-chat with unrelated men. Prayer is an vital part of every Muslims daily routine of worship. Make dua for the health of your relationship. Ask Allah for guidance when you are experiencing difficulties with your spouse. Ask Allah for ideas on how to please your husband, and think about these questions actively when you are not in prayer.  Remember that Allah loves to be asked for help and guidance, so always pray when you approach an important decision in your life. Allah will hear your prayer and will answer it in the way that is best for you, even though this may sometimes seem to involve hardship. When you encounter your spouse, say "As-salaamu 'alaikum." Greet one another in this way to share your faith and celebrate your shared identity. The Qur'an emphasizes the importance of compassion, respect, and equity in marriages. Being a dutiful and obedient wife does not mean that you must suffer abuse. The Qur'an and Sunnah set out very clear limits on how the husband must treat his wife. If you are being badly treated, suffering emotional, verbal, sexual, or physical abuse, you can divorce your partner. The Qur'an states that Allah dislikes divorce, but allows for it in the name of justice: "If a woman fears ill-treatment (mushuz) or indifference (i'radh) from her husband, it is not wrong if (at her initiative) the two set things peacefully to right between themselves… If the two break up, Allah provides everyone out of His abundance, for Allah is resourceful, wise." (4:128-130)  Whilst the Muslim wife is normally required to obey her husband, this requirement is suspended in the case of a husband who is behaving in a way that opposes the will of Allah.  4:34 is not an excuse for violence.
اتقي الله في زوجك. صلّي. ألقي تحية السلام على زوجك. احمي نفسك.