When it comes to dealing with a mean teacher, the first thing you need to do is to get the facts straight. Talk to your child about what the teacher did and why the teacher is really mean. Make sure your child has specific examples instead of just saying the teacher is generally mean; if your child doesn’t have many examples, ask them to go to school and try to write some down to show you what mean things the teacher did. This will give you a better sense of the situation.  Sit your child down and have a frank conversation about the teacher. Make sure the child takes the time to tell you as much as they can in as much detail as possible instead of just making passing comments. If your child is crying or very upset when talking about the teacher, help them calm down so you can get more concrete information. Of course, it can be challenging to see if your child is really experiencing unfairness because you love them so much and can’t stand the idea of anyone being mean to them. However, you have to make sure that what your child is telling you is an indication that the teacher is really out of line and that this behavior needs to be stopped. If your child is being sensitive and has made a similar complaint about many teachers before, then you have to think carefully before taking action. Of course, your first instinct should be to trust and protect your child, but you need to think about how your child’s behavior may be impacting your teacher. Consider the possibility that both your child and the teacher may be at fault. Another thing you can do is to talk to the other parents of the children in your school to see if they’ve heard similar complaints from their kids. If they’ve heard similar comments, then this will help you see that the situation needs to be stopped. Of course, just because they haven’t heard anything doesn’t mean that the teacher isn’t really acting inappropriately, but it’s good to cover your bases.  You don’t need to pry too much, but it won’t hurt to casually mention that your child has been running into some trouble with their teacher, and to see if their children have made similar comments. Strength in numbers is important. If there are more parents who are angry about the teacher, it’s more likely that some action can be taken. If your child is really being hurt by your teacher or is just telling you that they're mean, then it may be time to set up a meeting with the teacher to see for yourself. Either the teacher will prove your child right and will be mean and dismissive in person, or the teacher may cover up their meanness and will pretend that everything is fine; additionally, you may find that the teacher isn’t as mean as you expected, and you will have to decide what to do next.  Take the time to really get a sense of who the teacher is and what they may be frustrated about. If your teacher is mean or demeaning when talking about your child, or just generally seems to dislike their students, then you may have a problem. Trust your gut. If the teacher seems nice, do you think they're faking it, or does it feel genuine? If you’re convinced, after talking to the teacher or your child, that further action really needs to be taken, then it’s time to take the matter to the school principal or other administrators. You don’t want your child to be in a learning environment that is very discouraging and keeps them from being excited about learning and coming to school. Set up an appointment with the administrators at your earliest convenience and plan exactly what you’re going to say.  Use the concrete details your child has given you to show that the behavior is inappropriate. You can’t just say that the teacher is mean, but you can point to several things the teacher said that were out of line. If other parents are with you on this, then having them also make appointments with the administrators, or even setting up a group meeting, can have an even larger impact. Unfortunately, your complaints with administrators may not be enough to move the needle. At that point, you can decide what, if any, further action needs to be taken. You may see if you can place your child in a different class or even if it’s worth it to switch schools. Or alternately, if you think these drastic steps aren’t worth it, then you may need to have a conversation with your child about getting through the year and not letting the mean teacher shake their confidence. If you decide not to take further action, you can talk to your child about how this is a life lesson. Unfortunately, in life, we sometimes have to deal with people we really don’t like. Learning how to cooperate with them and not letting them get to you is an important skill that can help us get through life. This may not feel like the most comforting answer, but this may be the best you can do.
اطلب من طفلك أن يشرح لك ما فعله المعلم. تأكد من أن المعلم قد تخطى حدوده. تحدث للأهالي الآخرين لتعرف ما إن تكررت لديهم نفس الشكوى. التق بالمعلم وجهًا لوجه لتحكم بنفسك. انقل الأمر للمدير أو غيره من المشرفين إذا كان ثمة مشكلة. قرر ما إن كنت ترغب في اتخاذ إجراء أقوى أم لا.