Narcissists often make comments that are meant to get a rise out of you, but don’t take the bait. Respond calmly to what a narcissist says to you, and if you find yourself getting upset, stop and take a deep breath or go for a walk to calm yourself before you engage with them. It’s perfectly fine to walk away from the person if they’re being abusive towards you. If the person is criticizing you, blaming you, calling you names, threatening you, or doing something else that is upsetting you, you have every right to walk away. to the person carefully and attentively when they talk. Narcissistic people like to be the center of attention, so they often talk a lot. Be prepared to be on the receiving end of most conversations and show them that you're actively listening to them. Some things you can do to show that you’re listening include:  Smiling and nodding while maintaining eye contact. Saying things like, “Yes,” “I see,” and “Mmhmm,” to encourage them to keep talking. Asking questions to clarify if something they say is unclear, such as “What did you mean when you said you had a bad day?” Narcissists love to talk about themselves and share what they know, so asking a narcissist about something that they find interesting is a good way to distract them from their anger. This may be especially useful if they’ve been arguing with you or verbally attacking you. For example, if the person knows a lot about cars, you might ask them a question about cars. Or, if they consider themselves knowledgeable about money, you could ask them for financial advice. for their feelings to soothe them. While narcissists are not usually capable of empathy for other people, showing a narcissist empathy can help to calm them down if they’re feeling upset. Try saying something to them to indicate your concern for them and your empathy for how they must feel.  For example, you might say something like, “You must have felt very upset to have to wait so long for a ride home.” Or, you might engage them with something like, “It seems like you’re pretty angry right now. What’s bothering you?” A key feature of a narcissistic personality is that they feel superior to other people. As a result, they gravitate towards people who feed this image of themselves, but doing so will only make matters worse. Avoid giving the person what they want if they fish for compliments or brag about themselves. Ignore their comments or change the subject.  For example, if the person is going on and on about what a great salesman they are, try saying something like, “Yeah. Oh, by the way, do you have any ideas about what you want to do this weekend?” If you do want to give the person a sincere compliment when you think they deserve it, that’s fine. Just avoid complimenting them all the time or this will inflate their sense of self even more. to express yourself. Occasionally, you will have a dispute with the narcissist in your life. That individual will likely be offended if you bluntly criticize him or her, but that doesn't mean you need to back down completely. When you point out what the narcissist has done wrong, simply phrase it as a personal and subjective opinion instead of an accusation.  In general, "I" language reduces defensiveness, aggressiveness, and rage. Narcissists, especially, are known to demonstrate these traits in excess, so mastering "I" language will give you significant leverage. For example, say "I feel hurt by your actions" instead of saying "You just did something really cruel and careless." If something conflicts with their view of themselves, a narcissistic person will reflexively lie to avoid facing it. This means that you may not get accurate information from them 100% of the time. If you have any doubts about what the person is saying, look into it for yourself. Don’t take everything they say as the truth. For example, if the person relays a story about something that happened at work and it makes them out to be the hero, get someone else’s perspective on the matter.
حافظي على هدوئك وتجنبي التأثر بمحاولاته لمُضايقتِك. استمعي شتتي انتباهه بالتحدث عن موضوعٍ يثير اهتمامه. أظهرِي المُشاركة الوجدانية لا تنخرطي في تحفيز غروره. اعتمدي على التحدث بضمير المُتكلم "أنا"وتجنبي نبرة الاتهام. تحققي من إدعاءات الشخص النرجسي لأنه بطبيعته يميل للكذب.