If you are getting to a point where you notice that he lies to you about seeing other girls, isn’t straight with you about his true feelings for you, or keeps making excuses for why he is busy, don’t continue to act like you believe him. You should stop the game, and have a talk with him. Make a plan to talk to him, and think about what you want to say before the situation arises. For example, if you think he will probably end up canceling a date with you at the last moment, think about your response in advance. Then when he calls and makes the excuse that “Something came up” respond to him by simply saying “Okay, we need to talk soon.”  Sometimes guys who are players are attracted to girls who don’t put up with their games. Be prepared for this, and if he seems more interested in you than before, don’t give into his manipulation. You don’t want to be with someone who likes you just because you call him out on his lies. Your response shouldn’t turn into a guilt trip or a fight. Don’t try to make him feel guilty because you won’t be able to change him by calling him out or fighting. Remember that the only person you can control is yourself. If you are pretty sure that you will crumble if you argue with him, think about how you can distance yourself from him indirectly and quietly. The most important thing is to get out of the situation as soon as possible It is tempting to call out the guy you like when you feel like your emotions are being played with. But if you are dealing with a guy who has been lying to you about his intentions already, you shouldn’t ask him about his intentions because he will most likely lie to you about how he feels again when put on the spot. Instead, you should tell him where you are with the relationship and why you want to leave.  For example, you could say something like, “I’ve noticed that I am more into this relationship than you are, and I want to stop seeing each other because I realize I need more.” Depending on how close you were, you can tell him you want out of the relationship over the phone, in a text, in an email message, or in person. If you are talking to him in person, find a time and place to talk to him in the middle of the day and when you are both alert and clear headed. Ask him if he has time for a conversation and find a table or chairs in a shared space to talk. Don’t try to talk to him about the relationship after a fight or at the end of the night. An email message can be a good option if you want to clearly explain how you feel, or you don’t think that your relationship was serious enough for an in person break up. If he asks you why you want to stop seeing him, tell him that you don’t feel like he has been honest with you, and you feel like you have different feelings than he does about the relationship. Tell him what you feel, and be specific about what he has done that makes you feel the way you do using “I Statements”.  Avoid saying things like, “You make me feel insecure.” because that is accusing. Instead, be more specific and using your “I statement” you can say something like, “When you didn’t text me back for a couple of days after we hooked up, I felt insecure because it seemed like you only wanted to hang out with me to hook up with me.” Be careful not to try to read his mind. Don’t accuse him of being with other girls if you don’t know that for sure, and don’t accuse him of purposefully neglecting you because you can’t read his mind. Additionally, these kinds of accusations will start fights, and it will be harder for you to make a clean break. Try to be matter of fact in your tone of voice and mature in what you say. Don’t let your conversation devolve into arguing or reminiscing about the good times because this kind of conversation could make you susceptible to falling back into being with him. Once you have said your piece and he has responded to you, you should leave the conversation. If you think that he is a good person in certain ways, or you like the way he was there for you at any point, you can say that, and end the conversation on a positive note. You can say something like “I enjoyed our time together, but I have to go.” Or if you feel hurt by him, you can say, “I feel hurt by the way things turned out in our relationship, and I need to move on.” If you do fall back into hooking up with him again after you have broken up, don’t give up or let that stop you from trying again. It takes a lot of work and courage to end relationships with a guy you have feelings for. Pick yourself up and try again.
لا تتصنعي تصديق ما يقوله. أخبريه أنكِ لا تريدين رؤيته مجددًا. كوني صريحةً ومباشرةً. كوني مستعدةً لإنهاء المحادثة.