Inferiority complexes are rooted in the desire to be just like someone else. They make you want to be someone you're not. If you try to be someone else, you aren't being true to yourself. This doesn't include limiting yourself and trying new things. Just don't try to be someone else. Be you. You can get inspired by people. That means you look up to them and take some of their traits and put them into yourself. But the important difference is you are still you. You aren't trying to copy someone else or be someone else. You are using them as a positive guide while still being true to yourself. Inferiority complexes arise from our constant concern about what others think about us. We oftentimes find problems with ourselves based on if others find us good enough. This isn't healthy thinking. Stop worrying so much about what others think about you. Only your opinion matters.  Sometimes these judgments are real, but many times they are imaginary. Focus on making yourself happy without worrying about what others think. And try not to make up people's judgments. Remind yourself that you have no way of knowing what someone is really thinking or what is really happening in their life. Even if you think someone has it all, they may have the same insecurities as you do. Focus on your strengths and successes, not on what others might think of you. When you feel inferior, you put more emphasis on what you don't have instead of what you do have. Everyone has positive qualities. Take an honest look at yourself and your life. Make a list of good things. It could be something like, "I have a good job with lots of room to grow" or "I have nice teeth." When you're done, think about how many good things you have going for you. It might not make you better than someone else, but you don't have to be better. You just have to be happy being you and be thankful for what you have. Include things from all facets of your life. Maybe you think you're overweight, but you have nice legs, nice feet, or nice hands. Maybe you have a great family, smart children, a good education, drive a nice car, or can crochet well. There are a lot of things that make us up. Try to find the positive things and focus on that. People with inferiority complexes spend too much time comparing themselves to everyone around them. If you do this, you will come up with a never ending list of ways people are better than you. You can't compare yourself to someone else, because everything about your life and circumstances are different - from the family you were born in, to your genetics, to your opportunities. Inferiority complexes make us think that if one thing could change, our lives would be great. We might think, "If only I was 20 pounds smaller, my life would be great" or "If only I had a better job, I'd be happier." If you achieve these things, they will only provide temporary happiness, because deep down you will still be insecure. Material and superficial things, which many inferiority complexes thrive on, won't magically fix the problem. Try to retrain your thinking from "If only...then I'd be happy." It can lead to more disappointment when it doesn't make you happy. Focusing on the strengths, values, and positive assets you possess now is much more fulfilling. Learning to accept these things can help you move towards a happier life. Every day, you reinforce your inferiority complex by speaking negatively about yourself. When you say things like, "He doesn't like me because I'm ugly" or "I won't get this job because I'm not smart enough," you are bringing yourself down and writing more negative, untrue beliefs onto your brain. When you find yourself saying something negative, stop it and say something positive instead.  You don't have to lie to yourself and say, "He will love me because I'm the most beautiful." Instead, speak about yourself in positive, realistic terms. "I am attractive/worthy of someone's affections. I am a kind, generous person who people want to be friends with." Reroute negative self-talk and beliefs by correcting yourself when you do it. For example, if you think, "I'm the fattest girl here," change that thought to, "I look great in this new dress, and everyone is going to see how stylish I am." Don't compare yourself to unrealistic goals. For example, if you start to negative self-talk because you only ran three miles instead of the five you planned, switch it around. Say, "Wow, I've just started running and made it through three miles. That's great progress. I'll keep working until I hit my goal." By noticing and changing your negative self-talk, you can build your confidence and self-esteem. As you work through your inferiority complex, you need to start building self-confidence. Start by fixing your mental image of yourself. Inferiority complexes are based on false ideas about ourselves. Try to remind yourself that this image is false and doesn't portray the reality. Remove labels you have attached to yourself. Don't think of yourself as stupid, ugly, unsuccessful, a failure, or anything else. Refuse to use them when you think about yourself.
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