Honesty is important for any healthy relationship, so don’t be afraid to tell your boyfriend how you feel. Positive and negative feelings are all fair game. Ask him how he’s feeling, especially if he’s looking down.  If you’re upset because he’s been ignoring you at school, let him know. If you’re pumped about the award you just won, tell him. Imagine your boyfriend looks agitated. You could say, “Hey, you look kind of angry. What’s up?” Put down your phone and give him 100% of your attention. Try to understand what your boyfriend is actually trying to tell you. Repeat back what he says in your own words to show you understand. If you’re not sure what he’s trying to say, all you have to do is ask.  You might say, “So, it seems like you’re angry at your mom. Why is that?” Nod and say phrases “yes” or “I see” to show that you’re listening. Talking about tough stuff over the phone might be easier in the moment, but it makes solving problems more difficult. If you need to talk about a fight or confront your boyfriend about something hurtful he said, do it face-to-face. You can send him a text saying, “We need to talk. Can we meet up around three today?” Everyone makes mistakes. If you realize you’ve done something wrong, own up to it. Being stubborn and holding grudges won’t make anyone happy. You could say something like, “I realize that I shouldn't have made fun of you. I’m really sorry.” . You and your boyfriend will probably get in arguments occasionally. Don’t stress—an argument now and then is healthy. However, losing your cool during an argument is not. If you feel yourself getting too angry, stop and take a few deep breaths.  Don’t yell or raise your voice. It could make you both angrier. If you’re getting too angry to have a calm conversation, tell your boyfriend that you need to finish the conversation later when you’ve cooled down.
شاركيه مشاعرك وشجعيه على فعل ذلك أيضًا. كوني مستمعة جيدة. ناقشي الأمور الهامة في لقاء شخصي. اعترفي حين تخطئين. ابقي هادئة خلال الجدالات.