Clearly let them know what you think, how you feel, and what you want. It’s easy to get nervous and ramble or fumble on your words. Prepare for the conversation to ease your nerves and give detailed examples until you are sure your parents understand what you are saying. Don’t exaggerate or lie. It may be difficult to hide your emotions if the topic is highly sensitive. Speak sincerely and make sure that your parents aren’t dismissing anything you say. If you have lied in the past or are regularly dramatic, it may take time for your parents to believe you but be persistent. Anticipate your parents reaction. Have you talked about related issues? If you know that they will react negatively or disagree, let them know that you understand where they are coming from. If you show that you have their feelings in mind, they may be more likely to be open to your perspective. For example, if your parents are concerned with having a cell phone you can say something like, “Mom, dad, I know that you don’t want me to have a cell phone. I understand that they cost a lot of money, are a lot of responsibility, and you don’t think they’re necessary for kids my age. I know you see the other girls in my grade with their own phones and you think that it’s a waste because they just play games or use Instagram. What if I saved up for a phone and we can use a pay-as-you-go plan to make sure I only use my money? You can also check out the games and apps I download because I just want to use it for times like that time my volleyball game ran late or when you’re on the phone with grandma.” Be respectful and mature by using a positive tone. Do not be sarcastic or snarky when you hear things that you don’t agree with. If you speak to your parents as you want to be spoken to, chances are that they will take the conversation seriously. Certain conversations are best had with certain parents. Perhaps you talked to your dad more about school or your mom about dating. Make sure you’re having the right conversation with the right person. Make sure you have your parents full and undivided attention when you talk to them. Avoid public places or when they only have a short time to talk to you. Allow them to be able to digest everything you’re saying and don’t make them feel blind-sided by sneaking in an important conversation at an inappropriate time. Don’t get distracted by trying to think of the next thing that you want to say. Absorb what your parents are saying to you and respond appropriately. It’s easy to dwell on something when you don’t get the response you want immediately. You may even repeat what your parents say to ensure you understood them and to let them know that you’re listening to them carefully. You don’t want to have a one sided conversation so ask questions and elaborate if you feel your message isn’t getting across. Do not interrupt or raise your tone. However, if your parents become upset, say something similar to, “I understand you’re upset. I’m not dismissing how you feel but want to be more constructive. Should we talk later”
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