Many people have “deal breakers,” which are signs that they absolutely cannot date someone, like different views on marriage, personal interests, and much more. Asking your date about their morals, hobbies, and future plans will likely reveal if you’re a compatible match, and bring up any potential problems.  For example, you might ask them, “What do you value most in friendship?” or, “What’s something that’s too serious to be joked about?” If you’re comfortable being more forward, you can ask, “What do you look for in a relationship?” or, “What’s your idea of the perfect partner?” Remember that little things can be important. You can ask them “What do you like to do on the weekends?” or, “Would you rather go camping in the mountains or take a trip to the beach?” to see if your general interests align. It’s difficult to be in a relationship with someone if you aren’t physically attracted to someone. Touching them gently on the arm or hand will let you know if they’re comfortable around you, and will show you how it feels to be close to them. If you don’t have any urge to touch them at all, you might be better suited as friends.  If you touch them and they seem uncomfortable, it’s a good sign that they aren’t ready for a relationship. Listen to your gut feelings and intuition when it comes to physical attraction. If you don’t have the urge to touch them or be close to them, it’s a good sign that you don’t really like them. There are many physically attractive people in the world, but it’s unique to find someone whose opinion is important to you, beyond physical compatibility. If their kindness or intelligence is the first thing that comes to mind when you think about them, that’s a great sign that you like them for who they are. It’s okay to find someone physically attractive as long as you’re also interested in their personality and mind. If the only thing you can think about is their body, you might just be having feelings of lust, which will fade after a while.
احكم على مدى التوافق في القيم والاهتمامات والرغبات. اختبر الشعور المتبادل عندما يحدث تقارب جسدي. فكري في مدى انجذابك لشخصيته وإعجابك بآرائه وأفكاره.