You may be sabotaging yourself with negative thoughts and not even realize it. Begin by simply becoming aware of negative thoughts, and how they may be affecting you. Some common forms of negative thinking include:  Filtering, or minimizing positive aspects while magnifying the negative. Polarizing, or seeing things as only good or bad with no middle-ground. Catastrophizing, or only imagining the worst-case scenario. With a little practice, you can learn to transform your thoughts. Start by following one simple rule: Don’t say anything about yourself that you wouldn’t say about a friend. Be gentle with yourself. Encourage yourself the way you would encourage a close friend. It is a misconception that some people are naturally positive, while others are inherently negative. In reality, optimism takes practice. Try to intentionally see the silver lining. Instead of thinking, “I’ve never done this before,” tell yourself, “This is an opportunity to learn something new.” ” We all have that inner voice that tends to critique or question us. This voice may tell us that we are not good enough, not talented enough, or not worthy of someone’s love. These thoughts are meant to protect you from failure or heartbreak, but in truth, they do nothing but hold you back. When your inner critic speaks up, ask yourself these questions.  Are these thoughts really true? Is it possible that these thoughts are not true? Can I admit that they might not be true? Can I imagine the possibility that really I am good enough, talented enough, and worth of love? If guilt, pain, or regret over past circumstances are bringing you down, you can work to release those emotions.  Make the active choice to let something go. Write it down and/or speak it out loud. Express your pain and/or take responsibility. If there is something you need to say to someone, say it, even if what you need to say is “I’m sorry.” Forgive yourself and others. Try to remember that everyone makes mistakes. Nobody is perfect, and everyone deserves another chance (even you).
عين التفكير السلبي. ركِّز على التفكير الإيجابي. تمرن على التفائل. ابذل مجهودًا لتسكّت "ناقدك الداخلي. لا تعش في الماضي.