If you're a quiet and reserved individual, you may not be comfortable carrying on a personal conversation in the middle of a mall or school cafeteria. Many people with introverted tendencies find it easier and less stressful to carry on conversations in a quiet, more relaxed atmosphere. If at all possible, you may want to seek out a comfortable place to have a conversation before it begins.  Loud, chaotic environments are usually not very conducive to thoughtful and reflective conversations. The noise will most likely force both of you to speak louder and more directly, which may in itself be intimidating for some people.  Some people find that an uncomfortably warm environment is also disruptive to reflective thinking.  Understand where you're most comfortable, and try to arrange conversations in or around similar environments as much as possible. Quiet, reserved people tend to be good listeners. That's because people with these personality traits tend to think and process information before speaking. People often seek introverted personality types when they need someone to help with a problem or give advice.  Listen carefully to everything the other person is saying.  Decide when to respond and what to say. Keep your responses concise and to a minimum.  Think before you give any response at all.  If you need some time to gather your thoughts before you respond, say something like, "Hmm. I have something to say on the matter, but let me have a moment to think this through." Questions are a great way for a quiet/reserved individual to get to know others. Asking questions lets you converse with another person without feeling pressured to talk endlessly about idle things, which many quiet/reserved people find intimidating or uninteresting.  The best questions to ask are open-ended questions. Don't set up simple yes/no questions. Instead, listen closely to the things the other person says, and ask probing questions that show both an interest in the story and an honest desire to get to know the person better.  Instead of asking yes/no questions like, "Did you like growing up in Florida?" ask open-ended questions that require discussion, such as, "What was it like growing up in Florida? What were your favorite/least-favorite things about living there?" Remember that there is no shame in being quiet and reserved. In fact, in some countries, being quiet is seen as a desirable trait! And when you speak less and listen more, you avoid inadvertently insulting someone through miscommunication. Plus, when you do meet people you enjoy communicating with, it will make your interactions that much more meaningful.
جِد بيئة مريحة بالنسبة لك. مارس مهاراتك في الاستماع. اسأل الكثير من الأسئلة. كن نفسك.