No one is perfect, and you've never noticed their little quirks before, so why would they pay so much attention to yours? If you wouldn't think or say such things about a best friend, why do you think or say them about yourself? Try to be a good friend to yourself, too. Some ways to be your own best friend include the following:  Even if you don't feel it at first, at least act like there's no need to worry. In time, it'll also feel that way too. Your greatest strength lies in between stimuli and your response to it, so try to take control.   Always picture yourself like you know you look and feel good in front of others, but don't think about it too much because it will already be embedded. Catch yourself putting yourself down or comparing yourself to others. Don't scold yourself; simply notice it and tell yourself it's time to stop and find more constructive ways of thinking about yourself instead. It is an effective way to push yourself. When you feel that doing something will make you feel confident and excited, but can't do it because of anxiety or self-consciousness, then at the same time, challenge yourself. For example, say to yourself "I dare you to put yourself in an awkward situation." Another example would be, "Go to that girl/guy and talk to him/her, even if it doesn't make any sense." Remember, don't curse or beat yourself even if you fail the challenge, in fact give yourself a reward for even trying. Yep, that's right––not in a self-deprecating sort of way, but in a humble and witty way to acknowledge that you're not perfect and you don't care. After you drop a jar of peanut butter in front of someone you fancy and watch in horror as it shatters into pieces and splatters peanut butter chunks on the floor, burst out laughing at your inherent clumsiness, cracking a joke that you should be required to wear double-sided tape on your hands––and then apologize and help clean it up. Don't care about the triggers for self-consciousness too much. If you feel self-consciousness arising within you, tell yourself that it will be okay. Note the feelings as if you're observing them rather than experiencing them and let them wash over and through you without staying. Be like the famous people, leaders or friends you admire; those people who make a mistake but get up again and keep on going without carrying the burden of others' expectations or criticisms with them.  A word about criticism: Learn to discern between the useful, constructive things that caring people say and the hateful, destructive things that uncaring, jealous or simply spiteful people say. Learn from the former and let the latter simply drop; you don't need haters in your life, so don't take their meanness on board. Practice comebacks against criticism. For mean-spirited criticism, keep some stock-standard responses in your head for maneuvering out of the situation without letting yourself down or causing the other person pain. That way, you won't be put on the spot or left gasping for a witticism that won't come during your shock at their audacity. Think as kindly as you can and say something simple like: "I am surprised you feel the need to say that. It's not okay with me to be spoken to that way." "I need you to know that's not okay with me to be criticized so harshly. I did my best and I do not accept your interpretation.
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