Even when the right person comes along, it can be hard to allow yourself to fall in love because of your past experiences. While love is great in many ways, it can sometimes lead to pain, which can make the idea of a new relationship scary. Try to let go of your past pain and resentment by forgiving your ex and/or trying to reflect back on the positive results of those hard situations.  For example, you may have dated someone who loved playing soccer so you started playing with them and now it’s a sport you love, are good at, and enjoy playing. Try keeping a journal to record your thoughts about this and work towards a healthier mindset. Vulnerability is a scary thing, especially when you’ve been hurt before. When the time is right, try to let yourself feel happy and excited to talk to and spend time with the special someone in your life. Try telling this person one private thing about yourself a week at first in order to strengthen the bond. Over time, slowly work your way towards feeling love and being fully open and honest with the person. For one reason or another, many people resist falling in love. If you really care for someone in your life but you’re struggling to commit to loving them, your own thought processes are likely to blame. Every time a thought like “Don’t trust them; you can’t trust anyone,” or “They don’t love me; they’re just going to hurt me,” pops into your head, dismiss the thought by saying something like, “That’s just the fear talking,” or “This isn’t my past relationship,” to yourself.
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