Choose a time when both of you can talk in private without distractions. Wait until the end of the day rather than doing it first thing in the morning before she has to face a full day of school or work. If possible, do it on a Friday so that both of you have the weekend to deal with your feelings privately.Do not pick a holiday or otherwise important day. Breaking up in person can be really hard, but again, you definitely owe it to her. Where you do it can be virtually anywhere — a room, a park, or a schoolyard, so long as there's not much to distract you while you break the news.  If you are unsure of how she’ll react, schedule the meeting in a more public place, like a coffee shop. Never break up over text, email, or over the phone. These methods can reflect poorly on you, and your soon-to-be ex will probably let every girl know what you did. Try to Skype if you're long distance. It's not easy, but ripping the band-aid off quickly will be less painful for both parties than dragging your feet in the mud. If you can, go right out and say it:  Example: "I hate to do this because you've meant so much to me, but I think we should break up."  Example: "I'm really struggling with this right now. I apologize if this doesn't come out in a good way, but I think we should call things quits."  Example: "Maybe this won't come as a huge surprise to you, but I think it's best if we called things off between us." Draw on the reasons you came for why you want to break up, leaning on them. Give her a full explanation, but don't list every single part of the relationship that was bad — it could cause her to become defensive. Example: "I know it's not what you wanted to hear, and if I could change the way I feel, I would. The truth is, I don't know if we're really compatible. I don't get along with your friends, you don't get along with mine. You hate sports, I live for them. I tried to ignore our differences in the beginning, but I can't anymore. I honestly think you and I both would be happier with someone else." If your girlfriend cheated on you, manipulated you, or disrespected you, there may not be anything you need to take responsibility or apologize for. On the other hand, relationships are usually two-way streets: her actions are affected by your actions, which means you might bear some responsibility for what went wrong in the relationship. Own up to it if you feel you should:  Example: "I know I deserve some of the blame. I shouldn't have let you disrespect me or my friends; I could have told you it bothered me, and maybe you would have changed. But it's become such a problem now that I don't think we can change it anymore."  Example: "Part of it is my fault. I pushed you away when you really needed someone, and I guess you could say that I pushed you right into his arms. I understand why you did it, but I can't forgive you right now. Hopefully sometime in the future I'll be able to." Breakup speeches can go wrong in so many different ways. The key is to stay calm, put yourself in the other person's shoes, and try not to "win" the argument. She'll probably counter with some other facts; she may even call you names. (You probably would, too, right?) Think about what she has to say, don't lose your temper, and try your best not to make her feel bad. If you're genuinely sad that you're breaking up, and you think it might comfort her, show some gentle affection. Ask her if you can give her a hug; put an arm on her shoulder; look into her eyes and offer her a heartfelt smile. These gestures can go a long way toward reassuring her in a tough time. She might have questions; answer them truthfully. She might have a different side of the story she wants to tell; listen to her. Let her get things off her chest.  If you notice the argument going in circles, tell her gently: "I know this is hard, but I feel we're just going around in circles. Can I give you some time to think about it?"  Offer her the opportunity to discuss things at a later time. Say something like: "I know this is a lot to process at once. Maybe you want to meet up to talk about it a bit later?" " There isn't a breakup "protocol," but there are definitely things that you shouldn't do when breaking up with anyone, no matter who they are to you. They include:  Don't lead her on. If you don't think it's a good idea to stay friends after a breakup, say so. It's better than giving her false hope. Don't be a tattletale. What happens between you and her is no one else's business. It's okay to tell your good friends, but don't go telling everyone every detail of the breakup. Don't get with someone else before you break up. That is called cheating. Have a little bit of patience and wait until you've broken up if you're in love with someone else. Don't use the breakup as an excuse to treat them badly. Whatever they might have done to you, it's not worth trying to make their life hell. Have respect and treat them the way that you'd want to be treated. It'll make the breakup easier on both of you.
बहुत ध्यान देकर, दिन का वक़्त चुनें: उसे किसी, शांत, सबसे दूर और डिसट्रेक्शन से अलग जगह पर मिलें: अपनी दिल की बात कहना शुरू करें: उसे सच्ची सफाई दें: अगर मुमकिन हो, तो अपनी गलतियों की ज़िम्मेदारी भी लें: शांत और आश्वस्त रहें: उससे बात करें, लेकिन अपनी इस बातचीत को छोटा ही रखें: उन बातों की लिस्ट को भी फॉलो करें, जो आपको "नहीं करना चाहिए":