These are two of the biggest rules of flirting. Flirt with your eyes and don't forget to smile. We communicate so much with our eyes and our lips, and they're some of our most flattering features. Use them to your advantage!  Look into your crushes eyes a little more than is comfortable. It's hard to do, but it sends the signal that your crush is irresistible — something everyone wants to feel like. Make eye contact when you talk with your crush. Learn to hold your crush's eyes with yours when you talk. If you do this the right way, it won't hardly matter what you say, because your crush will be mesmerized by your gaze. Smile from a distance and up close. Smiling from a distance is inviting: it says, "Come closer, I won't bite." When your crush is up close, smiling says, "Stay a little longer, you make me happy." A great smile can be the difference between a successful flirt and one that fails. Conversation starters are just ways to get the conversation going. They're usually very basic, and you don't have to put too much thought into them:  "That dress looks great on you. Did you make it yourself?" "Did you hear what [mutual friend] did over the weekend? I heard he set a Guinness World Record...." "You seem like a math whiz. Can you help me do this algebraic equation?" Introduce yourself if you haven't already. You can do this after your conversation starter (it's pretty casual, and very cool), or you can use the introduction as the conversation starter: "Hi, I'm Georgia, I don't think we've met before." Remember to smile and hold their eyes as you introduce yourself! Always try to figure out their interest level: if they seem bored or not very talkative, you may want to wind down the conversation and try another time. Keep the following in mind as you continue to talk to your crush:  Find common ground. Relate to the other person with your own personal experiences, and share similarities. If you both love surfing, talk about Hawaiian waves or surf competitions you've been to. Exploring common ground will help you feel connected to your crush, and make your crush feel connected to you. Avoid sticky subjects, like politics or religion, unless your crush invites the conversation. Politics and religion are hard to talk about because they involve strong emotional reactions. They can divide as much as they connect, so stay away from talking about them if possible. Hug, touch him or her on the shoulder, or give a flirty smile instead of just saying a simple goodbye.  In general, women can get away with touching much earlier in a conversation than men can. Many women feel a little threatened when a man they just met enters their personal space, while most men are more open to being touched. In any case, proceed with caution, and back off if you get negative or mixed signals from the person. Learn to touch the safe areas. These areas include the hand, the arm, the shoulder, or the back. When you're talking to your crush, touch their shoulder briefly to make a point. Or do the same with their hand. If they're interested, it'll send a shiver up their spine. Get a little bolder as you grow more comfortable. Hold the person's hand when you cross the street, or if walking to a seat or a table, lead them by gently holding their arm. Brush up against them softly when you're walking together, or accidentally bump into the other person to get their attention. We went over complimenting in Part Two, but here are some reminders of what to do when you're complimenting:  Never compliment overly sexual traits. It's really easy to go too far and turn the other person off. Only compliment the following physical attributes:  Eyes Smile Lips Hair Clothing   Reinforce how they want to be viewed. If they fancy themselves an athlete, compliment how sporty they are. Don't compliment them too much. The more you compliment them, the less each one of your compliments mean. Keep your eyes focused on the other person and your smile bright. These traits will make your already-great compliments go even further! Be casual with your compliments. Try to make the compliment flow naturally into the conversation if you can. Be bold! If you're feeling adventurous — and you should, because fortune favors the bold — try something funny and bold at the same time: "I'm sure you get this all the time, but you're absolutely the most beautiful person I've seen...in the last three minutes." Flirty conversation can last quite a while, but usually it's over within a matter of minutes. And that's a good thing! You want to flirt with the other person while the window of opportunity is there, and then leave them wanting more, so they come back and you have a chance to flirt with them again, and again, and again....  After 5-10 minutes, find an excuse to leave. "Oh, I was going to help my friend with some homework" works fine. Try to end the conversation on a high note. Don't obsessively talk to the person every single day. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, they say. Keep the other person guessing. Be mysterious. Don't be an open book. Let the other person work a little for you, too. Now that you've successfully flirted with your crush, make them flirt back with you! It doesn't have to be a game, but make them work a little for your heart. People like a little bit of a challenge. It doesn't matter if you're a guy or a girl — it's perfectly fine for girls can ask guys out on the first date, as long as the guy sets up the second date.  Ask them what they're up to a week or so in advance: "Hey are you busy this coming Saturday? I have a couple tickets to that movie that just came out." Choose a public place and an exciting date. A public place will make your crush feel comfortable, and an exciting activity will help both of you bond together as you enjoy it. If you're really feeling confident, just go out and say it: "You and I work well together. How about a date later this weekend? Dinner and a movie?" You don't have to call it a date if you don't want to. Just ask the other person to join you in what you're doing. If your crush asks you whether it's a date, then you can say it is.
انظر في عينيها وابتسم. افتتح الحديث بجمل ملائمة. تأكد أنها تعرفك. احرص على أن تظل المحادثة خفيفةً وسلسةً. إن تقربت منها بقدر كافٍ، فحاول أن تلمسها. لا تنسَ أن تمدحها. تعلم متى تنهي المحادثة. إن كنت مستعدًا للخطوة التالية فاطلب مواعدتها.