Should you need to call someone for help, you need to have phone numbers written down (so you can use someone else’s phone if necessary). Your safe people shouldn’t be the first people that your abuser would think of you going to.  Also include numbers for the police, hospital, and local shelter.  Keep your list hidden or disguise it as something else if you fear that finding it would provoke your abuser to violence. If you have children, be sure they have access to a list of phone numbers to call or take to a neighbor or friend in the event of an emergency (in addition to calling 911). You can decide on an use a “safety word” or a code word to use with children, neighbors, friends, or coworkers to indicate that you are in distress and need help.   If you do this, the person to whom you communicate the code word should have a specific plan to respond, such as calling the police immediately. If you are living in an abusive situation, you should make a plan for dealing with violent episodes.  Know the areas of your house that are safest for you to run to (do not go to a small room with no escapes or a room with objects that can easily be used as weapons). Part of your emergency plan should be an escape plan.  You should try to leave your vehicle full of gas and easily accessible.  If possible, hide an extra car key somewhere you know you can get to it on your way out.  Practice quickly leaving your house and getting into the car, and if you have children, have them practice with you. If you have time, it's good to plan ahead by opening a separate bank account or credit card in your name only, and preferably a PO Box to receive correspondence that doesn't need to go through your abuser. Start channeling your own money into that account and save some so that you'll be able to get started without having to worry about money at first. This could be difficult if your abuser practices financial abuse.  Do not allow a low account balance or a lack of any emergency funds to keep you in an abusive situation.  A shelter, family, and friends may offer financial help to get you back on your feet. To make sure you're able to leave at a moment's notice, pack up an overnight bag and hide it somewhere safe, where your abuser can't find it.  You might decide to keep it at someone else’s house to prevent your abuser’s finding it. Keep it light and easy to carry, so that you can grab it and leave if you need to. In it, keep:  Any prescription medications Legal identification and copies of important paperwork Clothing Some toiletries You should talk to a shelter, a helpline, or a lawyer about whether it would be best to take your children with you when you leave.  If they are in danger, you should do everything you can to get them out of danger.  If they are not in danger, it may be safer for you to leave alone to begin with.
احتفظي بقائمة للأشخاص الآمنين الذي يمكنك الاتصال بهم. اتفقي معهم على كلمة سر. عليك بوضع خطة للطوارئ. افتحي حساب بنكي منفصل وأجمعي به بعض الأموال. حضري حقيبة لمبيت ليلة. خططي لأطفالك.