Most people do not respond well to rejection and tend to immediately personalize it. This can lead to catastrophic thinking. For example, "I did not get this job, therefore I will never get a job." Try avoiding such thought patterns in the immediate aftermath of rejection.  A single rejection, even several rejections, is not an adequate reflection of your entire self or your worth. If a person or organization rejected you, it has no bearing on what happens in the future. You can still find acceptance somewhere else.  People often take rejection as an opportunity to become self-critical. For example, "This person does not want to date me, and therefore I'm un-dateable," or, "This publishing house did not like my book, therefore I'm a bad writer." While it can be healthy and productive to examine the things you could have done better, understand that it's hard to be objective about yourself in the immediate aftermath of being rejected. Remind yourself that many other people have faced rejection. Think about a recently married friend who went through a series of bad breakups before finding a good match. Consider how many famous authors, such as J.K. Rowling, were continually rejected before finding the right publishing house. Try to see rejection as a sign of progress. Every bad experience leads you closer to success. Rejection is all about perspective. Your personal reaction dictates how meaningful the experience will be. See rejection as an opportunity to learn and grow rather than a setback. When you've calmed down, consider if you could have done something differently. Did you prepare enough for that job interview? Did you spend enough time on the story before sending it out? While action on your part might not necessarily be why you were rejected, you can still gain insight through the self-examination that rejection forces you to undergo.  If everything always worked out in your favor, you'd have little opportunity to grow and change. Rejection gives you a chance to reflect on yourself and your situation and pushes you to work harder. Those who don't face rejection suffer from a lack of personal development.  In examining the situation without blaming or judging yourself, you have the opportunity to examine and learn about all the factors that went into the situation, even the ones you can't control. It gives you the chance to learn more about the outside factors that influence situations, and to prepare psychologically and emotionally for those influences in the future. For example, if you went through two rounds of interviews for a job and the company went with someone else, you can acknowledge the fact that there are many factors outside of your control in this situation, and perhaps they felt that one of the other candidates was a better fit for the job. While working on your own skills is always a great idea, rejection becomes easier to cope with if you get into the habit of acknowledging there are countless outside factors you can't control. Taking all the blame onto yourself is not a realistic point of view. Widening your vision to accept all the other influences helps you avoid blaming yourself, which is not a healthy way to cope with rejection. The vast majority of the time, a rejection is not a reflection of you. Many qualified, talented, and attractive people are turned down for reasons that have nothing to do with them personally. Sometimes someone simply isn't attracted to you, or they have personal issues that prevent them from starting a relationship. Sometimes a story or poem you wrote really isn't right for a particular publication. Sometimes there were too many candidates applying for a single job. Chances are, if you get rejected, it's not a direct reflection of your talent or worth.
حاول ألا تضخّم الأمر. تعامل مع الرفض كفرصة للنمو. افهم أن الرفض لا يمثلك كشخص.