Before you ever approach your coworker about going on a date, you should ensure that he or she is actually single. This can save you both a lot of time and embarrassment, and it can help keep your working relationship unaffected.  If you're friends with your coworker, you can check his or her social media for hints of a significant other. Some social media platforms like Facebook have a designated profile line for relationship statuses. You can also browse through some of your coworker's recent photos to see if there are any pictures of your coworker holding hands or cuddling with someone else, which might indicate a relationship. If you have a trusted friend in the workplace, you can ask him or her about the coworker you're interested in. Ask your friend to be discreet, and just say something like, "I was thinking about asking _______ out on a date; do you know if he/she is single?" If none of these options are available to you, you could always ask your coworker himself or herself. Just tread lightly, and try to bring it up in conversation. For example, you might say something like, "That sounds like a fun plan for this weekend. Are you going with your boyfriend (or girlfriend) or friends, or just by yourself?" If your coworker is single, he or she might say something like, "No, I'm not seeing anyone. I'm just going by myself. If you know your coworker is single and you've decided to ask him or her out, you should make sure you look your best and feel confident that day. Do something that morning that will either help you relax or get you psyched up, depending on your personality. You should also make sure you feel confident by dressing for success."  Wear your most flattering outfit. Just make sure that outfit is appropriate for the workplace. Consider getting a haircut a few days before you decide to ask your coworker out. That way you'll look freshly-groomed and you'll make a good impression. Make sure you shower, and wear deodorant and clean clothes that day. Spend a little extra time grooming yourself so that your hair, facial hair (if you have any), and makeup (if you wear it) are perfect. Check your mouth in the mirror to make sure you don't have any food stuck between your teeth. Rinse with mouthwash or chew a mint shortly before you approach your coworker so that your breath is fresh and minty. Where and how you ask your coworker out are very important factors to consider. Even if your coworker is interested in you, he or she may have doubts or insecurities about approaching you, and so asking your coworker out in the wrong place, time, or context could create tension or even animosity.  Approach your coworker when he or she is alone. If others are around, your coworker might feel uncomfortable or pressured into saying yes or no. Choose a comfortable space where you and your coworker will both feel safe. Don't ask your coworker out right outside the bathroom, for example, or in your office (if you have one), as these locations can be intimidating or even downright improper for asking someone out. A good place to ask might be a neutral work space, like by the copy machine in an office or when you're both behind the counter if you work in a restaurant. Make sure your coworker isn't rushing off to do something important, as you'll want his or her full attention for a moment when you ask. As you chat with your coworker, it's important that you act like you normally would. If you're nervous, your coworker will notice it. And if you try to put on a fake persona, your coworker will definitely be aware of it and will most likely be turned off by it. Just remain calm and be respectful of your coworker at all times. The hardest part is actually asking your coworker out on a date. It can be very intimidating, but remember that you ultimately don't have much to lose. The worst that could happen is your coworker may politely turn you down, in which case you'll just smile and politely excuse yourself.  Be polite and warm when you ask. Don't come across as pushy or needy, and don't act disinterested. Make small talk for a few moments first, so it doesn't seem like you're rushing up to ask him/her out. Ask your coworker how he or she is doing, how his/her weekend was, or how his/her day is going. Transition smoothly into asking your coworker out. You might say something like, "Well hey, I really enjoyed talking to you. I'd like to chat more over coffee, if you're free this weekend?" If your coworker says yes, then say, "Great! When would be a good time?" If your coworker says no, be polite and cordial, but don't linger or make it awkward. If you've asked your coworker out and he or she is not interested, you'll need to leave it at that. Repeatedly asking a coworker out on a date who's already told you that he or she isn't interested in dating you could be considered a hostile work environment, which may end up getting you fired. Remember: if your coworker isn't interested in you, there are plenty of other people out there who would love to date you.  Pestering your coworker if he/she isn't interested is not worth the time, effort, or the possibility of losing your job.  If your coworker says no, be as polite and respectful as possible. Say something to defuse any tension, such as, "No problem. Well, I hope you have a good weekend." Excuse yourself and walk away. Lingering could make things awkward for both of you. Be polite and courteous to that coworker going forward, but make sure you never flirt with him/her or display any romantic interest now that you know he or she isn't interested.
تأكد أولًا من كون زميلة عملك غير مرتبطة. تأنق وكن في أفضل أحوالك المزاجية في ذلك اليوم. تقرب لزميلة العمل في مكان مناسب ومريح. كن على سجيتك. ادعُ زميلتك لموعد غرامي. تعلم متى تتوقف.