Your values are basic standards you hold dear that influence your decisions, behaviors, and attitudes. These are beliefs or principles that you will stand for or fight for: family, equality, justice, peace, gratitude, dependability, fairness, financial stability, integrity, etc. If you don't know your core values, you can't verify whether you are making choices that align with them. You can discover your core values by:  Thinking of two people you admire. What traits do you admire in these people? Thinking of a time when you felt really proud. What happened? Did you help someone? Achieve a goal? Stand up for your rights or those of someone else? Thinking about what issues you are most passionate about in your community or the world. These may include, but are not limited to government, the environment, education, feminism, crime, etc. Considering what three items you would save if your house were on fire (assuming all the living beings were already safe). Why would you save these three things? As F. Scott Fitzgerald famously puts it, "I hope you live a life you're proud of. If you find you're not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again." If you were to pass away today, do you think you have left behind the legacy you hoped for? When we're children we often have lofty dreams for ourselves. As we get older, and more influenced by society, we alter those dreams. Go back to a time when you had an undeniable dream to do something, a dream you shut out because it wasn't the right time or your money wasn't sufficient. Write down how you would spend your day if you didn't have to consider your financial status. How would you live your life? We often miss out on amazing opportunities or don't take chances because we worry that we will fall flat on our faces. Self-doubt can define your whole life, if you don't work to overcome it. Sadly, it can also strongly impact the amount of "what if's" you have as you age. Here are a few ways to overcome your fear of failure, if you think it's holding you back from being the person you want to be:  Know that failure is necessary. When we make mistakes, we are able to evaluate our actions and refine our methods. We grow and learn through failure. Visualize success. One way to brush off a fear of failure is to constantly imagine yourself accomplishing your goals. Stay persistent. Keep moving towards your goals despite setbacks. It is often that we achieve our wildest dreams right when we were about to give up. Don't let small failures cause you to lose sight of the bigger goal. Once you have asked these other questions of yourself, reach out to a few people dear to you and ask them who they think you are. Their assessment can be a list of characteristics or an example of a specific moment that, in their opinion, summarized you as a person.  After you have asked the opinions of several relatives or friends, ponder their answers. How did others describe you? Were you surprised by their assessments? Were you upset? Do these interpretations fit with the person you want to be or how you view yourself? If you value the opinions of these people, then you can ask yourself what you need to do to create more harmony with how they view you and how you view yourself. Maybe you have a skewed view of yourself and need to reevaluate your actions.
افحص أعماقك لتعلم قيمك الأساسية. تساءل ما إن كنت تعيش الحياة التي تفخر بها أم لا. اسأل نفسك ما الذي تحب فعله إن لم يكن المال هو المشكلة. حدد كيف ستكون حياتك إن لم تكن تهاب الفشل. أطلب من الأخرين تفسيرات عنك كشخص.