If you want to have a knockout conversation with the girl, then you have to start strong. When you see the girl you want to talk to, whether it's a girl you've been crushing on for a while or a cute girl you just spotted at a party, you should let her notice you for a few minutes. Let her see you have fun with your friends and not paying too much attention to her. Then, when you lock eyes, stride over to her with confidence. Keep your head up high and look straight ahead.  If you don't know her, then introduce yourself. Just say, "Hey, I'm Brian. What's your name?" This is simple but effective. If you do know the girl, just say, "Hi, How are you?" or "What have you been up to?" You don't have to be too elaborate here -- you just want to walk up to her like it's no big deal. Fake it until you make it -- even if you're terrified of talking to girls, just pretend like it's no big deal. There's no need to prepare an elaborate joke or a pick-up line or to do a backflip to get the girl's attention. Just say something that will make the girl want to talk to you more, and to get to know you a bit. This is not the time to discuss your grandmother's funeral or to talk about your goals for the future. Just talk to her about something you saw on TV, about something your dog did, or about something cool that you did over the weekend. Don't put too much pressure on yourself and start with a light opening line. Try something like this:  "Man, my weekend was crazy. I had to help my dad build an addition to the house and I can barely move my arms. How about you? Did you do something more exciting with your time?" "Look at this scratch on my hand. My cat is nuts when he's hungry. How about you -- do you have any pets?" "Can you believe how hard that math test was? I'm pretty sure I got every question wrong. How about you?" As you start talking to the girl, you should get a sense of what she wants from you. Every girl is different. If she's more shy, then she'll need you to draw her out, ask more questions, and to do more of the talking. But if she's really chatty and outgoing, then you should let her speak and not worry so much about impressing her, and avoid interrupting her as well. Once you know the kind of girl she is, then you can adjust your conversation accordingly.  Don't worry if she's shy. She may be one of those girls who is only shy at first, but who quickly opens up once you make her comfortable. Though it's important to be yourself, you should stick to safe topics when you first talk to the girl, before you know whether she has a sick sense of humor or if she's easily offended by inappropriate jokes or comments. The more you talk to her, the more you'll know what you can and can't say around her. Even if the girl is outgoing, you shouldn't let her do all of the talking. Let her know that you can hang with her. There's nothing small about small talk. If you're talking to a girl, you can't start off with your deepest, most important desires, or she'll want to run away. Small talk is an art, and you can master it just by mentioning mundane topics that lead you to a more intimate, exciting conversation. You have to start small to end big, so don't be afraid to mention the most basic things, even the weather or your upcoming chemistry test. Here are some examples of how you can make small talk turn to a more deep topic:  "Can you believe how much it rained this weekend? I was supposed to go biking with my dad, but we ended up staying in the house all weekend. Did you do anything fun in the rain, or were you cooped up too?" "I meant to study for tomorrow's chem test last night, but my little sister was sick with a cold and I had to help my mom take care of her. How about you -- do you have any siblings?" "I saw Avengers Endgame last night. I thought it was okay, but not my favorite. What's your favorite movie?" After you've talked to the girl for a little while, you can let her know you're interested without coming on too strong or scaring her off. You can even joke around with her a bit, and compliment her by teasing her. Just one compliment will do for now -- you don't want her to feel like you're stalking her or obsessing over how great she is. Here are some ways to do it:  "I like the color of your shirt. It really matches your eyes. Did you do that on purpose?" "You have a great laugh. You should use it more often." "You're the only girl I've ever met who knows more about baseball than I do. How did that happen?"
التزم بالأسلوب الهادئ. ابدأ الحديث بموضوع سطحي. استشعر شخصية الفتاة. ابدأ بمحادثة قصيرة. امدحها بطريقة عابرة.