Part of being poised is maintaining your composure in difficult or irritating situations. Instead of reacting automatically in a negative way such as storming out of the room or yelling at someone, maintain your poise by stopping and take a breath or removing yourself from the situation in an elegant way (i.e. excusing yourself to go to the restroom). If you are alone, you can try a deep breathing exercise to calm yourself down. Breathe in through your nose deeply and out through your mouth slowly. Focus on your breathing and your experience of it. Your body should begin to relax and once you feel calm you can stop the breathing exercise. Being mindful of what you are reacting to is an important component of keeping your composure. If you observe what is happening, you can begin to change how you react to the situation and be more poised.  Ask yourself, “What am I reacting to? What am I thinking and feeling about this situation? Is this something that is a pattern from my past? Am I upset about this situation or does it remind me of something else that happened and struck a chord with me?” Look at the bigger picture. Observe the situation from afar as if you were in a helicopter viewing it from the sky. What is the bigger picture? Will this situation matter in 1 month, 6 months, or a year? You may find that you react to situations that do not affect your life in the long-term. Having a plan on how to deal with difficult emotions is one surefire way to maintain your composure in difficult situations. Identify ways to cope with difficult emotions that work for you. For example, if you notice that you tend to get angry when people do not agree with you on a topic, you may develop specific coping mechanisms for dealing with this situation. This might include taking deep breaths, counting to ten, or reminding yourself that others can have different opinions and it doesn't mean that they think you are dumb or don't like you.
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