It’s easy to misunderstand being outspoken for being rude and opinionated. To learn the fine art of being outspoken, pick a friend who knows you and cares about you. Practice speaking your mind honestly and with boldness. A trusted friend can help you practice being outspoken until it feels more natural by giving you feedback.  Being outspoken might sound like this, “I love astronomy and I think we can learn a lot from studying the night sky”. Being rude or opinionated would sound like this, “Anyone who cannot appreciate the night sky is an idiot”. It can be easy to be intimidated if you are worried about what other people will think or say about you.  However, you have to let that go.  By expressing yourself well when you have researched and formed a clear opinion about something, you can feel more confident about what you’re saying and worry less about the judgment of others. You can be outspoken, still have tact, and be sensitive to others' feelings.  Knowing when to be outspoken, as well as knowing what you wish to say, can often be a matter of tact. If you are an avid atheist, a church memorial service for a recently deceased family member is probably not the best place to express your opinion that people who die simply die and don’t go anywhere.  Keeping your opinion to yourself in that context is far more tactful. It is a shame to allow a good argument to be undermined by improper expression.  Many people will focus so much on how things are said that they miss what is being said; you can avoid that problem by doing your best to be well-spoken.  Think about how other well-spoken people, such as news anchors, tend to speak and arrange their thoughts, and try to emulate them.  Sometimes part of being well-spoken is not just speaking in large words.  It can be just as effective to be short and to-the-point as long as you are presenting thorough information. For example, saying, "The tuna industry is an abomination. Anyone who eats tuna is being injurious to the ecosystem," is insufficient. Instead, back up what you’re saying:  "The tuna industry is completely unsustainable. It'll be off the shelves in 10 years if we don't stop. Humans are completely messing up the circle of life." Along with picking your battles, you should be able to assess when to let the battle end. When you've said your piece, let your words and ideas speak for themselves. No need to beat a dead horse! Take cues from your peers, too. If someone is starting to get offended, exasperated, or is displaying any other negative emotion, back off. You can revisit the point later if need be. Any personality trait is learned. Once you start being outspoken on a regular basis, the reaction will become automatic. Hearing yourself talk won't faze you. Seeing others react to your opinion won't be scary. It's just a natural part of human socialization. Aim to state your opinion once a day, to start. Slowly work your way up to every time you find yourself thinking something pertinent and not saying it. If you go too far, it'll be easier to draw yourself back. And if anyone asks why the change of heart, be honest! You're working on being outspoken. That's all.
تمرن على التفاعل مع الآخرين مع صديق تثق به. حاول التخلي عن مخاوفك. تحلَّ باللباقة. كن متحدثًا ماهرًا. اعرف متى تدع الأمر. تمرن على التحدث.