" Soulmate often implies that two people were made for one another and can exist in perfect harmony. However, all strong, close, lasting relationships will involve conflicts and disagreements. Studies show that couples tend to be more satisfied with their partners when they think of their love as a journey or pathway. Try to frame your own search for a soulmate in these terms: you're not looking for a perfect, harmonious match. Instead, you're looking for a partner to walk the journey of life with, including the positives and negatives. Another way to phrase this is that you should be looking for somebody to grow with, not just somebody who was destined to meet you. Framing your love as destiny instead of as a journey is especially harmful during conflicts or arguments. During happy periods, there is not as much of a distinction. Studies show that instinctive reactions to another person are important predictors of overall relationship success. Don't try to talk yourself out of your initial instincts about a person. If you have a good feeling about him or her, pursue the relationship. If you feel uncomfortable or anxious about the relationship--even if everything looks good on paper--you might want to consider finding somebody else. Perfection in a lover often doesn't happen right away: it takes time. If someone seems like a good fit but has some slight imperfections, try to look at the bigger picture. A perfect love can happen between two imperfect people. This advice does not apply to "imperfections" that are in fact abusive or controlling. If your partner tries to hurt, insult, or isolate you from others, that is a relationship dealbreaker. When you find a potential partner, concentrate on building a strong friendship with him or her. Do fun activities together, talk to one another about your life goals, learn about each other's interests, and support one another. Couples who value each other's friendship are more successful, romantic, and loving over the long term. Those who form friendship bonds will find that they are also more romantic with one another (even the sex is better!). Even if you meet somebody who seems ideal to you, you both will have to work hard in order to strengthen and grow your relationship so that it lasts. This means that you might have to solve disagreements, put up with one another's annoying habits, and be forgiving of one another. Some of the most important steps to take in order to remain with your soulmate include:   Listening actively to your soulmate Forgiving your soulmate for minor mistakes Supporting your soulmate's hobbies and interests Refraining from entering into relationships with other people (if you choose to be in a monogamous relationship) Expressing gratitude to your soulmate Going on a double-date with another couple can help keep your own relationship passionate and loving. This effect is especially strong when you and your partner talk about intimate topics with the other couple. Invite two close friends out to dinner or join a meet-up group designed for couples to get acquainted with one another. Let your social network help you and your partner become true soulmates. Relationships are happier and more fulfilling when couples take the time to be physically affectionate with one another after sex. If you think you have found your soulmate, be sure that you make time to cuddle, spoon, and have some pillow-talk after sex. This will create a positive feedback loop that will allow your relationship to thrive. It is true that two soulmates can help shape one another's lives and goals. However, it is also important for you to remain true to yourself in life and love. Consider what you desire most in life and whether your potential soulmate can help you achieve these goals. There are some cases when affection is not enough to sustain a relationship or a life: you have to value and share one another's dreams too. Some questions to keep in mind include:  How important is my career, and can my partner foster that career? Do I want to have children some day? Does my partner? Where do I see myself in 5 years? 10? 20? Can I envision my partner alongside me? Are my partner and I happy living in the same kinds of cities/towns/regions? If your partner is miserable in the city but you can only live in a bustling metropolis, you might want to rethink things. Relationship cycling refers to an ongoing break-up/make-up cycle between partners. These relationships can be very enticing since they are rooted in a combination of familiarity and excitement. However, this excitement--while thrilling--is usually of the negative sort. And studies show that couples who get into a break-up/make-up cycle often have poor results over the long term. Remember that relationship cycling not only wastes valuable time and emotional energy, but it might prevent you from meeting somebody who is a much better fit for you. If you have found a soulmate, you will feel peaceful, joyful, and will believe that your relationship is a strong and healthy one. Your soulmate should support you, and you should support your soulmate. If you feel anxious, nervous, or queasy because of your relationship, you might not be in the right relationship for you. Remember that calmness, comfort, and relationship health are more important than drama, nerves, or adrenaline rushes.
شكك في فكرة "توأم الروح"، والتوافق الأبدي بين الفردين. استمع لإحساسك الداخلي. لا تغالط فكرة الحب المثالي مع كون الطرف الآخر شخص يتمتع بصفات مثالية أم لا. تكوين رابطة صداقة قوية. ابذل الجهد من أجل العلاقة العاطفية. الذهاب إلى المواعيد المزدوجة. المغازلة بعد العلاقة الحميمية. ما هي أهداف الحياة الخاصة بك؟. تجنب العلاقات الغير مستقرة. انتبه لمشاعر الارتياح والاطمئنان.