If your new love interest seems to always pay for everything you do in cash, it may because he or she doesn't want the spouse to see the charges on the credit card bills or debit card statements. In today's world, most people pay with things, especially meals, with credit cards. If every date is paid for in cash, this could be a red flag. Some people do carry cash around to pay for cheaper transactions, such as movie tickets and fast food meals. Other people who are financially well off may carry around hundreds of dollars in cash. Most people, however, generally use a mixture of debit cards, credit cards, and cash. m. Another red flag that someone might be married is the limited times they can see you, especially at night. People who are serious about the person they are dating or who are serious about the budding serious relationship will be willing to extend the date past 10 p.m. Occasionally, they may need to be home at an early hour, like on weekday nights. Weekends, however, should open up the schedule for later dates. Can he only see you between the hours of 6 p.m. and 9:45? If so, then it may be because he has to get home to his wife and family in a reasonable time frame. It's okay if this happens once in a while, but if he always says he has to get back home because of a big meeting the next morning or an early flight, then he may just be making excuses. Have you been to the person's house? If you've been dating for a few months and haven't seen the person's home, that may be a cause for concern. Listen for constant, flimsy excuses: his place is too messy, or your place is so nice. If you always go back to your place and have no idea where the other person lives, then you might should worry.  Find a reason to go back to his home. If he consistently refuses to let you see where he lives, he may be married. People who are cheating act very secretive when it comes to phone calls. Decide if the person's phone habits make sense or if there might be cause for concern.  Does he receive a lot of phone calls while you are together that he never answers? Does he act nervous or purposefully keep the screen away from you? Do the calls just keep coming? Secretive, evasive behavior like this can indicate that he is married. Make sure not to confuse this with being polite. Some people don't want to answer the phone while on a date. The longer you are together, the more comfortable you should become around one another. Eventually, he should answer a call, especially if he gets them constantly. Does he have two cell phones? Sometimes, this is true for business people. However, people who cheat also can have multiple cell phones. Does he refuse to give you the number? Does he take calls from numbers you never see while out of earshot? These could be red flags. Does he only call you when he's at the grocery store, in the car, at work, or at the park? Have you ever gotten him when he's at home? If he's calling you when he's away from home, this could point to him sneaking out to call you.  You get his voice-mail every time you call and he calls you back much later or the next day at work. If you call him randomly and he does answer, does he speak normally, does he sound like he's on a business call, or does he speak much more quietly than normal? Inconsistent phone behavior could point to cheating.  He won't give you his home phone number. Many people only have cell phones now, but if he refuses to give you a home number and exhibits other signs, it may be a flag. If you've been dating for a few months and have never met any of the person's friends or family, then it may be a red flag. Does he talk about his friends and family? Do you know who he spends his time away from you with? Sometimes, people can be hesitant to introduce new love interests to their friends and family. However, if the relationship is getting serious, you've introduced him to your friends, and you still haven't met anyone, he's either not serious or married. You never go out on the weekends. He turns down every spontaneous date you suggest. There is never a romantic weekend getaway, or when there is, it's also a business trip. These unusual way of making plans can point to him having an alternate life he can't get away from.
انظري ما إذا كان يدفع نقدًا في كل مقابلاتكم الغرامية. ركز ما إذا كانت تحرص دومًا على الذهاب للمنزل قبل العاشرة مساءً. اسأل نفسك هل دعتك لتوصيلها إلى منزلها مسبقًا؟ هل وصلتها إلى باب منزلها من قبل؟ إذا كنتما تتواعدان لعدة أشهر ولم يسبق لك رؤية منزل تلك الفتاة حتى الآن، فيُعد هذا أمرًا يدعو للريبة والشك. ركزي ما إذا كانت تصرفاته حيال هاتفه غير طبيعية. هل سبق لك مقابلة أي شخص مهم في حياته؟ إذا كنتما تتواعدان لعدة أشهر، ولم يسبق لك مقابلة أي شخص من عائلته، فقد تكون هذه شاخصة خطر. ترقبي لأي أنماط غير طبيعية فيما يخص وضع الخطط.