Have all of the details ready when your parents have time to talk. The more information you have the better your argument will be.  Tell them where you are going, who will be with you, how long you will be gone, and what you will be doing. Be completely honest the whole time. If you get caught in any sort of lie, you will lose your parents’ trust. You can’t have too many details. Find out beforehand if you will need transportation, spending money, or reservations if you want to go attend a scheduled event. Start small and work bigger. Before you ask to go on a big week-long trip, try asking to sleep over at a friend’s house for one night first. They may see that you can handle little things and then trust you going out for longer periods of time. It might be obvious to you that you don’t want to miss out on the big camping of the year or a super sale at the mall. Your parents on the other hand might not know why it’s a big deal, so be clear when asking them for permission. Explain why this opportunity is exciting for you. If there are educational benefits, make sure and mention them since your parents will want you to succeed in school. Being dramatic and raising your voice are only going to show them that you’re still too immature to go out. You can show excitement, but don’t let that enthusiasm turn into rage if things aren’t going your way. You still have a chance to convince them so don’t blow it by losing your cool.  Even if it looks like your parents are going to say no, try your best to not yell, scream, or cry out of frustration. Don’t threaten or make demands. You won’t be able to convince your parents by threatening to stop doing chores if you can’t go out. You’ll only end up in more trouble. After presenting your parents with your plans, let them think. For example you could say, “Thank you for listening to me. If you would like some time to think about your decision I understand.” This will prove to them that you are being patient and mature, even if you just want to go spend some time at a friend’s house playing videogames. Offer to bring your sister or brother along with you if your parents are still unsure about letting you go out. Sometimes having a sibling buffer will convince them that you won’t be misbehaving.  Siblings have the tendency to report back to parents. This can work in your favor when negotiating since parents will be more trusting if a sibling accompanies you. However, make sure that you do behave if they come along because they still might tattle on you to your parents. Even if your parents say no, you can still benefit. Thank them for talking with you and don’t get angry or yell at them. If you show maturity and understanding even when they say no, it’s possible that the next time you ask for something, they’ll be impressed by your behavior and say yes.
كن مستعدًا لتقديم مناقشتك معهم. اشرح لهم سبب رغبتك في الذهاب. حافظ على هدوئك عند مناقشة خططك معهم. اترك لهما بعض الوقت ليفكرا في الأمر. لا تقحم إخوتك إلا إذا دعت الحاجة. تقبل الهزيمة حتى تتمكن من الفوز في المرة المقبلة.