Things expand in translation as others spread rumors and maybe you're over-reacting to something that hasn't really happened the way it was told to you. If it is true though, proceed. If you're in front of people you don't know, don't spread rumors. You may be tempted to be helpful by telling a newcomer all the terrible things about a teacher or a boss, but you never know who they might tell. If you can't resist gossiping or complaining, try to do it only in front of people who have never met the person you're talking about. It's fine to listen to gossip and rumors from anyone, so long as you don't contribute anything yourself. Try to listen more and talk less if you can't give up gossip. Try to be friendly and positive, even when dealing with people you don't know. Even if someone turns on you anyway, others will be less likely to side against you. If you're at work, treat everyone with respect, not just immediate coworkers and bosses. If you're too focused on those relationships, you could carelessly give a receptionist, intern, or lower level employee a reason to hold a grudge against you. The longer a backstabber is allowed to spread lies or sabotage you, the harder it will be to repair the damage. If you can spot signs of backstabbing early, this can help you to head the acts off before they increase. Look for the following warning signs:  False rumors reach you about what you've supposedly done or said. You said something in private, and now everyone knows you said it. People stop entrusting you with information, assigning you tasks at work, or asking you to events that they once did. People act cold or unfriendly toward you for no clear reason. Make sure you're not making a mountain out of a molehill in assuming that someone is a backstabber. Some poor behaviors, such as being persistently late, sloppy, or selfish are a sign of a thoughtless person, not necessarily a scheming backstabber. The occasional minor slip-up, such as canceling lunch at the last minute or neglecting to return a phone call, is not a sign of backstabbing either. As soon as you suspect backstabbing might be occurring, start documenting the events that make you suspicious. Write down what happened, as well as the reasons you think someone might have hurt you intentionally. This makes your experiences easier to examine, so you can figure out whether the incident is part of a larger pattern or just a misunderstanding. If you think you're being sabotaged at work, keep a business-like record of how your work was adversely affected. In this record, include details of the work you accomplish, positive feedback you receive, and other concrete evidence that you can use to defend yourself if the sabotage gets serious. Once you've noticed signs that someone may be sabotaging you, examine people's behavior and action to narrow down the culprit. Observe the suspects several times at least before you leap to a conclusion, as rude behavior could just be the sign of a bad day. Here are some ways a backstabber might behave:  If someone gives you insincere compliments, or acts as though a criticism is a compliment, she may be hiding jealousy or anger. Someone agrees with you when you're alone together, then sides with other people when you talk about the same subject in a group. The possible backstabber recalls all their past grievances and slights without missing a beat. This person probably holds grudges for a long time and feels entitled to take revenge. The suspect treats you with disrespect, ignoring your opinion or failing to change her behavior when you ask her to stop. Besides these signs, keep in mind who is able to betray you. If someone keeps repeating what you said in private, it has to be someone whom you confide in. If a project you're working on is being undermined, the backstabber has access to the project materials. Don't assume someone is sabotaging you. Ask for a friend's honest opinion, and describe why you are suspicious. Find out if other people think the idea is reasonable, or if you're reading too much into things.  Talk to someone you can trust not to gossip, and tell them to keep the conversation private. If you suspect a specific person, talk to someone who knows him but isn't his friend. If you don't have any trusted friends who fit that description, talk to someone who doesn't know him, and describe his specific actions and behavior, not your opinion on his character. You might be tempted to take revenge on your backstabber by hurting them in the same way. Getting sucked into this behavior will likely make the problem worse and make you more upset and emotionally involved. It also won't do any favors for your reputation, so even if you drive off the backstabber (which is unlikely), you may have the same problem.
सुनी गई बातों पर प्रतिक्रिया देने से पहले उनकी सच्चाई जान लें: गप्पें कम से कम मारिए: अपने आस पास सभी लोगों से अच्छे संबंध बनाइये: जितना शीघ्र संभव हो धोखे के संकेतों को पहचान लें: समझ लीजिये कि सभी प्रकार का चिड़चिड़ा व्यवहार, पीठ पीछे बुराई का  चिन्ह नहीं है: जो भी होता है उसको नोट करिए: पीठ पीछे बुराई करने वाले को पहचानिए: किसी मित्र को अपने संदेह के संबंध में विश्वास में लीजिये: स्वयं पीठ पीछे बुराई करने वाले मत बन जाइए: