Making eye contact shows that you have confidence.  Also, when you make eye contact with someone, it shows that you’re interested in learning more about them.  Make sure that you don’t hold eye contact for too long – about two seconds is a good length – lest you come off as creepy or intimidating. Animated people don’t leave much too the imagination because they are the center of attention.  To be attractively mysterious, be calm, somewhat serious, and relatively even-keeled.  Be the calm at the center of the storm, no matter how lively things are around you. You’re mysterious and intelligent.  Because you won’t be talking about yourself much, you’ll need to learn about some topics that you can talk about at length.  Not only does this keep the conversation away from your personal story, it shows that you’re passionate enough about a subject to learn it. Make sure that the topic is interesting and not polarizing.  For example, presidential candidates might be interesting but they’re also polarizing.  Instead, the impact of farm-produced fish on the environment is interesting and likely to not be very polarizing at all. Asking questions is an excellent way to be mysterious and attract people and serves a few purposes.  It allows you to keep the conversation away from your personal details, it shows interest in another person, and, most of all, it allows that people to talk about themselves.  People will think you’re especially interested in them and be flattered that you wanted to hear their story. Start off with simple questions like “where are you from originally?” or “where would you travel to if money was no object?”  Listen to the answers and ask questions based on those answers, such as:  “Oh, you’d like to travel to Paris? What is it about the City of Lights that you find attractive? Would you travel alone or with someone?” Just because you’re mysterious doesn’t mean that you can’t be charming.  Make people smile.  Smiling makes people feel good and it makes people instantly feel warmer toward the person that made them smile.  Don’t be afraid to smile yourself, too.  This shows a good-natured appreciation of life that is attractive to just about everyone. You don’t have to talk to someone to make them smile.  When you’re making eye contact, give the other person a little smile and watch, they’ll return the favor. Just because you’re not going to spend much time talking about yourself doesn’t mean that you can’t direct the conversation.  This works because changing topics fairly frequently shows your audience that you’re not only mysterious, but that you’re confident and knowledgeable about a variety of topics.  Look for natural opportunities to change topics, which will come up typically in someone else’s response to something. This is a great time to ask a question, which will direct the conversation in another direction. Depending on your gender, being mysterious can be a sign that you’re an alpha male or a flirty female, two archetypes that are attractive to almost everyone.  Mysterious people exude confidence, and that confidence can be interpreted differently depending on your gender.  What is fairly universal, though, regardless of gender, is that mysterious people are quietly in control, but not flamboyant of attention seeking. This idea refers back to the psychology of attraction, which posits that attraction is physiological and psychological, and that the two inform one another.
ركز على التواصل البصري. كن هادئًا. تعلم الكثير عن بعض الأشياء. اطرح أسئلة. اجعلهم يبتسمون. غير الموضوع. كن مهيمنًا أو جذابًا.