text: Either he is telling you the truth or you might be a fag hag, especially since you said this has happened before with an Ex.. It's a risk you take dating feminine men.  If you really want to find out. Check grindr, find the account that's closest to you. Favourite him. Then while away from the house, so he can't see the location is near him, catfish him with some random guys pictures on Reddit. Try r/gonewild, tons of guys post full body, but make sure there is NO head in the picture (it's a grindr thing). Wait to see response.