text: absolutely - realizing that there was this _whole other world_ that the women in my life experienced, and I not only didn't see it, I didn't even know it was there... once I really listened to the people talking to me, it wasn't that hard to value listening to people telling you their experience instead of telling them what their experience is (I would've happily argued with a person of color over whether racism was real), and that there was oppression at play around me in far more complicated ways than any of the stats about pay gap I was citing even touched.