text: It isn't that people shouldn't come out, especially if that's what they want. Life can be very hard. If I was out 10yrs ago I know there are several field jobs I would have missed, or could have been beat up. Drugged up red necks are not the most stable group. If you have a support system of friends & co-workers who will be there for you then it will be easier. To all those who have come out the rest of us are grateful. We wish we could do the same. We love our queer side, we also love our kids & having a safe place to sleep at night.