text: I am a cis man in a relationship with a transman. I understand your plight entirely. Hell, I don't think it even dawned on me that there may be an opposite to transwomen until I met my current SO. Boy did I feel ignorant. This whole ride has taught me a lot about people I never even considered.  I see exactly what you describe in his relationships with others in the lgbtq community and I just don't understand it. Just know I love you. You are just as important as any one else in the community in my eyes and I hope one day we can all live and love happily under the same umbrella.