text: I am a Bi man who didn't come to recognize and accept being Bi until I was in my forties and married with kids. I still haven't sorted out what traits I am attracted to with other guys. I only know that I am physically and sexually attracted to other men, but not I the classic romantic ways. Yet I know that I would need to have know and trust someone before I could consider being physical/sexual with them. It also doesn't help matters that I have no experience and I am in a monogamous relationship with my wonderful wife and I deeply love her.