text: Your first step in all of this is to talk with a therapist (and with a transgender support group, if possible) , which has absolutely no negative consequences. Get on those as soon as you can. The difficulties and joys transitioning will add to your life are real and legitimate, it's up to you to *honestly* weight the situation and discover what is the best decision for you and your family. You have no obligation to make a decision either way beyond the obligation to live your life as best as you possibly can.