text: She's not trying to "control" it.  She simply doesn't want to participate in it. And that's fair enough. I'm not Jewish, I'm atheist. But I doubt I would attend my child's baptism in any faith. If they want to do that, up to them. But it's their personal, private, independent choice. For what it's worth I did attend a friend's children's baptism. But their whole family is christian and it didn't have any impact on me personally. For OP, this does.