text: Hey guys you are younger me. Well kinda. There's no exact science to the queer spectrum. Let's just say at 30 I really seriously looked at my non-conforming side. Coming out would have destroyed my marriage and social network.  I'm not satisfied with erotic fantasies any longer, as I explore their root, I realize I'd be.... maybe not happy, but I'd be more comfortable in my skin. Pick your moment. Don't feel pressured, you can have a closeted life if you prefer. I would definitely stop short of marrying someone, if you know then you should tell them. Even if you love them. That won't be enough.