text: High school student here. Gay but not out. Family would be cool with it if I were out. So I understand what you mean. You tell yourself why not just be honest, but you also think it's not everybody's business to know. And you think about what they're gona ask you. Like what type of gay stuff u wanna do.  I'm gonna come out after high school. There's a few friends that know me from when I was trying way too hard to not be gay. It would be too weird. But I totally get why you wouldn't. Good luck.