text: I have a gay relative who I'm close to. Both me and my parents have advised her to not tell our Christian family because we know the drama that would immediately ensue. If she decided to come out I'd support her 100%. But right now she's young, dependent on her parents, and even if she doesn't deserved to get shamed for it, our family definitely would.  It's a shitty situation because our relatives are shitty. I'm not denying that - but acknowledging that reality doesn't make OP's mom an AH imo. Her trying to take it easy on the uncle definitely does though.