text: ESH \-Yes, you made a racist joke. I get that the mail order bride joke is a funny putdown of your friend, because it's like he's desperate enough to pay for a bride. But the only way the impoverished, war-torn, brown people country joke works is to imply that your friend would be a loser if he married someone of a certain ethnicity or from a poor country.  \-Yes, after you apologized the bride should've forgiven you.  \-Yes, your friend sucks for not standing up for you more effectively and for not speaking to you for a year.