text: Am cis not trans, but just wanted to offer some hope to you. A friend of mine came out to her wife a couple of years ago. At the time, apart from the kids part, the wife had the same view. It was touch and go for a while, she really felt it was a dealbreaker. After some therapy and much soul-searching she realised she fell in love with the same person and she didn't want to be with anyone else. They are still together, happy and making it work. :)