text: I'm 41. A few years ago it started to dawn on me that (1) I might be hating sexism and gender roles not only bc I was a woman (I'm AFAB), but also because I was *not* a woman, and (2) that I've never really had a feeling of my own gender inside me, just things about how I choose to present myself, or how people react to me. I currently identify as an agender woman, within the umbrella of nonbinary. My partner and some of my friends know, but not all of them and not my coworkers or clients. I still pass as a cis woman on most days, so I treat that as my uniform at work, and I get by.