text: That gives me a leg to stand on in defending my feelings on this more than you know. I want the world for her. And this shit would not fly. Huge thank you for this perspective.  And I totally agree that the pressure is real. I know I feel it. But I don't want to feel it anymore. He wasn't some troglodyte going to sleazy places when I married him. And my standards are still the same. So I hear what you're saying in making sure I remember to watch my own ass in this situation instead of worrying about his feelings.