text: My wife and I were in our 12th year of marriage when I came out. She said she firgured and wasn't surprised. We talked about it for a day or two and then just went back to our regular old lives. A week or so later we laughed because of how chill it was. She looked and me and said, "I feel like this should be a bigger deal, but it's not." I love my wife.  Other people around us just assumed our marriage was exploding. Cool cool.