text: Know the feeling. I don't fit into the stereotype of a gay guy. I've managed though to attract people in my life who are similar like me and that has gotten me through a lot of loneliness. There are two things that help. Find things you enjoy doing and find gay friends who enjoy those things as well. Try meet up groups, sports groups. Force yourself to try new things. I met a great guy in a cooking class. He and I are best friends now. Do I have a bf? no.. and I'm ok with it. I just decided to focus on myself and not dating.