In some modern cases, the couple collude together to elope under the guise of a bride kidnapping, presenting their parents with a "fait accompli". In most cases, however, the men who resort to capturing a wife are often of lower social status, because of poverty, disease, poor character or criminality. They are sometimes deterred from legitimately seeking a wife because of the payment the woman's family expects, the bride price (not to be confused with a dowry, paid by the "woman's" family).