The basic obscene verb for a man having sex with a woman is "futuo", "I fuck." Although not found in polite literature, "futuo" was not necessarily insulting or aggressive; it was used transactionally for sex between a prostitute and her client, and in a passionate or loving setting may have been spoken as an arousing intimacy. A fragment from a play by Plautus suggests that acquiring an erotic vocabulary was part of a woman's introduction to sexuality within marriage: a virgin explains that she has not yet learned the words suitable for the wedding night "(nupta verba)". The easy use of the word by a woman in other settings indicates her independence of social norms, and corresponding lack of status. "Either fuck me or let's fight it out," the formidable Fulvia is quoted as challenging the future Augustus. In graffiti at Pompeii written by both men and women, forms of "futuo" are used to announce prowess, satisfaction, or availability.