{"experience_type": "Previous Experience", "emotion_type": "depression", "problem_type": "breakup with partner", "situation": "My boyfriend cheated on me and I found out 6 months later at work from a customer. I was so embarrassed. I did not eat for days.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5"}, "supporter": {}}, "dialog": [{"text": "Hello I am very sad today. My partner is cheating on me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Cheating on you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "With another woman.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How do you know that your partner is cheating on you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Did he tell you that he is?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I was told by a customer at work. I do not know this person well, yet they knew the person he was cheating on me with.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He will not admit it himself.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry if your partner is cheating.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "So, your partner denies the charge of cheating?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Are you and your partner married?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes. He says the person who told me is lying.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We are not married but we live together.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How long have you been in a relationship with your man?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "2 years", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So, 2 years should be long enough to know if your partner has been cheating.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "What do you mean exactly?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you someone who trusts people? I think that most men would fess up about it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I guess all people are different. I generally trust people easily.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Does he show affection to you? If he is adamant about loving you, then, it may be false allegations.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "That is true. He is but, has been distant lately.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have had coworkers lie and be jealous that I have a good relationship with my partner.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Do you think maybe it was a rumor started by someone who could be jealous?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ash your partner if he loves you enough to propose marriage. If he says no, then ask him why.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "That is a good point.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, workers can be a real problem and can make up stories about people. Slander in the work place happens.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Unfortunately, lies and rumors are just that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I am not sure if I am okay with giving him an ultimatum. We are still young and although I love being in a relationship, I am unsure about marriage.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But I appreciate your suggestions", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "and you make a great point about the workplace being hostile", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sure, I understand.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I should trust my partner more than any random person.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, the workplace is not like home life.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, trust matters.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "But every time i bring it up, he tries to change the subject. How should I approach him to communicate better?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would see if he wants to spend time doing things like volunteering after work. If he says yes, or is excited, that is a good sign that he wants to be with you....even after work.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "okay! that is a good idea. Maybe I can research something and see if there is anything new we can do together.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Find things that he has in common or energize the relationship.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, ask him if he wants to learn to swing dance or take skiing lessons or volunteer for Habitat for Humanity.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is a good point. It is just hard to go on with the relationship when I feel I do not know the whole truth and there is little discussion or reassurance.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have done your part, but if he wants to show you affection on a regular basis, that is a good sign.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "How old are the both of you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Okay. I will keep that in mind.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We are 22.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you intimate with your partner, on a regular basis?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes but less over the past few months.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Spicing up the live life can also help to energize hings.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I mean, the love life. Te lack in the last few months could be a physical issue or stress related....for him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Does he mention a lot of stress at the job or is he in college? 22 is young.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "You are both relatively young. I feel that there is plenty to learn about each other.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "That's understandable. Maybe I can communicate with him first.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How do you all generally communicate? Through text?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "He is going to law school and I am going to med school. There is a ton of stress on both ends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Which do you and your man like to communicate?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No live together so we use call, text, and see each other in person.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I communicate much more than he does. Thats why I think he is hiding something.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well, you and your man are under a lot of stress, so keep that in mind. The study may be making him withdraw a lot.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "You are right. I will try to be more sensitive about that. Thank you for your help.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would ask his fellow students, if you know any of them if they think he really loves you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Do you think getting other people involved is a good idea?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would be subtle about that tactic.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "If you haven't met any of his school mates. I wouldn't pursue that option. Have you met any of his class mates?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah he has a few close friends but he is pretty to himself. We both live far away from home.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you and him directly off campuses in housing? You both attend the same college, correct?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes off campus. Same college.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Where do you work? Have you seen the customer who said that your partner was cheating?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Seen the customer before? Was it a man or woman who dropped the shocking news?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel that the customer may have a case of mistaken identity indeed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I work at a bar part time to support may way through school.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It was a women. I know her, but not well. Met a few times around school.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sounds like drunk slander talk. I would let things go for awhile and follow up later.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Okay I will try.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you", "speaker": "usr"}], "seeker_question1": "I enjoyed talking to someone with a different opinion.", "seeker_question2": "No", "supporter_question1": "I think it didn't get where it needed to.", "supporter_question2": "None"}