{"experience_type": "Current Experience", "emotion_type": "anxiety", "problem_type": "breakup with partner", "situation": "I think he might want me back. He wants me to work with him on the board.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "Hello there, how are you feeling?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "im good. how are you? just dealing with this guy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So, you are having trouble dealing with someone?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "yes and no. i agreed to work with him on the board when he asked me. he said he trusts me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If he says he trusts you I am sure that he does. He would not have asked you to work with him if he did not.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "very true. not sure if he just likes me as as friend or if he wants me back. we dated then he broke up. then he asked me out again and didn't see me cuz he was busy. now he's asking me to be on the board with him. not sure if he has other motives to try to get back with me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That must be incredibly confusing for you. How does this make you feel overall?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "confused! i'll know sooner or later what he wants. thing is i was hanging out with his friends recently who had wanted to sleep with me. he knew it and didn't like it. he liked it when i stopped talking to them", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How does this relate to him asking you to be on the board with him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "cuz the first time he asked me out i was helping him with the board. i think it might be a way for him to spend time with me and then work his way back in. not sure if he will or not though. time will tell", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It is okay to feel confused and perhaps even angry about this. Have you considered talking to him and asking him straight out what his intentions are?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "yes but i'm afraid what i'll hear", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I realise that this must be difficult but isn't it best to get things out into the open?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "it is but hes already hurt me before. i feel i'll find out sooner or later anyways. that way i can save face", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it might be best for you to make a clean break. It sounds like you are being manipulated.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "possibly. i'd prob be better being away from the situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Certainly you would be. I know that it is hard but you will feel better in the long run.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I think I would. I tried to break away once but they asked me to come back", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i feel there are benefits to it also", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You need to be aware that that can and will happen. Ignore it. What sort of benefits do you feel that there are?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "it gives me an upper edge and more clout", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "In what way does it do that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "being on the board gives me perks", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you feel that perhaps you might be using him just a little bit?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "yes and i think he is using me to a degree also", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Let me get this straight - you do have feelings for him but you are confused and you think that there's an element of mutual manipulation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "yes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are definitely not the only person to feel this way!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "it's a difficult situation. i think it will become clearer the deeper i get into it. thing is he is the head of the board and holds the power.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "what it comes down to is im wondering if he has feelings for me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel that you are paying too much attention to your position on the board.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i feel it gives me an advantage i want at the moment.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But that is rather manipulative of you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "if you were me you would forget about him and the board", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes I definitely would do that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "thing is he is encouraging me to be like that. cuz it helps him too", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "okay. i'll try to lay low and walk away from it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it's time for a clear severance. Do you have any other people you are interested in? Any hobbies?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "yes but it's less than before cuz of Covid lockdowns. so it makes me more susceptible to this- if that makes sense", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah I hear you. You feel that your options are rather more limited than previously because of the lockdown?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "yes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is something I believe that most of us are feeling right now so I sympathise.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "true. i just have to be strong about it with him. even if he likes me i don't think it's a healthy relationship", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i slept with one of his friends and the other one wanted to sleep with me too", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can tell that you really have deep reservations and know deep down that this is not a healthy place for you to be", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Is he aware that this happened?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "yes when it comes down to it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he suspected it happened", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "his friend asked the one i slept with if it was true. he denied it. so i think he suspected it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you feel guilty about this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "now that im talking to him i do a little. it felt good at the time like i was getting back at him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you can tell this is a very twisted situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you feel that you want to get revenge on him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "not really. i just felt that if he stayed with me i wouldn't have slept with his friend and almost did with his other one", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am not sure what to say that will help your problem and give you closure.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thank ya for listening. i think it'll clarify itself in time", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hope so and I really do hope for the best for you. These are difficult times for all of us!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}], "seeker_question1": "they were very honest", "seeker_question2": "no", "supporter_question1": "Not knowing when it would finish", "supporter_question2": "I was not able to scroll down for the full instructions - is this a browser issue? I am using firefox."}