• pause and take a deep breath. this has a calming effect on the entire nervous system and can help you gain control of your thoughts.
• stop and think. when you find yourself thinking or saying a negative comment about something or someone, stop and choose to say something positive instead. ask a positive friend to stop you when you complain and help you to see the good in the situation.
• have a “pity party.” allow yourself to vent every once in a while. it’s healthy to have the occasional “pity party,” but like all parties, it should have a “start time” and an “end time.” and if you are 