they had to feel as though they were totally in control by whatever means necessary . for another , i had enough to do that i did n't need to be hanging around waiting for them to finish . i know we havent been through any ceremony or anything like that yet , but right now you are a better dad than these kids have ever known . the word stung as it spilled from his lips . there 's water on his eyelashes , and he 's looking at her like she 's the answer to some sort of riddle . 