of work friends quickly dried up, people just stopped asking me. i’m sure they like me were fed-up of hearing the “well i can’t say, but if i can, i will” line, followed by no sign of me at all, other than a message sent to say sorry. it is so hard for those who don’t know anyone who is ill, to get their heads round just how up and down our lives are, or how impossible it is for us to say even a couple of hours earlier if we will be able to come back out for the evening. i am sure that all of us who are 