at her wit's end with her husband's drinking. when he came home late and drunk as usual one night, she decided to try something she read in a magazine. instead of yelling and demanding to know where he had been, she smiled and asked him how his day was. instead of throwing things in his general direction, she poured him his favorite drink and told him to relax. when she could see he was nodding off, instead of telling him he could sleep on the couch, she started giving him a nice massage. the woman found herself starting to have hope that this new approach might change her alcoholic husband. 