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the idea of not being overly "selfish" is nothing new. we all have been brought up with the self and what to do with it. we are told to be our self and be self-confident, but at the same time we are told not to be selfish or think too much of our self. either way, we are caught up in the self.
like sticky molasses or a tar baby, the more we struggle with the self, the deeper into it we get stuck, the more attached we become. remember that attachment does not just mean positive attachment, what we like, but also negative attachment, like when we hate or don't 