`` then there 's nothing anyone can do ? so that brings me to why you are here . well which would you prefer a drummer ruining kids lives and our reputation as individuals and a band or the job of finding another one ? i stared at the bowl for a while , and wanted to call echo and thank him . however , she got greedy and threw it all away . why didnt it come with instructions ? `` it 's a choice you make when the entire world is telling you marriage should n't be this hard . 