her? her beliefs and her way of life is what you accepted when you married her, respect that. if you married a woman that smoked before you met her and now that you are married you want her to stop smoking because you do not like smoking, it is not the womans problem it is yours. the woman that you married has not changed from the woman that you fell in love with. you married the whole package, trying to change her is trying to change her into a woman that is different than the one that you fell in love with. your wifes beliefs are what make her the 