that she is hurting it. you don’t have to hurt your daughter to do that, just put a little bit of physical grip on her. i know of examples which this method worked.
sounds like sensible advice from the expert to me. i can definitely understand the mums concern though. my image of who god is on the earth. we were told that catholic priests were like god in the flesh," she said. "i have struggled my whole life to identify with a good and loving god. by coming out and talking about this i hope it will help with the healing." 