better than anyone else right if you are fallen into that trap it might involve making you maybe making sure that you buy the best and most expensive christmas presents for other people and maybe not so that you get a good christmas present in return but so that someone will think more highly of you wow this person made a great sacrifice for me so that i could have this great gift or maybe something like i used to have the best christmas party or you big the best christmas cookies and not that that's wrong make as many christmas cookies as you want that's fine but sometimes we 