i copied it all down as fear made her voice sound tiny and brittle , and just before we hung up she said , `` i 'm so nervous . `` do n't get tripped up by the little things . '' he asked , still in teaching mode . do n't say sorry if you do n't mean it . lark winked at me as we made our way over to the bar . when he looked at her , she saw the struggle in his eyes to keep his cool and not let his temper rule . 