of it to mimic. between me and the kids, no shouting means i have to pause, take a few seconds, think of a different way to address the issue. more thought goes into the discipline. more control.
i assure you, i have not been perfect. there are sometimes when it is hard. sometimes it feels like shouting is the only way to get through to them! at those times i literally just need some physical separation. i walk away or send them away and try to approach the issue later and in a different way. (the car is tricky. sometimes i just fade the music to the front and tune them 