of your husband or wife of 40 years…all the way down to one day long ago when i was swimming far out at sea over deep water and got caught in a current. no matter how hard i swam, i was getting swept further out to sea and was getting more and more tired as the wind got stronger, pushing me away from the island. i actually don’t remember how i made it back to shore…i just remember making the decision right then and there that i was not going to die that day…and i swam. i remember breathing fire, choking on sea water, and not being able to feel 