i folded up her coloring books and set them on the shelf . and if you want to know what he uses on his hair , just ask him . '' who 'd have thought , less than a year ago when you were grading papers , that your life would come to this ? '' this was not social ; this was business . he also gathered samples of blood-soaked clumps of dirt . there was something very open and understanding about grandma , hers had been a hard life but she had lived through it and come out the other side . 