times to count. i am a pretty independent person and part of me is okay with doing it all myself, but the other part of me likes sharing the load. it is a fine line to find the balance between the two. when my husband returns home each time, i have to then relearn how to work together as a team for our family. we have to parent together. we have to do life together. i have to take off some of my hats and pass them on to him. i have to trust that he is going to do his part. as much as i want to share the 