i remember the `` iris '' song so clearly now , and the words of wanting to be known . `` try to tell you what 's wrong and what 's right . it was raining lightly , but the wind had dropped to almost nothing . `` you do n't have to marry me . and ... i do n't know if i should add this or not , but ... what the hell . `` we 're not going to do anything . `` take care of yourself , sweetheart , '' she said , touching my cheek . 