image of them? if you do, you know this does not end well.
once you are in a healthy loving relationship, you will realize the people who want to grow and change will be the first to tell you how they are working on growing and changing. they don't need you to be the agent of change. if you try to move someone in a direction they are not interested in going, it will take all of your energy. even then, you will likely fail because it is your direction, not theirs. it's better to choose people who you can love without changing them.
8. believing a relationship is all you need 