not try something, if you do not feel something on your own skin, in your own body, how can you understand it? only by loving yourself in the first place and taking care of your mind and your soul, you can love others and you can protect yourself from being seriously hurt. a person can choose to leave you, it’s her/his decision, but if you can understand how love works and that love is not perfect, then you can move on. if you cannot understand this, you will suffer very hard.
a & g: for how long can you be a monk?
m: the decision is yours, you can be a monk 