get the picture. ask a question.
your teen may not answer you, they may grunt and walk off, but they won’t argue, they won’t blow up and they will think about it. furthermore, you won’t have added more fuel to the flames of your teen’s anger, which is often directed at you.
so stop trying to think you have to control everything - you don’t and next time you feel the need to step in and sort out something with your teenager, step back and ask a question instead. 