`` your nieces and nephews , your own kids someday , they can look to you as an example of how life can be . '' what i 'm doing right now , as a matter of fact . ' i did n't need the old ones to assure me of such a truth . he knew he had to be hurting her , but she needed this . even my dress and toms shirt and trousers were a light brown in color , easier to hide the mud and dust stains . 