stir occasionally for about 17-20 minutes. you are deserving of every single one of them! we would do well, as writers, to think how we are going to fit into that ecosystem. the bunk bed rooms were very small which was the only thing i was not keen on. if you want an even better plan, then you can go with plan f+. third visit and can't fault it. you could get sad or defensive--and i certainly have--but you can also walk away, yell into a pillow, and then push on the spots that need more work. 