be able to change. i don’t want to stand out or be considered ‘special’ in any way, just to blend in and live with mutual respect and kindness.another slight issue is i look much younger – around 41 friends say – and i am not particularly interested in meeting a man at this stage. i’m aware i still get ‘looks’ and, to be honest, it’s nice but i really don’t want any more of that kind of attention. it has caused me so many problems in the past. i just want to blend in, not stand out at all if i can help it, including because men may think i’m 