think we probably end up doing some combination of the two. either way, at some point, you have to have some idea of what you are looking for, or at least what you like and don't like.
an observation i made in my career counseling days was that people often can more easily describe what they don't want quicker than what they do want. if you are having trouble setting goals that have meaning, which is common, start by listing what you don't want. guess what you have to know in order to know what you don't want? that's right... what you do want, or at least something close to it.
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