your role as his queen but also simply as his bride is to understand that and find a way to live with it . '' he moved very slowly , and i guessed that was because he did n't want to wake me up . his wit , his charm , his smile , the easy way he teased me , but most important , the way he actually seemed to respond to me . not that i was having a terrible day , just one that i did not want to do over , like right away . 