he could barely focus on the pile of tongues in front of him ; tongues of his friends and his relatives . then we shall get back to you . `` i think he is too embarrassed or frightened or both . '' `` not intentionally , but yes , he will hurt you . we forced them to do things that none of us wants to think about or acknowledge . i pulled into my garage and cut the engine . she told her parents she 'd slipped on some ice and hit the pavement and that 's why her nose was bleeding . 