either. good grief, i am so ready to get off this roller coaster.
thank you---warm hugs. no, the lies don't ever stop as long as they are using, and even after they are in recovery for a long, long time.
basically, we can't believe anything that comes out of their mouths. and that is a very sad place to be with someone you love.
i remember a counselor once telling me---when i was in marriage counseling toward the end of my marriage---she drew a pyramid on the flip chart paper and divided it into about six blocks. the long block at the base of the pyramid---one long block---was trust.
she said: you can't have 