`` i even invited their wives , '' she added . her father treated her mother then even more tenderly , comforting her for her loss , and this seemed appropriate for a while , but after several weeks , she wanted to shout at them and remind them that they still had her , and it hurt that she had to remind them of the joy they used to feel when they watched her play . `` why come to church if you do n't want to pray ? when i have n't seen him since christmas . 