the change. this lets them know you are serious about changing and when you slip back to the old you at times, which i guarantee will happen from time to time, they will forgive you and give you the benefit of doubt. if they give you additional feedback, again as i shared earlier, you simply respond with something like “thank you”, or “tell me more” or “please help me better understand what you just shared”. but whatever you do, please never ever never get defensive or argue with the feedback. finally, when one day when they tell you to stop asking how you’re doing and that you’re doing just fine, 