friend i truly love and care about deeply a few weeks ago and is honestly the inspiration for this post. i really wanted them to make a different choice and felt i knew what was best for them and for our relationship. but they are the only ones who can really discern what is good for them. as i came to peace with their decision i realized that at the end of the day i truly just want them to be happy. and if this choice is what makes them happy, whether i agree with them or not, i am happy for them.
one way to think about it is that 