i have also learned that the food and exercise plan, whether for maintenance or weight loss, has to be one i can live with--and that may mean having a higher weight as my maintenance weight than i had hoped. 11 q. l-96, we're now back in public session. here on this site, i talk a lot about acts of kindness, though i am not quite used to acts of kindness when they happen to me and my family. it was a very interesting and creative way of celebrating and remembering a person's life. this appears particularly true for black patients. 