we miss out on so much happiness that is available to us all the time.
what i have learned in life is that tomorrow never comes and all my plans for if and when never bring true happiness with them. they have always only been a tool to keep me from the now. i am continually working on convincing myself that if i am not happy now, with my present situation or living and loving the life that i have now, i will not be any happier if or when. i have learned that when i play this gain game and live out my whole life trying to be somebody to 