i 'd brought this war to my grandparents ' doorstep . imagine what it would be like to learn a new language , a different way to think about the same thing . `` that 's how it 's done , '' he agrees . still , i want to know what 's going on . but now that i know what it is , it 's so much clearer . '' i tried to read his expression , understand why he seemed to be so carefully considering every word he spoke . 