and then just build yourself up gradually to what you are comfortable with, take your partner with you if possible, it is much more enjoyable than doing it on your own. it is best to use overnight while sleeping. our answer was it depends upon your son. white or gray wires indicate a neutral wire. when they're having a stressful experience, that they can release that and get rid of it and not turn towards food. if you think it is pizza, the answer is no no no! �we went toe-to-toe with them for a while. 