second of all , birth control is the responsibility of both parties involved so i do n't want to hear it . honey , you spoke at her funeral and bawled your eyes out . `` okay , '' i said , `` but i feel you 're talking to someone on the other side of the grave . '' she stroked his shoulder and his chin , cooing sweet things into his ears , all the while cutting her eyes toward a large and mean-looking , bald man sitting at one of the tables . 