might imagine if you thought about a carpenter. and the idea is that if you just do the right things, get the right skills, read the right books, you're going to be able to shape your child into a particular kind of adult. and that picture is very different from the kind of picture that comes from the science. the picture that comes from the science is much more like being a gardener.
now, one thing about being a gardener is you never know what's going to happen in the garden. the things that you plan fail, but then wonderful things happen that you haven't actually planned. and there's actually a 