those around me. if i was just involved, then those in charge would not know for sure if i was going to be there the next week. my other option was to commit. that meant i had to be there every week, rain or shine, because if i did not show there was no sound. people who had a good reason to expect me to be there would be let down. you see, committed people bring a certain security to those around them. involved people don’t give those around them the same sense of security. they could choose to not be there.
let’s take this over to the marriage relationship. if 