he sounds terrible so i dont hassle him for calling . thats why you had to prove it to me . is that why you 're upset and did n't want to say anything ? `` the one who died four years ago . '' you could forget the suit and the tie and picture him in a torn old plaid jacket , out there splitting logs in his yard . everything will be just fine , and we will have the most beautiful child . `` then when did he come down ? '' she doesnt need somewhere safe to stay . 