you think your mum would be happy with, to be with her for a little bit may be an option, but so difficult. i understand that in order to give your mum the best care and to keep her calm and settled, having you there is the best option and getting someone in may not do what people say it will, i.e. you can not switch off despite being away from your mum. never ever think that if you are away from your mum and do manage to switch off, even for a few minutes, that this is bad and you should not feel guilty for it. you deserve to 