he wants to try and avoid the mistakes of our past . when you 're in a bedroom with a hot guy for the first time and he 's all but saying , `` i 'm horny and i 'm yours , '' you 're not looking for an escape route . i patted the carpet in front of me and told them to sit . 'i want someone alongside me who knows when i 'm lying , who will stand up to me and who knows me at my very worst . 