do is not an effective strategy for anything. you can’t work through life that way. it’s the equivalent of a toddler putting their hands over their face and pretending you can’t see them since they can’t see you. it’s cute when a baby does it, but not so cute when you’re told you have to do it as an adult.
a watched pot will eventually boil. it might take some time to get there, but that’s how heat plus water works. you’re not going to find love by never looking for it. it might not come into your life until it’s the right time, but there’s nothing wrong with giving it 