she slowly walked away from him , unbuttoning the dress shirt to her waitress outfit . hands shaking , i reached in and tugged at the photo , pulling it out and smoothing it flat with the tips of my fingers . you havent been able to see because youve been walking around with your head under a fog . `` it 's a life-long process that either moves into less or into more difficult stages . '' eventually , the kids moved near them and tried sitting in all kinds of positions to see which pushed them farthest . 