everyone knows its where you take your current dish for a spicy afternoon . making sure you do n't work too hard and bringing your son to your office so he can learn to be just as wonderful as you are , '' she said . `` we have no radar contact , no confirmation . i do hope they realize i only wanted to make their lives better , she thought . he was n't hanging around me because he wanted to . '' how we start sets the tone for everything that follows . '' 