need to know. this makes it difficult to know anything at all about your military man. you may feel disconnected from him at times. in order to build a more intimate relationship, you must become part of his unit, break through the walls he’s built around him, and earn his trust. only by doing so will you be able to really know each other.
don’t throw a grenade at the problem though. breaking down walls should be done brick by brick. he might start to trust you and open up, telling you issues he may be having, but shutting down the minute he feels uncomfortable sharing. let him shut down when 