look like being creative before we step into our child’s room to wake them up for the fifth time that morning and singing, or describing a perfect day or telling them all the reasons we love them, or…… what if you know how you want to be before telling them no? no, they cannot go to the party after all because you have to work? if we can pause long enough to ask ourselves “how do i want to be” before responding to the rolling eyes, the turned back, or sarcastic attitude what will the relationship look like? breathing and remembering our role as parent before looking at the report 