now. for example, with toilet training if you get an m&m each time you go, you child may stop being motivated to earn it now because they know they can get it later when they do go potty.
spontaneous- done unexpectedly, without warning. in practice, this means that you see your child doing something positive, and you praise or reward them.
examples- you take your preschooler shopping and it has been a better than average trip, so you comment “i love how you listened while we were shopping, let’s get a pretzel.” (by contrast, if your child knows there is reward to being good at the store, you may find yourself constantly 