years ago i had a group of scouts out on a camping trip. in the evening they were standing around the fire and a group of girls walked past the camp several times. these boys got started yelling things out to the girls that were getting a bit rude. i could have just yelled at them to cut it out but thinking about he situation i realized that though they would to what i told them they would not learn anything from it and would be likely to repeat the behavior when i was not around. the core of the problem was that they were not seeing these girls as 