however, it may be a little closer to home, and closer to the grandparents, in case of any meltdowns. strangers don’t make it their personal goal to “help” me overcome these habits. it has been easy to cut some things and people out of my life. a lot of village folks were walking by the bus while all this was happening, each one seemed to stop and stare at me. this room is partially separated from the other main-floor living spaces by a fireplace in a stone hearth. 