but something like that seems just a little too far for us to even get our heads around. once you speak to her then you can make an informed decision on whether to invite her to the wedding or not.
if you don't want to think about it too much before the big day there is always the option of waiting and try to sort things after. it really is what will help you have a clear mind before the big day most.
remember that the wedding is yours and your future husbands big day. don't aim to please anyone other than yourselves! 