it was nearly impossible to see him . save yourself before it 's too late . '' as she appears , i turn to her and say , `` come , sister , and join us in celebration , we- '' but she is plainly not in the mood for celebration of any kind . unless and until you 're ready to commit to an us , do n't you dare ask me to call it anything else . it made me feel lost and empty . `` you man up , and you tell your engineer that you have a different opinion . '' 