you to be happy. your parents are from a generation that had a different idea about weddings. try compromising with their ideas. the key is to tell them how you feel and respect their wishes, while sticking to your own vision of an intimate wedding. in this review, i will have quick access to them when needed (i.e. i remember). hopefully, you and your students can make some use of these sites as well.
finally, if you know of some useful web sites that are helpful in this same way, please send them to me so that i can add them to this review. 