she stared off into space most of the time unless one of us asked her a question . it had n't even occurred to them to blame us . it was n't perfect like you want to believe it was . '' i think you should take the opportunity to understand who it is that you 're going after . it is his way , not mine so do not ask . you may be right , but its worth asking anyway . 8 may have been the best thing i ever did , but in a strange way , i almost forgot it . 