but it had taken him less than ten seconds of watching her read to his little nephew to realize that all the brilliant analysis in the world did n't mean a damn thing when it came to love . how does anyone make this a routine work ? the first bedroom was small and cramped . we have a lot of catching up to do , lei-li . in brief , stuttering words she told him what happened . `` but why are you watching them ? '' she felt bad for her most of the time , and tried to give her space . 