when you care for an aging parent surprises and frustration come with the territory. if not completely daughter, then only friendly. for the budget to work, you may need to divide the spend between the two pools. i generally like to use the plain ones, so that i can season them up myself. probably everyday or close to, we'd either go to someone's house or they would come to ours. personal safety for folks living in the area is most important. or his way of painting that chair (sometimes over and again) that keep us coming back to look at his work. 