were n't the host and hostess supposed to greet guests before they took their seats , not arrive last and have everyone stand at attention before them ? `` they were white men , not red . i wasnt real keen on the idea of spending the night in a cave without a sleeping bag or blanket . i asked god to remove him from my thoughts . `` still working on it , '' he said , then at my peeved silence , added , `` can you come out tomorrow , say at ten ? '' 