that you march to your own drummer or whatever . it had been such a long day and i was so tired . `` you ... want me to cook for you ? '' whose new wife always seemed to suffer emergencies at the last minute that kept him from visiting more often , especially now that the baby was born . `` not the sort of word you 'd expect a guy like him to have in his vocabulary . '' he honestly thought that it was my choice to have no home . 