and now we have you in our family , and i could n't be more thankful . '' it was the question desperately sought , but all were afraid to ask . when you laugh , i want to laugh . i grin at the t-shirts as we walk past on our way down to our seats . `` i 'm not going to live to see the end of this war . '' the officer tilted his head and looked at her with confusion . he had often when they were young , but just not for a very long time . 