people, instead just offer each person help with one thing in particular. for one friend, you can offer to take them dress shopping. for another, you can take on decorating their bridal shower. having specific tasks per person helps you stay organized and less overwhelmed, since now you know what you need to do. meet. you don't have to "perform a miracle" in order for this to start working. remember that natural law is always working. start small and go from there. you will be amazed at the results. you will have a whole new appreciation for "what goes around comes around". 