up-front that this happens, because it’s so hard for me to stay in touch with people no matter how much i actually care about them.
and it’s hard to deal with this in a world where people measure how much you care by how much you think about someone and stay in touch with them. i have the problem that i can care very much about someone, and in fact have a very close relationship with them, yet forget about them for weeks or months at a time, and fail to communicate with them for years at a time. if my friends want to maintain a relationship with me, then they 