maybe differently but anyone at that age goes on a journey to discover who they are . i manage to say , `` we need to stop . '' where there was fire , ashes remain . she struggled to make sense of it . there were voice mails from corinne i refused to torture myself by listening to , but i could see he had n't answered her or called her in a while . worse , what she really wanted to do was get up , go over to him , and sit in his lap . 