don’t even have to think so much because it’s become so natural to you the other day i was at one of my friend’s house and i was there with my son and she has three kids and her daughter who’s about eight or nine years old got a splinter in her toe and she was crying and saying, “mommy my foot hurts. i’m in so much pain.” and she was focused on the pain in her toe and she was crying. and my son went to go give her a hug. in a moment she shifted from crying and being upset to oh and her face lit up because 