Victim playing playing the victim. The problem is intensified once a pattern of victimization has been internalised, perhaps in the form of a double bind. Object relations theory has explored the way possession by a false self can create a permanent sense of victimisation – a sense of always being in the hands of an external fate. To break the hold of the negative complex, and to escape the passivity of victimhood, requires taking responsibility for one's own desires and long-term actions. Victim playing Victim playing (also known as playing the victim, victim card or self-victimization) is the fabrication of victimhood for
Always True to You in My Fashion Always True to You in My Fashion "Always True to You in My Fashion" is a 1948 show tune by Cole Porter, written for the musical "Kiss Me, Kate". It is based on "Non Sum Qualis Eram Bonae sub Regno Cynarae," a similarly ironic poem by the English Decadent poet Ernest Dowson (1867–1900), which has the refrain 'I have been faithful to thee, Cynara, in my fashion,' and which was probably inspired by Dowson's lifelong friend Adelaide Foltinowicz, who never returned his devotion. The phrase "faithful in my fashion" entered the language before the song was written, and was the