Victim playing playing the victim. The problem is intensified once a pattern of victimization has been internalised, perhaps in the form of a double bind. Object relations theory has explored the way possession by a false self can create a permanent sense of victimisation – a sense of always being in the hands of an external fate. To break the hold of the negative complex, and to escape the passivity of victimhood, requires taking responsibility for one's own desires and long-term actions. Victim playing Victim playing (also known as playing the victim, victim card or self-victimization) is the fabrication of victimhood for
John Bain (soccer) League. He is currently married to Shannon Bain. They have three boys; Cameron, McEwan, and Stirling. John Bain (soccer) John Bain (born 3 June 1957 in Falkirk, Scotland) is a retired Scottish-US soccer midfielder who currently coaches youth soccer in the United States. Bain began his professional career in England before moving to the United States in 1978. Over his twenty-year playing career, Bain played for numerous leagues and teams, both indoors and out. After retiring from playing professionally, he has coached at the professional, youth club and high school levels in the US. Although born in Scotland, Bain's father