True self and false self if responded to by the mother, become the basis for the continuing development of the true self. However, when what Winnicott was careful to describe as good enough parenting – i.e., not necessarily perfect! – was "not" in place, the infant's spontaneity was in danger of being encroached on by the need for compliance with the parents' wishes/expectations. The result for Winnicott could be the creation of what he called the false self, where "Other people's expectations can become of overriding importance, overlaying or contradicting the original sense of self, the one connected to the very roots of one's being".
Always True to You in My Fashion own sick way, I'll always stay true to you". Always True to You in My Fashion "Always True to You in My Fashion" is a 1948 show tune by Cole Porter, written for the musical "Kiss Me, Kate". It is based on "Non Sum Qualis Eram Bonae sub Regno Cynarae," a similarly ironic poem by the English Decadent poet Ernest Dowson (1867–1900), which has the refrain 'I have been faithful to thee, Cynara, in my fashion,' and which was probably inspired by Dowson's lifelong friend Adelaide Foltinowicz, who never returned his devotion. The phrase "faithful in my fashion" entered the