Congressman Michael C. Burgess, M.D. P.O. Box 2334 Denton, TX 76202 (940) 783-1738 kim.garza@burgessforcongress.com
In my social circle, showers are held 1 to 3 months before the wedding. The shower invitations would be sent out about a month before the shower. Wedding invitations are usually sent out 8 to 10 weeks before the wedding. So it is typical for the shower invitations to go out before the wedding invitations.
I had never heard, before The Knot, that the wedding invitations must go out first. It's essential that all shower guests receive wedding invitations, also. If it will make you feel better though, go ahead and send the wedding invitations out at 11 weeks, but use the original RSVP date. The 4 week notice for the shower is perfect.