Find your local Judo class. Look to make sure there are people there of your own size and weight. You can learn the most by training with people who are a similar size to yourself. But make sure that the coach is a Black (or Red) Belt (the highest rank, depending on your country), especially above 1st degree.
unassertive - inclined to timidity or lack of self-confidence; a shy unassertive person. 1  nonaggressive, unaggressive - not aggressive; not given to fighting or assertiveness. 2  timid - showing fear and lack of confidence.
normative. adj. 1. implying, creating, or prescribing a norm or standard, as in language: normative grammar. 2. expressing value judgments or prescriptions as contrasted with stating facts: normative economics. 3. of, relating to, or based on norms. (ËnÉr mÉ tÉªv). adj.