Find your local Judo class. Look to make sure there are people there of your own size and weight. You can learn the most by training with people who are a similar size to yourself. But make sure that the coach is a Black (or Red) Belt (the highest rank, depending on your country), especially above 1st degree.
unassertive - inclined to timidity or lack of self-confidence; a shy unassertive person. 1  nonaggressive, unaggressive - not aggressive; not given to fighting or assertiveness. 2  timid - showing fear and lack of confidence.
observant definition: The definition of observant is someone who is good at noticing things, or someone who follows the rules and requirements of a particular religion. (adjective) A person who always spots when you get a new haircut or a new outfit is...