Personality change. Mentally-This is going to be the hardest part of change, because when people do change their personality it's hard for them to stick to it. Don't think it's fake because you want to improve yourself. There is no harm in becoming a better person, just as long as you do the right thing.
Widows or widowers benefits based on age can start any time between age 60 and full retirement age as a survivor. If the benefits start at an earlier age, they are reduced a fraction of a percent for each month before full retirement age. If a person receives widow's or widower's benefits, and will qualify for a retirement benefit that's more than their survivors benefit, they can switch to their own retirement benefit as early as age 62 or as late as age 70.
What benefits can widows and widowers receive from Social Security? Widows and widowers are entitled to receive survivors benefits from Social Security if their spouse worked long enough paying Social Security payroll taxes to qualify. The amount of time the deceased spouse must have worked depends on age at death. But no one needs to have earned more than 40 Social Security credits -- 10 years of work for most people -- for a surviving spouse to claim widowers or widows benefits. In cases involving minor children, working just a year and a half out of the most recent three years can be enough to guarantee benefits for a surviving spouse caring for those children.