Personality change. Mentally-This is going to be the hardest part of change, because when people do change their personality it's hard for them to stick to it. Don't think it's fake because you want to improve yourself. There is no harm in becoming a better person, just as long as you do the right thing.
Widows or widowers benefits based on age can start any time between age 60 and full retirement age as a survivor. If the benefits start at an earlier age, they are reduced a fraction of a percent for each month before full retirement age. If a person receives widow's or widower's benefits, and will qualify for a retirement benefit that's more than their survivors benefit, they can switch to their own retirement benefit as early as age 62 or as late as age 70.
Information You Need to Apply for Widow's, Widower's or Surviving Divorced Spouse's Benefits - Form SSA-10. You can apply for benefits by calling our national toll-free service at 1-800-772-1213 (TTY 1-800-325-0778) or visiting your local Social Security office. An appointment is not required, but if you call ahead and schedule one, it may reduce the time you spend waiting to apply.