Personality change. Mentally-This is going to be the hardest part of change, because when people do change their personality it's hard for them to stick to it. Don't think it's fake because you want to improve yourself. There is no harm in becoming a better person, just as long as you do the right thing.
Widows or widowers benefits based on age can start any time between age 60 and full retirement age as a survivor. If the benefits start at an earlier age, they are reduced a fraction of a percent for each month before full retirement age. If a person receives widow's or widower's benefits, and will qualify for a retirement benefit that's more than their survivors benefit, they can switch to their own retirement benefit as early as age 62 or as late as age 70.
The check was 16 months old, which is what is known as a stale dated check. As I have been told, checks older than 90 days are never supposed to be cashed or credited. When I spoke with the bank manager at Sovereign Bank, he said he was really shocked, that cashing a 16 month old check was, as far as he knew, illegal.