The noun HARNESS has 2 senses: 1. a support consisting of an arrangement of straps for holding something to the body (especially one supporting a person suspended from a parachute) 2. stable gear consisting of an arrangement of leather straps fitted to a draft animal so that it can be attached to and pull a cart.
But there seems to be no word for a parent who has experienced the death of a child. It's not an official term, but I am thankful to Karla Holloway for finding this word. Vilomah is a Sanskrit word that literally means, against a natural order.. A child should never die before their parents.
Shalom, in the liturgy and in the transcendent message of the Christian scriptures, means more than a state of mind, of being or of affairs. Derived from the Hebrew root shalam â meaning to be safe or complete, and by implication, to be friendly or to reciprocate. Shalom, as term and message, seems to encapsulate a reality and hope of wholeness for the individual, within societal relations, and for the whole world.