The Japanese have a term, kenzoku, which translated literally means family.. The connotation suggests a bond between people who've made a similar commitment and who possibly therefore share a similar destiny.
The laws in different states vary on whether a stepparent in this situation may have child custody rights or pay child support. In some states and situations, the stepparent may be ordered to pay child support if the stepparent loses primary physical custody of the child.
For people who owe support By law, you must comply with a support order from a court or with a written agreement to pay support. The amount of support set out in the order or agreement is the amount that you need to pay. You cannot refuse to pay child support because the other parent will not let you see your children.