Resurrecting Sex: Resolving Sexual Problems and Rejuvenating Your Relationship
Whether the difficulties arise out of middle-aged boredom,  serious illness or emotional troubles, Schnarch (Passionate  Marriage), director of the Marriage & Family Health Center in  Evergreen, Colo., offers a comprehensive guide for couples with  intimacy problems. The book includes easily digested chapters on  the basics of sex, how sexual relationships work, the use of  drugs and surgery, psychological and emotional issues and  orgasm. In a straightforward and comforting tone, Schnarch  emphasizes the emotional aspect of sexual problems (even when  there is an underlying physiological cause) and guides couples  through the often difficult changes they have to make in their  relationship in and out of bed. Using examples from among his  own clients, he explores the way anxiety and tension in other  aspects of a marriage can carry over into sexual relationships  and gives advice about how couples can better approach each  other. While much of his counsel isn't unique, Schnarch's  positive, candid approach is appealing, and his tone is  authoritative without being threatening. In fact, Schnarch says,  "In the course of my life I've had every sexual dysfunction a  man can have... I know about embarrassment, self-rejection,  blaming myself or my partner, and withdrawing when I 'failed.' "  There are no quick fixes or promises of overnight  transformation, but those who want to make substantive changes  in their relationship should first reach for this book.Copyright 2002 Reed Business Information, Inc.