qqp question1: Is it possible for an abusive relationships to become healthy? And is it possible that someone who abuses his partner really loves him at the same time? question2: I've been in a relationship for the last 4 months. The problem is that my boyfriend uses abusive language with me. I told him I don't like it, but he says it makes us cool. I need someone who respects me more than loves me. What should I do?