title: get unselected list using jquery multi select box
body: <p>i am using a <a href="http://quasipartikel.at/2009/05/10/jqueryui-multiselect/" rel="nofollow">jquery multi select</a> box to show and move between two lists. i want to retrieve the list of elements which have not been selected. i am trying this right now:</p>
  
  <pre><code>var notSelected = $("#myList").find('option').attr('selected',false);
  </code></pre>
  
  <p>but when i try an alert, it gives me type of <strong>notSelected</strong> as <strong>HTMLElement</strong> . is this the right technique? how am i supposed to get the list from this? is there any other way?</p>