uh that helped me but yeah my friends who were same age as me who didn't grow facial hair they got bullied lah, not old enough you know because they they were they they thought you know because they're small boys and what not eighteen nineteen year old boys you know entering the army get bullied to do a lot of things that the other older boys don't want to do


no no no no you don't understand some of my friends are still hairless, ah I don't know whether it's due to ethnicity or some genetic code and what not but like you know some people are just hairless


I have a friend who's like twenty six this year, he can't grow a full mustache just like, patches here and there, ya you know like I'm already melting right now and it's not even that hot all things considered


I suppose but you know end I mean end of the day like, I do feel like uh


global warming is a thing that we all need to play a big part in it it wasn't like this when I was twenty years old, hello hello hello <tamil>நான் தினந்தோறும்:naan thinandthoorum</tamil> aircon <tamil>பயன்படுத்த மாட்டேன்:payanpaduththa matdeen</tamil> alright it's only at night everyday every night not everyday


at all, really, interesting I would assume like someone like you would be using it a fair bit


you look like some spoiled brat lah let me guess let me guess alright let me guess you don't use aircon because you know you got sinus, interesting interesting but next time in the future when you want to have a house would you want to you know have an air conditioner


so what's the point of having it, why don't, interesting so what are days that you can not use the fan is this an example of


it is, I mean it's, look at the sun like it's taunting us, but yeah man so, what time do you sleep every day


you not tired


interesting I've always been able to sleep by like eleven thirty you know that's when I start getting sleepy and stuff


so right now I've gone back to school I'm actually doing my PHD I mean what do you expect you know after a while my that's one job gets boring you know when I was young I want to do my PHD but I couldn't because there wasn't any openings so right now I'm actually uh pursuing my PHD at


university of Klang, that's right, ya Klang is in Malaysia, people alright okay so, the running joke is this


alright it's university of Klang but I like to call it Klang, it is, you can Google this, you can Google this


cause <tamil>அது ஒரு மட்டமான:athu oru matdamaana</tamil> uni, but I went there because I felt like I have something to offer to the study of uh malayan indian populations, uh it doesn't have to be recognised in Singapore when it comes to PHD around the world you know what PHD what is a PHD what do you think a PHD is


no as in do you know what a PHD is, as in what does a PHD entail what's the purpose of a PHD


PHD is to create knowledge, it is to literally create knowledge and creating knowledge is not easy when you are producing something totally new


so ya what did you think it was, just getting the doctor in front of your name, that's where people get it wrong it's not about education it's about creating knowledge like literally doing something that no one else has done before and that's across all the PH


yeah but that's it's it's creating new form of knowledge, it's a lot about knowledge, uh no no no that's where your wrong I'm not gaining anything I'm creating it


so where do you plan to eat next week what do you want to eat, I think so


where, oh I've heard of that


(mmhmm), oh that's one of the good things of having a PHD I'm back being like PHD student I'm still a student, yeah


boring, everyday do the same things then have to entertain my customers, talk to them as if they are gods


it's so, I don't know how to say lah it's very, so boring to always do the same thing every day, the same mundane stuff, that, we all don't really wanna do at all


but, you know sometimes customers, makes , makes me happy because you know, some customers lor they're nice lah not all lah, most of them are just


most of them have the thoughts that they're very superior towards me lor, you leh, everyday go work, everyday come back work, no time to eat, no time to play


how you like your current life


every day like that complain very fun meh, !huh!, every day


then hor, every time tell you, [orh] but then whenever people tell you to do something like !wahpiang! eh very tired eh don't feel like doing eh


tell you do this cannot tell you do that cannot give you ten dollar not enough, give you more [orh] have to work this amount of hours have to exceed later I very tired


right or not, what, (hmm), but it's part and parcel of life


then what, I get ten dollars per hour also I slave, for the company what I get in return, get scolded, I get, err what


I get complaint, because of how I work, true or not, I mean the way, like like what all companies want is that, they want the end product


so technically speaking whenever we get the end product that's the end of it, but my company, wants me to what, [orh] end product must get the process you do your work also must follow mine


so why cannot let me do my own stuff I mean do the the way I want to do at least you still get the end product of what you desire for, don't tell me to <mandarin>做牛做马:zuo niu zuo ma</mandarin> but then not happy with what I do what is unfair for me when I'm working so hard


yet I don't get the appreciation that I've work hard for and my, my my efforts are never appreciated once, every day end work, not even a good job even when, I what, I give all my mental strength all my physical strength to the company for that day itself tomorrow is another day yes


but, the fact that I've, used up all the energy I have for that day, to strive for what I think is for the better good of the company, yet all they do is, !aiya!


like that only you think what <mandarin>很厉害:hen li hai</mandarin> meh <mandarin>了不起:liao bu qi</mandarin> meh, do something better and show me lah it's never enough for them, and that is why I always tell you I'm I'm very tired, like, I reach home I just wanna bathe I wanna sleep


don't wanna think so much don't even wanna talk, that's sometimes, but, other times is that [orh] you know, I end work already today I just wanna have a chat with you you know, just to pick up on where we left off before lah


but it's not every time we get to do that because yes I'm tired you are tired, but on days that I'm not tired you might be tired so


so, this type of things is like to me is that, must I must think for you likewise you must think about my stand also


it's not easy, err what, in this society right now, it's not easy for us to actually, you know be be so so aware of how this, whole dog eat dog society works


you you know what I mean it's so it's so difficult that, at our age right now we should actually be studying instead, but we still don't get appreciated for what we've done for them


and when we reach home all you want to do is you know, have a quick shower, then rest on a bed, and then tomorrow, we will just continue slaving for the company again, think about it so many people of our age what are they doing every day


then


that's all they do what, right or not


we have our different sayings, asking or not you shouldn't be disturbing me when I'm I'm trying to converse, you should never do that, it's called basic respect for the for the other person you are talking to


so how, how's your day going


why you don't want to let him know leh, why didn't you let him know


and you went at what time, and you go until what time, one hour later, by right you have what thirty minutes of break you went for one hour, is that fair to the others who went for thirty minutes


well that's a rule is the rules and regulations of the company we should actually follow it regardless, of what others are doing, so that you know, if, they actually see that eh this this person ah


went actually went for thirty minutes only leh not like the others leh eh, maybe they will prioritise you more they might help you more they might even give you more benefits in that sense, regardless of what type of benefits lah


that's, in general term, for you to talk about specific roles like eh your <mandarin>组长:zu zhang</mandarin> eh then you you are the, member of your, leader sort of like a subcategory like that


so, if you, like, listen to what he has to say and you follow with what he's actually saying, one day he might be like eh


maybe I use her more often lor I give her more schedules, know I let her do this let her do that or I might even train her to be an IC, then one day your pay might even increase


then, so what he's doing is so what he's doing is all paperwork ah


these are the people you shouldn't work for at all


ya [loh] you are a girl what, he wants you to work there what, but he wants you to work there because, is, of your gender


it's not because whether you are good at working or not, you might be good you might not I don't know I don't work with you, but the fact that you are getting more than the others just because you are a female, it's so unfair, this is what I mean by the society is very cruel


it's a dog eat dog society, they are never nice because you are hardworking, they are only nice to you because <mandarin>他们看得顺眼:ta men kan de shun yan</mandarin> that's it, that's the worst part about this whole


generation, what can you do you can't change anything, what can we do complain lor, every day like that lor, right or not you cannot say much also what


complain about how you feel is unfair lah, but you are a female and you're working under them you don't have any complaints if I were working with you I will feel like, I wouldn't want to work for someone like this at all


I rather not, I rather slave for a company like mine currently, than to work with someone, who only gives me my schedule


based on whether I'm a guy or girl, they are just lucky that they're they're an organisation big enough, that nobody dares to talk about them


and honestly speaking if the owner of the organisation, those that, the people who are working with him, is because that the one who gives them the schedules, likes girls more than guys


what would he said, ya lor same thing lor, precisely, he's earning his money based on how efficient they're working not because they're all females


this is why a lot of people emphasise on gender equality, that's the reason for it, am I right to say so


why, why, ya why


so is so is he still working there, but he don't get a lot of schedules ah


normal is what, true but you are getting everything you want what


with all your other female friends right, all your other female friends also get their schedules they want right, most of them mah, well you work with them, so you might see them more often than you see the other guys


that's how I think lah from what you tell me, right or not, I just feel that these type of companies really, should emphasise more on their human resources department, rather than the efficient efficiency of working


if they were to focus on that I believe that efficiency also go up, so unfair to work for a company that only thinks about [orh], err, what's that called err <mandarin>女重男轻:nv zhong nan qing</mandarin> something like that


I don't I don't remember the phrase for it but, ya so unfair you know, if you a guy and you get this type of, things happening on you how would you feel


feels so wrong on so many levels leh, I don't even wanna work there anymore


it's called manpower resource, no


is it


(mmhmm)


they are bigger already what why would they care about people like you, about giving you incentives even you hit the, uh weekly hour rate


and then what <mandarin>少你一个:shao ni yi ge</mandarin> maybe <mandarin>多三个:duo san ge</mandarin> you'll also never know one, right or not, they are doing this is because, their company's already big enough


they have tons of manpower resources they can find people any time they want to, and that is why they don't focus on incentives, they focus on the money they can earn


right or not, everybody is working for the money what, but the other company is offering incentives, it's because in the long run when more people follow them they also can earn money what <mandarin>到时候你看:dao shi hou ni kan</mandarin> lor <mandarin>他们还给你:ta men huan gei ni</mandarin> incentives mah, Gehgehkigeh


they won't give you anything one, and after they become as big as your current company, that's just how I feel, once they have earned their foundation they won't care about those minor minor stuffs already


no, but, the fact that, this company that's offering incentives right now, it's not better than your current company, right, if they keep offering incentives they keep giving benefits to their staffs who work for them one day they'll be better than your current one


company that is offering incentives already bigger than your current one, do you think they would still, continue giving incentives giving your benefits your movie vouchers all these, they wouldn't what to them is a waste of money


why would I waste this type of money when I already have people willing to work for me, now is they're trying to build their foundation they want people willing to work for them, and once they have hit their quota their limit they will stop all these, that's when they will focus more on eh


[orh] and and they will never think that [orh] <mandarin>怎样把我的钱:zen yang ba wo de qian</mandarin> ah <mandarin>让我的:rang wo de</mandarin> staff <mandarin>去享受一点让他们肯跟我做工做久一点:qu xiang shou yi dian rang ta men ken gen wo zuo gong zuo jiu yi dian</mandarin> no, by then their turnover of staffs is already very fast


all they have to do is just find their connections find their networks, gather more people around or who want work for me tell me my company big enough I can earn a lot of money you follow me you got schedules you can find work easily, but then they can do this style already what


right or not, and this type of minor things like incentives all these they won't bother at all, cause, to them is like pointless already, all they want to do right now is increase their profit, and not how to


how to minimise their loss, that's how I feel lah, regret what


told you to work with me already lor, right or not


why eh very difficult meh very tiring meh or is it very disgraceful to you, then


Sian, or is it cause you cannot make friends already, then


then what do you wanna do


up till now, what extra money


did you, ya lor then why you talk about the extra money, her in the future, in the future


that's like, how many hours per day, if you go and count


is it you work there cause you also no brain


!aiya! tell you what ah, can earn earn, don't have to think about what, uh if only I can do this I can earn more, that's what I always tell you also


there's no point in doing something that you cannot hit, why not focus on what you can do, establish your own foundation, and work towards your better self


do they even give you the extra few hours would they even give it to you


but you're working shift two and shift three what, to what


that's up to you to decide lah provided you can make it lor like I said lah again and again, if not get your get your rest that you


actually need, and not, make yourself so tired just because you want to hit that forty four hours mark, right, one day you gonna crumble one tell you


(hmm), do you understand, it's never good to put too much stress on your own body, it's not gonna work out at all, do you understand I'm not


how am I putting too much stress on my body, I have enough rest every day, you think I very stress no, I'm just mentally stressed about how I'm going to deal with the


customers that's gonna come on that day that's it, but the thing is that, even if I'm very stressed about those few customers is only for that day, I don't bring it to the next day


there's no point for you to always, overstrain your yourself, unless it's something that's very major something that's really bothering you for for very long


no, customers are not always right, just because just because you spend a little bit of money doesn't make you king in the restaurant you still gotta follow our rules and regulations if I deem you unfit to stay my restaurant you're going out you're not staying there at all


if you don't want to we can use force I can call the police on you, it's how you spend your money and how you treat your money what


no, it's not the case for every company at least not for mine, my boss respects how I view the customers, and when he hears both side of stories let's say he gets a complaint today by the customer, through email


or through phone regardless of whichever ways lah, once he hears that, he will get angry yes because why, it's like bringing his reputation down, in a sense right


but secondly is that, I don't feel I'm in the wrong what, then I explain my own perspective to my boss, but if you don't listen to me for what I slave so hard


because to me is that this customer is not treating me with respect, why should I give it to him respect comes and goes both ways, if I respect him and he don't, why should I continue doing it, like today also got one customer


I was shag already I was like tired already to the core already, !wah!, [orh] eh, he just eh come here, give me this one okay I give you respect, customer is always right they order they spend money


I treat them with respect, why you're bringing sales to my company, my boss will be happy when he sees my sales, right or not, secondly, I bring to you, you side-eye me that's one thing I can put it aside, but you don't order me around as if I'm your maid


I'm not personally serving you, I'm working for a restaurant, I'm not working for you am I right or not, so, you respect how I feel about this first lah


then when I bring for you already, you still give me attitude eh why like that why like that <mandarin>你不要不要:ni bu yao bu yao</mandarin> lah <mandarin>你不要来烦我:ni bu yao lai fan wo</mandarin> mah go and find someone else to serve you lor


you don't like the way I serve you then don't call for me all the time, you want water I bring to you, but you keep asking for water although it's free of charge how is it fair for other for the others that spend that spends money there, this is my own point of view


but I don't say anything, because they've already spend money on food, technically is also bringing sales to the company, like I said back to my main point sorry, is that


that's how I always feel, you don't you should always treat every human with respect, okay not even humans even animals like dogs all this, okay let's say today let's say you work with me in the restaurant


you are you are the you are the staff there okay, then got one customer comes with a dog, you serve the customer leh, then <mandarin>那只狗:na zhi gou</mandarin> leh <mandarin>你不用给它喝水:ni bu yong gei ta he shui</mandarin> ah


right or not, so it's all about respect what when it boils down to that, if you don't respect the dog, the owner thinks that eh, I come here you say this one pet friendly restaurant


come already then you don't even treat my dog with respect next time I come here for what, I lose this customer there's no returns of customers already, right or not, so a lot of customers comes and go, come one time never come already


who would want that I would rather have my own regulars what, I treat the dog with respect I treat the customers with respect, I even play with his baby !huh! eh hello hello like that, then <mandarin>至少他也要看:zhi shao ta ye yao kan</mandarin> like !wah! <mandarin>这个:zhe ge</mandarin> restaurant customer service <mandarin>很好以后我回来:hen hao yi hou wo hui lai</mandarin> eh <mandarin>他对我这样好:ta dui wo zhe yang hao</mandarin> eh then I treat him with respect also next time we still can be friends [orh] maybe next time I I can I might even get


right or not, and another point of mine is that, a lot of people tends to do things because of the benefits of it, they don't do things just


out of pure goodwill one, right or not


give your life to them meh no what you are there to earn money also what, that's one of the benefits you have lor you can earn money, right, but what do they have in return


right or not, benefits come err goes both ways one, it's how you see it only not everybody is so good hearted one, and not everybody, will show you, that, they just want the benefits


you get what I mean, to me lah, maybe, to put it in a more, like, how to say, , in my okay to put it in my own words lah maybe I've been in this society longer than you've been


maybe I started working earlier than you did, maybe I stop studying earlier than you also right or not, [orh] then nothing to do go find friends


laze around don't even work, like, waste my whole youth away, so that's when I started working what, even before when I enlisted into army, right


I learn a lot of things, and it's very simple, it's how it's only how you view them, it's very stupid actually, the way they see things ah it's like oh


I must get this I must get this okay never mind I beat around the bush just so that I can get this, through what, my act of pure goodwill pure innocence that way people will think like [orh] I deserve this they will give it to me


and then, they will just come to you like !wah! cannot get this, my god I must get this I must get this they'll do something else, they cannot go go to you through the soft way they will come with you at the hard way what


right, and that's, right or not cannot get means cannot get, just suck it up and move on


don't don't brood about it like oh you oh I need this I need this, there's no point what then once other people get it like [orh] you jealous, for what, work hard for it lah, right


(hmm), how we reach here is all because, that, you know


these are all the thoughts that I really wanted to tell you, like I want you to, at least learn something from what I've went through, learn how things work around this society and once you grow up you have at least little bit of knowledge can work your way through


you might even smoke your way through it, why not, right or not now you working already, I mean even though is part time you still can see some people is so two faced to you what, am I right


(mmhmm), see what


can be true can not true [orh], can be true to a certain extent lah, who say part time cannot be two faced one


then you Kena already what


good what, how's that a good retirement job


you have to use your physical strength, it's not good for retirement also what, you know <mandarin>老人家:lao ren jia</mandarin> cannot stay in the cold for too long also right, choose what


air con, ya they cannot stay in the air con for too long, , regardless of jacket or not they cannot stay inside for too long it's not good for their bones


do you know that I mean I'm just saying lah, that's what I've heard about elderlies lah like my mom, my mom is still very fit but she cannot stay in the cold for too long


you know even sometimes she sleep she cannot even on the fan it's too, then you think about air con if fan can fan that little bit of cold ah can make her have <mandarin>风湿:feng shi</mandarin> ah what will air con


towards elderly people who are retiring right or not, I'm not cherry picking your words just saying I'm just, informing you giving you general knowledge


so what else do you have to tell me about your day, why is it boring


you like working what you like working so much every day work work work don't want to meet me all, ya it's because we stay together dumbass, what you mean by salty


that's what you're doing right now to me right, what a lie, you know you're so bad at lying


ya then you continue lying to me ah, (hmm), never what, better not then


good what you're earning ten per hour to do nothing eh, ya then you still complain boring this is what I mean


like what, like what


just because you don't want to do stowing, but you're getting paid to work there not to sharpen pencils, can go help them finish faster can go home together mah


!huh! take your own sweet time, nothing wrong if you're not paid to do so


but you're paid, ya doesn't mean you cannot help out others mah, my role is a bartender, I still do waiter, I still serve food I still take order I even


usher customers in, who want to stay there to work [orh] precisely


that is why they're taking their own sweet time, and that is the that is something the company should enforce on, cannot finish OT [orh] at most I pay you [orh] finish your job then go home [orh], !huh! what very hard to understand meh


!hanna! then you today don't finish today's job then tomorrow how


but then not everybody has the same role every day right, so you don't finish today you adding more job to the person that's gonna work stowing the next day what, then you bring it forward again what


then the following day the stover got more things to do again what


so night shift better lah, do nothing mah, boring work here boring work there boring


you like so many varieties one meh


still money what, want to earn money you still wanna like the things you do, there's no such thing, it's not like every day can do what you like what


I would rather do the same routine every day


no lah that's provided you wanna work night shift lah, not that you have to work night shift just for the money, like you said just now your sleep, your routine for sleeping is


uh I mean I mean you don't really sleep at night, so, if you actually go and work, that night shift that period, just that you've to do the same things everyday lor I mean, that would that is what I would do actually


ya every day do the same thing, then I just do do do <mandarin>做完了回家明天起来:zuo wan le hui jia ming tian qi lai</mandarin> !aiya!


am I right to say so


lucky you didn't lor


you don't see the sun you don't see the moon, or another saying is that you wake up cannot see sun, you go home the sun also not there already


ya lor, not everything is so easy


what if they get paid leh, ya lor, so maybe they get paid extra that's why they stayed also mah


you know I work before I told you, MBS, my shift ya I started at six PM ended at four AM, I don't sleep at night also mah


but every time I reach home ya it's very fun, but whenever I end work already is very very tiring, I ended work at like, three o'clock one hour nothing to do


lie down on the floor and slept there, for one solid hour, no, on the banquet there, ya


I'm damn tired already, the <mandarin>好玩:hao wan</mandarin> is the process itself, the time when I was actually working, not when I end work


very tiring one lah night shift, night shift seems fun lah because, well a lot of youngsters like to be out at night, but once they work at night, it's a different story already


honestly all your bruises all those cuts are uncalled for lah


then <mandarin>跌来跌去:die lai die qu</mandarin> as if you're like humpy dumpy like that, !hey! what is true what you're always careless what you don't even look out on the road eh


you bleeding right, why you since young leh you always <mandarin>笨手笨脚:ben shou ben jiao</mandarin> one leh


never once took care of yourself properly I don't know why also


when primary one, don't know take care of yourself lor, always get injured here and there even until now how old already still get injured, right or not


no, recently you sleep until your leg numb that one leh


is it still recent, from primary one until last last year


right or not, always tell you go out must be must be careful, must look out, always so oblivious, now you better make sure


the same thing happens to you again how, gonna laugh it off, no right


ya but then you keep spending on me what


ya, nine months lah, you don't even know right maybe expire already right


you don't think, you open this this year or last year, last year means expire already what <mandarin>八月了现在九月了:ba yue le xian zai jiu yue le</mandarin> leh


now is already september leh, you spam it's already expired you still you still dare to use you opened it last year leh, so is it last year or this year


when, that was last year eh, I don't know


but last year until now is already expired, I don't know lah you want use you use lor I not using it anymore, (hmm)


eh, eh B


as if I know like that, didn't see it properly, I'm tired, sick of the nonsense too, just kidding


, throw lah throw lah there's no point in keeping it anymore also


that's all I can tell you, I don't need


for what I don't want a new one anyway, no need, nah I don't feel like it, just don't disturb me with it thank you


!aiya! just keep it for yourself lah <mandarin>要用自己用:yao yong zi ji yong</mandarin> okay anyways, I'm done talking here, wanna have a good rest and I feel like sleeping right now


how was your work today


ha


okay [orh], but, but they pay me <mandarin>十块钱:shi kuai qian</mandarin> per hour, to do nothing much, you know today, I was assigned co prep


it's like just need to, like <mandarin>开:kai</mandarin> and <mandarin>关:guan</mandarin> all the bags, from like twelve fifteen to nine forty five, then after that, then after that, uh cause I I only <mandarin>做:zuo</mandarin> co pack right then after that hor


uh like when the cold pickers they go pick in the chiller right, then, cause like start at every thirty mah, then <mandarin>他们:ta men</mandarin> pick <mandarin>出来了:chu lai le</mandarin> hor usually like only twelve like you know the clock hand


then they got nothing to do for the next thirty minute, then after that, they will come and help me fold bags the I mean like prep bags, then they like <mandarin>抢我的工作:qiang wo de gong zuo</mandarin> sia then <mandarin>我没有东西做:wo mei you dong xi zuo</mandarin> leh, then then I go toilet


like twenty minutes , then then after that, then after that uh in the toilet right, then got this the toilet auntie she thought I drop inside the toilet bowl


like she like <mandarin>小妹你掉进去马桶了:xiao mei ni diao jin qu ma tong le</mandarin> ah, then I very embarrassed then I come out, then after that I go back after such a long toilet break right


then after that you know got like a lot of like, big racks [orh], that one is for like like all the carts you prep the bag already right, then you can like prep on the, racks in advance cause no place to put <mandarin>那些:nei xie</mandarin> bags mah


then, I prep finish all the racks eh like I work there, a few months right first time eh, then after that like nine o'clock, it's like no more picking already, then after that


me and my friend don't want to go and stow, then after that, like we just sit down one place, then we just talk for forty five minutes


, no I where got complain


, then what you want me to say, you also like that what


!huh! then


what, what !huh! what how you work


(mmhmm), not <mandarin>零用钱:ling yong qian</mandarin> meh


ah just asking


alright, my day, I went for, I went for break at like


I went today today afternoon, I went for break at, three thirty, then after that, I didn't want to let the co IC know I go for break, then I walk behind


then after that, but <mandarin>他不懂:ta bu dong</mandarin> , !huh!, cause my break only thirty minute thirty minute what


three twenty three thirty, one hour later ah, ya, ya, but right


!huh! not everybody go thirty minutes just saying


regardless of what type of benefits lah, mine doesn't work like that mine is a big organisation they don't look at


people like us


one day he might be like a


but the thing is the person who like


he don't even work, on site eh, he work in the office, he don't know our face


by right I heard like, he bias to girls one then he will give girls more work days, unless like <mandarin>你是:ni shi</mandarin> like <mandarin>男的:nan de</mandarin> right, then you like #gam gam# with him ah


then he will like, like <mandarin>偷偷给你:tou tou gei ni</mandarin> shift, like <mandarin>给你多一点:gei ni duo yi dian</mandarin> shift, (hmm), but part time mah


and I'm the one getting the benefits also, but the thing is he don't work there


but what can you do


(mmhmm)


no lah, spoil my reputation


ya, but, you know got this uncle at work, like this indian uncle then you know the uncle that always give me food when I forget to buy food, then he


like he say he text the, the guy right, to book work, then after that he uh, like he actually sound out that is unfair, then after that


the guy say, like, uh, like the guy like <mandarin>不管:bu guan</mandarin> like that, then after that then, like he say the guy like quite rude, then after that he say <mandarin>他去:ta qu</mandarin> like complain uh


to like the higher ups like some, director or something ah then after that right <mandarin>他讲他:ta jiang ta</mandarin> director like <mandarin>也不管:ye bu guan</mandarin> leh


then after that he like gave up, cause, , cannot go through, yeah, , normal [orh]


uh like, like some schedules that he book he don't get lah but that's like normal lah like <mandarin>不是每个人都:bu shi mei ge ren dou</mandarin> like get everything you want what, I book early what


(hmm), no eh not all eh, don't know I never really ask


, ya


ha, eh


but I know you know, uh the organisation, is it is it human resource company


isn't that the same, no then then uh the one I'm under right, I heard is like <mandarin>他们他们:ta men ta men</mandarin> uh there for the organisation like


like ever since the organisation started in singapore, then after that the other one is like, I think <mandarin>去年才:qu nian cai</mandarin> like start working for this organisation one, ya


then then I heard right, that, that organisation they offer, like a lot more incentives like, like the number of hours like if you work a lot of hours in like <mandarin>一个:yi ge</mandarin> week hor, then <mandarin>他们会给你:ta men hui gei ni</mandarin> like vouchers like movie vouchers eh like according to the number of hours you work


then after that, then, like got this uncle he say like, err they like that right is to, is to build up their reputation so that they can like, like, win


like to be on par with like, the other company that has been like, there from the start, but then right this company hor like, tsk not good one leh like, like nothing much one leh like don't have don't have incentives


then they more strict also, but I mean like <mandarin>他们不怕:ta men bu pa</mandarin> like we just like quit and then go the other


but there will never they will never be equal what is is confirm what either <mandarin>一个比一个好:yi ge bi yi ge hao</mandarin> or something


why not they gain workers


but then I regret sia, like you know now they still giving the incentives right, remember that time <mandarin>我:wo</mandarin> MIA <mandarin>两个月:liang ge yue</mandarin> then we went to work elsewhere


then I heard right if you want to like, switch company [orh] you must like, you must quit your current company first then like <mandarin>三个月后:san ge yue hou</mandarin> then you can join the other company


that time I MIA two months eh should have wait like one more month then I come back, then I join the other company, !hais!, but that time I MIA I didn't know, like I didn't know about this like like they got incentives all cause


at that time I I don't have a lot of friends there yet, but I don't want work F&B eh


uh, no, don't know leh like that time I work at Ichiban Sushi then, now I like Sian already


of F&B, no, don't know leh just don't feel like working F&B [orh] like like I don't want to like, like, touch water, and like, you know


, I don't know, but I work this job is cause like, it was high, it was the highest paying one


that, that, I ever found, ya some more like plus the plus the like extra money, that time they work june then they got the extra money


I never work until june what, ha in the future, then you know, hours cap ah


forty four hour then if you work more than forty four hour right, not worth it meh


, but then if you look at it right the job not very tiring eh, and it's like repetitive eh like don't need use brain one eh I mean need a bit ah when you learn new things


but like overall like, like, like really don't need use brain one, !hey! what do you mean you are the one with no brain


but to me, like I'm trying to hit the forty four hours cause right now I'm working forty two


point five eh why not, why not I just, I just have to arrange for the schedule what cause you know, different shift got different number of hours


so shift three is the <mandarin>最少:zui shao</mandarin> hours one four point five, so if I want, then I can change what, shift one two three days a week then shift two three two days a week ah


ya, then you eh you also what


like


you know this is why, cause, like, find it very tiring, it's like imagine like you whole day lilke very tired already


then you still have to deal with customer bullshit then you cannot say anything cause customers are always right, then then, what do you mean no, according to the company lah just because you spend a little bit of money doesn't make you king in the restaurant you still got follow our rules and regulations if I didn't you unfit to stay my restaurant there going out, according to the company lah


but when you undergo training your boss always tell you customer is right first right


and another point of month is that


ya, how did we reach here, I was gonna talk about why I don't want work in F&B


, okay eh actually, part time still okay full time, then you can see


cause, cause like part timers all like don't care one what then, remember that time <mandarin>我:wo</mandarin> intern, then after that the, the, that girl


the executive ah, she working full time what then she like, want to <mandarin>讨好:tao hao</mandarin> all that's why she very two faced mah, then now who here like everybody work part time just like, earning money while killing time who will wanna go and be two faced


unless you are full time ah and you got benefit for being two faced ah, right you think about it,


maybe for <mandarin>你的是这样:ni de shi zhe yang</mandarin> lor cause your one is like a small establishment what, my one is like, like, really wherever I walk right is part timers


ya the full timer all like you know the manager all, they are also part timers eh, like the supervisor all, then I got this senior in poly


cause like my one is like level two mah, then <mandarin>他做:ta zuo</mandarin> like at level three is like the office admin work all one, then recently she come down level two


like as supervisor, like work part time uh full time, cause like she do like, I think she work like everyday, then at level three some more like do all the office work


uh <mandarin>他:ta</mandarin> work part time cause, she want to go back, cause she like, in uni, then she want focus on studying


, K lah but it's a good retirement job, retirement job


ha don't need use brain one , err don't really need also I mean like, but you know you can choose one, I mean like if you are old of course <mandarin>他们不会叫你一直在:ta men bu hui jiao ni yi zhi zai</mandarin> chiller ah unless <mandarin>你自己愿意:ni zi ji yuan yi</mandarin> ah


ya, then bring jacket lah


I mean the air con not very cold also, but


, okay


nothing much [orh] is just a very slack day, quite boring actually, (hmm)


I every day meet you eh, salty, , ya so


you, no, I'm good at lying, I never


never, never lie, but today was really very boring, you know that time


got got this day, then, like I just have to like, stamp the sticker paste the sticker on the bags and then, fold the bags that's all eh the entire day


ya then, then I don't want to do stowing


then don't know I just don't like to stow, then after that from nine o'clock right, I I realise hor I very good at finding things to do, from nine o'clock until nine forty five right I just go walk around finding things you do eh


!huh!, I go I go the beds slamming area, then I tidy the area, then after that I tidy the ambience slamming area, then I found some pencils so <mandarin>我拿去:wo na qu</mandarin> sharpen


then after that, then ya, got nothing much to stow also


, what's wrong with that


but I was, my role was slamming


but you know even if they don't finish stowing they can still go home one, want to stay also cannot stay, !huh!


!huh!


the thing is, like, different days got different, number of things to stow what


no you can overlap it to <mandarin>明天:ming tian</mandarin> one cause you don't have to stow everything today, like even even the company don't need that, ya


err not really eh, no, no you know now got night shift, then that time got nothing much to stow they ask us don't stow cause night shift nothing to do


then after that, like when they ending work then they pick one round, and they help to batch, then <mandarin>完了:wan le</mandarin> then go home, then that time the team lead <mandarin>叫我们不要:jiao wo men bu yao</mandarin> stow


why, why do nothing like you confirm got something to do and is, every day stowing eh like every night is stowing so boring


like at least you work in the day, at least you work in the day can do different things


ya imagine you always like, like you know picking like, like it's interesting to me ah, but stowing eh you need to find space then sometimes not a lot of space for you to stow


but then you got a lot of things to stow, then need to arrange, then, I just prefer picking more, then after that


you know that time <mandarin>我本来在考虑:wo ben lai zai kao lv</mandarin> like, if I want to do night shift, cause like that time I don't I don't really sleep at night also, then after that night shift is eleven dollar per hour


lucky I never sia, stowing only eh, day shift [orh]


ya but then it's better than, stowing the entire shift every day, for me ah, why


but like this <mandarin>你的:ni de</mandarin> sleep the what's that called, your sleep cycle


really


, true but then <mandarin>你懂那个:ni dong na ge</mandarin> night shift is like, I don't know why but they like set it as like fixed eh, but that time uh they put like


then I was thinking cause that time I still got school mah, like I still have to study for my remote then I was thinking


then in the end I didn't cause, still need to go school, I know right I didn't know


[orh]


like taxi driver [orh], but you know like I work shift one, like you know the night shift people


they supposed to, err what time ah, then, then when they pick the first window in the morning


then they need to help batch right then they only can go after like it's finished batching eh, I supposed to start at seven fifteen, but then the space is like, very small then like <mandarin>很多人:hen duo ren</mandarin> cause it's like shift one plus


night shift people, then all doing the same thing like all batching or something, then after that, very squeeze, then, then like like even though got so many people already right night shift cannot go yet


then they always like like overshot like thirty minute then they go like seven thirty, good for them lor


maybe [orh], but then <mandarin>我每次看他们他们:wo mei ci kan ta men ta men</mandarin> like <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> shag eh


which one, stewarding ah, but you say fun


in your room, I mean, at MBS, ha


did I tell you that time, I work at the MBS the marquee


the stewarding, then after that very tiring, like like the work is not tiring but then is just cause it's at night then is tiring, then after that there's smoke break right then I sit there with


#ah ning#, then after that I fell asleep, and I was so tired right, I I slept in a position that make my leg like, but then like, I didn't know, then then when they wake me up right then <mandarin>我站起来:wo zhan qi lai</mandarin> [orh] then I fall down eh


then, there you see, eh where it go, then I got then I got, some scratches


you know this one, !hey!


no this one is I primary one, that time <mandarin>我:wo</mandarin> class monitress, then after that, err I suppose to submit the class attendance before recess, then that day <mandarin>我忘记:wo wang ji</mandarin> submit then I go for recess happily


then recess <mandarin>回来:hui lai</mandarin> then <mandarin>我:wo</mandarin> realise <mandarin>我还没有:wo hai mei you</mandarin> submit, then I was scared cause that time I still young, then after that I ran across the garden to get of general office to submit, then I fell down on a stone path at the garden is like sharp sharp one like that


then after that, right after that is assembly mah, at the hall then everybody going out then last time my school <mandarin>没有:mei you</mandarin> lift, then I had to <mandarin>慢慢爬那个:man man pa na ge</mandarin> staircase


ya, so painful, then you know I don't know how come right but then I never thought of like I walk to school need more time


you know even though my school just across like one road right, then after that, like I leave house at the same timing eh, then when I reach school then I like oh no, then I realize <mandarin>我迟到了:wo chi dao le</mandarin> but then I cannot accelerate then everybody in front of me already then I very embarrassed cause I alone and limping


ya, but, no


(hmm) now don't have already, ha


that one is like last last year eh, that one is


but now I have


(hmm), !hey! I just realise, this one expiry date is two oh two one leh july


then, but then that time I asked #jing ying# then she say this one means, when you open right nine months


then it will expire, so is nine months, uh, good question


I don't think expire yet, last year, !huh!


that's why I spam what then you it's not expired, I don't remember when, I don't know, we bought it together remember


at, Venus <mandarin>在:zai</mandarin> #chua chu kang#, last year when


really meh, , by right <mandarin>是你的:shi ni de</mandarin> lah


I use lor !ouch!,


ha but I just put it in front of you eh, stupid child, !hey!


ha, wait then do I throw this away


really but then still got a lot eh waste eh you know this one how much fifteen dollars, okay [loh], then now, you need a new one


why, you don't need, but is a essential, is a essential part of, , what do you mean disturb


(oo) I feel like that's quite a tough question cause <mandarin>我也是我看很多戏:wo ye shi wo kan hen duo xi</mandarin> but like I feel like the movie with like the best ending are those that are like more realistic


like you know you got watch the movie me before you, !walao!, but ya if it's a really good movie right it's about this like, girl and then like it's a romance ah so she's helping this guy who has like a physical disability <mandarin>所以:suo yi</mandarin> like <mandarin>她帮他冲凉她把吃饭:ta bang ta chong liang ta ba chi fan</mandarin> all these then the guy feels very useless


then okay I spoiler for you lah but the guy right end up he like, and he succumbed to the illness and he and he died, so but like I feel like it's more realistic and he had like he has like a really good ending cause you like really see how it plays out it's not like those like


anyhow, like or they end up just get together like those like stupid Disney show you know, ya but like the more cruel the ending is the more like you feel for the movie right then <mandarin>你比较感动:ni bi jiao gan dong</mandarin> mah


ya but, train to oh the new train to Busan is so bad it's like it doesn't even like connect to the <mandarin>第一个:di yi ge</mandarin> movie


then it's like I don't even know what I'm watching is like we watching fast and furious cause it's mostly just like race show and then the ending is damn stupid also, (mmhmm) (mmhmm)


but as in like, it's so like underwhelming, but I feel like that's what happens with <mandarin>第二个:di er ge</mandarin> movie you know like the sequel is always like worse than the original one


ya like a few movies like you know like frozen two okay lah frozen , frozen one was, honestly quite nice lah but frozen two was like, I don't even remember frozen two like I just remember the animation very nice then got extra like spirits


I feel like most of these is cause like they try to squeeze out they want to <mandarin>卖:mai</mandarin> all the toys


you know cause this kind of Disney thing right they can like sell a lot of all the merchandise and them they make a lot of money it's very like money-minded, oh but I think the best movie like this year is it this year it's got to be parasite I think ya that one has the best ending for me, have you watched it


K lah but, okay let's say you if you like big house very hard to buy in singapore lah so let's say you win TOTO what's the first thing you will do


I, I think I will invest eh, cause now you win TOTO is like !wah! to you like !wah! <mandarin>很多钱很多钱现在:hen duo qian hen duo qian xian zai</mandarin> but like if you take that right and then you invest right <mandarin>妳会赚更多:ni hui zhuan geng duo</mandarin> like think of like the future I guess


but I think I will save part of it, give my <mandarin>父母:fu mu</mandarin> then after that, part of it, I'm I don't know whether I want to do like like just give it to the charity because you never know like the charity <mandarin>是:shi</mandarin> like, is it like really like


a really trustworthy charity you don't know where the money is like going if they're not transparent about it, so really think, I think I will just invest first and then decide later when I'm smarter with my money


but <mandarin>你讲不会很容易赢:ni jiang bu hui hen rong yi ying</mandarin> yet so many people still buy see I it's like


humans are greedy lah by nature, but I feel like I won't buy TOTO like I will just take the money like to buy TOTO and then I will just put in a piggy bank like just like save you know like if you are like really if you are someone who like buys TOTO like every week, like every sweepstake right you can actually save a lot like you imagine you just take that like that two three dollar


then you just <mandarin>省:sheng</mandarin> lor then you just save save save confirm will like it will like will earn more than you like lose what, but speaking of COVID right nowadays damn hard to find job, right I think, like have you found one yet


at first <mandarin>其实我是:qi shi wo shi</mandarin> like I I still thought like I could I found one right the one like I was teaching at a arts school to children


but !wah! <mandarin>他的老板很:ta de lao ban hen</mandarin> scam eh like he kept asking me to go for like a job trial which only pays like fifty per day but the usual rate is nine per hour so like I work for him like ten hours so I'm supposed to get paid like ninety but he end only paid me fifty cause it's like a job trial


then at first <mandarin>我自己想:wo zi ji xiang</mandarin> like okay lah job trial <mandarin>你给我五十我可以去学:ni gei wo wu shi wo ke yi qu xue</mandarin> like maybe <mandarin>做一点:zuo yi dian</mandarin> training then like if you're willing to hire then at least I'll like earn the ninety per day but then <mandarin>我去一个:wo qu yi ge</mandarin> job trial right no training at all <mandarin>我九点去:wo jiu dian qu</mandarin> right <mandarin>他九点就叫我做工:ta jiu dian jiu jiao wo zuo gong</mandarin> then I <mandarin>九点:jiu dian</mandarin> work work work right I worked all the way then they never even like teach like teach me how to do the job I straightaway had to like teach the kids right


and plus the <mandarin>老板:lao ban</mandarin> also know like I don't have any experience working like teaching children, I only have experience in like decor and art ah, so like, I just think it's damn scam lor but they just need people and he very money-minded but then


he just keep asking me go back for job trial then I just tell him <mandarin>不要:bu yao</mandarin> lor, I mean like what for I keep going for job trial it's like, I like if you book so many hours just to like earn, fifty, and like I know like now very hard to find job but even so this doing this kind of job is just like


it's not easy plus I just feel like it's not worth like I rather just spend the time to like work on what I have and then just try to find other jobs lor like even now I'm still like applying to quite a few places just hoping to hear back but most of them like, they either never reply or like they need someone who can commit longer but I think on your side you still at least have like a job right


actually like I never really thought about it cause previously I just <mandarin>有工就做没有工就没有做:you gong jiu zuo mei you gong jiu mei you zuo</mandarin> so I wasn't that picky I know I don't usually work F&B cause I quite clumsy ah so I scared like I break plate all like I drop food and then usually they need a food hygiene cert also so usually I look for those like office hour <mandarin>做九点到六点:zuo jiu dian dao liu dian</mandarin> like I really don't mind doing like office hour job and back then I quite enjoy cause


my colleagues all like quite fun like we will still like go out to eat on the weekends and stuff, but then soon they were leaving the company then <mandarin>我也是:wo ye shi</mandarin> just like okay lor leave the company cause I need to start school right, then I actually went back to work for them like again


but then like all my like colleagues that I knew already left and then they just I didn't really enjoy the environment also so I realised that for me, ya that's what I look for and then, I also worked at oh I worked at jewel event actually I've been looking for more event like


recently but because COVID <mandarin>所以很难找:suo yi hen nan zhao</mandarin> event <mandarin>工:gong</mandarin> mah and now also <mandarin>不可以有:bu ke yi you</mandarin> event, so like that whole job sector is already like, not really looking for anyone right now, but I did enjoy the job at jewel I had to like give out free popcorn to just promote cause


the jewel B one level was like, err B two all those right it's always a lot of people but then for some reason B one not a lot so they wanted to like attract <mandarin>更多人:geng duo ren</mandarin> to that level


so I I just like work promoting that level and it was enjoyable but ya lor got those unreasonable people, like there was once they had they can claim like free balloons if they like spent <mandarin>多少:duo shao</mandarin> spent <mandarin>多少:duo shao</mandarin> so this woman she came with her with her two kids


then she wanted to claim the balloon, then <mandarin>我就跟她讲:wo jiu gen ta jiang</mandarin> like oh we close at uh nine, or ten or something then like maybe like, err, but it's like while stocks last so that's what I told her then when <mandarin>她回来的时候:ta hui lai de shi hou</mandarin> right the thing all out of stock already then she just like stand there and scold like !wah! you are supposed to be opened until like uh ten why like now out of stock already then she just don't understand that it's like while stocks last and I think she's quite cheapskate cause to claim the thing right you don't have minimum spending as long as you spend like in the receipt you show us the receipt


so that if she purposely went to buy an item right then <mandarin>她叫那个人分那两个:ta jiao na ge ren fen na liang ge</mandarin> receipt eh so she buy <mandarin>一个东西:yi ge dong xi</mandarin> hor then she <mandarin>分两个:fen liang ge</mandarin> receipt it's like so ridiculous just to claim like two free balloons then she just like oh how dare you disappoint my child like this then I'm just like then I just stand there then just <mandarin>被骂:bei ma</mandarin> lor but then like that's the thing about like


service related industry is like you just have to take it, and is like a learning experience also lor like <mandarin>可以跟:ke yi gen</mandarin> err <mandarin>被人家骂:bei ren jia ma</mandarin> is like at least you will know how to deal with, people like that from now on it's like you tell them like logically they also don't understand one so you just gotta like calm them down bring them aside lor that kind of thing


ya but usually I just go with the flow lor


I feel like usually I'll go with the flow <mandarin>你们要做什么就做:ni men yao zuo shen me jiu zuo</mandarin> like I just <mandarin>跟:gen</mandarin> right, but then, depends on like okay imagine like travelling right like the planning aspect I do like want to have a general guideline but I won't plan


each and every detail like <mandarin>坐什么:zuo shen me</mandarin> bus or like how do we get there, it's like, but I do want to know like okay <mandarin>我们今天去哪里:wo men jin tian qu na li</mandarin> or like where do you want to go <mandarin>你要:ni yao</mandarin> like <mandarin>做什么:zuo shen me</mandarin> for the day instead of just cause you spend so much to like, buy the plane ticket and to fly over accommodation all that you don't want to like waste your time when you're in there right but I feel like sometimes it's just like nice to just grow and like just go with the flow so usually


I would say are more go with the flow cause I don't like usually, I don't have those like I'm not those type of person who like have a planner and then like, jot down every single thing usually I just like use my phone, but, ya usually I just go with the flow


but okay lah I mean you have to learn to be more flexible lor like, if you cannot <mandarin>控制:kong zhi</mandarin> then you cannot like control everything in life so it's good that you are becoming more flexible I guess whereas mine is I feel like I need to start planning more, in terms of like school work


I feel like <mandarin>我是还:wo shi hai</mandarin> okay lor like my grades all these are still fine, cause like I tend to always like do my work I don't procrastinate that much then I will like the thing is I would like throw myself into work for like until like I finished a certain point, because I feel like once like okay <mandarin>我做很多东西:wo zuo hen duo dong xi</mandarin> Liao right so actually I can rest


so like I really like just look forward to the rest and the rest is like my motivation to do more so I try not to procrastinate cause if I procrastinate then like my mind <mandarin>一直就会想:yi zhi jiu hui xiang</mandarin> like <mandarin>喂还要做这个还要做那个:wei hai yao zuo zhe ge hai yao zuo na ge</mandarin> then I won't be able to rest properly so I rather just like


or whatever, oh but recently I've been watching quite a lot of shows, I finish umbrella academy and I starting to lucifer, and I think I also finish this like K drama it's okay to not be okay I don't know if you got watch


something like that I mean, okay lah maybe it's not your kind of show lor but what kind of show you watch


you know the thing about grey's is actually <mandarin>我也是我其实有看:wo ye shi wo qi shi you kan</mandarin> but right I watched like four seasons it's always the same thing it's like


there's no like ending you know it's just like they they like they have some like internal relationship then relationship don't work out then someone die then, I feel like it's like repeated then after a while it gets a bit like boring especially <mandarin>他们很多:ta men hen duo</mandarin> season right then this thing


!wah! it's like the rest of the season is going to be like this lah <mandarin>不要看:bu yao kan</mandarin> Liao <mandarin>不要看:bu yao kan</mandarin> so I just like stop watching halfway through, but ya [orh] I love brooklyn nine nine but it's only like, after they got together like they got married then <mandarin>有一点:you yi dian</mandarin> boring eh <mandarin>不会:bu hui</mandarin> meh like, the jokes just like reused like I kind of prefer them when they were like chasing each other or like


before at least before they got married but I thought the proposal during the halloween heist, !wah! damn cute ya I thought that was damn well done


but I quite like high school musical now I mean now when I watch it it's like more of making fun like I don't


like you see it with like ya but now I I still like, watch and then, okay lor <mandarin>有点好笑:you dian hao xiao</mandarin> lor like I I make fun of the characters as long as the acting very funny


and nowadays I like watch a lot more, thriller, (mmhmm) I've been looking forward to a quiet place to cause the first movie was was damn nice


ya the plot twist and I want to see like what they do with the following lor, but ya those kind of movie just like !wah! makes me smile after that, but ya what makes you smile ah


ya your sense of humour different from mine but I guess what makes me like smile is animal !wah! when I see those like damn <mandarin>可爱:ke ai</mandarin> like the cat like all this I want to squish !wah! like you know it's called like cute aggression or something like that


it's like when you see until so cute then you just <mandarin>要跟它要跟它栽下去:yao gen ta yao gen ta zai xia qu</mandarin> you know it's like, !wah! but ya I would say animal would make me smile quite a lot especially those like stupid cat video, or like I've been really into like fluffy cow then there's this like species of cow right the fur is curly curly one leh and it looks so cute !aiya! but ya


but every time I see ah that then like there was a point of time where I really love cow right then I told myself I going to stop eating beef, but like that only lasted like I think like three four weeks not bad lah but recently I've been like cutting down on, uh beef I've been eating more chicken pork and fish


ya because I feel like the global warming situation quite Jialat honestly, like I see like, like they say if like everyone just like eat a bit less right you will get it will cut down a lot cause, like beef and like the production of like beef is like


it really like impacts quite a bit, on the environment cause <mandarin>那个牛一直要吃这样多:na ge niu yi zhi yao chi zhe yang duo</mandarin> then they always fart the methane right then the methane will like increase the greenhouse gas and all that and they like really use a lot of like the resources which, can be used elsewhere to be more beneficial


but ya


I feel like it's not really like physical okay lah don't have you so like physical physical gifts I will say got this like friend she made me like her own mix tape so she like burned a CD and like


she burned a CD right and then each like song the meaning of the song she wrote like in a letter so she like used the song lyrics as like the phrases I thought there was like really nice but I feel like in terms of like gift as long as like I am like in a friendship with someone for like so long I feel like that is like the best gift already cause throughout that friendship is like you've been like giving like your time like everytime like <mandarin>我有心事要讲:wo you xin shi yao jiang</mandarin> like you were there from there they they are there for me so I felt that itself like the friendship itself is a gift


like as cringe as it sounds but for me it's just like it's not really like a physical like gift gift, ya but if you were talking about physical gift then it's <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> mix tape lor ya until now I still keep then I just like occasionally listen then cause like to think like someone like went to like choose specific songs


and then to like make them into like a letter and then she even like burned them into a CD and then she gave me then it's like !wah! like I'm like so touched, but ya, but I mean I enjoy this kind of like small the small things lor


but okay now you now we both like <mandarin>没有什么:mei you shen me</mandarin> job so, like now you have like we have like all the time in the world


I think I would I'll I wish it will like <mandarin>下雨:xia yu</mandarin> then I just like sleep in wake up late afternoon then I will probably also spent majority of the day by myself


I also enjoy like <mandarin>自己一个人出去:zi ji yi ge ren chu qu</mandarin> cause <mandarin>妳要吃什么就吃什么妳要做什么就做什么:ni yao chi shen me jiu chi shen me ni yao zuo shen me jiu zuo shen me</mandarin> is like you don't have to conform to anyone else you just do whatever you want, and it's nice to just like people watch like just sit down somewhere nice and enjoy the views, so I will say but I like I like like spending time at home


cause it's like comfort of my own house right, then I will maybe like, dinner time I will like <mandarin>约我朋友:yue wo peng you</mandarin> then we can go out for like dinner and then like there's supper kind of thing then you can like talk and then at the end where I'll come back lor but ya I'm also pretty like mundane but I feel like that's what that's what's nice about it lah to just really take time for yourself and there's this thing when <mandarin>妳跟自己讲话:ni gen zi ji jiang hua</mandarin> right is like very therapeutic it's like you are your own therapist right so they say like you can try sitting for a mirror then you just like talk to yourself to kind of like have some sort of introspective to see like


to go through your own emotions cause sometimes like, you feel a lot of things but <mandarin>你不懂怎样讲:ni bu dong zen yang jiang</mandarin> so it helps if you like talk it out to yourself like even in your head like I always talk to myself sound a bit like Siao lah but I feel like it helps me like process my own like


emotions like how I feel then like what I can do about it, and like focus on like the things that I can change instead of the things that I cannot so I feel like it really helps my mental


no I don't like physically like <mandarin>坐在镜子的前面:zuo zai jing zi de qian mian</mandarin> but I do okay I don't I don't even do it like out loud sometimes I just like do it in my head but like I split myself into like in my head right there's like two so like I say like how I'm feeling now then


the other like how I respond to myself is like I try to take it from like the third person perspective, so as in like outsider cause sometimes like you feel <mandarin>很多东西:hen duo dong xi</mandarin> then you <mandarin>不懂怎样讲:bu dong zen yang jiang</mandarin> but like you need to tell someone but then you also like don't want to like, go and confide other people


so like the best person to confide in is yourself cause you also like know what you are going through what it's just like maybe you need to like take a step back to <mandarin>看:kan</mandarin> like the whole the bigger picture, so ya it's not that maybe like okay lah maybe


like them their own emotions, but ya to me like mentally mental health that's very important but what's important to you


I feel like okay your friends is like damn important, and I feel like the people around you can really affect like how you view situation, cause, sometimes like you make friends and then they like


they are good people who like want what's best for you but they might not be able to be the ones that know truly like, so it's important to know people who like <mandarin>真的认识你:zhen de ren shi ni</mandarin> like know you inside out like maybe even know you like better than how you know yourself


ya cause like when you're facing difficult situation then <mandarin>妳跟他们讲:ni gen ta men jiang</mandarin> then like sometimes the things they say it might not it they come from like a good place and <mandarin>是:shi</mandarin> like <mandarin>为你好:wei ni hao</mandarin> but, whether it's <mandarin>真的对你好:zhen de dui ni hao</mandarin> is like you never know you know


like, maybe they just don't fully understand the situation as much, or like they aren't able to give the best advice but if you feel like because you think they're important so if you follow them right, then it's just like you have to be careful not to let them sway you too much


ya and to really like find people that really know you so, like you can, make the best decision that you can I guess, but ya but I also like think that, the drifting thing is a pretty common thing that happens throughout your life


like a lot of people just drift off each other it's quite like, a natural thing lor, but it's also for a good thing cause, if you don't like, if you don't if you like don't if you like just keep them here but they want to go it's also like not very good for either party also so drift I'll take it as like a good thing ah


like in terms of the drifting cause like the smaller your your friend group I guess the more like trust and the more the stronger it can be for me it's more like quality over quantity I guess, so ya


ya I have one lah but it's like, everytime <mandarin>她约出去我就跟她讲:ta yue chu qu wo jiu gen ta jiang</mandarin> ah sorry busy or like, not free or something but for my experience the the thing about like, the friends like what I was talking about before was <mandarin>因为:yin wei</mandarin> like


things weren't like that, going going that well there was some like issues so <mandarin>我:wo</mandarin> just <mandarin>跟我朋友讲:gen wo peng you jiang</mandarin> like, this and that then cause like they care about me a lot lah and they just get scared <mandarin>我:wo</mandarin> Kena <mandarin>骗:pian</mandarin> cause the person that I was seeing was was quite old and then they will just like err just drop him lah just drop him like it's like that kind of mentality where it's like


but he's not making me happy I just just drop him drop him but it's like very hard to explain the situation to them cause like I cannot just like drop him you know, but ya I know they <mandarin>对我好:dui wo hao</mandarin> lah then but it's just like the things that they were saying then it makes me like doubt myself like really like what am I like staying in this even though like I know the reasons but it's because like of


it's just like that was the one that I realised that actually sometimes, like it's good to just like figure out what I want first and like, maybe the thing about them is sometimes like <mandarin>他们有一点:ta men you yi dian</mandarin> bored lah then they just like want some tea you know so they like always ask me like oh how it is like how are you and you doing then I'm just like you know here and there then I have to tell them also then if I don't tell them they will say like


eh !wah! we <mandarin>妳做妳做什么没有跟我们:ni zuo ni zuo shen me mei you gen wo men</mandarin> like update <mandarin>这样:zhe yang</mandarin> then like, so it becomes like I feel like sometimes like I'm the like just like news for them to just like <mandarin>过过去:guo guo qu</mandarin> cause I realised that the only time like this person will ask me like how I'm doing is when they're bored and there's nothing going on in their life then they want to like <mandarin>找东西讲:zhao dong xi jiang</mandarin> right then they will just like ask me


but like regularly they won't like, ask, but ya but I think this kind of thing it's just like as long as <mandarin>你知道:ni zhi dao</mandarin> and like, what if you want to stay with someone like the friendship and all that you you stay but you know you recognised that like


this person <mandarin>是怎样的人:shi zen yang de ren</mandarin> lor then you see how to deal with them and you see if you still want them in your life I guess, but ya that's why people drift lah sometimes you just like not close anymore or like, you have different like what you said lor the person has different morals and all that


!wah! but speaking of <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> like boy girl like boy girl ratio right I feel like it's damn, like I always tell myself like to don't judge right like if a girl goes out with like quite a number of guys, but then I still feel like everytime I see then I'm just like there is still that stigma behind like as much as you as I tell myself like <mandarin>没有:mei you</mandarin> lah guy and girl can just be like <mandarin>朋友:peng you</mandarin> what like it doesn't mean anything it doesn't mean like she's loose or anything


like but like there's still that mentality you know and I don't know whether is it coming from like a conservative, point of view, or maybe it's just the way we are brought up but they always say like do you think it's true like guys and girls can be just like friends


well


I have but it's like <mandarin>我跟他是:wo gen ta shi</mandarin> like <mandarin>没有一直在讲话:mei you yi zhi zai jiang hua</mandarin> it's just like when I see him will have things to talk about and like that's how I know like we're and we are like really like bros, bro kind but I will say I have more like girl friends then like


like male friends cause I feel like, I also don't know why, but maybe because like for towards my guy friends like I don't go out with them one on one it's always group but then for like girl friends it's like I do go out with them like one on one or like it's less just it's just less awkward lor


but I think it's good to have both, ya, but as for like the girl drama and guy drama guys also got drama I guess but between themselves like some ego, I don't know lah but, I think it's important to have both


like good guy friends and like as well as like good girl friends, but whether for like I think, guys and girls can be like, friends lah that as long as both parties know that [orh] <mandarin>我们真的是:wo men zhen de shi</mandarin> like <mandarin>朋友朋友:peng you peng you</mandarin> like nothing will ever happen then I feel like would be nice and like because my like truly guy friends I also like always like help him to <mandarin>跟别的女:gen bie de nv</mandarin> I always like try to set him up with like <mandarin>别的女的:bie de nv de</mandarin> that I think will be good for him kind so it's like a very fun thing but ya I don't go out with them like one one on one but mainly it's cause like the perception lor I guess like <mandarin>人家看:ren jia kan</mandarin> Liao <mandarin>会:hui</mandarin> like <mandarin>讲:jiang</mandarin> which I think kind of sucks cause like even if I want to like to have


like even if I want to like say like or like <mandarin>不要听别人讲什么:bu yao ting bie ren jiang shen me</mandarin> just like do whatever you want but there is still that bit of like judgement that you feel, and like maybe a bit guilty I'm not sure, but ya but usually when it comes like things in my life I will like tell my female friends first but now that I think about it maybe I should like ask them also it's just a bit


awkward, cause you don't know how like the guys will react but I think it's important for girls to have guy friends in case anything happens, like as stereotypical as it is like in like <mandarin>晚上:wan shang</mandarin> like <mandarin>很暗的时候:hen an de shi hou</mandarin> right <mandarin>妳要走回家:ni yao zou hui jia</mandarin> is like, you really like you feel safer if you know you have somebody you can call and then they will like


come down and like help out, ya which I mean sucks for guys lah that there's an expectation for them to do this but, I feel like it's it's just like a, feeling of security I guess, rather than calling down your like female friends in the middle of the night kind of thing


but, ya but usually like <mandarin>我对朋友:wo dui peng you</mandarin> also I don't like physically always tell them how much I appreciate them which kind of but they know it lah they know they know that I do like appreciate but do you like tell your friends and family like you you care about them or love them


!wah! I feel like it just like had a reset on everything like what you said, like I feel like am <mandarin>身上很多人:shen shang hen duo ren</mandarin> it's just like all about like taking self-care more importantly, so, I mean I guess there is some good thing that come out of it but obviously like economically wise like less jobs and or it'll be tough to recover but


it's a good, I mean you have to see the positive for if not you cannot just be like stuck and like, crumble about it <mandarin>一直:yi zhi</mandarin> like <mandarin>真的被:zhen de bei</mandarin> complain what so now I think things are looking up so you'll see how it goes ah, K I think we reach like one hour so three two one


what movie has the best ending


it's like


I think like those Disney kind is not bad, cause <mandarin>我是那种:wo shi na zhong</mandarin> Disney kind like high school musical <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> you know those kind of like got series kind


or like, those err, a quiet place <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> !wah! <mandarin>真的会哭这样:zhen de hui ku zhe yang</mandarin> like train to Busan one <mandarin>也是妳有看过:ye shi ni you kan guo</mandarin> mah


right like <mandarin>没有:mei you</mandarin> link <mandarin>的那种:de na zhong</mandarin> no but I feel like train to Busan one is <mandarin>真的有一个很大的:zhen de you yi ge hen da de</mandarin> impact


then you will feel like have high expectation for train to Busan two, then train to Busan two is just all action then like the zombie also like never play a big role that kind of thing, so like it's very, like under expectation like the whole movie was was honestly quite boring lah so


some okay I feel like some of it is like they forced out the next movie, so like train to Busan I feel like if they stopped at one it will like make an impact already then they go and forced out train to Busan two, then frozen is like, there's like a continuation but


people will still prefer the first one, like toy story four <mandarin>也是:ye shi</mandarin> toy story four is complete, like, very extra kind like if you end at three is okay already then <mandarin>你还继续:ni hai ji xu</mandarin> like go on number four ya


parasite ah, oh ya ya ya <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> <mandarin>的:de</mandarin> right oh but <mandarin>那个很恐怖:na ge hen kong bu</mandarin> eh <mandarin>我觉得:wo jue de</mandarin> like <mandarin>很多:hen duo</mandarin> like !wah!, it's like, a whole new world Liao sia


but I feel like there was like a meaning ah like it really


first thing ah, even though everybody does it like singapore pools the queue is really very long those kind of thing but <mandarin>如果真的赢:ru guo zhen de ying</mandarin> [orh]


I think I would donate to like fighting COVID first, like you know all the masks all the vaccine blah blah blah just like, or donate like part of it to like really curing COVID, then


ya then <mandarin>妳:ni</mandarin> leh what will you do


I think you have like a very forward thinking view to it


like


or <mandarin>倒闭那种:dao bi na zhong</mandarin> like the stock is just go down that kind then <mandarin>妳的:ni de</mandarin> TOTO money <mandarin>都已经变成:dou yi jing bian cheng</mandarin> like negative those kind, cause like now COVID and all like some shares are going up than some are like really going down those kind


but ya TOTO <mandarin>不是讲:bu shi jiang</mandarin> like <mandarin>很容易赢的:hen rong yi ying de</mandarin> lor I feel, ya, true


haven't lah like a lot of, I think a lot of companies are not willing to like spend they rather you make use of their full-timers, so <mandarin>他们很不愿意:ta men hen bu yuan yi</mandarin> like <mandarin>去:qu</mandarin> hire <mandarin>别人:bie ren</mandarin> especially <mandarin>我们这种年龄的没有:wo men zhe zhong nian ling de mei you</mandarin> experience <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> then <mandarin>你还要花钱:ni hai yao hua qian</mandarin> like


pay us and stuff like that, then on top of that <mandarin>你还要:ni hai yao</mandarin> like, it's like putting your company at risk which a lot of them like don't really want to like take the risk, so it's like <mandarin>因为我们真的没有:yin wei wo men zhen de mei you</mandarin> experience <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> mah so it's like from scratch then


then after that <mandarin>我们只有:wo men zhi you</mandarin> like, then <mandarin>就要上上学:jiu yao shang shang xue</mandarin> Liao like <mandarin>没有那个:mei you na ge</mandarin> commitment which <mandarin>很多:hen duo</mandarin> companies <mandarin>会觉得:hui jue de</mandarin> like <mandarin>是蛮重要的:shi man zhong yao de</mandarin> lah


ya then <mandarin>妳:ni</mandarin> leh <mandarin>找到了:zhao dao le</mandarin> mah


no eh okay so like I had a similar experience also <mandarin>所以那次他们打给我:suo yi na ci ta men da gei wo</mandarin> then <mandarin>我就讲:wo jiu jiang</mandarin> like okay like, then <mandarin>他们就讲:ta men jiu jiang</mandarin> like


why I wanna do this job then like I explain to them like cause I'm learning and about their industry and all that, but <mandarin>我真的不可以:wo zhen de bu ke yi</mandarin> what <mandarin>因为:yin wei</mandarin> after that <mandarin>我还要上学:wo hai yao shang xue</mandarin> then she asked like if I wanna be like an admin staff


which is okay lah cause is still under like the industry just that <mandarin>不是讲:bu shi jiang</mandarin> like, it's like a subcategory of the industry kind, ya then


err it's not like I immediately get the job those kind after that one hour phone call of interview right she still say that there's like an exam to take


and the exam is like you have to scan don't know how many like pages of, a document in like your laptop and all, within one hour eh, then <mandarin>我就觉得:wo jiu jue de</mandarin> like


so like I feel like some of them is like they see that we are young and we don't have experience then <mandarin>他们就趁机去:ta men jiu chen ji qu</mandarin> like , like err like hard labour <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> like they pay you very little or like your case they make you go for job trial that kind of thing and they like make you like try to make full use of whatever ability you have


which honestly I think sometimes we are quite qualified cause like <mandarin>我们已经读:wo men yi jing du</mandarin> like diploma Liao mah so like by right we already have some skills to actually start work those kind, ya but


so like I do like admin stuff and all, which I also don't know why two years and I'm still with the company lah I think it's like the environment, cause like for me like things I look out for in a job is like


like <mandarin>那些人:nei xie ren</mandarin> like <mandarin>我跟他们做工他们是怎样的人是那种开朗的人还是:wo gen ta men zuo gong ta men shi zen yang de ren shi na zhong kai lang de ren hai shi</mandarin> like, a bit more serious those kind of like money-minded must sell don't know how much sales that kind, or like


I think the environment the people and then like, I think the customers also sometimes play a part I feel lah like some of the customers <mandarin>真的:zhen de</mandarin> like <mandarin>很不讲道理:hen bu jiang dao li</mandarin> those kind or like just like <mandarin>乱乱骂人:luan luan ma ren</mandarin> like they feel very entitled, then <mandarin>我就:wo jiu</mandarin> like


ya but what are some things you look for in a company


no eh but <mandarin>妳讲:ni jiang</mandarin> service industry right <mandarin>因为我也是:yin wei wo ye shi</mandarin> like


ya <mandarin>所以:suo yi</mandarin> like, like I started it when I was sixteen years old, so that when I first stepped out of like studying and like trying to adapt and like trying to just earn whatever amount that I can as like savings right


so like the thing about food food industry is like, like, err food is a must those kind in singapore so like a lot of them are like


some of them are actually quite nice whereby like you give them however much uh serving they will just accept lah, ya and then cause we have like our stocks and like our sales and all that right so it's obviously very unreasonable if like we give like too much of like you know the attap seed those kind of thing in a dessert


then <mandarin>有一些:you yi xie</mandarin> hor <mandarin>不是讲:bu shi jiang</mandarin> like


then <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> like <mandarin>真的很严重的:zhen de hen yan zhong de</mandarin> right they will go and like oh I want to speak to your manager, but <mandarin>我就觉得:wo jiu jue de</mandarin> like hello <mandarin>我只是十六岁:wo zhi shi shi liu sui</mandarin> eh ya sixteen years only eh then <mandarin>你就这样骂:ni jiu zhe yang ma</mandarin> and like, got once right this customer she really scold damn loudly


so right <mandarin>因为我就坐在那个:yin wei wo jiu zuo zai na ge</mandarin> err, ion <mandarin>的:de</mandarin> outlet like orchard <mandarin>那里:na li</mandarin> lah so okay <mandarin>我:wo</mandarin> understand like orchard <mandarin>是比较那种:shi bi jiao na zhong</mandarin> Atas <mandarin>的人:de ren</mandarin> lah


like I think I was very affected because I'm only like sixteen so I take it to heart then <mandarin>我去厕所哭:wo qu ce suo ku</mandarin> that kind of thing, but then after that <mandarin>当然那个:dang ran na ge</mandarin> manager <mandarin>也跟我讲话:ye gen wo jiang hua</mandarin> lah like he also said like how this industry is like like that cause like you are doing a service those kind of thing


and like some of them just really like they have a bad day then they need an outlet to like rant it out and stuff like that then they will like, just <mandarin>趁机会就可以骂:chen ji hui jiu ke yi ma</mandarin> lah or like <mandarin>趁机会:chen ji hui</mandarin> can get a free dessert <mandarin>谁不要:shei bu yao</mandarin> you know <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> ya then end up I had to like do the <mandarin>甜品:tian pin</mandarin> all over again then this time round I give her like <mandarin>多一个:duo yi ge</mandarin> lor <mandarin>反正她:fan zheng ta</mandarin> you know made such a big fuss out of it


ya but, I think like I get what you mean like you always learn a lot from all these cause now when I work with like other customers I will know how to like be a bit more professional a bit more <mandarin>专业:zhuan ye</mandarin> and like <mandarin>去:qu</mandarin> like


don't let it affect my feelings first and like just solve whatever problem there is so like if they're not happy the first thing to say it's [orh] <mandarin>对不起:dui bu qi</mandarin> like you know <mandarin>我们以后再也不会这样了我们会:wo men yi hou zai ye bu hui zhe yang le wo men hui</mandarin> like update you and stuff like that and like you know it won't happen again all this kind of thing


like it really teaches us to like, that this society and all like the customers there are all, like some of them have a right and you know the saying like customers are always right even though I low-key feel like it's bullshit but like you know like sometimes


you just have to agree that they are right because if you are a customer on your end right you also would think that you are entitled to a certain amount of like, service or like expectation that kind of thing, ya but


okay lah <mandarin>不是讲很容易:bu shi jiang hen rong yi</mandarin> to like plan for the job those kind ya so are you like err do you do like planning in advance or are you <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> that will like adapt to changes whatever <mandarin>就:jiu</mandarin> like whatever go with the flow kind of person like in general


I feel like I'm more of like <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> planner those kind


like this date this date <mandarin>我要做什么有人有人约我:wo yao zuo shen me you ren you ren yue wo</mandarin> mah <mandarin>还是我要做工这种东西:hai shi wo yao zuo gong zhe zhong dong xi</mandarin> is like, I don't like it that like, I don't know what I'm doing like next week or like what am I doing like tomorrow that kind of thing so like I always believe like plan in advance kind


and then like even when I plan in advance right on certain days right <mandarin>我真的会很仔细的去:wo zhen de hui hen zi xi de qu</mandarin> plan, ya, but, like I think poly and all made me realise like <mandarin>你不可以:ni bu ke yi</mandarin> plan all the way to the core kind


like things will change those kind


I think I learnt to like go with the flow after awhile where, I really don't know what is the plan like I have no plan for like next week for example


ya but for like academics wise and like, if not I will never finish like an assignment on time, cause like my mindset <mandarin>就是讲:jiu shi jiang</mandarin> like <mandarin>如果没有:ru guo mei you</mandarin> plan <mandarin>我就有很多时间:wo jiu you hen duo shi jian</mandarin> what but it's only like when you plan for like your assignment <mandarin>这种东西:zhe zhong dong xi</mandarin> then you will realise okay <mandarin>我没有那么多时间:wo mei you na me duo shi jian</mandarin> you know <mandarin>我要:wo yao</mandarin> like <mandarin>赶快地去做因为只有:gan kuai de qu zuo yin wei zhi you</mandarin> like <mandarin>三个礼拜四个礼拜这种东西:san ge li bai si ge li bai zhe zhong dong xi</mandarin> ya


oh I watch <mandarin>第一个:di yi ge</mandarin> episode, but like <mandarin>我觉得:wo jue de</mandarin> like <mandarin>那那个:na na ge</mandarin> drama <mandarin>不是讲:bu shi jiang</mandarin> like <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> realistic eh <mandarin>我觉的因为我我:wo jue de yin wei wo wo</mandarin> watch <mandarin>第一个:di yi ge</mandarin> episode, then <mandarin>他们就讲:ta men jiu jiang</mandarin> like <mandarin>那个:na ge</mandarin> like, the girl like <mandarin>她的:ta de</mandarin> soul is like dead or something right then <mandarin>她不敢去:ta bu gan qu</mandarin> visit <mandarin>她的爸爸:ta de ba ba</mandarin> right


right


<mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> basic <mandarin>很大家都有看那种:hen da jia dou you kan na zhong</mandarin> like brooklyn nine nine friends, err okay lah like, (mmhmm) <mandarin>还有什么:hai you shen me</mandarin> leh, okay but <mandarin>现在我在看:xian zai wo zai kan</mandarin> like grey's anatomy


which not a lot of people know how to appreciate I feel


no lah I think okay it depends on like the phase of life you are in, so like <mandarin>小时候我们喜欢看那种:xiao shi hou wo men xi huan kan na zhong</mandarin> like high school musical


but <mandarin>如果你现在去看:ru guo ni xian zai qu kan</mandarin> high school musical <mandarin>你会觉得很:ni hui jue de hen</mandarin> lame, cause <mandarin>你已经:ni yi jing</mandarin> mature up Liao you know, you know


okay <mandarin>我给你一个:wo gei ni yi ge</mandarin> example


so when I re-watched <mandarin>的时候:de shi hou</mandarin> right <mandarin>我就觉得:wo jiu jue de</mandarin> like <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> cliche like <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin>


like !aiya! <mandarin>喜欢就喜欢:xi huan jiu xi huan</mandarin> lah <mandarin>在一起:zai yi qi</mandarin> lah <mandarin>为什么有那么:wei shen me you na me</mandarin> look like you know dragged so long ya so like I feel like I matured up a bit more so like I watch those shows that when I watched when I was younger <mandarin>就是觉得:jiu shi jue de</mandarin> like


not very relatable as compared to like, grey's anatomy <mandarin>这种:zhe zhong</mandarin> whereby they actually have like life crises or like you know financial needs and all that stuff, it's like, I think as you mature up the shows you watch will like change over time also


like depends on your genre and all that ya


I think <mandarin>很多东西:hen duo dong xi</mandarin> though <mandarin>因为笑是:yin wei xiao shi</mandarin> like <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> natural <mandarin>的:de</mandarin> like, even the smallest thing can like, make me smile those kind so like recently okay <mandarin>这个是蛮:zhe ge shi man</mandarin> funny <mandarin>的:de</mandarin> lah <mandarin>就是讲因为我要去一个:jiu shi jiang yin wei wo yao qu yi ge</mandarin> job interview <mandarin>所以我就拿那个:suo yi wo jiu na na ge</mandarin> bus


it's like I feel like my day is off to a good start those kind of thing, ya so I like to do that to let people also then, err for my interview and then my interview ended like faster than expected


so obviously I had nothing to do really so I had to go home, so when I took the bus right it was the same uncle eh, then <mandarin>我就:wo jiu</mandarin> like <mandarin>真的笑:zhen de xiao</mandarin> lor like really is like the smallest thing and like he acknowledged me then on that day


I would say that was the start of our friendship, because the thing is thinking back right <mandarin>我一直会:wo yi zhi hui</mandarin> like take the same bus, then is always him eh so I really feel like it's quite you know unique lah and like there's a lot of like small things in life that people don't really like smile or like they take for granted


like, even when I see like, someone giving up their seat right I will like, feel that there's hope in society I don't know <mandarin>如果:ru guo</mandarin> you feel the same way, but like <mandarin>我就觉得:wo jiu jue de</mandarin> like it's really the small things in life those kind, or like you know like okay once I lost my EZ-link card and like it's just I dropped it but I didn't know that kind then like


usually some people will like they won't even observed or like they won't even bother to pick it up and like chase after you those kind, ya but then like there's this uncle and all he like quite old and all so he like kept calling me but the thing is <mandarin>我不懂他是叫谁:wo bu dong ta shi jiao shei</mandarin> you know and those kind of thing is like you just won't like turn around those kind


ya then he gave me my EZ-link card and all it's like really the small things in life I guess, that like, !aiya! but the easiest way to put a smile on my face is to tell me a pun, <mandarin>真的因为这种东西真的:zhen de yin wei zhe zhong dong xi zhen de</mandarin> like sometimes it's quite epic right you know like <mandarin>那种:na zhong</mandarin> like <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> lame <mandarin>的:de</mandarin> pun is also uh very funny to me lah <mandarin>因为我很:yin wei wo hen</mandarin> lame mah like that's what I feel lah


best gift ah , okay lah <mandarin>有一次就是讲:you yi ci jiu shi jiang</mandarin> like <mandarin>当我十七岁的时候:dang wo shi qi sui de shi hou</mandarin> right


and the thing is we only know each other for like, back then was like three years four years, and then she gave me like this explosion box


then it's really like unexpected, so like and the thing is she went a bigger step to like plan <mandarin>一个:yi ge</mandarin> like <mandarin>生日:sheng ri</mandarin> party for me, ya so like and I feel like it's quite well-planned, and she had to go through a lot of like changes <mandarin>因为刚好:yin wei gang hao</mandarin> okay <mandarin>所以我的:suo yi wo de</mandarin> birthday <mandarin>是:shi</mandarin> like start of the start of the year


so I was already in bed like !aiya!


err celebrate next year or next month those kind, then after that err <mandarin>我一踏进自己的家:wo yi ta jin zi ji de jia</mandarin> [orh] <mandarin>突然间:tu ran jian</mandarin> !wah! <mandarin>我的朋友都在那里:wo de peng you dou zai na li</mandarin> eh


then like she passed me her her gift, like


a lot of like effort and all like <mandarin>她真的去用心地去做:ta zhen de qu yong xin di qu zuo</mandarin> you know ya and then in my mind the first thing that I that came to my mind is what am I gonna give her now, cause <mandarin>她已经:ta yi jing</mandarin> thought you know like she already put in so much <mandarin>心思:xin si</mandarin> and all that to like really make until so nice then


not easy you know ya but I think that's more of like the better gift that I received not saying that all the other gifts are not like good enough you know, like


I feel like each gift, ya it's more of like the thought that counts or like, the fact that they even like think of me and know that my birthday is coming and do something about it


ya how about you got any like gift


okay I I feel like, right, so like a lot of people our age would like take self care for granted, and like <mandarin>其实:qi shi</mandarin> self care is like to me is like the most important form of like love you can give yourself


a lot of people would feel like okay lah, or sleeping and all like every night I go to sleep and all it's already considered taking care of myself, washing my face <mandarin>这种东西:zhe zhong dong xi</mandarin> and like putting in a bit more effort to like <mandarin>化妆:hua zhuang</mandarin> and all lah


ya but for me I feel like, like spending a whole day out, is considered like self care, like with yourself lah so like I actually started going on dates with myself


I know it sounds a bit lonely lah but okay so like uh like I make it an effort to like every holiday right I spend one day out, alone, like I'm not gonna stay at home those kind but like to just go out on a date with myself


so I think like the perfect date would be, to like start off the day with like breakfast at home first, then like slowly watch netflix spend some time then get ready to go out, then I will go to like, okay cause sometimes people have this mindset that if you are eating alone <mandarin>就是讲你很:jiu shi jiang ni hen</mandarin> lonely


but, I beg to differ so I will like go and eat my lunch like at my favourite restaurant so it's either like, at like LeNu beef those kind or like pepper lunch all your very classic normal meals lah


ya and then just like be with myself and like the thoughts with myself like I'll spend time to just think about life in general or like just like how the past few days have been and like, sort of like self reflection


oh <mandarin>去:qu</mandarin> go for dessert so like the dessert will be like my go to like chateraise chateraise ya, cause like <mandarin>他们的蛋糕那里真的很便宜:ta men de dan gao na li zhen de hen pian yi</mandarin> and it's like affordable <mandarin>的便宜:de pian yi</mandarin> those kind


I will do like window shopping <mandarin>因为没有钱:yin wei mei you qian</mandarin> mah <mandarin>就不可以:jiu bu ke yi</mandarin> like <mandarin>花钱:hua qian</mandarin> right <mandarin>就是去:jiu shi qu</mandarin> like, link like go to different shops and all and just like


window shop, and like I I would want to go like sightseeing, like go to the beach or like just a park and all to really just like , you know serenity and like really very like calm and all that, ya then


ya I think that will be like a good day out lah with myself to be honest like you really just like focus on yourself


but <mandarin>那个不是很奇怪:na ge bu shi hen qi guai</mandarin> meh <mandarin>妳跟自己讲话:ni gen zi ji jiang hua</mandarin> like I feel like if I need to do that will be very like <mandarin>尴尬:gan ga</mandarin> very weird


like I don't know I cannot okay the thing about me is <mandarin>我不可以:wo bu ke yi</mandarin> like


ya I will like take like five ten minutes of every night to like just write down my thoughts and like, but I feel like talking like <mandarin>你是真的:ni shi zhen de</mandarin> like sit in front of the mirror <mandarin>跟自己讲话:gen zi ji jiang hua</mandarin> meh like how do you do it


I feel like okay something important ah like anything important, to me right, I honestly feel sometimes the most important thing is like friendship I know <mandarin>很:hen</mandarin> cliche okay <mandarin>我真的知道:wo zhen de zhi dao</mandarin> but like <mandarin>真的因为:zhen de yin wei</mandarin> like you cannot really choose your family


but you can choose your friends and like the people you mix with, and the thing is, they'll put it that way it's like <mandarin>你真的可以去想去:ni zhen de ke yi qu xiang qu</mandarin> like, like choose your friends wisely lor ya and I feel like sometimes like


like, I just said like <mandarin>妳妳真的不可以选妳自己的家人:ni ni zhen de bu ke yi xuan ni zi ji de jia ren</mandarin> lah it's already there wherever like the moment you are born you are you are stuck with them for life those kind of thing but something that I can choose that is equally important is like family <mandarin>就是朋友:jiu shi peng you</mandarin> lor like <mandarin>朋友之类:peng you zhi lei</mandarin> like it's very important to like have group friends around you I guess and like to really like keep track of like yourself cause sometimes you don't really know what's best for you but like your friend who sees it from a third perspective like knows what you deserve and like your market rate those kind of thing


ya so sometimes like I will feel like , friends is really important like, they are the ones that will like get you through life


which I feel like okay lah I understand cause like everybody is like there are like your short term friends and then like your long term friends


and like just friends who really will like stick with you for life lah, ya but what are your views on like friendship


true lah like you know like, they are very selfish thinking like <mandarin>很自私的:hen zi si de</mandarin> mindset, so like <mandarin>有一次:you yi ci</mandarin> right <mandarin>我有一个朋友:wo you yi ge peng you</mandarin> ah then <mandarin>她就每次会:ta jiu mei ci hui</mandarin> like