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Read more here ![\\"democrat_symbol\\"](\\"/design/images/democrat_symbol.png\\"/) Fact Check # Did a Sexuality Educator Say Parents Should Ask Babies\' Permission for Diaper Changes? ## Deanne Carson\'s commentary about consent and sexuality education appeared to be misconstrued on social media and by the press. ### Kim LaCapria ### Published May 11, 2018 ![\\"](\\" Image courtesy of Romrodphoto / Shutterstock.com Claim: Sexuality educator Deanne Carson said parents should ask a baby\'s permission before changing their diaper. Rating: Mostly False About this rating What\'s True Sexuality educator Deanne Carson said parents could ask children if it is okay to change their diapers to teach them \"their response matters,\" noting that it is not actually possible for babies to consent to a diaper change. What\'s False Carson did not say infants were able to, or parents were required to, receive consent for diaper changes, nor did she say that infants who refused consent should remain in dirty diapers. Advertisement: In May 2018 tweets and blog posts about a then-recent television appearance by sexuality educator Deanne Carson went viral on social media, and users railed against her purported advice that parents ask babies for consent before changing their diapers (or nappies): Some readers took the inference further, suggesting the idea that nonverbal infants might consent at all was dangerous: Advertisement: Those weighing in on the controversy often included links to articles about Carson\'s television appearance, and while some of the articles included video clips, most provided an often out of context interpretation of Carson\'s remarks. Carson was frequently described as a sexuality \"expert\" (in quotes), although her social media accounts used the word \"educator.\" Overall, most takes suggested that her advice was that parents necessarily should obtain consent to change a diaper: Advertisement: > The following is a case study on how to tell if someone doesn’t have kids. > Or basic reasoning skills beyond “Don’t touch hot things. Burn. Ouchy. > Fire!” You say things like “you need to ask the baby’s consent first.” Baby > here is not a two syllable word-filler for a pop song. But the human > offspring which is expert only in pooping itself. > > Sexuality educator, speaker, and author Deanne Carson thinks you should ask > a baby for consent prior to changing its diaper. Congratulations, 2018. > You’ve outdone yourself yet again ... Right off the bat, consent is for sex. > Just ask Eric Schneiderman. Or the people sexing up fish. Sex is the > implication when people say we need to teach kids about consent. Especially > if you call yourself a “sexuality expert.” Similarly, a headline from The Mirror blared: > \'I\'m going to change your nappy, is that OK?\': Expert claims parents > should ask babies for permission before changing diaper > > \'SEXUALITY EXPERT\'S\' WILD CLAIMS ABOUT WHAT PARENTS SHOULD DO As typically presented, the statements seemed bizarre, as most diaper-wearing infants are nonverbal and thus likely unable to comprehend the question. However, watching the brief segment in its original context painted a slightly different picture: Advertisement: When an off-screen interviewer asked about lessons about consent and bodily autonomy \"from birth,\" Carson responded: > Yes, just about how to set up a culture of consent in their homes so \"I\'m > going to change your nappy now, is that OK?\" Of course a baby is not going > to respond \"yes, mum, that\'s awesome, I\'d love to have my nappy > changed.\" > > But if you leave a space and wait for body language and wait to make eye > contact then you\'re letting that child know that their response matters. Although that detail may seem pedantic, misinterpretations of those remarks were likewise obtuse. Watching the full clip clearly showed that Carson herself did not believe that the proposed interaction involved meaningful consent from an infant to change their diaper, nor was she suggesting babies who did not consent should be allowed to sit in dirty diapers indefinitely. What Carson proposed was teaching a child that \"their response matters,\" not allowing children to remain soiled because they refused to consent to a diaper change. Advertisement: #### Sources Bazaraa, Danya. \"\'I\'m Going To Change Your Nappy, Is That OK?\': Expert Claims Parents Should Ask Babies for Permission Before Changing Diaper.\" The Mirror. 10 May 2018. Ritschel, Chelsea. \"Parents Should Ask Their Baby\'s Permission Before Changing Dirty Nappy, Sexuality Expert Says.\" The Independent. 10 May 2018. Louder with Crowder. \"Sexuality Expert: Parents Need to Ask Babies Permission to Change Diapers.\" 10 May 2018. ### By Kim LaCapria Kim LaCapria is a former writer for Snopes. 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Sexuality educator Deanne Carson said parents should ask a baby's permission before changing their diaper