There is an old anecdote that a woman (who was apparently a strong-willed and spirited person) working in the Shieikan dojo asked Okita to marry her but he turned down her proposal, saying 'I am still an apprentice' (the woman attempted suicide, possibly because of his rejection, and later married another man after being introduced by Kondo).
さらに、試衛館で手伝いをしていた女性（気が強い男勝りな性格だったようだ）に「結婚してくれ」と告白され、「修行中の身ですので」と断ったという逸話も残っている（その女性は断られたショックでか自殺未遂を起こし、その後近藤の口利きにより他家に嫁いだようだ）。