In his letter, Genan taught her that she should respectfully call her father in law, Yoriyasu KIRA, 'Oyakatasama,' and her mother in law 'Otaiho,' as well as her husband 'Uesama.'
とくに舅吉良頼康は「おやかた様」、姑は「御たいほう」、夫は「上様」と尊称するように説いたとされる。