But in fact, it was considered to be a disgrace to the husband if he did not write Rienjo when his wife wanted him to, or even when the husband wrote Rienjo, it was kept by relatives or their Nakodo (matchmaker) in the most cases.
もっとも、妻が離婚を望んでいるにもかかわらず離縁状を書かないのは夫の恥とされ、また、夫が離縁状を書いても親類や媒酌人（仲人）が預かることも多かった。