There are plenty of things you need to
research before starting anything new
with your partner while having sex. This can be seriously off putting, and can
make it so you stick to the same sexual routines simply out of laziness.
However, if you’re wanting to learn how to
prepare for anal sex because it’s something you or your partner have wanted to
try for a while, look no further. There is no need for laziness, because we
have it all detailed for you here!
The first step to getting ready for anal sex
experiences in your future is to test it out for yourself. You can start with
finger play, or even purchase an anal toy that you can start to experiment with
in the safety of your own space.
Starting with yourself and a toy is a great
way to get to know what you do and do not like about anal sex, and is especially
important because you want to be able to communicate that to your partner.
Two: Day Of
When you know you’re going to be trying anal
sex for the first time, be sure to avoid smelling lotions or soaps as those can
irritate your anus. Additionally, if you’re worried about leftover mess from
going to the bathroom, try giving yourself a warm water enema a few hours prior
to trying anal sex. Make sure that you let all of the water absorb into your
body before doing anal sex, or else it might surprisingly come out during
Three: Ease In
It’s always a necessary reminder when trying
something new: make sure that you are communicating and consenting throughout
the entire process of trying anal for the first time. If you are having second
thoughts, communicate them and wait until you are 100% confident to try again.
Additionally, don’t try anything crazy on your
first go. It’s important to ease into anal sex, because it can be painful at
first. Don’t try any of the things you’ve seen in porn until you are used to
the simple anal sex that you do during the first attempt.
Four: Forget About it
Make sure that you aren’t being influenced by
the popular media or your other friends/family in the realm of anal sex. If you
know that you enjoy it, who cares what anyone thinks? It’s for you and your
partner to decide how to behave in the bedroom, and no one should be able to
influence that for you anyway.
Overall, make sure that you’re communicating
and preparing so that your anal sex experience is the best it can be for both
parties involved. While it can be fun to try new things in your sex life, be
sure that everyone involved is happy with the actions being done as well as
what they are getting out of it.