Although married couples continue to rank their sexual satisfaction higher than either cohabitating couples or singles, the sex life of most couples moves into problem areas over time. That is why there are so many articles, videos and products consumed by couples every year.
Married couples want better sex!
What is interesting about our sex lives is that we seem to be ignorant of the fact that we drag a lot of sexual baggage into our marriage relationship. Everything from our earliest exposure to things of a sexual nature, to every dating relationship we have ever had, comes with us into our marriage.
What we think about sex is usually based upon the idea that men are to be the pursuers and aggressors and women are to be the defense. That each date is a game that is scored on bases gains and runs hit. And in marriage, we can get into a competitive, not relational or passionate, type of sex scenario where one spouse is in control of both spouse’s sex life.
It seems like too often in too many couples relationships, there seems to be a winner and a loser when it comes to sex.
Al Vernacchio offers a compelling new way to think about sex. And it happens to be one of our favorite things in the world: Pizza.
When you are thinking about sex, use the pizza analogy. When ordering a pizza, you both usually sit and have a discussion about toppings, etc. One couple may like the pizza half and half and so each ends up getting what they want. At another time the couple may decide that they want to be adventurous and go for the pizza with everything.
The big picture here is that instead of it being one pursuing the other, both are having a discussion about what they are both individually up for in that encounter. And one of the things that is best about pizza is that there really are never any losers. No one ever tries to force feed another a pizza they do not want. You each get what you want out of the pizza!
Everyone has great experiences when it comes to pizza!
Have The Sex Talk
If you and your spouse have not set up a time to have a conversation about each of your sexual desires and appetites, please use this first of two articles, HOW TO HAVE THE HARD CONVERSATION ABOUT SEX WITH YOUR SPOUSE. Set up a time and follow the rules. You will not regret how it improves your sex life.
May you have great pizza!
What do you have to say?
We love to hear from readers. What analogies for sex have you heard before? Do you agree that a competitive approach to sex is not working for most marriages? Have you tried having a sex talk with your spouse, how did it go? What other suggestions you would add to this article? Do you know someone you need to forward this article to?
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