i want to move out but my parents didn't prepare me for responsibility

i absolutely despise my family

im 21, live with parents

father is abusive and has a constant need to be right about everything and to be above everyone else

extremely aggressive

mother is very clingy and manipulative

she spoiled me and made me very insecure

i got bullied at school for having low self-esteem and being shy

whenever i had an interaction my parents would tease me and make fun of me and now im incapable of communicating with women

all that left me pretty traumatized

i was overeating and overindulging in video games and porn

when i got to highschool bullying got even worse

i wouldn't talk to anyone 

i couldn't talk to anyone

i didn't trust anyone

somehow i managed to get a fee close friends who were losers like me

after highschool ive hit my lowest point

there wasn't minimal work required to succeed at something

tried art didn't get accepted

did 3 months of it and dropped out

next year attempted art again

didn't get in so i did architecture for 3 months

those were my first 3 months without family

and instead of having a breath of fresh air

there was nobody to stop me from overindulge even more

those were 3 months of porn videogames shitty food and crying

i got fed up

stopped myself

and assessed the situation i was in

I didn't like it at all

went back home

tried and failed countless times 6 months of battles with myself until i realized something

those weren't failures

those were just stepping stones

i was falling forward

i started attacking my addictions one by one 

stopped playing video games

with free time added to my day

i got a job last september

its around 500-600 € a month 

i saved up around 2k €

finally started working out and eating healthy

started studying philosophy and psychology

now i can see how pathetic and insecure my family is

part of me loves them

but i cant do this anymore

im assuming the best thing to do is to forgive them

but i cant 

i am not ready for it

2.

i don't feel much love towards them anymore

their attempts at bringing me down have become apparent

im heavily considering moving but im not prepared to become and adult yet

i know nobody will ever be prepared for that but i need some more time

also i am not claiming to be flawless or above them

im a human too but im consciously working on my flawls

anyways... im looking for advice of someone who had similar experiences with family or had to move out 

is it hard? how long did it take to get used to it? do you have any tips? what mistakes did you make?
