text: "Someone who is abused can separate and still seek the healing of the partner AND the relationship. "
  Abusers are sociopaths; they always promise to change and never do.  Telling a woman to reconcile with an abuser is sexist.  My mom always taught me that if a man ever touches a hair on your head, you leave him immediately.  
  
  "That is love. If that is not something the other party will cooperate with, the annulment process is available to see if a valid marriage ever existed. An abuser may have been mentally incapable of a valid marriage"
  I know of a few situations where abusers have used the annulment system to continue to harm and control the spouse.  The tribunals are set up to favor the abuser rather than the victim.  
  
  "Your cynicism is not Christian. "
  I've been around the Catholic Church for 35 years.  I know that the rich get special favors and the rest of us get screwed.
  
  And lastly, do you really think that God would condemn a remarried abuse victim?  I don't.