text: When we "can't find it in our hearts to forgive".....that's our admission that we lack faith in God.
  
  We're letting ourselves "get in the way" of God helping us.  We're saying we don't trust Our Father.
  
  We focus too much on ourselves, focusing too much on "our heart" or "our hurt"!   It's a form of selfishness to dwell on our hurt...we begin organizing our thoughts around ourselves and not God.
  
  It's not easy to do otherwise, especially if we'v let ourselves develop the habit of thinking about ourselves, but in order to grow on the inside, we must learn - with God's help - to forgive often, perhaps peremptorily.
  
  It's not a matter of "siding" with bullies, it's a matter of learning to love with the heart of Christ.
  
  We must grow on the inside, until we die.  It's the dying to ourselves that St Paul speaks about.