text: Kag1982,  Someone who is abused can separate and still seek the healing of the partner AND the relationship.  That is love.   If that is not something the other party will cooperate with, the annulment process is available to see if a valid marriage ever existed.  An abuser may have been mentally incapable of a valid marriage.  You sound like Naman the Syrian who went to the prophet to be cured of his leprosy and complained when the cure was so simple.  Your cynicism is not Christian.  And regardless of whether the annulment is granted, it is a small cross compared to the one Christ bore for our ETERNAL salvation.  Did you think it is all about your pleasure or do you know it is about powers and principalities and a true living relationship with God?