text: Dennis...I am inclined to think that while I would love a democratic process and we see a bit of this with Mc Elroy and his Synod...realistically I doubt that the Church is going in that direction any time soon.....indeed with Francis's death...probably a reverse course....
  
  SO, if folks are to stay then I think it's helpful to their progeny et al to be honest....i.e. As a parent or grandparent "I am still a Catholic but I don't agree with (name the items).. And yet I see a great value in the sacraments, the community, whatever"...."that doesn't mean that I won't support (name the causes) vigorously"....
  
  Perhaps a mixed message, but an honest one....
  
  Frankly can't think of an honest alternative....except departure.