text: (There's nothing uncivil here, perhaps just Catholic Church teaching. Someone may not like what I am saying below, but it's in no way "uncivil")
  
  There's a critical, missing aspect of "configuration" in what's been described.  There's no chance that that sort of mock 'unity' can cooperate with the God-given, God-like creative capability given to the couple.   It's contraception!
  
  The comment about "not worrying about pregnancy as ice on the cake" reveals a flaw, the intentional "going against" the natural order of the bodies. The skirting of the natural way.
  
  Even for a married couple - man and wife - such an intention to contracept, to take half a gift reveals a similar but different problem, in this case a lack of trust in God, the lack of unity with God in that moment, holding back, putting self in front of God.
  
  The Church teaches this more beautiful and deeper way but not enough, and not clear enough.