text: Not just in the RCC, but in other households of Christian faith, gay and lesbian men and women have just walked, finally fatigued to exhaustion by sometimes uncivil and most of the time harsh, uncaring language. No other group of people experiences the animus of church -- and in some instances, common sense seems to be suspended so that pastoral care can be provided. Even in these comments, the focus seems to trend away from direct pastoral care observations to things more academic. Why would any gay or lesbian person desire membership in churches with such attitudes?