text: One surprisingly large portion of the Church needs to give up the idea that words, ceremonies, events, apologies can re-write history "and take their pain away"
  
  They need to face the harder realities, and the beautiful grace God wants them to receive
  
  The Catholic way is through the Sacrament of Reconciliation, particularly the 'purpose of amendment' that should accompany every trip to the box
  
  The will - aided by the intellect and grace - needs to form a decision:  I can no longer harbor or nurse resentments.   I can no longer let injuries and resentments "take up room" in my interior life, room that crowds God out
  
  Catholics need to realize that secular psychology of the 1970s can't help them.  "Closure" is another form of pride, a desire to rework events to one's own desire and intentions
  
  Get to the Sacraments and be ready for a lot of good interior work aimed at growth and new vitality..not the work of nursing resentments and sharpening bad memories, and crying on others shoulder