text: Before I answer your question, please address for me how two adults of the same sex appearing at dinner together constitute a values disruption to children. Most kids would just think it's "Ned's friend" or "Jan's housemate" and wouldn't ask for details. (I had adult housemates of both sexes for years.) Most LGBT couples are sensitive to situations in where there is limited approval and are usually on their best behaviour, avoiding hot topics and PDAs. This isn't a situation where the person's issues--addiction, criminality, racism--threaten to derail the conversation at every turn. I agree that those situations can get unmanageable. 
  
  Sometimes if feels like traditional Catholics don't know any gay people and imagine that all they do is maul each other in public and talk about sex positions. Nothing could be further from the truth. I would ask you to apply some common sense.