text: I am glad that your father's funeral mass brought you comfort and consolation.  But your concern about the "nones" may be misplaced. As one who was an active Catholic for almost 60 years, I attended a number of funeral masses, for friends and family.  I remember nothing about any of them other than that they were pretty much the same thing as we had all the time. I also remember two funeral masses that I thought were anything but consoling.  The first was for a close friend, a young married woman of 32 who died of cancer.  The priest's homily focused on her as "sinner", with an afterthought -  that even though she was a sinner, she (probably anyway), was with God  just as the Good Thief was.  Was her family comforted by the focus on her as sinner instead of as a kind, loving young woman, a daughter, sister, friend and wife?  Was her husband, a widower at 32, comforted by this, especially since he wasn't Catholic? My husband, a Protestant, was horrified by it.  Comment 1