text: I had sex before marriage Bill.   I had sex with both my wives before marriage.  (one is deceased, I'm in the 6th year of my second marriage).    It's not a simple thing for me and in some ways making another choice would have seemed better.  I kind of envy those who found happiness in their first intimate relationship.   
  
  On the flip side, nature wanted me to start having sex at around 12/14 so most resistance is social, not natural for human beings.   Check the age of Mary when, in theory, God said it was fine to have children at 12-14 for a woman.
  
  There is no doubt that casual sex can have negetive consequences.   
  
  My grief counselor told me, "It's hard to know the level of harm of sexuality for single people.   You run a risk of emotional/phsical harm to one person or the other, Or, you can harm yourself with 'guilt' for breaking religious rules and that guilt can damage our mental health also."   I would point out this woman was a conservative and Christian counselor.