text: I have attended Episcopal churches before and felt quite comfortable there. One I attended in NYC years ago when I lived there, a famous Anglo-Catholic parish in Times Square,  had a grumpy rector at the time whose name I will not mention, but among the gay parishioners there he was known simply as "Wanda." Every now and then you'd hear about parishioners receiving what was affectionately referred to as a "Wanda-gram," i.e. a letter from the rector which began by saying, "Perhaps you'd be more comfortable worshiping at a different parish." You sound a lot like him.