text: 3.) It is not only gay Catholics and their families who must think through their relationship with the church. We all must do so. I am unwilling to leave; but I am also unwilling to remain silent about the faults and failures of the church. I continue to attend daily Mass, but a year ago, I reluctantly reduced my financial support for the church. 
  4.)We cannot shrink from this truth: The problem is not the bishop of Madison; it is not even canon law. The problem is that the teaching of the church about human sexuality is profoundly, scandalously inadequate. By resisting the insights of the social, biological and theological sciences and especially by dismissing the experience of women and men, the official teaching has descended into irrelevancy. We have the tools to renew the teaching in a way that honors scripture and tradition and embraces the insights of scholarship and experience. The failure to do that is the real scandal, and the root of other scandals.