text: Sometimes side-stepping the rules stimulates creativity. 
  
  Don't know what is formal protocol but when cremation precedes the funeral, some priests insist on a memorial mass (urn just sits there, ignored though out) rather than a funeral mass (remains received with honors, and dismissed with honors). Also, in the Order of Christian Funerals, there is no internment service for an urn, so some priests (perhaps most?) decline to accompany the family to the cemetery. 
  
  I first ran into this with my parents.
  
  Called for a bit of creativity. Requested a Jesuit friend of the family do the funeral, with full honors for the cremated remains; and then we concocted our own cemetery ritual by adapting from the funeral ritual. But we added something--a final toast with the finest whisky at the columbarium.
  
  We now repeat this at our annual family fishing trip--memorial prayers, stories, and toasts with the best whisky money can buy. Now a treasured family ritual, without the help of Müller's CDF.