text: It's not "how discerning a pastor may be."  It's how discerning the person is.  It's not for the pastor to judge.  It's for the pastor to help the person, who in the end must judge for themself.  The point of the pastor's "accompaniment" is to be of some help as the person seeks to become more responsive to the Spirit of Christ within.  Like you, I prefer to welcome all to the table of the Lord.  If the person welcomes themself, it is best to presume the integrity of their journey toward Christ, which is the point of mercy.
  
  If I were a pastor, I would be concerned if the person were looking for permission.  The reference point for permission is the law.  A good pastor would decline, and continue "accompaniment" so that the person takes responsibility for their own journey toward greater closeness to Christ, who is right there in the human heart, present and available.  We are not talking about a reprieve from the law.  We are seeking the reign of God, as Jesus preached.