I think you just proved all my points. 

I'm not a Muslim but I'm sure one could step in and give the same sort of theological reasoning for why the vast majority of Muslims do not read those violent verses literally. And, you can't make special pleading for the terrorists who blow up abortion clinics.

The fact is that the vast majority of Muslims are people like you who treat their religion and faith as a source for good in their life. They are well-meaning people who promote peace and love above any of the darker aspects of their religion's texts or history. The fact that you can't see that is the problem. 

Another fact is that Muslims are often the target of violence from people who view them as potential terrorists. Muslim's are also the biggest target of terrorist organizations - by far. So when you say a Mosque opening up increases the chance Jihad shows your utter fear-based bigoted outlook on a major world religion.