I haven't lived in any, but have visited several. I know first-hand the difference between those countries where  women are visible everywhere in public space, and those where they are practically invisible.  Indonesia was generally fine, but it has one problematic fundamentalist region.

Muslim countries vary a lot in how secular or conservative they are, of course. Most were on a secularising, liberalising course, until some decided that was "westernizing" and reversed course...

Having a female leader has little to do with how most women live.

No argument about single motherhood from me, but if the alternatives are the chance of single motherhood, or the "zero chance" which requires the drastic measures of Muslim society, I'll pick the former, thank you.