I can only believe that the Muslims with whom you have discussed Islam border on the edge of apostasy compared to those I have discussed it with.  

I have talked to Iranian, Jordanian, Egyptian and Saudi Muslims at some length to try to understand Islam.

The "I go to church on Sunday sometimes and usually at Easter" brand of religion common in Eugene, Oregon is not Islam as the faithful have explained it to me nor in the readings on the subject that I have sampled.