"Let's not forget, over 60 million people had to die in Europe before Germany and italy became democracies. Muslim countries haven't had to undergo the same upheaval."

Not true, actually. Both had experienced democracy prior to acquiring fascist leaders in the 1920s (Italy) and Germany (1930s). You've obviously never heard of the Risogimento, the Frankfurt Parliament or the Weimar Constitution, right? The chaotic aftermath of the First World War and the economic disruption of the Great Depression undermined democracy in Europe, and "strongman" systems, which gained widespread public support for some time, came to be viewed in some countries as preferable to chaos. Democracy ultimately prevailed in Western Europe at a huge cost in human life but it was clear that the fight was between values like democracy and freedom on the one hand and despotism on the other. Is the battle in the Muslim world so clear cut? It doesn't seem that it is.