I am sorry that people have been shot and killed and I am also sorry that we must heed calls for inclusion by someone who wears a costume that separates her from others by virtue of her faith. I am sorry that Muslims have  "Muslim only swims" at the community centre in my city. I am sorry that some muslims come  here from other countries and then set up their own community centres, even though we have them. What message does  that send to us? You want to be with your own kind? When you dress as per the dictates of your faith are you going to marry outside of that faith; that is marry someone from here?
In no way will I support the killing of anyone but please, for the rest of us that are liberal and secular and marry who we choose to, even against our families wishes, spare us the lectures on inclusiveness.